Have you been threaten to stop gambling

[BitcoinTurk]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Gambling is not addictive for me, but I am a regular gambler. For this reason, very few people around me know that I gamble, and generally I have never had a problem hiding my winnings as I have lost. In fact, I think hiding losses rather than winnings in gambling can be a serious problem because when someone addicted to gambling constantly hides their losses when they gamble, it is not very pleasant for that person. However, whether by gambling or by some other method. At the end of the day, each person's gain or loss is of interest to themself.
To empathize, especially if I make a big win or a big loss when I gamble, I would prefer to share it with people around me who know I gamble.

[qwertyup23]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Gambling is not addictive for me, but I am a regular gambler. For this reason, very few people around me know that I gamble, and generally I have never had a problem hiding my winnings as I have lost. In fact, I think hiding losses rather than winnings in gambling can be a serious problem because when someone addicted to gambling constantly hides their losses when they gamble, it is not very pleasant for that person. However, whether by gambling or by some other method. At the end of the day, each person's gain or loss is of interest to themself.
To empathize, especially if I make a big win or a big loss when I gamble, I would prefer to share it with people around me who know I gamble.

To first answer OP's question, there was a point in my life where my family was actually encouraging me to at least experience gambling.

As someone who grew up with a father who loves cockfighting, during my teenager years, I was exposed to gambling as my father would bring me to arenas of cockfighters. I would also watch him play blackjack and poker every holidays and that sparked my curiosity towards trying such act. My father would discourage us to try gambling but he was open to the idea of letting us experience it so we could decide on our own whether we want to continue or not.

To cut the story short, I tried it but I never actually won anything big. In fact, my losses were bigger than my winnings which prompted me to stop gambling.

[Davidvictorson]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

No, I have not been threatened to stop gambling but I have had to sit myself and to talk to myself on the best hacks to not allow gambling take over myself. I came up with some pretty good hacks. One of the them includes watching a video every fortnight on the dangers of gambling addition. I have not be so consistent but I do it atleast once per month.

Nobody should ever be in the situation the man in the OP's story was in. Sadly, a lot more people than reported are in that same situation. The worse of it all is those who are addicted both to gambling and have other forms of addiction.

[aylabadia05]

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How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Each player has their own story and your friend's story is so sad.
But the story you share is proof of the many pieces of advice I've heard from those who care about me.
Why, because I am also a former online gambling player who has quit.

Among many factors a person can stop gambling. There are those who stop because of the influence of their wives, children and parents. I mean, a person can stop gambling activities when he is married based on a personal desire to stop because when he is married, the responsibility will increase.
I quit online gambling because of them (wife and parents).

[len01]

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How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I have never had such an experience, actually my wife knows that I gamble a lot, it's just that my wife always reminds me or can be said to control me to gamble responsibly to avoid the bad past that I had when I was addicted to gambling. so my wife never threaten anything and whenever i tell my wife about win or lose she always say remember this is a gambling game so don't be proud if you win and don't get angry or emotional when you lose and enjoy every nice betting session without having to chasing lost money or thinking about getting a big win.
so my relationship with my wife has always been good because she understands and understands that limiting me to gambling is as much a mistake as imprisoning me. but my wife can understand it all and whatever message she said i will always appreciate it i will never deny it.
still gambling but also having a harmonious relationship with family is very enjoyable.

[SirLancelot]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

Lol, well, I don't gamble that much but if I do, I would probably let my partner know about it, especially if I've lost or won something significant that would directly or indirectly affect our finances. I also think that it is unethical to hide such things from your partner or even from your parents if you are still unmarried and live with your parents.

The ones who are the closest to you needs to know whatever you do in life, except it's something that you know isn't that much important and if they know about it, it will just make them worried without any reason.

[bekti3]

Threats like this will not have any impact because indeed even when we are threatened but with a liking for gambling it will indeed be a little difficult.
But talking about the one who threatens is the closest person, so this is also a difficult choice and now it's up to your friend to decide and I think this can be more effective, of course, it's just that it still needs a number of conditions to really free him completely .

If we are talking about some friends or even just relatives then it should be fine but if we do speak someone we do love like our wives then it would really be no brainer that we would really be choosing her
than gambling unless if your addiction is really into that certain extent on which it is really that severe on which you do really exchange it for the sake of gambling. I agree on what most people been saying here that when you are engaging into something then you should really be letting knowing your wife whether he would really be having that approval or not but if she would opposes then its better
to respect it because they know the better good specially when it comes to money.

But it would be really stupid if you abandoned your wife just for gambling, because regardless of what your wife said to leave her, even though it sounded quite harsh, it is proof that she still cares, and I don't think it should be wasted because regardless of what the choice to be with your wife is a really good thing but indeed if a friend of the OP doesn't care about that and only focuses on gambling it's certain he is a person who is seriously addicted luckily he still uses his common sense.

[Oilacris]

Threats like this will not have any impact because indeed even when we are threatened but with a liking for gambling it will indeed be a little difficult.
But talking about the one who threatens is the closest person, so this is also a difficult choice and now it's up to your friend to decide and I think this can be more effective, of course, it's just that it still needs a number of conditions to really free him completely .

If we are talking about some friends or even just relatives then it should be fine but if we do speak someone we do love like our wives then it would really be no brainer that we would really be choosing her
than gambling unless if your addiction is really into that certain extent on which it is really that severe on which you do really exchange it for the sake of gambling. I agree on what most people been saying here that when you are engaging into something then you should really be letting knowing your wife whether he would really be having that approval or not but if she would opposes then its better
to respect it because they know the better good specially when it comes to money.

But it would be really stupid if you abandoned your wife just for gambling, because regardless of what your wife said to leave her, even though it sounded quite harsh, it is proof that she still cares, and I don't think it should be wasted because regardless of what the choice to be with your wife is a really good thing but indeed if a friend of the OP doesn't care about that and only focuses on gambling it's certain he is a person who is seriously addicted luckily he still uses his common sense.

Totally stupid and doesnt make really sense if you would really be choosing gambling than with your wife but actually there are people who does have that extreme addiction would really be doing those
decisions which it isnt really something that a right minded person would really be able to do so. There are really fellas who would really be choosing up things which they do really seem that it makes them happy and make out those shit and nonsense kind of selection.On the time that you would really get caught on spending something on which your wife isnt really that able to know then of course they would really be having those common reactions.

If you cant afford on losing your wife then you would definitely quit up gambling but if you do then you would continue, but who would really be on their right minds on doing so?
You cant really just go with gambling and lose your wife, thats the stupidest thing to be done by a human being.

[madnessteat]

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The most important thing to understand before you commit to someone is that a strong relationship is built only on mutual trust. If you are hiding something from your significant other, she is likely to find out about it at some point. If this guy trusted his wife completely and told her about his experiences, she would most likely notice that he was addicted to gambling and have a conversation with him. As a last resort, he could have gone to a professional. But this guy decided to be alone with his problem and was too weak to solve it. I hope he learned his lesson.

[bitbollo]

if the amount played become important that cannot kept hidden (both negatively and positively amount) it is always better to be transparent with your family unit.
My wife always knows the numbers I play/when I win or when I lose.
But it's a clear system of income and expenses, and even if these are negligible amount she is aware of what is going on.

[QueenVera]

It's your friend's fault for hiding it with his wife. I understand why his wife acted that way cause what's the point of being married when your husband is hiding things from you that he gambles and he never shared his winnings with his wife. Also, his wife might just be worried about him getting addicted to gambling. At least, your friend chooses his wife and not gambling.

As for me, I never experienced being threatened although I'm open to my family that I gamble online. They know that I really don't gamble that often and that I don't spend too much money on it. Tho it may not be applicable to everyone, but as long as you're honest and open it won't be a problem to your family or your SO.

I don't know if you've heard of happenings  about women lately but if you have heard of the news then you shouldn't have to blame the men because most of then are just trying not to get their lives messed up because their female counterparts  are doing the unimaginable and it's getting the men scared.
Whatever the case might be, I've been been threatened on several occasions by both families and friends and those moments where one of the hardest moments because I was given one of the hardest choices of my life and I had to choose between gambling and relationships.

[Finestream]

Im still keeping it private. As long as i were not addicted and that's not a problem. Using it only for entertaining purpose only. That's your friend's fault. He can hide his password to the safe place.

The only problem that has been facing your friend is being dishonest

The situation would be difference if he said everything to his wife.

I think that his wife can accept it as long as he would not be addicted to it.

If he had been honest from the start, his wife might have understood him even his gambling addiction. But maybe his intention is just to keep his secret throughout their marriage life so that’s what he gets when his wife has end up accessing all his gambling activities. Luckily, my wife has known ever since that I am a gambler, and if ever I make big wins, I always tell my wife about it and eventually get her shares,lol.

[Kemarit]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

No, the thing me and my wife gamble as well, so there is no conflict between us. Maybe if I'm the only gambler then perhaps I will be in the same situation with your friend and it's really going to be very difficult decision for him specially that it seems that he is already addicted to gambling.

But as you have said, your friend chooses to stop gambling for now and let his wife be happy for that decision. However, I have a feeling that he might comeback soon in gambling though. So I advise you to check from time to time how your friend is doing or even talk to his wife first and see if he completely stop his gambling activity or maybe he is hiding it again.

[goaldigger]

I’m being too responsible with regards to my gambling activities and my partner knows when I’m gambling because i always treat people around me when i make profit. Your friend OP should really trust her wife with this because it might affect their financial budget that can result to shortage of funds. Gambling can be very tempting, you have be on a budget and gamble with caution, your partner should know this to avoid being on a situation like this.

[Lanatsa]

Better to tell your wife rather than hide it, in this case if your close circle founds out you are hiding your entertainment activity aka gambling from them it may cause some problems. I have never been in such situation but it shows how bad consequences gambling can bring if you are addicted in gambling as a married person. I suggest stopping gambling if it causes problems in your real life especially it threatens your financial stability, IMHO.

There's no good thing on hiding up something from our wives on which it would really be something risky once she would be able to find out.Gambling out your family funds would really impose out some risks for you to having that divorce situation and if you dont like for it to happen then its better to confess and change for good. You are the ones who would really be the one to dictate on what would be your future.
This is why you should really be that sensible on whatever actions you would make specially if you do already have a family.You cant really  be just that too careless on spending up money
because there's no secrets that could be kept forever on which there would really be a time that you would really be able to tell it out or other people would be able to leak it out.
Once you do hear it out then for sure you would definitely be having that kind of regret.

[alegotardo]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I believe that when you share your personal life with someone... be it wife, children or parents, it is essential that they participate or at least know what you do, especially when money is involved that is not just yours, money that should be used together to buy or spend on something that involves the whole family and not just their own desires.

I think his wife was very understanding about giving him a second chance... I never had that problem because I'm very transparent about my home games and I play conscientiously.

[TelolettOm]

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

It is funny if his wife is more focused on winning than thinking about how much money your friend already spent. I'm sure the money spent was much more than the amount of money he won. If his wife really cares about your friend, she must disallow your friend to gamble because of too much spending money. And I really believe that she decided to threaten your friend to stop because of this reason, not about never telling the wins. Anyway, your friend already decides the right way by promising to stop gambling. He must be stopped temporarily at least when it causes a serious problem for his family, especially if it is related to his wife.

[LDL]

One thing I clearly understood from reading the incident is that your friend used to be addicted to gambling secretly from his wife but did not share any information about this with his wife. Another thing is that his wife secretly checked all the withdrawals recorded in the past with the password and found evidence that he had won huge profits in the past but did not inform his wife about it. In this case your friend should have shared the matter with his wife. His wife could help him in this matter. But now one solution is to get your friend to settle the matter with his wife in a friendly manner and get back into gambling. In this case your friend's wife must support your friend.

[ethereumhunter]

I would prefer a wife even before I was threatened to choose to continue gambling or threatened by my wife because a wife is someone who will accompany my life until later. There's no need to threaten me to stop gambling because I know when to stop so it's pointless.

Only the immature gamblers will be given such an opinion which they must abide in other for them to maintain their relationship because they are either addicted or have no relevance in their recent life because of gambling, making them to loose focus and not plan for themselves or the family, if i were such, i will do more to the man than just advising withdrawal, i will definitely threat him with things so precious daring to him in ither to triger the force stop.

Maybe that person needs a threat to stop him from gambling because some people need a threat first before they can realize it. And if he really loved his wife, he would stop gambling immediately and never gamble again. But that's up to the person because he decides it himself, especially if he already has a lot of money from gambling. And if that happens, the average person will choose to break up or divorce his wife because they think they can find a new wife.

But if someone has really become a crazy gambling addict, he will not pay attention to threats from his wife and will still be more concerned with gambling which he already enjoys.
We can see cases like this for ourselves, many crazy gambling addicts whose families are destroyed and even abandoned by their wives and children because they do not prioritize family and are more concerned with gambling.
Even though there are not many, at least we can learn from such cases that being a gambling addict has a very bad impact.
It is not surprising that gambling addicts prefer gambling because they already feel pleasure and satisfaction when gambling.

There are many cases, like you said, where the husband ignores the threats that come to him and only plays gambling because gambling cannot be separated from him. And after some time, the family was threatened with separation and finally, it really happened while the husband and wife often fought. Their children became a broken home. And their children, because they often see their parents fight, eventually become unstable and often make trouble outside the home. That is why a gambler must really pay attention so that he does not become addicted to gambling so that it does not cause serious problems for his family.

[tusandii]

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There are many cases, like you said, where the husband ignores the threats that come to him and only plays gambling because gambling cannot be separated from him. And after some time, the family was threatened with separation and finally, it really happened while the husband and wife often fought. Their children became a broken home. And their children, because they often see their parents fight, eventually become unstable and often make trouble outside the home. That is why a gambler must really pay attention so that he does not become addicted to gambling so that it does not cause serious problems for his family.

Because the biggest bad impact of a gambling addict is the family after that, then the social environment in which he lives.
Yes, it's a shame that there are so many broken families that really can't be repaired just because of the impact of a husband who became a gambling addict, especially as you said that a child affected by a broken home becomes out of control and often causes trouble outside home just to be able to vent what he felt on his family.
The head of the household should be able to think more clearly and defend his family, but after all, everyone's thoughts and perceptions are different so we can only take lessons and shake our heads when we hear of cases like this.