Is it Ideal for parents to demand rent from their child who stays with them?

[Kaliandra]

This depends largely on culture and where and how you are raised. I think with most foreign families, you live with your parents until you get married. Its usually to save money and be able to buy a house. The parents never charge the kids rent.

Some families in North America I heard that they will start to charge their kids rent when they turn 18. Maybe its to convince them to leave and get a place of their own or its to maybe finally pay back all the money that the parents spent on them. Either way, with housing being so expensive these days, many kids have no choice but to live with their parents, even if it means paying a little rent.

In this case, it really depends on culture, as each region has its own unique culture. Some people pay rent to their parents, while others don't. Some even have their children cover the living expenses of both parents. However, if it's already part of the culture, it won't be a cause for concern, as they're used to it. However, if in a region where there's no such culture, the child paying rent to their parents will likely suffer and feel uncomfortable, and many will consider their parents cruel.

Yes, most children live with their parents until they get married. It's true that many parents charge their children rent so they can learn to be independent and buy their own home. Of course, the most important thing, in my opinion, is to be wise in living this life and be sincere, so everything will feel peaceful. Most importantly, no matter what happens, a child should be kind to their parents, because life will be more beautiful if parents and children are at peace.

[Mpamaegbu]

If a parent has to ask (require) their child who lives with them (and at the same time is employed and earns income) to bear part of the household expenses, then only one conclusion can be drawn - that child is poorly brought up and has no sense of responsibility.

That's apt!

It's common sense for children to know it's needful they also partake financially in whatever goes on in a house they live when gainfully employed whether their parents are affluent or not. It shows a sense of responsibility on their part. It saddens me when I hear people brag about them not contributing anything to a house they stay. Some say they stay with their rich uncles and that the rich uncles told them not to worry about contributing anything in the house. I think obeying such voice it's a cheap way for one to sell one's dignity or deflate one's ego.

Those parents who allow their children to live at their expense for as long as they want are not doing them any good - because one day when their parents will no longer be able to take care of them, such "children" will find themselves in big problems.

It's tough love but not many parents want to go that way. Just like eagles teach their chicks (eaglets) how to fly by exposing them in midair and allowing them think they're going to hit the group before grabbing them again, so should parents also toughen their children by exposing them to reality of life. Life isn't fair. The earlier people understand that, the better for them.

[Issa56]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

I don’t see anything bad in that, I think it’s a normal thing which children are suppose to do. If you are staying with your parents, and you already working, you don’t have to wait till your parents tell you to drop some amount of money before you should do that. For you to have a job, then you already an adult, so it won’t make sense to be at home, and you not making any contribution to the family, your parents are still the ones feeding you, and you not making any contribution, it doesn’t make sense to me.

If you already have a job, then you shouldn’t even stay with you parents, you are suppose to stay alone, and you will take care of yourself, you will have to feed yourself, and shelter yourself, but since you still staying with your parents, and they are the ones feeding you, at least you are suppose to have a specific amount which you are going to be giving them maybe every week or monthly, at least that’s really going to help a lot.

[DYING_S0UL]

First of all NOO!
Secondly, it really depends on where you are from or what culture you belongs to or what religion you follow.

In our culture we live with our parents and there isn't any rents associated with that. Everyone does their shares as part of the family. When children grows up, they are the one to take responsibilities and parents just retires.

As for other places such culture might be a common thing. Like for example in the USA. I even heard childrens needs to make appointments to meet with their parents. Umm that doesn't seems ideal.

[JiiBs]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life.

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

I recall this story and it was one that came with mixed feelings but you are an adult. In fact, in some countries though, it’s not visible in all families, some families look for means to make you leave. It even gets worst when you aren’t contributing because you ain’t got the means. They want you out so you don’t have a sense of comfort and be relaxed rather than putting in work.
It all goes down to the parent and daughter relationship though.

I read more of the article as it is and the plot goes that, the daughter left her job at the supermarket that paid more and had discounts which aided the bills to enable her pay just £15 to a job that paid less and had no discount, a restaurant job so she could connect with her boyfriend and have a good working environment.

In as much as she wants all that, it’s only reasonable that she fits in for the discounts which they would no longer be getting. She should support the family and own up to decisions.

[Fortify]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

It seems perfectly normal to charge rent as your kid gets older. Maybe wait until they are 21 if possible to give them a little breathing room, but these parents also made a lot of sacrifices and have bills to pay as well. It usually ends up as a token amount which helps the child understand the dynamics of the real world and the fact we must all pay for somewhere to live. It still allows them to save if they are paying half or a third of normal rent for the area and they should be grateful for that help. Often what happens is the money gets saved by the parent on their behalf and given at the time the child moves out, but there's no obligation to do this if course.

[AmaGold70]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

Every responsible child shouldn't wait for their parents to make these demands from them as long as they are working and earning money, this daughter is just being ridiculous and ungrateful. Contributing $75 to the house isn't the end of the world as it is even cheap compared to living alone, as an adult that is earning money it is only sensible to help your old parents lessen the weight of responsibility and make them feel relieved, it is so inappropriate to watch your parents @60yrs old still paying the bills at home alone for you @20/30yrs. Our parents have sacrificed a whole lot raising us and the only thing we can do for them is to do the same for them by helping with the bills if we still live under their roof. In my culture our parents don't ask us for rent and that's because we know exactly what to do and that's taking up some of the bills once we start earning.

[Cookdata]

First of all NOO!
Secondly, it really depends on where you are from or what culture you belongs to or what religion you follow.

In our culture we live with our parents and there isn't any rents associated with that. Everyone does their shares as part of the family. When children grows up, they are the one to take responsibilities and parents just retires.

As for other places such culture might be a common thing. Like for example in the USA. I even heard childrens needs to make appointments to meet with their parents. Umm that doesn't seems ideal.

I think this depend on situations of the parent at that moments and how financial stable everyone is at that moment. I have seen parent that has nothing, like nothing to their names but their children became something and they becomes the head of the family, they send money for the parent and take care of the family but the parent don't take it as an obligation for them to do, they see it as some kind of thing to support them so they can enjoy the fruit of their labour.

I think it's natural to help your oarmet if you live with them and support them financially but it's not a responsibility for the children to take. It's not a norm to be practice and this can only be a concern if the kids have and the parent doesn't have. If the parents have the means to pay the rents and provide everything for the family, it is going to be a shame for parent to be asking their children to provide for the family even if the children have the money.

[Lanatsa]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

Every responsible child shouldn't wait for their parents to make these demands from them as long as they are working and earning money, this daughter is just being ridiculous and ungrateful. Contributing $75 to the house isn't the end of the world as it is even cheap compared to living alone, as an adult that is earning money it is only sensible to help your old parents lessen the weight of responsibility and make them feel relieved, it is so inappropriate to watch your parents @60yrs old still paying the bills at home alone for you @20/30yrs. Our parents have sacrificed a whole lot raising us and the only thing we can do for them is to do the same for them by helping with the bills if we still live under their roof. In my culture our parents don't ask us for rent and that's because we know exactly what to do and that's taking up some of the bills once we start earning.

Actually it is just that a common sense part for you as their children on which even though we arent that obligated but at least we do have that common sense on seeing on whats the current condition of your parents. If you do saw that they are that needing on help on something then it would be just that right that you should be having that support at least. Dont think about being that getting advantage or something like that. Come to think that you wont be able to reach out that kind of situation in life i it werent of your parents do the hard work while you are still young and been raising you all the way. We shouldnt be selfish and lets do our best on supporting or helping our parents as much as we can. Dont think about those other kids been trying out to elaborate that they arent that obligated to do so. Always be mindful and be grateful on what your parents have done into you and not just that thinking up with those things just because you dont like for you to help them up. Also, you are still at the house or under your parents and at the moment that you do have a job then you can help them out at least on the rent.

There are parents who do just that being silent but they are already that struggling into something. We are those parents that we dont like on making up some burden into our kids but as the one who had been living in together with your parents then it would be just that right that you should be that helping them at least or paying up the rent or whatever the expenses that you do have in your house. You are the ones will be at least having that kind of common sense on what are the things that is happening. You wont be that blind or numb enough on not to see about into those things which are happening. There are those situations that you do just becoming that too blind on whats happening around and thats why you do just that make it happen.

[kyman1]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

Children are now soft and arrogant, if your 10 years old it's understandable but I think as soon as you hit 16-18 you should start working stop complaining. They feel like the family is required to take care of them but they are adults now they can work, they should contribute more and be happy about it, that they are helping their OWN family (really not helping just lowering cost of some of the things you use probably you do more expenses than that).

[gibrab16]

1. Teaches responsibility – Many people (and even financial experts) say that contributing to rent or bills helps young adults understand real living costs, budgeting, and prioritizing expenses. It feels closer to the “real world” of adulting.
Moneywise
+1

2. Fair contribution – If the child is earning, it’s not unreasonable to share the increase in utilities, groceries, etc. Parents aren’t asking for extra profit, just to keep things fair.
Bored Panda

3. Common practice – Surveys and discussions show lots of families do this, sometimes even charging a nominal amount, or saving that money for the child’s future instead of spending it on bills.
Grown and Flown

[YUriy1991]

Children are now soft and arrogant, if your 10 years old it's understandable but I think as soon as you hit 16-18 you should start working stop complaining. They feel like the family is required to take care of them but they are adults now they can work, they should contribute more and be happy about it, that they are helping their OWN family (really not helping just lowering cost of some of the things you use probably you do more expenses than that).

This wouldn't happen if their parents had given their children a good education. Every child has a natural desire to help ease their family's burden. Once they have their own income, they will give it voluntarily without being asked. Too many children today are burdening their parents, with various consumerist desires that put a heavy burden on their parents' finances. However, I think it's perfectly natural for parents, after working hard, to support their children's education and needs. Once their children are successful, those parents have the right to ask their children to help ease their burden with the money they earn from work.

[lornadane]

A balanced approach, in my opinion, looks like this:
Agree on a small, predictable contribution
Keep it lower than market reality
Use it as a teaching tool, not leverage
In some cases, parents can even secretly save that money and give it back later to help the child move out — a strategy many parents quietly use

[Jateng]

First of all NOO!
Secondly, it really depends on where you are from or what culture you belongs to or what religion you follow.

In our culture we live with our parents and there isn't any rents associated with that. Everyone does their shares as part of the family. When children grows up, they are the one to take responsibilities and parents just retires.

As for other places such culture might be a common thing. Like for example in the USA. I even heard childrens needs to make appointments to meet with their parents. Umm that doesn't seems ideal.

Children and parents handle money often depends on custom and culture. Ideally parents should not have to demand money from their children. it is the duty of children to support their parents voluntarily and contribute to their well-being. This is a value every child should adopt. in some cases, children leave their parents to live alone in old houses, which is truly heartbreaking. Children should invest in their parents comfort, just as their parents invested in them. However parents try to remain financially strong on their own, so they do not have to ask for money from their children. They can do this by keeping savings, investing in assets, or owning property that generates income.

[rangga28]

Children and parents handle money often depends on custom and culture. Ideally parents should not have to demand money from their children. it is the duty of children to support their parents voluntarily and contribute to their well-being. This is a value every child should adopt. in some cases, children leave their parents to live alone in old houses, which is truly heartbreaking. Children should invest in their parents comfort, just as their parents invested in them. However parents try to remain financially strong on their own, so they do not have to ask for money from their children. They can do this by keeping savings, investing in assets, or owning property that generates income.

I think it depends on each family's personal preferences, and the procedures likely vary. If all family members have equal incomes, there might not be a rule forcing children to share part of the household's operating costs, and they might support each other unconditionally. However, if only the child has a more adequate income, it's better to voluntarily help their parents in any way. I'm sure some parents don't force their children to give, and instead, they're more happy to see their children enjoy their success.

[Fakhrulenclix]

Children are now soft and arrogant, if your 10 years old it's understandable but I think as soon as you hit 16-18 you should start working stop complaining. They feel like the family is required to take care of them but they are adults now they can work, they should contribute more and be happy about it, that they are helping their OWN family (really not helping just lowering cost of some of the things you use probably you do more expenses than that).

This wouldn't happen if their parents had given their children a good education. Every child has a natural desire to help ease their family's burden. Once they have their own income, they will give it voluntarily without being asked. Too many children today are burdening their parents, with various consumerist desires that put a heavy burden on their parents' finances. However, I think it's perfectly natural for parents, after working hard, to support their children's education and needs. Once their children are successful, those parents have the right to ask their children to help ease their burden with the money they earn from work.

It's all more about self-awareness. I think every adult will feel that way toward their parents, regardless of the form they feel. It could be an attempt to repay what their parents have given them since childhood, even to their success.
And regarding some people who are lazy and solely dependent on their parents, I believe that's all the fault of the upbringing and education their parents provided. I believe that, fundamentally, everything that emerges from a child as an adult is the impact of what their parents have provided, from their education, their environment, and even their parenting style.

[Fortify]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

Demand rent? Like the rest of the world would expect them to pay if they moved out? It's absolutely fair to ask for a contribution to the household as children become adults, but parents will often only take a token amount or a fraction of a rent that people might expect to pay in the market. There's a certain point where a person needs to understand and face the realities of life, so having a light introduction to it at a young age is necessary. It's what kids who would be heading to university will start paying as well.

[Pikiboy]

In my own perspective collecting or taking money from your children to solve some issues in the family because he/she is a working class is not really the right ideology,if the child is above 30years he/she can choose to be contributing to the family with any little token not by forcing on them, but why would parents be collecting money from there children when they are supposed to be providing for there children till when they can be independent, parents should be able to give there children good education and training for there children to grow financially to a standard which they can be productive and then take care of there parents and not collecting money from them when time has not reached to balance the equation it is the duties of every children to take care of there parents when they have money so collecting money from the children from growing stage is not a good encouragement

[8rch7]

Demand rent? Like the rest of the world would expect them to pay if they moved out? It's absolutely fair to ask for a contribution to the household as children become adults, but parents will often only take a token amount or a fraction of a rent that people might expect to pay in the market. There's a certain point where a person needs to understand and face the realities of life, so having a light introduction to it at a young age is necessary. It's what kids who would be heading to university will start paying as well.

How bad ideas from parent demand rent to their daughter around 75$ every month although his daughter already got job, in my country called with sandwich generation where the daughter or children have to give all salary from their working to parent until forgetting to buy something for their self. Firstly the parent must understand well about the position of their children although have got job and earn salary absolutely they will spent few percent for his parent without ask them to add bill 75$ every month.
In my opinion, before becoming parent we must understand all about responsibility for them and if giving good education absolutely the children will respect for parent and will help them for every month if already have good job and earn enough salary payment. So don't push them have to pay bill 75$ every month but the children have own initiation giving to their children.

[aysha9853]

I think it really depends on the situation and how it’s handled asking a working child to contribute a bit for bills can teach responsibility and budgeting the problem starts when it feels like punishment instead of support If parents are clear that the goal is helping them grow, not squeezing money, most kids will understand.