Life with a Gambler - Solution!

[Maddinson100]

My questions are:

Do you have the same problem at home?

If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?

If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?

Thank you!

I don't have any problem at home and I don't think that gambling is a "hidden disease" because as long as we can control ourselves in the gambling, we are not potential to be an addicting person. but if I have this problem, maybe I will find somebody in my family and I will tell that person that I have a problem with gambling and I really need his/her help to solve this. I am sure that if we really want to get out from gambling, he/she will give some help and always give a suggestion to us so we can solve our problem with gambling.

Playing gambling in times will make you become dependent on it but also the people who tried gambling for two to three times in their lives only, they also would become addicted to it because gambling is more addiction than the addiction itself. When the person starts following gambling, no other substitute can be found of it for the people.

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[TheGreatPython]

Well honestly i don't think that gambling addiction is that hard to get over, for me i think that people get that into gambling because they have nothing else to do, nothing else to keep them busy from spending money on it, if they have friends and family who encourage them to do activities and keep them busy from doing so than i am sure they won't find the time to gamble and they will lose their desire to do it, at least that is what i did for my friend when he started falling to it.

Easy for you to say because you don't have gambling addiction. I think your friend is not in that rabbit hole where gambling addicts fall into every single time. In other words, your friend is not really addicted to gambling that much OR you're friend is secretly still gambling after a good day of spending time with his friends. I think gambling addiction, like any other addiction, is a form of escape. An escape from real world problems that actually do matter. Addiction is a symptom of a much larger problem and these people have addiction because they want to avoid facing those problems as much as they can because they are either too afraid to face it or simply don't have the capacity to face it. They say that all problems can be solved that's why God gave it to us. Yes, it has a logical solution but not everyone has the capacity to take action.

Everything works when is done or used in some limits. That’s why when we buy some new electronic appliance, there is a note printed somewhere on that thing with precautionary measurements written on it. These precautionary measures are basically the limits of that thing which means that beside these circumstances, this thing will not work.

[bitcoinrays]

we keep seeing topics coming about the negative side in gambling , it's a fact that there are really few percentage that are addicted to gambling but the majority are fun seekers and professionals

I don't see someone coming with topics like getting addicted to video games , or getting addicted to watching movies

I have seen many people who ruined their selves with different types of addictions , but never seen a person who was affected from gambling

the problem does exist , but it's really rare and I guess the majority know the risk and also know the reward

to be honest living in Syria I realized that gambling is the minimum risk that the human being can take

Yes only few people were seriously addicted to the gambling and then most of them can tackle it even if they were addicted to it with their daily life.
Gambling has lot of positivity too but in most of the world it was just portrayed as bad thing to do,like a sin and sometime even like illegal activities that is why many people afraid to be a gambler even if they wanted to be.

Man, you are the only one here I think who is saying this. Gambling has a lot of positivity? Where it is? Why this positivity is not seen to us? Why people are getting so much negativity in gambling and why they are not making themselves beneficial with this positivity? I think this all is just a loss of mind. You are out of your mind or somehow you better become blind with greed for money.

I don’t have any gambler friend because i think that gambling is a bad thing and so the gamblers. I do not gamble because I do not want to lose my hard earn money so easily. So when I think that gambling is bad think how can I have a gambler friend? If he forces you to visit casino with him and you go with him, one day you will start gambling.  Keep avoid of such friends.

[changcloy]

I had a gambling addiction problem before but as you stated i start realizing that the money I'm losing is something which might help me in future, it will support me if i have a financial failure, so what i did was stopped logging in on the gambling site and stopped seeing other players profit, instead i started investing on different sites bankroll and started making profits

We mostly have the same scenario mate , I can say that I have addiction problem also before ,there were times that I cannot control myself I always look ways to gamble, but like you I just realize one day that there is more important thing that I can use my money , for my future and for my kids. It is hard to stop if you already used to gamble but if you are willing to earn you will stop wasting your money in gambling and think for brighter tomorrow.

[jrrsparkles]

I had a gambling addiction problem before but as you stated i start realizing that the money I'm losing is something which might help me in future, it will support me if i have a financial failure, so what i did was stopped logging in on the gambling site and stopped seeing other players profit, instead i started investing on different sites bankroll and started making profits

We mostly have the same scenario mate , I can say that I have addiction problem also before ,there were times that I cannot control myself I always look ways to gamble, but like you I just realize one day that there is more important thing that I can use my money , for my future and for my kids. It is hard to stop if you already used to gamble but if you are willing to earn you will stop wasting your money in gambling and think for brighter tomorrow.

Gambling is just for fun,if you can't afford to it then we have to stay away from it because many people will going to lose their money in gambling that is how the system being designed.But if you still want to earn money from ambling better being an investor on it the odds of making profits is high but the percentage will be less,so it is like passive income from your money.

[ethereumhunter]

I had a gambling addiction problem before but as you stated i start realizing that the money I'm losing is something which might help me in future, it will support me if i have a financial failure, so what i did was stopped logging in on the gambling site and stopped seeing other players profit, instead i started investing on different sites bankroll and started making profits

We mostly have the same scenario mate , I can say that I have addiction problem also before ,there were times that I cannot control myself I always look ways to gamble, but like you I just realize one day that there is more important thing that I can use my money , for my future and for my kids. It is hard to stop if you already used to gamble but if you are willing to earn you will stop wasting your money in gambling and think for brighter tomorrow.

Gambling is just for fun,if you can't afford to it then we have to stay away from it because many people will going to lose their money in gambling that is how the system being designed.But if you still want to earn money from ambling better being an investor on it the odds of making profits is high but the percentage will be less,so it is like passive income from your money.

but still, many people still curious about gambling games and they still come again on the other days but the result will be the same as a few days ago. they need to realize that gambling cannot be as a source of income and it is only a game that we can enjoy without spending too much money. maybe they can try to invest their money with the gambling site and I think this will more effective than they are playing gambling.

[darkangel11]

I know a guy who used to be an addicted gambler and according to him you can't really help an addict. You have to make him touch the bottom and realize that if he doesn't change his life will be over. Only when he starts being afraid of his addiction will he be able to start fighting it.
That guy that I'm talking about was borrowing money everywhere and even sold his car to have money for gambling, but he survived and recovered. If you know an addict, don't let him drag you down with him or you will only extend his fall and make it all hader for both of you. I know it sounds harsh but it's the truth.

[quality.crypto]

My questions are:

Do you have the same problem at home?

If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?

If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?

Thank you!

I don't have any problem at home and I don't think that gambling is a "hidden disease" because as long as we can control ourselves in the gambling, we are not potential to be an addicting person. but if I have this problem, maybe I will find somebody in my family and I will tell that person that I have a problem with gambling and I really need his/her help to solve this. I am sure that if we really want to get out from gambling, he/she will give some help and always give a suggestion to us so we can solve our problem with gambling.

Playing gambling in times will make you become dependent on it but also the people who tried gambling for two to three times in their lives only, they also would become addicted to it because gambling is more addiction than the addiction itself. When the person starts following gambling, no other substitute can be found of it for the people.

Yes, that's why there are many people afraid to gamble because once they start playing definitely they will start making money in the beginning, this makes them invest more money in gambling. So it is always good to stay away from the gambling once after losing in gambling.

[Ridwan Fauzi]

I use to tell most people who want to join gambling that 'if you are not psychological stable or strong,  don't bother going into gambling. It's painful and frustrating to drag your love ones into the mess you create for yourself when gambling. Like OP has said, it's really a silent killer and you care about should not suffer because of your greed.

Yeah that's right, I have a friend and he has an unstable psychology, I mean he always focuses on something he wants even if he really likes what he wants then everything he has done before just a moment will he forgeten. Until now he gambled without time and even he forgot the needs of his family. This is the worst situation experienced by a gambler, and I am concerned about it.

[ricardobs]

My partner was a gambling addict for many years, and I put up with it as much as I could for many years. We had talks about it. We had fights about it. Sometimes we went for weeks without speaking to each other. Many times after promising to quit, she'd quietly go back there and lose more money. The children would stay up until late into the night waiting for their mother to come home. Where's mommy? They'd wake up tired for school the next day. One night after she came home, something inside me snapped. I had enough!! I told her to get the F out of my house and to take all her crap with her. I told her that I'm going to divorce her and take the house and the kids. I told her that I have copies of all her bank statements showing how much money she's been squandering at casinos and that no judge in his right mind would give a gambling addict custody of the children, besides she was always broke. I was seeing red and I was fully prepared for the ugliest divorce and custody fight ever. Do you know what happened after that night? She quit gambling. It's been 6 months or so since that night, and I have to say thanks be to God for answering my prayers and bringing this whole ugly problem to an end. I've never been that angry with her before, and I guess that is what she needed to see before she quit. I showed her the brick wall that she was heading for and she slammed on the brakes.

Nice story, I really enjoyed. I have also a friend who is regular gambler and I also visited with him for many times, but I just look out and never gamble because I have no experience of gambling. I have never seen him winning big money and took it to home, he always lost and not only he but all other gambler also lost money. Only the owner of the place collects money.

This is the main problem in touch with gambler. After some time you will also start gambling because of the community. I think before you become addicted of gambling you should leave their company. Bad habit and bad people have bad impact on your life. I try to keep avoid of such people and such game. I don’t want to be dis respected in my surroundings.

[ethereumhunter]

I use to tell most people who want to join gambling that 'if you are not psychological stable or strong,  don't bother going into gambling. It's painful and frustrating to drag your love ones into the mess you create for yourself when gambling. Like OP has said, it's really a silent killer and you care about should not suffer because of your greed.

Yeah that's right, I have a friend and he has an unstable psychology, I mean he always focuses on something he wants even if he really likes what he wants then everything he has done before just a moment will he forgeten. Until now he gambled without time and even he forgot the needs of his family. This is the worst situation experienced by a gambler, and I am concerned about it.

I think if he is your best friend, maybe you can talk to him and give some advice to him. maybe he will listen to you and slowly he will change his mind and he will think to stop gambling. usually, if someone has the closest friend, he will listen to his advice and will do what his friend suggest and he will change as the suggestion has given.

[jrrsparkles]

I had a gambling addiction problem before but as you stated i start realizing that the money I'm losing is something which might help me in future, it will support me if i have a financial failure, so what i did was stopped logging in on the gambling site and stopped seeing other players profit, instead i started investing on different sites bankroll and started making profits

We mostly have the same scenario mate , I can say that I have addiction problem also before ,there were times that I cannot control myself I always look ways to gamble, but like you I just realize one day that there is more important thing that I can use my money , for my future and for my kids. It is hard to stop if you already used to gamble but if you are willing to earn you will stop wasting your money in gambling and think for brighter tomorrow.

Gambling is just for fun,if you can't afford to it then we have to stay away from it because many people will going to lose their money in gambling that is how the system being designed.But if you still want to earn money from ambling better being an investor on it the odds of making profits is high but the percentage will be less,so it is like passive income from your money.

but still, many people still curious about gambling games and they still come again on the other days but the result will be the same as a few days ago. they need to realize that gambling cannot be as a source of income and it is only a game that we can enjoy without spending too much money. maybe they can try to invest their money with the gambling site and I think this will more effective than they are playing gambling.

The earning from the gambling site is not that much high when compare to gambling rewards but we have less risks because we knows that the house has more odds to win.People just want quick money and become millionaire over night is the reason fro gambling addiction and losses.

[qwertyup23]

Ahhh, I'll never forget what I experienced before 4 years ago when I was still living at my grandmother's place. I have an uncle who was well-off before. He used to treat our family with stuff and unexpected surprises, not to mention his lovable and caring attitude. He had this wonderful girlfriend who cherished him for 7 years until the day came that he lost his job. At that time, everything started to fell and his life revolved around vices like drugs, gambling, and other relevant stuff. Our family tried to support and help him despite his downfall but the ultimate decision on whether he would fix himself relies upon him only.

Last July 6, 2013, I almost got killed by my own uncle who tried to stab me using our kitchen knife JUST because I did not let him borrow any of my money to pay off his debts due to gambling. Unfortunately, I did not tell my mom about the whole story as it may aggravate the situation (he was living inside our house and mom's house was beside- we have one lot and land) and I might get myself into trouble as he threatened me. As years passed by, we tried to help him by putting him into REHAB and by providing him with all the necessities and things are getting back to normal. Although slowly, but the current was going through that kind of positive light.

The moral of the story: despite any difficulties and hardships, when people are at their lowest point they judgement becomes clouded and makes them irrational and indecisive of the decisions that they do. Although I am not invalidating and defending him from what he did to me, continuous support from your family and UNDERSTANDING from both ends would result relatively to a positive impact.

[btc-facebook]

Actually when gambler start to get addicted, the religion and the family environment able to recover them for fast rather than using hospital because gambler's mental is difficult to recover !
Luckily, I'm never got addicted too much although I'm ever experience huge winning on the single bet on last world cup match final !

[jrrsparkles]

Actually when gambler start to get addicted, the religion and the family environment able to recover them for fast rather than using hospital because gambler's mental is difficult to recover !
Luckily, I'm never got addicted too much although I'm ever experience huge winning on the single bet on last world cup match final !

The gambling is addiction to most of the people but if we realize our family situation and our future then we may don't get too much interested in the gambling the only people who hate life or just alone or have money which has no purpose for now will attract attention towards the gambling.Even though we didn't win any big rewards we will hope to win that on someday.

[Freshmen]

Usually when a gambler gets to gamble a lot and start to lose all his money to gambling and if he has a family than there the problems start. I have never seen someone gamble away their life savings and not have a family meltdown, mostly ending up in divorce. Gambling is the sport of single people. You can't have a family and gamble recklessly, there is no way. You have to be careful, even if you want to gamble, just gamble the money you are willing to lose and can afford to lose.

[coolcoinz]

Usually when a gambler gets to gamble a lot and start to lose all his money to gambling and if he has a family than there the problems start. I have never seen someone gamble away their life savings and not have a family meltdown, mostly ending up in divorce. Gambling is the sport of single people. You can't have a family and gamble recklessly, there is no way. You have to be careful, even if you want to gamble, just gamble the money you are willing to lose and can afford to lose.

No family - no family meltdowns - no problem! You're right.
There's really no way to live with a compulsive gambler. He'll be throwing tantrums all the time and going from one extreme to another. One day he'll win and he'll take you to dinner with flowers, movies whatever and when he loses he'll either get enraged or will visit the bar and come back looking like a beggar. Living with an addict of any kind is like a torture.

[Rembedful]

Actually when gambler start to get addicted, the religion and the family environment able to recover them for fast rather than using hospital because gambler's mental is difficult to recover !
Luckily, I'm never got addicted too much although I'm ever experience huge winning on the single bet on last world cup match final !

The gambling is addiction to most of the people but if we realize our family situation and our future then we may don't get too much interested in the gambling the only people who hate life or just alone or have money which has no purpose for now will attract attention towards the gambling.Even though we didn't win any big rewards we will hope to win that on someday.

This is the point that addicted gambler do not of their families. They just do what they want and don’t care about their families. Gambling addiction is like drug addiction and death is the final penalty for them. My brother is also drug addicted. We tried our best but he doesn’t try to quit drugs addiction. Although he is government employee but doesn’t think anything.

[0xBitcoins]

I use to tell most people who want to join gambling that 'if you are not psychological stable or strong,  don't bother going into gambling. It's painful and frustrating to drag your love ones into the mess you create for yourself when gambling. Like OP has said, it's really a silent killer and you care about should not suffer because of your greed.

Yeah that's right, I have a friend and he has an unstable psychology, I mean he always focuses on something he wants even if he really likes what he wants then everything he has done before just a moment will he forgeten. Until now he gambled without time and even he forgot the needs of his family. This is the worst situation experienced by a gambler, and I am concerned about it.

In my opinion the solution for life with a gambler is that try to keep them quit gambling and tell them it will destroy your life and your family as well, and if they do not quit gambling let them alone. If they have any sense that friends are leaving him because of gambling he will quit gambling, if not never make any relationship with him.

[Findingnemo]

Actually when gambler start to get addicted, the religion and the family environment able to recover them for fast rather than using hospital because gambler's mental is difficult to recover !
Luckily, I'm never got addicted too much although I'm ever experience huge winning on the single bet on last world cup match final !

The gambling is addiction to most of the people but if we realize our family situation and our future then we may don't get too much interested in the gambling the only people who hate life or just alone or have money which has no purpose for now will attract attention towards the gambling.Even though we didn't win any big rewards we will hope to win that on someday.

This is the point that addicted gambler do not of their families. They just do what they want and don’t care about their families. Gambling addiction is like drug addiction and death is the final penalty for them. My brother is also drug addicted. We tried our best but he doesn’t try to quit drugs addiction. Although he is government employee but doesn’t think anything.

These kind of behavior arises only when they hate their life completely the reasons for these are many like loss in business or love failure or some other like that.But the addictions can be only cured when the addicted person really want to get away from that or there is no way that we can help them to stay away and finally death will happen as you said.