Is it Ideal for parents to demand rent from their child who stays with them?

[Eternad]

Well its not that bad, it happened to me and made me to move out earlier.
The new flat was more conveniently priced and much closer to work. a mile and a half. Walk-able in our times.

It's understandable if you move out early if that's happened to you, because it's certainly not ideal for a parent to demand rent from their child just because they live with them. Children are a blessing to parents, and parents won't be lonely if they have children living with them, especially if the child already has a job that earns money, which can also help them a bit because the child has an income. So it seems odd that a parent would intentionally demand rent from their child just because they live with them.

It really depends on the whole situation. A parent won't demand a rent if they are not financially struggling themselves. They won't ask something for their children as long as they can bear what they are going through.

It's up to your perception how you will understand the reason why they ask you for rent or money. For me, there is nothing wrong if they ask me some money when they see me I am able to earn myself. Renting and living alone is more expensive plus you have to do all things by yourself.

[EarnOnVictor]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

A lot is happening in this world, and this is one of the awkward things we would see in this life. It is certainly unpleasant that parents would demand rent from their children living with them, not even bill payment as an obligation. But it's fair if the child could help the situation of the parents if they have retired or are not so rich.

Many children will do this even without asking them just to support the parents. And if the children didn't think towards that direction, parents can still put it to them, but not making it a mandatory periodical payment.

[The Sceptical Chymist]

This is a question that's going to get answers depending on the culture of the people responding to it, no?  If I'm not mistaken, it's far more acceptable for young adults to live with their parents rent-free in Asian countries than it is in the Americas (for example).

Since I can't answer for any geographic region than my own, I'd say it's more than fair for parents to expect that their child/children pay some sort of rent if they're over the age of, say eighteen.  But even then it would depend on whether the "child" has the ability to pay rent and how generous the parents are.  Times have changed, and I'm not of the current generation; what I hear from other people is that their kids are living with them for periods of time far longer than what would have been acceptable about 30 years ago.

I've got no issues with that, since I know how brutal the job market is and how much a college education has been devalued over the past few decades.  But even if a young adult is staying in their parents' home and has an income that's non-zero, they should be chipping in for expenses if only out of respect to the parents who raised them.

[YOSHIE]

Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

Sounds stupid, in general we know that parents will give everything to their children, not the other way around parents collect bills, for me it is the stupidest action that parents have done, as well as about educating children, whether it is his original child or a child.

Honestly, I have never found a case of parents and children like that, this is really unexpected, for me it is a praiseworthy action, What's more children live in the same house, maybe I don't know what to say, what is clear is a bad action as far as I know my parents for their children.

[WillyAp]

It really depends on the whole situation. A parent won't demand a rent if they are not financially struggling themselves. They won't ask something for their children as long as they can bear what they are going through.

Plainly wrong assumption from your part.
My parents weren't wealthy but more or less well off.
 

[Kaliandra]

When considering the services of parents for their children, of course, parental love can never be repaid because our parents are those who have done so much for us. However, as parents, it would be better if they could speak kindly and also think about their child's future, who will surely one day want to have their own home.

However, what the parents did by asking for $75 was not wrong because they were certainly asking their child for money because they were forced to. Also, as long as they didn't drain all of the girl's money, there would be no problem if they drained all of the girl's salary, of course, that was not a good action. However, the girl should not have to be asked by her parents and should be able to give them money because that would certainly make their parents happy. But of course, I hope the girl and her parents can live in harmony and peace.

[Alpha Marine]

This is a question that's going to get answers depending on the culture of the people responding to it, no?  If I'm not mistaken, it's far more acceptable for young adults to live with their parents rent-free in Asian countries than it is in the Americas (for example).

The way I see it, a parent brought a child to this world; the kid had no say on the matter, only the parents do, and they proceeded to bring the kid to this hard, harsh, horrible world where he/she has to work every day for the rest of their life in other to survive in this world that they didn't ask to come, the least the parent can do is make everything about that child their reponsibiy. So until that child is old enough to go live on their own and take care of themselves, the parents have to take that responsibility without complaining because if they didn't want the responsibility, they simply shouldn't have gotten a baby in the first place.

It is the responsibility of the parent to teach the kid to be considerate and responsible and also be able to take care of himself so that when he is of age, he would be fine on his own, but if he somehow still stays with his parents, he should can desice to help out with the bills (if he's working) because he has been trained to be responsible and considerate. not because it's his responsibility.

I know it may sound extreme, but it's not. It's just something parents fo not consider before getting a child.
A lot of parents feel children should be grateful to them for bringing them into this world, but it should be the other way round. The parents should be grateful to the kid for coming into their lives because they were the ones who wanted a child, and they got what they wanted.

[Franctoshi]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

With the said amount of money that the daughter earns in a month, it's necessary the child start to support their aging parents in one way or the other, because that’s one of the reasons she was raised and be trained in school to be able to help out and to take care of her parents, if this were to be from my side and, the child earns such amount of money, the parents do not even need to tell their daughter what do, because the girl will take up the bills herself without their parents having to tell her, because this is the manner with which people are being raised up here.

[Lanatsa]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

With the said amount of money that the daughter earns in a month, it's necessary the child start to support their aging parents in one way or the other, because that’s one of the reasons she was raised and be trained in school to be able to help out and to take care of her parents, if this were to be from my side and, the child earns such amount of money, the parents do not even need to tell their daughter what do, because the girl will take up the bills herself without their parents having to tell her, because this is the manner with which people are being raised up here.

Actually its a common sense on which you do need to support your parents not just that because you are earning money but because its somewhat that part of your responsibility. Come to think that you wont be able to achieve those things in life if it werent because of your parents. They are the ones who had worked hard and support you from being a baby until you had become that independent or having that achieve that success in life on which it would be just that ethical that you should give back or having that kind of support on your parents specially if they do get old. Its your responsibility even if we do speak that you had already your own family. I cant just that bare off into those kids or children that turned their back into their parents as if they werent that being mindful about into their situation. Now that we do speak about demanding a rent from their child then they wont be having that kind of approach if they werent that in struggle and as their children then it would be that common sense that you would be that supportive.

In regarding about into the question about parents are demanding rent into their child? its a bit off or something which isnt that i would be doing as a parent. As long they are still single and still under our control then it would be your responsibility for them to raise up but I do agree into to some words that it should be that somewhat having that common sense by their kids on trying out to help out their parents specially if they are getting that older on which it would be that good to look at if they would be having that kind of support and since you have finished up your studies then having a dayjob and other income then it would be just that right that you do need up to look for them at least or trying out to support in terms of expenses or any other things on which that would ease up that stress and burden at least.

[2Pizza410000BTC]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

Parents make the ultimate sacrifice to raise their children, a sacrifice that no one else can make. When the child grows up and does something, the child will definitely earn money for his parents because with his money something can be backed up. And every child should keep his parents happy and help in any work. Here, if a child gives his parents some money every month, then with that money the parents can manage something well and live happily and peacefully.

What I mean is that even if the parents have no demands, every child should give all the money they earn to their parents every month. If all the money can be given to the parents, then the parents will be very happy and may even return the entire amount of the parents' money to the child because the parents are never overly greedy towards their children.

[Reatim]

Well its not that bad, it happened to me and made me to move out earlier.
The new flat was more conveniently priced and much closer to work. a mile and a half. Walk-able in our times.

It's understandable if you move out early if that's happened to you, because it's certainly not ideal for a parent to demand rent from their child just because they live with them. Children are a blessing to parents, and parents won't be lonely if they have children living with them, especially if the child already has a job that earns money, which can also help them a bit because the child has an income. So it seems odd that a parent would intentionally demand rent from their child just because they live with them.

It really depends on the whole situation. A parent won't demand a rent if they are not financially struggling themselves. They won't ask something for their children as long as they can bear what they are going through.

It's up to your perception how you will understand the reason why they ask you for rent or money. For me, there is nothing wrong if they ask me some money when they see me I am able to earn myself. Renting and living alone is more expensive plus you have to do all things by yourself.

if the kids are already earning though they should at least contribute to the housing expenses as they are also using said some utilities but as you said some parents who are still working and not really struggling doesn’t let their kids pay anymore even if their kids are already working

[batang_bitcoin]

I have lived in my parents house until I was able to move out when I am capable already of doing it. I'm grateful to them that they have never asked me any money and even my food is free because they've provided to me everything. I just paid some of the bills and that's how I've shown them that I can help somehow to lessen the expenses that they're having. I think parents are happy also to let their kids stay on them for however long they want it to be because they're always be the parents that we used to grow. But to ask your kids to pay for your stay, maybe the parent is struggling and that's why it's done. But children that are capable of living and have some hustle to do, they'll just give some money even if you don't ask them to.

[coupable]

When considering the services of parents for their children, of course, parental love can never be repaid because our parents are those who have done so much for us. However, as parents, it would be better if they could speak kindly and also think about their child's future, who will surely one day want to have their own home.

My country has an Eastern Islamic culture, and the traditional family unit remains the most prevalent in all regions regardless of the quality of culture in different regions. The traditional system was developed in a rural setting where the father relies on his children to assist him in agriculture and construction works throughout his life. As a result, all male children live with their parents their whole lives.

[adaseb]

This depends largely on culture and where and how you are raised. I think with most foreign families, you live with your parents until you get married. Its usually to save money and be able to buy a house. The parents never charge the kids rent.

Some families in North America I heard that they will start to charge their kids rent when they turn 18. Maybe its to convince them to leave and get a place of their own or its to maybe finally pay back all the money that the parents spent on them. Either way, with housing being so expensive these days, many kids have no choice but to live with their parents, even if it means paying a little rent.

[abaeze]

Every capable child should help their parents, whether it is with money or labor, but when the children become capable, it is the child's duty to help them, in that case, if a child does not help his/her parents, then he should be forced. Since the child is earning but knows that his parents are suffering, such a child has no right to stay at home without spending.

[Bitcoin.com97]

If her parents asked for contributions of bills in the house it’s not actually a bad idea , outside is expensive, if she stays alone possibly her salary won’t be enough to cater for herself, from paying rent to other necessary bills , if she wasn’t working it would have been a different thing, but at least she is earning, a little help to her parents is not a bad idea .

[Despairo]

With the said amount of money that the daughter earns in a month, it's necessary the child start to support their aging parents in one way or the other, because that’s one of the reasons she was raised and be trained in school to be able to help out and to take care of her parents, if this were to be from my side and, the child earns such amount of money, the parents do not even need to tell their daughter what do, because the girl will take up the bills herself without their parents having to tell her, because this is the manner with which people are being raised up here.

Child didn't ask to give birth, if the parent want to have a baby, it means the parent must be responsible to provide everything to their child and they must prepare for retirement, not being dependent to their child.

That's why people who want to get married should be wealthy first, marriage isn't for everyone.

Someone who want to get married must able to have income at least 7x of the minimum income for himself, parent, spouse, baby, and parent in law.

[EarnOnVictor]

It really depends on the whole situation. A parent won't demand a rent if they are not financially struggling themselves. They won't ask something for their children as long as they can bear what they are going through.

Plainly wrong assumption from your part.
My parents weren't wealthy but more or less well off.
 

All I know is that no matter how wrong a thing is, you will still see some people defending it, which is why I don't let anything surprise me in this world anymore. I would rather leave that house than have my parents bill me. It's a different thing to be supportive as their child or urge you to be supportive rather than making it mandatory, that's obligatory, it's off. I don't see that as a family anymore, so what? It's not worth it.

[silpersurfer]

Parents have no right to demand their children's Hajj allowance, whatever the reason. What parents give to their children before they work and earn a living is an obligation parents must fulfill to their children, and what our children receive and earn should be provisions for their future. However, on the other hand, as good children, we must not let our parents suffer. When we earn an income, we must be able to give to our parents even before they ask. We must not allow our parents to beg their own children to pay the household bills. It would be truly heartbreaking if parents had to beg their children.

And when it comes to repaying our parents, no matter how much money we give, we will never be able to repay them. The love of parents who care for and educate their children from childhood—everything they give—is priceless and cannot be repaid.

[GigaBit]

Different countries have different situations. In some countries, children generally try to become independent after they grow up. There are many parents who advise their children to take responsibility for themselves in order to teach them reality. Again, it is seen that no matter how old the child is, the parents manage their family as much as they can and only depend on their children when they are unable to do so. These two trends are most prevalent in different parts of the world. Here, the issue of culture gets the highest priority. Parents who are more emotional do not want to put any pressure on their children. From a neutral point of view, if a child is an adult, even if they are not allowed to expand their house, they should definitely spend money on other things.