Is it Ideal for parents to demand rent from their child who stays with them?

[lixer]

A responsible child will not wait for the parents to ask before they support the family. Any child that values their parents will not wait for them to say a word or even complain about house rent issues, feeding issues, before they step in. Do you know the struggles parents go through in training a child? Like, when you start earning, it's a blessing for you to be able to take care of your parents while they are still alive.

A lot of people, once they start earning, they are desperate to retire their parents and pay off mortgages, and just let them live a soft life. Because when you honor your father and mother, there is a blessing coming from it. So the girl really has the guts to complain. If they didn't give her education and training, she wouldn't have gotten a job. Like, she wouldn't have had that life she has. And if she thinks it is easy, maybe she could try living alone for a year and see what it means to pay for your rent.

She had better make a better choice of supporting her parents and going the extra mile to make them happy before they leave this earth. Because, truth be told, when parents grown a child to a matured age, they are coming to the end of theirs. So, yes, it's not an issue at all.

Yeah, I wish I could have been that rich, my parents are living a poor retirement life and I think it's clear that we are going to end up with something that will not be that great in the end, we should consider this as very risky in the end. We can't make it clear all the time, but if we could help our families to retire a better life then we would feel like we paid our debt to them.

They are the ones who worked hard to raise us as good as they can, so having repayment by having them have a better old life. My father worked all his life to provide me financial help, and my mother was a housewife who raised my herself whenever I was at home, so I owe them both whatever I have, and whoever I am today is all thanks to them.

So of course, kids wants to help their parents as much as they can. I tried to pay off last payment of mortgage they have, but surprising even me, they paid off early so it didn't really happen that quickly for me.

[Dr.Osh]

It all depends on what situation she has. If she does have a lot of salary, and her parents are having trouble meeting their needs, then it is only natural for her to help. After all, it is her family, and the situation should be like that. However, if she objects to it, then she should talk nicely with her family, and ask for her expenses to be reduced. This kind of thing is very natural I think.

[Oluwa-btc]

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

There are relevant ways a parent can make their child pay for some bills while still under their roof but it mustn't necessarily be taking rebt from them, I don't know how others see it but then I see it as greed for some parents, there are other bills to be sorted out aside this that the child can handle so I don't see it appeasing that parents would demand for rent bills from the working class children.

[viljy]

If the child is making money then that child should want to help pay the bills, especially after experiencing what work is like. Otherwise that child is simply spoiled rotten. On the other hand, forcing a child that does not want to pay rent to hand over cash will not teach them the value of money, as many parents hope it will, and I think it is a misguided attempt at parenting.

I agree with this opinion. But if we think generically, apart from this particular case from the article, then it is of great importance in which country a similar life situation occurs. Since the local mentality towards the family is of overwhelming importance for assessing such a situation, and it can be completely different from one nation to another, even to the contrary in some aspects. So if we keep an open mind, then there can be no definite answer to this situation (in general, the financial relationship between parents and children), since all opinions are based on local customs and mentality.

[Furious 7]

In my opinion, this is more directed at the child's own awareness, if the name of the parent certainly does not want to burden their child unless they are in need of funds when there is an emergency. Well, if the child is already working and has an income, then it is natural for him to give some of the results of his hard work to his parents, but if he does not give some to his parents, it is wrong, because giving some of the results of his hard work to his parents can be said as a sign of gratitude even though sometimes parents like to say it is not necessary, but I myself feel how happy I am when I can give some of the results of my hard work to my parents. Apart from that, I think it is impossible for parents to collect rent from their children who live with them, this is very odd and ridiculous if there is. Usually parents will ask for money from their children who already have an income for other things such as maybe asking for help to renovate the house, or school fees for other relatives, but to collect rent to live with them is ridiculous.

[Synchronice]

I have a much different view about this situation than the rest of my European fellow members but this is because I've met lots of Asians and Eastern Europeans and I finally like their idea.

Isn't it better when parents and their children have deep connection? In EU, it's mostly like, kids reach 18 and then they forget their parents and parents forget them (not in all families but it's popular thing). Isn't it better when parents and their kids live together even after 18? In Asia, when kids get married, they bring their wife into their family's house, i.e. parents, kids and their wives live together in one apartment. I'm not a huge fan of this but I think that till you get married, it's okay to live with your parents.

Now, should parents demand a rent from their kids or not? I think that if the parents see that their kids try to do something in life and are actually motivated, doing things, then parents shouldn't demand money from them but if the family is poor or one of the family member got stroke or something like that, then I think it's okay to demand some help from kids.

Overall, I think that parents should do their best to help their kids to build a good future, help them in their 20s financially to have a good life experience, develop career and so on and then, when parents get old, their kids should help them back and take care of them. I believe in that and I think it's the best scenario. Parents help kids and then kids parents when the time comes. Sadly, in EU, many parents live on their own, kids live on their own and that's it. What's the point of having kids if you want to get rid of them immediately once they reach 18?

[hafiztalha]

In my opinion, this is more directed at the child's own awareness, if the name of the parent certainly does not want to burden their child unless they are in need of funds when there is an emergency. Well, if the child is already working and has an income, then it is natural for him to give some of the results of his hard work to his parents, but if he does not give some to his parents, it is wrong, because giving some of the results of his hard work to his parents can be said as a sign of gratitude even though sometimes parents like to say it is not necessary, but I myself feel how happy I am when I can give some of the results of my hard work to my parents. Apart from that, I think it is impossible for parents to collect rent from their children who live with them, this is very odd and ridiculous if there is. Usually parents will ask for money from their children who already have an income for other things such as maybe asking for help to renovate the house, or school fees for other relatives, but to collect rent to live with them is ridiculous.

I think that is not good to take rent from that child because they are part of the family and they should distribute most of the expenses . There are many people who have have that kind of system but that is common on European countries. That is not common in Asia because most of the persons of family care each other and they always try to care each other when any unexpected situation happens.Every country's people have different society and many parents want their safety because sons and daughters always try to escape their parents from the home . Parents should be kind with children and if they are not kind then their child will do battles.

[r_victory]

The obligation of fathers (men) is to care for and provide for their families. This doesn't mean that responsibility shouldn't be taught to children.

If this mother has no one else to rely on, and her daughter already works, I believe she can and should help with the expenses. It will be a learning experience for her, as she will soon have her own home and family.

My daughter isn't yet old enough to work, but she's already chosen the bills she'll pay when she starts. I didn't even need to tell her anything, and I think it's good that she already has this understanding.

[Furious 7]

In my opinion, this is more directed at the child's own awareness, if the name of the parent certainly does not want to burden their child unless they are in need of funds when there is an emergency. Well, if the child is already working and has an income, then it is natural for him to give some of the results of his hard work to his parents, but if he does not give some to his parents, it is wrong, because giving some of the results of his hard work to his parents can be said as a sign of gratitude even though sometimes parents like to say it is not necessary, but I myself feel how happy I am when I can give some of the results of my hard work to my parents. Apart from that, I think it is impossible for parents to collect rent from their children who live with them, this is very odd and ridiculous if there is. Usually parents will ask for money from their children who already have an income for other things such as maybe asking for help to renovate the house, or school fees for other relatives, but to collect rent to live with them is ridiculous.

I think that is not good to take rent from that child because they are part of the family and they should distribute most of the expenses . There are many people who have have that kind of system but that is common on European countries. That is not common in Asia because most of the persons of family care each other and they always try to care each other when any unexpected situation happens.Every country's people have different society and many parents want their safety because sons and daughters always try to escape their parents from the home . Parents should be kind with children and if they are not kind then their child will do battles.

That's why I say it depends on the child's awareness, not the parents' request.

It is not very ethical for parents if they still expect what they have done for their children and want to return the favor because after all it is a condition where the obligation if they have children then before the child becomes an adult then the parents must be able to provide good service as a form of their responsibility.

If in the end one day when the child is an adult and already has an income when they want to give then it does not matter but if in the end they do not do this it does not matter because parents do not make this a debt burden for them (children).
The problem is that sometimes for now there are still quite a lot of people who always use this as an excuse where they always try to use children so that they can become a gold mine for them as if children are an investment for them so that they can not work and live, although indeed things like this are also a fairness for some people but for those parents who think more logically I think this condition will not happen.

[tsaroz]

I came to know that the parents expects their child to pay the rent when they are of age in the west much later in my life. In Asia, its unheard of.
In most countries that I've known in Asia, the child stays rent free however old they get. It's like even when your parents gets retired and you are earning, you are not obliged to pay the rent to your parents. And if anyone asks their children to pay the rent, it does mean they are disowning them and not considering them their own. It would lead to them getting a different place to stay. If they need to pay rent, they'd never stay on their own home.

Raising a child is double edged sword, you should not control over everything and let them be independent and do their own things but you should also make sure they don't feel insecure or unwanted. A home should be the place a child could always return to when they are going through trouble or failure.

[GiftedMAN]

The obligation of fathers (men) is to care for and provide for their families. This doesn't mean that responsibility shouldn't be taught to children.

If this mother has no one else to rely on, and her daughter already works, I believe she can and should help with the expenses. It will be a learning experience for her, as she will soon have her own home and family.

My daughter isn't yet old enough to work, but she's already chosen the bills she'll pay when she starts. I didn't even need to tell her anything, and I think it's good that she already has this understanding.

Parents should know that it is their responsibility to care and provide for their children regardless of how bad they are trying and how difficult things has become to them due to inflation and high rate of unemployment but in a situation where the children who are still under the care of their parents are able to make some little contributions to the family they should not be imposed on the responsibility of contribution to the payment of rest or other family bills but rather they being understanding enough should know how to render good support to assist their parents knowing how they have being able to take care of them right from when they couldn't do anything on their own.

Even when your daughter is able to work do not ask her to take care of your responsibilities as a father rather teach her how to be good and lovely then watch do her part as an adult.

[SATWAT]

The obligation of fathers (men) is to care for and provide for their families. This doesn't mean that responsibility shouldn't be taught to children.

If this mother has no one else to rely on, and her daughter already works, I believe she can and should help with the expenses. It will be a learning experience for her, as she will soon have her own home and family.

My daughter isn't yet old enough to work, but she's already chosen the bills she'll pay when she starts. I didn't even need to tell her anything, and I think it's good that she already has this understanding.

Parents should know that it is their responsibility to care and provide for their children regardless of how bad they are trying and how difficult things has become to them due to inflation and high rate of unemployment but in a situation where the children who are still under the care of their parents are able to make some little contributions to the family they should not be imposed on the responsibility of contribution to the payment of rest or other family bills but rather they being understanding enough should know how to render good support to assist their parents knowing how they have being able to take care of them right from when they couldn't do anything on their own.

Even when your daughter is able to work do not ask her to take care of your responsibilities as a father rather teach her how to be good and lovely then watch do her part as an adult.

Inflation, high rats and uncertainty killing peoples around the world few years back things were pretty easy while here in our country just one man was having job, and he was contributing in family of 7 to 10 peoples, but now it's all ended in a family of 12 peoples 5 are working but still life is getting worse.
Even joint family system having some advantage, but now things are out of context which are hurting badly values are ending and peoples those are having changes and using technology able to survive otherwise most of the middle class already vanished peoples are not able to have food for 2 times in these circumstances everyone needs to contribute and parents can demand for rent from kids which are able to give them their share.

[Pearl_20]

Well, for a mother demanding rent from their child isn't ideal for me. I agree that she would pay rent and cater for other things by herself if she was living outside home but then, the parent's demanding rent from their child is so Off for me. Why not ask her to buy groceries or any other thing that's if is necessary o

In another way, it also shows how the child should take responsibilities cos thinking about it on the other hand, you don't have to wait till it gets to the point where your parents has to demand before you assist with bill's at home knowing fully well you're well to do and is less expensive compared to when she's out there on her own.

In a nutshell it not Ideal for me, especially asking their child for rent except on the case if the parents are no longer working or doing anything then is fine.

[moneystery]

I came to know that the parents expects their child to pay the rent when they are of age in the west much later in my life. In Asia, its unheard of.
In most countries that I've known in Asia, the child stays rent free however old they get. It's like even when your parents gets retired and you are earning, you are not obliged to pay the rent to your parents. And if anyone asks their children to pay the rent, it does mean they are disowning them and not considering them their own. It would lead to them getting a different place to stay. If they need to pay rent, they'd never stay on their own home.

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in most asian countries, the culture differs from the west, which requires children to be independent once they reach adulthood. in most asian countries, children are the responsibility of their parents, no matter what age they reach. even when these children become parents, their parents still consider them their own children. i remember my father once received pocket money from his own mother, even though my parents already had grandchildren. this explains how asian culture differs from the west.

however, i think that children shouldn't be asked to pay rent. children never asked to be born; it was their parents' decision to give birth to them, so it's their responsibility to provide them with a decent life. i understand that in special circumstances where families are struggling, children may be able to help, but it shouldn't be their responsibility. therefore, parents need to manage their finances well so they don't burden their children with things that are already their responsibility.

[Mate2237]

I don't think that it's ok for parents to demand rents from their children who are working and staying with them because I see no need for it it's natural that as a child that is working support their parents without the parents asking, I think that this case of a woman taking her child to court because of her rent I believe that such a child is not responsible that is why such a thing happened.



As s child that is working it important that you leave your parents and stay in your own because because it will give you that sense of responsibility because when you stay on your own it makes you to stay focused

[shield132]

I came to know that the parents expects their child to pay the rent when they are of age in the west much later in my life. In Asia, its unheard of.
In most countries that I've known in Asia, the child stays rent free however old they get. It's like even when your parents gets retired and you are earning, you are not obliged to pay the rent to your parents. And if anyone asks their children to pay the rent, it does mean they are disowning them and not considering them their own. It would lead to them getting a different place to stay. If they need to pay rent, they'd never stay on their own home.

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in most asian countries, the culture differs from the west, which requires children to be independent once they reach adulthood. in most asian countries, children are the responsibility of their parents, no matter what age they reach. even when these children become parents, their parents still consider them their own children. i remember my father once received pocket money from his own mother, even though my parents already had grandchildren. this explains how asian culture differs from the west.

however, i think that children shouldn't be asked to pay rent. children never asked to be born; it was their parents' decision to give birth to them, so it's their responsibility to provide them with a decent life. i understand that in special circumstances where families are struggling, children may be able to help, but it shouldn't be their responsibility. therefore, parents need to manage their finances well so they don't burden their children with things that are already their responsibility.

Geographically, my country is in the south of the Greater Caucasus, so technically we are from Asia but our culture is too far from China, India, Pakistan and similar Asian countries. I'd say that our culture is quite unique but like you say, in my country children are parents responsibility even when they surpass adult age. I know families where parents still feed their 40 years old child  Sadly, our mothers are overprotective and give too much care to their children, which is the reason why men don't work here and mothers/wives take care of them and it's bad to my mind because in our culture also, man should be the one who takes the care of the family. Sadly, in the last 20 years, it's the opposite.
Btw it's more than normal here for a man to get married and live with his parents. Almost 99% of the population lives this way. We don't rent houses like Europeans do.

[WillyAp]

Well its not that bad, it happened to me and made me to move out earlier.
The new flat was more conveniently priced and much closer to work. a mile and a half. Walk-able in our times.
 

[bhadz]

If my child grows up and ended up working, I will let my kid stay at my home as much as it could be. If there's some money that's given to me as contribution to the monthly expenses, I'd be happy to accept but I will not obliged that. I'll always be the parent of my kid and that kid will always be a kid forever in my eyes. So I won't force but if willingly given some money, I'd be grateful to accept that. I recently have seen videos like this when I was casually browsing on shorts, it's a norm for countries that have so expensive rent and it's more economical to these young professionals that think they can stand on their own. Well, rent in my country is quite expensive too if you're earning minimum wage and since our culture has deep family ties, this is an easy adoption for me as a parent.

[Republikcoin.com]

Well its not that bad, it happened to me and made me to move out earlier.
The new flat was more conveniently priced and much closer to work. a mile and a half. Walk-able in our times.

It's understandable if you move out early if that's happened to you, because it's certainly not ideal for a parent to demand rent from their child just because they live with them. Children are a blessing to parents, and parents won't be lonely if they have children living with them, especially if the child already has a job that earns money, which can also help them a bit because the child has an income. So it seems odd that a parent would intentionally demand rent from their child just because they live with them.

[WillyAp]

Children are a blessing to parents, and parents won't be lonely if they have children living with them, especially if the child already has a job that earns money, which can also help them a bit because the child has an income. So it seems odd that a parent would intentionally demand rent from their child just because they live with them.

My parents collected rent because I started earning. To make me aware that washing my clothes, cooking for me is worth something.
Needless to say that I found a more conveniently priced option.