Is it Ideal for parents to demand rent from their child who stays with them?

[Jody.Drummer]

Spoiling children by always giving them what they want is wrong, and giving them money continuously is not a good thing, even though it is natural for parents to do so. Spoiling children too much will make them too dependent on their parents, which will certainly affect them as they may dare to do anything because it is not their ambition but because they think their parents can solve any problems that may arise.
It is better for children to be independent, as this is not only good for them but also makes their parents proud.

Spoiling children by fulfilling all their desires will make children always be in the wrong circle, they will always depend on their parents because they assume they will always be there to solve their problems, the negative effect is that children do not have their own ambitions. It is not wrong for parents to want to give the best to their children, but there needs to be limits and discipline. They should be taught to live independently so that they are better prepared to face challenges in life, this method can help them become stronger and more confident people. When parents give them the opportunity to face challenges and solve problems on their own, it will help them develop good skills and character.

Yes, as I said before, it is like that, and it is true what you said, it is not wrong to give something or fulfill the wishes of the child but behind that there must be limits or discipline as you said, because if there are no limits then the possibility is great that the child will continue to depend on his parents even though he is already at an adult age. Yes, of course they must be able to be independent because there is no way that when they get married they will still depend on their parents, which in my opinion is beyond the concept of independent living. But in my neighborhood there are some people who are married but still depend on their parents, so maybe that is their best choice too.

[blockman]

In a family oriented house, this is a normal thing that whoever is still in the house of their parents. They're obligated to contribute in every way they can. Be it a house rental but that will be spent for utilities and other important stuff in the house. Parents who does this isn't demanding but teaching their kids to be more responsible so that they're not going to be dependent on their parents and can count on themselves. That's teaching them the reality of life that it's not always going to be their parents that shall pay all of the bills especially when they leave all by themselves.

[junder]

The idea is for the child to understand that their parents love them, raise them, and educate them, but that as a member of the family, they also have responsibilities and obligations, and that later in life, they will have to pay for many of the things that their parents give them for free. It is important to make sure that the child understands and realizes this reality, rather than living with their parents at their expense until the age of 40+, as sometimes happens...

I agree with you, it's like the law of nature when children grow up they have to pay for the goodness of all that their parents have done to them, this is more on the awareness of the child as well I myself am also working on it because I want my parents to be able to live comfortably from the results of my hard work and produce. I myself now want to live separately from my parents but the problem is that they are old enough so I am trying to take care of them.

[DrBeer]

The idea is for the child to understand that their parents love them, raise them, and educate them, but that as a member of the family, they also have responsibilities and obligations, and that later in life, they will have to pay for many of the things that their parents give them for free. It is important to make sure that the child understands and realizes this reality, rather than living with their parents at their expense until the age of 40+, as sometimes happens...
 

Yeah, that’s just one amongst several ways of parents prepping their kids for what’s ahead. But the truth is that there should be some sort of age limit for this kind of preparation, some parents feel like as long as their kids have started earning some money, they should automatically start paying rent or share in the bills, regardless of their age, which in my opinion isn’t the right way to go about this.

This is probably also an extreme. It is wrong to demand that a 5-year-old child pay for housing, just as it is wrong to support a child until the age of 45!
There is no ideal advice, specifying the exact age of the child, family income, or child's income, when to start such a conversation.
But you shouldn't shield your child from understanding how adult life and commodity-money relations work. As I have already said, a child should not think that everything they want should be fulfilled immediately. They should understand that in order for them to have something, their parents have to work, and it is for their work that they receive money, which they then use to pay for housing, utilities, food, children's things, and toys.
  And here you need to smoothly lead up to the idea that being independent, including financially independent, is good and convenient.
 

[DiMarxist]

I don't see anything wrong here at the first place a child who is working should be able to support the parents and keep the house going. You can't be working and earning money without contributing to the house were you stay , depending on your parents when you still work is not a good quality it makes you look greedy and selfish. Maybe the daughter were not contributing anything to keep the house running that must have necessitated the mother to take her to court demanding her to contribute a monthly stipend.

[GiftedMAN]

I don't see anything wrong here at the first place a child who is working should be able to support the parents and keep the house going. You can't be working and earning money without contributing to the house were you stay , depending on your parents when you still work is not a good quality it makes you look greedy and selfish. Maybe the daughter were not contributing anything to keep the house running that must have necessitated the mother to take her to court demanding her to contribute a monthly stipend.

If it's about support when the father and mother is not capable of taking care of the rent then fine they can ask for the support of their children they may not even need to ask the children should know when they need assistance and he should be able to render them the assistance but in a situation where the both parents are capable of taking care of the rent then it's not good to demand for their children to pay rent. If the parents are ok financially they should nut expect their children to contribute to anything unless they do wish to do so.

[DrBeer]

The idea is for the child to understand that their parents love them, raise them, and educate them, but that as a member of the family, they also have responsibilities and obligations, and that later in life, they will have to pay for many of the things that their parents give them for free. It is important to make sure that the child understands and realizes this reality, rather than living with their parents at their expense until the age of 40+, as sometimes happens...

I agree with you, it's like the law of nature when children grow up they have to pay for the goodness of all that their parents have done to them, this is more on the awareness of the child as well I myself am also working on it because I want my parents to be able to live comfortably from the results of my hard work and produce. I myself now want to live separately from my parents but the problem is that they are old enough so I am trying to take care of them.

I completely agree with you—we are all indebted to our parents who gave us LIFE, raised us, and helped us become who we are today. My opinion is that once we become independent, we are OBLIGATED to help our parents by ensuring they have a comfortable old age. When we were helpless, they were our support. Unfortunately, over the years, our parents become as helpless as we were in childhood, which means we must take care of them!

[nara1892]

The question now is “is it wrong to help ease the burden of your parents who have given birth and raised you from childhood”? I don't think there is anything wrong, it is part of being filial piety to parents, so if for example our parents' financial situation is not good then it is an obligation for a child to help ease their burden, especially if for example the child is already working and has his own income.

[hopenotlate]

In my opinion, family relationships are completely unrelated to economic dynamics: in families, we support, help, and sustain one another; those who have more to give should do so if the other needs it and when they need it. The opposite could happen, and often in the country where I live, due to pension reforms and rising inflation, parents are no longer able to meet their basic needs once they stop working. Therefore, in my opinion, it should be the children who provide where necessary.

In the specific case of the article mentioned in the opening post, I might consider asking for a certain monthly rent payment with the sole purpose of helping my son understand what it would mean to live alone and fend for himself, but I would set aside those payments to give them back to them in full the day they decide to move out.