Found another issue: If one goes a feew weeks without running the wallet, it appears that the wallet tries to connect to all the old nodes which was active then. Which none of them appears to be anymore, so the program tries one, waits, fails, goes to next, tries, fails, waits, and repeat forever. So it makes the wallet sync taken even longer than it should need.
After waiting an hour i tried to delete the p2pstate file, that cleared it right up and it started syncing the blockchain again