Does over pampering prevent children of seeing the realities of life

[POPOLUV]

Some parents are like this , they don't allow their kids to do anything and to them they may feel like they are protecting them without knowing that they are not helping the child. Children should be allowed to do some things for themselves especially some house chores. Another thing is that there are parents who don't punish their children no matter  what the children may have done, in fact there child is always right. Parents have a role in modelling their children and the way children behave when they are outside their home reflect how they were brought up.

You just illustrated how som parents get things wrong without even knowing that over pampering can prevent their children future time to come, I'm not kicking against pampering children, pampering your children is never a bad idea because it is a gratitude of showing love to your children but parents fails to moderate this pampering stage on their children because once pampering is much on the children, such parents is gradually killing to stand on his own and that is why it is always good for parents to teach their children on how to growing with the mentally that one day children will always leave their father house to build up their family too, and such if you as a child didn't learn what they  learn while under their parents, it will be very difficult to make a family.

[Somto9Light]

Over pampering a child is not good because it will make them see only the easy side of life without being able to experience the harsh side of life. Even if you're the wealthiest man on earth, never pamper your kids to an extent that they will begin to see working for money as a stress to them. You will not live forever in this life which means that if you spoil your kids with pampering and a day comes when you live this earth, they will mismanage all your wealth and resources then go broke because in order for them to keep up with the kind of life you made them to be conversant with, they will sell off all the properties you have. Pampering our children does not hurt but when it becomes excessive, it's rather a way of spoiling them than being an act of love.

[Queen uloma]

For me parents aren’t suppose to over pamper their children to the extent that they won’t be able to do anything for themselves. Love doesn’t mean that you must do everything for your children.  Some times teach them how to do house chores and allow them take responsibility for themselves, this also shows a good parenting.

If  children don’t learn all these from you as a parents, it may affect them when they grow up and face life on their own. It’s not like you’re making life difficult for them put you’re building them up for reality about life.

[programmer3666]

It is good for us to share our knowledge on our experience on this topic, so that it can also educate others and shaping any one that is going out of track the can destroy someone futures, because this portion Bible that  said in Proverbs 22:6.Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it, it is very obvious that most parents do neglect this portion of Bible because I'm talking out experience when my uncle son came to living with us in House, and during his stay with us, i was able to notice that this cousin of mine couldn't do anything for himself, things like washing his plate, washing his clothes or sweeping the room that will both do sleep, and till the day i ask him the reason behind all the characters he exhibit and reply and said that he parents doesn't all him to do anything in relation to house choice and there are many things he can't do on his own that i just wish to mention few points.

So parents should not over pamper their children because too pampering can cause harm than good to any child.

There is a distinctive difference when is comes down to spoiling a child or providing for a child, we shouldn't get it confused. As a responsible parent and guardian, doing your best to provide for a child is a good thing but going the extra miles to do everything possible for them is not the best because all that is required of a parent is to provide the basic necessities like food, education and a roof for them to grow and become adults. But for a child to grow up to become a responsible adult, he also needs to learn certain things that will build his mentality toward an independent life when the time comes. Learning to wash clothes, solve personal issues themselves, and learning how to manage time, all these are not punishments but basic rule of self sustainabilty in every human being. A child that doesn't learn those basic life leassons are not being properly raised.

[Mayor of ogba]

There's nothing wrong in pampering children, pampering children is very good as it can create good relationship between you and your children and open the path way for your children to open up to you when they are passing through difficulties, but as you are pampering your children teach them how to do house chores and don't make everything available at their disposal allow them to figure out some things by themselves so that when they grow up they will be able to take care of themselves and not become lazy.

[icebar]

There's nothing wrong in pampering children, pampering children is very good as it can create good relationship between you and your children and open the path way for your children to open up to you when they are passing through difficulties, but as you are pampering your children teach them how to do house chores and don't make everything available at their disposal allow them to figure out some things by themselves so that when they grow up they will be able to take care of themselves and not become lazy.

Yes, nothing wrong with giving children too much love. But it is not right to make children get used to getting everything easily from a young age. Because sometimes parents cannot give their children much time, then children should understand the natural situation and learn to take responsibility as well. For example, when a child fails in doing a task, he should be allowed to do that task again. In this way, he will easily learn that not being able to do something does not mean losing.

Again, it is not right to give children unnecessary responsibilities, we should all teach our children gradually according to their age. Children will always be loved by their parents, but that love should not become an obstacle in the way of standing on their own feet. The greatest achievement for a child is such an education, which will give him the courage to handle the small problems of life without the help of his parents.

[Shineup]

The topic of over pampering is a lot to talk about.
 I remembered growing up as the only male child, my mom didn't allow me to wash clothes or do most house chores until I finished secondary school. When I gained admission to university, my eyes clear. So looking back I realize that preventing children like that even out of love do them no favours. It only robs them of the chance to build essential life skills like being disciplined, persevering, rugged, and resilient for the real world because children that are over pampered will feel like life is a bed of roses, which is not so.

And at that point of your life most times it will become very difficult for you to adapt to the new reality you have found, some people don't come out of it as they have to struggle with it all through their life time, while some are courageous enough to face the challenges of that new life they have found them self, being the only male child was never enough reason for you not to learn basic things as from that tender age, infact if we talk about real love, I think it should have to do with parents given their children the opportunity to build essential life skills at the right time of their life so they could become a better version of them self in lifetime.

[BITBI-4]

Raising children with excessive pampering or overprotection can often hinder their mental development. If a child's every wish is immediately granted is all the wrong is corrected and is all the hardship or struggle is covered up big or small, the child may become afraid of facing the hardship or struggle of the real world. They are not able to make decisions for themselves or deal with failure. Love does not mean protecting a child from all adversity. Rather it's also crucial to expose them to the actual nature of life. Children need to be taught that life isn't always as it is supposed to be and that there are going to be some barriers involved some things that they are going to get wrong and that they need to learn from that and get on with their lives. The role of parents is one of the most important of helping their children take responsibility for their own actions and the capacity to be patient. Love can be expressed in many ways from showering children with affection to ensuring that they are raised to be self reliant and grounded children who receive the chance to deal with the hard truths of life.

[Pi-network314159]

So parents should not over pamper their children because too pampering can cause harm than good to any child.

Actually over pampering of child is not good because it can make a child lazy and a hazard to the society. I have seen many children whom due to over pampering made them so arrogant, pumpus and stubborn.  And where it affect them more is in marriages. Many marriages has failed as a result of bad upbringing or parenting. Emagine a situation where an over pamperd girl got married but can't do house chores like washing of plate and cooking of food including sweeping of hours then what can keep her in marriage? Definitely I the man's love is not strong it will leed to divorce. So parents should pamper their children but excessive pampering is not good.

[Taricoins]

Their is always this two school of thoughts that resonates in my head when it comes to the outcome of pampering or decent training of an offspring and i would like to share. I believe that it doesn't matter how to train your kids as long as you provide for them, if they want to get bad, they will no matter the training, if they want to end up good, it's their choice. I have had spoilt kids as friends who were rebellious in their early age later become responsible when life challenges started facing them. Life always find a way to correct some of this inadequacies especially when they start having responsibilities of on their own

[Abuobyda218]

The reality is that if one does not teach one's child about the quality of life of people around the environment, their current situation and what will happen in the future context of the country, then that child will not be able to gain any real experience of life when he grows up.
If a child is pampered a lot from childhood and if he is not allowed to gain knowledge about any environment and if he is not allowed to gain knowledge about the lifestyle and context of the people around him, then he will not be able to understand life when he grows up. For this reason, sometimes the child should be kept in poverty or discipline to make him understand the real situation. A child must be taught practically to adapt to the lifestyle of the environment. If he is not allowed to understand poverty, then he will not understand what poverty is when he grows up and if he is not allowed to understand the suffering of others, then he will not be able to overcome the difficult moments of life when he grows up. Therefore, instead of nurturing the child with great care from childhood, he should be educated in real education and taught how to survive in a hostile environment when he grows up.

[HyperCodexV]

It is good for us to share our knowledge on our experience on this topic, so that it can also educate others and shaping any one that is going out of track the can destroy someone futures, because this portion Bible that  said in Proverbs 22:6.Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it, it is very obvious that most parents do neglect this portion of Bible because I'm talking out experience when my uncle son came to living with us in House, and during his stay with us, i was able to notice that this cousin of mine couldn't do anything for himself, things like washing his plate, washing his clothes or sweeping the room that will both do sleep, and till the day i ask him the reason behind all the characters he exhibit and reply and said that he parents doesn't all him to do anything in relation to house choice and there are many things he can't do on his own that i just wish to mention few points.

So parents should not over pamper their children because too pampering can cause harm than good to any child.

Sometimes before we throw blame, we need to have a proper understanding of certain situations. Because if you look at it in an objective manner, you will realize that ost of these over pampering parents were either victims of parental negligence or they also experienced overprotection from their parents. A mom who go etra miles to do everything for her son would have probably grown up in the act of doing everything for herself and she will have this mindset of not wanting her child to feel or go through such difficulty in life. The same applies to the other gender. So it can't be seen as bad parenting style but more of an emotional cycle and you can't persuade them to stop because they may have something deep that drives them.

[Solodoski]

I don't think over pampering of children is the same thing as love, but a lot of parents confuse it. It's very good ti love and care for your children,  but I think loving your children is by teaching them the right thing to do and also correct them when they are wrong. I can use myself as an example,  I grew up in a house where we always have housemaid till I finish secondary school,  but I can remember that when I get to JSS 1 my mother stopped our housemaid from washing my clothes and made me do it myself. At that point I was feeling bad, because I felt that what's the housemaid job if she does not wash my clothes,  but now I realize that my mother was doing the right for me and I am happy she did it at that time. So what am I say, over pampering is not love, rather you are affecting the child's future.

[Vvang]

Too much pampering can bring up a useless child but this is just one sided, how about too much harshness? This is the story of my own life, my father was too harsh that I lost my self esteem.

I lost the zeal to express myself or communicate with anyone, I prefer locking myself up in my room and he later got worried about it but it was too late, many years have passed and I couldn't rid off the new me.

I think a kid needs that pamper and also the harshness but it has to be fair enough or balanced, too much of one side isn't going to do anyone any good.

[Jasmyne]

I don't think over pampering of children is the same thing as love, but a lot of parents confuse it. It's very good ti love and care for your children,  but I think loving your children is by teaching them the right thing to do and also correct them when they are wrong. I can use myself as an example,  I grew up in a house where we always have housemaid till I finish secondary school,  but I can remember that when I get to JSS 1 my mother stopped our housemaid from washing my clothes and made me do it myself. At that point I was feeling bad, because I felt that what's the housemaid job if she does not wash my clothes,  but now I realize that my mother was doing the right for me and I am happy she did it at that time. So what am I say, over pampering is not love, rather you are affecting the child's future.

Love is far different from when you are trying to spoil the child by not giving them the best training as as parent. Children likes it when you correct them when they are wrong but they become stubborn if you keep beating them without telling them where they went wrong. In your case you were used to the housekeeper doing all the jobs in the house so when you were asked to do it yourself it was very new to you which is because you didn't start it earlier. Children should be trained to do some little housework when they are very little they may but do it perfectly but it keeps their minds in check because they will learn how to start doing things by themselves but when you do not teach them until they grow older it becomes a burden to them whenever you ask them to do little house chores.