What's the best advice or should I just let him

[lienfaye]

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

Do you noticed something as a bad effect of his gambling activity? If not, then let him be because maybe that's his way to entertain himself. Moreover, as a senior living alone (with his helper) away from his family, you really need an activity to spend your time and enjoy to prevent thinking of bad thoughts like the feeling of being neglected.

So just be a neighbor that he can talk to. You can give advice especially if you're a gambler as well but don't make it to a point that you seem interfering to his business.

[klidex]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

actually this problem is not that important because there is has nothing to do with you @OP and this is their personal matter, but if you are worried about your neighbor there is no harm in giving advice but with wise words so as not to be easily offended, but it seems like this woman he was just lonely, he used the money for his personal enjoyment, maybe if he wasn't lonely and had someone to chat with, the woman would be able to forget about gambling gradually, someone who was familiar with gambling when he was young, in old age would definitely want to do it again occasionally just for fun. becomes entertainment for those who experience loneliness in old age so it actually doesn't matter even if the woman gambles because she may not be chasing losses or becoming addicted because her goal may be just for entertainment.

[Mr. Magkaisa]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

   -  I don't think you need to advise him anymore because he is just enjoying his life; he has finished or fulfilled his job as a father to his children.

As far as I can see, gambling is just a hobby; just let him do what he wants to do, and I also think that he is satisfied and happy with the
life he has reached and for his children as well, in my opinion. Then you know that most senior citizens are sensitive, and do you think they should take gambling seriously? I don't think so.

[Litzki1990]

As you said the lady is a widow and she is living on pension money. He is living with his children with the salary of a caretaker of pension money but in this way he can not only lead a normal life but more to bring up the children and educate them well thinking that maybe he is at such a stage of age that gambling is his profession. Chosen as  If he can master gambling properly and gamble the right way then I think he can provide a good financial support to his family from here. As that old lady is your neighbor it is your responsibility to help her as much as you can. I am not talking about financial help as he has chosen gambling as his profession but you will give him as much knowledge and help as you can about gambling and hope he will benefit greatly.

[angrybirdy]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

   -  I don't think you need to advise him anymore because he is just enjoying his life; he has finished or fulfilled his job as a father to his children.

As far as I can see, gambling is just a hobby; just let him do what he wants to do, and I also think that he is satisfied and happy with the
life he has reached and for his children as well, in my opinion. Then you know that most senior citizens are sensitive, and do you think they should take gambling seriously? I don't think so.

You have a point, You can approach him politely or talked with him about on what he's doing but dont give him an advice if you're not asked for it. Maybe what you supposed to do as a concern neighbor is to check him if he's okay or you can accompany him if he needs someone to talk to, I think playing gambling is one of his coping mechanism because he just misses his children or possible he is sad. You're right, mostly senior citizens is very sensitive in everything that's why i suggest to not interfere in his hobby. Just let him enjoy his retirement life.

[Fiatless]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

Nobody is above correction. He is a senior citizen doesn't mean that he knows everything. For me, if I see anyone going astray and I have the opportunity to help I will gladly do that. If you observe that he is getting addicted, as a responsible gambler you should give some advice. But this will depend on some factors like:

1- You have to be sure that your observation is true so that it will not be as if you are insulting him. Ensure you observe him very well to ascertain if he is indeed suffering from gambling disorder.

2- Your involvement in his personal life will also depend on the culture of your area. Some societies are highly individualistic. Everybody minds their business and you don't have the right to intrude on people's matters. But if your location upholds interaction with neighbors, then you have good footings to advise him.

3- You shouldn't just start advising him without making him your friend. Let there be a relationship between both of you before you go on with the advice about his addiction.

4- Advise him respectfully. Choose your words carefully and control the tone of your voice. Don't forget that the elderly can be easily irritated and feel insulted. You should also be ready for any response, don't be offended too.

[Yamifoud]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

Knowing that he is very active in online casinos and gambling, I thought that he was already addicted to gambling.
I'd see his situation as all about making himself enjoy instead of getting bored alone. In fact, his children are professionals already which means that he never worries about their future aside from pleasing himself and doesn't bother to tell his children because probably they will stop him.

You either tell him not to really get into addiction or neglect his health but suggesting he will stop gambling, it surely doesn't work.

[slapper]

You're doing well to notice these things. It's what neighbors do, right? They protect each other. Your neighbor is a senior and deserves to enjoy his years, money, and time. But enjoyment has limited. It's no longer fun when it becomes addiction, a major issue. You must step in, but do so carefully. You don't rush in and tell him his problem. No, that's not how you do it. You talk, you converse, you build trust. You must be the expert he doesn't know he needs. Share stories of how internet gambling can get out of hand and how it's meant to keep you playing and betting.

[inthelongrun]

I don't think old people doing stuff means it's something they missed when they were young. I started betting at a young age and I have no plans of stopping even when I grow old.

You seem to have developed a deep friendship so maybe there is a way to find out if he is betting small amounts or something big already. Because betting regularly with minimal amounts is not worrisome. You can approach him when he is in a good mood and do it like you're just joking or when both of you are laughing or having fun.

Provided he is indeed betting huge amounts then the best thing is to just simply tell him the truth. The house rules and everything. You can also persuade him into sports betting in order for him to limit his bets. Sports betting also needs time since doing some research is needed. Ask him about his favorite sports and his teams and athletes.

[GigaBit]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

As he is not yet addicted but on the way to becoming addicted so at this point if possible he should be given an early idea of addiction otherwise he may go astray. If he is given advance ideas he can keep himself very safe there. But I don't know how long he has been gambling. If he has gambling habit for a long time then I think it will not have any harmful effect for him but if gambling for a short period of time then chances of him getting addicted will increase. Since he is single, gambling can be a good platform for him to pass the time. Since he is gambling with his own money, no one has the right to say anything to him.

[ethereumhunter]

This is about the concern of someone who sees his neighbor often gambling and wants to remind him about the dangers of gambling, especially since he is a widow and a retiree. The approaches may vary, but what is clear is that you can invite him to do other things that have nothing to do with gambling, such as sports, gardening or cooking so that he has other activities that keep him active throughout the day. I think her children will also agree if they see that their mother can do things that are more useful for her old age than just spending time gambling.

Maybe it's not a criticism but a suggestion so that he wants to do other more useful things. There must be something that can attract his attention so he wants to start trying to do it. You can ask someone else to help you and if he has started doing it, make sure he keeps doing it regularly so he can divert his attention from gambling.

[Z390]

He already made it this far, what is there to be worried about? He is getting money in his old age and even his children are doing their part, this old man is probably making more money than I am  so leave him be, he can look like an addict, I mean every gamblers are always a straight up addict to those who don't like gambling until they reveal their gambling strategy.

You should only feel concerned if you start noticing a change of mood, if he is always happy and friendly like he used to then things are going fine, old men likes doing math in their heads, he must have know how much he is getting every month and how much he can keep risking with gambling, at that older age what else will he even use money for? So I don't expect such person to be taking unnecessary risks.

You stated that he is gambling every weekend, that's even better than those gambling almost everyday, I don't see how you know that he is an addicted gambler, you noticing him to be an active gambler every weekend doesn't make him a addicted gambler, you need to move closer to him as a gambler for you to know if he is becoming an addict or not, as of right now, all you have is guessing.

[piebeyb]

In my country, we are not used to communicating with our neighbors too deeply, besides, it will be difficult to advise someone who is older than us. I know your intentions are good, but you just need to pay attention to developments. If you are a good neighbor, you should not interfere too much in other people's privacy and pleasure. , as long as he can still control it and within reasonable limits just to have fun.

We will never know why he gambles, there must be a reason that we may never know in detail, so I think it's enough to pay attention to him, after all there are still his children who might be able to help him if he ends up addicted, if he just lives alone without his children maybe we can help him as neighbors until he really needs our help, sometimes in life you have to have manners for older people, at least just respect them. 

[Slow death]

It is important that you investigate whether his children really do not know that he is playing in online casinos. Once you know this, you will need to talk to him to find out what his sources of income are and how much money he earns. Once you have done these investigations, the next step is for you to tell him that you also play and ask him to show you how he plays, this will allow you to know how often he plays, how many hours he plays and how much money he spends playing. after you finish all the investigation and have proof that his children really don't know that he gambles in casinos, knowing that he earns little retirement money, knowing that he keeps putting all his retirement money in the casino

So the next step will be to get in touch with the children and tell them everything, it doesn't matter if the children and elderly people get angry or hate you, the most important thing is that you were honest and told them what you saw and showed them proof. Then whether or not they believe it is up to them. You did your part as a friend or as a neighbor of the old man. a true friend is one who takes harsh measures when necessary to save his friend, a good person, does everything to save other people, even if it means hating him. good luck with this case

NB: elderly people should not get involved in gambling, because they are more likely to get heart disease, any strong emotion could lead to their death. take this into consideration

[Queentoshi]

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

Old people barely take advice from people who are younger than them because they have the believe sometimes that they are more experienced and have seen more of life than the young person giving them advice. So, if this senior citizen is a stubborn person and one of those kinds of old people, your advice will not be considered, and you will just be wasting your time. Instead of advising him to stop, try to introduce him to other kinds of activities that can be fun for him at his age.

[len01]

I dont really know how old he is because you did not mention it but judging from your topic it seems like he is quite old and it seems like you dont need to do that.

firstly he is old enough to have income from his pension and on the one hand his son is well established and can always give money to his parents so you dont need to worry about addiction because even if he gets addicted he is old enough to get worse I mean even if he is addicted he will not do things that are beyond reasonable limits so you dont need to worry and just let him be because he just wants to enjoy his old age by having the pleasure of placing bets at home, sitting back and relaxing while waiting for his old age to run out.

and what you have to do is just monitor him. If he might be addicted to doing things that cross the line, its better if you give him good advice, but that rarely happens to elderly gamblers.

[Mauser]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

Not sure if you are the best person to approach him on the subject. Since you only know him for a very short time he might become defensive and this could ruin the relationship between you two forever. I worked in the past with elderly people and I can tell you that they can be very stubborn and once there is an issue they will rarely change their view and try to make peace. You won't believe how much drama there is in retirement homes and that even people who are above 80 will stop talking to each other because of very minor things. My best advice would be to try and get some contact information to his children and have a chat with them first before talking to your neighbor directly. Since the children are already old, they should know how long their dad has been gambling and if there was an issue before. If his children think there is an issue it should be also them that talk to their dad directlly. It's much better to have a serious talk with your own family than with a stranger.

[Strongkored]

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

I would prefer not to interfere in his business, namely regarding his gambling activities, unless he is the one asking for advice or has a very close relationship so that the approach and advice given can be well received because usually advice from people who are not close can actually damage the relationship because they don't have closeness. so you understand that advice has a good purpose.

However, if you still want to give advice then start by having a good relationship and opening up a conversation about the gambling he is doing until finally you will have the opportunity to tell him the importance of continuing to gamble carefully so he doesn't get caught up in addiction, but because he is a pensionary, gambling is his activity which can provide pleasure because he has very few other activities

[Cryptmuster]

Leave the person alone, at least in his old age. )) He dedicated his whole life to someone, family, children, work, and so on, and now he just wants to play the lotto and play the slots, there’s nothing wrong with that, and you don’t know what his gaming budget is, maybe he’s in spends the day on 5 bucks per game, many retirees spend more on beer and cigarettes, so I don’t see any problem in this...

[Oilacris]

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

I would prefer not to interfere in his business, namely regarding his gambling activities, unless he is the one asking for advice or has a very close relationship so that the approach and advice given can be well received because usually advice from people who are not close can actually damage the relationship because they don't have closeness. so you understand that advice has a good purpose.

However, if you still want to give advice then start by having a good relationship and opening up a conversation about the gambling he is doing until finally you will have the opportunity to tell him the importance of continuing to gamble carefully so he doesn't get caught up in addiction, but because he is a pensionary, gambling is his activity which can provide pleasure because he has very few other activities

Even myself wont really be that confident on telling someone on what they should gonna do, its their money then its their full rights on what they should gonna do with it. Just like on what i have
said earlier is that we should really that minding on our own business and wont really be touching up others. Yes, we do have that kind of in concern towards others but we should really know about the boundaries or limitation because there are things which are supposed to be left alone and wont really be that ideal that you should really make some involvement.
If he decided to spend up his money on gambling then let him be, you arent the ones who would really be wrecked up on the end but it seems that he could be able to sustain his gambling leisure
then its really just that right that he does have that capacity on doing so and since he's senior and he do have that monthly allotment then it is really just that fine.