Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

[krishnaverma]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

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[piebeyb]

Why not if it's for the good of myself, let alone for the family, there's no harm in following what my wife says if in the end she wants me to stop gambling, but for now my wife still allows me to gamble and she manages my gambling budget. weekends, I happen to not be an addict so I trust him to manage my gambling budget and I am also only a gambler with small bets.

But if in the end he will forbid me and want me to stop completely, it seems like it won't be difficult for me to stop gambling because I'm not a gambler who often gambles all the time because I only gamble on weekends so I can stop, but I don't know for those who are addicts. it seems like it might be hard for them to stop. I'm sure we all know that most of the addicts we know never think about their families, let alone their partners. This should be a lesson that gambling should not be taken too seriously because once you become an addict it is difficult to cure it 

[MAAManda]

Advice to stop doing something is a common occurrence if the thing has become a bad thing. Regardless of the actual purpose of gambling to get entertainment, if the gambling I do has led to bad things, then I will accept and try the advice to stop gambling.

Especially in my country (Indonesia), quite a few people have had their lives ruined because of gambling, of course, this all happens because of a lack of understanding about gambling and greedy behavior. People in this country (Indonesia) think they can get rich from gambling and can control everything there .

[Odohu]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

I feel it belong to habits that should be discussed before getting married because there are some ladies that do not feel comfortable with gambling in any form. So it is better this is discussed and settled before the marriage so it does not become a challenge during the marriage.

If these issue is address before marriage, maybe the lady confirm she does not have problem with moderate gambling, then there will be no issue. Perhaps people change and if the spouse change in the course of the marriage and decided she is no more comfortable with my gambling, then I will surely adjust because peace of the family is very important.

[Razmirraz]

You will find different answers to these kinds of questions. Each individual has their own way of balancing their habits with family happiness. Monthly income is very determining for a man in managing their finances. As long as the family's needs are always met and some of it can be invested for the future, a man has the freedom to carry out habits that he had done before marriage.

[salad daging]

I am married and there is no such agreement, even though I know that I really don't like seeing my husband gambling, it would be better to avoid it or just play in secret. I say this, you have to be able to provide for your family fully and gambling is just entertainment with cold money.

If you feel it is for the good and harmony of your family, why not stop?
Before you become seriously addicted to gambling, it is better to stop slowly and tell your future wife that you can do it.
Everyone does it differently, believe me they can overcome it all.

[Spaceman1000$]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

If it's becoming unhealthy for my family, I will leave it, hence it will bring peace at that moment. But I will try to explain to my spouse the benefits of me gambling, and I how I can control my gambling habit, so we can find ourselves on a common ground, and for she to understand my point of view when it comes to gambling.
Because a lot of people despise gambling because they don't understand what's all about, or maybe they thick every gambler is a addicted to it, so you have a lot of people out there with a wrong notion about it. So whenever I find myself in those situation of people that don't understand, what gambling is, I try my best to make explanation in a bid to enlighten them.

[letteredhub]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

There should be a limit to which gambling should influence the life of a man. And before a wife or husband to be will place it as a condition that you have to leave gambling before he/she gets married to you then that means you must have a bad gambling habit that he or she has observed and can't keep up with in marriage.  Although some women especially who for no reason just abhors gambling not caring to know if you're a responsible gambler or not they just don't want their spouse to gamble and that's simple. If I love that woman so well and find peace with her as a wife I won't think twice before leaving gambling. I can get entrainment and fun from other sources if that's the case.

[khiholangkang]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

This is relative and subjective also depends on someone listening to their partner or not, the fact that gambling can be done secretly without someone who knows.

I do not talk as much as my love to the prospective wife, but when gambling is a place where I look for other fun, besides playing with family, so if it is a necessity (gambling) at a certain time and my future wife does not like me gambling, then forbid me to gamble, I need to make sure that he will never find me gambling, and I play behind him without being found out, because basically when we feel we need pleasure in gambling then we will stress when we don't get that pleasure, I better gamble in silence Silence rather than causing quarrels with my candidate/wife.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

Since i am a man, i refer to the opposite sex as female. what I have to first of all point out here is that, future wife is not a wife yet, there is every possibility that someone considered to be a future wife might end up not becoming the wife in the future, so, in this regard, I do not see any reason why I as a man should obey everything she says or ask me to do even when we are not yet married.

Gambling is part of me, and no future wife can stop me from gambling, maybe when we are finally and fully married and have become husband and wife, I may consider quitting gambling if she asks me to quit, and I indeed know I should quit based on circumstances surrounding our financial life which my gambling is only making worst.
Outside of this, if my wife is very comfortable and we both financially doing well and very happy, I do not see why she should have any problem with me gambling since it's my own way of having fun and making myself happy.

And as for future wife, she has no place to decide for me what to do and what not to do as long as I know that what I am doing is not wrong.

[jrrsparkles]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

Yes, only if it's for financial reasons. But asking you to stop something by your partner even if you do the thing with complete control is not fair.

However, it is important for both partners to be open-minded and engage in discussions that will lead to a healthy relationship so anything that concerns one has to be sorted out as soon as possible for long-lasting love life.

[Sim_card]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

I believe that in everything, what we should put first is love and understanding. If my the girl that I want to get married to says that I should quit gambling before we get married, I might find it difficult because, I can gamble in secrete and there is nothing at stake yet. If it happens that we got married, and she noticed that I still gamble, and tell me to stop, I don't have any option than to stop gambling for the sake of family. There are some habits in us that we must give up in our marriages to stay peaceful, because in marriage one much sacrifice for the other and vice versa for it to work. Although, I cab still gamble occasionally but it wouldn't be a habit anymore, since my wife is not cool with it.

[masulum]

You will find different answers to these kinds of questions. Each individual has their own way of balancing their habits with family happiness. Monthly income is very determining for a man in managing their finances. As long as the family's needs are always met and some of it can be invested for the future, a man has the freedom to carry out habits that he had done before marriage.

true, everyone will choose a different way, but OP's point is how if it was you? not other people. If that happened to you, what would you do, would you stop or play in secret behind it?

For me, I have a family, and I no longer gamble, not because of a mutual decision. but rather financial factors. If my finances improve, I will choose to be more careful if I want to play. because current experience is the best teacher for me not to use too much money for gambling or for something that not really need just for fun and entertaint. Because we never know what bad things will happen to us.

[Slow death]

I'm not married yet, but I think that in a relationship there needs to be consensus on all the things the couple wants to do, to avoid fights, to prevent one of the parties from making a decision and that this decision could harm both parties and then the other party. who did not agree with the decision will start every day to criticize the side that did the thing that went wrong, so it is always very good that people make decisions by consensus to avoid fights and in the case of gambling if or when the woman Does not like gambling and asks her husband not to gamble or to stop gambling

so in my opinion the husband should stop gambling for the good of the marriage, in many cases women are correct when they make that decision to forbid their husbands from gambling because they know that their husbands have problems with gambling and that they can easily become addicted to gambling, that's why before they become addicted, they take very harsh measures that include banning them from gambling, in my opinion this is a good decision and men should listen to what their wives are saying.

There are many cases in which men, even though they know they have wives and children, start taking money that was meant to pay bills and start depositing it in casinos, gambling and losing everything, but this doesn't just happen with gambling, many families exist very strong fights because one of the parties takes money that was supposed to pay bills and goes to drink beer and becomes addicted to alcohol causing the marriage to end and the children are always the ones who suffer the most

[Cantsay]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this?

Op if you were expecting to see a "YES or NO" answer then I am afraid you have failed.

This type of question does not have an answer for those who have not been told to do it and those who are yet to marry. Only those that have gotten married and have stopped their gambling habit because their spouse asked them to, are the only ones that should be entitled to answer this type of question.

I am yet to marry and it will be very easy for me to come to the front of my screen and start typing all sorts of nonsense just because I haven't experienced it yet. I could say NO I won't allow a woman to control me or my answer could be YES because I love my wife but all that is just because the real deal hasn't been done yet. The same goes for others that are replying to this thread, they might claim YES but when faced with a similar situation in real life they will choose an entirely different option.

[Yatsan]

To do so? Probably not. But will rather end it by initiative if ever I become problematic with this activity. So far I am earning even if it is not as big as the others, I still consider it as one of my resources when it comes to bills. I also enjoy sportsbetting which for me adds excitement and thrill rather than just watching the game. Unless she has a valid reason to do so in particular with things which are actually occuring; they might associate it with cases concerning addiction but if I’m not falling into such situation then I guess that would be the time wherein it won’t be valid. And if they won’t be rational with such claim then I’d be defending this activity.

[bittraffic]

What does she want to achieve?
This can only happen when the couple is just around 1 year old. Give it a time after 2 years of them being married, the girl will get over it. But the wife may still request something like this if the couple doesn't have a kid.  Don't give too much favor to your wife, they will control you for good, and most likely even their siblings will decide for you.  

[Dimitri94]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

Every individual has own preference. The one who will be my life partner she must be well wisher. But if I ask her why she is asking me to leave from gambling? If I'm addicted, if I don't give time to the family or if I don't give the financial support the family needs then she can tell me to give up gambling but if she asks me to leave from gambling without any reason then I must tell her. I am not obliged to listen. I know she wants happy life for me but should also understand how to value my love. But excess of anything is bad for those who indulge in excess should be avoided.

[Fortify]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

"Future" wife/husband? What a strange way to phrase it. The answer should be yes, but then if they are asking you such things then it might symbolize that you have a bigger problem and are already in a stage of denial about it. I would first ask them why they are asking such a question, is it a matter of overbearing control in your life style or is it because they are concerned you might be wasting your future funds together? If that is the case you might need to take it a step further and possibly address some wider trust issues in the relationship, before committing to marriage. However it is good to have a relationship where you feel free to discuss such things openly.

[shinratensei_]

The context of this thread is not yet far from this one https://bitcointalk.org/index.php?topic=5453882.0

The result is vary depending how anyone was responding it. I think that thread above could be used as a good reference to get an answer regarding it. It should be acknowledged that even in different threads, people can have differing opinions.