Would you quit gambling for a friend?

[Yatsan]

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

Are they together 24 hours per day? You could still gamble when he's not around if you know to yourself that you are just fine unlike with your friend. You have a jchoice to hide things from him if you know that he could be triggered of some of your activities. I understand that guilt might be running on his mind which is where this idea came from but in reality, we do always have many options in every situation. Why would you stop something which you enjoy just because your friend is not doing the same thing, on the same field of activity? Always prioritize your happiness than with others. There's no need to give up your friendship as well. Just don't let him know al of the things you are doing because you have the rights to do so and that you are having a valid reason as well.

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

I will do the same when it comes to your enjoyment and gambling activity as long as you are on the safe side gambling I will not quit gambling just because I have to show a friend that we need to stop gambling so he will not become addicted and become a good influence to him, I'll have a talk with him and to his family, because it's the family that needs to influence him into stopping gambling, a friend is limited to what he can do he can only offer advice but his family should be the one to step up and take action so he will be cured from gambling.

Also, how sure are we that he'd do the same thing if we happened to be on his situation? Some of us are just too kind to sacrifice that much even your source of haappiness when it comes on other people's regard. But once we think of the same action being reciprocated to us, reactions differ. Everyone could engage to gambling as long as they have the means to do so, excluding minors, but regardless of your circumstances. If you became addicted into it, then be aware of your fault first and have yourself be helped by professionals and not just pity from other people who are just minding their own.

[kojektea]

if he is a good friend, yes of course I will be willing to make sacrifices with him, I mean if he is someone special to me, but if not I will let him be because it is not an obligation, because sometimes it will cause problems if we reprimand our friends even with the aim of which is good, so why should I bother taking care of my friend's life

[nara1892]

I don't have to entirely quit gambling just for my friend, but the gambling sessions will have to end. The group should just think of another hobby that's equally fun and entertaining but not financially damaging. It's about time they would have to replace their old ways of bonding.

Bad things have happened and in this situation there really must be changes made, one of their friends has been affected by the decision to gamble together unknowingly and clearly now everything has happened and his friend has entered the addiction phase to spend his entire salary every month. On the other hand as you suggested, the group should really change their plans, they should divert to other activities, there are many other things or forms of entertainment that have no risk but are fun. But I think there is a more important issue that should be resolved first, which is to help their friends who are affected by gambling by agreement of the group in whatever way they think is reasonable. After all, this is a shared responsibility and of course every problem must be solved together.

[Coin_trader]

This guy hasn't caused any trouble to his friends but it's a worrying situation to see him waste most of his salary every month... So now the other guys were contemplating to quit their poker playing hobby because it was really affecting their friend negatively. And they had a somewhat regular get-together to play poker with very small stakes just for the fun of it. It's a petty that they might have to abandon their poker games but to them it's either that or abandoning their friend and worsening his compulsion.

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

Definitely. You should stop showing any sign of gambling if you have a problem with compulsive gambling problem. It’s like your friend have a liver failure and addicted to cigarettes yet you keep smoking with him when you get together.

If you are a real friend, You will consider what’s your friend problem and if your activity will be affecting him badly. I have a suicidal friend before and we always become positive when we are around him until he recovers. We never talk about anything that is related to what is giving him stress. It’s very easy to stop this gambling if you really love your friend in fact you can play online to make it discreet to your problematic friend.

[Hispo]

I think I would be willing to do that for a friend, yes. It is not like someone would be completely giving up on gambling because of a friend, they are just quitting gambling in a social context for the sake of the mental and financial health of their friend. Also, I would talk to him and call him out on his addiction and let him know he needs to sell for professional help for him to face his problems.
You know, when someone goes through gambling addiction is very easy for them to also feel tempted to try drugs or alcohol to peace their depression and self-loathing feelings, those people did good on stopping get gambling instead excluding their friend, otherwise he would have continues to gamble because of depression and anxiety even among other people who are not actually their friends. It is better for all of them to switch the gambling entertainment of their social meetings to someone completely unrelated and still fun, like playing videogames or even dancing (if they are into it), during those meetings their friend could even realize not all in life is gambling and it is possible to continue to live without wagering money. On the other hand, it is a very different question if one would be willing to completely quit gambling (not only the the social aspect but all aspects) for the sake of a friend. Some won't be able to do such sacrifice.

[panjul07]

Why would I quit gambling for a friend who is addicted to gambling and ruined his life?
Will it give a positive effect to my friend if I quit gambling? Will he lose his addiction once I quit? The answer is NO, am I right?
As a friend, we can just tell him what is the best thing to do so he can (at least) reduce his addiction.
One of the first things we can do is just dont talk to him anything related to gambling, do not tell him if we are still gambling.

[bittraffic]

The group of friends is somewhat feeling a bit of guilt for contributing to the addiction of their friend, I think I would be willing to do something else just to sway this friend away from gambling as it's not good seeing a friend struggle. It's not such a bad attempt to try providing a solution to make this friend quit for it's becoming serious already.

What sort of just for fun could turn his life into a mess because the group introduces him to it. I'm sure some may disagree about the decision but what good does it do to a friend when he spends his money out of control on this addiction and I mean what are friends for?

[bitvalak]

I don't think there's any need to change anything for that friend. People will become logical thinkers as time goes by. The one who starts the addiction is himself, not anyone else.
We cannot control what other people want to do, even if we try to limit it, there are still many ways for them to gamble.
Do you want to spend your time just wanting to cure your friend of addiction? If the question were for me, of course I would refuse. I have no moral responsibility to do that, it is his right to gamble as long as he wants.

[livingfree]

It's easy, if the whole circle of my friends agreed to do it then I'll just do what they do but 100%? No. We can revert our attention into other games like playing computer games where we can enjoy and that might help that poor friend of ours.

It could be quitting temporarily or just reverting attention. As long as there's a help for that friend of ours then I'd love to do it until he comes back to normal.

But I don't know how long I can hold to into helping him but if my other friends feel guilty with the influence. A reminder will come by and I'd just leave a disclaimer that we're not there to help him forever.

[lovesmayfamilis]

Think about what the word friend means, and what is the difference with the word buddy? Buddies hang out together and have fun, and that's where it ends. When it comes to something serious, when it comes to trouble from which you need to pull a friend out, only friends will remain next to him. Friends should not be afraid to tell him to his face that he has a problem that needs to be treated. Just tell him that he should not come to such parties where games are present.
The choice will be your friend's. But instead of collectively quitting games, you can help him with a specialist who treats gambling addiction.

[Rufsilf]

In my opinion, it would be better if I showed him some concern by telling him that his behavior is unacceptable and that he shouldn't play longer.
For example, I could tell him to take a break, or we could decide as a group of friends to go on a trip, vacation, or even just a picnic as a way to bond rather than go to a casino to gamble.
Personally, I wouldn't give up my gambling hobbies because for me it is part of my recreational activity and it does not affect me. Still, I'm only taking a break so that my friend can focus on something other than gambling or perhaps taking up a new hobby.

[serjent05]

Would you do the same for a friend?

I have an option since why would I quit gambling when I can do my gambling activities without that friend's knowledge?  I would participate and support the plan of my colleagues to stop the group poker game just to show that we are concerned about our friend's problem with gambling.  But when it comes to private gambling activity, I won't let my friend's situation affect my gambling activity since I have the right to keep things private from them.  As long as I know I am doing fine, I won't quit gambling. 

I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit.

I do not think there is a need for confrontation and say what you have stated.  It might go wrong and might be misunderstood by the friend and get offended.  I think it is better to just keep quiet about our gambling activity and do our best to not let them know about it.

[JoyMarsha]

There are certain things I can call a quit for a friend's happiness(although that depends on personal relationship) and there are things I don't intend to quit because of a friend.
I wouldn't want to give up gambling because of a friend's addiction. What I might do is speak with him or her about how to pursue the gambling path and become less addicted to it rather than gambling their salary each month, which would ultimately put them in poverty (not being able to provide for their family).

[dothebeats]

I may not quit but I would certainly tell him to not overdo things and just take it slow. I'll also remind him that it's better to always have some extra money for other things rather than use it on something that has a high chance to lose the money and not gain anything. There are tons of things that I can do for a friend which don't warrant me to stop doing what I need to do. He just have to see that I'm trying to help him get out of the mud that he found himself into.

[Slow death]

In my case I would first talk to him and tell him to stop playing immediately and seek medical help and I would also tell him that I would immediately stop playing for an indefinite period of time. This is to show him that it is possible to stop playing and that if he cannot stop playing then he realizes that he is sick and needs help, he alone will look at himself and look at me and realize that I stopped playing because I am not addicted to games, while he cannot stop playing because he is sick. Even though I know that when I stop playing it won't solve his problem immediately, I will still stop playing because in the same way that my friend became addicted to games, I can also become addicted to games, so I need to I also stop gambling for a while to see if I too have become addicted to gambling

When some time passes without me playing and I don't have any compulsive desire to play, then I'll go back to playing but with more moderation, because I've seen the price you pay when someone plays excessively, that is, that friend of mine who became addicted to games, it also gave me the idea that gambling can be much more dangerous than one imagines, whenever something sad happens, we should use that sad event as a reference point in which we should not make the same mistake, I have done that in my life. I already had relatives who were addicts, so I know very well how destructive addiction is, which is why I don't do anything that led my relatives to become addicts. We can often think that if we stop playing because someone we know became addicted, we would be giving up things we play because of other people, but I think people shouldn't think that way.

[borovichok]

if he is a good friend, yes of course I will be willing to make sacrifices with him, I mean if he is someone special to me, but if not I will let him be because it is not an obligation, because sometimes it will cause problems if we reprimand our friends even with the aim of which is good, so why should I bother taking care of my friend's life

I don`t think it is that easy to quit because of a friend. What if you are making good funds? What if you always have fun when you gamble? What if gambling is your only source of happiness? Can you just give that away because of a friend? Does quitting solve the problem? I`m not sure you can.

Some persons make good funds from gambling so it is even difficult for them to stop because it is a profitable venture for them not to talk of quitting because of someone`s recklessness. There are better ways to help out and not stop. What if you stop and he continues? Has the problem been solved? Of course not.

I know some people who are always gambling because of the fun and the happiness they derive when they gamble. I don't think if you fall into this category you can trade your happiness for a friend. Not possible. That will be displeasing yourself to please a friend.

[nimogsm]

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

If a similar problem happened to my group of friends, we would definitely have to take a break from our games of poker and gambling. The second stage is to provide professional help for our friend until he returns to his previous state and overcomes this problem.If the adaptation period had taken more than six months, we would have continued to play, but in secret from our friend so as not to provoke him, and we would have kept our games secret. It seems to me that friends should meet and help their friends who find themselves in such a situation.

[passwordnow]

Nope.
I'd tell him that we're all responsible for our actions and if you think that the people surrounding you is influencing you badly, then you have to keep yourself away. I may give some help and I'd personally go away and that's going to be my contribution and a few words of encouragement that he shouldn't go for more when he's being affected badly with his gambling habits. There is no other people to blame for that and what he's experiencing but himself. That's all he needs to know so that he will be knocking himself with the reality that it's not doing him good.

What I might do is speak with him or her about how to pursue the gambling path and become less addicted to it rather than gambling their salary each month, which would ultimately put them in poverty (not being able to provide for their family).

Yeah, that's already enough. Giving him the advise and words on what he must do is our part on his journey if he wants to get out of addiction. But you know that it's the hardest part when someone gambles and becomes addicted eventually. If he likes what he's doing, it's okay but make sure that he's controlling his spending habits and he's not going to put it all in with every single bet that he makes and don't affect his other important errands daily.

[RockBell]

if he is a good friend, yes of course I will be willing to make sacrifices with him, I mean if he is someone special to me, but if not I will let him be because it is not an obligation, because sometimes it will cause problems if we reprimand our friends even with the aim of which is good, so why should I bother taking care of my friend's life

And it is only a good friend will advise you to quit gambling, and that will be the reason that he has seen the damages that gambling is causing the person must have gone out of control for the friend to give advice, and if I have any friend that gambling a lot I will just advice them to get a job and leave gambling for the main time because some people don't want even to work again. It is not as if they are winning. and I don't mind if my friend gets angry just because of the advice I wanted to give him about something that will help his life, and one of the solutions is if the person should get a job then the person will even find if it more difficult to have time to gamble, but if the person is idle then expect anything from such people.

[Juse14]

Sometimes we are too busy taking care of other people's life problems but we don't take care of ourselves, including problems that happen to our friends for reasons of being together. and when talking about the problem of gambling addiction, this is a very complex problem and quite difficult to find a way out of, but with encouragement from the people closest to him, be it friends or relatives, it will be a motivation for him to be able to realize his bad behavior in gambling. .

And if in your circle of friends there is someone who is addicted to gambling, then as soon as possible you must be able to make that person aware. Because it is feared that gambling addicts can have a negative impact on your circle of friends, which could be that when your circle of friends does not have strong determination and belief, one by one they will slowly fall into the same problem, namely gambling addiction.