Coping with expectations

[Misslotfunds]

Expectations can be quite harmful to a person's life when it's not met, depression is bound to happen especially when you are surrounded by people whose actions or words seem to remind everytime of how much you've failed to achieve, at this point your mental health should be the most important to you irrespective of who is making you feel like you've failed or failing.

If you've tried numerous times and still couldn't succeed in that area then you should know you have to look somewhere else, just try not to allows people's expectations to weigh u down

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Expectations should always be within limits.After a child is born, we think about whether this child will grow up to be a doctor or an engineer.This is where we make the main mistake.How can we predict what a child will grow up to be and what his intellectual potential will be?These expectations become a burden for us as well as a stress for the child.This becomes very frustrating for the child who has not yet learned to speak.Growing up from a young age under a pressure to live up to our expectations.We can only hope that the child will grow up to be an ideal human being.Expecting more than this can cause stress and frustration for us and the baby.

[Bushdark]

Expectations should always be within limits.After a child is born, we think about whether this child will grow up to be a doctor or an engineer.This is where we make the main mistake.How can we predict what a child will grow up to be and what his intellectual potential will be?These expectations become a burden for us as well as a stress for the child.This becomes very frustrating for the child who has not yet learned to speak.Growing up from a young age under a pressure to live up to our expectations.We can only hope that the child will grow up to be an ideal human being.Expecting more than this can cause stress and frustration for us and the baby.

Expection most time usually accompany disappointment that is why we don't have to have high expectations on people.
We are all humans and we have the potential to disappoint since we are not 100% available to settle all our problems and needs.
It is important for us to reduce the expectations we have on humans even the government is included here.
Disappointment is everywhere so we need to know what we are doing and not to be over relaxed.

[Kelward]

Try to talk to your family about how you're feeling. Let them know the real deal about your university experience and that it's been tougher than they might think. Share that you're working on it but you need their support rather than extra pressure. Together, set some goals that make sense for you. Don't forget to take care of yourself and remember success isn't just about grades. I know that its easier said than done but remember that youre not alone in this

I totally agree with you that opening up to your family and friends that have high expectation of you, when you're finding it difficult to live up to their expectations is very important, if you're not able to communicate effectively with them to understand your shortcomings, then you'll be surprised that you'll work yourself to depression, and they'll be the same people that'll ask why you didn't open up that you're having challenges, that they would've provided emotional or financial supports.

Also remember that despite your best efforts that you can't please everybody, you can only do your best and leave the rest, ofcourse this doesn't mean that we shouldn't work to become better. The point is that our wants in life are insatiable, because the more we achieve the more we want to break that record and achieve more, so remember to give yourself a break sometimes and just relax and forget all worries.

[Y3shot]

Expectations should always be within limits.After a child is born, we think about whether this child will grow up to be a doctor or an engineer.This is where we make the main mistake.How can we predict what a child will grow up to be and what his intellectual potential will be?These expectations become a burden for us as well as a stress for the child.This becomes very frustrating for the child who has not yet learned to speak.Growing up from a young age under a pressure to live up to our expectations.We can only hope that the child will grow up to be an ideal human being.Expecting more than this can cause stress and frustration for us and the baby.

This is the mistake most parents normally make, from the time of child birth they decide what the child will grow up to be. They don't even care if what they are aspiring for  the child is something that the child won't have passion for and it is going to affect the child.  Parent should learn to allow their child to choose what they want , when a child love a career and goes after it, do child performs well and will never regret about his or her choice for life.

[Asiska02]

Because some children did well while growing up in there preliminary classes, people always expect you to come out of the university with destinction and when you're unable to do so, it could get you depressed because it appears most time as though you've failed big time in life and that no one will even understand you at all. I'm at a cross road where my parent and siblings believe so much in me, academically, because I did well in high school but the reality is that I wasn't my best in the university and no one wants to imagine that its a possibility.

How then do I mange the expectation of people on me such that i don't get into depression when I'm  unable to meet up with it.?

It's almost like everyone knows you're going to succeed but don't even care about what you're passing through while you're striving to make them proud.

You shouldn’t allow the feeling that other people will have on you be the reason why you’re doing so much that your body can’t handle. I have seen situations like yours where children who do well in high school are expected to still be the best in their university, but in reality it is not always the case because of the competitive nature of the environment and meeting of new children from different categories which some of them are just talented and gifted. You don’t expect you as a person that is only focusing on hardwork to better yourself as the person already born with that knowledge in them, definitely they will always do better than you and you shouldn’t feel like you are not trying enough too. You know yourself better than anyone, so do what works best for you and stop thinking about what other people will feel about you with the grades they’re expecting from you. As long as you don’t fail, you’re good to go.

Depression kills and when you allow it to get into you without having to control it at it’s early stages, it becomes hard for you to do so when it has already being built inside of you. If we all want to live life on the basis of what people will always say, what people always expects from us, then we are living a life for the people and not for ourselves and before you try to adjust back, it might have become a life of regrets and “has I known”. Don’t let no one deceive you that you can be the best always, no one is perfect and everyone at some point will never be the best but will fit in any category they find themselves. Your mental health is more precious and important than all of this, so take care of it before it controls you.

[teamsherry]

Expectation from people could be the driving force that keeps us going or the reason why some of us gets depressed because of our inability to meeting those expectations.

Because some children did well while growing up in there preliminary classes, people always expect you to come out of the university with destinction and when you're unable to do so, it could get you depressed because it appears most time as though you've failed big time in life and that no one will even understand you at all. I'm at a cross road where my parent and siblings believe so much in me, academically, because I did well in high school but the reality is that I wasn't my best in the university and no one wants to imagine that its a possibility.

How then do I mange the expectation of people on me such that i don't get into depression when I'm  unable to meet up with it.?

It's almost like everyone knows you're going to succeed but don't even care about what you're passing through while you're striving to make them proud.

Firstly know your priorities, do you want be successful and happy with your result and all it took to get there?
Or do you want to be successful with a lot of load on you.
Here's what I mean, family and friends usually put up a lot of pressure on you. You might be doing above averagely well, but they just think you're not doing enough.
They tend to see the worst in your efforts rather than the best of it.
So basically, keep yourself in a serene mental state and be aware of your output and input, and do the best you can

[Promocodeudo]

Expectation from people could be the driving force that keeps us going or the reason why some of us gets depressed because of our inability to meeting those expectations.

Because some children did well while growing up in there preliminary classes, people always expect you to come out of the university with destinction and when you're unable to do so, it could get you depressed because it appears most time as though you've failed big time in life and that no one will even understand you at all. I'm at a cross road where my parent and siblings believe so much in me, academically, because I did well in high school but the reality is that I wasn't my best in the university and no one wants to imagine that its a possibility.

How then do I mange the expectation of people on me such that i don't get into depression when I'm  unable to meet up with it.?

It's almost like everyone knows you're going to succeed but don't even care about what you're passing through while you're striving to make them proud.

Mate, you should be yourself at all time, you know yourself, it is normal for people to be expecting much from you, but you should understand that no matter how expectant they could be you are the one that will make that happen, don't allow pressure to bring you down, set your goals and their is nothing you can not achieve, life is understanding, you shouldn't allow family to make you derail and thats why you should go for things that you have passion for so that you will not be seen as a failure later.

As student or skill learner, you should have the spirit of I can do it but without any pressure, there no limit to what anyone can achieve, the only setback people have most times is perseverance, if you don't persevere and keep trying at all times you won't get to your destination.   

[AVE5]

Try to talk to your family about how you're feeling. Let them know the real deal about your university experience and that it's been tougher than they might think. Share that you're working on it but you need their support rather than extra pressure. Together, set some goals that make sense for you. Don't forget to take care of yourself and remember success isn't just about grades. I know that its easier said than done but remember that youre not alone in this

You're right. Being a dependent your kind of request must be visible in a sensible and considerable aspect. You can keep what matters aside and make requests of enhancing your pleasures While there are other necessary bills to make requests about.
Once you needed a help also work out hard for a payback because some days the parents that catered for you today would look to you tomorrow because either age might take place in them or changes which is constant might be possible whereas they might not be in the same position to keep a stable financial income a continuously.
Succeed is just built over night, it takes a gradual process and so when it comes to you don't fail to utilize it well.

[DeathAngel]

Coping with family pressure & expectations can be hard. It's vital to communicate with your family expressing your feelings & setting boundaries. Seek support from friends or a therapist who can provide guidance & perspective. Focus on self care & prioritise your own well being. Set realistic goals & expectations for yourself understanding that you can’t please everyone. Remember it's OK to make your own choices & pursue your own path in life. Surround yourself with positive influences & seek validation from within.

[Bushdark]

Coping with family pressure & expectations can be hard. It's vital to communicate with your family expressing your feelings & setting boundaries. Seek support from friends or a therapist who can provide guidance & perspective. Focus on self care & prioritise your own well being. Set realistic goals & expectations for yourself understanding that you can’t please everyone. Remember it's OK to make your own choices & pursue your own path in life. Surround yourself with positive influences & seek validation from within.

We all have to face our fear and not allow it to keep compiling till is going to choke us. We need to know what we are doing and don't become too easy to allow things that don't worth it to keep taking our time. With the current situation in the world now, we need to keep doing what we needed to keep surviving and those that have enough should keep helping others to stay strong rather doing things for ourselves alone with helping the neighborhood.

[Ever-young]

Handling the expectations of others can be a difficult task. But remember, you're the captain of your own ship, and you get to choose which demands to meet and which to decline with politeness. Here are some additional tips to help you cruise without a hitch

1. Set reasonable goals: Make sure your goals are achievable, and promote growth over perfection.

2. Seek affirmation from within: Rather of seeking approval from others, learn to value your own worth and abilities.

3. Keep your values in check: Make decisions based on what is consistent with your particular ideals, rather than surrendering to human nature and celebrating.

[Gormicsta]

Expectation from people could be the driving force that keeps us going or the reason why some of us gets depressed because of our inability to meeting those expectations.

Because some children did well while growing up in there preliminary classes, people always expect you to come out of the university with destinction and when you're unable to do so, it could get you depressed because it appears most time as though you've failed big time in life and that no one will even understand you at all. I'm at a cross road where my parent and siblings believe so much in me, academically, because I did well in high school but the reality is that I wasn't my best in the university and no one wants to imagine that its a possibility.

How then do I mange the expectation of people on me such that i don't get into depression when I'm  unable to meet up with it.?

It's almost like everyone knows you're going to succeed but don't even care about what you're passing through while you're striving to make them proud.

You may use this chat to let them know that you're scared that you won't be able to live up to their expectations and that you're feeling overburdened by the pressure of them. You might let them know that you wish to follow your own path rather than just doing what they think is right and discuss your own aspirations and plans for the future. Having this talk could be difficult, but it could also be very crucial for you to set limits and stay loyal to who you are. By doing this, you may avoid placing the blame elsewhere and keep the discourse focused on your own experiences.You may use this chat to let them know that you're scared that you won't be able to live up to their expectations and that you're feeling overburdened by the pressure of them. You might let them know that you wish to follow your own path rather than just doing what they think is right and discuss your own aspirations and plans for the future. Having this talk could be difficult, but it could also be very crucial for you to set limits and stay loyal to who you are. By doing this, you may avoid placing the blame elsewhere and keep the discourse focused on your own experiences.

[Y3shot]

The best way to live life is to live without being bothered about what people will say,  when you are always thinking about the opinions of people in your life . So many people have gone so depressed because of the opinion other people have towards them . When people know you do your things without minding what people will say, or if it is good or not they won't even have that time to interfere into your matter because they already know you don't care about them.

[Marykeller]

If you are to live on people's expectations, have it at the back of your mind that you will regret doing so because people you think, you are doing your best to prove a point to, don't care as they claim to, of what you become in life.

Your family can show interest in your studies by asking about your performance in university but that doesn't mean they will care for you or provide a job for you after your university days. However, when you have check everything you have done to please everyone, you will come to the conclusion of, living your life on the expectation of others is a wrong move a human being would take in their life.

[Tmoonz]

It is very wrong for some one to live with such reality of life  based on what people will say or think about you, it shouldn't be about living to meet up people expectations but it should be about discovering yourself as a person by understanding your strength and weakness, people dont give a fuck about how you were able to be successful all they just want  is  for you to be successful, it sucks trying to live up with certain life expectations, however you just have to be the best person that you can be an never give a fuck about what people thinks or feels about you.