Waste of resources at parents disrupting their children dreams for self interest

[Dunamisx]

Parent have the responsibility of taking care of the children, but they must discharge this their duty with caution and perseverance, they are to show their children the right way to follow and not to enforce them on what career to take in life, sometimes we like a particular career and that is only god and suitable for us only and our children may not like such and want to demand having their own own different ways, this is their freedom, we must give them as long as its something that has a future career benefit and not against the ethics and standard of living, but if they choose to follow after our taste, that also is welcome.

[Volimack]

Parents always want the best for their children so they look out for the child's best interests. If parents give good education to their children and teach them good manners then children will never turn to bad side. They should be taught about moral values. Children thrive in their lives by watching their parents. Parents are always the point of reference for their children. They are the ones that children go to when they have a problem their nature and habits are what children adopt early in life.

[Promocodeudo]

Most parents do this but the reason for this I don't know, how will choose things for your child knowing too well that talents are natural we don't force it on anyone, I feel some parents are selfish thats why this has been backfiring in the long, I have seen where a child desired to be a musician and the parents wanted him to be a doctor but the event was funny, when the child graduated from the university he immediately handed the certificate to me parents and told them that he has done their wish and is now time for him to go after his career and that was it. So what am I saying parents should allow their children to make choice of what they really want to be.

[teamsherry]

 :-*The truth is our parents are still stuck in years 20ies mentality of 'GO TO SCHOOL, GET A GOOD JOB AND BE COMFORTABLE'  but the actually truth us the system has changed and there are no such thign as good job or if there are even any jobs at all.

Parents often see dreams as a waste of time and often think that we Don’t know what Is best for ourselves or rather they feel we are confused on what we really want, using myself as an example when I was a child around the age of 10 - 12 u wanted to be an engineer cause I had a great affinity for destroying all the tech(kitchen and house hold appliances) at home just to fix them back so yeah really It was a thign but when I got to 16-18 when I now knew what i really wanted to do I wanted to be a business man but I had been bkabing all about beign an engineer to my parents when u was younger so it became thign, but anyway I'm chasing my dreams now and I'm not bothered about parents or any other thign.

[kentrolla]

:-*The truth is our parents are still stuck in years 20ies mentality of 'GO TO SCHOOL, GET A GOOD JOB AND BE COMFORTABLE'  but the actually truth us the system has changed and there are no such thign as good job or if there are even any jobs at all.

Parents often see dreams as a waste of time and often think that we Don’t know what Is best for ourselves or rather they feel we are confused on what we really want, using myself as an example when I was a child around the age of 10 - 12 u wanted to be an engineer cause I had a great affinity for destroying all the tech(kitchen and house hold appliances) at home just to fix them back so yeah really It was a thign but when I got to 16-18 when I now knew what i really wanted to do I wanted to be a business man but I had been bkabing all about beign an engineer to my parents when u was younger so it became thign, but anyway I'm chasing my dreams now and I'm not bothered about parents or any other thign.

There are so many conflicts which arises between parents and kids even when they grow up because to be honest the parents especially from countries like India, Pakistana nd Bangladesh are really difficult to deal with as they intervene in every aspect of their children's life and make it miserable they need to understand that system has changed but they are not ready to accept it and they think they knew everything that's what the problem is which has to be sorted.

[AVE5]

The era to such insightments that coming out from the University would secure a job is no more a valid idea becasue there are professional skill bases that are more valuable to privilege and individual in securing better futures.
All the mind needed to make a better society is a civilized mind and not compulsorily that you must pass through the university before having an influence in the society.
It's quite unfortunate that our parents needed the best for us but taking it to the dimensions that education serves the best to what we're in need of to make a better future is such a false aspirations.
What matters most in life is how we can utilize our potentials so if the young girl is if such potentials then they parents should channel those their energies and attentions to push her further to be profession towards the terms of her dreams.
If it's about making money after the school days of course she can also make it big after the courses of her professionalism of skills.
I can even bet that she'd do better than some others who had passed through schools because acquiring of skills has some potential assurance of generating income while after schooling you'd need to face the race of who's best fit in wins the race where thousands of people are in the queue of White collar jobs in a situation of just few candidates in need.

[franky1]

i can understand parents wanting the best education for kids. but there should be some compromise.
it should not be a business/medical degree vs school drop out choice. it should be a compromise of a degree in fashion/design thus everyone is happy

It highly depends on the country and the society that girl lives in whether there are chances for her to study and get a degree on fashion or design. It is common for societies in developing countries to focus more in practical studies which are more inclined to fix problems in the industries of such society.

funniest thing is... most developing countries RECENT HISTORY shows that medical skills and technology are NEW. not societal/cultural norms of a society/culture built over centuries.. developing countries for centuries has had fashion and food as the main industry/part of their real culture

yep making clothing far exceeded being a doctor as the main employment/ skilled role of a developing countries females role
centuries ago women would teach their kids to weave and stitch.. (and forage for food) as the main skill and role of society

its only very recent decades that tech and medicine has become popular

so culture vs new trends... if you want to speak of a countries culture.. dont then use a countries new trend

[TEBTC]

This is a typical problem in our society where parents want their children to go to school and acquires degrees but the child has a different dreams and visions all together this is due to the parents inability to know the reality on ground that times has changed and that in this twenty first century you don't necessarily have to go to school to succeed in life as far as you have your basic education up to your secondary school you're okay to go and chase your dream
Parents need to call their children to talk to them and know what is in their mind as children and not to impose things on them

[DeathAngel]

She should follow her dreams & utilise her skills. Her parents aren’t her boss, there are so many people who go to university & do a degree that doesn’t give them any real expertise, they don’t stand out from the crowd so they end up becoming a teacher or something mediocre. If she has a real passion for what she does she should ignore her parents advice & follow her dreams.

[aoluain]

Firstly, the "little girl" in most western countries is classed as an adult and so has full autonomy
over her own decisions and/or cannot be forced to do anything she doesnt want to do.

Secondly, I know so many people who have gone to third level college and universities and received
degrees in a certain field and are ow not working in that field but something completely different.

Attaining a college degree does not guarantee or is not a mark of financial or life success.
There are plenty of examples of successful business people in my country who never finished school
or even went to second level school.

If the girl has a real aptitude for a certain skill or interest she should be encouraged and supported.

[moneystery]

sometimes what the parents want is not in accordance with what the child wants, and it will become a conflict where one party feels that their choice is the most correct. i was once in that position, where i wanted to work more than study. my parents forced me to take my college degree and threatened to cut off money for me if i didn't take it. and with great compulsion i went to college and finally i finished my studies.

but do i regret the decision my parents took? no, instead i thank them, because what i thought that studying was something that was a waste of time and useless, that was a mistake. in college i was formed and learned a lot of things which were very useful for me to open a small business and apparently i plan to apply for jobs in the next few months.

so sometimes a parent's decision to force their child to go to college is not wrong, because it could be the best decision a child can make.

[jrrsparkles]

The degree certificates is becoming useless day by day but that's what people trying to pursue cause it at least gives minimum security for a job so if someone who doesn't have any financial background then I won't rule of complete graduation even while pursuing your passion. And here the person's dream is fashion and design which can noway become a burden to chase her dream if she manages to do things at the available time.

[oktana]

It’s sad that some parent still don’t understand that their children may not end up with Big titles but can be better than those with Big titles. If only they recognize and nurture her passion for fashion, who knows, she may be the next fashion icon and will be sort for by many. It’s really a bad idea to force people into what you think it’s best for them, sometimes it causes even more harm than good. Parents need to wake up as this isn’t back in those days, opinions should matter a lot these days.

[AVE5]

It’s sad that some parent still don’t understand that their children may not end up with Big titles but can be better than those with Big titles. If only they recognize and nurture her passion for fashion, who knows, she may be the next fashion icon and will be sort for by many. It’s really a bad idea to force people into what you think it’s best for them, sometimes it causes even more harm than good. Parents need to wake up as this isn’t back in those days, opinions should matter a lot these days.

While I'm submissive to your opinion, I'd in addy say that the parents should really learn to understand what their children feels good at so they could as well assist them to make it a success.
Back then when I was still kiddie, my parents would thoroughly search between me and my siblings to discover what we love doing most during when we're having our leisures and then they'd playfully ask us what we'd love to be in life.
So play times at a leisure would always determine our response and our parents then would began to engage us on the angles related to what is being discovered in us.
Along the lines just as time goes, we're nurtured and growing with the hope they that which we finds passion about is what'd be suitable for us because we've already been given such free hands to excel by it.

[oktana]

It’s sad that some parent still don’t understand that their children may not end up with Big titles but can be better than those with Big titles. If only they recognize and nurture her passion for fashion, who knows, she may be the next fashion icon and will be sort for by many. It’s really a bad idea to force people into what you think it’s best for them, sometimes it causes even more harm than good. Parents need to wake up as this isn’t back in those days, opinions should matter a lot these days.

While I'm submissive to your opinion, I'd in addy say that the parents should really learn to understand what their children feels good at so they could as well assist them to make it a success.
Back then when I was still kiddie, my parents would thoroughly search between me and my siblings to discover what we love doing most during when we're having our leisures and then they'd playfully ask us what we'd love to be in life.
So play times at a leisure would always determine our response and our parents then would began to engage us on the angles related to what is being discovered in us.
Along the lines just as time goes, we're nurtured and growing with the hope they that which we finds passion about is what'd be suitable for us because we've already been given such free hands to excel by it.

Then I guess you had the best parents, because sometimes , parents are the ones who propose, and end up forcing kids to do something. Proposing something to your kid isn’t bad, it’s just a way of telling them the options. For instance, it is smart if you expose your kids to football, other sports and skills, etc but pay attention to the one they love most instead of trying to have them do the one you wish they did.

[GideonGono]

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.

This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams

So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.

This kind of thing isn't new to most of us, so many people has their dream shattered not by others but from those who raised them, what those parent desire is for their child to be successful to have a degree or whatever, but they forgot that it isn't their life those child have their own life and dreams.
I think some of those parents just want their child to continue their dream job or occupation before they even have the child, they want their child to achieve what they couldn't achieve before.
And some of them just want their child to follow their occupation or continue their legacy.

[Bushdark]

It’s sad that some parent still don’t understand that their children may not end up with Big titles but can be better than those with Big titles. If only they recognize and nurture her passion for fashion, who knows, she may be the next fashion icon and will be sort for by many. It’s really a bad idea to force people into what you think it’s best for them, sometimes it causes even more harm than good. Parents need to wake up as this isn’t back in those days, opinions should matter a lot these days.

The problem is that some parents are very strict and they would want their children to do everything they want them to do by all means.
This should not be case. We can always talk to our children and help them to develop well where they ought to do they can be great in life.
We need to understand that not everybody will be either a doctor or a lawyer. There are even good jobs that pays well than being a doctor or a lawyer. The problem comes in due to ones poor mindset.

[oktana]

It’s sad that some parent still don’t understand that their children may not end up with Big titles but can be better than those with Big titles. If only they recognize and nurture her passion for fashion, who knows, she may be the next fashion icon and will be sort for by many. It’s really a bad idea to force people into what you think it’s best for them, sometimes it causes even more harm than good. Parents need to wake up as this isn’t back in those days, opinions should matter a lot these days.

The problem is that some parents are very strict and they would want their children to do everything they want them to do by all means.
This should not be case. We can always talk to our children and help them to develop well where they ought to do they can be great in life.
We need to understand that not everybody will be either a doctor or a lawyer. There are even good jobs that pays well than being a doctor or a lawyer. The problem comes in due to ones poor mindset.

One of the great paying jobs like that is farming. People think  it is outdated but have forgotten that the food we eat isn’t made in the laboratories but are actually plants. I don’t see how someone would be a farming and investing well in it without making a lot of money. Food is essential and if all the farmers decided to sell at a high price, everyone would still have to succumb to it. Just one example.

[MissNonFall9]

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.

This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams

So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.

It is very sad to say that some parents have dreams but can not fulfill them. And so he is using the next generation to accomplish that dream. But many times they don't try to understand that their children may also have a desire, love, or skill in a particular subject that does not match their parents' wishes or aspirations. So children's wishes should be given importance and their wishes should be respected to strengthen them mentally and realize their own dreams.

[Ever-young]

i can understand parents wanting the best education for kids. but there should be some compromise.
it should not be a business/medical degree vs school drop out choice. it should be a compromise of a degree in fashion/design thus everyone is happy

Well, you are right with what you are saying but that shouldn't be done in a hard way that is by forcing our kids to go against their dreams or their choice of what they want to become, all because we want it to benefit us as the parents, just like this fashion design, most of our parents forced some of their children to go into it, so that it will benefit them and they won't have to spending money again to get their clothes sew, without minding if their are okay with that, instead we should give them options and makes them see the possibility and the benefit of it and allow them to go after dreams and it's their choice to choose if they will adhere to your words or still continuing their chase for their dreams, although skills are also important but having peace of mind doing what you know best pays more. Also mother and children can work together to find a compromise that suits everyone needs if the two parties didn't agree and we should remember to raise confident and passionate children who will impact positivity in the society.