does anyone have any remedies to a stalker? this has been going on for almost 2 years and now its come to the point where i get "im going to kill you" txt over and over again from various numbers. obviously its her.
and yes this is the person who has been harassing me on the forum
i have blocked all number as they come in.
called the police they have called her to tell her to stop (this has happened tonight)
any other tricks to block contact with set IP address? shes already blocked from the forum but still reads it. she will see this.
sad soul she is. here is my statement about her
Monica started her account here JUST to harass me. she has been blocked by paypal and i think her bank for continually doing things like sending me thousands of dollars, coming down from the DRUGS her quack doctor gives her. then, claiming that her account was hacked and the charges are false. all the money has been returned to her. I made no claims that the money was mine. Monica is seriously ill. we have only met a few times years ago and form there the stalking and harassment from her has never stopped. only thing i did was not want a relationship with her and this is her way of making sure we have one, no matter what.-DrahogErusiel
*Cracks knuckles. This is pretty long so here's the tl;dr version: This dude is lying about everything. He sucks. I am not crazy.
Hi everyone. I'm Monica, the so-called "stalker." I found that this individual has been posting lies about me online and I would have left it alone if he hadn't mentioned my name. He also gave my phone number to several users who have contacted me. I'm here to set the record straight.
I met this individual over a year ago and we dated for several months. He decided he wasn't interested in me anymore and while I was upset, I was willing to to part amicably as long as the belongings I left at his house were returned to me which included several DVDs that belonged to a friend of mine, and jewelry as well. He refused to return these items, so I threatened legal action.
I called him several times and left several text messages because I thought he was going to keep these items and run off. He flipped the script, said I was harassing him and started labeling me a "stalker," a defense mechanism used by people who don't want to take responsibility for their own actions, usually men playing on the stereotype that women are unstable, and instead it just muzzles the recipient of such a label.
Despite this incident, this individual apologized for his actions and continued dating me for several months. At this point he started asking to borrow money from me which he specifically said he would pay back. Over the course of about 3-4 months I "lent" this individual over $1,000. He fed me a sob story that he was getting evicted and he owed some drug dealers money and they were threatening him. I gave him the money but with the expectation that he would pay me back at his earliest convenience. He never did.
This is what led to a big blow up after I confronted him about this and he basically told me to, "Come get it from Cook County hospital you bitch cuz I don't have it. Poor people don't hold on to money." I was livid, to say the least. But, honestly, I felt bad for the guy. He *claimed* he had DVT and chronic back pain. Speaking of which, I had a legal prescription for pain medication that I brought over to his house. I did not offer him any; he would steal pills from me when I wasn't looking or when I was asleep. I am not a drug addict. He is the one who took pain medication recreationally.
We had another falling out after he told me he was sleeping with random women without protection. I got tested for everything in the book and I'm happy to say I was negative. This was the final straw for me. Up until this point, I'd given him a large chunk of my earnings including money I was saving to launch an artist editorial blog, I was paying for his meals, I helped pay his rent, and I even bought booze and other "recreationals" for him. He nicknamed me his sugar momma because, well, that's exactly what I was, and it felt shitty. A word of advice: Don't date when your self-esteem is in the gutter. You'll end up with a guy like him.
Fast-forward to 2013, I was still demanding that he pay me back the money I lent him. He turned around and started calling them "gifts" and that if I took him to court he'll just lie and say that I just gave him the money and he never agreed to pay me back. It was a verbal contract so it would never hold up in court. I trusted his word, but I discovered that his word didn't really mean squat.
As far as the phone calls and text messages, you bet your ass I harassed him. Not only did this guy take my money but he became verbally abusive. He threatened to kill me. He threatened to kill my family. He called me a fat nigger. He said he hopes someone rapes and kills me. He said he hoped I got lynched. He threw every racial and sexist epithet he could think of because he knew it would hurt me, and it did. I would try to respond to him with equally biting insults, but none of them could cut as deep as what he said about me. I felt horrible about myself. I really wanted to die.
Summer of 2013, he leaves for Ecuador. I figured I could take this opportunity to make a fresh start. I had no intention of contacting him ever again. I deleted his number, his email, and any traces of him from my social media. Then, a few weeks later, he emails me asking how I'm doing. I knew I shouldn't have responded, but...
Throughout the course of that summer, over three months, we exchanged hundreds of emails. He told me he was really struggling in Ecuador and he didn't have food or a place to stay. I'm a very, very forgiving person. I really liked this person at one point, so I decided to send him more money. Foolish, I know, but I wasn't using my head. He got about $300 dollars out of me. He promised me once he got back to Chicago he would visit me and we would have a fresh start. He said he loved me and he wanted to try dating again and he even sent me sexually suggestive emails. These were all lies. He put on a front to get more money out of me.
He dropped off the face of the earth. I searched his name in google and found that he was selling all of the gifts that I bought for him on this forum, and here I am.
Also, a sidenote: I sent this person money via Paypal, about $3,000. This was a mistake (lapse in judgement). I asked him nicely to return the money. I mean, it's three grand. He refused, so I got the money back from Paypal's claims division. Paypal found in my favor because at the end of the day, it's my word against his and it's MY MONEY. He threatened to keep the money and block my number. Less than 24 hours after the money was posted to his account, it was sent back to mine and his account fell negative. Guess who started getting harassing phone calls, text messages, death threats, etc? Basically he transferred the money from Paypal into his regular account and didn't want to return it. He even threatened to sue me for the money, MY OWN MONEY! I bet his Paypal is "fixed" now.
Finally, I don't want a relationship with this dude. He has cost me my money, my health, my mental well-being, and he completely destroyed my self-esteem. Knowing this man has been the absolute worst experience I've ever had in my life, but I'm pretty young so I know it gets worse. At least this has me prepared for those worse circumstances. He's almost 30 years old and this is his game: He finds insecure women with financial security, bleeds them dry, and then labels them "crazy" when they confront him. He told me about women who were "stalking" him when we first met. I guess he said it to make himself look desirable, but in reality these women were probably scammed by him too.
And for the record, I am not mentally ill. I have a job, I pay rent, and I have a circle of friends and family who love me and care about me very much. They know my side of the ordeal, the TRUE side of the ordeal, and they hate this individual almost as much as I do, possibly more. But, one thing I've learned from this is to not stoop to a bottom-feeder's level because people won't be able to tell the difference.
With that, I'm done. This poor excuse for a man doesn't have to worry about me anymore because I have way too much going for me to waste it on some man-child. I don't need revenge because more than likely, if this is how he deals with people, eventually he'll get what's coming to him. Karma is bitch. He can keep that money because I know I'll make back what I lost and then some. Truthfully, he was intimidated by me. He secretly has a very low view of African-Americans because he was raised in a household where racist ideals were ingrained in him, so he expected me to not be very educated. He is borderline illiterate and can barely write complete sentences as evidenced by his posts on here. I'm well spoken, college educated, and I come from a good family. I think he thought that I thought I was better than him, but I didn't. I see everyone as equals. He's the closeted elitist trying to compensate for his shortcomings.
And not to toot my own horn but I'd like to think I'm at least a 7 in the looks department, Sythyn.
EDIT: He had someone pose as a police officer to call my phone. This amazing actor left no contact information, no badge number, and he didn't even leave his name. Pretty sure impersonating a police officer is illegal. Sigh. If you're going to be a criminal, don't be a dumb criminal.
