Gambler avoiding friends after a big win.

[Suzume]

Avoiding someone it's actually depend on a person mentality. Only not Gambler some other people after getting success avoid their childhood friend close friend or best friend etc. now this friendship calls for benefit because after getting success everyone leaves they are friend and makes new friend in their class. Not only Gambler those person who get success in life not all are same but many after getting huge amount of money or after reach a good place. They leave those type of person who are closest to them but they don't do anything in life that time they leave them and make new friend with their class.

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[Mate2237]

I agree with you. If criminal notice that such big amount money enter the guy hand, they might visit him and snatch away the money, and apart from that when such news went to the locality then those poor beggers will visit him and ask for their share and that the common practice in my area which I know. When someone win big amount of money everybody will like to take their share.

Although it depends on the kind of friends you have even if we cannot see through the heart of someone to know how they truly cares about us but there are some friends that are more like a brother due to how close and caring they are, so perhaps somebody like that you can easily share some of your secrets because he has proven himself trust worthy.

So however apart from close friends we shouldn't share our secrets to others  especially our wining secrets because just like you said the person could come in the night to snatched the money and could even harm you if he has the chance, perhaps many gamblers has gone through a lot through sharing information about there wining so people should be very careful with the kind of person they share there secrets with.

Yes I know there are some friends that will not think evil against you whatever happens between you guys but some friends will do you bad thing if you didn't give them their share of the money. They would go and meet other of their bad friends and arrange with them to come rob you in the night so in a situations like this one have to be careful with the place you go and things you do because those you friends as this time are very angry that they can do you anything.

I don't really support what the guy did. At least he would have given them something to buy food or drink for them.

[Rabata]

I agree with you. If criminal notice that such big amount money enter the guy hand, they might visit him and snatch away the money, and apart from that when such news went to the locality then those poor beggers will visit him and ask for their share and that the common practice in my area which I know. When someone win big amount of money everybody will like to take their share.

Although it depends on the kind of friends you have even if we cannot see through the heart of someone to know how they truly cares about us but there are some friends that are more like a brother due to how close and caring they are, so perhaps somebody like that you can easily share some of your secrets because he has proven himself trust worthy.

So however apart from close friends we shouldn't share our secrets to others  especially our wining secrets because just like you said the person could come in the night to snatched the money and could even harm you if he has the chance, perhaps many gamblers has gone through a lot through sharing information about there wining so people should be very careful with the kind of person they share there secrets with.

Yes I know there are some friends that will not think evil against you whatever happens between you guys but some friends will do you bad thing if you didn't give them their share of the money. They would go and meet other of their bad friends and arrange with them to come rob you in the night so in a situations like this one have to be careful with the place you go and things you do because those you friends as this time are very angry that they can do you anything.

I don't really support what the guy did. At least he would have given them something to buy food or drink for them.

If you notice that sometimes we see crime report in the media where there are people who close to the crime they are not unknown person. As such, if I talk about that friend, then there is no scope to call it evil in one aspect. Because there are many crimes where friends where friends become enemies. But he certainly could and should have arranged for treats with those friends. Because if those friends are good friends then after this behavior there will be no chance to get those friends. Gamblers must make the best decision based on the situation.

[maydna]

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On a normal, it is not everything one should be telling their friends. These days things happens even in the family too. Friends should not every time be in the know of your updates as these days friends are not what you think they are. So he has a reason why he did what he did. Only him is liable to his actions and owe no explanations to anyone why he took that steps to relocate and refused to tell his friends about hi is success. Like I said initially in other posts that " their is no smoke without a fire".

You are right. We should not tell all our personal things to friends because not all friends can protect what we say. We may only tell it to close people in our circle, but we also have to tell them not to tell it to other people. Actually, other friends don't need to be curious about why he did this, but because we are a society, it will make other people feel the need to know what is happening to the people in their environment. But moving to a new environment might solve everything because they won't meet those curious people, so they will be calmer in living their lives.

[Oilacris]

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On a normal, it is not everything one should be telling their friends. These days things happens even in the family too. Friends should not every time be in the know of your updates as these days friends are not what you think they are. So he has a reason why he did what he did. Only him is liable to his actions and owe no explanations to anyone why he took that steps to relocate and refused to tell his friends about hi is success. Like I said initially in other posts that " their is no smoke without a fire".

You are right. We should not tell all our personal things to friends because not all friends can protect what we say. We may only tell it to close people in our circle, but we also have to tell them not to tell it to other people. Actually, other friends don't need to be curious about why he did this, but because we are a society, it will make other people feel the need to know what is happening to the people in their environment. But moving to a new environment might solve everything because they won't meet those curious people, so they will be calmer in living their lives.

There should always be that kind of limitation on which it would really be just that normal that we would really be that having those kind of privacy specially on things that arent meant to be shared.
We do know that there are things life which needs to be private on which even our loved ones wont really be that anytime to know on what we are dealing with. On the time that you do have a big
win and your friends do knows about it then you would really be having that kind of hassle on trying out to make some explainations on the time that they would really be asking for some bonus or amounts just because you have won something. Some might dont care but majority even your own family will really be asking after a win but well family is family
and nothing beats out our family in terms of relation on which i would rather choose on giving into them than with other people.

[Fredomago]

That's why I don't like gambling offline, I prefer to gamble online. Win or lose only we know.

That's the easiest way to avoid it so we don't feel bad for anyone when we win big or vice versa, when a friend wins big, sometimes I also feel bad about being given a tip, even though I didn't ask for it and expected it too, but there are also friends. The other me often avoids his friends when he wins big just because he doesn't want his friends to owe him money. The point is that feeling awkward when you win big in front of your friends really makes you uncomfortable.

I also enjoy playing casinos alone in online casinos, rarely in offline casinos because of course it's a bit of a hassle if you have to avoid friends or friends avoid us, at least each other gambles better in online casinos because it's better to keep friendships intact and not split up just because of money. , it really hurts

        -    Maybe the winner at the casino was thinking differently, so he thought to avoid his close friends who were with him. That's why if these are close friends of the winner in the casino, the winner should not think badly of the close friends who considered him a close friend.

Oh, maybe this winner just showed his true colors because he won a large amount of money gambling, so that's what he did. Which is also not a good thing he did, in my opinion.

Showing his true color after winning, things that you can't avoid in terms of money matters, there are people who being change by that situation, with a lot of money in hands people change their perspectives in life, they will start to think that they are more superior than other people around them, sad true that even it was a friend before there's still a big chance that they will also be eaten by this kind of mentality.

[Slow death]

I had already commented on this, but I will comment again because I have seen this happen very often. Here in my country and even in other countries it has become normal that when people are very poor they always live surrounded by many friends and relatives, they are constantly with friends and relatives on walks, at parties and at weddings. but when a person gets a job that pays a lot, they immediately stay away from their friends and poor family, they start hanging out with their co-workers because they are people who have money, this is something that I have seen happen very often. here in my country

I just need to see a group of many people drinking beer at home, on the streets I immediately think: these are people who still don't have a lot of money, because when they have a lot of money they have a lot of cars parked on the streets of the neighborhoods to show off and put the loud music sound. Now the strangest thing is that when a poor person makes a lot of money from gambling, that person starts donating money constantly and ends up poor after a few years. After seeing many stories like these, I started to wonder why poor people who earn a lot of money from gambling have this behavior of making donations when they win a lot of money in the lottery, for example?

my only conclusion is that since these people who won a lot of money in the lottery were poor and didn't have any big goals in life and have no idea that the money runs out and they can go back to being poor, so they keep thinking that making donations will make them have better luck and they don't know that that money could run out. They have no ambition in life, so they keep giving money to other people and end up poor.

[hedgeh0g]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

I can think of only 3 reasons why that colleague would behave in this way.

1. He wants to stay low because he doesn't want many people to know about his winning. We know that lots of money brings unwanted attention and may be that's why he is keeping distance from everyone until he figures out what to do with this money.

2. He would be thinking that his colleagues would ask him for money and he doesn't want to give them any.

3. He might be busy enjoying his reward elsewhere.

I know the same example when one of my friends got rich and stopped communicating with me, although before that everything was very good, we had fun, we often met together. But after a lot of money, he developed new interests, he began to spend time in different countries with his family, and now I hardly see him. Many tried to borrow money from him, but he did not lend money to anyone. Sometimes bad thoughts come to me that if big money hadn’t fallen from the sky on him, we would have continued to get along well, communicate, and meet. But on the other hand, I’m happy for him and I won’t wish him anything bad, let him do as he wants.

[maydna]

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There should always be that kind of limitation on which it would really be just that normal that we would really be that having those kind of privacy specially on things that arent meant to be shared.
We do know that there are things life which needs to be private on which even our loved ones wont really be that anytime to know on what we are dealing with. On the time that you do have a big
win and your friends do knows about it then you would really be having that kind of hassle on trying out to make some explainations on the time that they would really be asking for some bonus or amounts just because you have won something. Some might dont care but majority even your own family will really be asking after a win but well family is family
and nothing beats out our family in terms of relation on which i would rather choose on giving into them than with other people.

Privacy, yes it is something we should have even with our friends, and they will understand that we also have privacy that should not be shared with them. They will have their own privacy or secrets that should not be shared with other friends. We have to respect each other's privacy, and it's okay if we end up having to hide our winnings from them because we don't want to see the atmosphere get excited and end up letting everyone in our circle know the news. That will obviously trigger bad people or at least friends who are "not close" to us to approach us because they want something from us. There will be people who will ask for their share of our winnings, and we will probably feel uncomfortable with that. We should consider first what we should do.

[abel1337]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

I can think of only 3 reasons why that colleague would behave in this way.

1. He wants to stay low because he doesn't want many people to know about his winning. We know that lots of money brings unwanted attention and may be that's why he is keeping distance from everyone until he figures out what to do with this money.

2. He would be thinking that his colleagues would ask him for money and he doesn't want to give them any.

3. He might be busy enjoying his reward elsewhere.

I know the same example when one of my friends got rich and stopped communicating with me, although before that everything was very good, we had fun, we often met together. But after a lot of money, he developed new interests, he began to spend time in different countries with his family, and now I hardly see him. Many tried to borrow money from him, but he did not lend money to anyone. Sometimes bad thoughts come to me that if big money hadn’t fallen from the sky on him, we would have continued to get along well, communicate, and meet. But on the other hand, I’m happy for him and I won’t wish him anything bad, let him do as he wants.

Maybe your friend want to experience new things such as traveling because he had given a chance to travel. I don't have any problem with your friend based on your description, your friend just want to enjoy his life because he has a chance to. New interest is a normal thing, even me changed my hobbies a lot because I can and I want to. About borrowing money, I think it's a right move since I'm not fan of lending money unless it's really a life or death situation. Try to cope up with your friend, try to get a long. A full day with him will be worth it after not being seen for a long time. As long as you both treat yourselves as a friend, money will not be a hindrance.

[Docnaster]

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There should always be that kind of limitation on which it would really be just that normal that we would really be that having those kind of privacy specially on things that arent meant to be shared.
We do know that there are things life which needs to be private on which even our loved ones wont really be that anytime to know on what we are dealing with. On the time that you do have a big
win and your friends do knows about it then you would really be having that kind of hassle on trying out to make some explainations on the time that they would really be asking for some bonus or amounts just because you have won something. Some might dont care but majority even your own family will really be asking after a win but well family is family
and nothing beats out our family in terms of relation on which i would rather choose on giving into them than with other people.

Privacy, yes it is something we should have even with our friends, and they will understand that we also have privacy that should not be shared with them. They will have their own privacy or secrets that should not be shared with other friends. We have to respect each other's privacy, and it's okay if we end up having to hide our winnings from them because we don't want to see the atmosphere get excited and end up letting everyone in our circle know the news. That will obviously trigger bad people or at least friends who are "not close" to us to approach us because they want something from us. There will be people who will ask for their share of our winnings, and we will probably feel uncomfortable with that. We should consider first what we should do.

Sometimes it's not just all about privacy that most gamblers avoid their friends after winning big. There are friends that are very consuming and likes squandering of money whenever they see it and would definitely advice their friends to also do same whenever they have money at their disposal and I don't think it's bad to avoid such friends whenever one wins because failure to avoid them would definitely result to spending like them and still not make good use of the money gotten from the big win in gambling.
So in other to wisely invest one's big winnings in meaningful things that'll in return be source of income to the gambler, I think it's absolutely fine to avoid such friends

[Mate2237]

If you notice that sometimes we see crime report in the media where there are people who close to the crime they are not unknown person. As such, if I talk about that friend, then there is no scope to call it evil in one aspect. Because there are many crimes where friends where friends become enemies. But he certainly could and should have arranged for treats with those friends. Because if those friends are good friends then after this behavior there will be no chance to get those friends. Gamblers must make the best decision based on the situation.

In most cases of robbery attacks, shooting, killing and arresting by police are cases of closed friends. There are sometimes because of misunderstanding among themselves and in most cases sharing of money they would join another gangs to come rob the person, or killed or report the person to police so this not sharing money among friends is a very dangerous thing and that was why I said, even though it is not a big amount of money he (the winner) would have given some to his friends because they can sell out.

When we come to Monetary issue there is no friends and mostly in gambling arena.

[len01]

I know the same example when one of my friends got rich and stopped communicating with me, although before that everything was very good, we had fun, we often met together. But after a lot of money, he developed new interests, he began to spend time in different countries with his family, and now I hardly see him. Many tried to borrow money from him, but he did not lend money to anyone. Sometimes bad thoughts come to me that if big money hadn’t fallen from the sky on him, we would have continued to get along well, communicate, and meet. But on the other hand, I’m happy for him and I won’t wish him anything bad, let him do as he wants.

I not defend anyone, but what your friend did might be seen as a bad friend because he distanced himself from his friend when he was already successful in becoming rich, but on the one hand, you shoul not judge him by wishing him bad luck or thinking bad things about him because we dont know what his intentions were. what he was doing when he refused to give a loan to another friend.

for example, I once had a big win, actually I had hidden it from other people, but a friend found out about the win I got and spread it to other friends and they came to borrow money from me and I refused to give him the loan. I am not someone who is stingy, but I have good intentions because even if I give him a loan, whatever the amount, it will not rule out the possibility that he will stop borrowing and will not be satisfied with the money I lend him. because someone who often borrows will continue to expect help from other people and will not be satisfied with whatever amount it is and someone who often borrows money should be grateful to his friend who refused his loan because it has saved his life from the bad habit of looking for loans and just to gamble, which is very bad.

[junder]

Privacy, yes it is something we should have even with our friends, and they will understand that we also have privacy that should not be shared with them. They will have their own privacy or secrets that should not be shared with other friends. We have to respect each other's privacy, and it's okay if we end up having to hide our winnings from them because we don't want to see the atmosphere get excited and end up letting everyone in our circle know the news. That will obviously trigger bad people or at least friends who are "not close" to us to approach us because they want something from us. There will be people who will ask for their share of our winnings, and we will probably feel uncomfortable with that. We should consider first what we should do.

Sometimes it's not just all about privacy that most gamblers avoid their friends after winning big. There are friends that are very consuming and likes squandering of money whenever they see it and would definitely advice their friends to also do same whenever they have money at their disposal and I don't think it's bad to avoid such friends whenever one wins because failure to avoid them would definitely result to spending like them and still not make good use of the money gotten from the big win in gambling.
So in other to wisely invest one's big winnings in meaningful things that'll in return be source of income to the gambler, I think it's absolutely fine to avoid such friends

True, basically there are still quite a lot of other factors that make them or require them to hide the winnings from gambling, it is also possible that maybe they need money for their personal needs so they have to hide the winnings, and on the other hand we also have to look at the character of our friends too, if indeed one of your friends has a wasteful habit like you said then yes it's up to you if their character makes you uncomfortable and makes you finally have to follow their way of spending the money from your winnings.

The rest is up to you and if indeed you have a strong enough reason to hide the money from your winnings then go ahead and do it, and yes it is true that it is better for us to use the money for something more positive or in the sense that it has an equal or even more reciprocity such as for example capital for business or whatever the point is that you think is good. It really doesn't matter in my opinion, after all in gambling there is absolutely no rule that requires you to share your winnings with others, it's up to you.

[EluguHcman]

In the gambling table there is no just friends, that is a survival of the fittest board rather individual existence is acknowledged due to familiarity.

Maybe the one that won was on a payback as a result of the other guy not caring for him at their own winning time too but what I feels can make one behave such in the first place is greed or he has been waiting on such a winning day to go solve necessary problems or it could also be that those of his friends don't exhibits the characters of good utilization so he abstain so he can concentrate to his pursues.
Else they should just wish him well for one good turn deserves another.

[pawanjain]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

I can think of only 3 reasons why that colleague would behave in this way.

1. He wants to stay low because he doesn't want many people to know about his winning. We know that lots of money brings unwanted attention and may be that's why he is keeping distance from everyone until he figures out what to do with this money.

2. He would be thinking that his colleagues would ask him for money and he doesn't want to give them any.

3. He might be busy enjoying his reward elsewhere.

I know the same example when one of my friends got rich and stopped communicating with me, although before that everything was very good, we had fun, we often met together. But after a lot of money, he developed new interests, he began to spend time in different countries with his family, and now I hardly see him. Many tried to borrow money from him, but he did not lend money to anyone. Sometimes bad thoughts come to me that if big money hadn’t fallen from the sky on him, we would have continued to get along well, communicate, and meet. But on the other hand, I’m happy for him and I won’t wish him anything bad, let him do as he wants.

Maybe your friend want to experience new things such as traveling because he had given a chance to travel. I don't have any problem with your friend based on your description, your friend just want to enjoy his life because he has a chance to. New interest is a normal thing, even me changed my hobbies a lot because I can and I want to. About borrowing money, I think it's a right move since I'm not fan of lending money unless it's really a life or death situation. Try to cope up with your friend, try to get a long. A full day with him will be worth it after not being seen for a long time. As long as you both treat yourselves as a friend, money will not be a hindrance.

But don't you think that no matter how many new interests a person develops, I don't think he/she should stop talking to one just because of new interests.
As he said, he didn't borrow any money or anything but still his friend didn't have any contact with him.
This shows that he changed because of money and not because of new interests.

[TimeTeller]

In the gambling table there is no just friends, that is a survival of the fittest board rather individual existence is acknowledged due to familiarity.

Maybe the one that won was on a payback as a result of the other guy not caring for him at their own winning time too but what I feels can make one behave such in the first place is greed or he has been waiting on such a winning day to go solve necessary problems or it could also be that those of his friends don't exhibits the characters of good utilization so he abstain so he can concentrate to his pursues.
Else they should just wish him well for one good turn deserves another.

We can't judge this scenario by the fact that we don't know the whole story about this situation.
So let's just say, the winner just do his own thing because it is his winnings anyway.
People around should not get butt hurt because they haven't gotten their share, just be happy to that person.
At least you know the attitude of that person, and learn his boundaries when it comes to gambling.

[blckhawk]

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With the conclusion of your opinion just now, in my opinion the winner should not be like that, it is better for the winner to keep quiet, don't tell other friends even if they are good close friends, because something like that could happen. The winner will only be empowered or exploited/taken advantage of by his friends because they know the new winner has a lot of money from gambling, even though the winner must have experienced a lot of losses before and it would be better if when he wins the money is only used for himself, such as saving or investing. for his own needs.
So in my opinion, winning or losing is only us who know and feel it, not other people, even if they are close friends.

That would've worked if they didn't know that you've won but in this context, it seems that they knew that the dude won so no point hiding in their situation but you're right about that stuff though. Yes the possibility of being exploited by their friends goes up but I'm sure that it differs from person to person, if you're the kind to be easily intimidated into giving something and that you can't stand to not give them because you feel like your bound by something that's not your obligation then you're likely to give money to those friends but if you're the opposite then all luck to you because you can stand to leave them when you've got a big win.

[stomachgrowls]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

I can think of only 3 reasons why that colleague would behave in this way.

1. He wants to stay low because he doesn't want many people to know about his winning. We know that lots of money brings unwanted attention and may be that's why he is keeping distance from everyone until he figures out what to do with this money.

2. He would be thinking that his colleagues would ask him for money and he doesn't want to give them any.

3. He might be busy enjoying his reward elsewhere.

I know the same example when one of my friends got rich and stopped communicating with me, although before that everything was very good, we had fun, we often met together. But after a lot of money, he developed new interests, he began to spend time in different countries with his family, and now I hardly see him. Many tried to borrow money from him, but he did not lend money to anyone. Sometimes bad thoughts come to me that if big money hadn’t fallen from the sky on him, we would have continued to get along well, communicate, and meet. But on the other hand, I’m happy for him and I won’t wish him anything bad, let him do as he wants.

Maybe your friend want to experience new things such as traveling because he had given a chance to travel. I don't have any problem with your friend based on your description, your friend just want to enjoy his life because he has a chance to. New interest is a normal thing, even me changed my hobbies a lot because I can and I want to. About borrowing money, I think it's a right move since I'm not fan of lending money unless it's really a life or death situation. Try to cope up with your friend, try to get a long. A full day with him will be worth it after not being seen for a long time. As long as you both treat yourselves as a friend, money will not be a hindrance.

But don't you think that no matter how many new interests a person develops, I don't think he/she should stop talking to one just because of new interests.
As he said, he didn't borrow any money or anything but still his friend didn't have any contact with him.
This shows that he changed because of money and not because of new interests.

We know that human beings could really be that easily be changed up when it comes to money on which it would really be just that so easy or i can say that it would really be that instant if we do speak about instant change on which its a common thing in todays society. A certain individual wont really care on how long you've been friends or having relation with him/her as long we do talk about huge money or amount
then he/she could immediately make out decisions that he would be completely be separating or simply he/she would really be forgetting you on point as long he/she does have that feeling that he do have that kind of power and right which we know that it would really be that pretty common if you do have tons of money. It is really just that sad that there are people who do changed up directly because of money
without even trying out to cherish things.

For me if ever i do win up something big then i cant afford to exchange those relations to money because on the time that things turns out to be messy then there's no one would be able to help you out
but it would really be just your own family or loved ones. This is why you should really be that careful when making decisions because once it would be broken then theres
no way on making it back.

[hedgeh0g]

I know the same example when one of my friends got rich and stopped communicating with me, although before that everything was very good, we had fun, we often met together. But after a lot of money, he developed new interests, he began to spend time in different countries with his family, and now I hardly see him. Many tried to borrow money from him, but he did not lend money to anyone. Sometimes bad thoughts come to me that if big money hadn’t fallen from the sky on him, we would have continued to get along well, communicate, and meet. But on the other hand, I’m happy for him and I won’t wish him anything bad, let him do as he wants.

I not defend anyone, but what your friend did might be seen as a bad friend because he distanced himself from his friend when he was already successful in becoming rich, but on the one hand, you shoul not judge him by wishing him bad luck or thinking bad things about him because we dont know what his intentions were. what he was doing when he refused to give a loan to another friend.

for example, I once had a big win, actually I had hidden it from other people, but a friend found out about the win I got and spread it to other friends and they came to borrow money from me and I refused to give him the loan. I am not someone who is stingy, but I have good intentions because even if I give him a loan, whatever the amount, it will not rule out the possibility that he will stop borrowing and will not be satisfied with the money I lend him. because someone who often borrows will continue to expect help from other people and will not be satisfied with whatever amount it is and someone who often borrows money should be grateful to his friend who refused his loan because it has saved his life from the bad habit of looking for loans and just to gamble, which is very bad.

Still, I don’t regard him as a bad friend. But if I were him, I would still remember and find time to spend it with friends, no matter how rich I was. I am sure of this, but we also know that in life sometimes everything happens differently than we are 100% sure of.

He stopped lending probably because this is a fundamental point for him. He just never lends money to anyone. There is a saying: “If you want to quarrel with friends or relatives, then lend them money.” Even I have met people in my life who constantly borrow, this is their lifestyle, I don’t like them, it’s better to avoid them.