What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble?

[arjunmujay]

Clearly, the mother was disappointed with her son's behavior, who immediately spent the money he had collected for so long and lost it in an instant just by playing gambling.

actually the mother besides being disappointed, she wants to give her son a valuable lesson on how hard it is to collect money like that, so that he is not careless again to lose it in a short time. and the mother wants to teach a lesson about responsibility. have dared to lose money, then the child must return it even if it is a long time.

[Chikito]

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

She couldn't call everyone to fix the situation. The mum should advise the children properly without violence and use hard psychology techniques. In fact, her child is just child who doesn't know anything which one is right and bad. I'm really sure if his mother advised him correctly with affection, that child will realize how important that money is, and he would not steal again on his mum's account. We have to protect our children from something that is not good for them, limit them to playing games, and always check what he was playing. if there is a gambling game on his cellphone, we have to remove it immediately.

[borovichok]

My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

This issue shouldn't be taken lightly because it is an issue of stealing and if the behavior is not corrected, the boy will continue and even start stealing from the street to gamble. The boy is already addicted to gambling which is a very bad stage for every gambler. If possible, the boy should be punished and then restricted from gambling. If need be, he should be taken to a counselor to help him out with the addiction. So, his mom should be more concerned about helping the boy and not to castigate him.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind in this context?

Whether she will be mad or not depends solely on what she believes. Most people don't celebrate money won through gambling since they believe that gambling is evil. If the woman falls into this category, she will still frown at the act. However, no matter the ill feeling, an effort should be made to remedy the situation by giving the son an admonition that will help control the urge to gamble.

[coin-investor]

My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

It will be disheartening for the whole family because we have a thief and a dishonest member in the family and I just felt that as a parent I'm a big failure that I raise a problem child to the family and in the future could be a potential problem to the society, because if he can do this to his family he can do this to other people and this will cause a bad reputation to the whole family.

Even if he won and the bets comes from stolen money I don't think I can take it, its not a guarantee that even if he won money he will change his way, stealing is bad and it will hurt the most if you're doing it with your family, if you steal to your family that means you don't respect your family and you have no moral.

[zuzie]

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

There must be a feeling of disappointment, because stealing is a disgraceful act and there must be punishment. If a child steals his mother's money to gamble, this is clearly prohibited, it would be better if the child just asked for money and received whatever money his mother gave him. I think it will be very safe. And if the money given is little or little then just enjoy it, maybe that's one way to prevent children from placing excessive bets in gambling.

And if a mother finds out that her child is gambling and winning a large amount, I think this will be different depending on the view received by the mother, meaning there are mothers who feel happy when their child gets a lot of money despite this. from gambling and there is also a mother who does not want to accept or rejects her child's winnings because the mother refuses to engage in this form of gambling.

[Pierre 2]

I think it is definitely my own fault if I couldn't teach my son to not steal money from people, especially family. Kids should be taught to care a lot about their families in my opinion. That's how I was disciplined by my boomer father. He deserved respect and love. My son should also show me respect. I wouldn't mind his gambling habit tho. I would give him advice to budget his gambling money. Also I would tell my son how hard to earn money in life so if he wants to gamble he should be earning his own money first. But stealing part is very bad.

[Amphenomenon]

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?

Happy and Sad since no Mother will ever be proud of their child stealing from them even if the child wins millions.

Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

I will be disheartened and disappointed but I will not take the same step as this woman since I know that the only reason one will steal to gamble is when they are addicted to eat and will support him in every ways possible for him to be free from it

 

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

No matter how pained she may be I don't think this is the right approach, though I support disciplinary measures but this is not of them, why will she not care about the way her son payback her money and there is an higher chance that he will steal or bet again in order to get the money back which actually should be avoided

[angrybirdy]

I think it is definitely my own fault if I couldn't teach my son to not steal money from people, especially family. Kids should be taught to care a lot about their families in my opinion. That's how I was disciplined by my boomer father. He deserved respect and love. My son should also show me respect. I wouldn't mind his gambling habit tho. I would give him advice to budget his gambling money. Also I would tell my son how hard to earn money in life so if he wants to gamble he should be earning his own money first. But stealing part is very bad.

Same sentiments here! It feels like It is really my own responsibility to guide and to teach my own child a good manners and right conduct, especially not everything can be taught in school and all the values ​​of a person must be learned inside the house and the people around them. While still young, they should be guided on the right path to keep them away from bad deeds.

[Wexnident]

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I'd be pissed really. It doesn't matter that he knows how to access my account, I'd have taught my kid to never steal money from anyone regardless of who they are. It doesn't even matter if he won money, it was money stolen still. I probably wouldn't have given him the money in the first place though but indirectly? Maybe. I'd have asked him to do some chores and whatnot and gave him money to play with. Sure I would be glad that he won, but only after getting pissed that he stole money.

Well in today's age it's hard to pinpoint who's the problem really. Some parents are really strict but the availability of the internet and social media influences the younger audience by a LOT. Granted parents still have to properly control what they can see but we know it sometimes happens regardless of their will.

[crwth]

I think the mom is delusional when she wants to refund the money, I don't think that will happen because of the carelessness of her that made his son able to get it from her account. It's really hard to have a son like that because of these disrespect or something that she is experiencing.

It's still wrong that that son did that but I think it would be different if the son won a multi-million prize. That's gonna be a different story but that's just "wishful thinking" that would never happen because the money has been lost already.

[ethereumhunter]

It seemed like the mother wouldn't be angry if her son could win a bet worth millions because it was a huge amount of money. People will feel sad if they experience loss but happy if they get something even though they didn't like it at first.

Back to the story. His mother has done the right thing by asking the entire family to intervene to discipline her son so he doesn't gamble again. His mother didn't want to see her son fall into gambling beyond help, so that's why she asked people to help him. A mother's love for her child will not disappear over time.

[moneystery]

if my child stole money from me to gamble, i would probably scold him for doing that, even if he won some money from it. because i think children his age should study and focus on their hobbies to be able to develop themselves to become successful people, not steal their parents' money and gamble. he can only gamble when he is 18 years old and has his own income, so as long as i still support him, that means he has to submit to whatever i say to him, whether he likes it or not.

[EluguHcman]

No, this guy will never win a "multi million bet". It's just a math stuff... if all people that are betting will hit a "multi million bet" everyone was betting and no bookmakers where still alive!
This is a BIG mistake have this "hope" maybe he can win. More over, if this guy was so smart with betting why he need to "stole money"?

Okay. Let's maintain positive positions. We verily understood that winning in gambling is a game of luck and this guy in question would have within 99%  chances to loose the game despites his 100% believe of him that he would win the bet. Before a gambler would confirm his prediction on a finishing point, he must be inspired with almost a 100% believe without being authenticated that  the game would go as his plans. Yeah.

@bitbollo, without contradicting the contexts of the thread at assuming the guy would win the bet on a multimillion price, how would you feel if the guys game comes true as he thought? Meanwhile... You can't predict that he would not win the game for as long as gambling is an unpredictable game, no one could give a confident outcome at the final end. However I am against the boys actions on stealing from his vulnerable mom. I just needed to understand your feelings if the boy wins such a prominent huge price alongside his stakes with the stolen mom.

[Suzume]

It's not stole about my son. I collect the money of gambling money by telling lie to my family members. They are don't know what is gambling how it's work. Maximum time they think that's a scam. The they will took my money and don't give any profit that's the reason i forcely tell lie for money.

[boty]

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

She couldn't call everyone to fix the situation. The mum should advise the children properly without violence and use hard psychology techniques. In fact, her child is just child who doesn't know anything which one is right and bad. I'm really sure if his mother advised him correctly with affection, that child will realize how important that money is, and he would not steal again on his mum's account. We have to protect our children from something that is not good for them, limit them to playing games, and always check what he was playing. if there is a gambling game on his cellphone, we have to remove it immediately.

If the child is doing this for the first time, it would be better to advise them well so that they can understand that what they are doing is wrong and if they have done it several times and as parents have advised them well, of course the parent must use different methods so that their children no longer repeat the mistakes they made.

It is indeed very important to be able to limit children's activities on their cellphones and also as parents they must often check their children's cellphones whether they are using them for things that give them good or bad benefits, I think by checking them often they will understand if they have made a mistake, of course they their parents will find out.

[Assface16678]

if my child stole money from me to gamble, i would probably scold him for doing that, even if he won some money from it. because i think children his age should study and focus on their hobbies to be able to develop themselves to become successful people, not steal their parents' money and gamble. he can only gamble when he is 18 years old and has his own income, so as long as i still support him, that means he has to submit to whatever i say to him, whether he likes it or not.

For me, the issue here is not the children doing gambling; it is the fact that he steals from his parents without thinking about it. If this event or action is kept on doing by the children, he will lose the important lesson of life, "discipline," because the children not only disrespect the parents but also themselves because they will do something like that just for the sake of their own hobbies, which is not a good sign. Doing wrong just to satisfy their wants is not a good way of growing up because they will keep on doing wrong just to get what they want.

Yeah, gambling is also an issue at such a young age. They will be open to the world of gambling, which is not a good way of growing up, and the sign of stealing just to gamble could result in a greater crime if the child still isn't disciplined. So parents out there who gamble should watch out for their children; they should not pick their hobbies; they should discipline them.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

OP, you did not mention the age of the kid, and perhaps if this was a case of underage gambling, I think the parents should be blamed for not paying much attention to their kid, which led to his becoming addicted to gambling. This kind of habit that was exhibited by that kid shows that he is either a compulsive gambler or he is yet to become one.

If the child is not under age, then he is now a fully grown adult and should face any discipline that the parents would give him. If this is the first time he is exhibiting such character, then he deserves to be forgiven, and let his parents caution and advise him.

If I were his parents, I would get angry with him, but I would still forgive him. I would then try to advise him about his compulsive gambling habit, and I would try my best to help him learn that gambling addiction will not give him a better future but might end up ruining his life. If, after all my advice and help, he refuses to change, then I will not allow him access to my money.

[alani123]

If my son tried to steal from me I'd try to help him understand why that's nor right.
This isn't so much about gambling but about education. You have to be a good parent and give your children lasting lessons to have with them for a lifetime.
If he was to be approached with good intentions to me it's more likely for a child to understand their mistake.

We would then see how much was lost, what could be recovered, and help him understand that it's only fair for him to do some work for what couldn't be recovered.

Hopefully parents of our generation will see their children as friends instead of punishing them too harshly. We've learn a lot from science for parenting over the last few decades, we can utilize that to bring up better humans.

[gabbie2010]

The parent of such a child should know that they have failed in nurturing the child against such vices as gambling and stealing and the child should be punished or scolded properly to avoid a repeat of such.

If am the parent though, I would be embarrassed, I would find out why after listening to child speak and inorder not to let my mental state be perplexed, I would cease such gambling activities I partake in or refrain from gambling in their presence in total.

There can be incidence of a nurtured kids still exhibiting some of these bad behavior probably they learnt it from friends or colleagues in school, some of these kids had some exposure towards gambling when they saw their friends displayed their winning bets consequently having exhausted every others means to fund their betting account resorted to stealing their parent money, I am sure the case reported by the OP that child must have been influenced by one of his friends, I think one of the ways of preventing this anomaly is that parents should be watchful over their kids and the type of friends they move with at home and lecture them about the consequences of gambling as a kid.

[borovichok]

I think it is definitely my fault if I couldn't teach my son to not steal money from people, especially family.

This is not always the reality. There are different ways a child gets socialized and it will be injustice to always blame negative behaviors on parents. A child has friends, goes to worship centers, attends school and he is not always there alone. He interacts with others and so he can be influenced.

No matter how you train a child, a child who can decide to go against his parents teachings and nothing can be done. It's like the saying, you can force a horse to the stream but you can't force it to drink water. That's how it is with inculcating morals. Most corrupt kids today are exposed to good teachings but then society happened.