Is it Ideal for parents to demand rent from their child who stays with them?

[aioc]

It depends on the situation, but here in our country, parents are very considerate on the welfare of their children eventhough they are married and have children

If they cannot afford to pay for their rent, the parents will have a room for their children as long as they cannot afford to rent on their own, and if they can afford it, they do not charge; they wait for their children to pay their rent on their own decision, because parents understand that they are starting to build their family and they have huge expenses.
But everything should be done out of love for each other.

[Fortify]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

It's a good lesson in life that nothing is free, but most parents are usually willing to make extra sacrifices for their children and support them while they're still in their twenties or even thirties. There is a stigma against people living with their parents at that age in some cultures but with cost of living pressures becoming more prevalent, you're going to see the amount of people relying on this go up. Making a contribution when they are earning is fair, but they maybe shouldn't expect to pay market rates at least early on in life if staying with family.

[Stablexcoin]

It depends on the situation, but here in our country, parents are very considerate on the welfare of their children eventhough they are married and have children

If they cannot afford to pay for their rent, the parents will have a room for their children as long as they cannot afford to rent on their own, and if they can afford it, they do not charge; they wait for their children to pay their rent on their own decision, because parents understand that they are starting to build their family and they have huge expenses.
But everything should be done out of love for each other.

Thats god because i see nothing wrong with parents housing their kids and if they could not meet up next rent it is fine if they ask heir kids whom they know is working if he can assist with the little he/she has. Hwoever it shouldn't be demanded under pressure or made compulsory to the child. If i am a parents i will feel shy to ask my child for part of the rent instead i rather take a loan outside and pay the rent then later i aake a refund of the payment.

[robelneo]

Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

We used to stay with our parent house and although he is not asking, he made us aware by request that we needed to contribute to household needs like bills, so we contribute to paying bills, there was time that our parents shoulder the cost of paying bills when the There was a time that I was still looking for a job.

But when I got a job, I needed to contribute, They already did a lot by raising us and paying for our education, so its time that we do our shares and show love by contributing to the cost of paying bills.

[MarbCoin]

I think that is fair as soon as you are an adult and make some money.
You use the house, electricity, water etc, why wouldn't you pay for it?

[GiftedMAN]

It depends on the situation, but here in our country, parents are very considerate on the welfare of their children eventhough they are married and have children

If they cannot afford to pay for their rent, the parents will have a room for their children as long as they cannot afford to rent on their own, and if they can afford it, they do not charge; they wait for their children to pay their rent on their own decision, because parents understand that they are starting to build their family and they have huge expenses.
But everything should be done out of love for each other.

Thats god because i see nothing wrong with parents housing their kids and if they could not meet up next rent it is fine if they ask heir kids whom they know is working if he can assist with the little he/she has. Hwoever it shouldn't be demanded under pressure or made compulsory to the child. If i am a parents i will feel shy to ask my child for part of the rent instead i rather take a loan outside and pay the rent then later i aake a refund of the payment.

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Back to the discussion,I think before any parent will request for the assistance of their children or child to sort out rent bills is either the parents are not financially bouyant to pay up the rent and they understand that the child or children is in a good position to assist them to clear the bills. It may not be a regular demand but in the case where the child is not living with the parent he or she can take up the house rent responsibility so whether or not the parent takes the money as a loan or something I don't think it is bad in any way.

[ShowOff]

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Back to the discussion,I think before any parent will request for the assistance of their children or child to sort out rent bills is either the parents are not financially bouyant to pay up the rent and they understand that the child or children is in a good position to assist them to clear the bills. It may not be a regular demand but in the case where the child is not living with the parent he or she can take up the house rent responsibility so whether or not the parent takes the money as a loan or something I don't think it is bad in any way.

In a bad financial situation, every parent might consult with their children to find the best solution before getting into more problems. Regarding house rental issues or so on, they will basically cover all of that if their financial condition is fine. But I agree that if they are having financial difficulties, there is no harm in discussing these needs with their children regardless of whether they still live at home or not.

I can understand the situation well because there are many similar things happening here. Sometimes it's not about renting a house, but there are various other needs that ultimately have to be borne by the son. Especially to be filial to parents, this is clearly a child's responsibility even though not all parents specifically ask for it.

[SmartCharpa]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

A child who understands a family's situation will not find it difficult to support his family, when we were born, they did not complain about paying our bills or buying the necessary things we wanted during our childhood, but now it is our turn to support them, and some people believe it is very horrible for a parent to ask them to support the family. I'm not sure about other countries, but in my country, our parents don't even need to ask you to support the house. As soon as you start earning, you understand your duties to provide for the family because your parents have taken care of you since you were a young child and you find it hard to support them. In my country, though, if your parents own a house, you do not need to pay rent to live there, but you will be required to pay the necessary bills to provide for the family.

Furthermore, if the parents live in a rented house, the children must pay the house rent, as long as they are earning, the parents do not have to use the money they earn to make payments again because they already played their part in our life, and it is now our turn to play our part when earning, we should not feel as if we are in a position to build our lives and fail to help our parents, we should play our roles in their lives as well.

[Accardo]

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Back to the discussion,I think before any parent will request for the assistance of their children or child to sort out rent bills is either the parents are not financially bouyant to pay up the rent and they understand that the child or children is in a good position to assist them to clear the bills. It may not be a regular demand but in the case where the child is not living with the parent he or she can take up the house rent responsibility so whether or not the parent takes the money as a loan or something I don't think it is bad in any way.

In a bad financial situation, every parent might consult with their children to find the best solution before getting into more problems. Regarding house rental issues or so on, they will basically cover all of that if their financial condition is fine. But I agree that if they are having financial difficulties, there is no harm in discussing these needs with their children regardless of whether they still live at home or not.

I can understand the situation well because there are many similar things happening here. Sometimes it's not about renting a house, but there are various other needs that ultimately have to be borne by the son. Especially to be filial to parents, this is clearly a child's responsibility even though not all parents specifically ask for it.

I'm yet to meet a friend whose parents are financially stable that have testified what you both said as true. The few lads I've met always complained about their parents being strict on them especially on monetary affairs.

Furthermore, I noticed this puffed up feelings amongst parents and their peers regarding the success of their offspring. It won't die down anytime soon, that's why some kids from rich homes have to leave their father's house for greener pasture. And on another angle those wealthy parents own the house and don't need to pay rents. But, the environment is not always made emotionally conducive for their adult kids still lodging with them.

[Z390]

Homes are different, parents are different, the ways they raise kids will be different too.

Here is one thing that my father taught me while up, he said that it is wrong to ask money from your children once they start working, I asked him why and he said working and earning money doesn't equal solid foundations.

If your child is working and earning money you don't have to ask him or her to pay any money, even if you are the one paying the house rent.

If you think that I am wrong wait till the table turns, whenever I planed to buy something for my parent they will say it is not the the yet, that I need to build myself up first, they said the time is still coming, I was able to invest while I was still living under my parent roof, today they are benefitting from the help they gave me then.

Remember that a time will come where you won't be able to work anymore, if your kids aren't building strong foundations with every help that they can get you might end up living the rest of your old age like someone who don't have any children.

[letteredhub]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

It's a good lesson in life that nothing is free, but most parents are usually willing to make extra sacrifices for their children and support them while they're still in their twenties or even thirties. There is a stigma against people living with their parents at that age in some cultures but with cost of living pressures becoming more prevalent, you're going to see the amount of people relying on this go up. Making a contribution when they are earning is fair, but they maybe shouldn't expect to pay market rates at least early on in life if staying with family.

With the current economic pressure that is dealing with everyone irrespective of class I think there are certain soci-cultural attitudes and way of life that is necessary for people to  not accommodate so as not to put themselves under undue pressures. I particularly see no fault in anyone still living in their parents house as long as there is a space for them  and for the moment he/she hasn't gotten a good job that they can use to start living on their own than going outside struggling with rent bills when they are not financial strong.

[ChiBitCTy]

I think it really all depends.  First of course it depends on the age of the children.  It some aspects kids might really have to "pull their weight" to make things affordable.  On the other end, I think this can be a great lesson to kids on responsibility and learning to save/put money towards life expenses.  My x-gf's parents use to make her, then when she graduated college and we went to buy a home, she had found out her father was actually just putting that "rent" money in a bank account, and gave it all to her.  So I like ideas like that.

[Muba20]

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

Basically depending on the environment which child in a family may be given the responsibility to meet the family expenses. It can be called a strategy for teaching financial management. Children of a family can be exposed to reality. How to manage oneself and how to support parents with responsibilities etc. cannot be treated differently from being subjected to such a test. A child is considered to have an education if some parents pressure the child in their family to earn a certain amount. It teaches how to be aware of responsibility.

There are many parents who think that if their children are released, they will not be able to take responsibility in the future, they will not learn the reality. They may fail completely to manage themselves. Some parents take this initiative mainly to create a foundation for the future.

[Webetcoins]

Helping your kid when the yare in need is not really a big deal, you can do that but also teaching them some basic principles is a good way to get them ready for the real world as well. I agree that asking for a symbolic amount per month would help them understand it and also would help the family economy as well. While the earners of the family, either dad or mom or both, can make 1500+ dollars together, they can ask the kid to provide 200 dollars for example, it is not that a lot and it's fine but we could see that become something that would help the family so much.

This is why I think it's quite important to realize that we are going to make some good money out of this and it should be something important for them as well. It would bring such a good income to everyone. We can't really make it change that much, we need to make sure that it's something that we can all make money from, it's the greatest source of income a kid could have to help their family.

[Furious 7]

It depends on the situation, but here in our country, parents are very considerate on the welfare of their children eventhough they are married and have children

If they cannot afford to pay for their rent, the parents will have a room for their children as long as they cannot afford to rent on their own, and if they can afford it, they do not charge; they wait for their children to pay their rent on their own decision, because parents understand that they are starting to build their family and they have huge expenses.
But everything should be done out of love for each other.

But it's a little less ethical to make children pay rent to their own parents when the parents can still afford to provide facilities for their own children.

Maybe this can still happen but it doesn't seem to be my concept because I feel that the role of parents will never be lost to their children so that when they are in the process of getting better, we should also provide facilities to support our children's future lives better.
As for when they are successful later and want to provide assistance to their parents as a form of devotion, it is not a problem, it's just that we also don't need to force this to be a necessity because I don't think it is suitable if children are burdened with this kind of thing as long as the parents are still able even though the child is already established.

[Natalim]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

If you really love your children as a parent you wouldn't put them under pressure no matter how bad the situation is. The reason why a child is still under his or her parents roof is because they don't have the capacity to stand on their own financially. Demanding for rent isn't right even if the child is working the best thing to do is ask for a little support or talk about the problem and see how it can be resolved together instead of demanding. A responsible child knows what to do when he or she is earning money without being told

I do agree on this. No good parent will ever demand from his own child to rent on their own house. It's the parents obligation to provide shelter on their children regardless if they are capable to sustain their own already or even if they're not. However, asking for some financial allowance from children who have been making a good compensation is not that bad. In fact, responsible children should be doing that without being told, but never pressure them if they are still incapable to help.

[Kavelj22]

I have not gone through this experience and the culture of the society in which I live does not tolerate such steps, and based on that I can offer some logical ideas.

I live in a country with an Islamic religious culture where families live collectively with a large number of individuals, especially since the culture of procreation has an important place in our upbringing and customs. Any family in my country consists of the grandfather and grandmother and their children and all the children branching off from them. Some families may contain 30 to 40 individuals or even more, and they all live under the authority of the great grandfather. This family lives next to another family that is related to it. This patriarchal system of the family came as a result of economic circumstances that in the past required the family to be united to carry out agricultural activities and protect its crops, meaning that this system was useful. But today all the data has changed and that old concept has partially disintegrated, as it has become possible for the son to live independently in a house alone when he gets married, but this does not mean that his parents can expel him for any reason or that his right to live in the family home has been cancelled, and the right remains in place in all cases. Of course, the possibility of independence includes males only, and women do not have the right to demand independence from the family or for anyone to ask her for compensation for living in her parents' home, even if she works.

I believe that this system is known in all conservative societies, especially from a religious background and specifically with an Islamic reference.

[serjent05]

It depends on the situation, but here in our country, parents are very considerate on the welfare of their children eventhough they are married and have children

If they cannot afford to pay for their rent, the parents will have a room for their children as long as they cannot afford to rent on their own, and if they can afford it, they do not charge; they wait for their children to pay their rent on their own decision, because parents understand that they are starting to build their family and they have huge expenses.
But everything should be done out of love for each other.

Same here, in my country the family even the extended family are living in one house.  The owner does not charge these people but of course, they need to contribute for the necessities and bills.

Whether parents charge their child of renting fee is dependent on them.  It is their right as the owner of the house so who we are to question their family rule?  If we don't like our parents charging us for rental fee then why not move out of the house and look for a place where it is free, obviously if one does not their own house, they will end up paying for rental fee, then why not pay that to their parents?  This way the money is circulating within the family. 

[Yucky]

In some families, if the child is already earning a salary that is enough to cover family expenses, he or she doesn't have to wait for the parent to request money before they can start assisting the family. Some will even ask the parent to stop paying rent and use the money for other things. It's just a matter of self-decision. If you are to talk about legality, the girl is off-aga and is entitled to pay her own bills where necessary.

A responsible child will not wait for the parents to ask before they support the family. Any child that values their parents will not wait for them to say a word or even complain about house rent issues, feeding issues, before they step in. Do you know the struggles parents go through in training a child? Like, when you start earning, it's a blessing for you to be able to take care of your parents while they are still alive.

A lot of people, once they start earning, they are desperate to retire their parents and pay off mortgages, and just let them live a soft life. Because when you honor your father and mother, there is a blessing coming from it. So the girl really has the guts to complain. If they didn't give her education and training, she wouldn't have gotten a job. Like, she wouldn't have had that life she has. And if she thinks it is easy, maybe she could try living alone for a year and see what it means to pay for your rent.

She had better make a better choice of supporting her parents and going the extra mile to make them happy before they leave this earth. Because, truth be told, when parents grown a child to a matured age, they are coming to the end of theirs. So, yes, it's not an issue at all.

[Accardo]

I live in a country with an Islamic religious culture where families live collectively with a large number of individuals, especially since the culture of procreation has an important place in our upbringing and customs. Any family in my country consists of the grandfather and grandmother and their children and all the children branching off from them. Some families may contain 30 to 40 individuals or even more, and they all live under the authority of the great grandfather. This family lives next to another family that is related to it. This patriarchal system of the family came as a result of economic circumstances that in the past required the family to be united to carry out agricultural activities and protect its crops, meaning that this system was useful.

Never in my life did I experience this type of family system of living, yet in the history of my community, people lived like this, before the western civilization. That was long ago, and the new generation do not remember how it was, so, most people prefer an independent lifestyle with their immediate family- husband, wife, and kids. Therefore, it's passed on to the next descendants.