Have you been threaten to stop gambling

[TheUltraElite]

I havent had such a problem, but I have heard many families breaking down because of gambling problems and it is usually the male partner who is the gambler. Similar problems exist with chronic alcoholics and drug addicts leading to dysfunctional families. I dont want to compare these groups as similar but the effect is all the more same.

I think moderation is the key here and if done properly one can enjoy the fun in such activities while giving time to family too and then this type of disharmony could be minimized.

[Fiatless]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

My parents are the only people that can threaten me for now. If my parents know that I gamble, they would immediately withdraw their support and assistance. They perceive gamblers as lazy and wasteful people. Each time they see people coming out from casinos they speak badly about them. But they are unaware that I am doing the same with my phone. I ensure my gambling life is secret. And it will be difficult for them to know because they are not computer literate unless somebody informs them. The only people that know this part of my life are my friends.

I have not been threatened by anyone to quit gambling but it will be ideal to inform your partner that you gamble. When you are married both parties should be open to each other because if the other partner discovers it, this could breed mistrust. Both parties should endure the losses and enjoy the wins together. If my wife threatens to divorce me if I don't quit gambling, I will try to convince her that I am a responsible gambler. If she insists, I will have no option but to shun gambling.

[noorman0]

Letting your wife know you gamble from the start will be useful for avoiding conflicts like the OP's story in the future, and actually you can make her an effective reminder alarm when you start showing gambling patterns that have changed drastically than before.
I think wives just want financial priority. If that is fulfilled, they will not interfere too much with your digital activities even if it costs a lot of money.

[Queentoshi]

that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

Some of our biggest fears in a marriage is to be with a man that has more regards for something else asides his family. We can permit a man to be gambling before marriage, but after marriage, we expect them to be more in control of themselves and habits that they become more committed to their family. Gambling away money that can be used to take care of the family is very bad and hiding winning from gambling the few times you win reduces trust in marriage. When there is no trust in a marriage, Continuing in that marriage becomes difficult. Gambling can affect marriage even to the extent of breaking it, married men should control themselves more than single people.

[ryzaadit]

I think we all know from all story from gambler.

They want to stop, but is not easy as is looks like. They could be already stop gambling with 1-2 weeks, and then the streak just out they started to gambling again. If they can handle to gambling without debt is okay.

But the problem 80-90% trying to get loan for gambling.

[Mr.suevie]

Well this is a rather intriguing story but I feel the only reason the wife was angry was because the husband had a massive win and fail to show this to his wife but that actually normal in some areas because it is not all the husband does that the wife must know and plus its gambling and I will not advice any man to tell his wife know about his gambling habit well I certainly not let mine know. I prefer keeping it a secret.

[skarais]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I didn't get any threats like that, but only wise advice from my parents. I guess it was their caring attitude towards me mainly because they didn't want me to get in trouble both financially and other. Obviously I don't feel threatened because of them because so far that sage advice has helped me curb my addiction to gambling.

But someone who has get such threats from his wife has probably gotten too addicted to gambling that this gambler no longer cares about his family. Coming home late at night, not providing the best possible support for his wife and children and other problems that lead to quarrel. That's one of the reasons why a wife threatens her husband to stop gambling, and I don't think the husband is a responsible gambler.

[Eureka_07]

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I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

We cannot blame his wife, it was his fault at the first place. It's his wife, she needs to be aware of what's happening. I would feel bad if I came to the point like what he did. It isn't fair to the partner's side.

I'm glad that I never received any threat. I received advices before though that I should not gamble the money which I need. My partner is supportive and understanding, also I'm being reminded to be responsible of using my money.

[ajiz138]

This looks like it's gone too far because it has prioritized gambling over its own family so that the wife will be very angry if she finds out that her husband is now addicted and also lies because with a big win, she doesn't tell him, of course, this will be at the root of a complicated problem because someone who has an addiction will be very difficult to separate it from gambling.

I don't know about their finances, is it focused on gambling so that they make lots of deposits in it, but what I did was not like that because there was no threat whatsoever but advice would always be given to me, but I understand how to limit gambling not to overdo it, therefore self-control is very important, especially when it comes to honesty, it will make us feel at ease.

[Merit.s]

She did the right thing and I don't think it is a threat because she can no longer trust him financially, due to the fact that he hid his winnings from her and who knows if he used the money to take care of his family responsibilities. It is good that whatever you are doing, your wife should be aware of it,who knows if she will encourage him the more. I know of someone that do gamble on number forecast,he told his wife about it and behold,his wife was having interest in the gamble. Sometimes she will secretly use her money to gamble and when she won,she will tell him about her winnings. The man became happy and sometimes if he has a sure prediction he will tell his wife and they will both stake their money. Your friend loves his wife and should have told her about his gambling activities as she can even be the one that will stop him from being an addict and make him gamble responsible.

[romero121]

I've played along with my girlfriend. We used to spend for fun and we were able to multiply it. Later I started to play separately and show her the winnings. There is no problem, and problem began when I started to loss. The problem arose not for the loss, but for the reason of not listening her words. She requested to cashout and complete the debt. I didn't give ears and lost everything which is the reason for the problem between us. She just requested me to stop gambling.

[seoincorporation]

If the guy is betting with his own money, then isn't the wife business, even if they are married the man should have that freedom to do what ever he wants with his own money. And if the wife want to divorce for this, that means she was only looking for an excuse.

If she is mad about the big win, that's a mistake because she must see the full picture and how much he has lost in the past because if that big win was $50k and he lost $100k that doesn't mean he is in profit.

[QueenVera]

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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I've been threatened on several occasions  to leave gambling by my family  members and that was one of the most challenging  period for me because I was already making alot of losses from it and was spending  more time trying to recover my losses but I wouldn't  say I was chasing my losses because the  quest to recover my losses also gave me passion to seek for more decent ways to make money online and that boasted my passion for bitcoin.

Another threat incidence  was when I was in high school and already i was crossibg my limits that I had to gamble with every spare money I had and it was already becoming obvious in my neighborhood  that friends had to threaten me and also make me choose between  our friendship  and gambling  since they felt it wasn't telling a good tale about our reputation

[piebeyb]

Maybe this is what I'm worried about when my wife finds out that I'm hiding something from her especially about money, I've always been honest with my wife lately that I only use a little of my salary to gamble and she always manages our family's finances well, I only gamble just to look for fun, even though I lost a lot, but at least when I occasionally won, I bought her jewelry as gratitude for managing my finances well.

But seeing this story is like seeing myself, so try to be honest with those closest to us about finances, especially if you have a wife, because of course a wife will not demand anything except our honesty as husbands, so be honest and open to our wives so that the household stay peaceful and there are no restrictions on gambling.  

[Rigon]

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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I don't gamble that much. Most of the times I have participated in gambling I have lost. But I have never threatened my wife about this gambling. Because I share everything with my wife. My wife also shares everything with me. I think if husband and wife can do any work together then there is no obstacle in that work. One mistake OP's friend made was participating in gambling without informing his wife. If he had informed his wife and participated in the gambling, surely her wife would have understood and accepted it.

[bitzizzix]

For me, my wife and children are irreplaceable treasures, and if there is something my wife does not like for some reason, that is not good and can be detrimental to myself and my family. And I will choose to stop because when it comes to money I am sure because there is such a thing as Fortune for my wife and children through me without having to gamble.

and for now my wife doesn't know I like to gamble and I'm also very careful if I want to gamble and not at home, because I'm not an active gambler so I also do it very rarely. And I sometimes gamble when I'm not home or do it at work when I have some free time and only gamble small amounts that I don't care if I lose, and just for fun.

To be honest, when I was not married, I was an active gambler, especially real or traditional gambling and also online, but after I got married it slowly started to decrease and when I had children I didn't even have the desire to gamble, and from then until now my wife doesn't know about it.

[Questat]

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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

The wife of your friend definitely got a point and his actions are understandable and warranted as well after knowing what he was doing behind her back. It will be too much for her to bear to learn those things suddenly that their money has been flushed through gambling and if there were some winnings, she was again left with no idea what is happening as she didn't know in the first place that his husband was into gambling.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Well, my wife and my family holds no grudge against my gambling activities because they know that I'm into it and they know as well that it's only my past time and my kind of entertainment whenever I'm having a bad day at work. They understand what I'm doing as long as my expenses towards gambling are not destroying our finances.

[summonerrk]

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Reading this story, I once again thought that it is so important and good to have a wife. They monitor our normal condition, guys. If someone loses huge amounts of money at roulette or other gambling, and the wife threatens to leave the family, then it's right!

This is the best way to think about your moral and mental health.
Because game cant be more important than family.

[_act_]

I think moderation is the key here and if done properly one can enjoy the fun in such activities while giving time to family too and then this type of disharmony could be minimized.

That is just it. Anything that is done moderately like gambling, letting your wife knowing about it and doing it in a way you are putting just very small amount of money, the wife would not have talked. Wife can talk and getting to a point of breaking up and divorce if the man is an addict or wasting too much money on gambling.

But seeing this story is like seeing myself, so try to be honest with those closest to us about finances, especially if you have a wife, because of course a wife will not demand anything except our honesty as husbands, so be honest and open to our wives so that the household stay peaceful and there are no restrictions on gambling. 

Honesty is good, it can help. But what if a gambler is honest but severely affected by gambling? I mean losing hugely to gambling. This can result to conflict between a wife and her husband. I do not think honesty is really the key here, what I think is most important is not not to be wasting money on gambling. To gamble responsibly.

[dothebeats]

Never. I haven’t been reprimanded to stop my gambling exploits because i know how to control my finances and my gambling urge. Fortunately, I know better when it comes to using my money into things that really matter. Unfortunately for your friend, he decided to be secretive about it, and he’s caught and now that’s another conversation between partners. They should not keep secrets about finances, especially if it might cause them problems later on.