Is it Ideal for parents to demand rent from their child who stays with them?

[Akbarkoe]

Being a married person with children, I know at times parents might be forced to ask their kids to help in paying rent. But I feel as a parent, my children are not supposed to take care of me; I should be able to look after myself and my family. This is especially if they are just starting out in the workforce and trying to save for their future.

If push comes to shove, I would definitely ask for help but only after trying to clear the bills myself. If circumstances dictate I certainly wouldn't hesitate to ask for help but that would be a last resort after I have done my best to pay the bills myself. I also feel it's important to instill in my children the idea of financial responsibility, but I want them to be able to save and work towards their own independence without added pressure at a young age. So while I'm not adverse to children contributing in some way, shape or form that is!

[Davidvictorson]

If the girl's parents was homeless would she stay with them this is a critical question that a girl needs to answer. She also needs to get off her high horses of self entitlement and be a little bit responsible and do what is right or move out of her parents apartment and fend for herself if she thinks it is easy to pay the bills for grown up adults. If she were not working, it would be understandable but she's freaking employed. Her one dollar if that's what she has to contribute would go a long way.

[Mr.sprin]

If the girl's parents was homeless would she stay with them this is a critical question that a girl needs to answer. She also needs to get off her high horses of self entitlement and be a little bit responsible and do what is right or move out of her parents apartment and fend for herself if she thinks it is easy to pay the bills for grown up adults. If she were not working, it would be understandable but she's freaking employed. Her one dollar if that's what she has to contribute would go a long way.

The task of parents towards their children is to raise them with love and educate their children until they grow up. When a child is successful in the world of work, the thing they have to do is look after and care for their parents, just as their parents looked after and cared for them from childhood until they were adults, indeed parents do not ask for anything from their children, but we as children who have been raised with lots of love are obliged to return the favor to our respective parents, especially a daughter who has homeless parents, it is her obligation to look after them until the end of their lives, because a child cannot repay their parents, at least we as children can look after and care for them like they looked after us and cared for us first.

[eightdots]

Being a married person with children, I know at times parents might be forced to ask their kids to help in paying rent. But I feel as a parent, my children are not supposed to take care of me; I should be able to look after myself and my family. This is especially if they are just starting out in the workforce and trying to save for their future.

If push comes to shove, I would definitely ask for help but only after trying to clear the bills myself. If circumstances dictate I certainly wouldn't hesitate to ask for help but that would be a last resort after I have done my best to pay the bills myself. I also feel it's important to instill in my children the idea of financial responsibility, but I want them to be able to save and work towards their own independence without added pressure at a young age. So while I'm not adverse to children contributing in some way, shape or form that is!

You have explained the situation very well in your comment. Once you have done your best, there is no harm in asking for something when you need it. As you mentioned, the important thing is to do your best. Sometimes, under certain circumstances, parents may ask their children for financial support. In some cases, parents may force their children to take responsibility. For example, they may ask them to pay the rent or contribute to the household economy.

It is quite normal for parents to ask for financial support in some situations. The important thing is that parents raise their children to be good individuals and support them to reach a good level.

[Mahanton]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

So this is some sort of obligation? Its not really that shocking anymore and its really that pretty common here in our country on such thing about making their kids that being obligated on getting some of expenses
on which they could really be able to contribute since now that they already have the work or simply after they had finished their studies. For some children then this is something a payback thing on which
they wont really be that making those kind of reactions negatively on regarding on such responsibility or portion of those paying up the bills on which there would really be no doubts and thinking negatively
but as we do all know that there would really be those individuals who would really be that making this thing as an issue but actually its not.

Arguments be molded up in between parents and child on the moment that the child cant bare anymore about on the obligations that he/shes really that into instead on saving up for his/her future.
This is actually one of the reason on why there would really be no progress into those individuals even if they do have those kind of plans into their mind but since they do have those kind of financial
obligations then it would really be turned out to be slowed down and this is something which is really that usually happening on this kind of situation on which its really that
sad for some people specially to those who are still that living along side with their parents but actually this would really be just that a choice to be made on.

[stomachgrowls]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

So this is some sort of obligation? Its not really that shocking anymore and its really that pretty common here in our country on such thing about making their kids that being obligated on getting some of expenses
on which they could really be able to contribute since now that they already have the work or simply after they had finished their studies. For some children then this is something a payback thing on which
they wont really be that making those kind of reactions negatively on regarding on such responsibility or portion of those paying up the bills on which there would really be no doubts and thinking negatively
but as we do all know that there would really be those individuals who would really be that making this thing as an issue but actually its not.

Arguments be molded up in between parents and child on the moment that the child cant bare anymore about on the obligations that he/shes really that into instead on saving up for his/her future.
This is actually one of the reason on why there would really be no progress into those individuals even if they do have those kind of plans into their mind but since they do have those kind of financial
obligations then it would really be turned out to be slowed down and this is something which is really that usually happening on this kind of situation on which its really that
sad for some people specially to those who are still that living along side with their parents but actually this would really be just that a choice to be made on.

Im a parent on having 5 children and all of them graduated college and they do have their own work but still having no family on which simply means that they are still living together.
I havent been able to demand something about payments or responsibilities on paying up some bills like this and like that. They are the ones who would really be trying out to pay up and thats the good thing that you arent forcing your kids on paying up something yet it would really be their initiative whether they would really be helping you on paying up with those expenses. Although there would really be that one member in the family is something that wont really be showing up any care and doesnt like on giving out a part of their salary and thats understandable and as a parent then better not to demand or make them obligate.
This is why im continuing on having my own job so that i wont really be that liking for us to be burden into our children even if we are already old. The good thing if you have raised up well your kids is that they are the ones who would really be offering on helping out their parents on which its really that giving that happiness inside that they are still watching you on the time that you do gets old.

[Zaguru12]

If the girl's parents was homeless would she stay with them this is a critical question that a girl needs to answer. She also needs to get off her high horses of self entitlement and be a little bit responsible and do what is right or move out of her parents apartment and fend for herself if she thinks it is easy to pay the bills for grown up adults. If she were not working, it would be understandable but she's freaking employed. Her one dollar if that's what she has to contribute would go a long way.

I would say it is even a very selfish and self centered behavior to actually have to wait for a parent to ask or demand for a working class child to help shoulder some bills even if they are not living on the same roof with them. It is definitely a child obligations to do things like this, most at times when parents demand their children to pay for some bills when they still stay with them is just to make them get prepared for the future when they eventually go start their own family. So I don’t se this either as a huge fuss or problem because the child has to do it and if they don’t the parent has to just demand just to keep them in check

[Churchillvv]

Personally, I feel anyone that is able to earn some money while working from home should be contribute to the family bills without being told.

I can't obviously be making some cool cash while am at home watching my parents struggle to pay the bills while I enjoy the home with them without contributing even with my earns I feel it's just a norm for them to ask but if they ask and you seem to resist the request it might become so mandatory to a point because they will begin to feel some bordens seeing you a grown individual staying at home with them.

[Stepstowealth]

Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

It can be a method that these parents are using to input in their children some level of responsibility and awareness of bills. This early consciousness and awareness of the need to pay bills can help a child to become more responsible and make more responsible financial decisions early in life that will put them in a more financially independent place. But I like to know if as a parent you demand your child to pay rent since you know they are working, and then they did not meet up with the payment.

[GiftedMAN]

From what I read in the article, the child is not directly paying for the rent; the mother is just asking her to pay that amount every month in order to support the family.

I don't think the mother is wrong for asking her to support her family since she is part of the family and helping them to pay that little amount will relief the family from either going broke or using some other amount to take care of some other needs in the family since there is a high rate of inflation everywhere in the world.

If her monthly salary is far above the amount the mother has asked her to be paying monthly to support the family I think the daughter should be happy because her mother is teaching her how to take care of responsibilities which will later help her in future when she has her own family, at least she's no longer going to depend on her husband to pay all the bills in the house when she gets married since her mother has already taught her how to take care of some family responsibilities.

[Rockstarguy]

Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

There is nothing bad if a child support parents in paying house rent, I think before parents will demand support from their child to pay house rent it means the parents don't really have the money to pay the bill for house rent. This demand shouldn't a problem to people to support their parents because it is better to take this as a challenge to do this than to watch parents to be homeless. Normally as a working class it is expected to take it as a duty to carry out some responsibility to support because it doesn't make any sense just gathering all the money that is coming in as salary just because one wants to start up life.

[Wexnident]

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I'd say it's fine? Especially if the household is struggling, the least a person can do is to pay their part. Just, be reasonable with it. A parent asking for almost half of your salary is NOT something reasonable. But as part of the bills? Heck yea. Heck I myself am paying for the entirety of the bills already and I don't really see any point in complaining since I myself use it, live in the house, eat the food made by my parents and stuff like that.

Everything in balance.

[Hewlet]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

I don't fancy the idea that the mum has to quote a particular amount the daughter is supposed to be bringing every month regardless of the fact that the $50 or $75 is pretty small relative to the $800 she's actually earning. It's supposed to be a normally situation where as you're still living with your mum you render a direct assistance to her  through buying of groceries at home and making sure things don't finish at home.

I'm currently living with my mum, just barely finished from school waiting for my one compulsory national youth service and I'm doing a job that's paying me above what mum is earning. We've never spoken about bills or what percentage I'm to bring to the table. I just know it's my responsibility to ensure that things are available at home so without being told, once I receive my pay, I send her some amount, buy some foodstuffs, sort out the electric bills and still do one or two things my finance can carry. Since we're both average income earners, we just assist ourselves in our own little way and we've never complained and for me it's the greatest thing I've ever done knowing that i have been able to help out.

I believe the attitude of the daughter came out because the mum was feeling too entitled to the daughters money. To answer your question more directly, it's not right to task your child an amount she's to bring for the house upkeep or payment of rent. It's better to train her to know that it's her responsibility to assisting with those things because she already have the resource at her disposal.

[libert19]

75€ is nothing, even in the third world countries, you wouldn't be able to live with that amount monthly (including rent).

Once children reaches certain age, parents find that it's their responsibility to contribute to home expenses, her mom's being reasonable as much as she can get and potentially her daughter is ignorant of living expenses.

I'd take sides with her mom here.

[glendall]

It is normal for parents to ask for financial assistance from their children, not because they are renting from their parents' house, but this teaches responsibility and mutual respect between families. I used to do the same, helping my parents with electricity bills and even food costs. I helped my parents until now. I still help. Remember the sacrifices of our parents until we are at this point now.

[Lucius]

If a parent has to ask (require) their child who lives with them (and at the same time is employed and earns income) to bear part of the household expenses, then only one conclusion can be drawn - that child is poorly brought up and has no sense of responsibility. Those parents who allow their children to live at their expense for as long as they want are not doing them any good - because one day when their parents will no longer be able to take care of them, such "children" will find themselves in big problems.

It is ideal for children to become independent as soon as possible and start leading their own lives, and in addition to making sure that their parents do not lack anything - it is the least they can do to repay them for everything they have done for them in life.

[Fiatless]

Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

The girl has to consider the present economic condition before she starts becoming angry. From the article she can still save after she pays the amount the mother is asking. Young adults have the character to spend their money on frivolities rather than assisting their parents. If her mother needs assistance to help pay bills, she should be willing to help. Will she be pleased if her mother overwork while she can comfortably assist?

If I were in her shoes, it would be reasonable to have a meeting with my daughter where I would explain my financial problems. I will also outline the ways she could help cushion the effect. My child should know that he would spend more if he moved out of my house. But I wouldn't bother my child if I am aware that his earnings is not enough to assist. It's just having a good understanding and letting him know that I am not exploiting or taking advantage of him

[avp2306]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

It depends on the current set up, If they agree that their children should pay and all the proceeds will go to useful things then its fine. They are still benefiting on where their parents use the money they pay.

But if they are for other unwanted things and they force their children to give something then this is where the problem start. Remember that children's don't have responsibility to pay their children since its their obligation to provide their basic needs. Even if their child is working still they cannot ask something from them,only their children could decide if they want to give something to their parents and honor them by giving money for their daily needs.

Although there is a generational curse where some parents think about their children as investment and this is wrongg mindset people need to change it, we should normalize to give a better life to our children without expecting to get any return to them.

[Kelward]

The child is working and living with his or her parent. Even without the parent demanding for anything, he or she needs to be useful. At least he can be paying for electricity bill or house rent. As long as he or she is working, he needs to contribute to everything that is going on in the family.

Naturally no parents who are well to do will ask their adult children who are working to support the family financially, afterall they've been doing it since the birth of their child/children. So for any parents to come out to ask their child to support financially means that they're struggling to make ends meet. Any responsible child that is earning income should take it as a honor to support their parents as a way of giving back to say thank you for raising me till I'm able to grow and start making money, the parents don't need to ask first.

Although sometimes parents will overburden their working class children to be providing more than their capabilities,  so they should also be sensitive and considerate when tasking their children to support the family. Parents with this habit should understand that their child/children needs to save and start their lives independently too.

[Marvell1]

It is difficult to have an exact answer to this question because we do not know the real purpose of parents in trying to collect rent from their own children. Maybe parents just want to save money for their children in their own way and asking for rent payment would be their way, or they are trying to teach their children about the value of money. Or maybe their child are too stingy with them and they just want help with their day-to-day needs and asking for rent payment is a great way to go.

Overall, I don't have a final answer to this question because I'm not in their shoes and don't know what's going on with them. So I won't be quick to judge or judge anyone, but I believe that every parent always wants the best for their children.