The rate of divorce in the society

[boyptc]

But, I think peer pressure some times can affect some persons and the responsibilities that comes with been married can be very pressing sometimes.

You nailed it.

If someone who's too reliant to the society, peers, parents and whoever influences his/her decisions might get into forced relationship and then marriage.

Because they like to compare themselves from the other people and that's a wrong thing if you're too relying with the impression of people and what they think of what you should have at your age and one of it is about being with someone or getting married already.

[Victorik]

But, I think peer pressure some times can affect some persons and the responsibilities that comes with been married can be very pressing sometimes.

You nailed it.

If someone who's too reliant to the society, peers, parents and whoever influences his/her decisions might get into forced relationship and then marriage.

Because they like to compare themselves from the other people and that's a wrong thing if you're too relying with the impression of people and what they think of what you should have at your age and one of it is about being with someone or getting married already.

Yeah. There are. So many married couples taking marriage lessons from unmarried people forgetting that when it comes to marriage experience plays a very important part.
Moreso, you don't need to compare your marriage with others, no two marriages are the same. Just identity what works for you and stick to it, instead of copying different people.

[Dunamisx]

The rate of divorce is fast increasing because people are finding it difficult to cope with each other because the economic depreciation is also causing many marital challenges, though this shouldn't be a reason for any but we can also consider how things have been going wrong through family economic and financial challenges, also we can consider our personal behaviours and attitudes, some people cannot just learn to live with others in peace without causing trouble before they leave, divorce occurs through anger and series of disappointment with loss of trust in your partner, we must know ourselves well and get acquainted with each other before marriage, then be able to be tolerant, self-control and hard-working, then ultimately we must love each other genuinely, divorce will be far from you.

[boyptc]

But, I think peer pressure some times can affect some persons and the responsibilities that comes with been married can be very pressing sometimes.

You nailed it.

If someone who's too reliant to the society, peers, parents and whoever influences his/her decisions might get into forced relationship and then marriage.

Because they like to compare themselves from the other people and that's a wrong thing if you're too relying with the impression of people and what they think of what you should have at your age and one of it is about being with someone or getting married already.

Yeah. There are. So many married couples taking marriage lessons from unmarried people forgetting that when it comes to marriage experience plays a very important part.
Moreso, you don't need to compare your marriage with others, no two marriages are the same.

Yeah.

Not every marriage is the same. Yours can be perfect in the eyes of others but your point of view seems that you're at a worse marriage. That's why we can't judge the marriage of others because we don't know what they're dealing with and how they're getting together.

Just identity what works for you and stick to it, instead of copying different people.

Exactly.

Whatever works for the couple, whether it's with your desires, material things or anything that both of you like doing. That's all you need to stick on it and enjoy things together to avoid divorce.

Time will come that you'll feel that you don't have appetite anymore to your partner but even so, choose to stay and don't fall out of love.

[Baki202]

The rate of divorce is fast increasing because people are finding it difficult to cope with each other because the economic depreciation is also causing many marital challenges, though this shouldn't be a reason for any but we can also consider how things have been going wrong through family economic and financial challenges, also we can consider our personal behaviours and attitudes, some people cannot just learn to live with others in peace without causing trouble before they leave, divorce occurs through anger and series of disappointment with loss of trust in your partner, we must know ourselves well and get acquainted with each other before marriage, then be able to be tolerant, self-control and hard-working, then ultimately we must love each other genuinely, divorce will be far from you.

People fail to understand that when you are in a relationship it is totally different from when you guys have married the level of tolerance must increase between you two and you must always learn to forgive each other frequently but when they are married everybody wants to be the boss and we must know our boundaries but a lot fails to understand each other and that is what marriage is all about, and to me, divorce is not even the best option to settle issues, they seriously need to start doing serious counseling before people start getting married if not we our generation have a problem.

[Rockstarguy]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

I think one of the reasons why the rate of divorce is at the high side is because couples don't even each other, people don't really know what they want this days. Some of our ladies they fall in love without knowing much about the character of the man, they are just interested of the relationship because of the money and later on they see that they are not compatible,  same thing with men they are carried away by the physical looks of the ladies.  I think people needs more time to check themselves to be sure if what they are going into  is something they can endure till the end of life.

[Bushdark]

The rate of divorce is fast increasing because people are finding it difficult to cope with each other because the economic depreciation is also causing many marital challenges, though this shouldn't be a reason for any but we can also consider how things have been going wrong through family economic and financial challenges, also we can consider our personal behaviours and attitudes, some people cannot just learn to live with others in peace without causing trouble before they leave, divorce occurs through anger and series of disappointment with loss of trust in your partner, we must know ourselves well and get acquainted with each other before marriage, then be able to be tolerant, self-control and hard-working, then ultimately we must love each other genuinely, divorce will be far from you.

People fail to understand that when you are in a relationship it is totally different from when you guys have married the level of tolerance must increase between you two and you must always learn to forgive each other frequently but when they are married everybody wants to be the boss and we must know our boundaries but a lot fails to understand each other and that is what marriage is all about, and to me, divorce is not even the best option to settle issues, they seriously need to start doing serious counseling before people start getting married if not we our generation have a problem.

Marriage is not compulsory for everyone so we shouldn't see marriage as a must. We can as well get a baby mama that will have children for us and live without doing things that will cause more problems for us. Majority makes mistakes by going into marriage when they can't endure a woman or man as there partner. If we know we don't have the strength to accommodate people, it is good for us to stay away from relationship instead of complaining everytime of what people are doing for us.

[Miles2006]

The rate of divorce is fast increasing because people are finding it difficult to cope with each other because the economic depreciation is also causing many marital challenges, though this shouldn't be a reason for any but we can also consider how things have been going wrong through family economic and financial challenges, also we can consider our personal behaviours and attitudes, some people cannot just learn to live with others in peace without causing trouble before they leave, divorce occurs through anger and series of disappointment with loss of trust in your partner, we must know ourselves well and get acquainted with each other before marriage, then be able to be tolerant, self-control and hard-working, then ultimately we must love each other genuinely, divorce will be far from you.

The problem is most people don't tolerate they can't just live  in peace with someone that's why most of these couples after divorce they remain single throughout their life, hardworking can also limit the rate of divorce, since everyone is talking about the economy and money issue causing divorce now, I think if both parties are working there will be no issue. Sometimes I don't know who put this law saying men will work and the women should sit at home, that's very wrong in this modern world now women also work hard some are business managers etc. So if both parties are working money should not be a problem.

[Y3shot]

Societal norms & values have evolved leading to a greater acceptance & recognition of individual happiness & personal fulfillment as essential in a marriage. Economic independence has grown allowing individuals to support themselves outside of marriage. The stigma around divorce has decreased making it a more accessible option for unhappy couples. Changing gender roles & expectations have also impacted relationships. These factors among others have contributed to higher divorce rates compared to the past.

The problem we are having this is that people don't even rate marriage be something very valuable. Civilisation had really made marriage to be something people don't even care to make it work. Women are not ready to summit themselves totally to their husband , and husband to are not ready to love and respect their wife. People think they can walk of marriage when they are not comfortable with their partner, marriage needs to adjust people tolerate one another.

[JMBitcointernational]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

The idea of divorce is global , most people go into marriage without knowing each other and they marry under recommendation  , without marriage courses, without dating each other , without formal relationship and at the end there will be no mutual agreement between both of them before marriage . Some people Marry because their parents want them to marry the girl and not because of love ,some others marry because their parents have business relationships with the proposed Inlaw’s ,and these are some factors that can lead to the end of marriage .

Divorce occurs as a result of so many things in marriage like :
1. Infidelity ( having extra marital affairs.)
2.impotency
3.infertility And many others . These factors can cause chaos in marriage and can result to divorce.

Talking about our forefathers as you mentioned in your passage , there has already been ancestral fear , women don’t talk back to their husbands , they respect their husbands, they don’t expose their nudity just like modern women now and most of our forefathers if not all of them married their wives as virgins .so the idea of olden days marriage is unique and more respected more than the current day marriage .

[Dunamisx]

The rate of divorce is fast increasing because people are finding it difficult to cope with each other because the economic depreciation is also causing many marital challenges, though this shouldn't be a reason for any but we can also consider how things have been going wrong through family economic and financial challenges, also we can consider our personal behaviours and attitudes, some people cannot just learn to live with others in peace without causing trouble before they leave, divorce occurs through anger and series of disappointment with loss of trust in your partner, we must know ourselves well and get acquainted with each other before marriage, then be able to be tolerant, self-control and hard-working, then ultimately we must love each other genuinely, divorce will be far from you.

The problem is most people don't tolerate they can't just live  in peace with someone that's why most of these couples after divorce they remain single throughout their life, hardworking can also limit the rate of divorce, since everyone is talking about the economy and money issue causing divorce now, I think if both parties are working there will be no issue. Sometimes I don't know who put this law saying men will work and the women should sit at home, that's very wrong in this modern world now women also work hard some are business managers etc. So if both parties are working money should not be a problem.

It's alarming that people are getting divorced without having a control measure to bring this down, once a partner feels uncomfortable any longer with his spouse, they get rid of themselves through divorce and one person will be definitely hurt so badly while the other not, or the two of them being affected at the cause, there's nothing to gain for filing a divorce letter against one's partner, we only tends to show how rigid we are to comply with living peacefully with others.

[Y3shot]

The rate of divorce is fast increasing because people are finding it difficult to cope with each other because the economic depreciation is also causing many marital challenges, though this shouldn't be a reason for any but we can also consider how things have been going wrong through family economic and financial challenges, also we can consider our personal behaviours and attitudes, some people cannot just learn to live with others in peace without causing trouble before they leave, divorce occurs through anger and series of disappointment with loss of trust in your partner, we must know ourselves well and get acquainted with each other before marriage, then be able to be tolerant, self-control and hard-working, then ultimately we must love each other genuinely, divorce will be far from you.

I don't think the economy is what is causing most divorce,  the main reason for divorce is that no good understanding between the two persons.  I think people are just too fast in relationships without knowing each other. People don't go fall real love this days, what they care about is what they can benefit from each other. If people get married when they have genuine love it will difficult for split in marriage.  This days people pretend a lot and it is one of the problems people normally have in marriage.

[ItsCrafty]

In fact, today the reason for divorce is increasing, the main reason for this is that the husband and wife didn't not understand each other and cannot tolerate each other's words, so the whole problem arises from here. He says that I am captive, then the other says that I am full of freedom, so in this case, one should bear with the other, then this rate may be reduced, but to understand this, a person should study a book etc. Apart from that, whoever lives his life in a good way, then he will have peace at home and peace and security outside, but both should understand, not from one side, if in any place, what is If the husband is wrong, then the wife should explain it to him and where the wife is wrong, then the husband should understand it with gentleness, but if these two cannot understand each other, then what is the real rate of divorce? The big one and the harm in it is to the whole community.

[Jenwi]

Incompatibly is the cause. The husband and wife are supposed to be compatible before agreeing on marriage, don't allow love to control them. For instance, you can date a girl love her very well and know fully well that she doesn't meet the marriage standard since marriage is for life but out of pity and love, you go ahead to marry her. The marriage will eventually crash.

[Kelward]

I can attribute the high rate of divorce to modernization and trend, couples no longer tolerate the shortcomings of their partners, because they can easily get a divorce just like other couples. I believe that the high divorce rate is more common with influencial people and celebrities, so the larger societies looks up to these people to think that divorce is the option to settle troubled marriages.

Before this age of modernization, the divorce rate was very minimal, couples stayed together despite the marital challenges that they may face, there was genuine love tolerance. Divorce was hardly an option because other couples remains together despite the challenges that they might have.

Lastly I think that the main cause of divorce is because the traditional roles of the man and woman in the family have changed. Normally the husband is the breadwinner and provides for his family and the wife manages the home, but that system has changed now that women also works and makes money too. Therefore the modern woman now demands for equal rights in the family as a co breadwinner and refuses to be subjected to the authority of the husband. I believe that this could be the core of modern divorce, because two captains cannot be in one ship.

[Zoomic]

The reason is simple. There are nolonger shame and stigma attached to being divorced. Before now, a divorced person can barely raise up his face in public , but now, people even applaud you for leaving the marriage even when the bone of contention is a minor issue that can be fixed. This is quite pathetic and civilization should be thanked for this.

Our individual rich cultures that frown at certain societal norms have been so diluted that people look at you as being old fashioned if you choose to do the right thing. Civilization and modernisation has made everyone believe that no one is above the other and this has made the issue of 'submissiveness ' a problem to especially the women. Many others leave their marriages because they feel caged and want to explore the world.  This they do happily because the society no longer frowns at divorce. Sometimes I wonder if civilization is really a blessing to us.

[AirtelBuzz]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

Dowry is the most common reason for divorce in our country.It can be seen that many girls are asked by their parents to give dowry during marriage, but if they cannot pay it completely, then after marriage, the girl's in-laws start torturing her in various ways.
What happened in my neighborhood where her husband divorced her for non-payment of dowry.
However, in our society, the practice of dowry is decreasing and even the number of divorces is decreasing.

[Gozie51]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

This is the reason that people that are dating should be open to each other because when you keep certain things away , by the time it is discovered it will become a problem. The time of dating is the time of discovery and learning to adjust to certain things you have not found in the person or their excesses. If this is not done then there is the chance that problem might arise in the future.

Divorce is because people fall out of love and are no longer compactible with each other and if it happens like that I think it will not be a good idea that death will occur because of forcing what is not working out. To be alive to say your story is better than someone saying it for you when you are dead from an abusive marriage.

[OgNasty]

I think people just introduce more problems into their lives as modern society takes care of a lot of the issues people once had to face together.  The divorce rate has been climbing as long as I've been alive and a majority of divorces are initiated by women.  Maybe this is the result of the modern woman not needing a man and so not being willing to put up with as much as earlier generations?  In any event, you are seeing a lot of regret in today's society from both women that thought they didn't want children in their 20s and 30s and from women who disfigured themselves struggling with their gender association.  Meanwhile men who dress up as women and try to take their roles are celebrated...

[Dunamisx]

Let's start to begin to take up the challenge in making relationship and marriage work out for those in it, we can do all out best in creating an atmosphere for learning on how to live together as partners forgetting about our individual difference and embrace tolerance, this can be organized through seminars, the aim is to help married people enjoy their marriages despite the challenges involved.