Have you been threaten to stop gambling

[348Judah]

If you're not earning your own money yet and still relying on your parents for finances, you should not gamble.

Good point, in situations like this, it is strongly advised to stop gambling or not to even start because one is not yet independent financially, if a child get used to gambling being dependent, he may try to steal from his parents whenever he want to gamble and have no money.

Because that money is probably meant for your studies or other needs and not to be spend in gambling.

Many gamblers have been found in many related issues associated to fund mismanagement and diversion on gambling when the money is targeted for their school fees or money belonging to other people in their possession, but when someone knows how hard it is to earn money, they value it and make good utilization of it, even if they gambles, it will be on caution.

 

[darewaller]

If you're not earning your own money yet and still relying on your parents for finances, you should not gamble. Because that money is probably meant for your studies or other needs and not to be spend in gambling. It's quite normal for parents to be strict since gambling can really influence us negatively if we can't control ourselves. Especially if you're still a student, it can affect your studies once you became hooked to this activity.

So don't wait to be threaten by your loved ones. Be open and listen because they're just concern.

In order to gamble at minimum we need three things, they are the mental maturity to gamble, understanding of the probabilities behind the games and our own money, and it is obvious a kid or a young person does not has a single one of the minimum requirements to gamble.

As they are not mature enough to take decisions with their money, they do not understand gambling at all and they do not even have their own money, as whatever money they have on hand was given to them by their parents with an express purpose, so it is obvious they should stay away from gambling until they fulfill those requirements.

There are intelligent or genius kids. These kids can act or think maturely. It's also possible for our kids to be taught about the risks in gambling. Lastly, we can give money to our kids as a gift, not only for their birthdays but also if they do something great like having a perfect score in their exams. These money can now be considered as their own and they can now spend it to any things that they like.

I think there is no such law that says that we must only gamble using our own funds. There's even some who steal, ask money to someone else, and borrow money to a lending platform just to play gambling, however some gambling places has a minimum age requirement.

[Sakanwa]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

This is a very interesting topic,and this kind of topic can only be ralated to gamblers who are addicted to the game,and are finding it difficult to stop.In my own case,it was something I could handle because I am the one in control of my relationship, therefore,my partner has no right of quiting because she is truely in love and doesn't want to lose me by telling me she doesn't want again.I didn't hide the fact that I am a gambler,I told her because I never wanted to hide anything from her,but we started having issues when she started noticing that I was loosing a lot of money,and each time I lost those money I would be in an angry and aggressive mood through out the day.She told me I should quit gambling before It would become an addition,she never knew I was addicted already.Because she loved me,she didn't bring any issue up,but she was very observant,and noticed that anytime my mood is bad,it's simply because I have lost money for that day.She was patient with me untill I was able to reduce it to the extend that she no longer notices when I am in a bad mood and when I'm not.

[leonair]

But we don't know for sure if if it's the case in the OP. We know that wife of the OP's friend thinks "he's spending a lot of time gambling". If you gamble 2-3 hours per week it may look to your relatives as "a lot of time". Don't get me wrong, I think that most probably, OP's friend is a problem gambler. I just want to say that that's not necessarily the case.

Gambling 2-3 hours a week is very common because it is very short time. which is 25-26 minutes per day. In this short period of time it is possible to gamble away from people's eyes because gambling can be done very easily on a smartphone and anywhere. by following this strategy no one will become addicted to gambling and no one will even know about it. and it doesn't even require threats from anyone. But if a person gambles for a long time then he becomes addicted and everyone knows about his gambling in which case he may face threats from his relatives or family members

20-30 minutes of gambling a day is nothing serious and dangerous (if it doesn't lead to a desire to gamble and spend more), but if his wife has already encountered gamblers in her life, she may think otherwise. As everyone knows, relatives of alcoholics/drug addicts who have experienced the horrors of severe forms of addiction are extremely negative about even "responsible" use, the same with gambling.

I am not sure I would agree with the 20-30 minutes of gambling as a good rule of thumb. If you manage to lose your daily salary in those 20-30 minutes on a daily basis, it is not a very good idea to consider the 20-30 minutes as nothing serious or dangerous. To tell whether gambling is harmful for someone's life, I think financial and especially existential consequences are what's important. Sure social consequences are as well, for example when somebody doesn't really lose any money, but locks himself away for 8 hours a day just for gambling. But bad financial consequences are what destroys life in all regards.

Lol  Gambling for more than 20-30 minutes a day is bound to make a person deeply addicted to gambling. and no matter how expert a person is at gambling, if he gambles for a long time every day, he will panic at some point and face huge financial losses. So I don't recommend gambling for more than 20-30 minutes per day. It is also fatal if one is a regular gambler who will fall into a sort of void if he wants to quit gambling. So instead of gambling every day it is better to take a break and play 2-3 days a week

[wxa7115]

In order to gamble at minimum we need three things, they are the mental maturity to gamble, understanding of the probabilities behind the games and our own money, and it is obvious a kid or a young person does not has a single one of the minimum requirements to gamble.

As they are not mature enough to take decisions with their money, they do not understand gambling at all and they do not even have their own money, as whatever money they have on hand was given to them by their parents with an express purpose, so it is obvious they should stay away from gambling until they fulfill those requirements.

There are intelligent or genius kids. These kids can act or think maturely. It's also possible for our kids to be taught about the risks in gambling. Lastly, we can give money to our kids as a gift, not only for their birthdays but also if they do something great like having a perfect score in their exams. These money can now be considered as their own and they can now spend it to any things that they like.

I think there is no such law that says that we must only gamble using our own funds. There's even some who steal, ask money to someone else, and borrow money to a lending platform just to play gambling, however some gambling places has a minimum age requirement.

Laws and regulations should be made thinking about the average person, are there kids out there which are more mature than some adults I have meet through my life? Yes, but they are an exception.

And even if you were to give them money with no express purpose there must still be limitations about how they may use it, not only the ones established by the law, which do not allow minors to gamble anyway, but also those which arise from our common sense, which should also should not allow any form of gambling even the kind you can find on video games these days.

[Josefjix]

Lol  Gambling for more than 20-30 minutes a day is bound to make a person deeply addicted to gambling. and no matter how expert a person is at gambling, if he gambles for a long time every day, he will panic at some point and face huge financial losses. So I don't recommend gambling for more than 20-30 minutes per day. It is also fatal if one is a regular gambler who will fall into a sort of void if he wants to quit gambling. So instead of gambling every day it is better to take a break and play 2-3 days a week

Gambling is not about the time; rather, it is about the odds and games that are highlighted to be precisely measured with one's forecast. Addiction is rampant in the gambling sector; I've encountered numerous gamblers who want to quit but don't know how; it's understandable. Gamblers confront threats at some point, either as a result of upcoming debts or as a result of their responsibilities. In general, there are always ways to generate multiple channels of income, because relying on only one would be detrimental, as they would have to face the realities of life and cope with it.

[kotajikikox]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Never that I experienced threats from anyone just because of gambling but there is a friend of mine that has this situation like yours , actually it was not His wife but His parents that threaten Him to make Him leave the house and will not giving Him anything because of his constant gambling in which a not allowed in their religion .
and yes since he did not listen ,  he become Homeless after a week when we spoke.
but Good thing that he learned his lesson and after couple of months His parents forgive Him with a promise to never gamble again and yes now he is a spiritual leader as we speak here.

[Strongkored]

Lol  Gambling for more than 20-30 minutes a day is bound to make a person deeply addicted to gambling. and no matter how expert a person is at gambling, if he gambles for a long time every day, he will panic at some point and face huge financial losses. So I don't recommend gambling for more than 20-30 minutes per day. It is also fatal if one is a regular gambler who will fall into a sort of void if he wants to quit gambling. So instead of gambling every day it is better to take a break and play 2-3 days a week

Yes, maybe each player will have a different ability to play, other players have the ability to last a long time because they are not busy people but only have a small financial capacity, so they always play with a minimum bet, but some have a limited of time because they are busy with many other activities, but when it comes to money, these people have a lot of money, so when playing they will immediately use large bets.
In my opinion, it is not how long it takes to play that can lead a person to fall into addiction but what percentage of his financial ability is used for gambling, if the player plays using more than 50% of his financial ability then even though he only plays once a week but directly with that percentage then sooner or later he will eventually have financial difficulties and without being forced by others he will stop gambling because his financial abilities are decreasing over time.

[len01]

Never that I experienced threats from anyone just because of gambling but there is a friend of mine that has this situation like yours , actually it was not His wife but His parents that threaten Him to make Him leave the house and will not giving Him anything because of his constant gambling in which a not allowed in their religion .
and yes since he did not listen ,  he become Homeless after a week when we spoke.
but Good thing that he learned his lesson and after couple of months His parents forgive Him with a promise to never gamble again and yes now he is a spiritual leader as we speak here.

regarding your friend problem it seems very sad because he is dealing with his own parents which is clear that parents want the best for their children but in reality he is still gambling even though his parents have threatened him. but after all, his parents still have the kindness that is willing to forgive their children for giving a chance and I think if your friend is gambling again, it means he is a stupid child who is disobedient to his parents.

maybe OP story is that he deals with his wife which is not too complicated and everything can be rearranged so that it will be fine even though he is still gambling secretly but dealing with parents will be very difficult and I hope your friends have to stop gambling even though it will be very difficult but this is about respecting parents.

[piebeyb]

maybe OP story is that he deals with his wife which is not too complicated and everything can be rearranged so that it will be fine even though he is still gambling secretly but dealing with parents will be very difficult and I hope your friends have to stop gambling even though it will be very difficult but this is about respecting parents.

If I became OP maybe I would stop gambling to honor my parents, because of course as long as they are alive I have to be devoted to them before they actually go see our good behavior obey them, but it would be very sad if they go see our behavior or bad behavior towards them. there is nothing wrong with listening to parents for our own good.

But if only pressured by our wives we can still talk about it well as long as we trust our wives to manage our finances so we don't get too careless and become heavy addicts in gambling, that's why it's important to communicate and be honest with those closest to us like wives so there won't be any misunderstandings let alone gambling secretly it won't be good in the end. believe that gambling honestly will be better

[davis196]

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big. Cheesy

To be honest, I totally understand this guy's wife. If my girlfriend(I don't have a gf right now) was secretly gambling and losing lots of money, I might also threaten her to stop gambling. Keeping such secrets while being in a relationship is kinda toxic. On the other hand, I might also keep my gambling habits a secret, if I was in such situation. Many people might freak out, if they find out that their significant other is a gambler.
Nobody would ever threaten me to stop gambling, because:
1.I don't tell anybody in my social circle that I gamble.
2.I would never spend big amounts and make my gambling loses into a serious problem.

[Betwrong]

But we don't know for sure if if it's the case in the OP. We know that wife of the OP's friend thinks "he's spending a lot of time gambling". If you gamble 2-3 hours per week it may look to your relatives as "a lot of time". Don't get me wrong, I think that most probably, OP's friend is a problem gambler. I just want to say that that's not necessarily the case.

Gambling 2-3 hours a week is very common because it is very short time. which is 25-26 minutes per day. In this short period of time it is possible to gamble away from people's eyes because gambling can be done very easily on a smartphone and anywhere. by following this strategy no one will become addicted to gambling and no one will even know about it. and it doesn't even require threats from anyone. But if a person gambles for a long time then he becomes addicted and everyone knows about his gambling in which case he may face threats from his relatives or family members

I still think that even if you gamble only 2-3 hours a week, your close ones, especially your wife, should know about it. If you start concealing things, just small things like healthy gambling, you may start concealing bigger things in the future. Turning into addicted gambler from regular gambling is rare, but it can happen, and it's better when close ones know about your problem.

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Gambling 2-3 hours a week is very common because it is very short time. which is 25-26 minutes per day. In this short period of time it is possible to gamble away from people's eyes because gambling can be done very easily on a smartphone and anywhere. by following this strategy no one will become addicted to gambling and no one will even know about it. and it doesn't even require threats from anyone. But if a person gambles for a long time then he becomes addicted and everyone knows about his gambling in which case he may face threats from his relatives or family members

20-30 minutes of gambling a day is nothing serious and dangerous (if it doesn't lead to a desire to gamble and spend more), but if his wife has already encountered gamblers in her life, she may think otherwise. As everyone knows, relatives of alcoholics/drug addicts who have experienced the horrors of severe forms of addiction are extremely negative about even "responsible" use, the same with gambling.

In my opinion, this is most likely the case with the OP's friend.

[LUCKMCFLY]

We are been threatened to stop gambling only when we are observed making loses in every game we stake although it is not something expected to be gaining always that is why it is termed GAMBLING. I can remember while we were still kids our parents would not want to see us in any gambling hall and will even threaten to disown us at a point if you are been caught gambling you will be troubled and may even decide not to go home but as time goes on they began to understand the reasons for our interest in gambling and also discovered that we were never addict but risk takers

I think that disowning one child for that reason is going a little bit too far, from my point of view.  Perhaps, It is something I would expect to see in families which have very deep religious roots, both Islamic and Christian. Actually, very conversative Christians do not allow their children to play table games which those include a dice, because in their eyes, their children and being slowly being pushed towards gambling through Monopoly, Ludo, etc. To me does not make much sense, but to each their own...

There are really religious families that don't allow their kids to gamble not just totally because of the religious belief but because as parents, they know what's best for their kids since they're aware of its risks.
They might have disowning their children as a threat but I guess it's just their way of warning their children to stay away from gambling. However, I don't think they would still that to their adult children especially f they could see that they're gambling respnsibly. Parents only want to protect their family because they know how gambling abuse could ruin lives

This happens and recently one incident that took place in Nigeria is posted on our forum. The son have won a jackpot out of gambling, and his father requested him to give it back to the gambling company. The son did so, and more discussion came out of it. What might be the reason behind the father's decision. It can be to teach the kid about the value of money, gambling is against religious belief, he might get addicted and never focus on work and lead the life. Many things and the very primary one is to make the kid understand the negative part of gambling which we won't realise at the beginning.

I know that in each of our cultures there are many rules and many values that sometimes it doesn't make sense that someone can be penalized, except someone who is your own child, I really wouldn't do it, first, because he earned it, second, It's his luck, if I don't celebrate his luck and his achievements, then what am I in this world for him? It doesn't make sense to me, I don't agree with these things about how the father acted, besides, who does he look good with? casino games, sports betting, this is not a bad influence, nor is it a bad activity, sometimes we ourselves make something look bad that is quite normal.

Depending on where they grow up, each person has their customs and that is respectable, but when it comes to prizes or something that can be won , I don't see anything wrong with it, it is normal , there is no reason to fall as if it were something so bad, here are the things must be done correctly, the son did not steal, he won, he did not do anything that was outside the rules, this is something that should be known , in some cases Gambling can cause addiction problems, but in this case It wasn't even close to something like that, I don't see anything wrong with it.

For now, the things that can be caused is that gambling with respect to how the person acted, should be made aware and take this as an Example of things that should not be done, this is essential when it comes to seeing the game as something It's not bad, it's simple, it has a means of diversion and some earn or lose money, there's nothing bad there, no laws are broken, in some countries it's illegal, since nothing should be done there , but the game It is an Activity where you have to have responsibility, moderation and a lot of peace of mind, because what you are risking is money, apart from all this, those who have the absolute responsibility of doing things well are Ourselves , that is the power of games in casinos , and to make Sports Bets.

[wxa7115]

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big. Cheesy

To be honest, I totally understand this guy's wife. If my girlfriend(I don't have a gf right now) was secretly gambling and losing lots of money, I might also threaten her to stop gambling. Keeping such secrets while being in a relationship is kinda toxic. On the other hand, I might also keep my gambling habits a secret, if I was in such situation. Many people might freak out, if they find out that their significant other is a gambler.
Nobody would ever threaten me to stop gambling, because:
1.I don't tell anybody in my social circle that I gamble.
2.I would never spend big amounts and make my gambling loses into a serious problem.

The problem here is not gambling by itself, instead the problem is that the friend of the OP is gambling and losing a lot of money on the activity.

And this is without a doubt a problem as when it comes to small expenses then it is natural that partners in a relationship will have the liberty to spend a small amount of money without telling their significant other about it, but when it comes to a big amount of money then both parties need to be aware of it, and if that is not the case then this is a breach of trust from which it may be impossible to recover if measures are not taken to do something about it.

[maydna]

And this is without a doubt a problem as when it comes to small expenses then it is natural that partners in a relationship will have the liberty to spend a small amount of money without telling their significant other about it, but when it comes to a big amount of money then both parties need to be aware of it, and if that is not the case then this is a breach of trust from which it may be impossible to recover if measures are not taken to do something about it.

Small but frequent expenses, over time, can become big, especially if he uses it for gambling. Previously he only used small money, but because he lost, he deposited another small amount, lost again, and deposited another small amount. It's the same as depositing big money but divided into small amounts.

Yes, when there is a breach of trust from their partner, it will trigger a fight because that person can no longer keep their trust. Perhaps, once or twice, it's okay, but if it happens a lot and nothing changes, it will impact his family relationship and both of them.

[Agbe]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

This always come from parents and wives. When you are still under the control of your parents and you are going to school (tertiary institution) and they know that you are gambling, they will threatened him to stop and if he will not stop then they will also stop paying his school fees and with that fear the person will limit his visiting time to the betting halls and hide himself to play gamble. I have not been threatened to stop gambling. And this threaten happened to those who always gamble. And not on the occasional gamblers.

[molsewid]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

This always come from parents and wives. When you are still under the control of your parents and you are going to school (tertiary institution) and they know that you are gambling, they will threatened him to stop and if he will not stop then they will also stop paying his school fees and with that fear the person will limit his visiting time to the betting halls and hide himself to play gamble. I have not been threatened to stop gambling. And this threaten happened to those who always gamble. And not on the occasional gamblers.

Yeah if you are having a strong ties whether it is for your parents or relatives expect that they will threaten you to stop especially if it is against their belief, so I think if you have your own life and own house and there's nothing to be bothered enough or nothing to taken care of it is much easier to play, we live in a world of judgemental people where gamblers are all being treated as addicts.

[wiss19]

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big. Cheesy

To be honest, I totally understand this guy's wife. If my girlfriend(I don't have a gf right now) was secretly gambling and losing lots of money, I might also threaten her to stop gambling. Keeping such secrets while being in a relationship is kinda toxic. On the other hand, I might also keep my gambling habits a secret, if I was in such situation. Many people might freak out, if they find out that their significant other is a gambler.
Nobody would ever threaten me to stop gambling, because:
1.I don't tell anybody in my social circle that I gamble.
2.I would never spend big amounts and make my gambling loses into a serious problem.

I don't think that the threatening from the wife or girlfriend is because of the amount of money one has been spending on their gambling activities, but it is about the fact that they've been hiding it from them since the beginning, and when you are in a relationship, you ought to not hide anything with each other, and if you have been keeping a secret for such a long time, especially if you are married and she's not just your girlfriend, the threatening I would say is a lenient reaction to that.

If I, being a man, come to know that my wife has been doing something on my back for a very long time and never once told me anything about it, I'm pretty sure that my reaction will be way more than just threatening her to stop doing that because this is totally breaking your trust.

[Betwrong]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

This always come from parents and wives. When you are still under the control of your parents and you are going to school (tertiary institution) and they know that you are gambling, they will threatened him to stop and if he will not stop then they will also stop paying his school fees and with that fear the person will limit his visiting time to the betting halls and hide himself to play gamble. I have not been threatened to stop gambling. And this threaten happened to those who always gamble. And not on the occasional gamblers.

Well, living for the money from your parents and gambling at the same time is a horrible thing to do. Same as when living from your wife's money(Don't tell me that there's no one, living from their wife's money). Gambling is an entertainment. An expensive one sometimes. Is it morally correct to spend someone else's money on your expensive whims? And I want to add that if you are earning money by yourself and you have small kids, it's their money too. Don't forget about that.

[topbitcoin]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

For me personally, I have never been threatened by anyone because I have never told my gambling activities to either my girlfriend or family. but I once threatened myself to stop gambling.

Situations like this can happen when I experience a big loss so that I threaten myself personally to break away from the world of gambling. But I can't because part of my fun is in gambling.

This made me think repeatedly that I would leave gambling because I could find no other pleasure apart from betting, so the steps I took were to improve my skills in gambling and absorb as much information as possible so that I could analyze it as best I could in order to increase my chances. in sports betting.

In addition, I can manage my finances when gambling because I have gained experience in the form of previous incidents when playing gambling.

if for example you are in a situation like this what will you do, will you stop your gambling activities or improve your skills when betting.?