Have you been threaten to stop gambling

[robelneo]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

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[Yatsan]

One thing is hiding his profit but there's also this dide that his wife might be scared of her husband being addicted into gambling. But regarding being hideous,  if they are struggling financially, then I think she has the right to know that he won; not to necessarily disclose all of his winnings. But I do get the point that he might be protecting his funds especially if he knows that her wife would use all of it not unless the husband is just greedy of his profit, but that's his rights tho', especially if it is soley his funds which helped him. We just all have our own reasons but I'd probably be hideous as well especially if I'm providing enough for the household. Not because you're married, it would already be a reason for you to share funds; that would depend on your set up as married couple.

[Jawhead999]

Nope because no one knows I'm a gambler, I only gamble in my room and I always clear my browsing history, so if someone access my cellphone or PC, they will not find if I was access a gambling site.

If someone know I'm a gambler, this will cause a problem just like your friend story and it will cause a drama. I don't want to wasting my time just to convince them to allow me, better to keep silent.

[jrrsparkles]

I won't consider this as threatening in any way unless the partner may gain financial benefits from it so its more of guiding the partner who lost his way and at the verge of getting addiction but thank God she found before its get out of their hands.

I would say threating only if someone gambles and have success streak which can be a problem to casino bankroll so they will simply ban the person from playing in the casino anymore and its only possible in offline casino.

[X-ray]

Im still keeping it private. As long as i were not addicted and that's not a problem. Using it only for entertaining purpose only. That's your friend's fault. He can hide his password to the safe place.

The only problem that has been facing your friend is being dishonest

The situation would be difference if he said everything to his wife.

I think that his wife can accept it as long as he would not be addicted to it.

[Oshosondy]

I am a good punter because I only gamble with little amount of money. But if my wife discover that, that should not lead to a threat after being a good husband that is taking care of the house financially.

But some people still make their wife to be financially supporting the house. This can happen to people like that.

The solution is to tell your wife that you will stop even if you do not stop. But people are reasonable, maybe the person is spending too much on gambling too and that is very bad.

[$crypto$]

As long as we can meet the needs of the wife and other family needs then this won't be a problem as long as everything is smooth for giving money to the wife, but I myself have never shown myself to be a gambler because I know I limit it all so that I don't spend too much money that is put into in gambling.

My wife knows that I am a crypto trader and have some investments in bitcoin and she also knows that I always do airdrops that sometimes I get a jackpot if I get more and of course I give her more money from that result like yesterday's example from the ARB airdrop and SUI so he never suspected anything especially about gambling.

Gambling will always be private and no one else should know including the wife.

[Fesatmas]

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

What his wife did was right to the point that she didn't want her husband to be addicted to gambling and spend money or even be able to sell things at home just to gamble. Every wife who wants to save her husband will do the same thing and with these threats at least she has proven her concern for her husband. Examples of cases like this have occurred at my place, even more than 3 cases in the last 2 months. My wife's neighbors and friends even filed for divorce because her husband chose to use the money he earned to gamble instead of supporting the family.
For me personally, I would also choose to leave gambling and return to improve myself for the sake of family harmony. Remember to place the portion of gambling properly, don't let lust rule over everything, because lust always has the opportunity to destroy what it has.

[aioc]

The only problem that has been facing your friend is being dishonest

The situation would be difference if he said everything to his wife.

I think that his wife can accept it as long as he would not be addicted to it.

I agree that's also my view if he is only honest and does not hide anything from his wife, his wife will let him gamble just moderately, wives have a budget to protect even if it's the husband's money he still has a concern because what both owns are conjugal, wives will be angry if the husband did not tell her about his huge winning it's like betraying her, but it's good that he choose his wife than gambling, relationship is important than gambling

[Yogee]

I'm not even sure if that was a serious threat hehe. Angry person like the wife in this case will say a lot of things that they do not really mean. The main lesson here is to treat your partner when you win a significant amount hehe. You don't need to tell her that it came from gambling.
 
I haven't faced that kind of situation ever since I started gambling. I guess I'm not at the same level of addiction as your friend.

[Awaklara]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I think it's important to communicate with our wives. that's what happens when we always hide from what we do. it shows the relationship between your friend and his wife who do not have good communication.
I always allocate some money from my job every month for gambling. most important money needs and routine savings have been met. and it is important to allocate the same amount that we can spend in the casino.
I don't get treatment like that when we can apply emotional control in managing our finances. then everything will be fine. and don't forget to keep in communicate with your wife.

[Shamm]

There are many true stories like this because we can not deny the fact that there's a saying that (you can not hold a smoke in your hand) like in gambling or let's say secrets because we don't want to let our family know that we currently gamble because it will cause more arguments which is pretty bad if that's happen. And in reality we can not say that all the time we can hide our secrets cause once we are too unlucky and our secrets revealed then that's a big loss. So for me it's better to say in early stage because there's a chance that you will be forgiven or let's say they will allow you in gambling but only for fun.

[YOSHIE]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Your friend is in a bad situation, the two choices are separated or continue gambling, now back to your friend's thoughts, let's put aside winning and money first, question...?
* Is your friend a heavy online gambling addict...?

It is indeed difficult to make a decision if someone is caught gambling what else by his wife, it is really a bitter choice that must be taken at all costs.

If I were in your friend's position, obviously I would follow my wife's advice to stop gambling and tell the truth about the money that is made and spent in gambling, then I really have to regain my wife's trust from gambling activities, even though I'm a heavy addict, remember there are a thousand ways for men to do activities outside the home without their wife knowing, remember men are more resourceful than women.

Fortunately that situation did not happen to me. heavy choice.

[Solosanz]

Nope, but someone who close with me asking me to reduce or stop my gambling habit. They think gambling is always bad because they see many people become poor and ruin their life because of gambling, but it's actually because of addiction. Someone who have a good self control will know when to play and when to stop, I have a good self control, so I will not ever let gambling to ruin my life.

[judeafante]

I'm single and have control of my money so I am not yet threatened to stop gambling, but it will eventually happen if you have a partner and you are hiding your gambling activity, no wife will like their husband to hide their gambling activity because it is too risky and they consider it bad because one of the grounds of divorce or legal separation is excessive gambling, so if your wife loves you, she will not tolerate excessive gambling.

[masulum]

If I were in your friend's position, obviously I would follow my wife's advice to stop gambling and tell the truth about the money that is made and spent in gambling, then I really have to regain my wife's trust from gambling activities, even though I'm a heavy addict, remember there are a thousand ways for men to do activities outside the home without their wife knowing, remember men are more resourceful than women.

Fortunately that situation did not happen to me. heavy choice.

Being honest is better because this will control the money will use to gamble. We know, if we gamble and access to money is in a men, maybe he will continue to make deposits when he loses. However, if he say the truth from the beginning  to his wife, even he is addicted to gambling, maybe if he can't stop, he asks to help control money for gambling every day.

[bittraffic]

He isn't as good as some of us in hiding his gambling spree.
Do you think if he shared his winnings, his wife will just ignore it?  What did he do to the big amount he won, he is married of course she expect he will share everything he has. This isn't gonna happen to me nor she threatened to divorse because I would definitely sign it  

An individual winning big the whole night in a traditional casino I think the house will threaten him to leave, I heard such stories before.

[Agbe]

I have heard such stories time without number since when I was a child that known what is good and bad. Mostly this happened in the married families. If the husband is a chronic gambler and he refused to come home on time and come back with empty pocket and hands. And yet expecting the wife to provide food again in the house then there is no any other option for her to tell him that if he refused to stop playing gamble then she has to leave his house to her parents house and if the man is reasonable man, he would quit gamble for peace to reign in the house. But some gamblers like that will beat his wife hell out of her.

[Eternad]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

If making secret about the husband huge win is what his wife got angry then his problem is solved by being transparent on his gambling activities. I don’t see the logic behind hiding profit to his wife while they are both living on the same roof and benefits on each other finances.

Maybe you should ask your friend about the reason on hiding his profit. I understand when he wants to hide loss because my wife will really got angry if I loss money on nonsense things for him but I will be proud to share my profit on gambling if I ever I win big time because my wife deserves to share with it unless he I didn’t love her anymore.

Hiding gambling will just result for broken marriage since the wife will always blame gambling whenever they experienced financial problem even though it’s not related anymore on gambling. Woman always want to press on parts that hurts the most to agonized us on things that we than in the past.

[uneng]

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

I think it's possible to reach a middle term. It's expected and understandable she is mad on him for not telling her about the big win, but if they love and care for each other, this strife will cease at some point, and then it will be the right time to talk about the gambling matter.
There aren't any issues if the husband enter an agreement with his wife stating that he will continue gambling, but responsibly, without compromising the family's funds, just for short periods of time for fun. Moreover, in winning case, she will be the first person to know about his achievement and they will celebrate it together.

This way they can reach a consensus which won't destroy the marriage, while also keeping the husband's hobby alive.