Can you be bold enough To introduce your gambling Mate To your spouse

[Ambatman]

Personally won't, I'm not sure is something I can be proud of since am well aware that am not skilled or the lover of lady luck.
It still depends on the partner though
If they find nothing wrong with it or you showing evidence that you a successful gambler
Then you can showcase your friends and be proud
Because your money speak for itself.

[ultrloa]

Yesterday something happened I Was shocked And speechless, because I know quite Alright that I cannot even try it with My Wife . I Was standing patiently AT the Bus Station waiting for Bus with so many other Persons there Too with same reason , a man walked To bus Station with his Wife And he saw one of his friends sitting down with us and he shouted his name ‘charles’ you are here ,And immediately he Turned To his Wife ‘darling ‘ meet My Friend Charles we both play gamble AT same place And the Wife responded positively.

At that point I Was a bit confused If the man is actually proud To announce To us that he is a gambler or If he does not have any other way of introducing his Friend to his Wife , though I kept every of My thought in My mind because speaking it out will not make any difference.however, the question here is ‘can you be bold enough to introduce your gambling mate to your wife’.

Nothing wrong to be a gambler actually and it depends on how a person deal with it. If he portrays something abusive and other harmful thing then that's how you should start not to be proud of yourself. But if you came clean and can able to provide your obligation then show to other person that gambling didn't give much bad effect but rather it give you some happiness since it exercise your brain then all is fine. Maybe that guy is really open with all activity he participated that's why he's so confident that nothing will be change and the wife can give a good approach to deal with such situation on nice way. Also I can introduce my gambling buddy to my wife as long as I know the person I introduce to her is harmful and deserve to be known so that no secrets will happen and she knows who are those persons I am dealing with when the time I decide to gamble with my friends around.

[TopT3ns]

Personally won't, I'm not sure is something I can be proud of since am well aware that am not skilled or the lover of lady luck.
It still depends on the partner though
If they find nothing wrong with it or you showing evidence that you a successful gambler
Then you can showcase your friends and be proud
Because your money speak for itself.

When we introduce gambling to the partner we have, it will only make us potentially damage the relationship with the partner we have. Gambling sometimes has extraordinary addictive properties and usually this will cause losses for the couple, one of whom is addicted to gambling places. There is no guarantee of the profits we get from the gambling we do, so when today I show off to many people with the wins I get, it could be that next time I have to lose because of and reflect on the losses I received. So your choice not to introduce gambling to your loved ones is correct because this is very scary and it is not good to introduce gambling to people we love.

[EarnOnVictor]

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Before I answer your question, let me try to respond to your curiosity about the whole episode. You should know that gambling is not as bad as some people take it, and at times, you may think it is a regular gambling mate but could be a gaming partner. Regardless, the wife knows his husband, and for the guy to have boldly introduced his gambling mate means that they are not irresponsible. If they were irresponsible towards gambling, it would rather be a different thing entirely and the guy would not be so bold to introduce such a person. Even if he saw him, they might have greeted casually, and nothing more, to have warranted further introducing the relationship they have together.

For the record, I know spouses who are gambling and nothing bad is happening in the marriage, and in some cases, it is the woman and not the man to surprise you. It only depends on how we engage in gambling, and if it's positive, I do not see any reason why it should be a stereotypical affair that the spouse would be ashamed of.

however, the question here is ‘can you be bold enough to introduce your gambling mate to your wife’.

Yes, but on one condition. I must be responsible in doing it and the gambling mate must be presentable. However, I do not see this coming because I am a private person which my wife knows of and appreciates so much. Such as a gambling mate would have been priorly discussed with her if there was any. For this, it would be a rude shock to her in that circumstance.

[dezoel]

Until and unless you are rich, then it’s fine. But if you are poor and still you are gambling and losing money, and also on the top of that, If you are gambling with your friend, then at that time, your wife might get mad at you. Otherwise in other cases, the wife can take it positively as a normal friend only. So you need to yourself understand that is gambling profitable for you, or not and are you rich enough to gamble or not? Then only take this bold decision.

I agree with this. It's a shame that you alone is not succeeding in your pursuit in gambling, yet you want to introduce another person in your family/ spouse just like you are enjoying losing. Because if you are in need for money and extra income, you won't mind things like this. But how to make money solely. Let alone your friend you wanted to introduce. That would make your wife feel less important because you are spending more of your time with your friend gambling, instead of doing real job or spending your quality time with your family.

All of us wants or need a money to live but a lot of us don't see gambling as main provider of it because we know that it's almost impossible. I'm only referring to the normal gamblers because there are still gambling streamers, pro gamblers, and the likes who can make a living with it successfully.

If only we are like this, I don't think there is anything wrong introducing our gambling mates to our spouse. It's only the same as introducing our workmates to them. As a wife or husband, we know our obligations and we are not like those irresponsible gamblers who can't think properly anymore to do what's right or know what is wrong.

[dansus021]

I mean based on your story there is nothing wrong with it I mean gambling in some countries is legal and when gambling is legal I believe people occasionally greet and chat about gambling or something like that tho it would be very different if you doing this in front of a lot of people and talk in country that prohibited gamble sure it gonna led to police hahaha.

[Julien_Olynpic]

If you control your spending on the game and your wife knows about your hobby, then you have no reason to worry. Such reasons can only appear if your wife has a bad character. Either you are losing a lot of money on the game, and your family needs money. And by the way, it rarely happens that both husband and wife gamble together. However, sometimes this happens, but usually it doesn’t look much like marriage. Usually this is the cohabitation of two gambling addicts. But sooner or later they begin to compete over money and such cohabitation breaks up.

[qwertyup23]

Yesterday something happened I Was shocked And speechless, because I know quite Alright that I cannot even try it with My Wife . I Was standing patiently AT the Bus Station waiting for Bus with so many other Persons there Too with same reason , a man walked To bus Station with his Wife And he saw one of his friends sitting down with us and he shouted his name ‘charles’ you are here ,And immediately he Turned To his Wife ‘darling ‘ meet My Friend Charles we both play gamble AT same place And the Wife responded positively.

At that point I Was a bit confused If the man is actually proud To announce To us that he is a gambler or If he does not have any other way of introducing his Friend to his Wife , though I kept every of My thought in My mind because speaking it out will not make any difference.however, the question here is ‘can you be bold enough to introduce your gambling mate to your wife’.

I think it depends on the setup with your spouse if you are confident enough to let her know about your gambling habits.

If your gambling habits does not interfere in fullfilling your responsibility as a husband to your family, then I do not see any reason on why NOT to tell your wife about the friends you met along the way. Additionally, having to introduce a friend to your wife should be a no brainer considering that you should keep no secrets or anything whatsoever with your partner.

At the end of the day, you must be fully transparent with your spouse about everything. If you want to have a happy marriage that consist of no secrets, then be ready to tell everything even if it may prejudice you.

[Jawhead999]

Nope, I won't introduce my gambling mate to my spouse, actually I have never tell my spouse if I'm a gambler.

There's nothing important if someone know if I'm a gambler, if she know I'm a gambler, she might ask me to stop gamble, so why I need to risk anything if silent is better?

As long as someone can control themselves during gamble, they won't become an addict, so gambling shouldn't be blamed.

[Aanuoluwatofunmi]

Yesterday something happened I Was shocked And speechless, because I know quite Alright that I cannot even try it with My Wife . I Was standing patiently AT the Bus Station waiting for Bus with so many other Persons there Too with same reason , a man walked To bus Station with his Wife And he saw one of his friends sitting down with us and he shouted his name ‘charles’ you are here ,And immediately he Turned To his Wife ‘darling ‘ meet My Friend Charles we both play gamble AT same place And the Wife responded positively.

At that point I Was a bit confused If the man is actually proud To announce To us that he is a gambler or If he does not have any other way of introducing his Friend to his Wife , though I kept every of My thought in My mind because speaking it out will not make any difference.however, the question here is ‘can you be bold enough to introduce your gambling mate to your wife’.

If you're a responsible gambler, and those around you have no issue to complain about from how you gambles, then it should not be a difficult task to introduce your fellow gambling friend to your spouse, but why many can indulge in avoiding this is when they have hidden agenda or bad reputation in the past, they may try to avoid such, this calls for us to always think twice before taking some actions in life, we have to be very considerate as well in everything we are doing, we should not ride on others peoples right, because we don't know what the future may say.

[_act_]

There's nothing important if someone know if I'm a gambler, if she know I'm a gambler, she might ask me to stop gamble, so why I need to risk anything if silent is better?

As long as someone can control themselves during gamble, they won't become an addict, so gambling shouldn't be blamed.

You are right that if someone can control himself that gambling should not be blamed. But people that are bread winners of their family can not be questioned by his wife or told by his wife not to gamble again except the person is addicted to gambling and losing money to gambling. Nobody will like that.

[Adbitco]

There is nothing wrong introducing a friend as someone whom you have gambled with before but what you should look out is the state of your wife, I mean the kind of person your wife is before introducing someone as a fellow gambler. Let say does your wife hate and dislike anything relate to gambling or has she in any day speak against gambling if 'Yes' then you should know that the man did a very wrong thing and if 'No' then there is not wrong with it. People are different so could their wife be different in their reactions and for me there is no big deal for me to do that provided that my wife is not anti-gambler then I am free to tell her about any person whom has been gambling with me for the past.

[SmartGold01]

3.- Let's say that we have a variety of answers, yes and no.  What would be your conclusion in each case.

Did op forgot that there are women who gambles irrespective that I don't gamble regularly doesn't mean I can't talk about gambling or introduce a fellow woman to my husband as gambler. In as much as my partners that I gamble then it's fine to tell someone Mrs. B was my mate then in school or back then at St. Patrick Lodge. Does this change anything from me or my Girlfriend to my Husband, Okay as woman why would you hide yourself from your husband that you gamble while you gamble. This shows insincerity between you both but some how trying to pretends life with your spouse, so he deserved to know whether you are gambler or not.

[moneystery]

i think that it is not necessary for me to introduce that my friend is my gambling friend, because there is no point either or maybe my friend is not comfortable that i exposed his gambling habit. so to avoid problems, maybe i'll say that he's just a friend and there's no need to discuss our gambling too much.

[boyptc]

You just heard it and that's their business.

If you happen to be at the same situation, keep your opinion to yourself because not everyone needs to provide answers if that guy is proud or not or just someone who's happy to introduce the friend he met in the gambling house.

Well, if we overhear things and we're interested to meddle with their affairs and things run into our mind on what they're thinking, it's best to keep it to ourselves.

[peter0425]

It seems to me that the couple you saw has a healthy and honest relationship lol

Maybe the husband gambles responsibly and is not really that serious about it. Come on mate I know so many people who play cards or other games and gamble but it does not mean that they are doing it excessively and/or trying to make profit out of it. If they are honest and happy with each other then why would one be scared of introducing his friends to his wife?

[kotajikikox]

‘can you be bold enough to introduce your gambling mate to your wife’.

Why are you so scared of letting your wife know that you gamble? 

In my opinion I think it is better to have everything out in the open and let each other be the judge of whether that is good or not. I believe once you start avoiding conflict, your relationship is done. Instead of avoiding fights, learn how to manage them and deal with it.

If there’s nothing to hide then why don’t you just say it to your wife? I think she’ll be more relieved to know someone you spend a lot of time with (assuming he spends a lot of time in gambling).

[Cryptoprincess101]

Introducing a gambling friend to your spouse depends on your understanding with your wife because before someone introduced a gambling friend to the wife means that the wife is aware that his spouse is a gambler and possibly succeeds in his gambling because it is always difficult for a woman to see you with people who doesn't add value to your life more so to the extent of gambling being the subject here.

 Making your gambling activities known to your wife is not bad because she will also guide you on how not to become an addict or emotionally attached such that sometimes when you lose she will be the one to comfort you and remind you of the previous times you also won and did something meaningful with the money.

[Loveday422]

Gambling is not a good harbit over the years ,so with this one is supposed to know that what ever you are doing should be done secretly,not to open it to the whole world for me no matter how I win or lose know body knows how it is
So introducing it to your spouse I think is wrong except,your wife also play game before you people meet