Does becoming a parent changes the gambler?

[yvesp110]

No. I do not think it does because if the father is going gambling then more likely the wife will too making it a family affair.

There are female gamblers too. It goes both ways and this also ends up as a faimly problem. Getting addicted to gambling does not mean one should not take care of family. Actually women should not gamble because have a huge role to play in a child upbringing. But so does the father.

The kids stay home while the mother makes sure the father doesn't lose all their money at the casino and also making sure he stays honest and doesn't cheat on her with a cocktail waitress.

Well thats another story pertaining to adultery then. Kids need to be taken care of by the entire family. Any compromise done by either parent is unacceptable.

I think yes. Becoming a parent will make them more responsible for their life and they will save their money for their children instead of wasting them in some casinos. Being a parent is a good experience for all of us because it does not change our mindset but also our life

Becoming a parent is different experience of life altogether. It can turn a bad human is a good human in a few months.

Only those who are parents can actually answer this. But as I have heard from others, it think the same as you but I have also seen many people who do not care about their children or anyone else. Actually, in this world there are all sort of people. Many might change themselves after getting a child but some may remain the same. However, I wish even those people who are not parents, leave this game because it is a useless activity.

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[yanlap]

Not really. I have a cousin that does not have a job and even after having 4 kids, it does not still make him think that he needs to change and stop on what he's doing.

There are gamblers that can't give up their own hobby just because they became a parent. Even here in my place I've got some relatives who are not stopping in gambling even they have a bunch of kids to feed and to take care off. It all depends, they can still gamble but they have to be responsible and provide all the things that their kid/s needed.

I think if the first time that you had your kid there going to stop your hobby for a while but once you are back and probably your child is already capable of being independent it would come back. I agree with your statement that you can be still responsible as long as you are giving the kids what they really need especially in order to have their education.

You can stop for awhile so that you can focus taking care of your kid. If you're a hands on dad or mom then you have to sacrifice gambling for it. I think this isn't really an issue for those people that are starting to have kids. What matters is on how you are going to take care of that kid while it is growing. Are you going to allow him to know gambling and be like his dad/mom?

If God has blessed someone with such a gift as child, he must pay attention towards it. Parents are responsible for all the basic needs of a kid. That baby should be the top priority. But if someone still does not give up gambling, it is fine as far as he is taking care of his child. For such people, I have just one thing to say, they need to look around and see real beauties of life. Gambling cannot give as much fun or relief as a kid’s smile can.

[Oilacris]

Yes, being parent has big responsibilities. In the fact that you need feed your children and your husband/wife which mean that all your money is for securing your family.

If gambler did not chance I think nothing will happen to their family, because they have no enough time for family and did not monitor the situation inside the house.

Even gambling is easy way to earn money but it is coming from illegal and use to support your famkly, I think it's not a good images of parents.

But there are really situations or instances in life which cant really be avoided on where you would need to do the last resort on making money which means thru gambling which is actually a very bad idea to do.
Being a parent comes with a really big responsibility to raise up your sibling into a better and good path.Even on my side I cant afford to let my child see me doing gambling.I would rather keep it on my own than on exposing myself to them.

Right,  being a parent is a big responsibility and it is also considered as a lifetime contract.  When  a gambler realizes this,  it could help in changing that person. Some people are very hard to talk about bad things that they are doing but when they became parents,  they changed.  I witnessed this already,  it is like a baby has a magic that could his parents change for the better.  

Parents will do the things that will make you happy and can sacrifice even big things just to secure their child's safety and wellness.  

There would be such changes when we become parents things that havent done before or been a habit would change up depending on how sensible your are on raising up your child into a good way.Parenting would really be a big responsibility if you dont like for your child to follow you then better no to show them on what you are doing because if they would able to see on your habits then 100% they would follow you.

[megynacuna]

I think yes. Becoming a parent will make them more responsible for their life and they will save their money for their children instead of wasting them in some casinos. Being a parent is a good experience for all of us because it does not change our mindset but also our life

Precisely.But it's really hard to be a good parent somehow.The lifestyle we used to do while we're still single will just change in a sudden.And we should nothing to do with it but change for the better.Or else all your bad habits like gambling will be absorbed by your kids thinking that it will bring them good also.Kids are very keen observers so as a parent,we should be extra careful with what we have shown to them since we are considered models for them.

I think i agree with you guys because parenting comes with responsibility and so whoever be it the man or woman after becoming a parent tries to shun off some irresponsible attitudes which hitherto would have allowed and so i think in a way it will affect the gambling life of any gambler who becomes a parent.

[xandra]

This was the discussion topic we were having last night, a bunch of gambling friends and one of them an expecting dad. There were counter arguments that his child also would turn out a gambler like he is.

The arguments were that it is his in his gene and that'll pass on to his child, since every one in his family was a gambler.

The counter argument was that the child would make a logical decision and genes won't play any part in this.

Which brought us to another important question what if turns out a gambler would they both play together. Would he be comfortable?

Amid this he walked out and texted me he didn't wish to gamble anymore, so wanted your views on this.

I don't think so that it will pass through by genes but it might give a big impact to children when seeing their parents and also the environment . I have a cousins their father is really a gambler and knows lots of kinds in gambling but even one of the siblings don't know how to play even a simple game.
Here in my country it is normal that the parent and their daughter/son play together, I can see that they are enjoying and felt comfortable gambling .

[Kevondo]

Not really. I have a cousin that does not have a job and even after having 4 kids, it does not still make him think that he needs to change and stop on what he's doing.

There are gamblers that can't give up their own hobby just because they became a parent. Even here in my place I've got some relatives who are not stopping in gambling even they have a bunch of kids to feed and to take care off. It all depends, they can still gamble but they have to be responsible and provide all the things that their kid/s needed.

I think if the first time that you had your kid there going to stop your hobby for a while but once you are back and probably your child is already capable of being independent it would come back. I agree with your statement that you can be still responsible as long as you are giving the kids what they really need especially in order to have their education.

I agree with you my friend that having first baby will suppress your hobby of gambling but when one will get two or three children and he was a gambler in his past, no matter if he was addicted or not, he will definitely go for gambling because now he has to make things for his children who will grow up in no time and if he would be unable to make anything for his children, there would be nothing more shameful for him than this.

[Kabul]

A parent knows his/her responsibility on his/her family and therefore, I believe that many people who become father/mother will stop gambling. Raise their family is the number one aim. Do you want your child be affected by our bad hobby ?

[StonedWolf]

Absolutely not! If you want to be more responsible, you need to know how to be successful, as a result , you will find that the best solution is to have some positive vibes. Otherwise, I ,have to gamble not because it is the game, becuse it is the personal desire.

[noormcs5]

Absolutely not! If you want to be more responsible, you need to know how to be successful, as a result , you will find that the best solution is to have some positive vibes. Otherwise, I ,have to gamble not because it is the game, becuse it is the personal desire.

Well, It is your point, but when you become father then you will not like that you kid do mistakes like yours. Then you will be responsible for your kids and when we become parents then our budget sometime out of control, in that time, we should change our some extra activities and gambling is also include in it. So may be in this point wise, we will be conscious about our kids and changes the gambling. 

[steveabrahams]

In some case yes, they changed and not do gambling anymore. The gambler will realize, he needs money for his children and his family. There is more important to do than gambling, wasting his money in casino than give it to his wife and his children. Of course there are many gamblers are not changes but there is some out there.

[BeGoods]

Genes have nothing to do with gambling or addiction. It is all related to the psychological nature of the human being. There are many sons who are not like their fathers. Their fathers are addicted to smoking, their sons do not smoke at all. It is their own will and choice whether or not to follow their fathers' path. And if his dad does not want him to fall into gambling addiction, then he should raise him in the right way and teach him the bad effects of gambling, and eventually, it will be his decision.

Bbut being a father will certainly make a few changes. this is a small example of my surroundings. my friend is a liquor addict and also a gambler addicts but when he is married and has children. his life is 360 degrees different you know ? no liquor and gambling anymore. of course that changed him for the better is to be a dad right? there may be a self-awareness to teach their child better.

[btcdevil]

Genes have nothing to do with gambling or addiction. It is all related to the psychological nature of the human being. There are many sons who are not like their fathers. Their fathers are addicted to smoking, their sons do not smoke at all. It is their own will and choice whether or not to follow their fathers' path. And if his dad does not want him to fall into gambling addiction, then he should raise him in the right way and teach him the bad effects of gambling, and eventually, it will be his decision.

Bbut being a father will certainly make a few changes. this is a small example of my surroundings. my friend is a liquor addict and also a gambler addicts but when he is married and has children. his life is 360 degrees different you know ? no liquor and gambling anymore. of course that changed him for the better is to be a dad right? there may be a self-awareness to teach their child better.

What your friend have done is very right thing because before marriage he was single and their were no responsibility but after marriage and getting child make more responsible to knowing this leaving all bad habits is a good thing. I was also before marriage leaving freely without any burden but when i got married i just stopped drinking and gambling. Now only for fun some time play gambling just to kill time.

[jakagintiri]

This was the discussion topic we were having last night, a bunch of gambling friends and one of them an expecting dad. There were counter arguments that his child also would turn out a gambler like he is.

The arguments were that it is his in his gene and that'll pass on to his child, since every one in his family was a gambler.

The counter argument was that the child would make a logical decision and genes won't play any part in this.

Which brought us to another important question what if turns out a gambler would they both play together. Would he be comfortable?

Amid this he walked out and texted me he didn't wish to gamble anymore, so wanted your views on this.

There is no real bond when a father likes to gamble and make his son play gambling because of a father's genes problem, it's just an old story that is outdated is not right for me, the main factor of gambling addiction is the association of a child who goes into gambling, for me is very common for teenagers at their age, does not rule out gambling will not be avoided, starting from the classic game and just a momentary pleasure from growing more and more into to get into the real gambling hole.

[BarbieCasino]

In some case yes, they changed and not do gambling anymore. The gambler will realize, he needs money for his children and his family. There is more important to do than gambling, wasting his money in casino than give it to his wife and his children. Of course there are many gamblers are not changes but there is some out there.

I also think that it depends on the nature of individual who has experienced this change in his life. Some people may change their old habits to favor the newborn but in this world, there are gamblers who won’t give up this game. At first, they will lose their capital, then borrow money and lose it too. Such kind of people cannot think very clearly. But those who really change themselves for the baby should be highly respected and encouraged.

[Rinsend]

Absolutely not! If you want to be more responsible, you need to know how to be successful, as a result , you will find that the best solution is to have some positive vibes. Otherwise, I ,have to gamble not because it is the game, becuse it is the personal desire.

really? You keep gambling after having kids? well it is your right but at least you should reduce your gambling habits. After having a child, prioritize your child, think again, than your money is used to gamble and go somewhere, is not it better if your money is used to buy clothes for your child, for your child's snack, for your child's school? I know gambling is your hobby, you can still gamble, but changing priorities is not a bad thing.

[mrtrew]

I think the genes are not a playing factor, maybe the enviroment where the kid is living can have an effect to him, maybe if you have kids you should focus more on them instead of gambling and you should set limits to yourself how much are you ready to spend and still have for good living for you and your kids.

[LuffyD.Monkey]

I think yes. Becoming a parent will make them more responsible for their life and they will save their money for their children instead of wasting them in some casinos. Being a parent is a good experience for all of us because it does not change our mindset but also our life

Precisely.But it's really hard to be a good parent somehow.The lifestyle we used to do while we're still single will just change in a sudden.And we should nothing to do with it but change for the better.Or else all your bad habits like gambling will be absorbed by your kids thinking that it will bring them good also.Kids are very keen observers so as a parent,we should be extra careful with what we have shown to them since we are considered models for them.

Who told you that becoming a good parent is hard enough? If you are a good person by nature, then there will be no difficulty for you to become a good parent and if the case is opposite, definitely your children will never see you as a good parent. Lifestyle definitely changes when you get married because it’s something totally different from your past, also you never had such experiences in your life.

[changcloy]

This was the discussion topic we were having last night, a bunch of gambling friends and one of them an expecting dad. There were counter arguments that his child also would turn out a gambler like he is.

The arguments were that it is his in his gene and that'll pass on to his child, since every one in his family was a gambler.

The counter argument was that the child would make a logical decision and genes won't play any part in this.

Which brought us to another important question what if turns out a gambler would they both play together. Would he be comfortable?

Amid this he walked out and texted me he didn't wish to gamble anymore, so wanted your views on this.

Yes,to be a parent is also one of an aspect or reason to a person to change for better but I can say it is 100% sure because in my country since gambling was not that illegal and it is everywhere there are still plenty of people who are already a parent but still they stay as a gambler and some hoping to get profit from gambling which is very wrong.

[BabyBoss]

Sometimes if we have already family especially childrens we can end up quitting some of that. That would be means that for the sake of our family we will change. For the sake of our childrens we must change for us to become light for them. Because what we are now is what they can adopt soon.

[Loveydovey04]

I think it depends. If the parents has no dream at all he will not change even if he has dozens of children. I know someone from being single a gambler and a drunkard, people thought maybe when he will be a father he will change. Sad to say he just became a problem to his wife and children.