He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet

[Mate2237]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

This is the importance of financial literacy and principles in gambling where we should use the money that we should use, where indeed gambling should be done responsibly and use money that is ready to be lost in gambling.

The best way is to call the wedding off because they man is not responsible enough to handle cases. How can a responsible person used his wedding planned  money to play gamble and the worst part of it All is he is not the only person that owned the money and she has the highest share of the contribution because her share was 60% and his part is 40%. I support the woman to cancel the wedding because the man will disappoint how greatly in the future.

I am more annoying than you because the behavior of the man was not right. The woman would have be a supportive to him because she was also contributing to support the marriage, and she didn't want him to looking foe money to do the wedding. Oh what a man on earth.

[GiftedMAN]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

This is the importance of financial literacy and principles in gambling where we should use the money that we should use, where indeed gambling should be done responsibly and use money that is ready to be lost in gambling.

I am more annoying than you because the behavior of the man was not right. The woman would have be a supportive to him because she was also contributing to support the marriage, and she didn't want him to looking foe money to do the wedding. Oh what a man on earth.

Calling off the wedding will not even help to resolve the issues and the shame that the man has brought to himself and that of their families but I believe that the woman should still give him some benefit of doubt since the man could not appreciate the assistance that she rendered to him by supporting him in their wedding. Right now I think the best thing to do is to take the man to rehab after the wedding because it is only an addictive gambling that can do what the man has done.

[ndutndut]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

This is the importance of financial literacy and principles in gambling where we should use the money that we should use, where indeed gambling should be done responsibly and use money that is ready to be lost in gambling.

This is all the result of an addicted gambler, he will do everything without thinking, even though using the money will have fatal consequences, but the eyes of his heart will be closed because he only has one thought, namely being able to gamble. In fact, it's not uncommon for me to hear of similar cases in my area, there are even worse ones, namely cheating on future wives and also cheating on prospective in-laws to get money for gambling. This is clearly irresponsible gambling. People who are addicted to gambling sometimes act beyond common sense. Those of us who are not addicted often think that people who are addicted to gambling are half-depressed because their actions no longer use common sense.

That's why I always pressure friends that I know before gambling, it's a good idea to first study the risks and strategies that will be used so that they can allocate funds that they can afford to lose. Including me, I never stop reading gambling advice properly, it sounds trivial but it will give us boundaries when gambling.

[Nwada001]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

My question the first day I came across this news was, What's this guy really thinking in the first place? Was he using money that was already budgeted for something else that was already fast approaching to gamble, and there was no plan or budget for that money to be replaced before the time of the wedding?
 
Such a person is not even to be pitied because they really know what they did and their mind was made up from the beginning before he took that bold step, or was the money even not enough for that wedding that made him want to try his luck if he can multiply it into something larger? I have just cracked my head around to even figure out what could really be the reason behind that bold decision, but none seems to justify that action.

[ChiBitCTy]

Honestly, he did her a huge favor.  On one hand I feel awful for her, but I feel awful for him too ( I think) gambling addiction is a real thing (not sure there's ever been any posts about it though, someone should start the first one ever here)..if he's truly that bad off with his addiction, it's just sad all around. Could have been worse though, they get married and then he shows his addictions down the road after kids and years of marriage and time wasted etc.  No thanks.

[Litzki1990]

Since both of them had saved money jointly, it was not a good decision to use the entire money of the other for gambling without the permission of one. If gambling was to be done then the gambler should have discussed gambling with his spouse beforehand and if his partner agreed to gamble and allowed him to gamble from their savings then he could have gambled. The amount of money you mentioned here is a lot of money and if the entire amount has been lost by gambling then the person has acted irresponsibly. In gambling, money will come and money will go, it is normal, so if you spend 100% of your savings on gambling and if you lose 100%, then I don't think it is a responsible person's job.

[fruktik]

The best way is to call the wedding off because they man is not responsible enough to handle cases. How can a responsible person used his wedding planned  money to play gamble and the worst part of it All is he is not the only person that owned the money and she has the highest share of the contribution because her share was 60% and his part is 40%. I support the woman to cancel the wedding because the man will disappoint how greatly in the future.

I am more annoying than you because the behavior of the man was not right. The woman would have be a supportive to him because she was also contributing to support the marriage, and she didn't want him to looking foe money to do the wedding. Oh what a man on earth.

This already reminds me of my addiction, when all my money went to gambling. In this case, the situation is exactly the same. This person is sick and urgently needs to be treated without fail before it is too late. I suffered from this myself and it was so difficult for me to refuse such entertainment, if it could be called that at that time. All the money that came into my possession immediately disappeared into the casino.

I recommend that this woman think several times about how to help her soulmate if she loves this person very much. There is no need to put off solving this problem.

[hyudien]

Calling off the wedding will not even help to resolve the issues and the shame that the man has brought to himself and that of their families but I believe that the woman should still give him some benefit of doubt since the man could not appreciate the assistance that she rendered to him by supporting him in their wedding. Right now I think the best thing to do is to take the man to rehab after the wedding because it is only an addictive gambling that can do what the man has done.

Indeed, using savings for gambling is certainly not good, it is also true that what you said canceling the marriage is not the solution nor will it solve the problems that occur. There is no problem in my opinion that the woman wants to withdraw her help because her intention to help was not for that but to make it easier for the man, only I the man cannot appreciate the help that has been given. It is natural for me to think that this woman is angry or upset.
If indeed the woman is patient enough to still be able to forgive and accept the man's return, maybe the choice that must be taken is to take the man to rehabilitation to be able to treat the problem, because in my opinion those who use savings for gambling are too far gone.

[bakasabo]

I dont know on which part of the world such police exist, but I definitely wont wish to live there. I dont believe there is a law in any country, that will force one family member to be arrested, because he has spend money. That is an absurd. Even if they are not married yet, how can police force someone to repay money one person has spent? If there was a contract between, then with a help of lawyer it can be negotiated. Since they are family, they divide everything half and share. Its family budget. If wife can call police because husband has spend money, then this is a some kind of a jungle law.

I think sometimes the law enforcement are a little bit fair to some gender and that are the females, if it were to be  the other way round, no arrest will be done on them. However, I think there is a rule of law that can make a person to be arrested in a situation where the husband doesn't want to pay and because the lady doesn't have alternatives to make him pay, then she call police for assistance so he will know how serious she want her money back.

In a situation where an arrest was done, there is nothing bad in it but the suspect must not spend more than 24 hours in that prison, the lady must contact his/ her lawyer for legal proceedings so that the court will arranged a day for them otherwise the guy will be release and if court notice is not giving to the suspect, she can't do anything again. Though, sometimes this kind of situation are best handle at home amicably.

Like police have nothing else to do, than to solve domestic problems. Even if they havent married yet, they probably live together. Which means that guy did not steal anything. I can imagine if someone would call a police, if someone you live with took something that is not his. This is just absurd. If they were collecting money for wedding together, how can she prove which of them were his and her? If that guy would have punched her in the face and took money for gambling, then yes, he will be fined for violence. Anyway, nobody will ever get arrested for such a issue.

If I was that man, I would have repaid her those $500 and split. Making public scandal due to such silly reason is the big red flag that the man will have lots of troubles with that woman in future.

[mammusu]

Calling off the wedding will not even help to resolve the issues and the shame that the man has brought to himself and that of their families but I believe that the woman should still give him some benefit of doubt since the man could not appreciate the assistance that she rendered to him by supporting him in their wedding. Right now I think the best thing to do is to take the man to rehab after the wedding because it is only an addictive gambling that can do what the man has done.

Indeed, using savings for gambling is certainly not good, it is also true that what you said canceling the marriage is not the solution nor will it solve the problems that occur. There is no problem in my opinion that the woman wants to withdraw her help because her intention to help was not for that but to make it easier for the man, only I the man cannot appreciate the help that has been given. It is natural for me to think that this woman is angry or upset.
If indeed the woman is patient enough to still be able to forgive and accept the man's return, maybe the choice that must be taken is to take the man to rehabilitation to be able to treat the problem, because in my opinion those who use savings for gambling are too far gone.

Viewed from any point of view, this action cannot be justified and it is wrong to spend your savings on gambling. This is what we should pay attention to, both for those who are married and for those who are not yet married, how we can find a life partner who can be responsible. The reason is that spending your savings is a sign of someone who is irresponsible, especially if you spend the money on gambling.

In my opinion, the woman is legal and has the right to cancel the marriage, because this is something big, even though it is true that this does not completely solve the problem. However, if a woman can accept her man again, then she must ensure that he will not repeat the same mistake. The thing is, you need to remember that building a household is for life, so you have to take a lot of consideration, especially if at the start both women and men show an irresponsible attitude like that. Don't let the same thing happen again when they are truly married.

This is a concern or lesson for everyone, whether women or men and for those who are married or unmarried.

[Salahmu]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

This is the importance of financial literacy and principles in gambling where we should use the money that we should use, where indeed gambling should be done responsibly and use money that is ready to be lost in gambling.

The best way is to call the wedding off because they man is not responsible enough to handle cases. How can a responsible person used his wedding planned  money to play gamble and the worst part of it All is he is not the only person that owned the money and she has the highest share of the contribution because her share was 60% and his part is 40%. I support the woman to cancel the wedding because the man will disappoint how greatly in the future.

I am more annoying than you because the behavior of the man was not right. The woman would have be a supportive to him because she was also contributing to support the marriage, and she didn't want him to looking foe money to do the wedding. Oh what a man on earth.

Is really annoying seeing how most people behave towards gambling I mean how can a man with his brain intact behave that way, is totally shameful and believe me he is going to regret his actions forever because he may not have the opportunity or lucky of meeting that kind of woman again because is already obvious that the woman will leave him because after losing all the money they will be back to square one again looking for how to race another money again and there is no way the woman will aggree to wait because the man has already proven that he is not responsible and with the mindset he had even if the money was bigger than that he would have possibly use all for the Gambling, well truly I don't really no his reason, whether he was doing it based on the influence of alcohol or anything but the fact is that is very shameful.

[LFC_Bitcoin]

I wonder if she left him when calling off the wedding. I see stories like this all the time, there is no excuse for behaviour like this. If you really love somebody you won’t do something like this that would hurt somebody so much.

Obviously addictions are terrible and can really affect peoples lives but a person who loves his fiancé would never betray them like this.

[bangjoe]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

This is the importance of financial literacy and principles in gambling where we should use the money that we should use, where indeed gambling should be done responsibly and use money that is ready to be lost in gambling.

The best way is to call the wedding off because they man is not responsible enough to handle cases. How can a responsible person used his wedding planned  money to play gamble and the worst part of it All is he is not the only person that owned the money and she has the highest share of the contribution because her share was 60% and his part is 40%. I support the woman to cancel the wedding because the man will disappoint how greatly in the future.

I am more annoying than you because the behavior of the man was not right. The woman would have be a supportive to him because she was also contributing to support the marriage, and she didn't want him to looking foe money to do the wedding. Oh what a man on earth.

This does make us disappointed and shameful on behalf of men here, yes whatever the amount between the woman's share and the man's is the man's fault, I also support that the woman to leave the man for overreacting and making a very fatal mistake for their future, if the relationship continues, I think the man's mentality is already in a bad state that might make it much worse in the future, it's better to go and leave men like that.

With gambling alone he can lose and behave impulsively what about other trials in his life maybe indeed the man needs to learn from regret and improve his life, and should return 40% of the money owned by his prospective woman.

[GideonGono]

The girl should leave the guy, it is already a sign and a good one to dodge a bullet.
Imagine how could he just spend recklessly the money that both of them save for a special occasion, if she continues to live with him surely it would just continue on woth not just their savings, but also the money for their daily expenses, this guy would just make excuse and continue to gamble with most of their money.

[STT]

She should thank the man for being so honest before the marriage.  Its a large cost but far less expensive then finding out afterwards.   Unless he receives treatment she now knows he will be bankrupt or unable to hold any money in his name.   

Some people would go ahead with relationship but the marriage is obviously hard for her to save up for alone and I think its indicating they will not stay together.   Its super sad that purely money has split up an otherwise happy relationship.   I've heard of marriages where the man just cannot be given more then immediate money and they carried on anyway, but he might not find that acceptable any more then she would.

[bubilas]

The girl should leave the guy, it is already a sign and a good one to dodge a bullet.
Imagine how could he just spend recklessly the money that both of them save for a special occasion, if she continues to live with him surely it would just continue on woth not just their savings, but also the money for their daily expenses, this guy would just make excuse and continue to gamble with most of their money.

I think the only thing worse than such an act is for a gambler to lose money that would have been intended for his children.
Seriously, what was this guy thinking? He allegedly wanted to multiply the amount for their wedding, but this sounds like a very stupid excuse from a problem gambler who is already so addicted to gambling that he even spent money on such a holy celebration as a wedding! I think this girl needs to forget him immediately and go to another guy who won't spend money together on their entertainment.

[Mate2237]

As we are judging this one another one has happened again. And this time it is the opposition counterpart. A woman won 1.5 billions Naira and asked the court to divorce the marriage and in the process of the judgement, the court order the lady to give all the money to her ex-husband. I saw the news in social media platforms and precisely Facebook. And I quote.

"Wife divorce husband after winning 1.5 billions Naira and court says give all to the ex-husband". And she won the money in lottery game. And according to the judge. The woman acted fraudulent way therefore she has to return all the money to the husband.

[Gheka]

The girl should leave the guy, it is already a sign and a good one to dodge a bullet.
Imagine how could he just spend recklessly the money that both of them save for a special occasion, if she continues to live with him surely it would just continue on woth not just their savings, but also the money for their daily expenses, this guy would just make excuse and continue to gamble with most of their money.

When both have agreed to get married, decisions should be more thorough and in a relatively objective situation as well as the real reason behind it, a girl giving up her fiance is relatively a heavy decision because this guy also has good intentions but is quite dreamy, instead of blaming, working together to overcome it will improve the relationship, not necessarily a wedding right now. Risky gamblers are not always people who should be avoided, the important thing is still the story of the effort to achieve something behind, clearly here the fiance is not focusing on greed, he is being honest to achieve a better life for both of them

[junder]

This is all the result of an addicted gambler, he will do everything without thinking, even though using the money will have fatal consequences, but the eyes of his heart will be closed because he only has one thought, namely being able to gamble. In fact, it's not uncommon for me to hear of similar cases in my area, there are even worse ones, namely cheating on future wives and also cheating on prospective in-laws to get money for gambling. This is clearly irresponsible gambling. People who are addicted to gambling sometimes act beyond common sense. Those of us who are not addicted often think that people who are addicted to gambling are half-depressed because their actions no longer use common sense.

That's why I always pressure friends that I know before gambling, it's a good idea to first study the risks and strategies that will be used so that they can allocate funds that they can afford to lose. Including me, I never stop reading gambling advice properly, it sounds trivial but it will give us boundaries when gambling.

What you say is correct, of course this fatal action was caused by a serious gambling addiction so the perpetrator dared to take action without thinking twice because he only thought about what he wanted. Even though he probably did it because he wanted to double up to have more money, unfortunately he lost self-control by risking all of his marriage savings which got him into very serious trouble. It is certain that cases like this are irresponsible gambling, because many actions taken do not make the situation better, but actually make the situation worse.

People who are addicted can of course do things that don't make sense, they can even do things that can harm other people who don't know anything. From here we can see that gambling addiction is not a good thing, therefore we must be able to gamble healthily so as not to make ourselves addicted to gambling. Gambling is not wrong and is not bad if we can limit everything properly, but the absence of clear limits makes many people addicted to gambling and experience many bad things.

[Mr. Magkaisa]

I also feel sorry for the lady but life goes on. If she called off the wedding, life goes on.

But I want to ask a question. The lady only called off the wedding and continue with the man or she also broke up with the man? The finance may not be a gambler but just want to try his luck, but that is stupidity.

I have seen something like this before but I did not know who contributed the money. Men like some risky. Some of them were luck but some were not lucky.

           -   It's not clear if the woman has divorced the guy. But always, in such situations or conditions, the woman probably won't stay with the guy to marry, unless the guy shows sincerity in asking for a call and finds a way to make their marriage work again.

Because it is really stupid to use the funds reserved for the wedding day of the woman who will be with you for the rest of your life. It seems as if the guy just made a decision like that; he is immediately irresponsible. But what I'm wondering is that the girl didn't even oppose the guy's decision.