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My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

Stole money (to a parent or family member) it's a dismal practice. I can't see any justification on this.

I will get completely upset, it's a failure for a mother such gesture :( and the guy MUST be corrected and understand how sad is something like this.

No, this guy will never win a "multi million bet". It's just a math stuff... if all people that are betting will hit a "multi million bet" everyone was betting and no bookmakers where still alive!
This is a BIG mistake have this "hope" maybe he can win. More over, if this guy was so smart with betting why he need to "stole money"?

Am not against my son gambling if he's up to the age of been called an adult and he must have started living on his own before he can be gambling, not staying under my roof and be competing in gambling with me whereas he's not working. That's what am against and concerned with.

I think that boy needs to be disciplined in the hard way, for him to have the effrontery to make transfer from his mum phone to his bet account then if he's not deal with in the hard way he will do worst things that this just to get money to feed his gambling thirst.

I believe we all know the response that the first question will receive but they’re still some parents out there who are going to discipline him despite the fact that he won’t the bet through the stolen money – we have heard of case before where a father asked that his son return the money he won from gambling since it was against his beliefs.

The mother and father of that child need to worry more about what their child is going to turn out to be in the future because for him to have been able to steal his mother money despite being aware that she’s not financially stable and yet squandered it on a bet – it means he will be able to do same thing outside, so there’s a possibility that outside his gambling addiction [which I believe he has] there’s a chance of him turning into a criminal if not properly handled.

If I was in the mom’s position I definitely would have been heartbroken, knowing that my son could do something like that… And I’ll also look for means to make him change even if it means I’ll have to take him to somewhere else to live.

No parent would really be happy on what his son/child has done on which it would be just that typical that you would got angry and on the time that you do get angry
then you would definitely be that applying those kind of disciplinary actions and to those disheartened acts isnt really that totally that true on which this is something that
letting our childs do really be able to realize on the wrong thing that they have done on which they are really that obliging to repay back those amounts. Yes $15 might really be that
small in most peoples eyes but if you are living in poverty and living in a country which does have that have crisis then this amount would really be that significant.

My question is how old is the child? I believe from your narration, he is still below 18 years old which is below the age bracket of gambling and this is wrong in all directions. How does he even open account in the first place and how did he sent out the money from his mother phone without her consent, there should be evidence of transfer or perhaps she neglected that. The mother should investigate him how he opened the account and what influence him to do that because I think some people really influence his child to gambling.


The parent should not scared him, I know how painful it's for a mother to see his child behaves the way you don't expect but instead of been harsh towards him, ask him nicely so he can open up because if you want to forcefully discipline him, he will hide some information out of fears and he will surely go back to that gambling. I'm sure you guys don't want to lose another brother as a gambling addict.

You guys should tell him what gambling is about, the implications and the risk because he has develop the mind of doubling money from the way he's starting, who lose $15 all to gamble. You guys should be more open and free to get all information and tell him too to avoid complications.

It's not an issue whether the amount is small. It's about the action of the child and of course, the parents should discipline this kid for stealing and worse gambling.
But I don't understand why she's calling someone else but maybe because of Child Protective Services. It's the same issue in my country where if you hit the child with your belt today, you could lose custody already.


She still will need to discipline the kid even if he won millions. If I were in her position, the kid would not get any amount, it's my money he used to bet.

If I were his mother, I would probably be frustrated, especially if I lost money just to gamble.
For a mother, gambling is something that is not beneficial at all. But on the other hand, a child's mistakes will always be forgiven by the mother.
The child should have realized that it was a fatal mistake. Moreover, his mother also involved many parties in wanting to give him money to gamble. And he should have realized that he would not be able to return the money easily, especially in gambling.
The way he got into gambling was wrong, how could he possibly win just to return such a large amount of money.

Well I think you already know the answer to this question, I mean it's obvious that she would ofcourse be delighted if the son came home with billions or millions of naira if the child told her the winning before telling her he stole the money but all the same the chances of the boy winning was against him and beside you don't have the right to gamble with people money because the money isn't yours even if it's from your mother, that's calling stealing.

Wel I know the society am staying will surely do something about this boy although I don't know why and what the parents are doing that it got so bad that the boy got this worse and collects money from her account.

There are two problems here, the first is how old is her son? If he is a minor and he is not allowed to gamble by law then that by itself is wrong and it is showing a dangerous tendency at such an early age, the second issue is of course the theft of that money, and while 15 dollars may not seem to be a lot for some of us, the act itself is what is worrying, also I do not see how the outcome will change anything, stealing is wrong even if the son won a massive amount of money with it, and if he was a minor then that will not matter at all as the casino will not pay him due to a violation of their TOS.

Of course it is bad behavior because the child himself dares to steal money just for betting, meaning that he is desperate in this case, maybe it can be called addiction, because it is impossible to steal if not an addict.

I will be angry because it is disrespectful, maybe I will educate again how he should do good and should not steal again because this is a bad act what if this happens to someone else not his own parents? Then he will get punishment from the authorities.

From $15 to millions of dollars is still very impossible especially if it's a child who says he is still in education so he is not in a professional gambling game.
Besides, it is possible that the child will be silent even if he wins a large amount because not all parents will be happy if their children play gambling.

The first question we should point out is how did she train the child or maybe he learnt such habit from school, church etc cause nowadays peer pressure has affected children either the positive or negative way. Such child should be discipline for his action and they should make sure he never repeat such act again. If no proper care is taken at this early stage he will start stealing outside to satisfy his desire to gamble and it will be very difficult to handle.
The child winning or not has nothing to do with the mom except she supported his action from the start but since she never supported him the winning or loss should not hinder the discipline process.

There's no way that we could tell on where that child do learn up those things its either that he hadnt been guided out well or teaches about stealing is bad or just simply making out those actions basing up on the things that they are currently dealing or get involved with. We do know that once addiction in gambling would becomes that too severe then there's no way that you couldnt
really be able to experience that kind of urge on doing something which it isnt ethical. We do know that stealing something could be considered theft and even lets say
that you are just still young then stealing would really be always stealing and there's no way that you could really be able to changed it up.
As a parent then disciplinary actions should be made so that they would be able to learnt up that the things that they have done was actually wrong. So it would really be
on your choice as a parent on what you should gonna do.

Wether the boy in question end up winning millions or not, it doesn't change the fact that what the small boy did was very bad and that could be as a result of poor care from the mother and everyone around him. For a minor to be engaged in gambling activities, it means that he's been introduced into gambling an adult and it took the carelessness of his mother and guardians not to detect him when he's never known much about gambling.

There's no way the child is gonna provide the money because he's already lost it but the more important issue now is how to try stop him from gambling more in the future in other not to end of as a gambling addict.

Anyway,  everyone takes care of his children as he wants, sometimes these are issues of a nature as complex as the social and family environment.

This case is the typical coinflip.

Whoever intervenes to scold and teach a child a lesson, whether it is his mother, father, older brother, uncle, or even if everyone joins in scolding the child, the child will still not be able to return the money lost due to gambling. , at that very moment. and the only hope is that this incident can be a valuable lesson for both children and their parents.

This is not only the child's fault, because he stole money from his mother's account. However, parents and families are also at fault, because they are unable to provide a good education to their children, which causes their children to become people who behave badly and are unable to respect their parents and family. So this is where the importance of early education carried out by both parents for their sons, as parents we must not judge a problem from just one point of view, but we must assess it from every aspect, including introspection towards ourselves.

However, it needs to be understood, in this case it does not mean that I support the child's actions, because it is clearly something that is wrong and cannot be justified.

The age of the child should be very important in dealing with this issue. If he is up to the age of gambling it is a stealing problem but if he is underage, the case will become more complicated.

The child shouldn't be forced to bring back the money especially if he is still depending on the parents financially except they want him to steal to repay what he has lost. What he needs is sound counseling and not threats or severe punishment. He should be told the implications of what he has done and the future consequences if he becomes addicted. He needs to know that this behavior could make him steal outside the home because he wants to satisfy his gambling urge.

Let's call a spade a spade, stealing is an immoral behavior regardless of the consequences. I will be mad at him and even discipline him but will still accept the win. He needs to know that I didn't support his actions and shouldn't repeat such behavior. I will be happy that he won big but I will concentrate more on his misbehavior than the money h won. From then I will keep a close eye on him to monitor his gambling activities.

First of all it is irresponsible behavior to leave the cell phone not protected with fingerprint or any other security like face id to your phone.I know most of us who are parents tend to trust their children,sons and daughters yet I because of my profession as I work in a bank,I like to keep everything 2FA and heavily guarded even at my home.As a parent of course I would be disheartened yet I would talk with him to educate him about probability and statistics which shows that you cannot apply with such bet to be a lucky winner otherwise there would not be betting sport casinos open,they would all be closed by now if winning that huge amount would be that easy as this son thinks.

The truth is she wouldn't have been that mad at him if he had won big amount of money. Such winnings may even make the woman start giving him money to gamble for her if she cannot do it herself. I have seen it happen a couple of times. This does not mean I'm in support of what the young man did.

The first rule is that you must not gamble with what you cannot afford to lose. The money wasn't his so he cannot afford to lose it. The moment one engage in gambling with money that should not be lost, he is already 60% defeated because emotion and fear will take over, this will produce poor judgement cum poor result. I wish him well in handling the situation and hope he learns from it.

if I'm not mistaken, we have this kind of thread before. Anyhow, as a parent it's instinct is to really discipline their child right? Specially we all know that stealing is generally not accepted in any society. And so the burden is really on the parents and maybe we can say that they are part of the problem if the child turns out to be a thieve and really give a parent a hard time.

But regarding the question it's a going to be a dilemma to the parent, but for me, he should be discipline by his mom, period, if he accepts that winning money, it's like giving him permission to gamble and that it is allowed in the household. Maybe right now they have money, but what if the kid gamble it all along and in worst case scenario, losses everything and started to stole money again? If not from his mom, he could do it to other people and the consequences will be very bad for the boy and his mom.

Well, I don’t know where do you live exactly and in which country 15$ worth that much to be honest, even though I’m living in a third world country this amount of money doesn’t worth all this story.
To answer your question, we need at least to know this kid’s age in order to justfy his behavior and if he is legally allowed to gamble, if not then how did he manage to open a casino account in the first place?
As a parent, I would first put the blame on myself because I let something like that to happen, I would question the way I educated my own kids.
It’s something very important to get from this story which is educating our children about gambling and the dangers of gambling in a bad way, more like always keeping an eye on them and their activities online. Especially, nowadays casino ads are everywhere on the internet and ad posters are very tempting.

Which parent wouldn't be mad at their child for stealing? No matter the  reason for stealing or the what the money stolen is used for, it doesn't in any way make it right. Any parent who celebrates his/her child for making money through questionble means should be questioned because such act will only be ruining the child the more. When a child begins to steal from his parents, it is a wake up call for the parent to act fast before the habit becomes part of them.

A gambler who steals to gamble is irresponsible and their is no guarantee that he will make good use of his gambling win if he eventually wins. Stealing, taking loans and selling off properties to gamble is an act of irresponsibility and should be highly discouraged. Once a person starts cultivating these harmful gambling habits,  it might become difficult for them to be responsible even if they win.

You should know that as a parents there is this disciplinary spirit in us that always wants us to be defensive whenever we think that our children aren't doing the right thing and normally we know that what they did is a wrong thing so we must not keep shut to allow them go worster so, we must speak and voice out the evil did they are doing to enable us plays the parental role instead of keeping shuts while they goes the wrong way, as a parent if my son win i don't mind still shouting at him to know that he has done the wrong thing for uttering my money but would let him know that what made me to spare him was the winning he made but next he shouldn't try that again then i will further tell him how to spend the money to amicably benefits him and the entire family.

There is nothing wrong when you cuation your child for doing wrong thing and let known of them their evil did and shouldn't partake of that next time to avoid a further damages, maybe next time he went further to have a higher amount than what he has taken before so, caution your son also shows that you are a responsible parents irrespective of how much y/our child has made from gambling because he was lucky enough to have that winning that very day.

Well, because I had worked very hard to save the money he had stolen, I would initially be furious and feel pity for myself. Considering my circumstances, I would assume that he had no respect at all for me. Are there other parents out there who don't lose their tempers when they discover their kid has taken money from them? Whatever their motivation, stealing is never a good thing for children to do.
Perhaps you can ask your parents, right? But if they don't give you money, you should work instead of taking the money that your parents worked so hard to provide for your needs. Instead, you stole it from them just so you could gamble, but in the end, you lost.
 
If I were his mother, I believe I would still discipline him and let him know how disappointed and worried I am about his behavior, even if he were to win a multi-million dollar prize. After all, it doesn't erase the fact that he stole money from me. We would gladly take advantage of me once more if he had already taken money from me once. By doing so, I would keep an eye on him to make sure he didn't repeat what he had done.
 

the issue isn't about what he used the money for but more of the fact that he took the money without the guidance permission and that should be discouraged in it entirety.

The reason why some youth still continue committing  ill act in the society is because when they do so, no one and brings in money to the home, no one cautions them because they've brought money home.

Gambling is meant to be basically for fun and a bit of partial source of income and so it's best you gamble with your money and not with that of another person you are not aware of his plan for his money.

The son had loss the fifteen dollars is not the big money,but it many be considered as the fraud.Because he had try to play the game with the stolen money,if the son had won the million of dollars it may be the another story.Because he had given that 15$ and withdraw the money and start their own business.Finally he may satisfy his own needs and satisfy their parents wish at the earliest stage.The complain by the aunty because she loss the money totally and never inform anyone about this,the son should try to play the game with their own money.If she play with their own money,no one will complain about their parents.

this shows the upbringing he had and his morals. though we can't judge him totally because that's what gambling can do to some people especially if they have strong desire to play their games and they need to resort things like the OP's situation just to get a hold of money to supply their games.
the parent should think now about this alarming situation of their child, because if they will not do anything about it, this can easily escalate to more trouble in the future.

The fact that he took the money without asking her shows he doesnt respect her or care about her trust.  It is also pretty messed up that he used the money to gamble instead of something smarter.  

I bet she wouldnt be as disheartened  if he had won the bet.  That wouldve been a nice surprise, but it wouldnt change the fact that he stole from her and gambled away her money.  She would still feel betrayed and let down even if he got lucky.  

If it was me, I would be so pissed and  I would want to punish my kid so they knew they screwed up bad.  I would also be stressed about what could happen because of how they acted, like getting into debt or becoming a gambling addict.  Thats scary stuff.

But also, kids gotta be raised right from when they little.  Not saying you gotta be super strict or anything.  But you gotta be there for them and help them grow up smart and kind and all that good stuff.  Make sure they dont go running around doing nonsense and  do that and they will probably turn out decent in the end.

In this our dying economy our children or child go steal my money secretly to gamble at first who gave him or her the permission to go have access to my money s/he has to face the penalty for touching my money at first and again the mother being the woman is too careless to have revealed his app pin to his son to have stole her money to gamble. After which if he wins i will ceased all money from my son because he made such money without my consent of asking me money to, you know there are ways to take money from parents maybe they can say they wanna settle some things on their own it could be something not that serious and when they have such money they can have some part to place bet than indirectly having access to my mobile banking app to drain my account to gamble this shows a great problem is to befall that family in time to come because whenever the parents weren't able to have control over their children then it turns to addictions and or, possibly going out there to borrow money to gamble just to satisfy his gambling desires whenever the urges comes.

I think the essence of the OP's explanation in the main thread is not about the high number of wins, but there are 2 things that worry the mother, namely that her son has stolen and the stolen money is for gambling, so her son has done 2 things at once and if he is under 18 years old then gambling activities must be stopped and he must be immediately trained not to make the same mistakes in the future.

I don't want to discuss the amount of winnings from gambling, but the bad behavior of theft for gambling must be addressed immediately because if he steals other people's money he will have to deal with the police, so parents must play an active role in monitoring their children's activities so they don't make the same mistake.

The parent of such a child should know that they have failed in nurturing the child against such vices as gambling and stealing and the child should be punished or scolded properly to avoid a repeat of such.

If am the parent though, I would be embarrassed, I would find out why after listening to child speak and inorder not to let my mental state be perplexed, I would cease such gambling activities I partake in or refrain from gambling in their presence in total.

Talking from the view of a gambler ni will definitely understand that such money lost means it can't be recovered except they are going to recover it from another means it probably placing another bet but then that will be chasing losses which will lead to losing some more money to the casino.

I will actually be mad at him for taking funds that were not his to gamble which is more like borrowing to gamble of which I'm very much against but then I will not Force him to go get the money by any means I willet it go but with some resentments and make sure not to allow him get access to may account enough to be able to make such transactions at so much ease, but if he had won I will as well celebrate with him and still warn him of the dangers of doing such and ask him never to do such again as I will not tolerate it Incase of a nextime.

I am going to be livid. Might even smack the shit out of him if that ever happens (if I were to even have a kid in the first place.)

The thing is that you as a parent should teach your kid how to be morally straight and what's right and wrong, the very fact that he's stealing from you is a stark sign that you're not raising your kid right cause how in the fuck is he able to steal from you or even have the balls to steal from his parents? And to even use the money for something as trivial as gambling, that's just insane dude. I say smack the shit out of the kid and make sure he realizes that what he did was wrong, it's one thing to steal, it's another to waste it on gambling. If you guys let him do this he's gonna grow up thinking he can manhandle you people and steal money for everything he thinks is cool. This time it's gambling, tomorrow it could be drugs. Make your choice. But personally, I wouldn't let something like that slide within my household especially if the kid's still living under my dime and roof.

I'd be mad for sure because stealing is already a bad thing and if it was used in gambling then that adds intensity to the thing he has done. But to properly address the issue on his end, I would first determine why he came to a point that he needs to steal; is the drive too much already? When did he start to gamble and who influenced him? It will always be starting from the roots or causes of an existing problem. Rather than scolding or hitting him physically, try to at least communicate especially if his age still doesn't give him the initiative to do so; do your responsibility as his parent and as an adult. If things won't be handled properly, then it has a tendency to get worse, perhaps stealing from other people.

Many of us would be guilty of getting some dimes from our parent's purse without their approval but on my end I used it before with candies and not in gambling activities, which I guess makes it different and makes it worse. Tendency of addiction is being observed in such cases that a child, at a young age, knows how to steal and has an intention to use it in gambling which is even illegal to many countries.

Stealing either way has to be paid for and reversed in its betrayal of trust.  The proceeds being used to gamble doesn't negate anything even if it was a win.  If its an adult really you should deal with the matter as if it was theft by anyone, reason being they will just repeat the theft if they dont pay for it.   If its a child at the very least they should repay the value taken, a days work at least and if it was a harsh punishment a weeks work of various tasks that need doing.  If you do any less with a child you are causing future problems because they will go on to steal from almost anyone else if they are prepared to steal from their own family, its a real danger they fall into a cycle of failure if left alone to learn stealing works out fine.

A thief is a thief no matter what's the result of the gambling someone's made. Knowing that it is gambling, i could be very angry if i'm his father. If her son won that's great but he still need some disciplining for this doing. Remember he did it already just for gambling, it could be repeated again just like addiction strike if he wasn't scolded and educated this early for what he did is wrong — and stealing is always wrong no matter the amount is. Because time will come that it's not only $15 that he will steal it will be more than that if he wasn't get proper education.

In such a situation, I'll have the realization that somewhere I've made a mistake, and the same is paying off. This means my parenting is not working in the right way, and I am looking for a solution to correct him. Probably I'll explain to him all the advantages and disadvantages one could experience from gambling. Further, it is his wish whether to gamble or not. Gambling is not wrong, but stealing is wrong, and you shouldn't do this. This is what I say to him, don't repeat it. Be good.

I agree because we may be more open to outside influence, notably when it comes to gambling, when we are emotionally or psychologically weak. I believe that he may also feel under pressure from peers to conform and join in order to fit in or be accepted. For example, he may be influenced by friends or acquaintances who are regular gamblers and who would push someone to partake.
 
Naturally, people who experience social isolation or a lack of acceptance may be more vulnerable to social influence, particularly if they view gambling as a way to make friends or get acceptance in a certain social group.
If people believe that gambling provides a quick and simple answer to their issues, they are more likely to give it a try. On the other hand, it could be that he was only desperate for easy money.

Who cares if the child lost the money? What is she looking for? The money or her son? Because from what I see, her son is going astray from probably bad company of friends. So before we start talking about the money and if he won, let’s talk about the bigger problem on how her son is already gambling. I don’t know how old he is, but from the way this sounds, it seems to be a young boy. 

It is not everything that discipline solves in a child. Some African parents may go as far as spanking their children, but it does not solve the problem, and they do not know. These kind of children need serious mental rehabilitation from professionals who need to correct the problems mentally first.

Stealing is stealing and there is no justification for it, a good mother would be disheartened if the boy had won a multi million price because it is the same with if the boy suddenly came home one day with a bag full of money, and the money openly accepts the son with no questions.

Clearly, the mother was disappointed with her son's behavior, who immediately spent the money he had collected for so long and lost it in an instant just by playing gambling.

actually the mother besides being disappointed, she wants to give her son a valuable lesson on how hard it is to collect money like that, so that he is not careless again to lose it in a short time. and the mother wants to teach a lesson about responsibility. have dared to lose money, then the child must return it even if it is a long time.

She couldn't call everyone to fix the situation. The mum should advise the children properly without violence and use hard psychology techniques. In fact, her child is just child who doesn't know anything which one is right and bad. I'm really sure if his mother advised him correctly with affection, that child will realize how important that money is, and he would not steal again on his mum's account. We have to protect our children from something that is not good for them, limit them to playing games, and always check what he was playing. if there is a gambling game on his cellphone, we have to remove it immediately.

This issue shouldn't be taken lightly because it is an issue of stealing and if the behavior is not corrected, the boy will continue and even start stealing from the street to gamble. The boy is already addicted to gambling which is a very bad stage for every gambler. If possible, the boy should be punished and then restricted from gambling. If need be, he should be taken to a counselor to help him out with the addiction. So, his mom should be more concerned about helping the boy and not to castigate him.


Whether she will be mad or not depends solely on what she believes. Most people don't celebrate money won through gambling since they believe that gambling is evil. If the woman falls into this category, she will still frown at the act. However, no matter the ill feeling, an effort should be made to remedy the situation by giving the son an admonition that will help control the urge to gamble.

It will be disheartening for the whole family because we have a thief and a dishonest member in the family and I just felt that as a parent I'm a big failure that I raise a problem child to the family and in the future could be a potential problem to the society, because if he can do this to his family he can do this to other people and this will cause a bad reputation to the whole family.

Even if he won and the bets comes from stolen money I don't think I can take it, its not a guarantee that even if he won money he will change his way, stealing is bad and it will hurt the most if you're doing it with your family, if you steal to your family that means you don't respect your family and you have no moral.

There must be a feeling of disappointment, because stealing is a disgraceful act and there must be punishment. If a child steals his mother's money to gamble, this is clearly prohibited, it would be better if the child just asked for money and received whatever money his mother gave him. I think it will be very safe. And if the money given is little or little then just enjoy it, maybe that's one way to prevent children from placing excessive bets in gambling.

And if a mother finds out that her child is gambling and winning a large amount, I think this will be different depending on the view received by the mother, meaning there are mothers who feel happy when their child gets a lot of money despite this. from gambling and there is also a mother who does not want to accept or rejects her child's winnings because the mother refuses to engage in this form of gambling.

I think it is definitely my own fault if I couldn't teach my son to not steal money from people, especially family. Kids should be taught to care a lot about their families in my opinion. That's how I was disciplined by my boomer father. He deserved respect and love. My son should also show me respect. I wouldn't mind his gambling habit tho. I would give him advice to budget his gambling money. Also I would tell my son how hard to earn money in life so if he wants to gamble he should be earning his own money first. But stealing part is very bad.

Happy and Sad since no Mother will ever be proud of their child stealing from them even if the child wins millions.

I will be disheartened and disappointed but I will not take the same step as this woman since I know that the only reason one will steal to gamble is when they are addicted to eat and will support him in every ways possible for him to be free from it

  No matter how pained she may be I don't think this is the right approach, though I support disciplinary measures but this is not of them, why will she not care about the way her son payback her money and there is an higher chance that he will steal or bet again in order to get the money back which actually should be avoided

Same sentiments here! It feels like It is really my own responsibility to guide and to teach my own child a good manners and right conduct, especially not everything can be taught in school and all the values ​​of a person must be learned inside the house and the people around them. While still young, they should be guided on the right path to keep them away from bad deeds.

I'd be pissed really. It doesn't matter that he knows how to access my account, I'd have taught my kid to never steal money from anyone regardless of who they are. It doesn't even matter if he won money, it was money stolen still. I probably wouldn't have given him the money in the first place though but indirectly? Maybe. I'd have asked him to do some chores and whatnot and gave him money to play with. Sure I would be glad that he won, but only after getting pissed that he stole money.

Well in today's age it's hard to pinpoint who's the problem really. Some parents are really strict but the availability of the internet and social media influences the younger audience by a LOT. Granted parents still have to properly control what they can see but we know it sometimes happens regardless of their will.

I think the mom is delusional when she wants to refund the money, I don't think that will happen because of the carelessness of her that made his son able to get it from her account. It's really hard to have a son like that because of these disrespect or something that she is experiencing.

It's still wrong that that son did that but I think it would be different if the son won a multi-million prize. That's gonna be a different story but that's just "wishful thinking" that would never happen because the money has been lost already.

It seemed like the mother wouldn't be angry if her son could win a bet worth millions because it was a huge amount of money. People will feel sad if they experience loss but happy if they get something even though they didn't like it at first.

Back to the story. His mother has done the right thing by asking the entire family to intervene to discipline her son so he doesn't gamble again. His mother didn't want to see her son fall into gambling beyond help, so that's why she asked people to help him. A mother's love for her child will not disappear over time.

if my child stole money from me to gamble, i would probably scold him for doing that, even if he won some money from it. because i think children his age should study and focus on their hobbies to be able to develop themselves to become successful people, not steal their parents' money and gamble. he can only gamble when he is 18 years old and has his own income, so as long as i still support him, that means he has to submit to whatever i say to him, whether he likes it or not.

Okay. Let's maintain positive positions. We verily understood that winning in gambling is a game of luck and this guy in question would have within 99%  chances to loose the game despites his 100% believe of him that he would win the bet. Before a gambler would confirm his prediction on a finishing point, he must be inspired with almost a 100% believe without being authenticated that  the game would go as his plans. Yeah.

@bitbollo, without contradicting the contexts of the thread at assuming the guy would win the bet on a multimillion price, how would you feel if the guys game comes true as he thought? Meanwhile... You can't predict that he would not win the game for as long as gambling is an unpredictable game, no one could give a confident outcome at the final end. However I am against the boys actions on stealing from his vulnerable mom. I just needed to understand your feelings if the boy wins such a prominent huge price alongside his stakes with the stolen mom.

It's not stole about my son. I collect the money of gambling money by telling lie to my family members. They are don't know what is gambling how it's work. Maximum time they think that's a scam. The they will took my money and don't give any profit that's the reason i forcely tell lie for money.

If the child is doing this for the first time, it would be better to advise them well so that they can understand that what they are doing is wrong and if they have done it several times and as parents have advised them well, of course the parent must use different methods so that their children no longer repeat the mistakes they made.

It is indeed very important to be able to limit children's activities on their cellphones and also as parents they must often check their children's cellphones whether they are using them for things that give them good or bad benefits, I think by checking them often they will understand if they have made a mistake, of course they their parents will find out.

For me, the issue here is not the children doing gambling; it is the fact that he steals from his parents without thinking about it. If this event or action is kept on doing by the children, he will lose the important lesson of life, "discipline," because the children not only disrespect the parents but also themselves because they will do something like that just for the sake of their own hobbies, which is not a good sign. Doing wrong just to satisfy their wants is not a good way of growing up because they will keep on doing wrong just to get what they want.

Yeah, gambling is also an issue at such a young age. They will be open to the world of gambling, which is not a good way of growing up, and the sign of stealing just to gamble could result in a greater crime if the child still isn't disciplined. So parents out there who gamble should watch out for their children; they should not pick their hobbies; they should discipline them.

OP, you did not mention the age of the kid, and perhaps if this was a case of underage gambling, I think the parents should be blamed for not paying much attention to their kid, which led to his becoming addicted to gambling. This kind of habit that was exhibited by that kid shows that he is either a compulsive gambler or he is yet to become one.

If the child is not under age, then he is now a fully grown adult and should face any discipline that the parents would give him. If this is the first time he is exhibiting such character, then he deserves to be forgiven, and let his parents caution and advise him.

If I were his parents, I would get angry with him, but I would still forgive him. I would then try to advise him about his compulsive gambling habit, and I would try my best to help him learn that gambling addiction will not give him a better future but might end up ruining his life. If, after all my advice and help, he refuses to change, then I will not allow him access to my money.

If my son tried to steal from me I'd try to help him understand why that's nor right.
This isn't so much about gambling but about education. You have to be a good parent and give your children lasting lessons to have with them for a lifetime.
If he was to be approached with good intentions to me it's more likely for a child to understand their mistake.

We would then see how much was lost, what could be recovered, and help him understand that it's only fair for him to do some work for what couldn't be recovered.

Hopefully parents of our generation will see their children as friends instead of punishing them too harshly. We've learn a lot from science for parenting over the last few decades, we can utilize that to bring up better humans.

There can be incidence of a nurtured kids still exhibiting some of these bad behavior probably they learnt it from friends or colleagues in school, some of these kids had some exposure towards gambling when they saw their friends displayed their winning bets consequently having exhausted every others means to fund their betting account resorted to stealing their parent money, I am sure the case reported by the OP that child must have been influenced by one of his friends, I think one of the ways of preventing this anomaly is that parents should be watchful over their kids and the type of friends they move with at home and lecture them about the consequences of gambling as a kid.

This is not always the reality. There are different ways a child gets socialized and it will be injustice to always blame negative behaviors on parents. A child has friends, goes to worship centers, attends school and he is not always there alone. He interacts with others and so he can be influenced.

No matter how you train a child, a child who can decide to go against his parents teachings and nothing can be done. It's like the saying, you can force a horse to the stream but you can't force it to drink water. That's how it is with inculcating morals. Most corrupt kids today are exposed to good teachings but then society happened.

First of all, I didn't understand if the amount was $20000 or just $15. You should clear it. If it's just 15 USD that he could have for his own expenses but he decided to gamble it, I would still have a conversation with him because he should have informed us before he took the money. He shouldn't steal any amount of money for whatever reason.

In Asian countries, It's common to beat children for such offenses. When it comes to stealing, the parents will beat them hard unless they do not care about their children's future. He could have gambled with his own money. But, if he steal money from the parents, he has something bad in his luck.

Regardless the parent don't allow the kids to not gamble or not, stole someone money can't be a forgiven!

You don't have to be a mom, dad, grandmother, brother, sister, etc to know if stole someone money is right or not, imagine if I stole your money, are you fine with that?

Even he can earn money with the stolen money, I won't happy with that.

No mother expects her child to become a gambler, especially by stealing. If it exists in this world, it means that her child will not be far from her mother who may also be a gambler. Sometimes we can't blame a child because our views will all be different. The thing that must be asked is why the child gambles, whether he imitates his mother's behavior because so far a child will learn something from those closest to him or perhaps from his environment which is full of gambling.

In this case, it is not explained in detail about the mother's job, but if the mother doesn't gamble, it means there is something wrong with her child as well as his environment, people close to him who introduced gambling to him so he started trying to get addicted to gambling just to make money, we will never know the child's reasons. it's gambling, whether he wants to buy something he hasn't had since childhood, we'll never know, it's important as a parent's duty to pay attention to their child so they don't go beyond such limits.

No one wants their child to become a gambler, if I were his mother maybe I would just advise him and ask more deeply what he wants by gambling and why he has to steal his money, I'm sure with a definite approach we will get the real answer.

I will not accept this action because if left unchecked it will continue. The act of stealing is not an action that everyone wants and the act of stealing cannot be justified even if what is stolen is money belonging to parents.

Taking a parent's money without their knowledge to use it for gambling is far worse than common theft. This is not about how the child will win large amounts of money but it is about the right behavior in life.
Today he dares to take our money as a mother, tomorrow when he grows up he is not afraid to commit robbery and is ready to take people's lives if possible.

You can't forgive your own blood? I mean yes, stealing has some consequences especially if it was stolen by your son, but being unforgivable is quite harsh.

On the other side, if your son can steal then there's probably something wrong on how you grew him up, maybe you are lacking of communication and guidance. There should be some kind of punishment for them but the blood stays in your veins.

Stealing is stealing, regardless of anything.

Win or not, I bet a parent will not be happy with what he has done. Take this as an example being a parent, even if my son wins millions, I won't like what he had done stealing from me or his aunt and uncle because that is wrong.
If we are going to be happy with just that simple reasoning then we are worst than them.
I get it, money is everything but do imaging if a kid learns to steal everytime he is cornered. For me, that will be the worst-case scenario and I don't like that to happen with them. I love them, that's the first thing I know being a parent and I want them to learn all the lessons I can give them as much as possible. Stealing is wrong even if you double the money or you made multiple wins like x1000. First he must be disciplined and then after that, it is where I congratulate him. But on a mandate that he will never do it again. Because if he did, he will not just receive a punch, he might get a wheelchair next time just to move.

If I were to be the mom I would be heartbroken and at same time I would discipline him because stealing is a bad habit that needs to be handled with correction before it gets out of hand.And also as parents we should be able to dictate/know the friends our children make how it affects them positively or negatively in the society,it is said that evil communication corrupts good manner.

I have never experienced this and I hope I will never experience this in my life. But it’s obvious that this is very painful, I’m even afraid to imagine how much... When you raise a child for many years, giving a lot of love and strength, and then he allows you to do this. Of course, it is clear that he did this under gambling addiction, but the very awareness of this does not make the pain any easier. I watched interviews with mothers whose sons are addicted to gambling, and they did not say that this happened to them more than once. I don’t want to tell anyone this, but they found the courage. I don't think I could do the same. When their children stole money from them, they probably didn’t think that the same thing could happen to them in the future. Only then will they understand what a moral pain this is for a parent, but they will not be able to do anything about it. I don't want anyone to know this.

Whether it is in any amount, large or small, it is still mistake and it is highly discouraged for child to become familiar with gambling and parents and everyone around them must be able to avoid all forms of activity related to gambling.
He may have problems that make his parents worry and feel sad about what he has done, but there is also role for parents who are negligent in the context of cases like this.
As parent, you should always supervise and really suppress all activities that might have an unfavorable impact, you should always provide guidance that can truly educate in direction that is much more beneficial for growth and development.
It would be very sad to see child who does negative things stealing money just because of the impact of gambling.

Teaching harsh lessons is indeed very natural thing to happen if child has made fatal mistake, but it should not be excessive because it will affect the child psychology and mindset towards his parents.
I know that stealing is very bad thing and must always be avoided. Gradually, child must always be guided and not make the same mistakes.
He may experience lack of concern from his parents so that he can get to know gambling and he will definitely have associations in living environment that is not good.

Stealing is one act we should always try to protect our kids from, no matter whatever the money been used for, because every mother will feel the same way she is feeling if she had kept money and it been stolen for a careless purpose. But the irony of the whole story is that if the kid had won millions with the money gambled with, that woman wouldn't have gone bad at him the way he is right now, hence, as parents discipline is an act we should never take for granted when a kid has done something wrong.

Remember, if you only appreciate the results, you're teaching your kids only to get the results regardless what the process to obtain it.

So, if you happy with your son make money by stealing your own money, he will steal mores, it start from the parent, his friends or other people. That's not a good parents, I'd say it's a failed parents, that's why I feel like parenting advisor or consultant is needed to know if we're already deserve to become parents or not yet.

I would be really disappointed if my child steal money from me. That would mean that I have failed as a parent, did not teach him what is wrong or right. It does not matter if child steal for gambling, cheat someone for money or steal candy in a shop. If the kid would as money for gambling, that would be different. Also if he steals, then I must make sort of an investigation where he learned that or where he got that idea from. From family (biggest family fail), or from friend.

In principle, if I am faced with something, even more so to try to put myself into being a mother. what is certain is that these feelings will be mixed. starting from feelings of annoyance, anger, disappointment, and even the possibility of blaming yourself for failing to educate your child well. similarly, if my child did something similar. as a father, I will feel like I have failed to educate my child well. It's not the gambling problem, but the money he stole and that money was used for something that wasn't the time for him to be involved in gambling. in this phase, if you are a mother or father, you will feel something that is difficult to express in words. especially, if the child is still not old enough.

Well, related to this question, for me it is very interesting. Basically, there is no one who doesn't need money. All things related to our lives will be interrelated with money. for example, my son stole money, but he won millions of dollars. Will I be happy?.happy? or ? I can't answer that. In fact, I have never experienced this phase and don't want it to happen to my child even though he won millions of dollars from gambling. the main problem is not money, but attitude and behavior. the actions that a child does are wrong, and the impact will be very big if a solution is not found so that the child can live a normal life.  winning millions of dollars, at the right age it doesn't matter.  but for a child, it will certainly be a problem in the future.

No she won't be that mad if the son had won jackpot with the stolen money. What she would have done is to only talk to him about not stealing but to inform her if he wanted some money to gamble  ;D

We have also had issues hear about children in religious home where gambling is forbidden and the child won huge some of money and heaven didn't lose. So such cases are not going to get the perpetrator to die, it will only be more painful if the risk didn't result to winning but if it did, the mother will swallow the shame that the son stole from her but be happy that he won the bet which the stolen money was used for.

Stealing from family members is a big no-go and the money should be returned as quickly as possible. There is no excuse for why he needed that money, taking 20,000 times money from the account is also not a good sign. He clearly planned this and tried to stay under the radar. But how didn't his mother notice this earlier? Step one should be blocking the son from all accounts, he broke the trust and this needs to have serious consequences. Step two should be to check with the bank, why didn't they lock the account earlier or informed the mother? Maybe the mother has a case against the bank as his son should never have access and the bank has to pay. Step three would be an intervention with the son and make him realise this behavior is unacceptable. Together with the whole family they should convince him to get help. It doesn't matter if he won the jackpot or not with they money, it was stolen from his mother and ruined all the trust in their relationship.

As it may be said, ignorant is not an excuse for misconducts and pampering with such a child whom has the arbitrary possessions of stealing within the household could serve as an encouragement for the child to do more, worse and even tends to consciencelessly practicing criminology as a normalcy.
Hence such a circumstance shouldn't be tolerated with the child and most be disciplined with all terms of preventing further occurances of the childs misbehavioural actions in both stealing and gambling.

mentally, this will affect the child's future and most mothers will not agree if their child gambles even if they win millions of dollars.
did you ever remember there was a thread where a boy got a big win but his father told him to return the winnings to the casino?

that's one example, not only a mother but even a father won't agree if their child gambles, even if they just want to have fun, but there are still many other ways to have fun without being involved in gambling.
parents definitely think about what's best for their children, especially if a mother finds out that her child stole money just to gamble and when he comes home with millions of dollars in large amounts of money, his mother will definitely not agree because initially the money used for betting was the money he stole and a mother would definitely think that child's future could be threatened if you let your child continue gambling and one day they could steal a large amount again and if you say imagine I am a mother I will educate my child to immediately leave gambling with the threat of not being given any money.

I will punish him for stealing my money. I won't punish him because he gambled with the money. He has to understand that stealing is a bad habbit which is not encouraged in the society. If he must gamble he should do it with his hard earned money and not stollen funds.

It would really be that so normal for a parent to scold up their child about on what happened on which we do know that stealing or getting things which arent theirs is never been that good or something which is really that ethical to do so.Plus, this is you do able to see that they are involving with gambling on which it is really just that right that we should really be telling them about its cons
and its real disadvantage on which we know that this is something that good to tell them about it. We do know that cons of gambling and we dont for our children
to experience the worst and this is why it would really be that better that you should really be teaching them on whats the right way. Hitting up millions?
Its rare but you wont really be that get frustrated if ever this one happens but most of the time you would definitely lose.

Waw, that’s serious. If the boy has gotten to the level of stealing just to gamble, then he is already addicted to gambling, because someone who’s not addicted to gambling won’t go to the level of stealing from his mother to gamble. I'm sure the mother must have noticed some gambling behaviour from the boy, maybe they didn’t just take it seriously, and now that it has gotten to the level of stealing from the mother, that’s why she is angry and looking for a solution. If you are having children, you should make sure you monitor some of their activities.

How do you expect the boy to provide the money back when he is not working? The mother is just trying to add to her problem. What if the boy ends up doing illegal things outside the house just to get the money back? Or maybe the boy might end up keeping on gambling just to be able to get the money back? What the mother should be about is how the boy will stop gambling or the addiction.

Very normal indeed, just like you said on which no parent will really be happy basing up on the thing that had been done by his/her child on which stealing is always bad thing.
Now that you've seen that he's really that involved with gambling then it is really just that right to tell them its bad and should be avoided.

You cant really just that make yourself to get pass on what they have done and its better to tell them about the bitter truth about gambling
that majority do messed up their lives because of it.

As early as you could then better to stop those kind of habits because we've seen that theyve been stealing already not really just that because you are their parents
but high likely it would be done on other people as well. This is solid indication that you are already addicted to it.

First of all, her son shouldn't have access to her banking account. If he went through it using her mobile device, it means he knew her password or it was configured to login automatically. Sorry, but it's her fault as well for being so careless with her mobile device and banking account. Imagine if it was a thief, instead of her son to take the device (after all, not that it makes much difference at all... ;D). I think the damage would be much superior than 15$...

Well, of course she is right by disciplining the son for his wrongdoing, however, to order him to refund her through any means can put this young into more trouble... He can seek for money though illegal activities, and it can introduce him to the criminal world. I guess the right approach would be the mother to find a work his son could execute and put him to work there until earning the 15$ back. The point is that she can't say to her son to get the money back without giving further guidance on how to do this correctly.

I believe she wouldn't be mad on him in that case, as it would have been a very fortunate surprise for the whole family. But at same time, she would have to discipline him in every cases. If I were the mother, I would grab the whole prize and invest it for the future of my son. By there, the money would remain untouchable by him as punishment for the theft.

I wouldn't scold him if I knew he stole my money, but I would ask him to talk privately. I will ask him why he stole, and if I know that the money was used for gambling, I will explain that gambling has risks and that if it is stolen money, he can be caught by the police if he steals it from someone else. I will not report it to the authorities, but I will ask him not to do it again.

If a teenager is scolded, he will become wilder and more difficult to advise. They tend to want to explore their curiosity and do what they want. As parents, we may need to take a different approach, especially since they are approaching adolescence.

If the child wins a lot of money, I'm not sure if the mother will be disappointed and angry. However, the mother could be disappointed and angry because the money is used for gambling, whereas the mother does not like seeing her child gambling. But the mother will still forgive her child because I'm sure the mother will love him.

All these effects follows in among the disadvantages of gambling since it could lead to criminality and anyone who has gotten to the addiction phases always face this difficulties and there is no way of adjustment or to heal the son from such attitude since it was something he began to practice on time. From what I have seen from the statement it seems the son is beyond control, causing serious damage to the family it only needs the intervention of God to heal him from this attitude.

It's not gambling that will make me angry, it's how he steals from his family whether he will use it to gamble or for anything, you don't and you never steal from your family, it is dishonesty, cheating and a sign of bad character and it reflects on the whole family.

I will not only be disappointed but will also be alarmed to have a son like this, we'll have a heart-to-heart talk and rehabilitate him so he can be healed from gambling, and if he is still underage I will have into strict supervision, it's not natural for a child to steal and it's a huge concern not only for the family but for the society if one child thinks that stealing is ok, he will grown up to become a menace to society, so it's better for the child to be rehabilitated and to get cured from gambling and dishonesty.

I would be angry, but any responsible mother or father would. Because it's not the matter of winning or not. It's the matter of taking your money without your consent (stealing) in the first place. Result of the gamble is irrelevant.

But i have a question, what this son thought would happen? He obviously knew that he would get caught for mobile transfer. With stolen cash he might have got out of it if he won and returned the money without mom noticing. Not that it would be ok either, but if mom didn't knew about it she wouldn't be angry either. Transferring the winning money on the other hand would make her be aware of the theft.

But as a first world citizen, it makes me feel disheartened that mom worked hard to save $15. I know that life expenses in some countries are low but $15 in here gets you maybe 2 beers in a cheap bar. Hopefully that mom recovers from that and son learned a lesson. Because this is not a gambling issue, this is a issue of stealing.

My state of mind? I would feel very disappointed and angry about it at first, because we are talking about theft. Regardless the child is part of the family and the household, one needs to call it for what it is and that was plain and simple theft. After the initial anger and misbelief I would feel, then I would think on there the implications of having a gambling addicted thief living close to me.
I would try to keep my money out of all reach for such person and the think of ways to get him a proper punishment and rehabilitation.

Also, if we are taking about 15$, as if it was an important amount of money to someone in that country, then the punishment needs to be equal to the misbehavior. If I could I would force him to pay all back in parts and get him away from means to gamble more money he could find in other places.

Well that's right, before going into gambling we can discuss from the other side first, as you discuss here that the child already has a bad personality and morals in him so that he can have the courage to steal money from one of his family members, and is this as a result of the wrong upbringing of parents? this can be used as an excuse but I can't be completely sure, because on the other hand I think that indeed the impact of gambling involvement can also make a person act out of control especially if he has entered the addiction phase in the sense that he is hopeful and cannot miss the slightest time not to gamble.

We can see that it is not uncommon for cases to occur that gamblers who are addicted to them are desperate to commit acts out of control such as robbery or other criminal acts and one of the causes is because gambling activities have affected their common sense. So the point is in this problem in my opinion there are two things that can be the reason why a child can be reckless like that.

A lot of individuals are stressing on to know if the child is old enough to gamble, i don't know if they want to give him benefits of considerations pertaining his action of stealing from his mom to gamble.
Anyway... Whether below or up to the age of Gambling, he has proven that he can't take control of his emotions and if he continues gambling, he would have all sorts of irresponsible reputations and regrettable moments in his gambling life so it would be better of him to face the disciplinary measures that it deserves.

That's not the right question to ask, of course, she would be happy if he had managed to win a multi million price from that money, but since he didn't, it became a double shocker for the mom because first he stole the money and then lost it all. So, she might have felt bad for the stealing part but she surely wouldn't have been disheartened or mad if the guy could manage to win something significant and give the money to her.

Even though I'm not a female, but I can easily say that I would get extremely mad for him to first steal money from my account and then losing it all in gambling. If he had asked me for money and then used that money for gambling, it would be different, and I would maybe just be a little mad for his gambling activities but not for the stealing part.

A stupid question (in the context of “what if he won”). There is a factor of chance in life and sometimes bad behavior is rewarded and good behavior, on the contrary, is punished, but if you are not indifferent to the fate of your child, then most likely it is important for you that he does the right thing, regardless of the fact that sometimes bad actions bring benefits. I think that any reasonable mother would be upset by her son’s theft, regardless of the results of his gambling.
By the way, since you love thought experiments, how about this: a person kills and robs another person. Later it turns out that the murdered man was a maniac. Does this allow us to praise the burglar?

Teaching hard lessons is necessary. Parents have to be careful with their children. If the son of someone gambled, that mean he is grown up enough who understand gambling. He is not a toddler who does not understand what is right and what is wrong. I won't support beating a eight years old child for stealing, I would teach him and guide him instead.

But if a 15 years old son do this, surely I will have to talk to him and teach him a hard lesson if it's necessary. I have seen people allowing their kids do whatever they want and their expectations always grew up as long as their parents allowed them doing unethical things like stealing from others. If you see that your kid is stealing, he behaving rude, you have to teach him and guide him.

If my son stole my money to gamble, then I should give him more lunch money, because he is in short of funds. Just kidding :D

Of course this is a huge tragedy, even though people wont admit it. Proper words would be parenting failure. Because parents failed to explain basics of what is good or bad, what is accepted in society and what is not. I am already expecting people from Never gamble in front of your kids (https://bitcointalk.org/index.php?topic=5467454.0) to come and talk about addiction, and the reason for act of theft was because parents gambled in front of kid. This has little to do with gambling. This is not about gambling at all. Then it will be "never steal in from of your kids". Gambling is just an excuse. The kid stole because he needed money, not because he wanted to gamble. He could have stolen money for candies, clothes, video games, toys.

How she's reacting is just a normal way every non-gamblers would possibly react, due to the fact they do not understand anything and the drive in gambling.
It is just exactly same way non football players will hate and curse a goalkeeper after he fails to save the ball from entering the goal post, and this very same goal keeper have in the same match saved like 8 to 10 possible or potential goals, and non will remember that, every bodies mind is shifted to just that particular one he was not able to save.

If the boy had won millions, the woman possibly will not react the way she is reacting because, she would have her $15 back, and possibly even much more than her $15 that was used for the bet.
But right now the money is lost,  she can't have her $15 back, and she did not give the consent for the money to be used to play gambling, it was stolen from her, how she is reacting is completely normal.

And if I was her or in her shoes, first, let me say that no one of my child will dare to steal my money to use for gambling, he or she will be a dead meat, it is better to ask, and I willingly decide to give you the money or not, but stealing my money and using it not anything meaningful but gambling, I possibly may not ask that you return the money by whatever means, but what I did do, you as my child will prefer I had asked you to return the money.

It is still unethical for the kid to stole that money from his parents account even if that bet got the winning. That is a stepping stone to becoming an irresponsible gambler on his adulthood. But mixed emotions will surely happen during that time, like tears of joy and the feeling of slight disgust for stealing that hard earned money from her account.

Well, I will teach this kid a lesson to not steal money from anybody. He might get jailed for that behavior. Let his conscience haunt him so he will no longer do that again. Tell that kid he has no idea how hard it is to come up with that amount on her account.

No one knows the real answer here because your auntie is the one who’s involved on this situation not us.


I will be furious if my son do this even if he win huge amount of money since the fact of stealing money is an act of dishonesty which shouldn’t be praise nor rewarded despite the outcome is good because he will keep doing it in the future if you let it slide.

As a parent, we should not tolerate this kind of act because this will be a problem in the future once he have a chance to do it and with worst outcome.

It's clear, I myself would scold behavior like that, because it's not good treatment, stealing is not a good thing and I think everyone knows this. If their children dare to steal, chances are they are already addicted to gambling, but it would be a shame if they are still easily addicted to gambling because that is not a commendable thing. In my opinion, people who are addicted to gambling will only think about gambling, and when the money they have runs out, they will do other things, such as stealing, on this topic.

If a child is addicted to gambling then I will advise him well, and if he dares to steal then I will scold him, because what they are doing is wrong, especially stealing to gamble, I don't think they are the only mistake they have made. What I'm afraid of is that they will get used to it and then become bolder, like committing robbery or other things like what you said.
Therefore we have to educate our children well,  because we have a role in educating children to be good and useful children. If there are children who do that, in my opinion it is because their friend environment is not good or lack of parental supervision.

When I see people who are more interested to know about the childs age before they can determine the level of his wrong, it makes me understand how decayed the modern day society have actually gone and it's a very big issue that's giving me concerns. How did we start to use a childs age to know if he should be punished for stealing in the first place or not. For the child to be able to steal his parent's money to gamble, he must have been involving himself in other activities that are related to stealing and if he's not adequately punished for his actions, he'll continue to steal and probably go wild with his stealing habit.


A child who steals his parent's money to gamble has  proven that he's already addicted to gambling and can do anything possible to make sure he gambles stealing included. That's actually a very big problem for his parents if you ask me and if he's not stopped at his very tender age, it'll cause a disaster for the child and to also everyone around him. This is one of the major reasons why it's very advisable for adults not to engage in any gambling activities in front of kids in other not to expose them to gambling in their very early age

If my child steals money and uses it for gambling, I will scold him and give him punishment, this is a lesson in his life, that stealing is bad, and gambling is not intended for small children, I will stress him at all costs. so that he doesn't do it again, because if left unchecked he will be even more daring to take the next action, it's better to prevent this with harsh means.

It is better said to be forgiven but not forgotten because such scenarios worth an immediate correctional measures so as it doesn't proceed a concurring occurrence and because we are humans, such disasterous activity is likely not easy to be forgotten by either the guys parents or the guy himself because remembrance of it is a reminder of conciousness measures.

On the other side, if your son can steal then there's probably something wrong on how you grew him up, maybe you are lacking of communication and guidance. There should be some kind of punishment for them but the blood stays in your veins. [/quote]
On a straight forward note, please it would be awful giving excuses towards this guys action to had stolen from the mom for gambling.
I also doubt if the guys action was as a lineage immunity or how he was nurtured by his parents.
Ignorance should not be an excuse because I practically know that my parents doesn't gamble but I do and of course there are other side stuffs I do which my parents doesn't know about neither do they also practices the same thing.
Lifestyle is clearly an individual choice and yeah, childrens lifestyles could still be inflicted by how they are brought up by their parents or guidances.


Verily exciting expressions in such situations is as encouraging the young boy to do more with the tips to steal and utilizes the opportunity to create income as such. Adamantly, this could signify that such act is never a mysterious concurance but a lineage immunity possessions.

No matter what the result or the game will be, stealing is bad, and any child who engages in that should be treated in accordance with the punishment they deserve.
 
I will punish the child and earn him/her not to engage in such again, and the kind of punishment and reaction from me will tell that I'm not happy and such should not repeat itself again. If you treat the person differently based on the gambling result, there is nothing that is going to stop him from doing so next time, even if he is going to lose the game.
 
I can even treat a child who uses the money I give him or her for personal use for gambling. I will get upset and react to that, but the reaction will not be as bad and hash as it will be when they steal from me.

For me I believe that I should blame myself first before blaming the child that stole money to gamble with, reason being that for the fact that stealing is a bad thing and against the law, i will judge me first because it shows that I have failed in my parenting role to the child so the blames first fall on me and after then transferred to my child.

Gambling is not a bad thing but stealing to gamble with is bad, and also if the child is up to the age of gambling that means he is already an addicts since he can still to gamble with at that age.

Regardless wether he won the games or not, it still will not make any big difference for me and for sure, some time they may be lucky to have win the games, but that not still withstanding the fact about the child act being evil since stealing was involved.

In good times everyone cheers but in bad times no one stands by. Even the mother would have been very happy if her son had won a jackpot. However, not everyone will be like that. But when someone gets a large amount, many fail to handle the greed. Gambling should not be done by stealing. Because his mother must have earned that money by hard work. Gambling with his money without telling him is not acceptable. On the other hand, a mother trying to recover that money by forcing her son is also not a suitable method. Because he knows very well that his son has no source of income. I think he should be discouraged from doing such things by convincing him as much as possible.

If this... happened in my little family... To be honest, I would feel disappointed in my child, because so far I have never taught him to steal or take things that don't belong to him and lie to his parents. Moreover, he used his money to gamble.

And starting from this problem, this is a lesson for everyone and especially for me personally about how important education is in a family. and as parents we should always be able to take the time to provide education, advice and more attention to our children. Don't just do work, which never ends, make us forget that there are more important things we have to do, namely instilling kindness in our children. because it could be that children can run away to gamble and look for fun there, this is because they don't get more attention and affection from their parents. So they choose to look for new sensations that can provide pleasure.

The game results will be different,but the gambling industry will give you the jackpot one day.The gamblers should wait for the big win,he should accept all the small losses in their career.The losses doesn’t affect the gamblers at the initial stage,but the big win will change the life of the gamblers in real.The gamblers who get the loss in the game in the continuous way need to wait for the longer period,because the gamblers may do the gambling in the wrong strategy.It was important for the gamblers to get away from their strategy and build the new strategy in the gambling.The gamblers who play gambling with loan should play only with strategy.

I understand what you meant, but the mistakes isn't always in our' sides. Some peple taught their kids to not gamble by explaining the disadvantages, but some people remain silent because they think the kids might be safer to not introduce them about gambling. Their curiosity is really high, most of them will try to discover by themselves when they heard from other people including their parents.

I would be really pissed off because the one thing I don't like is stealing. So if my son has stolen money then he is gonna get some nice lesson from me.
Then comes the gambling part, it depends on his age and how often he is gambling. If he can control his gambling habits then it's okay I believe.
But if he is stealing money for gambling then there's something very wrong. He must be taught a lesson, may be in a decent way but it's necessary.

If I was in the mother's position, of course the first thing that may come to my mind is all about anger but of course it wont resolve the main issue.
As a parent, we should evaluate why such a thing can happen, evaluate ourselves as parent if there is something wrong in the way we teach and monitor our children.
Next we should have a great communication with our son, we do not need to blame him to much but we need a deep talk from heart to heart.
Let the money go but we should not let our children down into deeper problem.

Asking for permission is a discipline that must be applied because it will be used to do everything at all ages and all needs. A person's financial condition can be weak, including teenagers who live with money that is limited by their parents every day, I don't blame their activities and needs because over time people have different needs for money, if you are used to it, of course people will get used to sharing stories and asking for loans well in very bad and urgent conditions though.

If you are not accustomed to it since childhood, of course, just to fulfill secondary needs, you can be reckless like that.

Speaking of gambling, especially by stealing it is not a solution. Of course, it will be pursued to return with a quick mind because with capital that is full of burdens. Even if it wins a lot of profit, I don't justify it and I can direct it to return and define it as bad behavior, even though it has to give a very sad illustration with defeat and long effects if it doesn't match expectations. It is better to play with your own money and refrain even if you have to deposit again, maybe in the future when you have free money.

I agreed with that fact that kids are open to alot of external influences and if not well grounded they could easily get influenced by negative habits such as the stealing we saw in this case, so for us to be able to truly define the concept and characteristics that leads the son taking money parents to gamble with, so I may not blame the parents entirely for this.

But also we have to accept the fact that, hard it been the perants have taken the time to teach the son the danger of gambling and it addictions and how it effects our general well being, this is what would have protected the child outside since the lesson will form his mindset when he is introduced to such things outside.

I'll be broken on thinking that I have failed in my duty as a mother to raise my son with good habits. Maybe due to nonchalance, I have exposed them to environment that introduced them to this gambling habit or not followed up well with them to have known the time my son started to pick interest in gambling. A mother should always know what is happening in a child's life so they can know how to guide and correct them not to make mistakes and choices that they would regret later in life.

Of course, it is always a disappointment when the member we always love responds to us with such condemnable behavior, many parents can get mad and send their children physical and mental pain so that this pain is imprinted on the children but like what you said, instead of creating such trauma, we should reconsider our love and communication, at least let the child explain and ask appropriate questions. Coldness and psychological trauma only make children more stubborn, learning to look at our children's world, we will do well our responsibilities as a father, be strict and not tolerate evil but don't show violence

But the question is who introduced gambling so that the child is desperate to steal money and gamble.
When already committing theft, there is a possibility that the child has been frequent enough and becomes addicted to continue gambling.

The need for parental supervision of children so that this does not happen,
because those who are underage have an unstable mentality, and any decision-making does not think about anything else.

Providing early education about the impact of gambling that is not well controlled must be done,
so that they understand and understand that gambling can not always produce.
Because the losses caused will also have an effect on their mentality.

If i were the mom, I'd feel a mix of emotions. On one hand, I'd be relieved and grateful if my son had won, but on the other hand, I'd still be upset about him taking the money without asking. It's a tricky situation of being grateful of the son but also needing to address the issue of trust and responsibility. The character and choices matter beyond just the financial outcome. at the end of the day hes still my son. i wouldnt want him hurt

Stealing is never right. How it’s taken and what you need the money for that led to you stealing is totally irrelevant. Of course any responsible mother would frown at her ward stealing and would try to kill that habit in her child.
Your question on if the mother would have remained angry if the kid had won a huge amount with the money he stole. A responsible parent should not fail to reprimand their kid even if that child had won a life changing amount with money that was stolen.
There is no justifying the act of stealing and if I were the parent, my kid would be well aware of my displeasure and is sure to learn a lesson that stealing someone else’s property is never acceptable.

A stern warning for first stealing offense. I would beat the shit out of him for repeat offense. My mom used to do that every time I raised my voice against her or do something stupid. I understand that this method may not be applicable to some places like the West but it keeps you disciplined. Kids know how to manipulate your softness and use that to their advantage.

Forget about the what if if the kid won a million with that amount. The value is important here that when they're still young, we should teach them valuable lesson that money or anything that doesn't belongs to them shouldn't be spent by them.

That's the important matter at this point so that kids won't be tolerated. And if you've got a way to punish your kids that they're going to learn the lesson, do it.

Because that's what you're going to make them remember that what they did is wrong.

You said he should play gamble when his out of your house not while you are in the same roof with home. What if he is with you and still play gamble secretly? Because a child that have started gambling does not play in your present by out of your presence. Then In such situation what will you do?

As a mother, I would be very angry with my son's actions, not because of his gambling, but his behavior in transferring about $15 from the account without my knowledge. Obviously, I cannot tolerate this action, because he has dared to take money without my knowledge and I consider that as stealing. I would rather he be honest and open with me than have to take the money without my knowledge.

I will not question the outcome, but I am very disappointed with his attitude of daring to steal money and it cannot be forgiven until he gets to replace all the money that has been spent. Parents have their own way of educating their children, asking them to return the money not because they don't love and care for them, but as a lesson that they have done the wrong thing.

I understand that everyone has the freedom to choose whatever they want, and that includes parents who allow their children to gamble with some conditions such as the one you discussed about parents only allowing their children to gamble when they are outside the home and outside their parents' neighborhood. Honestly, I don't know why parents make rules like this, but my conclusion is that parents want to be respected by their children by implementing a rule that their children cannot gamble if they are in the neighborhood of their parents.

But on the other hand I think this rule seems to be very easy to be violated by the child, because as we know that someone who has entered into gambling activities usually finds it quite difficult to pass the time without getting involved in gambling, especially for someone who has entered the addiction phase, because over time when the child is in his parents' house it is very likely that they will experience such whispers in him that indirectly tempt to gamble, so it cannot be denied that in situations like this children may gamble while in the environment of their parents but without their knowledge.

Regardless of the outcome of the bet, I will be angry at my child for stealing from me. I won't be angry he gambled as gambling isn't a bad thing when done correctly. He might be gambling as a form of entertainment or to double his money therefore I won't be angry with him for gambling but teach him how to do it right so he doesn't get addicted and becomes a gambling addict that'll destroy his life and that of other individuals that'll be around him including my self as he'll be stealing to fulfil his gambling urges.

What he did wrong was stealing as that's a bad habit and if it grows with him, he'll be bringing shame to the family and to himself. He'll be a convicted criminal and that'll spoil his chances to become a successful individual in life. Punishing him will be what I'll do to him so he learns his lesson that stealing isn't a good character to have. Stealing to gamble is worse as it shows signs of addiction.

The worried mother must have been upset that her son took $15 from her account to bet and then lost it. It's likely that losing money and breaking trust hurt her feelings. It's more possible that the person is mad about the illegal exit than about how the bet turned out. People might still be scared about the trust breach if the kid had won a lot of money, but they might not feel as bad about it. Deal with the broken trust, teach the young person how to be responsible, and come up with good ways to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Stealing is bad whether or not it was used in good or bad thing. Nothing can ever justify an action no matter how heavy the situation is. If you stole a money, that is counted as a sin. And every sin has its corresponding punishment and consequences even if you are blood related, no matter how small or big the amount may be. Like what they say, the end doesn't justify the means. So if I were in the aunt's place, I will still be mad because of the fact that my son had stolen something valuable from me. If he badly wants it, he could have asked. And if he badly needed it, he could have done something to gain it in proper manner.

If someone can't be trusted with small things, how much more in bigger things? It should be known to his son that his mother will get mad for doing something unlawful and shows no moral compass. Since he stole it, it is just right for him to pay back what doesn't belong to him in the first place. And this is why people have negative view on gambling. If you don't have the means to gamble, just stay put. If you can't, work your ass off to have funds to stake, and do not bother other people.

You just reminded me how my grandma got incredibly angry when I stole 2 cents or more to play PS2 in my neighbor's house. I was so scared that I no longer play around at the house after that. Luckily my family bought me a computer so I can play games in my home. I don't think a good mother will just say "Okay fine at least you win" to her son regardless of the outcome as others have mentioned, since that is just setting up a bad precedent that might destroy his life sooner or later.

This is probably what the son needs to do. The bad news is it will never 'end' in the sense that his mother will be able to trust him just like before. She will get suspicious once in a while even if he really didn't do anything but he must accept it as a consequence of breaking her trust. At the end of the day, it is almost impossible to repair a broken trust. Just like the saying goes, it takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair.

I agree with you that the habit of stealing from an early age will make him become accustomed to stealing until he grows up, therefore it is best to advise him as much as possible not to do it a second time, it is a mistake of a child to steal, we cannot punish it in a harsh way because Whatever we blame, there must be a cause and reason that we don't know but it makes him want to do it. The point is to give the correct advice that stealing is not justified, especially because it is for gambling.

An addiction to gambling from an early age was probably what made him do that so he dared to do it because he thought his mother wouldn't know and would be angry, luckily he didn't do it, steal other people's money out there, possibly if he was caught he would be subject to criminal law, before the child did anything excessive. It's good to give advice because in a harsh way it won't help anything. My friend advised his child in a harsh way, but his son kept wanting to do it. Sometimes we need to approach children and advise them in a good way and then direct them that the action they are taking is wrong.

A mother will be upset when she discovers her son has stolen her money. It's not a matter of the amount of money but because his actions have upset the mother and have clearly damaged her trust in her child, especially if her child uses the money to gamble. This will make his mother even more annoyed and angry because the stolen money was used for gambling, which was not what his mother taught him. Indeed, it would be better for the mother and other family members to make the child aware so that he does not steal again and learns to be responsible for his actions. Maybe a little punishment is enough to wake the child so he won't repeat it. However, this is a lesson for us to always be careful in educating our children.

first question is that , How do the Son have that withdrawal when the mobile should have password on it?

calling everyone? she is the parent meaning she have lost about how to handle Her own child, then that is insane.

I will never be that kind , because I am not careless to provide security on my phone , and also if ever this happened to me? I will make sure that my son will regret what he have done here.

Why should you feel disappointed in your child, if this is you who failed to raise him? Feel disappointed in yourself. Because you have failed to make him understand that stealing is bad. Its is your fault that he has used gambling to get more money for example, or did not know when to stop. You should have explained all that, but the kid only did what he thought was right. That is the problem of many parents, instead of searching the root of a problem, they blame only the final link.

It doesn't matter to me if the child won the bet or not, what matters is that he gambled with a stolen money, and that is a criminal act, if the child is an adult then he can go to jail and serve time for stealing.

The mother telling a child that does not have a source of income to replace money that is gone is the same thing as telling him to go and steal it from someone else, but I guess that the mother said that out of frustration and never really meant it. The first thing for her to do is change her account passwords and hide every sensitive information where the child can not access them, to avoid a repeat of similar incident. Also the young Man needs continuous counseling about the dangers of stealing and the loses in gambling, by professionals or family and friends that he's familiar with,

You are not to get too mad with your son, let him know that you are not happy with what he did but instead of showing much hate try to teach him about gambling instead, tell him what awaits someone who don't know a lot about gambling and he will either choose to quit or choose to be a responsible gambler.

I would love him to quit because I won't want were by his attention will shift from his studies into gambling, this is very possible but he might also start hiding stuffs from me, the truth is if he still have interest in gambling he can do it behind your back.

If you don't like your son hiding things from you it's better to pretend as if you are in support and expose what gambling really looks like to him, he will learn and you need to discipline him if he stole the money for gambling, this are two separate lessons you need to teach him.

One for stealing money to gamble, this is wrong, stealing is wrong.

Secondly, you need to teach him the act of a responsible gambler, you won't know of he still have interest or not, he might not quit gambling easily.

oh the parent would have really felt disappointed right now as she didn't raised the child that way.

Anyways, the child shouldn't just be disciplined for discipline sake but should be chastised in a manner that points to the danger of his actions and, he shouldn't be required to provide the money he had stolen and used to gamble, it could lead to worse case scenario if you know what i mean.

I don't have a son yet but I have a daugther who already gamble, but it's just for fun. If time will come that she will steal money from me to gamble, I would feel disappointed but I would not be to harsh to here since I also gamble and I know what gambling can do if a person gets addicted to it. I have my time focus on here and help here to recover, gambling is suppose to be for fun and we can only achieve that we are have limitations.

Maybe it's also important that we should educate our children about gambling even if they aren't gambling, so if the time comes that they will try, they won't be ignorant and will make stupid mistakes.

Stealing is a sign of a very bad character, even if my son won millions my big concern is he will waste the money he won, you cannot expect someone with a bad character to spend his money wisely, he might waste it by continuously gambling and buy expensive things that he doesn't need or do partying because a thief who has a lot of money will just waste the money.

If this happens to my son I will be alarmed because there's a possibility that I'm raising a criminal who will become a menace or a problem child so to avoid these things from happening I will have to send my son to a rehabilitation center, and guide him and follow his progress until he is cured.

The mother was concerned that the boy had only lost $15, and that the situation could have been worse if the boy had lost a larger amount. I do not know whether the boy is an adult or not? I have seen some minors who used to gamble by transferring money to their father's account. But after a few days, one person was found in the hands of his father and he recognise that the boy steal money and gamble with that money. Later he was brought back to normal after various persuasions. If a child does such a thing, parents should quickly change their account or other wallet keys and keep them in a safe place.

Obviously, I'll be disappointed and I have already experienced such a scenario but my mind was not spent on gambling they spent it on online games and they even plan to get some more thankfully I was alerted by SMS on my phone so I was able to quickly prevent it. At this point, they should probably teach that kid a lesson and also make it more hard for him to acquire money from them because obviously, he won't spend it on something he really needs but rather on the things he is addicted to. Prevention is better than cure, they should step forward today or gonna cry tomorrow because they cannot stop him anymore due to his addiction becoming worse than before.

I can't picture out how it feels but if ever it happened, it would be a big shame on myself for not guiding them to the right path. As he already knows how to steal from me, he could possibly steal things from others. It should be stopped before it gets worse and before it becomes a habit.

Even though that kid won the bet but because it was coming from stealing, we could say thanks instead, telling them that it is not right and should not be happening again. This kid of behavior should not be tolerated or else, it is just like we are telling them to do steal more.

maybe this is what is called "the fruit doesn't fall far from the tree", so your daughter's behavior is at least similar to what you said, but even though your daughter gambles just for fun, I hope you don't ignore her too much or let her go by not watch him well. because even so, in my opinion, the risk of addiction is still there, if your daughter is fed up with the gambling she does which always ends in losing and that can trigger her emotions to rise, then it is possible that she could become addicted to gambling too. then negative thoughts are created, such as secretly stealing your money.

But did you teach your daughter to gamble yourself? or show your gambling activities in front of your daughter? because there are discussions outside this topic that discuss "don't gamble in front of children" I think this is true, we shouldn't gamble in front of our children, let alone teach them to gamble. In my opinion, educating children well is a must, not impossible, in fact, in my opinion, children should not be educated or introduced to gambling, because I'm sure you also know the bad effects of gambling. because there have been many cases of people who gamble for fun but become addicted to gambling. because losing self-control in gambling can change the mindset of someone who plays it in a short period of time.

To be honest, I really don't understand what you are saying here or how it all connects to the statement I made above.
 
In truth, one day, whoever is gambling, if they continue to gamble, is going to win gambling. Someday, one cannot remain unlucky for the 365 days that we have in a year, and when the right time comes with the right strategy, the person is going to go home with a good winning amount.
 
But when it comes to taking what is not yours to gamble with it all in the name of you wanting to fulfil your gambling desire, that's where I'm  against it.Whoever wants to gamble should gamble with what they can afford, but taking that which does not belong to them is stealing.
 
No matter what the gambling result is going to turn out to be, they should be punished for stealing. I know if the person wins big, they will offer to pay back the stolen money, but still, it doesn't make sense that the child should be corrected by whatever means necessary.

I know that some people would come up with such a question to ask "Had it been he won millions from the bet", what would the mother do? To be happy about it(that's what the minds of people would assume).

There is an adage that says ''Spare the rod and spoil the child''. There are some families, whose parents won't accept the wealth of their sons if not gotten in the rightful way they assign.

For the son's mother to call everyone to inform them about her son stealing her money to gamble, means she hates what her son did with passion. If her son had won millions from it, she might not accept it.

If she accepts it as a mother who needs money, in the future her son can do the worst and by then she won't have the boldness to question him about having such a bad attitude about betting with stolen money.

In general, I agree, but we also need to take age into account. If a child takes his parents’ money without asking at the age of 16, then this is already very close to theft, but if he does this at 10, then this is completely different. It seems to me that at this age children quite logically regard family property as something common and the “secret” waste of part of the property is perceived by them not as theft but as a cunning but harmless move (like reading a book under the blanket with a flashlight instead of sleeping). But since we are talking about gambling here, most likely the child’s age is closer to 16 than 10 and he has obvious moral problems or a gambling addiction.

It doesn't matter what they stole, how they stole it, what they used it for and even if they stole money to gamble and made  millions, I would feel the same way regardless..very upset.  If they stole money and won a bunch, sure that's great but it would certainly be a teaching lesson and they would be grounded for a very long time if it were me.

Woah, this kid stealing his mom's cash to gamble? That's messed up on a whole new level. It's like stealing candy from a baby... except the baby is broke and the candy is her rent money. Yikes.

Sure, punishment is important, gotta let him know that ain't cool. But just yelling and grounding him won't fix the real problem, right? This kid's clearly got something deeper going on. Maybe he's hooked on gambling, maybe he's feeling the pressure and trying to escape in a risky way, or maybe he just saw his dad blow his paycheck on the ponies and thought it was normal.

Whatever it is, the parents gotta dig in and figure it out. Slapping a bandaid on this with punishment won't cut it. They need to talk, listen, and show some real support. Maybe get some help from a therapist or counselor, someone who can untangle this mess and get the kid back on track.

It can be very disheartening if we are to be in this case but it would also be an excitement if the result ended to be a big win. No body cares about negative results but we are all astonished about people when the positive result shows up. Gambling is in different ways and we need to know what we are doing so that we don't end with negative results. Normally stealing is bad but for the result to have turned positive, then there is nothing to bother about because we can also rejoice for turning a bad altitude into something of jubilation for people around who would have criticize such an act.

Yes, you are right, this is a deep problem that you need to dive into and understand what is really happening to the child. Even if he turns to specialists, there is a high chance that even they will not deal with this situation, because the child may withdraw into himself due to psychological problems and possibly internal shame. Yelling is not right, although many parents will want to do it as soon as they hear about it. This can be done under the influence of emotions.

In general, stealing money from parents is the first problem that seriously hurts morally. And the second problem is that it is necessary to solve the problem with the possible dependence that is forming in the child at this moment, if he was ready to do it. You have to speak so carefully with a child that it’s like finding the key to his moral state; it’s incredibly difficult to do. But the problem must be solved, otherwise it will happen again if nothing is done.

Punishment or discipline would really be just that right on such situation on which you should really be that applying it out or else it would really be that something that could really be repeated up to be committed.
This is why when it comes to those situations or probabilities then kids are really that will likely be doing things even if it wont really be that viable. Into the condition on which you are already having that a child
who do get involved with gambling on where it did come into a time that it is really that involving gambling and stealing out money for them to gamble then this is a solid indication that you are
already addicted with gambling. So better be careful and be anxious when it comes into your decision.

Being disheartened or not, winning the bet or not, what is bad is bad, the child shouldn't have stolen the money to use in gambling, the word stealing is still there in the statement and that makes the whole thing wrong either winning or loosing, moreover, as parents, we should learn how to keep our money safe, then try to train the children well because if they can't steal from us, they may went ahead stealing from others which is going to be pathetic.

There is nothing that justify stealing. Stealing is stealing and the boys need to be caution against next time, if the parent don't, he will do worst than the first one because he will be like "what are they going to do"? He wouldn't feel any remorseful to doing any bad the next one.
How exactly is the boy going to win a millions judging from the amount you said he stole from his mother, he wouldn't win anything that big and even if he luckily win it, it wouldn't be a regular type of gambling unless he is a pro in gambling and very experienced.

As for the the parental role, I will make sure he doesn't repeat that again, if he is still under age then the parent work on that boy not to end up liking gambling or see gambling as a way to make money else they will suffer it and the boy will suffer gambling addiction when he becomes a full adult. They don't want to see their child sold all their property to gamble or steal from other places because he want to gamble, as they said before warn if before arm.

So if you tell your child that it’s bad to steal, does that mean they won’t steal? Even if you tell your child something's bad and they shouldn’t do it, don’t be surprised that they will go behind your back and end up doing things that you warned them not to do. If things like this happen, are you going to blame yourself for that? I'm sure most parents do tell their children that stealing is bad, but some children won’t just listen.

Some parents don’t even know that their children are gambling, gambling can be done even with mobile phones now, so children secretly gamble with their phones that even their parents won’t know they are gambling, and you don’t expect parents to monitor even their children’s mobile devices. At least they also have privacy, which should be respected, so if children are gambling, the blame shouldn’t be on parents alone.

Stealing is a fundamental negative action that can lead to worse behavior in the future. Addressing the issue promptly can help prevent the escalation of such behavior. Warning the boy about the consequences of his actions and instilling a sense of responsibility is indeed important. The unrealistic expectation of winning millions through gambling, especially considering the amount stolen, is a practical perspective. People around need to make the boy aware that success in gambling is not guaranteed, and the potential consequences far outweigh any possible gains.

Taking proactive steps to ensure the boy understands the severity of his actions, especially if he is underage, is vital. Educating him about the potential dangers of gambling addiction and instilling values that discourage risky behavior will contribute to his overall well-being. The phrase "warn if before arm" encapsulates the idea that addressing the issue early on can prevent more significant problems in the future. It's a reminder that guidance and support from parents play a crucial role in shaping a child's attitude towards gambling and responsible decision-making.

I think the case of that boy winning millions of dollars is very unlikely. If it happened, perhaps that mother would not have complained and called for help. What that boy did was definitely wrong, but if he compensated with a large amount of money, maybe that mother would be immediately soothed. I believe everyone would be like that. If I were that mother, I would probably be made to forget his previous mistake by the boy's winnings. Everyone has greed in them, don't say that you wouldn't care about such a large amount of money to punish your child right then and there, right? And of course, life will not be like a dream, so the boy's certainty of loss is completely unacceptable, and we don't need to discuss if this happens, right?

Stealing is a mistake, when we see our children stealing it must be very embarrassing for us parents because we can also be blamed in educating our children because stealing is a fatal mistake and if this is not discovered perhaps he will do it again and again because as long as if he hasn't been caught he will still do it, especially if the money is for gambling as a parent would be very angry to see his child make the mistake of stealing and gambling so my attitude if I found out my child was doing this I would be firm and give him a punishment so that he is deterred and doesn't do it again.

I'm not sure if he can win big because getting millions in gambling is not easy, especially since the money comes from stealing, so I don't think he will get what he wants because there is only a series of things that make him embarrassed due to the theft he did himself and made his parents disappointed with his attitude.

To start with, stealing is a wrong act. Even if he stole to gamble and still won, it is still a wrong act. He is probably either a greedy person or a gambling addict because this is a perfect example of a question of why someone would go out of his way to gamble to the extent of placing bets with money that is not his.
If he is a teen I would say he also probably did it based on peer pressure.

However the case of the aunty frowning at the stolen cash could actually be because he lost the bet. Because most persons , including some core haters of gambling would not be very angered if the guy had come hopping back home with the news that he hit a jackpot. Like I always say most people who hate gambling hate it probably because of the addicts and Losers and unfortunately most addicts lose more than they win in gambling but still can't just stop staking.

It depends on the situation. If I were the parent of that kid, I would be mad, stealing is bad and this is a wrong behavior that should be corrected while they are young. I don't care about the winnings if ever he won, I'd rather choose my kid to avoid stealing and any other bad behavior as much as possible because it is something that can never be bought with money.

Whether it encouraging or even sad, it clear that there has been fatal mistake and it can become a bad habit, namely stealing, of course we can all understand that stealing will become a habit if there is no pressure to stop it.
Even though winning can give you joy and also return the stolen money, it will definitely happen again in the future and this is what should always worry about, especially if are still child or teenager.
Would be happy to see your child stealing just to bet? Of course, you will definitely get angry and reprimand him not to repeat the same thing and likewise, others definitely don't want their children to experience problems due to their love of gambling and doing various bad activities such as stealing to be able to bet.

In social life, stealing is very bad thing and there will never be positive side, so we must always pressure and give direction to our children so that they never try to do something like that.

Maybe because from someone who is hard to get $15 and could get more would be great, but we cannot consider this a trivial matter because this can be said to be a crime, if today he dared to steal his mother's money, it is very possible that he will do something worse by stealing from other people to be able to fund his gambling, and it will endanger his life and that of his family if his crimes increase.

Every mother will be angry and sad and may even think that she is a failed mother because her child becomes a thief and gambles, especially if her child is still at school age, meaning that her child is doing something that he is not allowed to do. The mother must find a way to change her child and asking for expert help is very necessary so that she can get the right treatment.

For the first question, I am not the person and I don't know her either, and neither did I know her temperament and wisdom, so we do not have anything in common. I believe she will be the one to actually state how she would react or even reacted when it happened if the story is real.

But for the second part, first, I am a man but still have a clue about this. I do not believe that my son can do that, but if he did that despite providing everything for him and still teaching him in the best way possible, of course, I would be so disheartened. I will also query myself if I've erred in my responsibility as a parent and try to do more.

You want me to be mad at the child? Well, I won't, I am not that kind of a person, not that I do not have that kind of temperament, but I concluded that being mad may not solve anything. Connecting with the child and asking questions to know how you will deal with the immediate and later in this regard is the best solution I know.

Stealing is bad practice, it does not matter what the purpose is for or what the outcome is, i would be mad if any of my children stole my money or that of any other person. It is important to train your children to be responsible in everything they do and stealing is an act of irresponsibility, even if the child won millions through the bet, you must correct them that stealing is a no for any responsible child.

The truth is, the mother was disheartened because the money went to waste. But if that money turned out to be something more than what it initially was, I guess a little scolding will come after but she will still forgive her son and take some cut from the winnings. This is what our society has become, unfortunately. A lot of us no longer value honest work and will jump straight to judging and condemning without trying to see things from a different perspective.

What the son did was wrong. He should be scolded and taught a lesson for that, but not go so far as to humiliate him in front of other people because this will only keep him pushing towards the wrong direction.

You are right, It is either criminality inspires your indulgences to get money for gambling  or your gambling addictions inspires you to criminality.
At it all,  such circumferences exposes the gambler to illegal indulgences with the tasty desperacies to fund their gambling stakes.

the only way is prevention because cure will be harder to find when its already there like how this story runs because imagine a Son can take His mothers money? never that I imagined my Children doing this to us and I don't know what to react if happens.

But for now I will do anything to hinder them from engaging in gambling and even if they did I'll make sure not to let them have this addiction problem because this will take my wife's life as she loved and gave them everything .

If that scene already happen and we see are son being out of control then do a crime just to have money to have money to use for gambling then I think he really need a disciplinary action for doing that.

Since doing nothing may lead to more worse situation and I guess if this situation happens to me I will seek professional help and ask a advice then if they tell me that my son need to go to rehab then I will do it since its for betterment of his future.

We know how gambling addiction sucks and can affect our lifestyle that's why while situation not became worse its better to stop it and let them get immediate help so they can escape those miserable life that possibly they are heading on.

Precautions need to be taken immediately before the situation gets worse, according to the story I gathered from Op story, the boy is not yet an adult. Parental supervision needs to be increased if an incident like this has occurred, changing the account is one solution to prevent it, then parents must advise their children that the act of stealing cannot be justified. Teenagers' minds are still very unstable, they will continue to do the same thing if it is not treated immediately because in their mind this way can make money more easily without having to work. When he gets used to getting money by stealing, later he will expand his actions to other people's property and that is very dangerous for his future.

I will probably discipline him the hard way, this is how my father trained up and today I am glad he handled us this way, I used to think that my father was too harsh on us until I grow up, now I can't stop thanking him for bringing us up this way.

I will do the same thing with my children, unlike the parenting skills of today's parent, they are the ones responsible for the mess that this generation are doing, the fear of their kids hating them have made them to get too soft with the kids.

Some kids are differently, very tough and stubborn that no matter what you tell them to avoid they will still not listen to you, the only thing they listen to is punishment and some b*****, it's what many kids fear and understand, find which one your kid listen to, the words of the mouth or your harsh punishment on them, and after embrace them and let them know you love them, to avoid tiger parenting which can create some boundaries between you and your kids.

I find that guys post funny. He has failed in teaching a kid, and the kid is to blame. I am sure that kid got punished, but parents should be punished to. If my kid steals, I am going to blame myself only. Because I havent taught him well that this is bad. If the kid wont listen and steal, after being taught that this is bad - that is also my fault. Because I am not authority for him. That is why he wiped his feet over what I was teaching him. Of course parents should not be tyrants with over control. There should be limits. But in exchange there must be respect.

Children first of all follow their parents, if it is acceptable for them to steal, then they saw it from their parents, or perhaps heard about it from their parents. In any case, this is the result of raising children, if you need to hide money in your family from those closest to you, and be afraid that someone might steal the money, then something is wrong, and it’s definitely not the children’s fault.

Partially agree with the first part of your comment, but completely agree with the last part of your comment.

Speaking on the first part of your comment, it is true that children learn from their parents, but understand that this is not completely the situation all the time, just as children learn from their parent, they also learn from people outside the home, like friends in school and in other places they often go to or visit, This is one of the reasons why we see some really good parents in the society, but their kids or children seems kind of wayward, this is part fault of the parents and part fault of the friends such kids are or were allowed to keep.

So, in the nutshell, as much as we parents be a good example to and for our children to emulate from, it doesnt and shouldnt end there, we have to constantly keep watch over them to know the type of people they are going out with, or the type of people coming around our children, for it is commonly said that bad company corrupt good manners, which means that, we can give our children the best of training, but if we allow them keep bad company, they will definitely end up deviating from the good manners and morals we the parents thought them.

This means that children are dependent on their parent's upbringing. They follow what their parents do and think it is permissible so they will try to follow it. Maybe they don't see their parents stealing, but they see adults around them stealing, and they follow suit without thinking about it, or they hear stories from their friends that they stole their parents' money, so they want to try it too. This often happens to children because of their interactions with their friends, and each child is educated differently by their parents, so they will also behave differently. But if the parents' teaching is clear and the children can understand it well, they will not want to steal money from anyone and will ask for the money carefully.

You also know that she will not lose her cool if her son wins the bet; you understand the spirit of money. She will even pray for her son as soon as she finds out he has won, but let's be honest: it is not a good idea for a young child without a job to learn how to gamble; gambling is for people with money who want to have fun and win games; it is not meant for those without it. The incident I witnessed involved a 27-year-old man stealing 500,000 naira from his mother to gamble with. He lost, so he decided to poison himself to kill himself because his mother had warned him not to do so. Fortunately, the man's mother was there to give him an injection just in time, but I wonder if the man knew what he was doing.

It doesn't matter if he wins (or not) but because it was stolen money, he should know the consequences he made. It should not be tolerated as it was already shown that something worse thing to happen if just ignore. As a parent, it was our role to guide our kids to the right direction, not by letting them do even though it was wrong. If does it to his father, he could also do it to other people, and for the sake of gambling, he should be stopped before anything else happens someday. A responsible parents couldn't let that thing happen.

First of all, I want to discuss that stealing money is not a commendable thing. So the child's behavior of stealing his mother money is clearly in the wrong context. Therefore, it is natural for a mother to be angry with her child, because his child has stolen the money she worked so hard to find. So in this context, in my opinion, the main trigger for mother to be angry is not necessarily because their children use the money to gamble. But angry because the child stole his money. So it's clear now, the main trigger for the mother's anger was because the money was stolen, right? Because if, for example, a child uses his mother's money for other things, I'm sure his mother will still be angry.

And regarding your core question, I don't think the mother would be too angry if her child managed to win the gambling. The mother may only slightly reprimand her child for his wrong actions (stealing). Then most likely the mother will be very happy, because after all the mother will definitely get a share of the profits from her child's gambling results. But from the story you share, we can all learn a lesson. That when gambling we definitely have to use money that is truly ours and that money is cold money. So that when the worst possibility befalls (loss), we will not be too dizzy or depressed. Because the money used for gambling is our own money and also cold money.

a child who is already good at making money transfers and creating gambling accounts is of course more than 17 years old and frankly there is no point in discussing whether stealing is wrong or right because he is old enough to know what is wrong or right, if I were there in your aunt's position, the only thing I would do as a mother would of course be to punish her very harshly and even confiscate her cell phone for a certain time limit, Nowadays, I think teenage children have been greatly influenced by the environment and promiscuity so they will not pay attention to what their parents say If we just give him advice, perhaps today we will look very rude in the eyes of the child, but the punishment we will give will certainly have a deterrent effect so that the child will not repeat the bad deed.
 I see many parents who pamper their children too much and often forgive bad deeds child, so that in the end the child seems to have become accustomed to doing bad things and it is very difficult to change when he grows up, believe me, the punishment we give today will be a valuable lesson for the child when he grows up.

Stealing is stealing no matter how big or small of the amount that we are talking on here on which it would really be just that normal as a parent then you would really be needing to apply some disciplinary action on which it is really just that normal as a parent to guide them into the most possible best way to become a good being on which you would really be needing them to teach some lesson if needed. There's no good on stealing and it would be just good that you do able to stop them while its still early or not too late rather than on making them to be able to mess up as an addicted gambler.
This is why it would really be that best that you should really know on how to handle up such situation on which it would really be that crucial as a parent on raising them well.
Having these kind of mistakes or activities is never been good, so its better to stop it while early.

I bet that she wouldn't be disappointed if his child ended up winning a lot lol, but in reality this is very unlikely to happen because almost all of the children who gamble end up losing. And that is why it is very important for parents to be able to tell their children that they should not gamble and stay away from it. Even though gambling is not a dangerous thing, if they play it is very likely that they will lose and it will cost their parents money, so it is better for them to avoid it and focus on their duties as children.

Well this can also be a possible thing haha, what you said is quite reasonable too and can be a possibility that if for example it turns out that the child manages to get a win then it seems that the parents will not be too angry or maybe they are even happy. But yes we have to go back to the real fact that in gambling it is not an easy thing to get a win because all this really depends on your luck, on the other hand I will not say that a child cannot win, everyone can win in gambling but not everyone is always lucky and this is the reason why there can be a loss at the end of the session and also the reason why winning is very difficult to get.

A child is curious as well as ambitious about whatever they find and this means that it is very possible for them to experience the adverse effects of gambling such as losing a lot of money because they cannot control and impose any limits on their gambling involvement and this is the reason why a child should not be involved in gambling because this can also affect their personality so that this can threaten their future. Honestly I can't say as you said that "gambling is not a dangerous activity" this is not true, because after all the risk in gambling is greater than the possibility of winning, and I will correct what you said that gambling will not be "too" dangerous if you can control everything properly.

Children learn from their parents but if they gets the company of bad friends then they also follow them because a company of a friend has great impact on person's behavior.
I also notice one thing that if those children are more likely to involved in bad activities for whom their parents have settled strong boundaries but those who are free to do everything will not do anything bad which their parents don't like.

I think that parents should allow their children for all activities but they should teach them about bad and good one so they will easily differentiate among them. Parents if always talk about money in fronts of their children then surely their children will also concentrate on getting money without thinking about the way through which they earn and for them stealing of money will be a normal part of their life.

I think you are saying that gambling only fuels his negative habits. I think that was true as I already hear a similar case and maybe I myself already experienced the same thing but on other activities only and not in gambling. And I'm not saying that I'm also like that kid who steals money. No, I wouldn't do that. When a child acts like this, it's not always the parent's fault, in a way that we saw them acts like that but some can be through genetics or it was inherited.

My response to the OP's question is; I think I will feel angry at first after I found it out, but eventually, I will realize that he is my child and he is too small to get punished. So I will forgive him and correct his way.

I think it's an unreasonable question. And even if we think about the odds, then the probability of winning millions of dollars from the $15 you say? That's only 1:1000 or 10000 chances. I mean it's so unreasonable for that to happen. So it's natural for mothers to be angry and disappointed with their child's attitude. I don't know whether this is due to environmental influences or lack of parental supervision but I think in general the child has made a big mistake by gambling and taking his parents' money. At least I'm not saying he stole it.

I agree with you hahaha. But if the mother is a very strict person, maybe she will still punish her child for stealing her money to gamble. And even though he wins, he still has to be held accountable for his actions in stealing his mother's money. This education is implemented by the mother so that her child does not steal money again, even from other people or his own family. The issue of winnings that his son got from gambling is another problem, and that matter will be discussed after his son has received his punishment. But who knows, maybe the child will just be disciplined by other family members for stealing. His mother felt disappointed because her son had stolen her money to gamble, and hopefully, her son would not repeat his actions.

Will there always be a need to find someone to take the blame if someone important to you did a bad thing? Would you wish to see your child is stealing? For sure all of us won't like our child/children to do bad things but it won't also be valid to scold someone including ourselves, just for the sake of looking back with what happened. Focus more on the present and the future; let the child know what's wrong from what's right on the right way. Show him or make him realize things nicely. Give the idea of the consequences of our actions. If it is not in an instant then be patient 'til they learn from it. Allow them to make baby steps as long as they are moving forward with what should be done or be acted when faced with other people.

With the mentioned scenario, things were done already. Do your best to learn from it and acknowledge how good people would make you realize the things you know nothing about. Remember that it is child we would be dealing with in most instances. I, too, is guilty of such act before when I was still young and trying to let her buy the thing that I want. The fact that one is now aware of how it did. It won't be an instant counseling for our children and if you're authoritarian, do things with care still. No lesson is learned thru violence.

I have always been a great supporter of not using violence to solve any problem, even when the problem is serious, violence should not be used. That's why in the case of a relative of mine stealing money to gamble, I wouldn't punish him. but I would sit down and talk to him to understand what the reasons were that made him steal money to gamble. It is necessary to show that he is not alone, that his mistake has a fix, he just needs to show regret and commit to correcting his mistake. Children have no idea of the value of money. 15-year-old children don't know how difficult it is to get money and how difficult it is to pay all their bills, including how difficult it is to pay for the school they go to. 15-year-old children don't know that to stay in school, their parents buy uniforms, their parents pay for school registration, their parents buy books and folders and also pay monthly fees.

As 15-year-old children don't know much about anything, they think that taking the money and throwing it around isn't a big mistake, but it is necessary for parents to sit down with the children and talk a lot with the children, so that they put it into their hands. children's heads that they must always be honest, countries need to educate their children well to not steal and not lie. Parents often resort to violence to educate their children, but this only makes their children's bad behavior worse. In this case, in my opinion they should calmly draw the child's attention, give more space so that the child feels comfortable and safe to tell why he stole money to play, after that the parents should tell the child that the games are for people over 18 years of age and that he, being a minor, should not repeat that mistake again

Let me imagine that I'm this child father. Being a man, it's going to be a bit harder to put myself in the role of the mother ;)
I'd be angry of course and I'd feel like trust is lost between us because I'd for sure give him the money if he wanted to gamble. I'd probably make him work for it, do some chores, and then I'd let him do whatever he wants with it, so that when he loses it he'll feel the loss of time and effort he put into getting it. That's how children learn - through experience.
What would in case he won? The same. I'd be angry he stole from me, try to teach him about trust and honesty. Then I'd tell him not to blow it on the things he doesn't need and see how he does.

I don't think so unless his son confess that he won such kind of prize. I think win or lose that needs some parenting discipline for him to realize that it was wrong and doing it again may lead to some consequences. Giving them some punishment is enough for them to know what's wrong and right, that's the bittersweet of parenting.

You used another means to take money from your parent and family member and used the money for gambling this is not the same thing as stealing from them, they have different punishment one is asking from them which shows you have some level of respect for them the other is going to take it by force without them knowing which is the highest of it or, what if the money is not of your parent and the owner of the money they drastic action do you think that gambling winning can save you? This is why we just don’t have to encourage them steal treating them differently because they won the bet is same thing like encouraging them to do more.

Totally disagree that children follow their parents completely and that kid stole money because he saw some of his parents or relatives do that. There is no way any parent would show and do that in front of the kid. No matter how bad or irresponsible parent is, he will never teach kid anything bad or illegal. The kid can get familiar with stealing from everywhere. Even from cartoons for example. There it is shown that stealing isnt something bad, because main hero will always come and punish the theft.

Whatever the reason may be, if the kid steals money from their parents, it is the responsibility of parents to take ownership of their child's actions. This is the essence of parenting. However, if the child has already committed an action such as stealing, there is no point in trying to find out who or what influenced them. The only thing the parents can do is to have a conversation with their children and make them understand the gravity of their actions. It is important to teach them that stealing is wrong and that it can lead to serious consequences.

It's clear, no matter how bad or bad parents are, they still always want the best for their children. Maybe we often hear parents say "you have to be successful and be better than your father or mother." All parents want for a child to be able to make his parents proud in any way and maybe one of them is in the world of education where usually the achievements obtained by a child are usually always a source of pride for the parents and it is clear that it makes no sense at all if parents want or even  teach for a child to be involved in activities that are not recommended, whether it is  gambling or other criminal acts such as stealing, because in terms of consequences, I think it is clear that this can be detrimental and make the family's reputation bad in the eyes of other people.

In my opinion, the bad behavior that a child commits is none other than because they are influenced by the wrong environmental factors which ultimately make a child's behavior change for the worse to the point of daring to steal money from their family and this is why it is always important to pay full attention from parents so that they A child does not have wrong social interactions that cause changes in character and behavior.

How can the people discipline the child after she has failed to do that when he was growing up. Does she think that to discipline a child is a day job, and moreover, it is her duty to discipline her child and also ask him why he did such thing. There is nothing the people that she is calling can do about it, because the casino or booker is with the money.

If he had won the bet, it is also wrong to steal from your parent, and also involve in gambling when you don't have a means of income, because the boy will end up stealing all the time to gamble.

I will be disappointed at home and keep every means of him access to money out of his reach. I will advise him to stop stealing and gambling as both vices are destructive.

As parents then we do have the full rights on what we should gonna do with our children on which of course it would really be needing up that disciplinary action on which it would really be just that
normal that we would really be needing to let them know that the thing that they've done is something wrong and not something ethical on which on the time that stealing is already that happening
because of gambling then you should really be trying out to explain to them about gambling addiction on which its never been good and never been that a nice thing to deal off with.
This is why parenting would really be always challenging because we cant really be able to monitor most of the time on which there are really things which we might be able to miss out.
If ever things do happen then you would really be that responsible on making it straight.

Even though his son won money from gambling, if I were his parent I would not pay attention to the winnings, I would still discipline my child, if we don't discipline him he will be even further away from acting out.

I noticed that one of the really effective ways is to show the sad experience of those who played and lost a lot. Show that these people are unhappy, they feel bad, they would like to go back to the moment before they started playing. Show this to children, but you need to do it carefully so as not to injure the child. I think this will be beneficial in the future, probably if in adolescence he wants to try, maybe he will remember those pictures and the sad experience that could be. Although there will be that small part of teenagers who, on the contrary, will want to try it on themselves, if they were honest. These are the ones who can steal money from their parents in the future. In general, there is no obvious solution to the problem, we can only reduce its likelihood in various ways.

Using money that is not ours is considered the worst attitude. In a state like that where our kid uses our money secretly for the sake of gambling, is the scenario if the kid won instead of big money a proper argument? If that's the case then we should just tolerate everything since after all, there's a chance of winning big even. Sounds stupid right?

Regardless of the reason, stealing is stealing. The kid in that story highly needs proper and serious guidance.

As a parent, it's not necessary to monitor everything your child does. Allowing children to explore and learn from their experiences is vital to their growth. Our responsibility as parents is to guide them toward the right path, and if they make mistakes, we take responsibility while teaching them the difference between right and wrong.

In my personal opinion no one will in a good state on mind if he see his son stole money for playing gamble. So the same thing will be also happen in my case if my son did that. But here I think what should be done is to understand the boy well without getting excited that gambling should be done after a certain age, moreover, gambling should always be done within one's own means, if addicted to it, life will end.

Even if he had won the game it doesn't still change anything about how the money was gotten. If he had won the game and his parent took it for granted just because he won gambling who knows what he will do the next time to raise money to play gambling.  The next time he can decide to sell the family house to play gambling and this time it can turn up to be lose. I think the act of him stealing money to play gambling should not be condole because people do terrible things to play gambling, it is better to raise money from his own means to play gambling than to collect money that doesn't belongs to him, this can also put the owner of the money in a terrible state.

I condemn is act whether is he had won or not because even if he won he is still going to repeat stealing money that doesn't belongs to him which is wrong. Let's take a look at the first action which is stealing, it is wrong no matter how much he won from playing gambling to take the hard earned money of someone to play gambling.

If you have a good relationship and transparent communication with your child, This kind of stealing and lying can be avoided. Sometimes when children are curious about something, they tend to try it, they will find a way to know something, and because they are aware that it is bad to gamble especially at their age, they hide it from their parents. However, if the child grows up to be able to communicate with his parents and have a good relationship, then this can be avoided. The best thing to do if this happens to your children is to give them a proper discipline and put them in a good conversation.

Well said, this very topic reminds me of a boy his father was late though, there was a day that his mom sent him for an errand,guess what happened?this boy went to the  nearest betting shop,and used the money to play virtual league.

He bet with the whole money given to him by his mother,this guy was left with just 150 naira the boy regretted of going to that bet shop in the first place,so he look at his hand he was just left with 150 then he decided to try once more.

As god may have it,he hit a jackpot of 2million though the last hope was lost already, but there is this  jackpot that falls on his ticket he never knew he won a jackpot of about 2m it was  a man that was sitting right beside him that told him he won a jackpot.

The boy was still tender to an extent that he can't be giving that huge amount of money to take home, so they ask him to locate them to his house so as to tell his mom about the wining, and when they get there and told his mom about it,she was super excited,did you know the statement she make?that her child has changed her life for good,so my question now is that had it been the boy spent the whole of the money in that bet shop what would have become of him?

Well I guess the mom would have skin him alive,reason is because that was the only Money left with her,so as a responsible child you don't have to do such, probably if your mom trusted you with her whole heart,and you did something like this I guess is enough reason for her to lose the trust she build in you either.

As a responsible child is going  to be very thoughtful of you,if you ask your mom to give you money for staken  power,rather than using the money without her consent.

Of course, the environment will also influence our children, but if we can raise them correctly and explain that family is above all, and trust is something that we need to value and cannot be violated, then I am sure that the child will understand the value of this, and not will be able to steal from the family budget.

It is clear that the parent will not show how to steal, or do it in front of him, but he can discuss it at home. In cartoons, the one who steals is a negative character, none of the children wants to be a bad character. Children will steal if you could not establish a proper relationship with them and they do not consider you their friend, of course, in addition to other factors that the child needs.

Sometimes they became secretive its because they don't want us to know what they are currently dealing with that's why aside to have a good open relationship with them we also follow what they are doing outside our watch so that we can avoid those unwanted things and they will be guided on right path towards taking good decisions especially on their gambling activities. Stealing is one sign of addiction so if we can't stop them for doing this for sure there will be more worst thing to happen.

Proper discipline is really important also its really better if we are open for certain discussion especially on gambling so that they would realize and learn from us so that they would not think about doing such nasty things that will put them on more risky condition.

Actually it is a point to find out what forced child to commit such action. Reason is simple, to prevent such action to be repeated. Without talking and investigation the problem, nothing good will come out. There can be various reasons why the kid has stolen money to gamble. From being afraid to ask money directly, to having financial issues. What if the kid is weak, afraid to tell parents he was bullied at school and now he owes money bullies. So he decided to gamble to earn them fast, give money to bullies and later silently return stolen money. What if the situation is like that. Then the problem is not in gambling, but in bullies and the kid have mental issues. And instead of punishing him, he needs to be helped.

That is why I root for talking, discussing, explaining, instead of banning, forbidding, punishing when we talk about parenting and education.

I've always valued honest communication. Instead of hiding their challenges, create a space where they may share.

Tracking their activities is risky. We wish to safeguard children, but at what cost to their trust and independence? Balance is essential. Encourage prudent gambling as enjoyment rather than a taboo? We can police their actions and help them make educated decisions this way.

Remember that experience can teach the best lessons. Our role? Provide advise and assistance along their trip. Isnt life about taking risks, learning from them? Gambling may be a learning curve if the enjoyment component is stressed and responsible limitations are imposed.

That's the right approach and I would do the same if I were in the position of the mother. Even if he won millions of dollars in the process, stealing is still not a good thing to do. A child learns from his/her environment and maybe he was forced to do this because he saw someone do the same. I would not get mad about the amount because any amount is still stealing and this could be taken as he grows which is not a good thing either.
It's not about the money but what he did, he could have asked for money but chose not to do so. Also, he should be checked if he is a gambling addict because those who are addicted are the only ones who could do such a feat.
It will be a good learning point for the kid if he is disciplined, perhaps grounding him will be enough and see to it that he won't do anything funny inside the house like pursuing to still gamble using the internet.
Now if he won millions, I'd say he should take care of that money and not waste it to gambling more. Investing will be a better idea.

First of all, stealing is stealing and there is no justification to what the boy did but in the case of assuming that he miraculously won millions of dollars, we all would agree that the mum would definitely be happy but the probability of the boy winning that money is small so stealing that money is definitely going to get him punished and that's my own opinion as I don't know what others will do.

Just a case study, imagine if the boy was not caught I believe he would have stolen another one again or if the money he stole he took from someone else other than his mum then the punishment will be more so there is no justification to the fact that he actually stole the money.

Sorry to say but I think you are wrong when you say or believe that only gambling addicts are prone to stealing money for gambling purposes, if you believe this, then it simply means you don't know for sure what pressure is, and what it can do or lead a person into.

Have you ever been in a situation where arsenal is to play against Manchester united, and you are very convinced that Arsenal will beat  Manchester united, and the odds on this match is very juicy too, immediately, this high desire to bet on that match grows in you, knowing fully well how much you could win, you desire to really bet on that match, but unfortunately, you don't have money, not a penny in your pocket, and at this point, the pressure in you is very high, I tell you that when a gambler arrives that such a stage, he or she have high chances of stealing, whether he or she is addicted to gambling or not, this is when we hear gamblers caught in the act of stealing say that, they had intentions of returning the money after they have won.

So, pressure does lead some gamblers into stealing, not just addiction to gambling or so to say.

I agree with your argument that if a child has reached the age of 18+ and he no longer asks his parents for money to gamble, but financially he must be free from dependence on all costs from his parents if he wants to gamble, at least he must have his own income so that free from things without restrictions from anyone.

We are discussing the case of a child who has reached the initial stage of gambling addiction, then parents must carry out an investigation that led to his introduction to gambling and parents must remind him not to carry out the same action, unless he is of adult age and has income from his job, if he are still under the age of 18+ so they are still under parental supervision in all their daily activities. So even though he has won millions of dollars in bets, he will spend more than that if his gambling actions are allowed and not stopped immediately.

It makes no difference what the outcome of that game is; parents should not encourage or tolerate stolen money from their children, regardless of what the child used the money for or what he stands to gain in return if he used it for something else. He will be punished because this is an extremely bad example that, if tolerated today, could lead to something even worse tomorrow. When you're happy because he won a million, it means he won some. When he runs out of money to play another game, he'll look for a way to steal from you again, hoping to win another million, and that’s how the process will continue.

Giving a child money to gamble means encouraging the child to gamble. What happens to the days you don't give him money to gamble? Secondly, the child might not be contented with the money you give to him to gamble since he will always face the urge to gamble more. Sorry to say, no responsible father will give his son money to gamble even if he does all the chores in the world. There are better ways to compensate for a child's effort. If a child stole to gamble it is reasonable to discipline the child first of all and then inquire from the child what's his motivation for gambling.

Maybe he needs money to buy a PlayStation or something he desires. What I will do is to buy the thing for him and tell him never to gamble again. Anyone who desires to gamble must do so with his finances. As far as I am concerned, a dependant has no busy gambling because it will amount to throwing away the money of his principal.

Your son's character is your success and your failure, even if your son is successful in gambling it will not stop you from feeling disheartened because stealing is a crime punishable by a jail term and fine and your son will go to jail eventually if he developed the habit of stealing, you have to take the matter into your hands if your son is still a minor by putting him in a rehabilitation center, even if you spend money it's better to help him cure of his addiction and his stealing.
It's still not yet for young people to change their ways, the parents just need to intervene.

I would blame the parents in this case because something happened in their relationship that led to their children being drawn to gambling. Moreover, I will not support stealing money from parents' pockets and betting with that money. Especially in this case, these small bad stealing habits can turn children into a big theft. However, the father or mother of the child who steals is directly or indirectly involved in gambling which has made the child addicted to gambling since childhood. I will always blame those parents for gambling in front of their children. Gambling should never be done in front of children because after seeing this gambling, children will become curiously interested in gambling from a young age and if they can't manage gambling money at a young age, they will steal money from their parents' pockets and gamble like what happened to your friend.

that could happen. even if their sons stole money to gamble and got a big win, I don't think the boys would be that innocent, maybe they would hide their big winnings, because they weren't ready if they answered that it was the result of gambling, but it could also be they told their mother that the big win was made from gambling where they stole her mother's money to use as capital, I think her mother would also be happy with the win she got, but she would warn her not to do that bad thing (stealing).

Well, the fear is that, if they steal money to gamble and the end result is defeat, maybe they could do the same thing and this could happen to them and continue in the long term, then this could endanger them, maybe by making them more courageous. of course they will steal something else that is bigger than stealing money, so the point is that stealing is still wrong. it's not allowed. especially for gambling capital, it's very bad.

That's quite a situation it's understandable that the mum would be upset and disappointed, by the attitude portrayed by her son for stealing her money especially if she worked hard to save that money. Losing a significant amount can be really disheartening. As for whether she would react differently if her son had won a big prize it's hard to say for sure. People reaction can vary depends on who is in such situation, I have had of a situation were a young boy won big on sports betting (virtual game) and it caused division in the family, the dad was not in support of him winning through gambling but his mum and others supported him. It's possible she will be happy and excited if her son had won, money can have big impact on our emotions.

Personally, I approach these "shouldn't have done" things in two different way, there is a big difference between doing something they shouldn't do and only hurt themselves, and then there are mistakes where they did something that could have consequences for other people. Gambling is one where they only hurt themselves, their own situation.

This could be avoided by trying to give them more responsibility, and even if they fail, then giving another one and just keep giving them as much as possible even if they fail. In a very very very simple example, tell them to go wash the dishes, if they break your China, tell them to mop the floors, if they fail, then tell them to clean out the garbage, obviously those are bad examples, but that is the main mindset. Keep them occupied.

Without a doubt, it is a fact that things are done very badly by the son, and it is obvious that the mother feels bad because what they have is a Disappointment, but even so, she has to talk to him quickly to see that what he did is too bad. because it is something that should not be repeated again and it is something that we as parents must Emphasize to our children ,   you cannot be doing things all the time, you have to consider many things so that they do not happen again and within these things are the understanding and the treatment you give your son, for me yes, he loses all confidence, the truth is I wouldn't make things so easy for him, but it's something we always do to have something I might think that the mother has to look for A way to see that your son feels repentant, and that he somehow pays him for what he did, even if he decides to work or something, I would tell him that money is not the problem and that just as he had the audacity to steal Well, if you have the courage, you should pay because it is the only way you learn the Lesson , because you know that the money you have to put into anything must be earned by Working , because Nothing is free on the Road and much Less that you have to pay to steal.

In this order of things , we are people who are Intelligent People who Have to do things right , and we cannot invent that we can do certain things without it having an impact on daily life, that is why we , as good players , Should know what to do , These types of acts must be immediately Restored in their entirety, when he Finishes paying the money that he lost or Stole from his own Mother, he will know that money represents many things, and that Above all it must always be Under the total Control of him. A person who has it, apart from the fact that She is her own Mother , has to Learn that Such an act should not be done to anyone.

As responsible parent, there's still time to work it out with your son and try to guide then the right way, like what you just mentioned,  if the kid develops this kind of a bad habit, stealing just to continue playing chances that he might not just doing it to you but he might do it as well to other people,  causing you more problem if he got caught and jailed in because of stealing issue.

While still manageable to work on it, try to communicate with your kid and explain everything,  especially the possibility that they might get addicted and create more problems.

I suppose you have a point, many people have the tendency to judge a situation based only on the results, so if the son had won a big amount of money it is possible his mom would not be mad at him as long as he was willing to share the spoils with her, after all it was her money and according to what I know on most casinos if you were to bet with money that is not yours, the money won goes to the person that owns the money, but I am of the opinion that regardless of the result the son did something wrong and consequences must fall on him.

If it turns out that it is really that a winning game or bet then for sure most likely her mother wont really be ended up on scolding him. Lets be honest on here, on which it is really that normal that getting angry or disappointment is less likely to happen since we do know that the result turns out to be positive or have that money on which it is really that sad if we do speak about parenting or
tolerating bad doing then this is something that shouldnt really be done. You should really be scolding him or your child on what he had done. Stealing is stealing no matter how small or big it is
as long it do involved stealing which its always been that bad.

If this case turns out to be happening in my case then disciplinary actions would really be applied but well each parent would really be that
different on where there are who do tolerate and  there are ones who do make out those disciplinary actions.

The easiest thing in the world is to just let them off with it and just never leave cash around.  The problem with that is they essentially think to just try stealing from others, a few kids may correct themselves but the majority will need some guidance.   If someone starts making bad mistakes in the beginning of life it may end up being their whole life to learn the lesson by themselves, it does depend on the individual to really say so its not a general rule that can be given in a thread. Personally I would not expect do nothing and have this turn out off, theres a big danger in letting kids off too easy.

You said well @Kelvinid, i think it is of two factors that such childs parents should be battling about to fix the childs misconducts up which are stealing and gambling.
Stealing already is a bad painted image of being called a thief and if a child could steal from the parents and It is tolerated to be a domestic (in house) stealing, then it should be expected that the child would advance and likely to accept steal a habitual carrier.
His uncontrollable gambling emotional habits happens to be a disasterous resultants opting the childe desperacies to illegal indulgences to obtain the funds just to stake on the board or gambling.
So, as earlier the parents stands by for such error to be corrected, is the better they could get their child fixed up to do away  with such nonsensical  acts for further occurances.

And that is precisely the danger those actions represent, since this is not only about the money that was stolen, after all if a son is willing to steal money from her own mother that basically means that he is willing to steal money from everyone else, and unless that kind of behavior is corrected immediately then this could lead that person to go through a life of crime, a life that is full of perils and that very rarely ends well.

I believe it is not that easy, honestly. It is not the easiest thing in the world. We are talking about a very delicate thing which would change the future and the behavior of the children in the future.
I would be more in favor of letting know the children that what he did was completely wrong and punish him/her accordingly.
You know, when comes to children and their future, here in my country there used to be some programs to show the youth how life in prisons is. Usually that would deter young people from getting involved in crime.
One is not supposed to underestimate the impact both a mixture of gambling and thief can provoke in people.

It is not about just not leaving cash lying around again, since one the person realizes they cannot find the money to steal from in that household, then they will try to find in other places, in those places people may not be as kind to them as you,.they may even physically assault as revenge for stealing.
Better safe than sorry, better to correct in time.

It is a human nature to let go of a simple error if the result outweighs the error a million times.  Obviously, the reason why the mother gets angry is because the son stole the money and lost it to gambling.  In your given question, since the kid can give back the stolen money with interest,  I am sure even stranger will forgive the kid and will receive the money with a smile.  Probably that stranger can even hug the kid that gives back the money with huge interest.  What more if you are the mother, for sure the kid will probably give you the whole winning amount.  So is there a reason to get angry in such a situation that you asked?

I personally don't agree with your opinion, even the child gives quite a lot of interest, in life if you only think about money you will never feel satisfied in your life, just because your money is able to justify the wrong parenting of your child. The most important thing is directing him to a bright path, let's say today he is lucky, do you think it will be forever? in the future he may even sell you
Maybe everyone's principles are different but this is my opinion

I'd he had not won the game he played with the stolen money, I'm very sure he by now wouldn't be celebrating or telling the story of how he won a bet rather it would be that he's an irresponsible gambler, an addict and several other names would have been used on him by now but then he's been appraised because he was lucky to have won.

Please to others who will be seeing this and this it's just fine to steal and gamble and when you win you can replace, such idea is very wrong and shouldn't be encouraged at all, I don't support or encourage such at all, it's never a good way to gamble, that's pure desperation and it will do more harm than good to whosoever is been affected, so it's much better to use your own guns or if you don't have stay away from gambling then and face something else because gambling with such money can get you into problem.

It depends on the parent's perspective. Perhaps you believe that stealing money is a forgivable offense, or you are the type of parent who is quick to forgive their child for such a mistake. However, it is not good to easily forgive a child for stealing money at a young age because it may lead them to believe that it is acceptable to do it again in the future, as they can easily avoid facing the consequences.

I'm not a parent yet, but if I ever have a child, I won't let him not learn while growing up, I can't just let him forgive immediately if he does something wrong especially that stealing thing because maybe until he grows up, he'll carry that kind of attitude with him because he thought that is correct. While they are young, they need to be scolded, reprimanded and taught the right things. We can't spoil a child if they done wrong. They need to learn in the most right way.

The thing is the kid gives back the money he stole with an interest.  The thing here is returning the money.  As a parent, a simple theft can be forgiven, and forgiving does not condone the action but rather giving the kids another chance, plus the fact that the kid returned the money means he knows his mistakes and wants to correct them by returning the money.


So what do you want to do with the kid? jail them or beat them up because they stole a small amount of your money?  I think that is a harsh thing to do as a parent.  Reminding/scolding them that stealing is not a good act is enough.  Besides, if you beat up your kid as a parent, you will be charged with child abuse, and that makes the scenario worse.

As parents, we must be able to provide a good education for them, especially in the future; everything will change and will not be the same as what we experienced when we were little. We need to learn ways to adapt to their development so that children can accept it because today's children are smarter than children a few years ago. We can scold and reprimand our children if they make mistakes because we don't want our children to grow up on the wrong path. Children need to know and be able to differentiate between right and wrong so they don't fall into the wrong path.

Not just education alone, we need to sit them down once in a while and advise them of life's activity be it good or bad, we must let them know what it is. Because If such children finds out about gambling on their own when they haven't reached the required age for gambling, they'll definitely keep it away from you. And doing that is dangerous because it might lead to addiction at a tender age. So there are time were we must show fatherly love by bringing them closers to ourselves and make them trust us by giving them concrete advise in a soft tune and mood, for better understanding.

Perhaps, it was the responsibility of the (good) parents to correct mistakes committed by their kids and guide them to the right path. Tolerating their wrongdoings is just like allowing them to do it again (and again) until it reaches the point that they can no longer be changed. While at their early stage, they will know what is wrong and what is right. And the things it exchanges when they commit the wrong one.

Punishment is not a wrong way of disciplining our kids instead, I consider this an effective way to correct and educate someone IMO.

What you said is correct, it is very important for us to be able to advise our children if they dare to take money without telling them first and they use the money they take for gambling, of course this is not very good and we must advise them well and don't let them not listen and they end up repeating the mistake again, I am sure that if we can give good advice the child will be able to understand it and will not repeat the mistake they have made.

They are just children, or minors, and they aren't matured enough. If they make mistakes like stealing, then maybe we should also reflect a bit if we do our job as parents to guide them, because children will not steal if they know in the first place that stealing is bad and they'll be punish. It's very challenging nowadays since children can get information online, can talk to people they don't know online, and sometimes we can't see everything they are doing.

The approach here should be gentle, we sohuld discipline them by educating them, and tell them that gambling is onyl for 18+ years old.

Had luck not been on his side, he would have been labeled irresponsible and addicted. Isnt it strange that outcomes determine morality?

I agree about gambling with stolen money. Glorifying such behaviors can dangerously warp perceptions, especially for the impressionable. Not simply legality, but ethics and principle. Gambling should be fun, not a frantic getaway or a way to right wrongs.

I confess, gaming is irresistible when done responsibly and for fun. Luck and strategy are tested in this adrenaline rush. But, and this is a huge but, it should be pursued independently within fun and financial safety. You should enjoy the game, not be desperate.

Come to Asian countries and our parents will teach you how to handle your kids. Sometimes these gentle things destroy kids' lives. Asian parents used to beat their children for such mistakes. I don't think it's too bad to guide your kids in a hard way. Especially when it comes to stealing and gambling (two offenses at the same time).

Look, if your kid has stolen money to buy chocolate or a toy, then it's okay to guide him gently by saying it's a bad thing to do. But when your children steal money to gamble, that means he has grown enough to understand gambling and they deserve to be punished in hard way.

Any loss is upsetting. No wonder auntie is worried about this money.

That's right, let him work off the money! Let him learn to appreciate and treasure money! :)

But this is a very interesting question. I am sure that she would have laid claim to a multimillion-money sum, since the bet was made on her money. That is, in case of failure, all risks and losses fall on her son, and in case of success, she takes all the profit.

What type of mom? :) Gambling Mom or Anti-Gambling Mom? Each case will have a different answer.

I will not praise him for what he did but I will not scold him either since the outcome will benefits our life. This is the type of mistakes that you will let go easily since the benefits overcome the intensity of the son sin.

There’s nothing to do on what he is done but you have a choice to waste your time on being angry to a positive outcome or just be happy for the success of your son by doing some risk on his side and manage to win significant amount. We are all risking in our life even when getting job since we pay for requirements before we can start working. I will consider this mistake as an investment rather than stolen funds since the outcome is good.

If the kid won the money from the gambling site,he will return your money with the interest.But if he had loss the money in the gambling site,it will cause him to hide their loss to you.They also don’t let you know their stealing money,the parents should take responsibility and give their children some pocket money to avoid of such stealing in the gambling site.


Such violence should not be done against the small kid,instead you can teach them their mistake.Because the mistake was made by the less knowledge of it was a mistake at the younger age.The parents should take responsibility to teach him at the younger age to avoid of the repetition in the future.Because the kids will make this as habit,if you fail to point his mistake at the young age.

If I am considering the parent at this situation then I have no concerns regarding my son involved in gambling as long as he is adult but I am not going to fund him for his entertainment, he needs to make money then only he knows the importance of money and how to spend then responsibly. I see this son could be a minor so giving a warning probably make things better, pushing them too hard and humiliating in front of others will make it worse.

On the other hand, his son's behavior really shocked his heart because his son dared to steal money. Of course it would be a bad character to let him just like that, but who wouldn't be complacent if his son managed to return the money he stole as a result of a big win, anyone would forgive him. and generous, but I personally would discipline the child more in a gentle way so that he doesn't go too far

True,  a better communication will help to guide the child, you always have that responsibility as a parent and with your good guidance they will be able to understand what might be the possible risk if they continue doing things like this to finance their gambling,  for now, they might be doing it inside your house but what if there's nothing that they can get the chance of doing it outside may take place and that's will make it worse.

Though you are right in terms of doing punishment,  humiliating them will not help them but it can develop more bad impressions to their young minds, instead of listening they might push for more leading you to a more complicated situation and putting you to more potential problems to arise.

We do know that stealing is never been good no matter how small or big it would be but still its stealing on which it is really just that right that we should really be disciplining them while its still early
so that they wont really be having that kind of bad behavior or doings while they are still you or simply cut it off while you do have the right on parenting them because once your kids or children
do get involved into something or once they are that free then there's no way for us to monitor or to control them. This is why parenting would really be having that huge impact on how
they would really become if we do speak about being a person and into its behaviors. Regarding into the situation then i would definitely be scolding my son on this one
even if it turns out that he had been able to win up some money.

Yes, they need to be educated and advised about good and bad. Monitoring them must be carried out continuously because today's times are different from several years ago. At least we can explain to them why they shouldn't gamble and tell them the impact if they are already familiar with gambling. They can steal again to be able to have money to use for gambling and that is not good for their age because it can carry over into adulthood. They still have many useful activities and there is no need to approach gambling even after they grow up because we have shown the bad effects it can have on them. They also don't mind if they don't gamble because they can do other activities that can positively impact their lives.

Yes, I agree that parents must punish their children who have made mistakes to show they are wrong and correct what is not right. That's so they can know what's good and bad so they don't repeat it. As parents, we also need to give them responsibility and teaching them about managing their finances is recommended so they can use the money we give them well. We also need to pay attention to them even though we are busy working so they can see that we care about them and don't want to make them feel alone.

By always supervising what they do and advising them, they can know what they can and cannot do, especially for their age. They can also learn a lot from their parents so that they have something that can keep them from making mistakes. And making mistakes is normal but they also have to know how to correct them.

It depends on his age and what type of a son he is, some child need scolding while some needs to be sat down and talk to, so it depends on which type of a father you are, as every parents have different ways of handling their children.

If he is up to the age it's better to have some discussion with him, maybe he will listen, if you discipline him in another manner he will probably start fearing you and start hiding things from you, better start with talking to him and make him realize the dangers that awaits every gamblers.

Educate them, teach them what you know about gambling and make sure they get used to risking very small amount of money, and the last part is to always keep an eye on such child, know the type of friends they keep, because it's possible that they get to start gambling through the friends they are keeping.

In the event that I am the mom, and this is the first time my son took money from me to use in gambling, I would control my emotions and not yell at him. I would not show him that I am furious, and I would simply tell him stealing is awful regardless of whether to use it in gambling or not.

Afterward, I will move toward his father and discuss what occurred in private. His father deserves to know the incident and will likewise clear it up for our child of his awful actions. Men are more engaged with gambling than women so his dad should be the one to make the final conversation and give advice.

It depends on the situation. If this scenario happened when he's still young and still a minor, I'll definitely blame myself for not being able to look after my child. Stealing is already bad, and to use it for gambling will make it worse. If my child learned or discovered gambling because of me, realization will hit me how bad I am as a parent. But if he's already an adult, I will only scold him for stealing because he already knows what is right or wrong, yet still do it for gambling.

But regardless of the situation, wrong is wrong so lecturing your child what he did wrong and making him understand why is it wrong and he shouldn't do it in the first place is what I'll be doing as a parent.

It depends on some other facts as well like where are you, how is your society, and many more. Gambling is a common thing in some societies where almost every adult gamble and they do not forbid their grown-up children to gamble. If you talk about my society, he did two offenses at the same time. Stealing is bad regardless of where are you from. But, some parents tolerate it when their kids gamble.

If you talk about my society, gambling, and stealing, both are forbidden and punishable offenses. Gambling is not allowed at all. Let's say I didn't tell my son anything about gambling, but if he gets caught gambling, he will be punished I won't be able to help him. so, it is my responsbility to guide him no matter how.

Totally depends on the parenting since not all would really be that open and not all would really be recommending their children on dealing up with gambling yet we do know that it wont really be able to give out that kind of advantage but rather it would really be that resulting into possible addiction. Just like on the example that once your child did really come into a point that they are already that stealing just to gamble, then this is a solid indication or sign that they are already that addicted to it. They would really be able to do those things which they havent done before. They wont really be able to realize those things when the damage has been done is already that severe.

As a parent then no one would really be happy if your children would really be ending up on stealing on you just because they do love or really that playing on gambling.Of course
you would really be having that kind of disciplinary action. This isnt something that good to be done and should really be stopped and controlled as much as possible.
This is where your parenting rights and authority would be shown.

Environment influence people too well, young age are the ones who can be influenced by there environment and home, if the parents are not watchful of their child the child will one day keep them in a bad mood.
Parents makes sure to put eyes on your children,some parents doesn't because they don't care, ore they have money to take care of cases, but makeing sure your kids are disciplined is very importan, now a child has withdraw miney from his parents account to gamble, there's no proper discipline there.

I agree with that. It's not about the money or the money being wasted or used on something useless, it's all about how the money has been taken. If your child is stealing money and then making good use of that money or earning more money with it, that doesn't make his first act forgivable because stealing is not a good habit for a child and if they aren't schooled or punished for it in their childhood, they can do bigger and worse things when they grow up.

So, when a child steals money or anything, they should be punished and schooled for it so that they don't repeat the same thing again, and this should be done regardless of the outcome of what they used the money for, whether they've a million dollars or a billion dollars from gambling using that money, the money was stolen and that's an issue.

Of course, the environment has a very big influence in changing human behavior and nature and when a minor child chooses the wrong association and environment, it is clear that in the end changes in behavior and nature in a negative direction are very likely to occur which in turn can have a bad impact on his family, as we know that it is not uncommon for people to commit several out-of-control actions such as stealing, robbing, judging others, committing violence and other crimes, all because of the very significant influence of the environment and association.

This is very likely to happen to a child when his parents do not give full attention and do not limit the activities that a child does, however it is the duty of parents to take care and guide their children to stay on the right path and give full attention along with limiting the activities of a child is one of the good actions to prevent them from entering the wrong association which can certainly make a child a criminal or a gambler.

If I were a parent, I would definitely scold my child for stealing money to gamble. This is far from the principle that when someone gambles, they must be able to earn money from work. This is what is worried about if a small child learns about gambling, he Not yet able to earn money but having the courage to play gambling, of course it will have a bad impact or give rise to bad traits in children, such as stealing money to be able to gamble.

Therefore, as a parent, you also have to pay attention to your children often so that they don't get into the wrong company or even if you as a parent like to gamble, don't ever gamble in front of your children, because they will follow what you do and the effects will spread if your children are already familiar with gambling, if there are parents who think it is a normal thing so I think such parents do not have a plan for their child's future.

Let us not think about the possibility of winning millions just because some kid out there tried to gamble. Let's stick to the reality that it's not going to happen to any kid out there. Although I have seen some rare situations like this and IIRC, it was also posted here.

But then, stick to the reality.

Those parents that have been working hard for them to give their children good future and then they'll find out that they've been stealing them money to gamble is really frustrated on their end.

I won't question any type of disciplinary actions that they're going to do since it is their money and their kid to teach.

The main action we need to take if we find behavior like this is to reprimand it and give punishment as parents should educate their children in their own way, if left alone and there is no action at all, incidents like this will continue to happen again.  Even though some people think that gambling is not a negative thing, if you find a child's behavior like this, it shows that his behavior shows two negative behaviors, namely stealing and gambling.

My response as a parent is that I am very angry and very disappointed with children who steal their parents' money just to gamble, even if my child wins a big bet I will not care about his winnings. Because in my opinion something like this is a very bad action for their future lives. If we let this happen to our children, in the future they will definitely continue to do it, so we as parents must be really firm in giving warnings and lessons for their behavior. That way, incidents like this will not happen again to our children in the future.

Every child has their own attitude and not all of them will be easy to manage and give subtle directions to, some children need strong, measurable warning in educating them and that is normal.
When you as parent educate your child harshly and firmly enough, it is not an important problem, indeed, not to show excessive anger and resort to violence that affects his psychology.
This is much more acceptable than simply pampering child with tenderness.

Well, in this situation, I sure that father will also do what I said above because character building and giving strict direction is the attitude of father towards his child.
Stealing is very bad behavior and this will become habit if it continues, so father job is to provide education and learning that will really make the child feel tired or afraid to repeat it.
Occasionally acting harshly towards children when they make fatal mistakes is common thing to do.

As parents, we will be disappointed to know that children steal their parents' money. We should educate them well and not to steal or do other bad things. That's why we really have to educate children well and instill the understanding that stealing or taking something that doesn't belong to them is wrong. We can also punish children so they are deterred and won't do it again, but don't let it hurt them physically. But we have to be careful in punishing them because the punishment is only so that they know it was wrong and will not do it again. It is indeed difficult to educate children, but we must continue to try to make them able to differentiate between right and wrong, especially if the stolen money is used for gambling. That was a mistake.

First, it is not my wish that my son will steal money to gamble, it will not tell good of me as a father. The reason I do most of the things I do is for my heirs to have a soft landing in the issues of life so there will be no need for my son to steal.

If peradventure it happens, as it is in the power of man to propose while God disposes, then I will do my best to caution him and make him undertake serious psychological rehabilitation to avoid a repeat of such ugly act. If he is within the age to be beaten, he will receive the proportionate beating and if he has passed that age, appropriate measures will be taken.

This is why it has become necessary for us to protect our children from things that can make them for bad habits. We must endeavor to keep our gambling a secret because children are not supposed to be exposes to gambling.

It also depends on how you are training your child in the first place. It's not every situation that requires you to sat down a child to have a discussion with them. Some cases such as stealing deserves severe discipline especially when it's done just to gamble. There are cases that a parent can sit a child down to discuss it lightly with them but not cases that involve stealing, be it at home or outside. Stealing in any form should not be condone and sitting a child down to talk calmly is not the best way to handle that type of case. I think the freedom we are giving children nowadays is getting too much and it needs to be checked.

No one will stop you from gambling as long as you are using your own money to gamble. You don't inconvenient others by stealing their money to gamble and still wants to be treated with maturity. I feel for the poor mother for what the child has put her through. She will just have to be patient because asking the child to refund the money in any means will make things worse but an unforgettable discipline will be recommended.

carrying out 2 behaviors that are beyond the limits of a minor seems to be behavior that should be punished to provide physical education for the child.
there's nothing wrong with scolding and punishing our children in slightly harsh way, such as not giving them permission to hold a phone and being locked up in their room and not given daily money.
In this way, our children will definitely feel that it a very severe punishment and we as parents will be more comfortable giving punishment like that rather than physical punishment which can disturb our children mental health.
maybe if the child just tries to gamble maybe we will find it a little easier to provide educational lessons about the dangers gambling but making an attempt to steal can have an impact on the habit of stealing if you don't have money and if you dont give a punishment, a child definitely feels that he not given a punishment such as allowing him to steal.

but we still have to monitor our children behavior, even though they have promised not to repeat the same actions, but as parents we must still be responsible for preventing our children from gambling as long as they can't earn their own money, its better to always supervise them and not if necessary allowed to hold a phone.

Not at all because even how well you do such parenting but still there are really things on this world that cant really be inevitably avoided specially now into this era on which technology could also give out that kind of
cons when it comes on exposure into those things which arent that good and we know that our kids are really that prone into those things. This is why no matter how you do monitor your child, there would be always those path and things on which it would really be causing up such bypass that as you as a parent would be able to missed out. THis is why it would really be better that making up some explaination and educating
them about certain things on continuous manner would really be always that recommended.

On the time that your son stole money to gamble? Then as a parent then it would really be just that right that you should really be giving him a disciplinary action.
Nowadays, making some explaination to your son or kid wont really be just that enough.

Hold on did you just say from the mobile transfer account???
This clearly shows access was given to the son by the Mother and she is responsible for whatever happens here and shouldn't be complaining of this lost money...

It's unfortunate it happened this way, but sorry I still blame the mum for all this despite her going round trying to get an intervention which won't happen...and you know what it's difficult to stop a young man from gambling when they just started unless a replacement hobby is found like a job or gaming....

Mum playing the blame game but unfortunately she has everything to do with the sons gambling as she funds him which is where the solution is...stop giving him money on a silver platter.

If the son actually won for sure the parents wouldn't really be so mad, probably still mad but not to the point where they need to punish him, they might probably just do a sermon in order for their child to realize that what he do is not good. That is probably what I would do as well if I were the parents, depending on how much he took, if he takes a huge amount of money like thousands of dollars he's probably going to be kicked out of the house for sure, but if it was just he's first for sure a warning would be enough, since they are still a child they probably not aware of it .

I mean to be honest when I was just a child I stole money from my parents as well so that I have money to use to play computer games at a computer shop after school it actually got worst since I stole money as well for buying items on the game, it was an FPS game and I bought some ecoin on the game to buy good items, that was actually the worst thing that I do because it was money from our small business so when someone bought something I took a small amount on it. My parents found out of the course and got mad at me, I mean I already had it in my for a long time that I dont want to steal money anymore that doesnt really work it was only stopped when I found out how to make money on myself when I do some work as well as finding out about cryptocurrency that is when I stop doing it.

Bro, no amount of justification can exonerate this boy, he did what is bad, and he should be punished one way or the other. Well, I do not know his age, or maybe I mistakingly skipped it while I was reading your post which I don't think so, nevertheless, the child whether close to that age or he is even at that adult age to gamble doesn't have the right to steal money for it. Be it your mother, friends, father's money etc, you do not have that right, stealing is stealing and what is bad is bad without any argument, and he should be severely punished for that in my opinion.

If he needed money, he could have asked politely from the mother or lied that he needed money for something important, whereas he wanted to use the money to gamble, which is still smart to me. This is still better, and the mother may not detect it, talkless of getting hurt by his actions. The mother can't be happy with what he did, but she will still be thankful that he didn't steal another person's money but hers, it would have been worse.

I think that any gambling is a bad thing in the eyes of society, although it is possible that up to now there are still many people who gamble, society has no right to prohibit it as long as gambling is legal in their country. Moreover, gambling is not a bad game if it is played correctly, but if it is gambling you play it carelessly you can becomed addict to gambling. If a child gambles with money he stole from his parent then this should be strictly enforced because this action is very wrong, they can gamble but use their from his own hard earn money.

Sometime it is the behavior of people like this that lead public opinion that gambling is a bad thing even though it is irresponsible individual who use their gambling so that it has a bad impacts, and you cannot equate gambling with theft because theft is worse than gambling, we probably see people more often a thief who is in prison is compared to a gamblers who is in prison if someone does not make a fatal mistake in their gambling. In this case parent are the ones who playing a role in educating their childrens not to steal.

If he would have won the bet, then definitely the reaction from the mother would have been different. I mean what does a middle class family expects from his children? To make money. If he would have made huge money from the bet, then definitely he would have been praised by the family members. Moreover he did two mistakes, first one is stealing and second one losing it all. So according to a middle class family’s way of thinking, getting this type of response and scoldings are normal I would say.

Well if we do speak with those approach then it would really be just that normal and it has been on ages on where gambling does really have this kind of impression in towards that negativity on which it is really just that right or really just that not shocking anymore. Its true that its none others business if you do play gambling as long you are really just that making use of your own money. It turns really out that
those people who are really that comes into that kind of addiction on which they did really be able to reach out those conditions that they are already doing such act on which it isnt really supposed
to be done in the first place.

On the time that your son did really opt to steal money or something just for them to gamble, then this is a solid indication that he is already that addicted to gambling on which
it did really comes into a point that they are already having those stealing activity on which its not something good at all. Once you do able to mind
about criminal acts then it would be best that you should stop it right away or as much as possible.

Though you are right that one should see what type of a child it is, I believe a child that doesn't need scolding wouldn't do something like this. Mostly, children who are spoilt by their parents or at least one parent tend to do such things because they don't have any fear of getting beaten or scolded since the parents always encourage them even when they make a mistake or do a bad thing. Such parents deserve such treatment in my opinion.

When you are parenting a child, you are supposed to teach them what's good and what's bad, this includes good and bad manners and everything else, and if you fail in doing that, and then you find your children doing wrong things, you are supposed to blame yourself and not the children because it was your responsibility to show them the right path.

Look, gambling understanding has advanced. It's 2024. This is no ordinary game of chance, but a complicated psychological dance. Using your own money? Respect your rights, but remember to act responsibly. Are you in control or does gambling control you?

Gambling becomes a need when it becomes more than just amusement. Keeping this habit by stealing? This is a symptom of a bigger issue. Mental health, not just law, is at stake. Denial won't help an addict. No judgment - just admitting the issue and finding solutions. Admitting a problem is the first step to recovery. Don't glorify or demonise gambling; instead, take it seriously.

This boy needs strict upbringing, and someone must discipline him
Parents are supposed to monitor everything their children use, starting from their clothes to their toys, and they must ask for permission before they touch things that are not theirs, but here the opposite happened, since he stole the card to bet, so he knows a lot about betting. How could the son steal the card if his  mother was watching him
In our time, parents must raise their children strictly, or the children will become the ones who raise the parents

Mother is the source of luck and never transfer that luck to the bookie. The behavior of stealing money belonging to parents to gamble is completely wrong, the child must apologize sincerely and must promise not to repeat it again. Even though winning millions of dollars while betting from gambling, that doesn't justify his stealing behavior, I think those are two very different things. Today the child steals at home, belonging to his mother or family members, it is very possible that in the future he will steal other people's property or even commit group crimes. That is why it is necessary to discipline children by providing gentle understanding, which can be understood well, and he realizes where he made mistakes.

It is very difficult to discipline children when they become addicted to gambling, we really understand how this cycle will continue to repeat itself and the impact will be huge in the future. Advise children that there is no future in gambling, everything seems dark, all hope of luck is just an illusion, never be curious to try it, and never steal for any reason.

One of the best replies that makes sense.
But the problem is, that most of us gamble and want to win money. Even though we say that we gamble for fun, how many of us really do it for fun only? People wouldn't have been addicted if they were playing for fun. They were playing seriously and when they lost money, they played more so they could recover.

I have said before that the phrase Play for fun is not invented by any gambler. That was probably started by the casino owners or their staff. Whoever steals money for gambling, it's bad. No matter if it's a kid or an adult.

It was your responsibility indeed, as being the guide for your child you need to supply correct information for your children, when you hear or when you discover such things that happen like this, you should take the ownership of your child's behavior, taking the blame instead of punishing the child, you must understand that the need of proper guidance will always start inside your house.

Though there are many factors and influences but you should be ready to try your best to make things right, while you can still help them to avoid or prevent pushing their way to this wrong doing.

You are definitely right about what the reaction of the parents would have been if the child had won a huge amount of money from that bet, the parents possibly would have praised him, but that would have been a wrong thing to do after all, because, regardless of whether the bet was lost or won, stealing is stealing and should be totally condemned.

If assuming the child had won the bet, as well as double the money he stole from his parents by multiple X's, the parents would have possibly praise him, but that also would have been the directly and or indirectly encouraging the child to keep stealing to gamble, and this could in no long time, ultimately destroy the child and his future.

So, for me, it is mandatory for a child to be scolded big time when ever he or she does what is not appropriate, to deter such a child from doing same next time..

Deep sentiment of failure. As parents, we have the obligation to educate well our children and prepare them for a sometimes difficult life, full of beautiful but also dangerous things.

Drugs, gambling, algorithms... have some well known risks if misused.

We cannot control the environment (friends, media, availability of such potentially addictive things), but I think that I'd feel guilty for not having done enough to educate well a son or daughter who did that, even if I had done everything that would have been in my hands.

When a child's behaviour goes into such dire situations, it must be understood that the child must have learned from watching the behaviour of others, he may be influenced by the friends around him. Parents should create the right environment for children. If they can observe where their children go and who are the companion, then they cannot make such a big mistake. Here the child's guardian may have a callousness.  If doing any such thing then that child should be understood. He has to be brought back by understanding. The parent needs to know why he is drawn to gambling. If a child steals money, parents cannot solve by getting angry, but he must change his environment.

I agree with that and I'm sure most middle class parents will be happy when they see their child bringing a lot of money for him even though he has made the mistake of stealing his parents' money, but maybe there is also the other side where parents don't prioritize their children's money because it's just want their children to learn to respect their parents and control their behavior so as not to steal. There are parents who really want their children not to steal. because bad habits like that will continue until adulthood.

So we can't look at it from one point of view but look at the other side where parents need to teach their children about their stealing behavior, because gambling is very common, anyone can do it even in secret, so smart parents will probably advise them in the right way because of habit. The bad thing about stealing will always stick with him. Luckily he stole his parents' money, but if he stole other people's money it might be a different story, therefore it is important to advise children to stop their habit of stealing because if they gamble, everyone can still control it. sometimes we can't measure parents' pleasure just by money, that's all

If I were the mom, I would definitely be upset regardless of the outcome.

The fact that my son is capable of stealing on my money without any prior permission violates any kind of moral decency. If he/she has the guts to steal money, what more evil things that he/she may do? Sure, he has won millions in gambling but that does not change the fact that he/she was able to do it to his own mother.

Gambling can definitely bring the best/worst on a person depending on the outcome. There are lots of learnings that one may experience- they can see the true colors of a person especially if they hit rock-bottom; and you can also experience the best of a person by sharing the winnings immediately after winning.


I definitely agree with your statement.

As parents, we have the obligation to nurture our children in bringing the best into their welfare. If we expose them in a potentially dangerous environment surrounded by vices and violence, it is natural for them to associate themselves with this kind of environment.

Although in this case I am single so this matter is very important for single people like me. In this case I would blame the parents the most because it is the parents who get their children into gambling. A child learns to master that behavior in himself by observing his parents' behavior. If a parent is a gambler then the children of those parents will also be gamblers. So the children of those parents will not easily find any alternative way to manage the gambling money other than stealing money from the father's pocket. That's why the child is not at fault but the parents do not hesitate to engage in criminal activities like stealing money from the parents' pockets to manage the child's plight and gambling money.

Money may blind us to the issue, but respect and integrity cannot be overwhelmed by transitory affluence. I believe these mistakes must be addressed as a parent and ethical thinker. Yes, gambling can be enjoyable and harmless, but its important to set limits.

Stealing, even from parents, indicates deeper difficulties. Slippery slope, huh? This is the parents' wallet; tomorrow it may be even worse. The habit it creates is the issue. Indeed, smart parenting entails open, honest discussions about such actions' repercussions. Not simply fixing the current problems, but imparting lifelong principles.

Finally, embracing fun gambling as enjoyment is different from using it to hide behavioural concerns. The difference matters. Our youth must be guided wisely, realising that happiness and success are not judged by money. Risk, reward, and responsibility can be learned through entertaining, controlled gambling.

Yes, parents should be blamed because they cannot educate their children well until they steal money from their parents or other people. If parents can instill awareness that stealing is against the law, children will not dare to steal because they know they will be punished. Parents should be able to provide supervision, education, and assistance to their children so that their children do not do things that could violate the law. If parents cannot do it, their children may try to do something they have never done because of the lack of education from their parents. Those who have done it before tend to do it again. They think it is interesting because they can have money even though it is wrong.

I disagree, unless the parents actually taught their children to gamble and to steal they cannot be held completely responsible, kids are people too, which means that they also have their own inner desires and they can be influenced by all kind of external sources too, so even if parents did everything that was on their hands to educate their children, things could go wrong if their kids take the wrong path by themselves, and while all efforts must be made in order to change this, parents can do fail on those attempts.

If I were in her situation, I would be angry too. Even if her son took a lot of money or a small amount, it's still not good. Her son needs to be disciplined even if we say that the child's money that he took won millions, that is still wrong, it is still called theft especially if he is of the right age because you said that he took money to gamble so I assume that her son is of legal age. When her son gets used to that, he may not be the only one to do that, the son may also do it to other people because of his addiction to gambling. So while it's still early, discipline, scold or whatever so that it doesn't happen again.

No parent would really be liking on what your son had done on which we know that stealing is never been that good no matter how small or big it is, as a parent then you would really be scolding your son about it. It is part of parenting and our responsibility on leading them into the right path. If ever they did end up on the wrong path then you would be needing it to straight.
We cant be perfect as a parent but we would really be doing our best for leading them into the right path. So if ever they would really be doing those bad things then it would be a
normal reaction for us to get angry but as a parent then we would really be just that forgetting those things on which its a normal approach and reactions to have.

Using money that is not ours is considered the worst attitude. In a state like that where our kid uses our money secretly for the sake of gambling, is the scenario if the kid won instead of big money a proper argument? If that's the case then we should just tolerate everything since after all, there's a chance of winning big even. Sounds stupid right?

Regardless of the reason, stealing is stealing. The kid in that story highly needs proper and serious guidance.

I don’t think the mother is mad about her son gambling, just the way he got the money. Stealing is a crime and if unchecked he could develop a habit for it and steal from someone who is not as sentimental and would very well call the cops. I think the mother is trying to prevent such an occurrence from happening in the future, the OP doesn’t say the age of the boy, I can only assume he’s a teenager. The family should have a sit down with the boy and let him know the consequences of his actions.

A mother will be angry when she discovers her son stole her money. Stealing is a crime, but a child must be given understanding so that he can understand that stealing is a bad act and he can be punished, and the worst is that he can go to prison. With the understanding given by his mother, father and other family members, the child will understand and will not repeat his actions. He will not steal money from his mother or other people because he already knows that stealing is bad and can be caught by the police. He doesn't want to experience that and will stay away from it. A mother will prevent this from happening again and always look after her children well.

Stealing is always stealing, no matter if it is your son or family members, and that should not be tolerated, so it is best to discipline your son or talk to him thoroughly about why it is not good and you are having a hard time earning that money. Though if your son won, then that is another topic because all of us would be happy because that is huge money but still make your son understand that stealing money or getting money without permission is not good.

Undoubtedly a good thing said because theft in any case is theft and a serious crime. Whoever commits the crime must be treated as a punishable offence. Whoever steals money from my son or daughter's pocket and spends it in immoral activities must be brought under punishable punishment. If these boys and girls are left unpunished, they will not consider committing more serious crimes in the future. If such criminal activities are organized in the family and if the family members do not see these incidents and don't say anything or solve it, then surely big crimes will be organized in that family in the future.

True, however, theft is a crime or criminal act that should not be allowed because if it is allowed then over time they will get bolder and are very likely to eventually commit bigger acts or mean stealing something bigger which of course has serious repercussions, it is true that no matter who it is whether they are your child or anyone else still punishing and disciplining them is a good idea to make them deterrent. Because the problem is that this jeopardizes their own future when they grow up in the sense that they are very likely to become a thief or a more aggressive criminal, and on the other hand, what if at that time they win using the stolen money? I think I will believe in the idea that the parents will not be angry or even happy because there is an increase in money that occurs as a result of the victory achieved by their children, but it depends on the parents too.

A child's mistake might cause an explosion of emotions, but meaningful communication can help. Instead of scaring kids with prison stories, establish principles. They must realize the weight of their deeds, not merely the repercussions. Kids are wiser than we think. They understand complicated concepts like good and wrong, cause and effect. It requires patience, not panic. A family's role? Not just oversight, but guidance. This is about creating an environment where mistakes are learning opportunities, not life sentences

Discuss prevention. It's about trust and communication, not just locking away stuff. Create an environment where people can talk about anything and things will change. Building a foundation so solid that treachery is scarier than police threats

Stealing is a very bad habit but most of the time children become bad because of bad discipline of their parents. If a parent does not discipline his children properly then that child can never be good. Just as a child grows up with good education because of parents.  Similarly, if you don't discipline from a young age, your child will go down a bad path. Parents should keep their children away from gambling. They should tell them about the bad aspects of gambling, so they will stay away from gambling.

If I am honest I am tired of parents being blamed for everything that happens when their kids misbehave, there are many parents that do everything they can and the kids do not cooperate at all and keep doing bad things, so the parents have no responsibility whatsoever in those cases if you ask me, parents can only guide their children, but if the kids decide to take a bunch of bad decisions on their own, that is on them, and we must hold them accountable for it.

The family's role is to prepare children to develop well and not do things that could cause bad things to emerge. We need to supervise them and accompany them on their journey towards maturity so that they can develop well and adapt to the circumstances. If they are wrong, we can explain what went wrong and give appropriate punishment so that they understand what went wrong and can correct it and not repeat it. Educating children today is not easy because their lives are more comfortable than when we were children.

That's why as parents, we need to discuss or chat with them as often as possible so that we know how their world is developing and can adapt our guidance and upbringing to them. We cannot use the same methods we received before because everything has changed. If children can open up to their parents, it will make it easier for parents to enter their world and understand what they need to do if their children do something wrong or bad so that parents can provide understanding to their children.

In that case I would have to have a very serious conversation with my son and I would impose a punishment. I could see it as a youthful mistake like many of us had in the past but he has to suffer the consequences of his actions.


But you say that as if the parents had nothing to do with the child's behaviour. Granted that there is some variability, since two equally educated siblings can have different behaviours, while parents may not be entirely to blame for a child's bad behaviour, they can be blamed for the lack of action to correct such behaviour.

But we know that not all would really be having that happy ending because even if you are a good and responsible parent but it doesnt assure that your kids wont really be that exposed
into those things on which this is something that could affect out their overall growth and might lead up into lose path even if you have done it well. Its something that cant be avoided specially now that
exposure into those things would really be that easy. We cant be able to see or check them on whole day specially if we are also a busy person, then there's instances about missing those things.
This is why if ever those kids have done something which is bad then as a parent then we do normally scold them and make those kind of explanations on why it is bad. We arent that perfect
and this is why as much as possible then you would really be doing those basic stuffs at least as part of parenting.

If the son had won a jackpot with the money, maybe he would have shared the winning with his mom and she would have forgotten what the son did. However, let's call a spade a spade. The son acted wrongly by taking what wasn't his and he should pay for it. When you take money from someone else's account without the person's permission it is called stealing and definitely the person would be mad with you no matter the relationship.

A mom won't be able to do much in this kind of situation, but more of a dads job. Children these days no longer have fear for their mom to the extent that they don't respect them. But still they have more love for their mother.
The best thing I guess the mom can do is to call for help and ask other people to discipline the child and correct him if his gambling activities. A child who at this stage of life if already stealing to gamble will probably turn out to be more worse I'm the future. Train a child the way he should grow. If he is to be stopped now he probably won't have such mindset when he grows up.

I wonder what he was thinking or maybe he was actually intermediated by friends or peer groups to fund money and place on a game that would win. As parents, you should be aware of the kind of friends your child keeps or hang around with.

I like that statement as there's no excuse about stealing, though there's a big chance that if the bet wins and the son make money out from that stolen money and share it with her mom for sure it will be a different story, though in the sense of stealing it's not good as the kid will grow thinking that as long as they are not being caught they can easily stole money from their parents and continue betting.

We need to guide our kids as early as now, they have to realize that if they continue doing things like this it will developed bad habits and a possibility that they will commit crimes that they will regret along the way.

The idea that youngsters appreciate mothers less than fathers is archaic and wrong. Communication and discipline in the home are the issue, not gender roles. Respect and discipline should come from both parents.

Suggestions that mothers should seek outside help with child discipline decrease their power. I prefer a hands-on approach. Parents must comprehend the child's behavior's causes, such as peer pressure or lack of guidance. Addressing fundamental issues rather than symptoms (gambling) can lead to more durable remedies.

Assigning emphasis to knowing your child's peers is correct. One parent doesnt bear this obligation alone. Its collaborative. Open, honest interactions at home are important to early intervention.

It seems that is what is on my mind that he really needs to call the police to advise his child too and undergo a small punishment to have a deterrent effect, because basically a bad habit that is often carried out will have a bad impact in the future, the child could have dealings with other people. someone he really didn't know then stole from his house while at home the person had a gun and saw his child steal and then shoot him in the leg. Maybe it would be worse if he continued to imagine the bad impact in the future.

So the mother's attitude is not wrong, after all, whatever the circumstances, never try to gamble with the proceeds of debt and secondly the proceeds of stealing, both of which are not suitable for gambling because there will definitely be bad consequences in the future, it is better to gamble with money that is ready. To get rid of it is not to lose money by borrowing and stealing, if you don't have money it's better to look for another hobby that doesn't require money, but if you have money there's no problem gambling, sometimes people push themselves too hard to keep gambling no matter where the money comes from.

I don't know if you have something and returns back is something to be called business so, if you are more interested of the income the young boy returned a stolen money with, it absolutely sounds like his theft act is encouraging and you hail's him for the profitable business being well done.
There is no level of corruptible manners that should be tolerated from kids for too much tolerance and pampering with the kids when they are on the wrong deeds is courageous to do worse in advance so, even if they would be forgiven it shouldn't make them (kids) feels the offense they committed was a minor.



There is no amount being too small nor big to discipline a child caught on the act of stealing. Belittling the value of theft they child indulgences into is proportional to asking the child to commit a bigger before being charged for offense of criminality.
I agree that at times, sitting a child down and talk to them about their wrong deeds is a good idea because most children grows hard and mean to whatever then wanted due to how hash they were treated at their young age as a course of disciplines but that doesn't mean you would spare the rod else the child is spoiled.

Honestly I wouldn't know. I am not even joking, this is the type of thing that you can't exactly plan beforehand. I can't just say "I would do this and this and this if it happened", because at that point you really need more context.

Like for example was he a great kid beforehand and just made one mistake? Then that's different, but was he a bad kid who always get into trouble and then ended up doing this as well? That's different as well. Was he a great student and got all great grades but also have an issue like these? Or was he also a terrible student as well? These all change as well and should be important on the result. I basically would have no idea, not right now at least and it would have to be considered when it happens and how I feel at that moment.

I’m not the mom and I’m not also a woman to assume this but the truth be told that stealing is stealing irrespective of the purpose it was stolen for.
But mothers should at every point, learn how to treat their children with love and not push them out to the harsh realities outside and I do understand the pains of the mother as this must be a case scenario of an Africa mother and since this case is very recent considering the high rate of poverty and hunger and the current rate of global inflation now, I wouldn’t blame the mom for any action she takes but she shouldn’t be too angered and forget to correct the child in love.
Gambling is never a poverty alleviation scheme, atleast not for people who can’t afford to bear the losses.

Any good parent would have been angry, but they would also be concerned. The parent should worry about the childs state of mind, when he had to steal from his parents and questions should be answered... on why he did that.

They should determine if the child are addicted to gambling and if he is, then their main concern must be to get help for their son, not on how they will get the money back.  ::)

Yeah, that is for sure. But we, as parents need to prepare everything for our kids and not let them do anything that can harm their life, including something that can lead them to trouble. With our guidance to them and always suggest them to stay away from bad things, they will understand that in out there, many things that can give them bad affect, so they must be careful when they want to do something. Maybe yes, we can't be able to see or check them whole day but we can get in touch with them in our free time and we can use that time to talk to them about many things so we can have close to them. We can follow behind them with our suggestions and we will always be with them so they can ask anything to us if they want to know something.

I thought you were Nigerian and I assume here we are talking about winning a few million naira. The point is not to win a bet worth millions. The important thing to note here is that the boy stole his mother's money. You cannot try to justify the crime that the child has committed by assuming that he managed to win millions of naira by stealing, and then the money was used to prosper his family including buying his mother some gifts. Stealing is not permitted in any religion and in any country. That is a crime and a very bad form of behavior. If I were his parents I would not condone the theft he has committed even though he won millions of naira. I will return the money or give it to someone else. And I will teach my children that gambling is not a way to get money and wealth. It's just a game and can lose money if we lose. I think he should understand the risks of gambling before reaching legal age.

It seems to me that only those children for whom their parents do not have enough time are capable of such an act. Spending time in close contact with your children allows you to establish a strong and trusting bond that will prevent you from committing such base acts. If parents constantly yell or punish their children, the children do not do well in school, then we should not be surprised that one day we will discover that money is missing from our wallet, which it will spend on gambling. He probably did this because of problems in all areas that haunt him.

I would find time not to lose this contact, because if our children follow this bad path, it could ultimately have a bad impact on their entire lives. That's why it's important to spend more time with them and find them no matter what.

Some parents are able to communicate with their children with gentle and care, but some parents are not vocal or expressive so they can't have time to talk to their children. This is one of the problems that a family has that causes their children to do something inappropriate because of lack of care and guidance from their parents. If you have this parent-child relationship with your kids, you will know what your child is doing in their life, They are also the ones who are willing to tell stories or update on what is happening in their lives. .

A child or a teenager stealing money from his father or mother or anyone around him/her is a question mark on the upbringing of the parents in the first place. So the first thing they should do is question themselves about how they have raised their child. Once they do that, then they should think of a way they can handle the situation and they should make sure that whatever they do should make the child understand, it shouldn't make him too much frightened but he should learn his lesson so that he doesn't repeat the same thing again or do anything that is considered bad.

A sitting with the child should be okay but it shouldn't be full of affection and encouragement to make the child think that he can do whatever he wants because the elders won't mind or do anything at all.

Children are the most important investment in our lives. And every contribution to their development and abilities is more important than any investment in stocks or cryptocurrencies. Children need to impress with their results, and it is important that they always receive maximum attention and care from their parents.

It is not surprising that if a child sees that they do not like him and do not give him time, then he chooses a crooked path in life that will not lead to anything good.

The circumstances of each region and land are quite different, there are environments that require people to work harder every day and not have a little time to be close to their children, sometimes many people also want to have an evening to confide in themselves, but in reality, they are too tired from work and almost exhausted, continuing to deal with other tasks such as household chores is more stressful for them. Children are too free and thus interact with social elements and are exposed to online entertainment, here perhaps better modes are needed to increase a family's interaction, a little understanding of psychology changes a person's direction

How will a child display a behaviour that is frowned upon in society and then you expect his parents to check his state of mind first? In my thinking, that will do no good and will even give the child reasons to misbehave next time on the ground that his parents will not scold him but rather will be considerate and even show unmerited care and attention. This will destroy the child`s morals. What I advocate in this kind of situation is to discipline the child then knowing why he did that should follow next.

I will applaud African mothers on this, an African mom will tell the child to feed himself with that money for some days and then you will see the child crying and making promises that he will not do it again. Please, I respect everyone's belief here but for us who believe in Christianity, the Holy Bible made it clear that “whoever spares the rod hates the child…” which in my opinion talks about the importance of punishing the child when he is wrong because that is the only way he learns. When a child steals and faces consequences, they learn that there are limits to their behaviour and actions.

Supervision and education at home really help improve a child's discipline and honesty, but parents also need to supervise their children when they are outside the home. Teenagers are still very unstable in their thinking, they don't have much experience in considering their actions, all they think about is momentary pleasure without caring about the consequences afterwards.

The level of parental activity in educating children is not only at home, parents must also know who they are friends with when they are outside the home. Promiscuity can also make him choose a crooked path due to pressure or because of prestige with his friends.

If only the parents can clearly define the line between the good and the bad things and practices and enforce them, will make the kids a good citizen when they grow up. Usually, the moms are soft hearted and they tend to ignore the mistakes of the children. If the child realises his mistake, he will never repeat it as he knows that doing the same will be punished.

Also stealing money or anything should not be treated softly. Even the criminals are made because they were not stopped by their parents at the early age when they used to steal small things, which later turned into a habit and a crime. This is a worth reading article telling the cons of stealing at an early and non-mature age.


Kids Who Steal: What You Need To Know (https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/kids-stealing-from-parents-what-you-need-to-know-now/)

Now come to the outcome of the bet or game from stolen money. Let's suppose the kid earns a lot of money from that stolen money, This should not make us treat the children with softly, and not to forgive them only because they are the cause of the win and gain of money.  A wrong thing is wrong and it should not be encouraged even though there is some short term monetary benefits involved in it.

If I were the child's mother, of course I would be very angry because he dared to act unexpectedly and was very reckless in stealing and gambling, even if he won a lot of money, I would still discipline the child.

Exactly and every mother with the right  attitude and drill should at every point care to ask for the source of their children’s wealth especially if the wealth is so sudden  and most of the ill attitudes were failed to be corrected from childhood and since the mother has the highest bound from birth, to breastfeeding and te rest of that, she should be in a more better position to correct a lot of ill things when she saw them coming.
If the child made a lot of win from the bet, the parents has every right to caution the child since they’re responsible for their ward and children and also caution them with love rather than scolding or beating the child

Yes, I also understand that a lot of people live to earn money for food, and the rest of the time they perform household duties and children are left to their own devices a lot of time. I even remember my childhood, they also spent little time on me, but I never stole money from my parents, although my peers did this. I understood that this was very bad and something that should not be done under any circumstances and no matter how much I wanted it. It turns out that the state is indirectly to blame for not providing high wages to parents who are forced to work all the time. After all, those who earn more can devote more time to children, because they do not have to perform many responsibilities around the house.

It is necessary to figure out why the child stole the money, and this is very important, because there may be two reasons:
1) the child does not have enough money to be on the same level as his peers, and he just does not want to be an outsider.
2) the child is a bully and he is attracted to such actions. In this case, you need to understand more specifically and correct the moral principles of the child.

I believe that theft often occurs for the first reason.

That is correct. Before punishing someone, it is necessary to find out what lead to such action. The reasons why that kid stole money can be very various. From having a desire to gamble, to being forced to steal. It was mentioned that he has stolen money via mobile transfer. Before making any accusation, first it needs to be proved that the kid was the one who tapped on the screen and made that transaction. What if he was framed?

Usually, when parents detect such behaviors in their early stage, they can easily cure and prevent such kind of addiction from happening where they end up stealing their parent's money just to fund their bad habits. Prevention is better than cure and when they always monitor their children's activities, it would not end up this way because they can prevent it. But when they loosely let them do whatever they want, then the problem will occur in the future which will be hard for them to stop especially when their kids are already teens.

Parents have full control and role for their respective children, that is the essence of the problem.
If that happened to me personally, of course I would integrate it personally first, of course by asking carefully, where do you know about gambling, from whom and how could he carry out this theft, even though he only took my money, what is clear is that I will not immediately judge. I will communicate carefully first.

Whatever our children do, it is our full responsibility, especially if they are involved in gambling, my principle is that they steal, of course there is a reason, we have to be serious in dealing with a cool head and hope we can bring him to the right path, no more stealing and gambling.

It is clear that the mother was surprised by what her son did without taking into account whether he lost the money or made gambling profits from it. This is the same as any parent would feel after discovering two surprises: The first is that the son practices gambling, and the second is that he has the audacity to steal in order to play. This may be one of the most dangerous symptoms for a child who still needs the care of his parents.
Personally, I will rush to provide psychological support to my son, including monitoring his activity on the Internet and following up on support from psychological specialists. This is the least that can be done as a first step, regardless of any amount spent by the child.

Regarding the example in your story, the mother could be considered extremely reckless if she insisted on tracking down the lost money without taking into account the behavioral stage her son has reached.

Stealing isn't good enough for many teens that's why they indulge and see it as a means to an end mostly when the reason for stealing is so as to make more money.
For teens who grew up with their parents not being aware of thier initial stealing nature, it becomes hard for the parents to stop them from doing so when they are much older and have access to their parents wealth stash.

Parents should endeavor to keep monies st safe distance to limit their children from stealing from them and also try as much to pay attention to their warfare and circle of friends, mostly in whatever activities they get involved in.

In the case of stealing to gamble, it becomes important to let these children stay on their own so as to assume some form of responsibility that would in the end cause them to think how to make money genuinely rather than gamble away the little they have because of greed of the hope of getting rich quickly.

The common reaction after realizing what your child did, I go to that fact that being a parent and having that guilt that you held responsible to whatever your kids are doing, they might start to steal from you and to whoever reside inside your house but  after that what's next the child can do? No matter what might be the outcome, there should be good disciplinary action to take.

Then, after you should start watching your child and start guiding them if you feel that what you are doing is ain't enough to straight their path, it's your obligation to adjust and to try all the possible ways to enlighten them to quit away from gambling, there's no good implication as they think that it's a good venue to quickly earn decent money.

It is our child who has stolen our money so we must be able to educate him better. We need to use a different approach to make him aware and show about what he did wrong thing and he won't do it again. He can ask for money from us as his parents so he doesn't have to steal money because if they do it until they are adults, they can be caught by the police and jailed. That will make difficult for them because when they are imprisoned, they will face a harsh reality that they have never seen and never imagined before. We need to straighten them so that they don't take the wrong path again and they can realize that stealing is a mistake and a bad act. Disciplining our children who have stolen is necessary to have a deterrent effect on them so they don't repeat the action again.

Differences in levels in group of children will indeed have various influences on psychology and of course child who has the lowest level will try to have similarities with his friends because there is desire to get the same attention too.
There is lot of different treatment in group of children, if there is one who is at lower level, he or she will receive less good treatment and will be more likely to be pushed aside and ostracized.
Things like this are actually very unfortunate because they have caused various bad impacts that affect child psychology, but after all, we as parents can't do much other than fulfill what they need.

But in context like this it is not about levels to be equal but it has become part of gambling, he steals money to gamble and clearly this has much worse impact so it really has to be handled well.
If there is no good and firm attitude then it is possible that similar things could happen in the future, if they only steal money from us and their parents then we can still accept it, but if this becomes theft activity in another place or another person then the problem could be different.
There will be laws that regulate it and there are even bad sentiments among society and theft is one of the things that is really considered bad.

True, because no matter how bad a child's personality is, it is still entirely our responsibility as parents and only we can change and direct it in a better direction, however you or we must be able to change it in any way that seems reasonable and influential enough, but if in the end they still do the same action in the sense of stealing, it means that there is a mistake that you did in terms of educating them. But on the other hand I think we should be able to educate and change them because usually parents have enough formulas to overcome some personality problems that a child has. On the other hand, the fear and the thing to worry about is when they are adults, because obviously if it is not changed immediately from now on then most likely they will be bolder to do crazier and worse actions when they grow up and their actions will not only harm them but also their closest family.

We exists for what exactly? and what's the meaning of our lives if we can't provide for our loved ones and our basic needs? We just keep striving daily because there's no such thing consider as luck, rather we should be able to thank GOD for his mercy and grace upon our lives. A child under our control can easily get spoilt, due to the open world he can found himself, he's still a child and quickly learn every solid things he encounter. Discipline a child that fetch you millions? I will only caution him but I'll not raise a rod because everyone make mistakes in the system.

You cant really be able to tell that they wont really be raising a rod into their own child. We do know that each parent would really be that different when it comes to disciplining their kids on which there are ones who are really that too lenient but there are ones who are really that too strict on which on the senses that they would really be having that kind of actions which it is really that
pertaining about being slap out with something to make them learn about the things that they have done was totally wrong. Yes, its not always the solution but there's nothing we can do
if there would really be parents such as this on having this type of disciplining their kids. Its their own way and there's nothing we can do about it.

Parents duties and responsibilities is not easy in educating their children because parents responsible to their children when their children grow up. Parents should follow their children and find a way to besides them and bring their children to the right way. We can tell them about the right and wrong thing and if they make mistakes, we can give a little punishment to them as a reminder. We don't have to be strict to them as that can make their children rebel and don't like what their parents say. With always remind them about the things they do and treat them as a friend, our children will not trying to do something that can harm themselves and will not do anything bad. While the children are still not mature, parents can teach and give good education to them so they will always remember what their parents suggest. If we can responsible to our child, we will see they grow up without doing something bad or harm themselves.

Perhaps, there is no hard in educating our kids if we care about their future. Indeed, it is the responsibility of the parents and it is their duty for their kids not to fall into gambling addiction. If they let this happen and reconsider them because they are just a kid and do not yet know that was wrong, it is the same as teaching them to commit more mistakes. And that is not an act of being responsible parents nor an act of teaching them to be a good parent in the future. It should not be tolerated or else, it will put into their mind that it is okay to do it again.

Though polite, your approach lacks human complexity. Just words of right and wrong won't shape kids. Individuals want boundaries and independence. Communication is important, but so is knowing that each child sees the world differently. Teaching accountability relies on discipline, not punishment. Large differences exist between the two. Punishment responds; discipline teaches. Are we to support them? Absolutely. Also, we must prepare kids for the fact that the world won't always be kind. They need resilience, not reminders

And parent-child friendship? A wonderful ambition, but friendship and parenthood aren't always compatible. Our responsibility is direction, safety, and sometimes being the figure they despise, only to realize our lessons as they grow

Its our responsibility to make them understand that what they have done is not good to them since they already commit crime for stealing money from someone or to us. And this attitude should be corrected since they might go to more worse situation if they can't correct their bad action they've done.

I know this is hard for both parties but parents need to take charge on this situation so that they can guide well their parents into good future also they can decide what is bad and right for them.

This should not tolerated its because if they let their children do this then there's a huge chance that in future they regret their decisions not to stop their children on their past bad activities done.

There can be a lot of responsibility among parents who sometimes raise their children with many freedoms, it is something that we should not have so much supremacy, because freedom is sometimes confused with debauchery, in this order of ideas, we as for When it comes to the education and training of a child, there is no guide , there are Many factors that affect their personality, the personality of the parents, depending on the father and mother, the child is their reflection, and that is something we all see. but to be honest Things can vary, if a child in full formation does not correct himself with these types of acts, that is Something that will anchor him and carry him to do it when he grows up, then we can be Very good parents but there are Children They have to reprimand them , not just to reach out and hit them but to talk to them, to punish them , because that is Necessary, so they learn that there are certain limits in life.

Obviously the mother of that son must feel bad , for that son to have made that Decision , what happened? What was it that mother lacked to do things better with that son? Only she knows, but since he is a minor, well, if he has to Repeat it, as long as he does not become aware that this is not done, that this is something that cannot be done, he will continue to do it and it will continue to bring headaches for him. that mother, then you have to give her a good punishment, what I would do is put her to work until she pays me the money she stole from me With that, she learns that the money you get is through work, and all work is hard and that money What you earn is by the Sweat of your brow, that's just what I would do, and with that you are given a choice in life.

Actually gambling is good cause it will become a stress relief but if it gonna make sense once a person stole Money from their family to gamble. Like what other said it's gonna still okay if our son involve in gambling if they didn't make bad things to fullfil their wants. Cause if that happen that they stole money from their parents then that's not a good thing. They are addicted and for sure it will become worst once it will not resolve. Cause not just only stole they so but in the future selling some of their properties.

As difficult as it is in terms of educating children, it is still the obligation and full responsibility of both parents regardless of the situation and no matter how bad your child's personality is, basically there are children who are easy to advise and there are children who are stubborn and cannot be directed, I understand this matter but for this problem I think parents are fully familiar with the personality of their children and I am sure that parents will definitely have the right formula to overcome problems like this with the aim of changing and directing them in a better direction.

If indeed they can still be advised slowly then maybe it's not too difficult but there are also children who are very hard to and that means you need firmness in terms of advising them and also like you said that there must be actions taken by parents at least to bully them and maybe with some other punishments that can make them deterrent and promise to change. I understand that a stubborn and sensitive child may rebel but isn't this an effective way to do it if basically the advice slowly and gently still cannot traumatize them? Sure, but on the other hand I don't think it will be that difficult and complicated to direct a child who is still underage because they are still living with their parents or meaning that they are still dependent on their parents so there are many situations together that have the potential to facilitate and accelerate the process of changing a child.

When stealing is already that starting because of such gambling addiction then this is where things turns out to be shit and if it happens that your kid/children did make out such mistake then you would definitely be
scolding them for real on which it would really be just that a normal since its never been good on stealing out no matter what reason you do have whether due to gambling addiction or whatever it would be.
If you are a parent then it would be normal that you would really be having those kind of emotions or feelings of getting angry.Who would be the one wont really be on having such thing?
You would be needing to correct into those wrong things that had been done which it would be a normal act for a parent like us. We do know on whats good and whats bad, so are they.

Even though stealing for the reason of making money is still not a good action. but if they have the courage to do this it is very likely that they are already addicted to the point of daring to do something like this, and what I'm afraid of is that if they are not caught stealing their parents' money they will continue like this if the gambling they do only ends in loss and that is certain. gambling will most likely only end in defeat, therefore there is a chance that they will continue to carry out these bad actions, and what is worse is that perhaps they will become more daring, to steal other people's money or goods that could possibly be sold to make money.

Parental attention and supervision must still be carried out even though their children are adults, because in my opinion when they are adults it doesn't mean they are free from parental supervision. Even though they are adults and have the right to choose their path in life, of course parents do not want their children to have the wrong life, therefore parental attention and supervision must still be carried out even though their children are adults.
It's true what you said, they should be able to feel the difficulty of making money in the world. Moreover, when you are an adult, you should have your own job and income.

Stealing to gamble has got to be one of the worst things you'd want to see from your kid.  It shows that they have a lot to learn.  I could see how as a parent you would be extremely angry and want to punish the kid, but you really need to see this as a teachable moment.  Maybe he doesn't realize the penalties for stealing and that it could ruin his chances of completing his goals in the future.  Maybe he doesn't realize that gambling is for entertainment and you're spending money to gamble, not to get more back.  I'd have that kid sitting in a room learning statistics until he came to the realization of how stupid what he did was.

I don't want to think that you are sounding too religious but some how it's appearing as such to me but then I'm going to look beyond that to say that luck is actually real and we could get lucky some days just like they will say grace is unmerited favour so does luck too come sometimes you can tell you actually didn't deserve but you got lucky so luck it's actually real and does affect how we we are affected by things.

Sometimes children can be really mysterious with their ways because you may be thinking they are actually under your watch and control well enough but then it will be actually really sad to later get to know that even under your watch they would still have their ways around things and before you could realize it, that which you were avoiding will still happen and you can do almost nothing about it because it's done already, but then our reactions to such things when they happen matters a lot because it will be a determinant to if such will happen again and what could possibly be done, there are certificate reactions we would give to such and we can be sure it wouldn't happen again and there's another that we give and the child will device more Smart ways of getting away with that which they want to do.

There should be no difficulty in educating their children but we know that the era is changed and many things also changed which make parents needs to adjust their way to educate their kids. The responsibiliti of the parents become hard especially if their kids familiar using internet which many parents now is hard to adapt to more advanced technology. They let their kids use the internet free and will become a problem for their kids because their parents not guiding them while using their devices. Parents can't teach their kids because parents needs to learn many things to understand what they want to tell to their kids. If their parents can supervise their children and provide good education, their children will not do things that could have a bad impact on their children.

We need to use different approach for our kids because of everything is change and they will confuse to understand what we want. We want to give something that can protect them from doing bad things but we can't explain it to them and that can make misunderstanding between us. We must support them as they are our kids but we also needs to adapt the situation around us so we can teach many things to them and they can understand it better.

Parent-child friendship is a good idea that can implemented by parents so they can getting close to their kids. If their kids realize that their parents is always besides them, no matter how busy their parents, their kids will not search for the other people to get the lesson. Kids will see that they can ask all things to their parents and will consider that their parents is their hero.

That is why parents needs learn many things  to educate children, especially with the emerging of the technology that make children knows many things from the internet. Parents that can't adapt the technology will feel difficult to educate their children because their children smarter than them and don't want to listen their parents. It is why parents need to be close to their children so their children can be easy to advise and not just push their children to become what their parents want. This is what I see from some parents to their children but their children can't accept it and become rebel.

Parents need to use different things to close to them and realize that their children is not the same as the other children. One child will be different with the other child so parents need to use different approaches to know what their children want. Yes, parents can give punishment to their children but don't get wrong because this punishment is just make them realize what their mistake and parents needs to explain to them and show the mistake and how they can fix the mistake. That will not give traumatic experience to their children because parents can explain with softly and their reason to do that is for their children's good. Sooner or later, their children will realize what their parents wants and will follow it without any objection.

It is very sad because if your child becomes addicted to gambling and loses his wealth. Although in the present generation it is nothing because there are many things happening around us which we know very little because it is a shameful act. All I understand is to get your child out of the gambling side and give him a chance to love because the longer he stays on the gambling side the more addicted he will become. So it should be decided as soon as possible. Although there were some ways to get addicted to gambling such as: his friends and people around him. So first of all, you have to leave with them, only then you can avoid this and father's money will not be wasted.

This is clearly due to the lack of understanding given by parents to their children regarding gambling and its risks. a child who still has no income is forced to earn money from gambling, that is something bad.
the role of parents should be encouraged for such situations. Keeping away from gambling may not be easy, but parents must provide reasonable explanations to build better thinking in children towards gambling. so they can decide for themselves whether gambling is good for them or not.
improve our relationship with children. then everything will be fine.

But I think that parents will not give their children any understanding of gambling, because that way has the possibility or potential for a child to eventually feel curious about what gambling really is, and what is more appropriate is that it is better to limit a child in terms of his daily activities whether it is limiting from environmental association and in terms of using smart phones connected to the internet network. However, what is more advisable is to keep a child away from places that have the potential and bad influence on a child's personality.

And I think giving the right understanding to a child should only be done when they are already involved in gambling without the knowledge of their parents, but if they basically haven't touched gambling at all then I don't think you need to give an understanding of the dangers of gambling because obviously a child has a high curiosity and such a situation can make them even curious, and that means it's better to apply a lot of restrictions as a preventive measure as I suggested above in terms of limiting the environment and internet use.

It should never be about winning or losing the money that has been stolen but it is all about the fact that he stole money and that too for something which he shouldn't be doing at that age which is concerning for parents if their child is doing two bad things at once. So any good and responsible parent or parents would school and discipline their children if they catch them doing something like this so that they don't repeat it in the future.

By schooling and disciplining the children I don't mean to beat them up badly that they get injured or have a broken arm or leg, but it is about finding a way to tell them what they have done is something very bad and that way shouldn't just involve love and affection because that wouldn't be effective at all.

This discussions around parents and their gambling children always sounds very vague to me, owning to the fact that this days, most parents don't even know anything, or usually don't know anything about their children getting themselves involved in gambling, most especially; teenagers who have friends in schools and around their homes, and most of the time, it's completely impossible to (as a parent) know what your child is up to when ever he or she leaves your sight, and as a matter of fact, it is completely impossible to keep tabs on your child for 24 hours a day and 7 days a week, completely impossible.

So, for me, the only way I sometimes blame parents is in their failure to ask their children how they come about the money they are sometimes spending, so as to know the source and possibly take the necessary actions when the source of the fund is from something the parent don't for the child, this is where most parents miss it completely.

For me, how I react to this situation depends on whether he's still a toddler or an adult. If he's still a toddler, I will definitely discipline him firmly to make him understand the seriousness of stealing. I will emphasize that gambling is absolutely off-limits for him, and I'll address whatever influenced him to steal and gamble, ensuring he learns his lesson that very day.

But if he's an adult, I can't physically discipline him. Instead, I might choose to impose a punishment, such as withholding pocket money equivalent to what he took from me. As a child, stealing from your parents is unacceptable, regardless of gender. I will then take the opportunity to educate him on the harmful effects of gambling, as it can lead to addiction and jeopardize his future.

Lastly, I will examine our relationship because children often resort to stealing from their parents due to a lack of closeness or communication. I will strive to strengthen our bond and communication, and I will  also inquire about his friends to understand his social circle better. Such behavior may stem from peer influence, so I will work to address any negative influences from his peers.

A mother usually knows what their kids are doing and how the way her kids think that's why when the mother has a gut feeling, it's usually along with her suspicions base on what the kid had previously done. Maybe fathers don't have all the knowledge but when you have a kid, you always want to how he's doing and what he thinks.

If a father can do that, and he has a greater influence on the kid and the kid looks up to his dad like a hero, the dad will be able to prevent future disasters like a kid gambling so early in his life.

Parents may have had great influence on the past, but now as soon as a kid grabs a smartphone and begins to look for things on their own, the influence of the parents diminish significantly, as now kids have a source of information and entertainment that is with them anytime they want, something that even the most dedicated parent is unable to do as they have many other things to worry about, so unless the parents directly or indirectly introduced gambling to their kids, I do not think we can blame them if their kids begins to do this at an early age.

Not only just that limited to gambling but also into other things as well on which it could really be potentially be influenced out and this is something that cant really be avoided because of todays
era or days on which technology is so advanced or simply with the easy access then its unavoidable for your kids to see those things without you knowing. This is why parenting do becomes even more challenging. This is why it would really be better that you should really be telling them about those dangers and risks so that on the time that they would be able to see it online
then they would really be already know on how to adjust and act accordingly. Somewhat its not really that guaranteed but at least as a parent you've been able to do your part.

It sounds absurd. Stealing his mother's money is a sign of disrespect to her coupled that she went through a whole lot to get that money. Who knows If that was the last money she kept for the house use that he stole from her account? Possibly that boy must be an addicted gambler to start with because this act of his speaks of more volumes than what they could imagine. He should be properly punished for that irresponsible act and made to undergo rehab to get himself free from addiction.

YES!!!
 No matter how much he won at the end, I'll still question him about how he got to pull off with that stunt... Always learn to call a spade by it name..  If not, that'll always give him the impression that whenever he steals from your bank or wallet, he always gonna havw justifications for that... There's actually an attitude you'll condone today and it becomes a problem for you tomorrow... Always advice your children no matter how lucky they might be on their way doing crippy things.

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Without a doubt the role of the parents has changed with the introduction of all of these new technologies, but their role as guides remain, however a guide can only suggest a path of action, but it is up to the kids to listen to that advice or not, so if their kids decide to not listen then we cannot blame the parents, which did their job in order to try to make their kids avoid that dangerous path, and instead we must blame the kids which purposely took a path they knew it was dangerous.

Every child is unique, with their own personality, hobbies, and values. As a result, it is critical that parents remain open-minded and tailor their approach to their child's specific needs. It is not always easy to do, but it is critical to realize that children have choice and are capable of making their own decisions, even if they do them incorrectly.

Winning the game or gambling isnt an excuse or valid reason for you as a parent wont really be that tending to scold and discipline your child. Stealing is stealing and it doesnt matter
whether its small or not.Its not something that should really be tolerated and as a parent then it would really be just that wise that you should be disciplining them on the time that they would really be
committing out those mistakes on which it is really just that right for a parent to do so. Dont get that be easing out on such situation just because he turns out to be a winner.

On the time that you wont really be tending to control up your son on what he had done, then dont get surprised that one day that they would really be potentially or likely
become that theifs on the time that they dont have anymore money for them to gamble on. This is why it would really be always best that you should really know
on what you should gonna do as a parent. Parenting does gives out that impact into someone.

I guess what goes around comes around. That time when I was younger, I did took my parents money and did every shit that I can when I was a kid so this is to be expected that my kid will also the same thing to me. But I will not tolerate that, I won't say that it's okay because I did the same thing when I was younger. Because if I do, the state of mind of my kid will think that it's okay to redo it and much worse a bigger amount might be taken and that can process more addiction to his mind as he keep growing because pops has got money.

That's what we should avoid and we need to discipline our kids so that they're not going to tolerate such wrong actions from themselves and also to anyone that they know as they encounter some of it in the future. We can be tolerant but with specific actions like this, we can't just tolerate it and say that never do it again. There has to be some punishments that I have to make but it goes to play a part depending on how tough the punishment and the mistake of my kid does.

In the end, this will not be separated from parents because if they can guide well, the possibility of things like this can still be minimized.

Indeed, what children do is a mistake that even this becomes a double mistake where apart from gambling they also commit theft in order to fulfill their desires in gambling but in this case the parents are also the ones who are affected because there must be several reasons that make the child like this.

Some conditions that occur are when the child is too liberated so that they can do anything without checking first from parents who do not really supervise properly which makes this uncontrollable. In addition, another possibility is when the parents show too much of their activities in gambling which makes the child get used to this which makes the situation a little worse because of the addictive effect it has. This should be something to watch out for lest something like this happens to other parents because it is obviously very troublesome.

Gambling is already a bad habit, but if someone steals money and participates in gambling, it becomes even worse. If that bad thing happens to one's own child, then the matter looks worse and becomes a humiliating matter. But I think in this case there is a lack of proper education for that child because in academic education he must not have been informed about the serious crime of stealing. Or even if he was informed about the theft, he might not have taken the knowledge because he was a good student and would never have taken his father's pocket money or participated in the Jura by stealing. But one thing is more important that if the child was taught proper education and manners as a guardian then surely he would not have done such a bad thing like stealing.

That was the reason why under age are not meant to enter into any gambling hall ,because the more they keep going to that gambling hall that's the more they are learning,you know those children catch up so easily.probably they can decide to give it a try, from there dey keep trying over and over again. in the process of trying it becomes addiction,  if they don't have money for gamble they can decide to steal money from there parents,as a child they are not wise enough to know the implications.if I happens to be the father of that child he will be punished so that he won't grow up with that lifestyle either.

I would never support stealing even though the child was fortunate enough to use the money to bet and make huge profit from gambling. I know there are parents that would be happy about that but that is not in my own case. Stealing is absurd and we should not tolerate anything that looks similar to that. What if the opposite happened, what are we going to say? It is good we are very strict with the way we handles children because any lite tolerance, it could lead to something unbelievably to us. We need to be act like we are a full grown parent that knows what and how things ought to be.

When a child starts gambling at a young age, people will always blame the parent of the child, when a child starts misbehaving people intend to blame the parent, this is obvious as parents we should train our child in a right manner, the mother in question should be blamed at some extend cause why will a little child develop the habit to steal money. Sometimes parents suffering from this situation tried all their best to take care of the child but the society nowadays seems different with the influence from peer pressure, social media etc. Social media nowadays can easily corrupt a child even with gambling habit.

If it happened that the son won the  game, that can not erase the fact that he stole from his mother to win the game. Irrespective of the amount he won, it would soon finish and when it does he would still repeat the same act by stealing from his mother again.
I believe he knows nothing about life hence stealing from his mother was his resolve. I was wondering if he has no elder siblings that would instill discipline in him for perpetrating such act.

These days, children behave the way they like and go away with it without proper discipline. Just imagine his mother can not do anything but calling her brothers and sisters to come to her rescue. If she can not do her part as his mother by disciplining him first what does she expect others to do or say?

I don't have a kid yet but I already know that I'm going to be livid that my kid is going to go this low at such a young age and the reason for the theft is gambling, there's no way around it for me, I can't be mad for the kid for long though and I know that there's going to be a lot of talk about responsibility and the implications and consequences of the actions that they'd commit, it's a long talk definitely and I do hope that if I ever become a parent and this similar situation ever happens to me, I do hope that it will never be awkward for me and my children to do this serious talk and this serious talks should change the kid for the better.

Parenting is a difficult thing to do, some parents don't even deserve to be a parent in the first place but they do. I think that in a situation like that, I believe that it's the failing of the parents that they're children are like that, they're the ones that got more experience and the adults in the setting after all, they're going to be the person that I'm talking about if they didn't do the adult thing in that situation or overall parenthood. A stolen money will always be a stolen money, even if that lead to something big but when it comes to morals, it's a different debate.

Parents still have a great deal of influence in the life of a growing child. But parents today are beginning to share the responsibility of bringing up their child with lots of other people. For some, I would think babysitters wields a great amount of influence in the life of a child than the parents themselves who spend little to no time with their children.
Despite having access to smartphones and all of that, parents still have a great deal of influence. It’s left for them to use it properly in bringing up the child right. In this case, the parents have a share of the fault in the stealing habits cultivated by the child in order to gamble.

Without a doubt parents still hold some influence, but this influence can get eroded really quickly with social media, friends, teachers and other adults that take care of the child, so parents no longer hold the same authority they had on the past, so even if they make the best effort possible to get their kids on the right path, it is now very easy for kids to ignore that advice and go astray, and as such I really think we cannot blame the parents when that happens.

It's different these days.

With the influence of social media, kids today are tougher than before. Tough in a sense that they can attain not to listen to their parents because they think that they can do better while they're young.

It also varies on how their parents have introduced them in the real world because if they're focused on their children and always give them the reminder, as they grow older, they'll remember that such stealing to gamble is a big thing and mistake that they should have never done.

Here I completely agreed about this all your statement because now things are completely change and kids are going through with social media which is killing all respect and honor as this is happening around me in our area as well with mostly kids are not talking with their parents and also not taking any precautious about their activities which are surely not ideal and many cases things are gone from bad to worse as well society is completely change and parents are clueless about things which were doing good and having good influence as well.
In few countries we are having laws which are working better for this relationship but as society is engaging with social media all are wrapping up which is more trouble with parents influence are needed for the positive effect.

We're different and engaged in activities with different mindset. I'm never looking down on hitting the next goal in my view of the world. My son stealing my money to gamble? Why would he because as a parent, one of the primary responsibilities is to ensure you're taking your children's needs as priorities to meet up for. Social media is there and the kids that quickly have access to phones will definitely make moves to grab the opportunities they feels is right and will do everything to sort themselves out. The real world comes to the young ones who entirely embrace them without second thoughts.

No, even though child has fairly close environment with other people around him, parents can still have control over child growth and development and also their future.
This depends on how parents carry out their obligations in acting as guides and also ensuring the survival of their children in the future, if they as parents don't care too much then the external environment becomes the most dominant influence.
Even though the influence of the external environment has a big influence, if at home the parents are able to play their role well then all the influences that come from the external environment will be able to be suppressed or controlled.
Just look at the many children who have succeeded in having good growth and development with parents who always provide direction and education regarding various attitudes that should be avoided.

But I myself would consider that what happens to child in the future depends on the parents, we cannot blame the parents but on the other hand, the responsibility of parents is to guide their children to the right path.

Yes... indeed, as long as they are not mature enough, they cannot differentiate between what is good and what is right, and are not able to make decisions wisely. then these things are still completely part of our responsibility. Therefore, as parents, we must always ensure that our child's growth and development goes well.

And it cannot be denied that the influence of social media on children's lives and development is extraordinary. and quite a few of them even spend their time just playing on social media. However, because we are too busy with endless work, sometimes we often neglect them, let alone providing family education to them, it seems like we rarely do just paying attention and giving love to them. Where we go to work while they are still asleep and come home from work after they are fast asleep. and when a child has lost the attention and love of his parents, it is quite possible that later the child will look for escape to get his pleasure, including by playing gambling. And we will only regret it when it is too late, after something bad happens to them.

It is interesting to see how things have changed, not long ago when parents were too busy to attend to their kids, they used the TV and even video games as a nanny for their kids, however even if this decreased their influence, if the kid had any question they still used their parents as a reference, but social media is different in the sense that it can interact with the kid, so the kid is now very heavy influenced by it and many parents do not realize this is the case until their kids begin to behave on an erratic fashion.

If I where the woman, since the deed has already been done, and is obvious that the son have lost the bet, trying to get him refund the money will only lead to more crisis for both the boy and the entire family because he may be pressured to provide the money by all means and by that be forced into stealing from others to be able to pay back and in the process ended up in a bigger mess.

So the best thing for the woman is to look for another way to prunise the boy aside making him to pay back by all means, and also again  the son should be stripped off of all allowances until the mum have recovered 100% before anything.

I don't know what could have triggered the boy to act in that way, but most times, such behavior could be a reflection of something that could have generated from the parent, may be there have not been proper training for the boy and he may have been left to fend for himself all the while to have thought of gambling means he have been independent all the while.

Some of the bad vices that children engages in is caused by bad parenting. Bad parenting have made so many children to do things they weren't supposed to do if they were carefully raised. As a parent, before you punish a child for stealing money to gamble or strip him off his allowances, you must ask yourself if you're doing what's expected of you as his parent to protect the child from getting exposed to gambling at a very young age. Gambling is rated 18 because of the fact that it's very addictive and should be only played by adults who are mentally strong enough to make financial decisions for themselves and not for kids and that's why whenever a kid engages in gambling, he's very likely to be addicted to it which will lead to doing anything tp satisfy his addiction including stealing.
If my child happens to engage in gambling and steals my money to fund his gambling activities, I'll first check if I have been doing what's required of me as his father to protect him from gambling and if after doing that and confirms that I truly did what's expected of me as his father, I can then take actions by punishing the child so he doesn't engage in gambling again.

And this is where parenting would really be that needed on which this is something that you would really be needing off because once you dont do your responsibility as a parent
then you would really be needing to monitor on what your children dealing with and with todays technology then it would really be that too easy to make those kind of access into those sites
on which it would really be something that could lead into those potential risks on learning up things like gambling. If you are a parent whose really not that minding about those stuffs then you are really just that basically putting up your children into those potential involvement on which later on you would be able to hear out that theyve done something shit just because
you've forgotten your responsibility as a parent.

As parents of course we have responsibilities for our own children, such as educating them in the right way. with the right education and direction, of course parents want success or other good things to happen to their children, not by stealing money from their own parents or other people because it is impossible for parents to teach things like that, unless they are a family of thieves. but I think families like that only exist in movies and can't possibly exist in real life. because it is clear that such actions will only be detrimental.

I agree with you, with current technological developments it has made many things easier, but we also have to supervise our children who still need supervision even though they are smart in operating today's technology. It seems impossible if parents don't care about their children, of course parents must do the best for their children, including by educating them and supervising them well, because the act of stealing money, even if it is done to their own parents, is an incorrect act.

Actually parents so not ha e the whole balme to take whenever things happen because in todays society we have got a whole lot that really influences the children and some of these things are actually out of the control of the parents but in cases like this the parental discipline instilled in the child much longer before then usually helps such children a long way to keeping them away from indulging in such, although they would want to explore but that which has been instilled in them long ago will definitely be a reason to causes them some restrain even if it's not complete restrain.

Friends and social media has got an influence on children such that sometime we may not be able to really get control of and at that point I think it's the society that has got a role to play because by extension of every parent instill good discipline in their various children, when they come together they wouldn't have the wrong habits to influence others with.

The risks of gambling are very dangerous that’s why, I empathize with this difficult situation the mother and her son are facing. It feels bad just to hear about someone losing money, what if when it is taken without permission from a close and loved one who worked hard to make it.
About the mother's reaction i find it normla for her to feel deeply upset and disappointed, regardless of whether her son had won or lost while gambling. The loss of trust and the breaking of boundaries are a serious issue that should be fixed and discussed well between a mother and her son.

If I was in the mom’s position, I would be focused on teaching and studying well the underlying problem of unauthorized gambling and the breaking of trust it represents. even with winning a big sum of money from that bet wouldn't change the fact that the behavior was irresponsible and disrespectful to me. It's important to approach the situation with understanding and seeking to educate her son about the consequences of his actions and helping him learning a lesson from this experience. Beside that it’s important to always be behind that son and monitoring him well.

Yes, because the role of parents is very important for the growth of children and their future, teaching them not to do bad things even though our children learn from us because they often see us gambling, it is necessary to guide them, tell them that gambling is not a serious game or It is said to be a place to earn money so they never try gambling out there, usually children often do things we don't want outside the home, that's why we need provisions to make them aware so they can be good children.

A child's character will be formed when parents play a role in their growth, so it's not strange if children are naughty, usually because their parents are busy taking care of their work and making money, so they forget to allocate their time to their children, which ultimately makes their children lack the love and attention they need, that's why It's important as parents to guide and direct their path in a better direction to be a good person for themselves and others, at least avoid gambling which might make them do things they don't want, don't steal other people's money just because they want to gamble. In fact, it will land him in prison and in trouble with the law.  ;)

I would instead blame parents. Because it is their fault, that they raised that kid in a way, that he has used stealing to solve his money problem. Not ask money from parents, not tried to earn them or borrow. But to commit a crime. Of course the fault is not 100% lays in parents. People who surround him also play role. But a kid and what he does is 100% parents responsibility.

Even if there are a number of careless parents out there, the majority try to do a good job at it despite having to work one or more jobs, so I will disagree as I have always thought that it is up to each person to decide and create the life they want for themselves, and this process begins when people are still kids, the kid had to decide whether to steal that money or not, and since most parents will teach their kids that stealing is wrong, then the responsibility of ignoring that advice falls completely on the kid, and they should be the ones to shoulder the consequences as well.

Agree, since we are in a generation where most of the youth today are rude and have no manners, most of all kids  have no fear for those who are older than them especially their parents, I do not agree with the statement that the parents should blame, because there are parents who always give advice and teach good manners to their children but you will be surprised because the children themselves disobey all the instructions of the parents, they themselves do what will harm them and the children themselves are the ones who decide what they will do, take note that parents are not focused on their children 24/7 because others need to work so that they can raise their children properly, but there are some young people who no matter how good their parents are the opposite of children's behavior.

even professional gamblers will not want to let their children who are still at school go gambling with the money they give them, children's lives must be directed upwards especially with the current conditions, just imagine if we let our children gamble then they will be reluctant to go to school and in the end we ourselves suffer big losses because we spend a lot of money to send them to school, usually parents will hit their children to discipline them and that is something that parents must do, for the sake of their children's future.

Putting the blame on parents or kids doesnt help. Now, I hear you. Some kids today really need to work on their manners. I see you parents who work so hard to raise your kids right, and its not fair. But kids arent toys. Parents arent always able to keep their kids in line. Because thats how people work, some kids do go in the wrong direction.

Parents have to bring home the food, so they cant keep a close eye on their kids all the time. Thats where we need a real plan. Values need to be taught so they stay with the child even when parents arent around. Also, remember that life is a risk. Kids need to learn how to take chances and think about the pros and cons. Not only should you follow the rules without question, but you should also use your best sense. That sometimes means making a smart move. Its that kind of smart risk-taking that we should teach.

Parenting is really that crucial i would say but its true that not all the blame should really be put into the parents or something that do talks about questioning on which we know that due to
hard work and would really be able to skip out those kind of responsibilities on which we are really that guilty with that but due on having those aims on giving them a good life in terms of
providing their needs then you cant really put up all the blame. It is really just that there are really those kids who are really that going into the wrong path and wont really be able to think
about the sacrifice of their parents and this is why they do really end up with these wrong doings. Although not all would really be that lost on such path on which
there are even kids who do able to handle and make out right decisions.

Both parents and kids need to understand that loss in gambling can't be recovered no matter if both of them blame each other. Kids, especially those who are in their teenage do not care for their parents' money and they argue or misbehave if the parents ask them to keep refrain from gambling.


It is the right that parents keep an eye on their children and if they find them involved in bad habits, they should be strict to them and force them to stop those things and one of the bad habits is gambling at under age. It will not only result in the loss of money for the parents but also affect the kid's studies.

If the son steals money for gambling, the parents should not be lenient with him and should give him a severe punishment, so he never thinks of stealing the money again. Ignoring such things will develop bad habits in children.

You are right, the OP said the boy lost the money to gambling, how will the boy be able to refund the money? The boy isn’t working yet, so if you can force the boy to refund the money, then he will definitely go outside and steal just to be able to refund the money, and if the boy get caught outside, it’s going to cause more problem, and it’s going to bring shame to the family. The best thing is just to warn the boy to stop gambling, tell him the necessary things which the boy is suppose to know about gambling, and tell him never to repeat what he just did. I think that’s the only thing the mother can do, she shouldn’t force the boy to refund the money.

Most of this bad characters are learn by children from school, and social media, since most of them have access to mobile phone, they can easily take their phone and gamble without even parents knowing about it. Some of them will even clear their browsing history, they won’t leave any traces that will make you even think they are gambling, you won’t blame parents always.

Death penalty, no mercy! :D

But joking aside here, I think that a lot of things must have been going wrong beforehand. I think in a healthy relationship between father and son, it would be quite a rare occasion that a son steals money and then uses it to gamble. Wonder if it is about stealing money from a physical wallet or taking it from a credit card or otherwise, but in the end it doesn't matter.

I'd think that if father and son get along well, what would the issue be to ask the dad for some cash to have fun doing some gambling? It's not the best activity, but if there is trust between the two, I'd rather want my son to ask.

I think parents can't be completely blamed, because external education also affects them, if they get good education from their parents then that's for sure, but external interactions can affect them too, with them not having a sense of manners I think because Their social circle is wrong, but it cannot be hidden that naughty gambling will definitely exist in every country, region or city. And with children who don't want to obey their parents' directions, maybe they have their own perception, such as a lack of love and attention from their parents, so they prefer things outside.

That's true, of course parents won't be able to supervise their children all day long, because of course they have their own activities to do, such as work or other things. Also in my opinion, when parents don't have time to supervise their children, this is where they will determine what kind of social relations they will have, if they have the wrong social relations then acts of theft may occur. If I had a child who stole my money and spent it gambling, I would be angry because it was the wrong action, unfortunately I am not married and obviously don't have any biological children of my own. However, when I see other children or other people who are still underage gambling, I will advise them, even though it doesn't make the gambling stop immediately, but at least I have taken action to ensure that nothing bad happens for their future.

Anyone couldnt be perfect and pretty sure that when we are still in our childhood on which we've been able to commit out some snatching or getting those coins from purse on our parents on which this is something a very common thing when we are still on our young but eventually these wrong doings would really be corrected out by our parents on which it would be something normal.
As a parent then it would really be just that right that we would really be tending to correct on whatever those wrong things our children been able to commit out. We arent perfect
and mistakes could really be done and this is why our children needs up guidance for us parents. Its normal to discipline but at the same time you would really be making them realize
that the thing they've done is never been that good.

Luckily you still don't have biological children but for sure you have some relatives or someone who's close to you that might already been into gambling, taking such action is the best thing that you can do, alarming and advising young folks about gambling and how it might takeover in terms of addiction, at first they might be stealing from their households but what if there's nothing there anymore? for sure addiction can push things up and maybe lead the kids to move to another level that's  a crime that possible to happen if there's no right guidance that those kids should have while exploring to this industry.

Schools and social media platforms can expose children to gambling-related content, whether through advertisements, peer influences, or online gaming platforms that incorporate gambling-like mechanics. Children tend to try something new, what they see from their friends can also make them want to try. With the widespread access to mobile phones and the internet, children today have unprecedented opportunities to engage in online activities, including gambling, often without their parents' knowledge.

Easy access to online gambling sites and apps means that children can potentially engage in these activities discreetly, without leaving any visible traces for their parents to detect. Parents play a vital role in supervising and guiding their children's online activities, but they may not always be aware of the extent of their children's exposure to gambling-related content. Setting clear boundaries regarding internet usage are crucial steps in mitigating the potential harms.

I will throw more weight to your opinion. There is an African proverb which says that “a child is not owned by his parents alone but the community”. what this means is that the education of a child is not left in the hands of his parents alone. When you look at the agents of socialization like church, social media, school, peer groups etc we can understand that blaming parents for a child`s misconduct completely can be unjust. Most of the attitude a child exhibits is not a product of his parent's teaching. Some are inculcated in the child as he interacts with his peers and his environment.

If a child’s social environment promotes negative behaviours, it can affect the child’s understanding of manners and appropriate conduct. For instance, environment where gambling is prevalent, a child can easily be lured into gambling without the notice of his parents and then start involving in wrong acts just to gamble.

You are right, of course there is something that is not talked about enough so that these children dare to steal the money that their children have, because if they get along with each other as you say, of course they will ask their parents and if that's true according to people For their parents, gambling is not a good thing. Of course, as parents, they can advise their children not to play gambling and advise their children to choose the type of game that is appropriate for their age.

In this case what has gone wrong is multiple and already we should establish a case of gambling addictions for the boy, before we go ahead to point out also the parents as being irresponsible in they actions because with risk reality we should know that the parent have failed in they responsibility to raise the boy properly he shouldn't be stealing money to gamble with, so both parents have failed in the role which is what the both of you have mentioned in your comments.

Well in this situation I will suggest that the boy should be taken to a rehabilitation center for him to come out of his gambling addictions tendency before any other civil punishment will follow.

If I'm married and I have a child where my child is stealing money for gambling then I think it's obvious that I will definitely scold him first and after that I will try to give him an understanding of the dangers of the impact of gambling when someone has entered the addiction phase which not only will experience problems with finances but can also spread to many other things such as relationships with family or experiencing problems with friends because maybe he can just borrow money from his friends without thinking and having a way to pay it.

So if for example my child is not involved with gambling at all then I will never give him an understanding of the dangers of gambling because it could make them even more curious and look for many references about how gambling is, and as I said above if my child is caught stealing money for the purpose of gambling then obviously I will scold him and then I will give him the right understanding in common sense about what gambling really is and how dangerous the impact of gambling is along with putting a lot of restrictions on my child's activities such as limiting them from using smartphones and also limiting them from their environment.

It's true, if it's with relatives. and what annoys me is my relative who likes to gamble, she is a woman and is married and also has a child who is only about 9 months old, but she still likes to gamble, and when I get paid occasionally she likes to ask me for money, my heart doesn't want to give it because if it is used for gambling. because in my opinion, if I obey everything she asks, one of which is always giving money when she asks, I'm afraid she will be even bolder in the future, even though she already has a husband, the husband should be the one responsible for his wife's wishes, sometimes I can understand it, but If it often comes to the point where she asks for money to buy milk and her husband also asks me for money to buy cigarettes, that's very annoying for me, because I don't think I have any responsibility for that myself. I'm sure their situation is like that because a lot of their money is used on gambling so they experience economic difficulties.

I agree with you, indeed if someone commits an act of stealing and nothing happens, meaning no one knows that he stole money, there is a possibility that he could become bolder and more reckless to commit a bigger theft. it was so terrible. The impact of addiction is very bad, therefore we must be able to educate and advise the children under us, even though we cannot supervise them all day, we must do our best to prevent major losses.

If I were in the mother's shoes, I would feel mix of emotions,anger, disappointment and concern about my son. It would be frustrating to lose trust and lose your hard earned money. Disapointed because my son chose gambling over respecting our family's financial boundaries and needs. And concern about my son's well being and the potential harm of gambling to him. Winning can make the less the financial stress temporatily, but it wouldnt change the fact that he stole money for gambling which can affect his future behavior.

Oh, damn, this is a serious problem! If your children have started stealing money from you for gambling, then something needs to be done urgently.

First, talk to them seriously and explain that such things will not work. Perhaps they need the help of a psychologist or an addiction specialist. You can also try to restrict access to money and monitor how they spend it. The main thing is not to ignore this problem, because it will only get worse over time. I hope that everything will get better and the children will understand how important it is to be honest and responsible.

You know what's funny about all this, if the son won a lump sum definitely the narrative would be different & could be the hero of the family, but because everyone knows that gambling comes with its risks then the mother will be mad as she regards this as a waste of resources that the family worked for to have!

And before others, say it's a small amount let it slide, well unfortunately when it comes to money...if you don't have the discipline with small money, imagine the indiscipline that can follow with a million bucks  :-\ so basically it's about the principal not the amount of money lost.

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That's a natural reaction from any concerned parent or guardian, but then again these habits don't develop on their own unless someone close to the kids does gamble or perhaps our media is doing so much gambling ads such that they selling dreams to the kids which gets them hooked!!
Btw, I also think in our time... gambling has gone out of hand at the moment such that KYC can't even stop underage gambling and it's the responsibility of parents not to dodge these talks and guide their children/dependants !!

Then why you would really be trying out to act on that way on which you do really make yourself as if you do have a responsibility with them? Yes i do understand about having that pity
on them but we do know that its not your problem and just let them on on facing up their challenges in life. They wont really be able to realize things until they would really be able to experience those hardship in life because if you do keep on supporting them then they wouldnt really be able to learn those hard things life since they do know that there's someone who would really be
catching them and this is something wont really be that right. Its not your responsibility as i said and there's no point on doing that as a form of help. It turns out that you are the ones
who do have work hard for you to raise them. lol

When it gets to the level of stealing to gamble, then you should know the person is already addicted to gambling, and you know it’s not an easy task to stop addicted gambler from gambling. Firstly you have to discourage the boy from gambling, I know it’s not what can be done easily, but if you keep on talking to the boy, am sure he will definitely listen one day. Make sure you are monitoring the boy’s movement, if possible change the type of friends which he is having, am sure he won’t be the only one gambling among his friends. Also make sure you don’t always leave the boy alone doing nothing, he might be tempted to go and gamble again when alone.

A person can actually be addicited to gambling and as long as he or she is gambling with only the money he or she earned, then all is well, or possibly well, but the moment that addiction has gotten to the extent of the person stealing money to gambling, then know that the life of that person is about to be totally destroyed, and as parents, time is already against us, and we have to work over time to bring such a child out of that situation immediately, doesn't matter is it's the parents money he or she stole, or used to steal, for there is this popular adage in my place which states that, being beautiful often starts from the inside of a person, then it goes outside - bad habit as well often starts from the home, a child who starts stealing from his or her parents for whatever reason, will one day, go out and steal from another person the day he tries to steal from his parents again but didn't find anything to steal.

As parents, we are supposed to keep watch over our children at all times, look after them, monitor every of their moves, know what activities they are engaging themselves in, this way, we should discover discover when they start gambling, step in at that time immediately to help them, not allow them get addicted to the extent of stealing money, before when try to bring them out, the work of bringing such a child out of addiction at this stage will be x5 more than, when the child just started gambling.

Gambling may seem like a thrilling and enjoyable pastime to a child, but it can actually be highly dangerous. Their parents' messages and those they hear in the media frequently vary significantly. A child may become divided and confused about gambling as a result. To enable kids to understand the dangers of gambling and make an educated choice about whether or not to engage, this needs to be addressed in a clear and thorough manner. It takes a consistent message to keep kids safe from the negative effects of gambling.

because in the future I will get married and have children, so what's wrong with me thinking about or dedicating what I have to do to my children in the future, that's why I'm like that, also in my opinion there's no harm, but the fault lies with those who forget themselves when I try to help them. Sometimes I myself feel confused about why I have to have feelings of sympathy and discomfort so that sometimes it makes things difficult for me. but with this I learned a lesson not to overdo it in helping people because I was afraid something similar would happen again and those who were helped would forget themselves. It's true what you said, they have to face the challenges of their lives, and I don't have full responsibility for them. Thank you friend.

Maybe if you help, that's still normal, but if you put responsibility for their lives, that's not normal, especially if they already have their own relationship. but if I were someone who had a lot of money or unlimited money then I wouldn't mind doing that, but unfortunately I still occasionally have difficulties in carrying out my daily life hahaha. ;D
I don't want my child to dare to do bad things like stealing to gamble, and if that happens, maybe I will punish him to deter him and not repeat that bad action again.

Gambling can be a hobby only for people who have responsibility or that means only for responsible gamblers who can limit their approach along with their expectations of winning, but if we are talking about children who are still underage then yes obviously I am not sure that they can be responsible for their decisions and also of course gambling can have a very bad impact on a child if parents do not immediately address this problem, I think it is clear that parents must do everything they can to keep their children out of the gambling zone, one of which is to limit them from their environment and also limit their use of smartphones because as we know that now many online casinos are doing big promotions through social media which can reach anyone including children who are still minors, so the point is that it is the responsibility of parents to keep their children out of the reach of gambling.

The message sent towards kids regarding gambling and any similar activity is very clear, kids should not gamble no matter what as they are not mature enough to decide what it is the best thing for them and their future, and some kids are deciding to ignore this advice on their own and they try to gamble by any means possible, and since as a society we cannot stop kids from doing so, as they can always find a loophole and find a way to gamble, we need to make those kids responsible for their actions, because as a society we are doing everything we can already.

we have to prepare anticipatory steps to overcome this problem and the most important step is to recognize the signs that children have started to get involved in gambling, we have to stop them before they become addicted to gambling and we have to actively guide children about the rules of gambling and the impacts negative effects on mental health and financial loss if you gamble underage and are not yet financially free.

I think if we monitor their activities then it will be easy to stop them from being influenced by gambling before they become addicted to gambling, if we can stop them from being influenced by gambling then we have saved their lives and dreams to focus on education.

It is really necessary for our children who are minors to monitor their activities, not necessarily every move, it's like we should be aware of what they do, what they are interested in and of course the circles of friends they hang out with should we know, let's just do it in a minimal way, don't be super strict because as others say, a child becomes more rebellious if we restrict them too much, we also need to respect their privacy, that's why It would be good if we can build a good relationship between parents and children in them so that they themselves will tell stories or open up topics to their parents about their own lives.

A person must somehow understand that it is impossible to steal money. This is first of all. In addition, he must understand that one cannot play gambling without a system and without risk management. Each transaction must have a volume limit. If this is not the case, a bad future awaits the player. Of course, the child must be punished in some way. However, from the starting post it is not clear how old the child is. Is he already of age or not yet? But it is stupid for parents to sue their child. If the child is underage, then the punishment should be limited entertainment. And if the child is of age, then the punishment can only be limited to communication with such a son.

We must monitor our children carefully if we don't wants to see them playing gambling like the other children because many children already playing gambling without their parents knows. We must knows and aware with their environment so we knows about their friends to monitor easily. We don't have to be super strict to them as they will not follow what we suggests them and yes, they will becomes rebellious if we do like that. We gives them a time to do whatever they wants but we always supervise them so they don't doing something that can makes them in trouble. If we can gets close to them, they will tells whatever they feels to us and shares many things to us so if they have a problem, they will asks us to helps them to solve it.

Gambling is a very bad thing when someone sees their child stealing their money and using it to gamble it is very distressing. and that's why children should always be monitored to see how they spend their time. Smartphones have become a very popular entertainment medium for kids these days. Kids now use smartphones a lot and can get addicted to the way gambling sites promote them. so parents must always track their children's activities. so that children at least do not get addicted to drugs and gambling

The lack of age information makes us think ambiguously in the matter between being old enough or not, maybe we can assume that the person concerned is not old enough, so it is unethical for a father to prosecute his underage child, we only need to give ordinary lessons in a family manner, it is much better in educating a child, but I might take legal action if my child is old enough and commits theft not only once, parents only educate to a certain extent, if a child does not understand the lesson then it needs to be taught by someone else such as being locked up in prison.

Even the kids is already growing we should take the time to monitor them, same with your statement, it's still part of our responsibilities to make sure that they are engaging to the right kind of environment, especially those who accompanying them, people that sorrounds them influence the most, so not just the family but more on their friends who have interactions with them, the types of influence that they bringing to our kids is very important to monitor.


Indeed, if it's already in the right age I'll do the same, better to let them understand the hard way, I mean the consequences so they will learn about their mistakes, but if the kids still young and still have that chance to listen, maybe trying to take disciplinary actions that can help them to stay away from this kind of bad habits will do.

Gambling is not for children, even if adults playing gambling, they must be careful because many bad impacts can happens to them.  If a child stolen money to playing gambling, that child have a problem with his minds and maybe he becomes addicted to gambling. He can search where he can have money and mostly, he will steal other people's money to playing gambling. It needs parents attention to always watch and monitor what their children doing, especially if they are with their friends. Friends influence can be strong and can attract our children doing something that will give them bad impacts. That's why parents now must be careful to guide their child and must gives more attentions to their child.

Every parent will be disappointed if his child makes something illegal, bad or behave inappropriate. If a child steals money for gambling, then this is a huge warning sign for parents. Talking with child about this situations isnt a solution. Specially if parent has not enough respect from the child. It is also important to visit specialist, because stealing money from parents might be not the first act of stealing. Parents a kind of a last person to steal from, as imo stealing starts from friends or someone who are around, in a company, class and so on. From someone who is on the same social level. Imo stealing from parent means that person steals already on a regular basis.

It's all about the upbringing of their parents. Kids can never be persistent to do something if they are raised well and they know their parents have asked them to not go near that thing. However, if kids see their parents doing that thing, they always hear about it from here and there and the parents have never said anything about it whether it's good or bad, in such an environment, a kid would probably think of doing the same thing as their parents are doing or it or have never said no to it.

So it's all about how parents raise their children, whether they have always been teaching them not to gamble or not, whether they have taught them to respect their elders and their decisions or not, and whether the children have been taught to stay polite at all times or not. Parents are to be blamed if children do something wrong when they aren't even mature enough.

Gambling is not seen as a major illegal activity nowadays.  But when a child steals his father's money, it is a greater crime than gambling. and no one can accept this. There are many cases where children steal father's money and become addicted to gambling, drinking alcohol or other drugs.  These things cause a lot of trouble to a father.  For this, the children should not get involved in any bad addiction, in this direction, parents should be careful before and if someone is from any habit of gambling or taking drugs, then before becoming a father, he should give them up or bring them under his own control, in order to protect him as well as his family.

Well to me the mistake has been done already by the son, to my opinion i will advise the mom to let it go and never allow her son to even know the access to her account, he shouldn’t have that opportunity and never you tell your son to find a way to pay the money when you know that it will be difficult for him and he don’t have any way, telling him to replace the money without caring on how he will get it, So the only thing is to take precautions and never give him that chance again. And don’t tell him to replace because you are making him to thief.

This is only a temporary solution, family members should not have the need to hide important things from each other, as you are supposed to trust your family since most of the time they are the only ones you can rely on when things are not going your way on your life, the fact a mom has to hide her money from her son as she fears it could be stolen is a massive warning signal, and if something is not done to help her son, sooner or later her money will be stolen again.

Showing consistent care and attention to our children. Taking preventive measures should always lean on our heads, always imposed strict rules that will keep away our children from our accounts and most importantly, provide for their basic needs and wants because they alone will make them to be desperate to bad company. Stealing is weigh out of the picture and it shouldn't be something to consider in the system.

I think that children should not be subjected to such strict regimes that they become more disobedient. Only it should not be thought that they will not be in danger if they are under strict rule. As the saying goes, if the rope is too tight, the rope will break. So they should be brought up with proper education from childhood so that they can understand themselves well. They should understand that stealing is always a bad thing when they ask for the things they need. Stealing only gambling is a bad deed, but buying and eating something without stealing is also a bad deed.

That is right. Hiding money from son because he might steal again is like fighting in wrong direction. I would say that this is not a solution but an act of adapt to situation. That is wrong.

Imo first step would be to talk about this situation with a kid. If this was the first act of stealing, he would understand that is bad. Second step would be to find out why exactly he wanted that «extra» money for. Was a one-time passion to gamble, addiction or there was something more in that story. Third step would be to load him with work, to work for that money he stole, to earn his own, to understand how hard it is to earn.

Yeah. Hiding the money might feel more secure in the immediate future, however you raise a fair point that it's no real solution.  Communicating with him definitely needs to happen.  Maybe explain why stealing is wrong, but also make an effort to understand the root of this behavior and  was this a one-time occurrence or indicative of something more profound? Maybe he just wanted something he couldn't afford, or perhaps there's a larger matter at hand.

Making him work for the money he stole is a good idea. It will teach the value of hard work and with any luck deter him from taking shortcuts again.

That’s a tough situation. If I were in the mom’s shoes, my initial reaction would likely be a mix of disappointment and concern, not just because of the lost money, but more so because of what the action represents. It’s not just about gambling with money that isn’t his, it’s about the breach of trust and the potential for a harmful pattern of behavior developing.

The fact that the money was saved up through hard work adds another layer of disappointment. It’s not just the amount that matters but the effort behind it.

Now, if the son had won a significant amount, it might temporarily mask the underlying issue, but it wouldn’t change the core problem: the act of stealing and gambling without consent. Winning might bring temporary joy or relief, but it doesn’t address the breach of trust or the risk-taking behavior.

In any case, my focus would be on addressing the behavior and its implications, emphasizing the value of honesty and the dangers of gambling, especially when it leads to taking risks with someone else’s resources. It would be essential to guide the child towards understanding the consequences of their actions and working together to find a solution to make amends, not just financially but also in rebuilding trust.

Good question. I think that the aunt is to some extent to blame for the fact that he gained access to her account. You must prevent other people from using your account. In this case it was only $15, although in some countries it can be a larger amount.
On the other hand, it’s good that through such a relatively small amount the whole family found out that he has a gambling problem. After all, he crossed a very significant line - he stole money, this is very bad.
Returning to your question, I will say that even if he won the money, the fact of theft would still have taken place. Secondly, in this case, it may be even better that now he has lost money and his bet did not work out. If he had won, he would probably have had big problems later and would have lost all his winnings.

We as parents must supervise our children, especially when they are grows up because they will meets many new friends that have the same old as them. Maybe their experience are different so that can influence them that doesn't have much knowledge to avoids that. We must take care our children from the bad things that can happens so we must teach our children better than before.

When we can monitor and supervise our children and we can getting close to them, they will not trying to do something that can  makes their lives harm. They will trying to take care of them better from any bad influences that comes to them. They will remember our suggestions because we as their parents always tells them to be careful when they are in the outside or with their friends.

You know those overly strict, "do as I say" methods? Total disaster waiting to happen. Kids arent robots, they've got fire in them. We need to channel that, not crush it. The best path, and believe me, its the best, is giving them the knowledge to make the right calls themselves. Sure, stealing is obviously wrong, everyone knows that. But its not about just yelling "dont steal!" We need to build that strong inner compass where they want to earn things, where they take pride in their own hard work. Its about lighting that fire for doing amazing things in the world, not just avoiding the bad stuff. Thats the kind of future I want for all kids.

          -    Stealing is wrongdoing, we know; even if we say that he won a lot of money gambling, it can't be right. There is nothing wrong if you win at gambling; what is wrong is that gambling caused the gambler to do bad things.

That's why winning at gambling can't cover up the reason why he gambled. He will not be able to gamble if the gambler did not steal money or if the child stole money from the parents.
See the logic?

The child is not associated with gaming at home so obviously it would either be the media just as you may suggest, or society associates that influenced him.

It is really so pathetic in as much no one knows how long this guy has been gambling, how indebt can it be assured that he has not been cutting cost from errands for the family just to save some funds stake all those while? Who knows if he has been meeting up with his academic walls when living the house supposed to be in school without having himself before the gambling centre?
Such nature of occurance is indeed worrisome to the parents or such a child's guidance.

Why must he withdraw the money without the permission of the person and that is stealing and it is punishable offence so we don't have to discuss this here but straight to the main point the boy should be send to the correctional center (prison or cell) to correct his misbehaviour. I didn't blame the mother because of she allowed that boy to go and pay the money the she opened the way for him to do more damage in the society and this where most mother suffering from their own children. Op please forget about if the boy would have won big amount. Steal is stealing and it most be punished.
Do you think if the boy was brought to the law enforcement agencies and because he won big, he would not be punished? We have seen them many and they were punished. Yes what the mother did was good. As a grown up person he should go and look for a bricklayer job and do and come pay back his stealing money.

Imo sending him to prison because he stole money from his relative is not correct. What he will learn from that? That he will get in jail for stealing? There might be other side of such a life lesson - people in prison might teach him how not to get caught next time. So it will end with not learning a life lesson, but experiencing in stealing.

Punishing with labor is perfect for me. Not only he repays what he has stolen with, he also learns how it is hard to earn, and will learn that working is a source money. So next time he will need money (for gambling or not), instead of stealing he would work to earn them.

If such a situation happened to me, then I, as a responsible parent, would prepare for the worst and imagine that my son would develop an addiction. I would not think that he would realize everything and would not play, but that he would start stealing money not only from me, but also from other people or close relatives. If this situation is left without intervention, it could land him in prison. I don’t want to think about it, but the first thing I will do is not give the slightest opportunity for him to steal my money again, and I will also tell others not to leave their money unattended. Of course, it will be difficult for me to admit this, but this must be done so that the situation does not get out of control. Of course, I’ll have a conversation with him and tell him that you can’t do this, maybe I’ll even show a documentary about these games and where they can lead. So that he understands the other side of this business, and not just a pretty picture.

If we were talking about a stranger stealing that money from her I would agree with you, because we must do what we can to protect our money, however it was her own son who did this, meaning that a person she trusted, broke that trust by stealing from her own mother, and while the amount was small, what can be more low than stealing from your own mother? So I would not blame her at all for this situation as it is clear that it is the son that is at fault here.

Ordinarily I will feel very disappointed And betrayed especially when I don’t gamble in their presence .first of all stealing money To gamble shows that he has become an addict And he or she is gradual turning To a serious addict.Any child that steals money To gamble has been influenced negatively By his age brackets And it is quite certain that he is keeping bad company of addictive Gamblers .
In addition seeing any of my child steal from me To gamble ,it shows that I have failed as a father  not To raise the child well or that I have actually failed To plan his future well for him . I might not feel very bad that he stole My own money To gamble But a day will come when he will search for My money And he will not see it To steal And he might be tempted to steal from different Person And this might gradual turn him To a criminal If not propeely taken Care of .however no reasonablle father will be happy seeing his child steal money from him To gamble .

There are many ways to stop strangers from stealing your money and treat him harshly for his act but no one  can do this with his own son. A person will just tolerate if his own son start to steal his money but will not do anything harsh with his son.

It is important to be noted that a gambler always force his mother to help him in getting money but he never ask about it from his father because a father can understand that his harsh words can change his son so he will not talk him sweetly but mother on the other hand will wish that his son never see difficulties in life so she will surely help him in bad activities too. But there are only few mothers who change her behaviour for making her son a better person in a society.

My vision is different. The only one to blame here are those who raised and educated that kid. If he was taught properly about what crime is and how to get money at his age, I think he would not acted like that. Not saying that kid is completely innocent, but there were reasons why he did this. It is not like he learned how to steal himself. Someone showed, told, explained, or lack of explanation what is good or bad had lead to such outcome as stealing from family.

It can be called a pre-warning for that woman. Because she found out that her son had done such a thing, now she must first try how to keep her wealth more secure. she will change his account PIN and password as soon as possible. Although she is worried about his son's gambling incident, she will be more cautious about how to deal with such situation by bringing it under control. Therefore, as a family manager, mother and father must take care of their children with enough responsibility. There is no alternative to being aware of where her child is doing and with whom she is missing. Many of the gamblers who are addicted steal money from their parents and manage their gambling if a parent does not find out about this at the right time then they will suffer a lot.

Many children steal money from their parents, and here it is not the parents' upbringing, but their social circle. I believe that most likely someone pushed him to this deed, and he by virtue of his naivety only followed the advice. The child in any case is guilty of taking someone else's money without asking and if you do not punish him immediately it may turn into more serious consequences in the future. If the parents are to blame, they are only to blame for not controlling the child's social circle, which in principle is quite difficult to do before the emergence of such situations, as well as for not noticing the theft in time and not stopping the child before he spent the money.

When we see our kids headed down a dangerous path like addiction, we've gotta act, and act decisively. No time for wishy-washy stuff. Addiction is a serious problem, and it needs serious solutions. First thing, protect yourself and your family. That means securing money, talking openly with everyone who's involved. This isnt overreacting, its smart parenting, the best kind.

Next, we need to understand whats driving this behavior. Knowledge is our biggest weapon here. Sit down with your son, have a real heart-to-heart. Show him the hard consequences - documentaries, facts, real-life stuff. This isnt about punishment, its about showing him the path he's on, giving him the choice to build a better future. He needs to understand there's accountability in life, and those choices, they matter more than anything. Tough conversations, but sometimes, the toughest love is the best love.

This is very simple, if a child goes off the Rails like that you have to give him some discipline, there is no other way, a person cannot do that to his own Mother , there he has to take things and tie his pants and educate him, because at that moment he won't. did it to his own mother, and later more children will have the audacity to do it to another person and that Becomes a problem that is almost very difficult to solve, because sometimes they are Raised with that way of thinking and doing things so much that You can put him in a reformatory for minors, that is something that can happen, of course it is something that is not desired but if it is not corrected in time these things can happen like that, and that is a Shame.

Why is there a need to blame? We don't actually put a blame on someone if the child grow up the way they are right now. I mean the parents and the educators have done their part for sure. Now, as the child grew up, he would learn a lot of different things, bad and good from his friends, acquaintances and classmates. It is inevitable not to expose children to what kind of world we are living for, and we are not always there to guide and support them in every step they make, because we also have responsibilities from our businesses and jobs to keep our family financially healthy.
Now, if your kid gambled and non of from your family is a fan of gambling, then he has learned it outside. Now, again we will not going to assume that the parents have not done anything for their child to get rid of gambling totally. The kid's decision and mindset is out of our control. Sometimes, children are too stubborn or to secretive for you to learn that they are actually pursuing bad things in their early lives, because again, we are not there to guide them every step of the way.   

I agree with you that many children steal money to gamble. I have also seen many youths involved in various misdemeanors to raise money for gambling. They steal and rob to raise gambling and drug money. Also due to gambling they have become addicted to various drugs. This is why gambling should always be played carefully. No gambling for children and young people. Because they cannot control themselves. They get addicted to it very easily. Parents should hide these things from children. Children who steal gambling money are more likely to have been introduced to gambling by family or relatives.

If a survivor or youth becomes addicted to gambling, it is their family members who should first educate them about the harmful aspects of gambling. And gambling is never for the under-aged. Hopefully with proper education and support from the family, the child or youth can keep themselves away from gambling.

Stealing is a bad crime and gambling is a bad addiction, so when a child steals their parents' money and uses it for gambling, it is very difficult for their parents to accept this fact. Because every parent loves their child very much and they are ready to give anything as long as it is required.  But even from this if children steal money and use it in bad places like gambling. In that case no one will accept it easily. And to prevent them, every parent has to be vigilant and take a lot of care of the children so that the children never dare to show these activities. 

But parents cant control that kid 24/7. They cant forbit him to make friends with that kids, and be friends only with that kids, because they are better. From my point of view parents should give some basics of education and correct kids "development" in right direction. But not be 24/7 guards who control every step that kid makes. If they did that, the kid will grow up in a person who can not take his own decision. In this situation I see that parents did not give enough information, proof, evidence, were not convincing enough in describing what is good or bad. Even if someone pushed that kid to get money for gambling, he should have chosen other method.

Yes, it doesn't have to be strict because their privacy will definitely be disturbed. The point is to give an example of what is good and what is bad for children. Sometimes we can't blame the parents or the children who are at fault in their social relationships. Sometimes we as parents have teaching good and correct things, it turns out that out there our children are actually behaving badly, such as gambling with their friends, stealing or other things, but we can't blame either one of them because as parents it is also important to regulate who they hang out with.

Every parent will definitely feel like they have failed if their child steals just because they want to gamble or do something they should do as a child. As a parent, you are obliged to show an attitude that your child can emulate, sometimes as a parent who likes to gamble, you can't control it. When he gambles, he is not even embarrassed to gamble in front of his children, which will certainly set an example for them indirectly. As a parent who is self-aware that gambling is a habit, he should know how to arrange gambling time at night, precisely when the children are asleep. , don't let it be too late to advise and teach our children.

Something is really wrong, and it goes beyond stricter oversight. Parents invest their lives in their children. After so much love and sacrifice, a kid steals and gambles. A fundamental problem exists in that link

Being strict or lenient is irrelevant. Real, honest communication is needed. Do we have harsh conversations with kids? About money, choices, personal challenges? Not everything can be sugarcoated. We must talk about repercussions and dispel gambling's myths. Kids don't understand that it's deliberate risk, not innocent enjoyment

This is about human connection, not simply behavior change. Why is this youngster gambling? There may be grief, confusion, and emptiness to fill. We must show kids a better approach to handle life's obstacles. It starts with talking, being honest, showing we understand, and showing them the way

Parenting is never been easy and not really something that could give out that completely guidance and would really be that followed accordingly. Even if we do say that we are educating them on the right
ways and paths on how living a life on the most decent or best way as it should but still there would really be those childrens who are really that making out their decision on their own will.
Us parents doesnt really like for our children to experience those paths or ways on which it is really something hard or something that cant be easily deal off with.
If ever your children commit out that stealing because of gambling, then no parents would really be happy in regarding into this situation but rather it would really be on the opposite.

Both will be a bad behavior if a child do that, especially if he steals their parents money. If their parents strictly teach them not steals other people's money, their parents will punished their children so they will not doing that again. But many people can't accept this fact because they thinks that they already teach everything to their children and they can't believe if their children steals the money.

Parents must telling their children not doing that again and talks to them closely so they can knows what their children reason. Their children will not do that again if their parents can prevents them not doing bad things again. It needs awareness from their children by listening their parents suggestion so they will not doing something that can gives them bad experience.

Then we would better stop on a conclusion that both, parent and kid are guilty and failed. It is not only kid that needs to be punished, he is not the only one to think about what he did. Parents should get cautions about their parenting either. Something went wrong in their "being a parent coordinate system". If my kid steal from me, first things I would think about are why he need money for and why he has chosen such path, instead of asking or earning for example.