The rate of divorce in the society

[Peter Faith]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

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[mu_enrico]

The problem is you don't have a clear and full view of the data. Based on this post the global average divorce rate is actually in decline, from 1.8 to 1.6 (even though it's 1-year-old data). So it varies between countries, ethnicities, etc., therefore what you see is only what's available around you and you shouldn't extrapolate it to the bigger population.

Yeah, the reason may be as stupid as the makeup thing, but in the US, the main reasons are lack of commitment and affairs.

[Gozie51]

I think I can attribute it to so many factors and it depends on different causes for different continent. In Africa, we can say the falling or disintegration of family system is one of the reasons, hardship and unemployment as another factor, the drive for greener pastures and brain drain where one party consent to contract marriage and afterwards it goes into divorce.

Modernity has dealt a great blow on the marriage institution where sex is most dignified and sacred but now, you can get sex just anywhere. Women now see themselves as object of beauty and are easily triggered to anger and hungry for divorce and nothing holds her back unlike in the past where the family is an integral part of marriage. In fact, some women prefer to stay as single mother than living with a man as husband and once they have had a baby, they are good for divorce.

The reasons for divorce is enormous and with difference based on jurisdiction.

[Miles2006]

I think what most people fail to understand about marriage is marriage is a Union and not a contract. Most people fail to understand themselves individually before getting married, I think the fall of marriages is people fail to know themselves first like the example you made a man divorce his wife after seeing her without makeup that shows that there is no love for each other, all what the man wants is a beautiful face and not a wife. People now rush into marriage forgetting that marriage is forever and needs time first.
For example in my country women rush into marriage because they are not financially stable so they need someone to take care of them and that's a wrong impression, before getting married both parties need to be independent financially. Secondly most people lack the process to take before getting married. Let me talk about one, courtship; this is the dating period where two individuals get to know about themselves better. Thirdly most marriages lack a healthy communication, I feel communication in every marriage is important and any marriage that lacks communication will not last

[DeathAngel]

Societal norms & values have evolved leading to a greater acceptance & recognition of individual happiness & personal fulfillment as essential in a marriage. Economic independence has grown allowing individuals to support themselves outside of marriage. The stigma around divorce has decreased making it a more accessible option for unhappy couples. Changing gender roles & expectations have also impacted relationships. These factors among others have contributed to higher divorce rates compared to the past.

[Die_empty]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

Infidelity is the major cause of divorce in my location. Couples are no longer faithful to their marital vows and this has led to so much problems. Another reason is social media influence. Many people are now been influenced by the lives or marriages of celebrities. People tend to copy the lifestyle of these celebrities which has given rise to intolerance and lack of respect. Most women want to handle their homes like these superstars without considering their cultural background.

You shouldn't also compare this generation with your forefathers. Before now, women were treated like second-class citizens so they were forced to endure oppression and molestation in marriage. Currently, women have started getting the right attention due to various awareness campaign and favorable legislation. So a woman will no longer be forced to remain in an abusive marriage due to cultural and religious beliefs. It is now easier for them to report domestic violence to relevant authorities and even to get a divorce.

[OgNasty]

I think a lot of reasons are contributing to this. Sure, people are getting married much faster these days and sometimes for reasons like insurance that aren’t exactly love. Then there’s also the establishment that’s pushing a population control narrative trying to convince everyone they’re gay or trans. It’s an uphill battle for regular people these days.

[Hispo]

Perhaps it was because in previous decades marriage was more appreciated and was considered to be a union which was supposed to last for life. It was not the legal system which changed as much as society and the minds of the people did.

In school I was taught that being someone's boy/girl friend was supposed to be a long relationship stage, so the couple could know each other as much as possible, before taking the big step of marriage. It would seem that today there is no so much difference between marriage and being someone's boy/girl friend, beyond the legal aspects of it and the paperwork involved in the process.

[Strongkored]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

Both parties are at fault when they divorce because they cannot maintain their commitment. In my opinion, divorce is acceptable when one party is physically or mentally violent, but if you divorce only for the reasons you mentioned, it is stupid, and maybe when examined by a psychiatrist there is already a mental disorder. because before marriage there is of course an introduction and courtship phase, so how can he realize that his wife is not beautiful after marriage?
What happens in your environment may be different from other environments so it cannot be concluded that divorce is increasing. In my country, divorce cases are indeed increasing and the percentage increase is quite high, which is quite sad, but the number of divorces in each province is different, but overall it is increasing, so if there are a lot of divorces in a region A, it doesn't necessarily mean that region B will suffer the same fate. Source

[Die_empty]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

In my country's law deception is a justifiable ground to seek divorce. But if you marry because of physical beauty you will be disappointed because it can be faked. Get married to somebody you are comfortable with or without makeup. I am not comfortable with girls who wear markups because they don't look real to me. A good character is far better than physical beauty, We all know people can change later in life but as much as the relationship is not abusive, criminal, or violent, it is better to endure. You will not have a perfect spouse if you know he/she is not indulging in any criminal activity and doesn't molest, disrespect, or act violently, such a spouse can be managed

[Frankolala]

People think that marriage is something that they can use to raise their shoulders and be proud of without knowing what is involved in marriage. They fail to understand the challenges and obstacle in marriage that one must be ready to sacrifice for his/her marriage to make sure it works out.

This is why they jump into marrying someone that they don't know too well or someone that is not their match, but because they think marriage is a competition, they involved themselves with someone that they don't love and after the marriage, when they realized that what they were expecting is not so,  they go for divorce. I call it blind marriage.

[Dunamisx]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

What have we considered about the foundation of every relationship, what are the individuals help and support we give towards having our marriage work out as expected, what are the abnormalities we do and we think are right or normal things in our own sight, how considerable are we when it comes to ourself  and the partner we have, how selfish are we and how arrogant do we appear in our marriage, when we look into all these, we can see that two cannot work or live together unless they agree with each other, are we bed mate or soul mate, divorce is not the problem, what we did that lead to divorce are the problems.

[coolcoinz]

I'd attribute this to the degradation of morality. 50 years ago you did not have social media that screamed "be a strong independent woman and show that you can have a lot of men" at girls and "all women are whores and gold diggers" at men. So, many young people look for open relationships and assume the partner is going to cheat, so they don't even try to be faithful, which leads to them cheating...

I know some people that stay together for many years, me included, but me and my wife came from broken families, so we were really afraid of ending up like our parents and proceeded very slow in our own relationship. We respect each other and this is very important.

[uchegod-21]

The stigma around divorce has decreased making it a more accessible option for unhappy couples. Changing gender roles & expectations have also impacted relationships.

I totally agree with you here. The stigma around divorce has decreased greatly. This is the reason couples are no longer committed because they can always exit if need be. Growing up we were told marriage is "for better and for worst". The current generation do not believe in that phrase.  Once marriage becomes a burden,  divorce becomes the next option and it is being celebrated.

In Africa (especially my country), marriage used to be held at high esteem. Divorce was something to be ashamed of. In Africa, the man is the head of the family and his decisions stands, but today civilization has made everyone wise. Both partners share equal rights and responsibilities.  Where one partner faults,threats of divorce spring up. We have lost our values.

[Stepstowealth]

But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

The society that has made it seem normal is the problem in this case because if Divorce has heavily been criticized each time, the rate of divorce would have reduced. Now it is normal to young people that they can decide to divorce whenever they feel comfortable with it. Marriage is no longer for better for worse, no longer forever and a day more, it is now a temporary thing in most cases and the value for the institution dropped. To avoid divorce, try not rush and hurry into marriage.

[Natsuu]

But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

The society that has made it seem normal is the problem in this case because if Divorce has heavily been criticized each time, the rate of divorce would have reduced. Now it is normal to young people that they can decide to divorce whenever they feel comfortable with it. Marriage is no longer for better for worse, no longer forever and a day more, it is now a temporary thing in most cases and the value for the institution dropped. To avoid divorce, try not rush and hurry into marriage.

Right. Marriage should be for mature people. It needs people who are emotionally ready, patient, and understanding. It's not just a piece of paper, it's a whole journey that requires maturity to handle the ups and downs together.

But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

That’s because reasons for divorce has always been there like abusive partners.
Blaming just men or women isn't fair. Maybe the did love each other but it is  more about adapting to new challenges and finding deeper connections. Real, open communication and understanding each other’s flaws can make a huge difference. It's about evolving together but not to the extent that marriage becomes inhumane.

[AYOBA]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

Some guys are still willing to propose to women with out full understand them, which is why the amount of devoiced stuff is growing daily. Husband and wife relationships are not like those with typical girlfriends, where you can break up at any time. A complete understanding between you and your proposal is worthy of marriage. Prior to accepting each other, one must be aware of the other's habits and character. You can just approach a female you see today, ask her to marry you and even say that, "Let's get married next month." What are our predictions for the conclusion? Therefore, it is not necessary for us men to rush into finding marriages.

[btc78]

you cannot pinpoint a single reason for divorce there are various factors that affects couples such as culture, for example a lot of asian countries still have the old way of thinking and values that divorce are often frowned upon in society even if its legal in their country as opposed to america where divorce has been almost normalized now in the situation you gave the man seems to be too superficial but i would say theyre both wrong for not spending enough time in getting to know each other before committing to a marriage

[Marykeller]

It's unfortunate enough that the modern civilization we in Africa embraced has now made divorce be normal thing in the society we live in, which our forefathers won't agree to.

Some decades ago, what people divorced in today's society, can't be attributed to what got our parents divorced years back. Marriage has changed and people are no longer marrying for love but instead for fame, physical attributes and appearance, and unplanned circumstances(pregnancy).

It is now in a marriage that you will find not enough reason for a lady to decide to divorce his husband based on the reason of not satisfying her sexually, and not providing and paying her bills as she wants to, etc.

[Mate2237]

The problem is you don't have a clear and full view of the data. Based on this post the global average divorce rate is actually in decline, from 1.8 to 1.6 (even though it's 1-year-old data). So it varies between countries, ethnicities, etc., therefore what you see is only what's available around you and you shouldn't extrapolate it to the bigger population.

Yeah, the reason may be as stupid as the makeup thing, but in the US, the main reasons are lack of commitment and affairs.

I like your presentation of data. In divorce cases there are different factors that constitute divorce in the whole world. Some couples divorce because of financial, some cheating, some unsatisfied sex habit, some commitment as you said which can also lead to poor communication and unfertilized marital status etc. And because of all those factors, African men decided to marry more than one wives in those days but when the civilization came to the African countries, monogamous relationship and family was introduced and when a man and a woman married and above mentioned are found then marriage is dismissed. Op yours example is even better. I have seen 3hours marriage. The marriage ended at the alter of the wedding. It was genotype that end the marriage.

And that is when you are about to marry follow all the due process and make sure you marry someone you like and love. Marry someone that can give you sex the way you want. And before you marry prescribe all your likes and dislikes so that when you people are coming together, there will be no argument.