Is it Ideal for parents to demand rent from their child who stays with them?

[DrBeer]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

If the child has no income, then the answer is “absolutely not!” If the child has no income, but the parents have decided that he or she should partially pay for living in the parents' home, then please also pay the child for, for example, his or her housework—cleaning the apartment, taking out the trash, walking the dog, washing dishes, and other work that the child can do.
If the child already earns money but lives with their parents, then it would be logical for the child, as a full member of the family who consumes services, to pay for them.

[8rch7]

If the child has no income, then the answer is “absolutely not!” If the child has no income, but the parents have decided that he or she should partially pay for living in the parents' home, then please also pay the child for, for example, his or her housework—cleaning the apartment, taking out the trash, walking the dog, washing dishes, and other work that the child can do.
If the child already earns money but lives with their parents, then it would be logical for the child, as a full member of the family who consumes services, to pay for them.

The parent responsibility for the children by giving them residence not matter has no income or not because the parent responsibility prepare all before planning to have children. Just simple residence enough depend the parent economic condition and pay education cost exactly until how parents' financial capabilities. If later the children has own income if come from good family the parent will not ask to pay resident cost and want to see his children get stable with financial.
For housework like cleaning, washing and other kids of house work I think for children need to do it to help their parent maybe lack time due over working every day. When I am still children around 12 to 15 years old spent my time helping my parent from cleaning the house, washing until helping them in the farm.

[Hispo]

I think it would depend on the context of each family and the culture they live in, I mean... There are cultures in which women are not even allowed to work outside of their household, cooking cleaning around and raising their children.
In the context of the west and liberal democracies, it is acceptable and even expected to see working adult children to contribute to the household budget, even if it is a minimum amount compared to the actual expenses related to rent, services, food and health.

At least here in Venezuela, adult children are supposed to give money to their parents, if they continue to live in the same family house and have not decided to move out.

[bakasabo]

If the child has no income, then the answer is “absolutely not!” If the child has no income, but the parents have decided that he or she should partially pay for living in the parents' home, then please also pay the child for, for example, his or her housework—cleaning the apartment, taking out the trash, walking the dog, washing dishes, and other work that the child can do.
If the child already earns money but lives with their parents, then it would be logical for the child, as a full member of the family who consumes services, to pay for them.

I think the problem is that child see parents as life-time sponsors.  Some children find it comfortable to continue living with parents, when they graduate from school and university. All those «I am still trying to find myself and havent decided who I want to be or where I want to work». It is so nice when food is always ready, it is clean at home, parents even give pocket money. If I had a child who is 25+, who isnt planning to find work, I would one day ask to pay for rent or to completely keep the house. I would not pay my child if he or she at such age clean my house. Paying for house labor works only with little children to show them that each work should be rewarded.

[Donk1]

The only one I experienced when I was a teenager was when I told my mom to help me save some money, and at the end of the day she doesn't give me back. Well it was fun though, because as a kid my parents where the taking care of me...​That said it's not actually bad to ask for money from your children even if it's for house rent and unfortunately it's not still good. Why Because they should be very aware that their children are trying to start their life and build their future, so doing that would indeed keep drawing them backwards. But the most painful part of it all is when you, as a parent do not know what the child is going through. All you know is that he or she  is earning money and then you tend to take advantage of it by always asking. Well to me that's lack of maturity.​Overall to me as a child who lives with their parents you can contribute little but only when it's an emergency or you just want to ,apart from that it's very wrong to bill your child staying with you that' all bro....

[letteredhub]

Base on my experience I agree with this because at least you can help each other if you tried to calculate the expenses if you will go outside the custody of your parents you will see it's more expensive than living with them at least you can make a saving if you will live with them but of course it has a cons and prons. If you are still dependent with them you will not grow on your self make a decision on your own, do on your own of course it seems you are being dependent because they will notice most of your activities but the expenses is less and you can make a savings until you can make to survive now at your own.

I could recall when I had my first job and was still living under my parents roof the difference when I moved out to be on my own totally being responsible to all my bills including rent was obvious on me. However, there were certain things I didn't have consider anymore as it were when I was living with them, things like trying hard to not keep late nights or coming back for my work very late from my official closing time. Because I have to be asked about what happened, and also couldn't bring myself to enjoying certain adulthood privacy. Though the expenses increased later on when I moved to stay on my own, but life outside them made me grow thick skin in terms of making certain choices subsequently.

[DrBeer]

If the child has no income, then the answer is “absolutely not!” If the child has no income, but the parents have decided that he or she should partially pay for living in the parents' home, then please also pay the child for, for example, his or her housework—cleaning the apartment, taking out the trash, walking the dog, washing dishes, and other work that the child can do.
If the child already earns money but lives with their parents, then it would be logical for the child, as a full member of the family who consumes services, to pay for them.

The parent responsibility for the children by giving them residence not matter has no income or not because the parent responsibility prepare all before planning to have children. Just simple residence enough depend the parent economic condition and pay education cost exactly until how parents' financial capabilities. If later the children has own income if come from good family the parent will not ask to pay resident cost and want to see his children get stable with financial.
For housework like cleaning, washing and other kids of house work I think for children need to do it to help their parent maybe lack time due over working every day. When I am still children around 12 to 15 years old spent my time helping my parent from cleaning the house, washing until helping them in the farm.

I have a slightly different view. Parents are responsible for their children, that's a fact. But parents are not their children's providers. Parents' job is to raise their children, educate them, help them in the early stages, and teach them to be independent! Otherwise, they will grow up to be dependent.
Regarding payment for housework, I mentioned it as an option in cases where parents “demand payment” from a child who has no job and/or income. In such cases, there should be some balance—if you demand payment before the child becomes independent, then give them the opportunity to earn money at home. 
       

[Jody.Drummer]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

If the child has no income, then the answer is “absolutely not!” If the child has no income, but the parents have decided that he or she should partially pay for living in the parents' home, then please also pay the child for, for example, his or her housework—cleaning the apartment, taking out the trash, walking the dog, washing dishes, and other work that the child can do.
If the child already earns money but lives with their parents, then it would be logical for the child, as a full member of the family who consumes services, to pay for them.

For children who are already working and earning an income, it is natural that they can help support their family's financial situation. I don't think any parent would force their child to pay rent, but perhaps they would ask for help to meet their needs. However, for parents who are sensitive, they will do it to their children. I myself would not think of requiring children who live with me in the future, but at least they as children should be aware of going to work and earning an income and then helping the family's situation so that they do not always rely on their parents for their needs.

[Livingleged]

Just came through this now it might be old but I just have to put down my contribution. I’m of the opinion that children who still live with their parents but have a stable income should also assist in paying the rent of the house if the parent are struggling with it. Even if the children are not fully independent yet thats a way of preparing them for the live ahead.

It teaches financial responsibility and real world responsibility because helping in the paying of rent help young people learn the crucial part of budgeting, prioritising expenses and managing fixed cost like housing. This insensitive are required for adult if not groomed that way they might struggle with those responsibilities later.

[bakasabo]

If the child has no income, then the answer is “absolutely not!” If the child has no income, but the parents have decided that he or she should partially pay for living in the parents' home, then please also pay the child for, for example, his or her housework—cleaning the apartment, taking out the trash, walking the dog, washing dishes, and other work that the child can do.
If the child already earns money but lives with their parents, then it would be logical for the child, as a full member of the family who consumes services, to pay for them.

The parent responsibility for the children by giving them residence not matter has no income or not because the parent responsibility prepare all before planning to have children. Just simple residence enough depend the parent economic condition and pay education cost exactly until how parents' financial capabilities. If later the children has own income if come from good family the parent will not ask to pay resident cost and want to see his children get stable with financial.
For housework like cleaning, washing and other kids of house work I think for children need to do it to help their parent maybe lack time due over working every day. When I am still children around 12 to 15 years old spent my time helping my parent from cleaning the house, washing until helping them in the farm.

I have a slightly different view. Parents are responsible for their children, that's a fact. But parents are not their children's providers. Parents' job is to raise their children, educate them, help them in the early stages, and teach them to be independent! Otherwise, they will grow up to be dependent.
Regarding payment for housework, I mentioned it as an option in cases where parents “demand payment” from a child who has no job and/or income. In such cases, there should be some balance—if you demand payment before the child becomes independent, then give them the opportunity to earn money at home.         

Parents today give opportunity to earn from very childhood. From keeping the house, to helping them at work. My parents were paying me vacuum cleaning our flat and cleaning dust. It was my weekly duty. However, I did not get paid for washing dishes. It was an unspoken rule that  I had to clean after myself and help parents. From age 12 or 14 I was helping my mother at work, doing «paper work» at work (I had to put documents in transparent files/scan them). Parents gave me lots of opportunities to earn cash money. There children in the hood or among friend, who were receiving everything «at request». For example I had to save and earn money to buy video console, when others got it «just as a random gift». Children who got used to receiving everything without struggle, live with parents for as long as possible and they imo should be charged for staying at parents house.

When I graduated from school and went to university, during practice (still living with parents) I was working part time and spend half of salary on «house». My duty was to pay for the internet, as I was its frequent user. I also add money (my free will) when parents were buying some expensive stuff (big tv, did some repairs at home). That was not a «direct payment for rent», but I was involved into expenses on the house. And I find if fair to do so.

[Juicyhome]

This sounds funny, I can only imagine. But must the children wait for their parents to add for the rent before they will support? It's just too funny, if you know your parents are not well to do parents and you have the resources to pay the rent you should do it before they ask for it. But on the other hands, for a child to still stay with their parents it's obvious they have no money to pay rent to stay in their own, let the parents understand them.

I don't see anything wrong with parents asking their children to contribute for house rent but it it be demand with love and not with grudges of force. Because it can lead them into social vices.

[LOVER BOY 422]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

If the child is working and decided to stay with his people I don't see anything wrong if the parents demand money from him or her is just to tell the child that the parents doesn't have, assuming they have they will not even ask him about it,but since they don't asking their children to bring money is not bad at all , except the parents has money and still asking for money from their children is bad.
Mark my points am not judging on one side here.

[Furious 7]

This sounds funny, I can only imagine. But must the children wait for their parents to add for the rent before they will support? It's just too funny, if you know your parents are not well to do parents and you have the resources to pay the rent you should do it before they ask for it. But on the other hands, for a child to still stay with their parents it's obvious they have no money to pay rent to stay in their own, let the parents understand them.

I don't see anything wrong with parents asking their children to contribute for house rent but it it be demand with love and not with grudges of force. Because it can lead them into social vices.

For certain conditions it does end up being a bit of an odd situation but I think the situation where parents always use their children as a form of investment always happens and it may even be like that in our own environment.
There are some cases in the neighborhood that I live in as if the child becomes part of the future investment when they are older then inevitably they have to support their parents in terms of needs, especially for economic conditions so it's like they (the parents) create their own version of a money-making machine with their children as the machine.

This situation is quite strange indeed when we talk about sacrifice, but not a few parents make this a momentum because they think that children are part of them who certainly must be ready to bear when they don't want to work or just want to relax at home which in the end this is like an unwritten culture in the family.
But that's probably only a small percentage of parents who make this an object because there are still many parents who really don't even want to bother their own children and I still adhere to this until now because for me as long as I am able then why hope for others including our own children.

[Osiokwudiri]

In my region is a capital no. Your children can't pay rent in there
 own house. When your children grow big they go out and rent another house.

[Fortify]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

It's highly dependent on individual circumstances, there are all sorts of cases where parents may charge and probably should not charge. Sometimes there can be requirements like "you can stay here for free as long as you are in education" even through university in some cases. Then there may be the case where their child has a tough time finding a job, but is making genuine efforts, which you might accept up to 21 or even 25 for them to be living rent free - but that's an extreme case. Potentially if they are supporting the house in other ways, chores like cleaning to a regular schedule, can actually provide a very helpful service to the parents as long as the time spent is justified. At a certain point and age though, the parents will need to encourage their offspring to move out and one way may be to start charging rent, but many people leave long before it reaches this point.

[Franklyn-wood]

This sounds funny, I can only imagine. But must the children wait for their parents to add for the rent before they will support? It's just too funny, if you know your parents are not well to do parents and you have the resources to pay the rent you should do it before they ask for it. But on the other hands, for a child to still stay with their parents it's obvious they have no money to pay rent to stay in their own, let the parents understand them.

I don't see anything wrong with parents asking their children to contribute for house rent but it it be demand with love and not with grudges of force. Because it can lead them into social vices.

I agree with you, but we need to consider and know if the child is mature to be able to foot the bb gun parents upkeep and rent, if they are up to age. another thing is to know if they are working, I mean doing something to earn a living. You don't expect a child who is jobless to pay rent.
In this part of the country most parents compare there children with other children with out knowing the kind of work they do to earn money which eventually can mount pressure on there own child forcing them to involve in shady work or business.
For a mature child to still live with the parents means a lot. Either they are not financial capable of paying rent alone due to there financial strength or they already set a goal to achieve while they remain with there parents.
It's very important to know the mental and finally strength of that child before jumping into conclusion whether they should pay for their parents rent or not.
Every responsible child found it an honor to Carter for the needs of there parents no matter how small it is, and it has a lot of blessings attached to it

[acener]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

The way I see it is a great way to practice them or prepare them for the real life that they would face in the future.
They need to learn how to manage their income, pay bills, rent and food.
If they feel that it isn't acceptable then how would they even live their life when they move out, they couldn't just keep on freeloading to their parents when they are already earning their money.
It is also best for them to save up while they are staying at their parents house, don't spend most of their money on something unnecessary just because they have excess money due to little contribution that they pay with their parents.

[DrBeer]

If the child has no income, then the answer is “absolutely not!” If the child has no income, but the parents have decided that he or she should partially pay for living in the parents' home, then please also pay the child for, for example, his or her housework—cleaning the apartment, taking out the trash, walking the dog, washing dishes, and other work that the child can do.
If the child already earns money but lives with their parents, then it would be logical for the child, as a full member of the family who consumes services, to pay for them.

The parent responsibility for the children by giving them residence not matter has no income or not because the parent responsibility prepare all before planning to have children. Just simple residence enough depend the parent economic condition and pay education cost exactly until how parents' financial capabilities. If later the children has own income if come from good family the parent will not ask to pay resident cost and want to see his children get stable with financial.
For housework like cleaning, washing and other kids of house work I think for children need to do it to help their parent maybe lack time due over working every day. When I am still children around 12 to 15 years old spent my time helping my parent from cleaning the house, washing until helping them in the farm.

I have a slightly different view. Parents are responsible for their children, that's a fact. But parents are not their children's providers. Parents' job is to raise their children, educate them, help them in the early stages, and teach them to be independent! Otherwise, they will grow up to be dependent.
Regarding payment for housework, I mentioned it as an option in cases where parents “demand payment” from a child who has no job and/or income. In such cases, there should be some balance—if you demand payment before the child becomes independent, then give them the opportunity to earn money at home.         

Parents today give opportunity to earn from very childhood. From keeping the house, to helping them at work. My parents were paying me vacuum cleaning our flat and cleaning dust. It was my weekly duty. However, I did not get paid for washing dishes. It was an unspoken rule that  I had to clean after myself and help parents. From age 12 or 14 I was helping my mother at work, doing «paper work» at work (I had to put documents in transparent files/scan them). Parents gave me lots of opportunities to earn cash money. There children in the hood or among friend, who were receiving everything «at request». For example I had to save and earn money to buy video console, when others got it «just as a random gift». Children who got used to receiving everything without struggle, live with parents for as long as possible and they imo should be charged for staying at parents house.

When I graduated from school and went to university, during practice (still living with parents) I was working part time and spend half of salary on «house». My duty was to pay for the internet, as I was its frequent user. I also add money (my free will) when parents were buying some expensive stuff (big tv, did some repairs at home). That was not a «direct payment for rent», but I was involved into expenses on the house. And I find if fair to do so.

In my opinion, this is a wonderful example of how to raise a child properly and help them understand how the market works, what money is, what responsibilities are, and what work is! I am sure that this makes life much easier and simpler in this world, the financial world!
And of course, I agree that children should not be spoiled with money just like that, because it creates a habit, a very bad habit. Then they will simply demand, rejecting the idea of “go earn it yourself.”

[bubilas]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

This is a bit of a controversial topic and usually I know right away what I want to answer, but in this topic I had to think and weigh all the arguments for and against such parental behavior, which is aimed at the child and his paying bills because he got a job.
Overall, I think this is a fairly fair point of view. After all, our children always see themselves as adults. And as soon as they get a job, they should have a different understanding, in the sense that life isn't a fun time. If parents provide shelter for their children, then they should help pay their utilities.

[Berry2d]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

This is a bit of a controversial topic and usually I know right away what I want to answer, but in this topic I had to think and weigh all the arguments for and against such parental behavior, which is aimed at the child and his paying bills because he got a job.
Overall, I think this is a fairly fair point of view. After all, our children always see themselves as adults. And as soon as they get a job, they should have a different understanding, in the sense that life isn't a fun time. If parents provide shelter for their children, then they should help pay their utilities.

If your take on the matter is to support the motion that its right for parents to mandate there children to pay rent because they have a job, i think its not fair. It is the duty of your parents to provide the basic need of life to there children which are food, shelter and clothing but the obligation of children the help in providing a stress free life for there parents where they have the capacity to do so. When once child is buoyant financially, he finds all possible means of making life stress free for his parents that provided for him when he had nothing but not for parents to mandate them to do so because they have a job.