coinbase is probably your best bet
Except that it isn't, because Coinbase is far from trustless and can run with the money / get hacked just like Gox / BTER.
Okay, so I should have been clear, for coin <-> fiat I think Coinbase is the way to go. I have my coins in Coinbase in a multisig vault where I control the keys, so at least in my case it is literally impossible for them to Gox/Bter me. That isn't the case with everybody or probably even most people on Coinbase, but it is interesting that at least the option exists.
I want to trade on an exchange that I know can't Gox or Bter me.
The problem is whether you want to trade "crypto for crypto" or "crypto for fiat".
The former will be able to be addressed soon (the AT project has already developed an "atomic cross-chain transfer" smart contract that can do this provided both blockchains have implemented AT) but the latter is not likely to ever happen (as fiat transfers basically *require* a trusted 3rd party).
I am basically wanting to know a good exchange for coin <-> coin. I have watched AT and am very excited about it, but will AT enable exchanges? I was thinking it would be more for person to person coin trades.