Watching Our Kids From Something That Could Dangerous To Them

[jcojci]

Some time ago I visited my friend's house. We talked about many things because we had not seen each other for a long time. Besides us telling stories, he accompanied his son, who was already a teenager. His son is playing games on his cell phone and I got a glimpse of what games he played and he seems to be playing games he shouldn't be playing.

Then I asked my best friend how she watched her grown children. He replied that his children were able to choose what was good and bad for them and he just needed to say that playing games are okay as long as he doesn't lose track of time.

Then I asked again if the kids installed games they weren't supposed to play (but I didn't say the kids were playing those games). She replied that she sometimes checks her children's cell phones and asks what they are playing and that a parent should ask their child.

From here, I then asked myself, is that what we should do for our children, giving them the freedom to install whatever they want. Then there is another thing that sticks in my mind: if they want to buy something in the game because this type of game allows players to get rare items at low prices. They can ask for the money from their parents to buy that item.

Then, I also thought if this could cause symptoms of addiction to continue playing the game and later it could be accidentally, they see adult content such as pornography or gambling or others easily. The role of parents who give freedom to their children in using cellphones does not seem to be felt by those who are starting to grow up. I see that a teenager has started to be equipped with a smartphone.

What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

[kaya11]

Some time ago I visited my friend's house. We talked about many things because we had not seen each other for a long time. Besides us telling stories, he accompanied his son, who was already a teenager. His son is playing games on his cell phone and I got a glimpse of what games he played and he seems to be playing games he shouldn't be playing.

Then I asked my best friend how she watched her grown children. He replied that his children were able to choose what was good and bad for them and he just needed to say that playing games are okay as long as he doesn't lose track of time.

Then I asked again if the kids installed games they weren't supposed to play (but I didn't say the kids were playing those games). She replied that she sometimes checks her children's cell phones and asks what they are playing and that a parent should ask their child.

From here, I then asked myself, is that what we should do for our children, giving them the freedom to install whatever they want. Then there is another thing that sticks in my mind: if they want to buy something in the game because this type of game allows players to get rare items at low prices. They can ask for the money from their parents to buy that item.

Then, I also thought if this could cause symptoms of addiction to continue playing the game and later it could be accidentally, they see adult content such as pornography or gambling or others easily. The role of parents who give freedom to their children in using cellphones does not seem to be felt by those who are starting to grow up. I see that a teenager has started to be equipped with a smartphone.

What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

This is something to take it seriously, growing children are curious and all. We should be aware of what they are searching online, as much as possible you could put boundaries for them not to go out of control. I let my 2 year old watch on Youtube kids however it has parental controls. I blocked what seems to be influencing my kid bad attitude such as pushing other kids, shouting to parents and the likes. You just have to put barrier with this kind of contents, as later on you will be having problems with that. Same in letting them play, you should check what they are playing, is good or bad at the point they say mean words. It is our duty to protect them, as they are still fragile and prone to bad things in the society. Also if you need to punish them do it without harming them, like conditioning them not to give them what they like in order for them to be disciplined.

[nakamura12]

Even though I don't have a child but one thing I know is that it is much better ti educate the children about the disadvantages of playing games that a children shouldn't play. My nephew played GTA San Andreas and now my nephew caught what the main character and other characters said when somethinghhappen to them like shit, f*ck and motherf*cker. For gambling, it is better to tell the children why playing gambling games is not good for children and even for an adult.

[milewilda]

Even though I don't have a child but one thing I know is that it is much better ti educate the children about the disadvantages of playing games that a children shouldn't play. My nephew played GTA San Andreas and now my nephew caught what the main character and other characters said when somethinghhappen to them like shit, f*ck and motherf*cker. For gambling, it is better to tell the children why playing gambling games is not good for children and even for an adult.

Children or kids are really that susceptible with those kind of things and considering that they do easily adapt on what things that they do encounter then its no surprise that they would really be
applying it to theirselves which it is true that it would really be good if we train or do make them realize on early phase that gambling isnt good and its possible effects.
Well, it might not be giving out 100% assurance for them on not to play or dealing with other things since we arent there most of the time but at least we have taught them about the right stuff
and more likely they would really be putting it up into their minds and make out some wise decision.

[nakamura12]

Well, it might not be giving out 100% assurance for them on not to play or dealing with other things since we arent there most of the time but at least we have taught them about the right stuff
and more likely they would really be putting it up into their minds and make out some wise decision.

Children will learn how to install games on the phone and we know most games even though the games are not gambling games that children shouldn't play but when a phone connected to Internet then that game will show different ads and one thing I noticed is that sometimes the ads shows card games like card games (like tong its common in Philippines) that will lead children starting to gamble when they made contact with other children who already experienced gambling.

[uneng]

What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

I think each case is unique. When parents identify their children are responsible and won't fall for addictions, bad behaviours or compulsive purchasings it's ok to give them freedom, because it will actually help them to develop even more self-confidence and responsability for their adulthood. But you can't be too careful when children are impulsive. In this case parents must be more attentive on what their children are doing on the internet.

About the story told above speficially, i have the perception your best friend isn't too concerned about what his/her children are doing on the cellphone, because he/she probably trust them and there haven't been any issues involving apps, gambling, pornography or undesired purchases before. Anyway, from times to times it's important to check what they are doing.

[Fortify]

Some time ago I visited my friend's house. We talked about many things because we had not seen each other for a long time. Besides us telling stories, he accompanied his son, who was already a teenager. His son is playing games on his cell phone and I got a glimpse of what games he played and he seems to be playing games he shouldn't be playing.

Then I asked my best friend how she watched her grown children. He replied that his children were able to choose what was good and bad for them and he just needed to say that playing games are okay as long as he doesn't lose track of time.

Then I asked again if the kids installed games they weren't supposed to play (but I didn't say the kids were playing those games). She replied that she sometimes checks her children's cell phones and asks what they are playing and that a parent should ask their child.

From here, I then asked myself, is that what we should do for our children, giving them the freedom to install whatever they want. Then there is another thing that sticks in my mind: if they want to buy something in the game because this type of game allows players to get rare items at low prices. They can ask for the money from their parents to buy that item.

Then, I also thought if this could cause symptoms of addiction to continue playing the game and later it could be accidentally, they see adult content such as pornography or gambling or others easily. The role of parents who give freedom to their children in using cellphones does not seem to be felt by those who are starting to grow up. I see that a teenager has started to be equipped with a smartphone.

What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

Unfortunately since the advent of the internet it has spawned many good and also many bad things in life. It gives people a huge blessing in terms of almost infinite knowledge that is transferable via a device even as small as a phone or watch. Yet it also allows companies in "dangerous" industries such as alcohol/tobacco/gambling to have a much larger reach and be able to more covertly advertise to audiences in a way that it can be hard for regulators to catch. Young and developing minds are extremely impressionable, even 21 year olds can still be immature in many respects, so they are much more influenced in the age of instant gratification. It can even start at a stage beyond gambling, with things like micro transactions and loot boxes creating trigger points in the brain which can fuel later traits around addiction. It's an extremely difficult balance to find, but parents play a large responsibility and they often do not step up to the mark, or don't have the technology know how to do so effectively.

[Lanatsa]

Well, it might not be giving out 100% assurance for them on not to play or dealing with other things since we arent there most of the time but at least we have taught them about the right stuff
and more likely they would really be putting it up into their minds and make out some wise decision.

Children will learn how to install games on the phone and we know most games even though the games are not gambling games that children shouldn't play but when a phone connected to Internet then that game will show different ads and one thing I noticed is that sometimes the ads shows card games like card games (like tong its common in Philippines) that will lead children starting to gamble when they made contact with other children who already experienced gambling.

Agree into this one which i do really able to observe it out that inappropriate ads would really be shown on some kid games which there is really a chance or tendency that they would be clicking it out which would really result into possible engangement.

Curiosity is really one of the things that one pushes to test it out but if you do able to tell your kids while they are young then it does really affect them on how to make out some decisions.
Yes, they might able to engage but they are aware of the things that you have told earlier.

[Marvelman]

What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

I think each case is unique. When parents identify their children are responsible and won't fall for addictions, bad behaviours or compulsive purchasings it's ok to give them freedom, because it will actually help them to develop even more self-confidence and responsability for their adulthood. But you can't be too careful when children are impulsive. In this case parents must be more attentive on what their children are doing on the internet.

Every parent's primary concern is the safety and well-being of their children. With the growth of the Internet and mobile technologies, there has been a huge increase in the number of risks for our children and teens online. Both parents and children should do their best to reduce their exposure to online risks. Although Internet filters can help with child safety, I believe that education can offer a greater safety net for children and teens. Parents should work with their children to discuss the potential risks and how to protect themselves online. More importantly, they must take active steps to ensure that their children understand and have the knowledge needed to make the right decisions online.

[Danydee]

 My personal thinking about that the parents must supervising what there kids do on the internet and strictly limit them, (that's also when we see all the dangers we adults can encounter there..)
 Especially underaged that strictly shouldn't use smartphones and be allowed to do just some tasks under the strict supervision of the parents .

 There is been numerous solutions for protecting kids on internet, starting from DNS setting that block all NSFW contents and dangerous or not approved places, to complete softwares that allow also tracking made by security firms as antivirus companies etc.
 
 So I think that the phenomen is primarily serious negligence from the parents !

[bitbollo]

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He replied that his children were able to choose what was good and bad for them and he just needed to say that playing games are okay as long as he doesn't lose track of time.
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I don't think this is a wise choice for their future.
this is a serious mistake because a child has not the same experience and knowledge of an adult.
they have not the same experience in judge fact of the life and can follow bad habits.
moreover a parent should check what child are doing... it's full of fake marketing / fake news / etc etc that you cannot leave them without control... with gambling they have not experience to understand RTP, statistics about betting, risk to get addicted ...

[Maslate]

You can't keep an eye on your children all the time, the best thing to do is to educate them on the risk of what they are doing. Though they are still you, if you educate them, they'll mature easily and they would know what is bad or good or if they do gambling, at least they will know how to gamble responsibly.

In the current world now, everything is already online, it's hard to keep your children risk-free if, in the first place you don't give time in educating them because, in the end, they still make their own decision as they are so adventurous, they like to explore.

[DoublerHunter]

You can't keep an eye on your children all the time, the best thing to do is to educate them on the risk of what they are doing. Though they are still you, if you educate them, they'll mature easily and they would know what is bad or good or if they do gambling, at least they will know how to gamble responsibly.

In the current world now, everything is already online, it's hard to keep your children risk-free if, in the first place you don't give time in educating them because, in the end, they still make their own decision as they are so adventurous, they like to explore.

^ This definitely right but of course still parent guidance was still there, don't let your children use the mobile phone for over 12 hours consistently use and there should be a limit of time using of mobile phone and we should guide and educate them on what is bad or good. We are now on a high technology which is using internet and mobile phone is the way to learn which makes them has an advantage. For me, it would be fine to play games online but of course at the right time when it is free time.

[Scripture]

Kids nowadays are spending much of their time using their phones and internet, they are really prone to anything available online and that’s why its advisable to supervise them as much as possible and restrict them from using phones most probably you can limit their time online. If those kids expose to gambling site, games that is meant for adult most probably they can bring this when they grew up and it can really affect them in the future.

[AmoreJaz]

You can't keep an eye on your children all the time, the best thing to do is to educate them on the risk of what they are doing. Though they are still you, if you educate them, they'll mature easily and they would know what is bad or good or if they do gambling, at least they will know how to gamble responsibly.

In the current world now, everything is already online, it's hard to keep your children risk-free if, in the first place you don't give time in educating them because, in the end, they still make their own decision as they are so adventurous, they like to explore.

^ This definitely right but of course still parent guidance was still there, don't let your children use the mobile phone for over 12 hours consistently use and there should be a limit of time using of mobile phone and we should guide and educate them on what is bad or good. We are now on a high technology which is using internet and mobile phone is the way to learn which makes them has an advantage. For me, it would be fine to play games online but of course at the right time when it is free time.

educating them is the key as we will not have our eyes on them 24/7, they will always encounter something new without our presence and they will be curious about it. if they have basic rules to comply, like not spending money with your games or they know that they need to inform you if they need to spend money with their games, they have somehow limitations on where to go about their games. it is not bad for them to let them play once in a while. but they should have limitations and you as a parent, should instill such limitations.

[wildan88]

Those are things that you normally never have 100% control over. You can take care to keep them away from a bad environment. But the problem is that in a clean and good environment there are also many people who gamble. If a child is genetically prone to addiction, there is a chance that sooner or later they will come into contact with gambling. Such a thing is unavoidable. And when they are 18+, many children no longer live at home, then the overview is completely gone, plus their own independence and their own bank account.

[ultrloa]

Sometimes you need to show them what things they need to avoid nor take some consideration to take more than twice and you don't know your friend is doing the right thing to educate his child upon things that might give them any risk upon growing. I guess you need to let them do what they want since at the end of the day parents have their own style one how they can build their childs character.

[goaldigger]

He’a already a teenager and I wonder what kind of games he’s playing? Is it about gambling games or just a normal online games where most of the Children already knows how to play?

Anyway, we can’t control or supervised are children all the time and we should accept that. We can guide them on telling what’s not ok and what’s ok, and trust them by doing this you can really tell if you’re Children is obeying you or not at all. Well, we all have different style on handling Children and as a parent its not easy at all, if its about gambling then the parent should really tell their children about the possible negative effect of that games to them.

[Oilacris]

Sometimes you need to show them what things they need to avoid nor take some consideration to take more than twice and you don't know your friend is doing the right thing to educate his child upon things that might give them any risk upon growing. I guess you need to let them do what they want since at the end of the day parents have their own style one how they can build their childs character.

Parenting does really have a big role on developing their kids which it could really be helpful on his future decisions specially if he do able to encounter those things then he do know on what to do.

Its not bad to have some few tries but make sure that they wont really be involving much with gambling and as a parent then its our responsibility on making them learn and give out advises since
we already have the experience and its just right to share up that main idea not only to our kids but also into our grandchildren as well or other relatives or whatsoever.

[Rengga Jati]

That relates to the control of parents itself to their children i whatever condition.
moreover this is era of advanced texhnology and our kids are familiar enough with this. Although we cannot watch them 24 hours. But at keast we can control what they doing and also browsing.
Moreover our children are playing games and there must be gambling sites that have promotions during the card is urgently needed.