A gambler's family action.

[retreat]

Nothing went too far, what his family did was because they loved this man. He sold his personal assets and it destroyed him slowly because his gambling activities were too excessive. What his family did was right to prevent him from going too far.
However, we don't know what will happen in the future, whether it will get worse or not, because from the many cases like this, usually these addicts will get worse the more they are prohibited from gambling.

[klidex]

Just two questions here:
1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

Share your thoughts!

1.) First of all, the family's goal is actually good, namely to stop his brother from gambling excessively, especially as his brother sells his property and gadgets to satisfy his compulsive gambling desires again and it seems like his brother has spent so much money even to the point where he had to sell his property, this of course made his family very worried about his actions.

2.) If that happened to me, maybe I would still share the gambling proceeds with the family I love because after all my family's objective are good but the method is too excessive, but I will only share a little of the winnings after that I will leave the house and live in an environment that allows me to gamble in peace.

[Mr. Magkaisa]

      -  I'm just wondering: is it really necessary to threaten the casinos that will accept their families who have a gambling addiction so that they will find a way to close it down?

That's how I understand it. Let's assume that what the gambler's family is planning is true. Why does it have to lead to such a situation? Also, if I am in the situation of a gambler who wins a large amount of money, if my family is not important, I may not be able to give them what I won from gambling.

[Oasisman]

Just two questions here:
1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

Share your thoughts!

Here's my 2 cents.

1. Yes, the family went too far trying to control this young man's compulsive gambling behavior. I don't know how they approached all the gambling establishments in their place, but based on this story, they went too rude to threaten these establishments. That's not how you properly escalate the situation when you're trying to engage the gambling establishments. The family can just hand over a photo of the young man and ask the establishment in a nice and calm way that if it's all possible they should never allow that young man to enter the establishments, then continue with the story why. Pretty sure the people from the establishment will understand.

2. Depends. Firstly, you ran away from your family just to feed your gambling behavior, then you come back handing them over money for forgiveness? That is a big NO NO for us. If this family has a strong behavioral principles, they will probably believe that forgiveness cannot be bought. So, better stay away for a while, make an attempt to contact them before you decide to come home and ask for forgiveness genuinely, then you can go ahead and share that fortune you made. 

[Hirose UK]

1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

I think yes and when there is prohibition or advice that is too harsh to suppress then he will be even crazier in gambling because gambling addict cannot be directed to extremes and it is better to advise him slowly.
Moreover, threatening methods like that will never produce results because there is definitely not just one gambling shop there, plus when the state allows gambling then no one will be able to sue for something like this because the shop owner is in business and the young man came by himself.
It really ridiculous to hear about this kind of case.

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

It all depends on how they behave towards us because if they are too loud and really offend us then whatever happens they will definitely be quiet and not care.
But again, this kind of thing depends on the attitude of all family members and those of us who are gamblers ourselves because if we still consider the importance of our siblings and family we will definitely never leave it.
Having family destroyed just because of gambling, I don't think is the right thing to do because after all family is everything.

[Odohu]

She told about how the family members of a particular young man that is like a plunger when it comes to gambling, his compulsive gambling is to the length of him selling his personal properties and gadgets to make sure he gambles. So what he family did was to print a photograph of him and giving it to all the gambling shops within their neighborhood and around the locality, threatening that any of the gambling shops they have pasted the photo of their brother should they find their brother allowed to gamble in the shops they will sue the gamble shop owner to court as one that is abetting their brother's compulsive gambling lifestyle.

This is a wrong way to go about this because it can damage his self esteem and damage his name entirely within the neighbourhood.  People in this situation might resort to suicide. What they need is to seek the help of a psychologist. With proper therapy,  he will be fine. Besides, he does not need to go to shop to gamble, he can just create account in any of then numerous platforms.

Now, while I was quietly listening to the story in my head I began to ask myself several possible  questions and one of such questions was; is it not possible that this young man can take a cab away from their location and move to a far area to carry out his gambling since his a compulsive gambler.

Moving away will not help his situation rather he will be frustrated the more. Like I said before, what he need is therapy and urgently for that matter.

Just two questions here:
1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

They were trying to help him but using wrong approach. People have passed through such situation and were treated. Shaming him is never a solution to issue of addiction because that cannot make him stop.

[lienfaye]

1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

Yes because they're already threatening the gambling shops which I think is not right. Although it's understandable why they resorted to this kind of solution, maybe this is the only way for them to stop the young man from playing.

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

I will still share my winnings. Family is family and that's the fact. They might be against me being a gambler but I can understand that they're just concern. Winning huge is an achievement for a gambler so I will try. But I have a doubt if they will going to accept the money that came from gambling knowing their stance.

[Pandu Geddon]

1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

that was truly an exaggeration. it was like committing a murderer who was in pursuit of the police. but I know that it is a response from a family who loves their relatives. Although I think it's quite excessive, it might have an impact on the gamblers themselves. although I'm not sure he will play in just one place. It's just that, if his family treats him more harshly, it could be a negative sentiment for the gambler's mentality.

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

they are against us to gamble. If you want to share your winnings with others, I don't think they will accept that. what is clear is that his family's view of gamblers must be very bad. and they will think that the money they earn from gambling will not make them happy.
if I get that win, then I will enjoy it myself.

[len01]

first of all, the young man family efforts are understandable but worth doing because after all gambling is a business providing a place for entertainment and all risks are not the gambling party fault but the young man himself should be blamed because he alone has full control over whatever he does and as a family the young man should have given strict education to the young man or taken him to a doctor who could cure him of this addiction and his family efforts would only be in vain because despite posting photos of the ban in all the casinos in the city, the young man could bet through online sites which are now very easy to get. accessed.

and for the second question I would never do something stupid like that even though I have to assume if that young man were me I would not disappoint my family.

[Kakmakr]

Well, the parents cannot stop him from using online gambling from his mobile phone, so this is one way of bypassing his or her parents plans to stop the gambling. (They can take his or her phone, but he or she can have another phone or use a friends phone to gamble)

I think they should address the main reasons for the addiction in a professional manner. They should take this person to get professional help from someone that can deal with gambling addiction. 

[Litzki1990]

First of all family is something that people cannot really stay away from. You can't get family love through money. The family may have put various barriers in the boy's gambling to prevent him from gambling in the best interest of the boy, but it does not mean that the family wishes him ill. He might win millions of dollars by gambling now but if he had lost gambling then his family would not have kicked him out but his family would have taken him in. The person you heard about on the radio may have become addicted to gambling, which may not have been well-received by the family, and the family may have prevented him from gambling. Now that man might be a million dollar owner and if he thinks about this and walks away from his family, I'd say he's acting selfishly. The family supported the boy when he had nothing and the family raised him from childhood so no matter how much money he owns he must stay with the family.

[Solosanz]

If I understood the context, it's a married couple and the wife force her husband to stop gambling, right?

Since it's a spouse or loved one, I'd choose to share my winnings to her in purpose to "shut her mouth", most people will let their spouse to do anything as long as it gives benefit to her/him.

[Docnaster]

One thing a lot of people fail to understand is that whenever they're being corrected is the fact that it's only someone who loves you that can go extra in their quest to make you change from your bad and unfruitful lifestyle. From the context of the story, it's absolutely clear that the young man is already a gambling addict hence the extra action from his family members to try stop his addictive gambling life.
There's no guarantee that he's gonna win big tomorrow in gambling and I think what his family wants for him is to be a better person tomorrow. It'll be better to adhere to his family's advise and desist from gambling than traveling to a distant location in other to gamble and make it through gambling.

[Weawant]

Definitely its very possible the young man could relocate or find an alternative way to continue with his gambling habit since he is an addict already. The family is only trying to help because Cases of addiction as this is usually very tough tackling and does require help most of the times.

If I were that young man and I happened to win millons of dollars after absconding far to continue gambling I will definitely rerun to my family and have them get a fair share of my proceed because i understand they were only trying to help me out of my addiction after which I will go seek professional help since at that point I can be sure to afford it, because some how he may not be comfortable in that habit of his but because he is optimistic he keep on hoping one day it will rewards him.

[demonica]

The effort they put just to go to near casinos and to threaten them not to let him gamble there. But I don't think it's effective cause (1) he can still go to a different casino far from their neighborhood. (2) casinos may do something against it or might not follow them since it's a business after all. For them he's a customer and a source of their income. (3) he could shift to online gambling wherein the kind of effort that the family did won't work on online casinos.

It won't give them a guarantee that he won't be gambling again cause once a person becomes addicted to something, he will keep finding a way to satisfy their addiction. Instead of going to different casino and threatening them, for me it's better to consult an expect or seek for a professional's help. And might as well consider rehabilitation.

[Blitzboy]

Though severe, the family's method shows a desperate desire to help a loved one. Combating gambling addiction requires understanding its causes as well as halting the activity. The family's dramatic action is motivated by concern. Does this method respect individual autonomy? Could the activity go underground, making it tougher to address? Finding balance - supporting without violating personal freedoms - is key.

If I were the young man who won a lot of money gambling abroad, sharing it with my family would depend on various circumstances. Understand the relational dynamics and intentions underlying their acts. Are they concerned or trying to control? This win, albeit financially lucrative, doesn't eradicate the addiction or its causes. Sharing the winnings could repair relationships. But personal recovery and addiction treatment are equally important. Balance is key - weighing family ties against personal growth and healing.

[Yatsan]

Based on the cited scenario, i only disagree with posting the picture of the young one. They should have just talked to the management privately ‘coz for sure casinos would be scanning each and every player who would enter the facility. That would be enough to notify them of what is happening. Some people say that the boy could move to other cities just to be able to gamble which has a point but how would he be able to do so if he would be lacking money to travel? That’s the point; the family could have just monitor the child or hire someone to accompany him most of the time or simply bring the child to experts to know what’s best to be done if they cannot restrict the young individual by themselves. I do get that the family might be frustrated of the situation but they should still consider the welfare of the child who is in need of them than to unconsciously shame him.

[Queentoshi]

1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

No they did what they must have reasoned to be a way to stop their family member from gambling but he could still gamble online. Families can go the extreme to protect their own. This family should also taking the boy for rehabilitation.

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

Take your money and live your family, some families tend to forgive overtime. If gambling was the way God planned for you to make millions, then it has happened, you did not kill someone for the money, or steal from someone. You just took some risks that has paid off. If they do not understand at the moment, they will understand later.

[rahmad2nd]

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Just two questions here:
1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

Firstly, we cannot be sure how far the man went in his gambling. however, based on the instructions you mentioned in this post, the young man has become a gambling addict. in fact, had lost the property he owned. In this case, this man was really addicted to his gambling. It will be very difficult with this kind of trick to prevent someone from completely stopping their gambling activities, although in some cases the impact can be positive. but even then, it's only limited to gambling shops. It could be, this man plays at an online casino.

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

Share your thoughts!

Interesting question, and a little unique for me.

Honestly, the answer will be very varied and difficult, because there are many factors to consider. first if I were that guy, then win millions of dollars. not necessarily, my family will receive the money that I share with them. moreover, they found out that I was still gambling. What is certain is that various reactions will arise. they could be more disappointed even though in the end we become rich. Or maybe, our family will be tempted by the money we win. This is where the human psychological situation will be tested.

and to be honest, I can't answer your question. because, I'm not that guy and what we discussed has never happened in my personal life. The logic is simple, we don't know what the situation will be when we have millions of dollars in the account. there will definitely be many possibilities, and you have concluded it yourself from your question.

[michellee]

The young man could go to another city for many reasons to gamble. As compulsive gamblers, they can do things that are beyond our reason. They can even move to another city for the reason of wanting to find a new atmosphere. In fact, that is one way for them to be able to gamble again without anyone watching.

This young man's family has done something we didn't expect because he wanted to do something different from the others. This is courage that needs to be appreciated because it could embarrass the young man from gambling in his city. But he was able to move to another city secretly so he could gamble again.

If it were me, I would share the winnings with people I care about. But if they don't want to, I'll enjoy it myself. I don't need to force it on them.