Why do people withdraw their generosity during crisis?

[Lordhermes]

In life, we all battling with uncertain behaviour, that one will wonder why certain characters occur when one needs a helping hand most. we are facing some difficulties in our communities and families, and the people you think will assist you to sort things out seems to be the ones to disappoint you.its seems to me that person don't value life, they shows concerns only when people  are celebrating and withdraw when things goes wrong. Such life should be discourage in the society.  We should not only show up when things are working, we should always stand in good and bad time.

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[YinShuiSiYuan]

You can have many people with you during your good and happy times but you'll have few friends during your hard time ,this is the hard reality of this world.  Helping others and being able to do something for someone is a blessing and every person is not blessed enough or I can say capable enough to help other. In today's world people are so mean and self centered that they dnt feel any need to help anyone in crisis.

[yazher]

I already felt this way before when there was a major crisis in our place about 9 years ago and you can see people not caring for anyone except for themselves because they only want to survive and not showing compassionate towards others seems a norm in their hearts. But this is only visible when you need them the most and What broke my heart that day was when I see the people I used to care, leaving me behind and did not only ask if I was OK but act as if I am nobody to them. That's why after that, I don't care about others anymore except for a few that are truthful and if I ever help someone about anything, I won't expect the same help from them anything. Helping people is good and the only bad people that are not greatful are mostly the one who are not deserve our trust.

[Gyfts]

Human selfishness is inherent. We'd all like to do better and think that we're beyond reproach, but at baseline there is some level of what I would call "self preservation" that might exist during times of crisis. Seems ingrained in human physiology  -- consider it to be on the same note of the "fight or flight" response when humans are subject to fear, uncertainty, and shock.

We can only hope the time of crisis moves quickly. We're a very fragile species.

[Zlantann]

In life, we all battling with uncertain behaviour, that one will wonder why certain characters occur when one needs a helping hand most. we are facing some difficulties in our communities and families, and the people you think will assist you to sort things out seems to be the ones to disappoint you.its seems to me that person don't value life, they shows concerns only when people  are celebrating and withdraw when things goes wrong. Such life should be discourage in the society.  We should not only show up when things are working, we should always stand in good and bad time.

Before you conclude that someone doesn't want to help or assist you, it is important to ascertain or investigate if the person has the capacity or the means to reach out. This is because I have had such experience when someone became very angry with me because I failed to assist him. But the truth is that I didn't have the necessary resources to help.

Good and selfless people still exists, although they are very few. I have been privileged to have had contact with some uncommon people that are willing to sacrifice their comfort for people to survive.

There are also very selfish people that derive pleasure in seeing people suffer. They want to always be the boss, hence they would never give people the privilege of rising to their level or above them. These set of individuals are only friends when there is plenty to spend. But when you have issues or problems you would hardly get assistance from them.

But I have learnt never to expect much from people because you would always be disappointed. I keep less friends, work hard, keep my expenses low and rely on God.

[Queentoshi]

Before you conclude that someone doesn't want to help or assist you, it is important to ascertain or investigate if the person has the capacity or the means to reach out.

Some people do not know how to ask for help, it is not a sign that they do not have their own problems that they are dealing with. These problems can become overwhelming that even if they are generous persons, they may need to reduce generosity, so their own situations don't turn bad in trying to help other people when it is no longer within their capacity. Generous people are not singled out from the effects of a crisis, so don't expect much from them.

[electronicash]

In life, we all battling with uncertain behaviour, that one will wonder why certain characters occur when one needs a helping hand most. we are facing some difficulties in our communities and families, and the people you think will assist you to sort things out seems to be the ones to disappoint you.its seems to me that person don't value life, they shows concerns only when people  are celebrating and withdraw when things goes wrong. Such life should be discourage in the society.  We should not only show up when things are working, we should always stand in good and bad time.

we only learn to value wealth and money when we hit rock bottom and people we use to count on are not lending their hands. its a hard way to learn life but its what is happening during crisis. you will feel betrayed when they run towards you when they need help but are not there when you need as well.

i'm not surprise anymore with such situation for even siblings are fighting over an inherited house of the parents. the worse it will be if they are just step brothers/sisters. crisis brought out the worst in people.

[OgNasty]

I don’t think everyone withdraws generosity during times of crisis. I know I’ve been making an extra effort to drop a few dollars in the hands of people I see standing around these days. Personally, I think that donating to those in need is a huge part of the system that is largely neglected by most people, which is why organized charities are a thing. Make sure if you’re able to help out others in need. It will make you feel a lot better than eating out or spending extra money on most of the useless things people spend their money on.

[Frankolala]

In life, we all battling with uncertain behaviour, that one will wonder why certain characters occur when one needs a helping hand most. we are facing some difficulties in our communities and families, and the people you think will assist you to sort things out seems to be the ones to disappoint you.its seems to me that person don't value life, they shows concerns only when people  are celebrating and withdraw when things goes wrong. Such life should be discourage in the society.  We should not only show up when things are working, we should always stand in good and bad time.

Success has many friends and failure has many enemies, I guess this is nature. If you have money,people see you to be successful and they will come around you to enjoy with you because you are generous.

If things are not working out for you or you are facing some financial crises,people will think that you have failed in life forgetting that its only a little challenge that you are passing through, they will turn you down like you are shit to them,especially those same people that you assisted.

To know the real people that loves you,it is when you are in crises,they will stand for you and assist you but those that don't care about you but cares only about your success,when you are in crises, they will mock you and run away from you. You should also run away from them forever because they are fake.

Generosity also depends on the individual, some persons only give when they know that you have and can also give them back,the moment they notice that you don't have anymore,they will stay far from you so that you don't ask from them. While some persons,even if you have or not they will always give to you. The last set of persons, if you have or not,they will never give to you.

[Naficopa]

I don’t think everyone withdraws generosity during times of crisis. I know I’ve been making an extra effort to drop a few dollars in the hands of people I see standing around these days. Personally, I think that donating to those in need is a huge part of the system that is largely neglected by most people, which is why organized charities are a thing. Make sure if you’re able to help out others in need. It will make you feel a lot better than eating out or spending extra money on most of the useless things people spend their money on.

That's really kind and compassionate act by you that you think of helping others and think about charity but some people are not like you ,they dnt like help others or give anything to anyone. They like to keep their money to themselves and just keep on saving and accumulating wealth. It is right when you help someone that gives you feeling of satisfaction.  It is rightly said you can see true face of your friends and foes during hard times .

[Poker Player]

You ask a very generic question but it seems to be based on individual experience. I don't know what your particular case might be, but I have been able to increase my generosity in these times because I did things right and as a result I have done well financially.

Yours seems to be a particular case of someone who has let you down, and without knowing both views it is difficult to give a diagnosis.

[Sayakaaja]

That is human. Some people only care about themselves without caring about others.

Humans are endowed with different qualities. In the depths of people's hearts, when they commit a crime, some are sorry, some are not sorry and don't feel guilty. It's hard to understand what other people are thinking.

People who always take advantage of others, only when they are happy, and stay away when they feel difficult, are people who should be avoided. But in this day and age, there are many people whose behavior is unpredictable, they are very good at acting. Sometimes some people are deceived and do not know that they are being used. We can only know it in times of trouble and that person is not by our side.

How important it is in this day and age, that we look for people who truly understand us. Not only in happy times, but in difficult times he is by our side.

[BADecker]

But... it is wise to protect yourself in times of trouble. I mean, what good is it to destroy yourself by donating it all away? Once all you have is gone, you won't be as able to earn more to give away, right?

Besides, some people don't really want your help. For example. Some churches provide trips to African poor nations, so that the church people can help those poor Africans. But they place more trouble on the poor Africans, who feel that they have to be hospitable towards their foreign guests who are supposedly trying to help them. So the Africans spend their last little bit of money taking care of the needs of their guests.

Make sure those you are helping want your help, and that your donations aren't being siphoned off by the organizers of the charity.

[jrrsparkles]

In life, we all battling with uncertain behaviour, that one will wonder why certain characters occur when one needs a helping hand most. we are facing some difficulties in our communities and families, and the people you think will assist you to sort things out seems to be the ones to disappoint you.its seems to me that person don't value life, they shows concerns only when people  are celebrating and withdraw when things goes wrong. Such life should be discourage in the society.  We should not only show up when things are working, we should always stand in good and bad time.

We know who value our life only when we are struggling and we realize this once we pass through that in our life, yes it is disappointing but we can't force someone to stand by our side when they don't want to so you can find who is with you and taking part in the happiness only and distinguish them from the real loved ones who stand by no matter what.

[348Judah]

In life, we all battling with uncertain behaviour, that one will wonder why certain characters occur when one needs a helping hand most. we are facing some difficulties in our communities and families, and the people you think will assist you to sort things out seems to be the ones to disappoint you.its seems to me that person don't value life, they shows concerns only when people  are celebrating and withdraw when things goes wrong. Such life should be discourage in the society.  We should not only show up when things are working, we should always stand in good and bad time.

Have you realized that we all have same opportunity to make it through in life, but only those that are quick in taking advantage and decision about it arrives there first, don't blame anyone for your rechedness because eafh individual will be responsible at the end forhow he lived his life, those that we thinknare rich are doing the uncommon things and paying the sacrifice it takes to make wealth and to maintain it, if you are in their position will you give today and the more you work and realizes profit you give again and again and everyday  people begin to line up for help from you, wasting thier precious time they could have use to start up something new, just to always appears before you that is working tiredlessly to earn a living and receives from you, can you continue with the giving? will you be able bto even achieve something for yourself? Lastly let me blow your mind, if you want to please everybody, you end up disappointing everybody, just do your best and leave the rest.

[Lordhermes]

In life, we all battling with uncertain behaviour, that one will wonder why certain characters occur when one needs a helping hand most. we are facing some difficulties in our communities and families, and the people you think will assist you to sort things out seems to be the ones to disappoint you.its seems to me that person don't value life, they shows concerns only when people  are celebrating and withdraw when things goes wrong. Such life should be discourage in the society.  We should not only show up when things are working, we should always stand in good and bad time.

Have you realized that we all have same opportunity to make it through in life, but only those that are quick in taking advantage and decision about it arrives there first, don't blame anyone for your rechedness because eafh individual will be responsible at the end forhow he lived his life, those that we thinknare rich are doing the uncommon things and paying the sacrifice it takes to make wealth and to maintain it, if you are in their position will you give today and the more you work and realizes profit you give again and again and everyday  people begin to line up for help from you, wasting thier precious time they could have use to start up something new, just to always appears before you that is working tiredlessly to earn a living and receives from you, can you continue with the giving? will you be able bto even achieve something for yourself? Lastly let me blow your mind, if you want to please everybody, you end up disappointing everybody, just do your best and leave the rest.

All I'm trying to convey is that everyone, rich or poor, needs assistance at some point. Some individuals let you down when you most needed them. It could not be money, but rather care and attention. Giving money is only one aspect of generosity. However, everyone should care for and show love to their neighbors if we are to attain world peace. Do not be reluctant to assist them in both good and bad times.

[coolcoinz]

I feel like the crisis is not as bad as they want us to think. The media aim at scaring people and making them go into survival mode, afraid to spend money.

Don't expect generosity from people who watch the news every day to hear that their mortgage rates went up, gasoline costs more, Russians are threatening to blow up a nuclear power plant, or a dam to cause ecological disasters, and the winter is coming.
Personally, I've been spending more time at home because all the prices went up so much that I don't feel like eating out or hitting a bar. Generosity depends on your state of mind. Someone who is depressed is less likely to be generous and have enough strength to cheer others up.

[GiftedMAN]

Before you conclude that someone doesn't want to help or assist you, it is important to ascertain or investigate if the person has the capacity or the means to reach out. This is because I have had such experience when someone became very angry with me because I failed to assist him. But the truth is that I didn't have the necessary resources to help.

I agree with you on this, often times I have come in contact with people who get offended because I was unable to assist them financially in their times of trouble and they come in conclusion that am a bad friend yet they didn't border to verify if all was ok with me. Speaking about my knowledge of Lord Robbens analysis about the human wants, the human needs are incertiable but the resources to satisfy them are limited so people need to understand that it may appear that all is well physically with someone but dip down within such one things are not ok. The high rate of inflation is affecting every one so people should not feel bad if they didn't get help they need from someone regardless of the position of the person.

[Naficopa]

Before you conclude that someone doesn't want to help or assist you, it is important to ascertain or investigate if the person has the capacity or the means to reach out. This is because I have had such experience when someone became very angry with me because I failed to assist him. But the truth is that I didn't have the necessary resources to help.

I agree with you on this, often times I have come in contact with people who get offended because I was unable to assist them financially in their times of trouble and they come in conclusion that am a bad friend yet they didn't border to verify if all was ok with me. Speaking about my knowledge of Lord Robbens analysis about the human wants, the human needs are incertiable but the resources to satisfy them are limited so people need to understand that it may appear that all is well physically with someone but dip down within such one things are not ok. The high rate of inflation is affecting every one so people should not feel bad if they didn't get help they need from someone regardless of the position of the person.

That's true sometimes you can never understand what a person wants from you , either they want financial help,emotional help,or help with employment and so on. And if you are unable to help them likewise they'll get offended and you all efforts goes in vain. So before putting your efforts and energy towards anyone first make sure what that person wants. 

[Lordhermes]

Before you conclude that someone doesn't want to help or assist you, it is important to ascertain or investigate if the person has the capacity or the means to reach out. This is because I have had such experience when someone became very angry with me because I failed to assist him. But the truth is that I didn't have the necessary resources to help.

I agree with you on this, often times I have come in contact with people who get offended because I was unable to assist them financially in their times of trouble and they come in conclusion that am a bad friend yet they didn't border to verify if all was ok with me. Speaking about my knowledge of Lord Robbens analysis about the human wants, the human needs are incertiable but the resources to satisfy them are limited so people need to understand that it may appear that all is well physically with someone but dip down within such one things are not ok. The high rate of inflation is affecting every one so people should not feel bad if they didn't get help they need from someone regardless of the position of the person.

That's true sometimes you can never understand what a person wants from you , either they want financial help,emotional help,or help with employment and so on. And if you are unable to help them likewise they'll get offended and you all efforts goes in vain. So before putting your efforts and energy towards anyone first make sure what that person wants. 

  You are correct; charity usually no costs money. There are times when people simply need care and attention or other acts of compassion.

No matter what, we should always be there for the people we love.