Gambler avoiding friends after a big win.

[Jody.Drummer]

It will refer more to the character of each person, as we know that the nature of money is very sensitive, let alone friends sometimes family relationships can be destroyed just because of money problems. So simply money will be able to show the true character of the person, for example like the title above, where when they managed to get a win from gambling they prefer to avoid the surrounding friends, one of the reasons maybe they are afraid to be asked for part of the winnings by their friends. I wouldn't call them stingy, but maybe they have other more important needs in life and they prefer to allocate the money they win to their needs rather than sharing it with others, that could be one of their reasons I think.

So maybe for this kind of problem I think it's quite difficult to indicate why they avoid and hide their winnings from their friends, quite a lot of factors could be involved and that would be the reason. Although yes on the other hand if one of his friends finds out about his victory then I'm sure they will antagonize him, in fact this can really damage friendships too.

[Kelvinid]

This is human act, it shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone, but the fact is, different people with their behavior, there is a saying that you will know a through a friend when he is rich or when he has some money, you don't know the true character of an individual when he is poor, but we shouldn't just think straight we shouldn't just conclude with the conversation those two friends were having, we should also put to consideration what might have happened between these friends that prompted their bet winner friend to exhibit such character, there are hidden things in this life, if we don't have a good idea of any conversation, it will be very bad if we take side without knowing what might have happened.

Money can change someone's behavior, if not always but most of the time and I experience that one.
We really don't know what they are thinking but anyway, we don't need to mind it and ask them why, that was their mentality. Some will stay as a friend and some will forget as they make another group of friends (rich).

Of course, too bad to think how they change from winning millions but we can't force them to stay with us when it is against their will. Maybe they are thinking that we will take advantage of the situation.

[Blitzboy]

That is what I thought initially when I first saw this topic, by the way.
Even if those people are close enough to be considered "best friends", one still would never know the whole context of the story behind someone quitting hanging out with their best friends.
For example, let us assume you had a very good night at the casino with your best friends and you happened to hit a jackpot, using your own money, in a blink of an eye now you are worth several hundreds of thousands of Dollars (at the very least). How would you feel if next time you hang out with your friends, they start to treat you differently and expect you to pay for their drinks, their food and their wager to gamble since they know exactly how much you have now in your bank account? Anyone would feel uncomfortable having people around who knows that kind of information about you, even if they are family members.
So before judging one side as the bad one of the story, let us put ourselves in the shoe of them.

Their was huge difference between the friends and best friend,because the best friend will know all our financial struggles.So once we win the game,they never ask to do favour using that money.So if you share the winnings to the close friend will not affect you at point.But sharing to the friends will make you to some financial needs by your friends and ask to do favour to their needs.Most probably they will ask you to give loan,because the loan from the friends doesn’t need to pay the interest till the repayment date.The friends always depends on you to pay for all their needs and demands.When you go to the hotel,they demand you to pay the full money.

Not sure if this can be considered a general rule, but first of all I don't know whether I would feel inclined to share big winnings at all, but that doesn't only count for winnings in gambling, it could also be inheritance or very high income from a well paid job. The truth is that money attracts people. But I think most people know that it is never smart to go bragging about your 10 million dollars lottery win. It jut can't be smart for so many reasons the same way it wouldn't be smart to let the world know that you are sitting on a huge bag full of Bitcoin. It should remain a personal matter for your own safety.

When you do win something then you arent obliged on sharing up your winnings which its none others business on what you would gonna do with your win. It do really just turns out to be that a traditional stuff that if you do win then you do need to share but just been said that it isnt really needed or necessary or you are really that obliged in doing so. Your true friends would really be staying to be friends with you doesnt matter whether you would be giving them or not,if  you are the ones who do leave out just because you've been afraid that you would be asked on then its your fault
and your mistake on making out that kind of judgement on which we know that not all friends would really be just liking money most of the time, there are ones which are true and sincere.
It is really just that it turns out that you are really just that too scared on being asked without even trying to act normal.

Its baffling that society continues to perpetuate this archaic idea that winnings, particularly in gambling, should be shared. I mean, why? When you win, its YOUR victory, YOUR achievement. No one else played the game for you. This overbearing expectation to share out of obligation seems deeply rooted in societal pressures and, frankly, misplaced entitlement. Are they insinuating that your worth as a person is tied to what you can give? Preposterous.

Now, friends who'd stick by you irrespective of your monetary situation are a rare breed. If anyone chooses to walk away based on a mere assumption, then its a glaring commentary on the superficiality of their character. But lets address the real issue here - the fear. Acting out of fear or modifying behavior just to avoid confrontation is a direct ticket to personal discontent. Yes, theres a fear of judgment, but hiding behind that fear? Counterproductive. Authenticity is the key, and its high time to value sincere connections over hollow pretenses.

[blckhawk]

It's probably because that winner knows his friends real well that if the winner isn't avoiding them then that person will inevitably lose the money real fast because either they will ask for a treat from the wins or they would ask him to shoulder their incoming bets or would influence him to bet those wins hoping to strike the iron while it's hot. I don't know the whole story though, it could be that my guess is somewhat right or in the ballpark or that winner isn't really their friend and that amount of money just showed what he really is when it comes to his friends.

[Docnaster]

It's probably because that winner knows his friends real well that if the winner isn't avoiding them then that person will inevitably lose the money real fast because either they will ask for a treat from the wins or they would ask him to shoulder their incoming bets or would influence him to bet those wins hoping to strike the iron while it's hot. I don't know the whole story though, it could be that my guess is somewhat right or in the ballpark or that winner isn't really their friend and that amount of money just showed what he really is when it comes to his friends.

A lot of friends are fair weather friend ls who are only available when things are going well with their friends but totally absent when their own help is needed and that's why I think those kind of friends should be avoided when one is winning in life be it in gambling or other engagements that fetches money. Those kind of friends if given the opportunity will want to squander the whole money that was won in gambling but will still be the ones to laugh at the person when he's exhausted all his money without investing it wisely. So if the best to do and wisely use your money after winning us to avoid such friends, it's absolutely a good idea to avoid such friends.

[zuzie]

It's probably because that winner knows his friends real well that if the winner isn't avoiding them then that person will inevitably lose the money real fast because either they will ask for a treat from the wins or they would ask him to shoulder their incoming bets or would influence him to bet those wins hoping to strike the iron while it's hot. I don't know the whole story though, it could be that my guess is somewhat right or in the ballpark or that winner isn't really their friend and that amount of money just showed what he really is when it comes to his friends.

With the conclusion of your opinion just now, in my opinion the winner should not be like that, it is better for the winner to keep quiet, don't tell other friends even if they are good close friends, because something like that could happen. The winner will only be empowered or exploited/taken advantage of by his friends because they know the new winner has a lot of money from gambling, even though the winner must have experienced a lot of losses before and it would be better if when he wins the money is only used for himself, such as saving or investing. for his own needs.
So in my opinion, winning or losing is only us who know and feel it, not other people, even if they are close friends.

[Kelward]

The saying "Money reveal people" is quite common. I usually don't believe this phrase, and I used to imagine that friends would always have nice intentions towards one another, but I later realised that this is not true because life is full of diverse individuals, each with their own personalities and viewpoints.

It's best to never expect anything from anyone because everyone is out for themselves. This kind of behaviour is nothing new to me anymore, and whenever there are three friends, I usually anticipate one of them to have such an attitude. Why should you be surprised if it occurs amongst friends when it has even happened between blood brothers? When you put expectations on people all you will get from them disappointments so i have learned to live on my own and not expect much from people.

True to what you have said, money reveals the true character of people, give someone money or position, then you'll truly see their inner character. The friend that got the big win and abandoned his friends probably felt rich and decided that the other two were not in his category anymore, maybe he's naturally greedy and the win manifested his true character, that he didn't want to celebrate or give some share of the win to his friends. It's best not to put all our hopes on others, whether family or friends, no matter how close the relationship is, because anybody can disappoint you at anything, for whatever reasons, whether it makes sense or not.

On the other hand OP didn't get to hear the side of the story of the friend that won big and abandoned his friends, we would have known the real intentions for his behavior. The gamble winner understands his friends better than us, maybe he abandoned them for his own safety, maybe he doesn't trust them to be genuinely happy for him. I've had of friends that connives with criminals to rob their friend, others can even kill, set their friends up for blackmail or kidnap. Money is the root of all evil, so when you have plenty of it, almost everybody will became suspects to you.

[AbuBhakar]

It's probably because that winner knows his friends real well that if the winner isn't avoiding them then that person will inevitably lose the money real fast because either they will ask for a treat from the wins or they would ask him to shoulder their incoming bets or would influence him to bet those wins hoping to strike the iron while it's hot. I don't know the whole story though, it could be that my guess is somewhat right or in the ballpark or that winner isn't really their friend and that amount of money just showed what he really is when it comes to his friends.

Yeah, Most of the time friends will do ask a lot of favor whenever they knew that some of their friend have a lot of money. Although avoiding friends is kinda cruel just because you win especially if you are regularly hanging out with them before you win. Treating them a few beers is not bad to celebrate and he can always decline to any favor such as borrowing money instead of avoiding them since money can be loss but friends stay forever.

I’m not really sure if avoiding is the right choice no matter what kind of friend he has. Maybe just try to communicate first and see how it goes before he decde whether to avoid them or not.

[Sanugarid]

I think that's normal, especially if you've just met him and gambled, you're also aware that there's something special about the behavior of the man who won. It's hard to judge if we don't know the whole story.

Because if I'm the guy and the two are my close friends, I'll give them at least a little because they're friends and I'm gambling with them.
In his case, he actually avoided it and I'm sure there was a reason for that.

[Twentyonepaylots]

It's probably because that winner knows his friends real well that if the winner isn't avoiding them then that person will inevitably lose the money real fast because either they will ask for a treat from the wins or they would ask him to shoulder their incoming bets or would influence him to bet those wins hoping to strike the iron while it's hot. I don't know the whole story though, it could be that my guess is somewhat right or in the ballpark or that winner isn't really their friend and that amount of money just showed what he really is when it comes to his friends.

Yeah, Most of the time friends will do ask a lot of favor whenever they knew that some of their friend have a lot of money. Although avoiding friends is kinda cruel just because you win especially if you are regularly hanging out with them before you win. Treating them a few beers is not bad to celebrate and he can always decline to any favor such as borrowing money instead of avoiding them since money can be loss but friends stay forever.

Hmm. That's not friends if that's the case, but if the favor is somehow option-less for your friend like they need money for an emergency, I guess it's valid. But avoiding friends is quite harsh and obvious. You can get along with them without saying or bragging your winnings on casino or gambling, you've got your privacy.

I’m not really sure if avoiding is the right choice no matter what kind of friend he has. Maybe just try to communicate first and see how it goes before he decde whether to avoid them or not.

I guess it's really depend on what personality the friend has, or define what is a friend for you first. But avoiding your close friends or even best friend after winning in gambling or just have money in general is quite hard for me, it's like judging and mistrusting them somehow.

[Westinhome]

Not sure if this can be considered a general rule, but first of all I don't know whether I would feel inclined to share big winnings at all, but that doesn't only count for winnings in gambling, it could also be inheritance or very high income from a well paid job. The truth is that money attracts people. But I think most people know that it is never smart to go bragging about your 10 million dollars lottery win. It jut can't be smart for so many reasons the same way it wouldn't be smart to let the world know that you are sitting on a huge bag full of Bitcoin. It should remain a personal matter for your own safety.

Most of the gambler had won the money by the hard struggle in the gambling will do not like to share their winning money to anyone and including their friends and the family members.The friends also get the good money from the well paid job and expected the money from us only because we made the big win from the gambling.The gambler made the win by learning the game and made the biggest strategy for the big win,So nothing comes free from the gambling.So for this unwanted behaviour from the friends the gambler will do the hidden secret of their win to the game.This also had huge sense to avoid of the friends in sharing winning from gambling.

[Chilwell]

I will also support this kind of decision in avoiding friends when you make a big win in gambling, this is not because you wanted to intimidate them or got them disappointed, but you wouldn't like to engage in doing any mistake that will result in loosing the entire money back to gambling and unnecessary spendings that are mostly orchestrated through friends, when you should be sitting down in planning how you can Invest with the money.

Nothing wrong with planning to grow or invest the money you won but not to totally avoid friends who know how you guys have come along way. Although, there are people who call those who are not their friends as friends but in real sense they are just acquittance but a real friend is that person who stood by you through thick and thin, so if you have a big win such people can even guide you in ideas to manage the money into lucrative business so that you don't go back to the dusk. The little beginning is always a cherish one so no point running out of friends when we win big, you only have to know who is your friends.

Having a plan with the money we win from gambling is certainly a good thing but we shouldn't avoid friends who are always with us in various situations, but by telling them that we have a plan with the money we win from gambling will certainly make our friends understand it and of course they support whatever we have decided if it is good for us. Yes, of course we know which friends are always there with us and which friends are only there when they need us.

Money don't change person but show us the real character of that person, most of us have two different characters, when they are poor their character is different from when they are rich, what their friend did shouldn't be a surprised but they should consider it a lesson that is why we should fight for our independent because of this kind of disappointment, we should stop depending on other people because human being are dynamic including our parents too. Money itself is very dangerous because it separate friends, divide family, etc, let just say he got it from somewhere else he will still act like that.

[Renampun]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

We often see things like this happen to gamblers, they will definitely not share their winnings with friends or other people, when you gamble with your friend and your friend wins big, he will definitely avoid you, there is no reason to continue with you, I often think about what exactly gambling addicts are looking for so they become so greedy even towards their own friends, don't let unpleasant things happen to you, don't have high expectations from your gambling table friends.

[ethereumhunter]

You would really be able to see on whose your real friend and whose are really just that good when you are that beneficial to them because we know that there are friends who are really that taking advantage into someone which they do know that they could really be able to benefit out or something that could really be able to help but on the time that you arent that already needed then you would really be dumped and trashed and this is really that indeed happening and this is something that we do really know that do happen in real life.On the situation on which if you are someone who are really that able to hit up some huge win
then why would really be trying out to hide from your friends, what for? Afraid on getting asked out for some money? It would be normal but doesnt mean that they do really mean out since they cant really be able to force you out on giving or not.If you would then its good but if its not then its still good. Its not really that worth on putting up your friendship in line just because of money.

Somewhat its not really that bad on making yourself that able to give some small amounts on showing up some compliments into your friends specially if you do win up big
then it wont really be that hurting you on giving out some money that they could make use of but not necessarily for it to be big. It would really be just that sufficient or something not that big and not that small too.

Yes, we all know who are really friends, who are always there who want to help us and be by our side and we also act like that towards those who are really our friends. And there are indeed friends who only take advantage of the situation we are in for their benefit and once they get it, they will leave us as before and will not consider us their friends. We have experienced things like that so we can see the nature and character of each friend we have so we can know what kind of attitude we should have towards them. But if it were my friends, I would not hide myself from them and instead, I would invite them to celebrate the victory together because they are truly my friends who can understand each other. But for those who are not friends, I don't want to celebrate with them because they will use the situation to their advantage.

[klidex]

It's probably because that winner knows his friends real well that if the winner isn't avoiding them then that person will inevitably lose the money real fast because either they will ask for a treat from the wins or they would ask him to shoulder their incoming bets or would influence him to bet those wins hoping to strike the iron while it's hot. I don't know the whole story though, it could be that my guess is somewhat right or in the ballpark or that winner isn't really their friend and that amount of money just showed what he really is when it comes to his friends.

someone will forget their friend when one of their friend win or is experiencing success, so this happens a lot in society and might be considered arrogant.
This victory is indeed that own right, but it would be better if continue to makes friend without having to avoid it, even though may have own fear when friend will borrow money from are afraid of what will happens, but this can be discussed well. A friend will definitely give you understand if it is true this victory was very necessary for himself.
Yes, we dont know the true story and we can only judge froms our own point of views.

[summonerrk]

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Unfortunately, this is a frequent pattern in gambling. No one has canceled the feeling of envy among friends. And since everyone likes to talk only about their successes and keep silent about their failures, everyone seems to be very successful, although in fact this is not the case at all. Big money changes people and they begin to behave quite differently because circumstances no longer put pressure on them, and they no longer need friends who can help. Therefore, often a large gain leads to the rejection of 90 percent of friendships.

[Pierre 2]

I think he may not be that bad because at least he showed or told his friends about his win. I think their friends should communicate with him, ask him why, as he may be worried more people will know about it. If I experienced same thing but in very deliberate way, I would ask and show he behaves. I would never ask money to my friend because I think its dick move (unless its a matter of life and death). So some people intentionally try to find new friends after getting rich.

[Fredomago]

You would really be able to see on whose your real friend and whose are really just that good when you are that beneficial to them because we know that there are friends who are really that taking advantage into someone which they do know that they could really be able to benefit out or something that could really be able to help but on the time that you arent that already needed then you would really be dumped and trashed and this is really that indeed happening and this is something that we do really know that do happen in real life.On the situation on which if you are someone who are really that able to hit up some huge win
then why would really be trying out to hide from your friends, what for? Afraid on getting asked out for some money? It would be normal but doesnt mean that they do really mean out since they cant really be able to force you out on giving or not.If you would then its good but if its not then its still good. Its not really that worth on putting up your friendship in line just because of money.

Somewhat its not really that bad on making yourself that able to give some small amounts on showing up some compliments into your friends specially if you do win up big
then it wont really be that hurting you on giving out some money that they could make use of but not necessarily for it to be big. It would really be just that sufficient or something not that big and not that small too.

Yes, we all know who are really friends, who are always there who want to help us and be by our side and we also act like that towards those who are really our friends. And there are indeed friends who only take advantage of the situation we are in for their benefit and once they get it, they will leave us as before and will not consider us their friends. We have experienced things like that so we can see the nature and character of each friend we have so we can know what kind of attitude we should have towards them. But if it were my friends, I would not hide myself from them and instead, I would invite them to celebrate the victory together because they are truly my friends who can understand each other. But for those who are not friends, I don't want to celebrate with them because they will use the situation to their advantage.

Yeah right, there are different types of people that surround us while we are in this activity, I think your opinion is right celebrate with those you treat as your friends and don't be bothered regarding to those who you think just taking the advantage on just doing it for the sake of benefits.

Not that hard to differentiate the people who are on your side, there are always differences in terms of true and those who are just using the situation to gain some decent advantages.

[Lida93]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

We often see things like this happen to gamblers, they will definitely not share their winnings with friends or other people, when you gamble with your friend and your friend wins big, he will definitely avoid you, there is no reason to continue with you, I often think about what exactly gambling addicts are looking for so they become so greedy even towards their own friends, don't let unpleasant things happen to you, don't have high expectations from your gambling table friends.

it doesn't make sense that as a gamblers after winning some big amount of money I start avoiding my friends that we all laugh, gist and cheer together when the winning hasn't presented itself. It's simple to explain to them if you have something to use the money for and for that reason you can't share anything with them they will understand as friends and wouldn't be expecting a dime from you but ignoring and avoiding them is silly.

Friends shouldn't be recognized only in our hard times but also in times when life smiles at us they should be brought closer due to how they were the people that we together got encouraged when the winning was not forth coming. If we should we meeting together as gambling friends and not having expectations on each other then we are just pretenders and shouldn't be called friends as the first instant.

[Mate2237]

That is a selfish and greedy friend that is not good to move with when known the real character of the guy. At least he would have given them something to keep their body and soul together and they would use that small token to remember him. And has forgotten that the matter the amount is big and if he is not using to do business they will finished one day and he come back to square one and start asking for his friends for food to eat. Or asking them for one "white" and at that time he will also received the other parts of his friends.

Some people are naturally like that. They only like to receive and don't like to give our and he has forgotten the Holy Bible that "givers never lack". Lolz let me retitled the topic to "A Greedy Gambling Friend". If I was the one, I can't do such a thing and if I does, my mind will not be a peace.