Being nice always bring disrespect.

[Tmoonz]

Being nice for me brings disrespect in the society. Alot of people today sees your niceness as foolishness whereas you can be accessed each time they want you. Many people in the society has endangered their life because of always wanting to be called a nice guy. Being nice can always make people call you nothing and disrespect you even though you are helping them. Anytime they call and you wish to help them they will praise but that day you choose to stop helping them they see you as a bad guy not remembering what you have been doing for them. Alot of people today has lost their  will power all because of being nice always so for me being nice brings disrespect and can also make you lose your status in the society. It is okay to be nice but ensure you have your boundaries.

[DYOR+BTC]

Life is filled of ups and down, helping at times may look tormenting and dangerous but that should not be enough reasons we should not help. I still can't forget an incident posted on social media by a consign citizen if Nigeria when he narrated his encounter last year, on his sad story he said on a very good day while come home from where he went, he saw someone who was seriously sick and had to rush the man to the hospital so he could save his life unfortunately the man lost his life, he went straight to the police to report the incident but was determined by the police because of his good works. After all set and done the DPO in charge made him saw hell but after his post on Christmas the police command looked into the matter and the money taken from him was refunded. It shocking to see such but that doesn't mean we should not help because that which you want from others, do also to those in need

[Queen uloma]

You are very correct, being nice in this society doesn’t pay again, I have learnt alot from people, because of how nice I was to them, I could remember when I pack in to my correct house, I was too good and nice, I make free hair and even do more which I can’t say all, before I knew it insult started coming in, I had to just cut off with everybody in this my compound, I just greet and pass, at times our niceness doesn’t pay, we need to keep boundaries and move on, because self respect and your mental health is very important, what I have understand about life is that you can’t please everyone, just do your thing and leave the rest for God.

[tsaroz]

I'm going through a similar phase at my job. I was too nice to everyone and never said no. I covered up for most co-workers absence and now I'm the one always cornered and missed. Now they send the people that don't work to every meetings and business travel while I need to stay at the office with no additional benefits.
Like with every problems, I decided to run from it and transferred my job to a different city, it has been over a month of my transfer but the manager is yet to provide me a Handover Completion Letter. I'm ready to transfer my responsibilities but he claims I need 1 more month to stay as he needs to find my replacement.
Now I'm in dilemma whether I should quarrel with my boss and demand the letter which I legally could or still be nice and stay a month more feeling humiliated.

[supine]

I know many people want to be nice to people in the society to have good behavior other people will like to have, but there are some people taking the advantage of being nice to people to disrespect nice people in the society. it has made some people not to be nice again to people in the society based on what they have experienced from those people who are nice from the society, they have been robby about their right and some have be cheated base on they are nice in anything they are doing in the society.

Being nice has made people to lose their lifes in the society, because they refused to allow law to involve in the issues. Can you share your experience being nice to people and what happen at the end.

They would only be disrespected if they allow it.
Being nice doesn't necessary means that you should just stay still while being disrespected.
Respect should be earned not given to those who doesn't even value it.
The problem with nice people is that they tolerate it too much, they should learn how to defend their self to gain self respect.
Treat people how they treat you, if they respect you respect them if they disrespect you then you should also disrespect them.
If you allow them to disrespect you it would only continue to do it.

[bakasabo]

Heard today at work "When you extend your hand to give help, don't forget to dodge the kick of gratitude". I think I can say that our society is corrupt. Not to trust, look for a catch in everything, kindness and politeness are considered weaknesses are so common for today. Many time when I was nice to someone, it ended bad for me. From not thanking to disrespect and try to use me. To treat people how you want them to treat you does not work at all.

[iBaba]

There are differences between being nice, being stupid, and being foolish. You don't need to be trampled upon before you realize that someone is taking advantage of your kindness. You need to be nice to those who deserve it and stay far away from those who you consider to be disrespectful. Know your boundaries. We have a lot of people out there who are always ready to take advantage of the next person.

I think it's even a two different things to be nice and be kind to people because oftentimes being nice to people have taken the course of being the people's pleaser. I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine and he mentioned this particular thing about being nice to people which is mistaken for kindness. Kindness he said is an intentional act you exhibit that is guided by boundaries and not by forcing an impression that may cost your peace, your dignity and self worth.

That's why theirs is a wisdom in you choosing who deserves access to yup and your attention as well. You can be polite to people without being too available, you can also be mind without being naive and have respectful without tolerating disrespect. As young people or people who come from humble backgrounds, we often find it difficult to draw those boundaries because we think it could stand in between our opportunities forgetting that such only makes you emotionally stronger and intelligent even in the eye of others.

[Johnlomape]

Heard today at work "When you extend your hand to give help, don't forget to dodge the kick of gratitude". I think I can say that our society is corrupt. Not to trust, look for a catch in everything, kindness and politeness are considered weaknesses are so common for today. Many time when I was nice to someone, it ended bad for me. From not thanking to disrespect and try to use me. To treat people how you want them to treat you does not work at all.

Those who are too relax thinking that when they help people, others will surely help them are having wrong mindset which should  be discarded because the reality is quite rough and tough to the way we are thinking. You can be a generous person and when you needed help, you could not see anybody that can render a hand of aid for you. This is why we need to know the accompany we are having  as friends because not all people are good. There are people that life is treating unfair and if they don't wise up, they might become a victim of circumstances.

[Emeraldo]

Too much of everything is bad they say, but as a nice person I think it's just a character of the person so weather he or she is appreciated or not he should continue being a nice person without thinking of the reaction of people who they are helping.
People will always say ill things about you and tend not to see the good side of you even when you keep being good to them because you don't espect everyone to be as rational as you people tend to have different characters and attitude and no matter how much good you show them they still show that innate bad character in them.

[Abdulzuruku01]

I know many people want to be nice to people in the society to have good behavior other people will like to have, but there are some people taking the advantage of being nice to people to disrespect nice people in the society. it has made some people not to be nice again to people in the society based on what they have experienced from those people who are nice from the society, they have been robby about their right and some have be cheated base on they are nice in anything they are doing in the society.

Being nice has made people to lose their lifes in the society, because they refused to allow law to involve in the issues. Can you share your experience being nice to people and what happen at the end.

Being nice in the society has a positive impacts and also a negative impacts because, the society that we're living now must people focus on their personal gain and they don't mind the consequences that will affect others as far as there aims will be archived. There was a man in our society who's famous and has been helpful to people  in the society in  terms of financial problems like hospitals bills, shelters and even feedings of poor masses to the extents that some people are eating there 3 square meals together with him. People will be praising this man whenever is passing by. But suddenly the wealth of this man becames insufficient and people who were praising him start isolating there self from him.

This might affect this man psychologically and if really he has been given a second chance,do you think that he will like to help people again?
These are some of the challenges that some people were facing which might change them from been nice to people.

[Juicyhome]

Don't be a nice guy especially to women,f not you will regret your life, women don't like nice men. They like tough men with control and power. If you're nice to them , they will disrespect you and turn you to their go whenever they need something.

You can be nice to only yourself and never accept anyone to disrespect you regardless of the relationship you guys have. Don't tolerate behavior that undermine your effort in the name of being nice. Always man up and accept any names they call you for being tough, tough people are called wicked people it's better to be wicked and respected than to be nice and be disrespected.

[RealNoblee]

I know many people want to be nice to people in the society to have good behavior other people will like to have, but there are some people taking the advantage of being nice to people to disrespect nice people in the society. it has made some people not to be nice again to people in the society based on what they have experienced from those people who are nice from the society, they have been robby about their right and some have be cheated base on they are nice in anything they are doing in the society.

Being nice has made people to lose their lifes in the society, because they refused to allow law to involve in the issues. Can you share your experience being nice to people and what happen at the end.

My dear if you are a (genuine) nice person, there is no form or rate of disrespect that will make you not to remain nice to people.
Being nice is a nature, it's cultivated.
Rather, there are people who become nice to people for gain, to recognized and when it's not in view. The passion for being nice and continuity crumbles.

So it's all about having a genuine heart in your act to being nice.
 

[Sarah_Jannat42]

I know many people want to be nice to people in the society to have good behavior other people will like to have, but there are some people taking the advantage of being nice to people to disrespect nice people in the society. it has made some people not to be nice again to people in the society based on what they have experienced from those people who are nice from the society, they have been robby about their right and some have be cheated base on they are nice in anything they are doing in the society.

Being nice has made people to lose their lifes in the society, because they refused to allow law to involve in the issues. Can you share your experience being nice to people and what happen at the end.

It is important to know when to behave well because if you always try to behave well, you will get caught. Because if you think about your daily behavior, how do you behave with a cow, how do you behave with a dog, or how do you behave with a donkey? Etc. Etc. There are certainly many differences between these behaviors. Just like in life, you have to behave according to the situation. Don't worry about who said what or not. And if you know how to behave well with everyone or want to be good to everyone, then in my opinion you are a person without personality. So you definitely don't want to lose your personality. I hope I have been able to explain it to you...

[mvdheuvel1983]

Don't be a nice guy especially to women,f not you will regret your life, women don't like nice men. They like tough men with control and power. If you're nice to them , they will disrespect you and turn you to their go whenever they need something.

Not all women can survive with tough men you don't have to hate women or become too hard on them because you had one bad experience with one particular woman. It is only a wrong woman that will disrespect a man who respects himself a good woman will not disrespect you because she's a home maker and a home builder who understands that men are not to be insulted if they are nice but to those men who are toxic to women they should be avoided so that they will not get killed.

[L E G E N D A R Y]

I know many people want to be nice to people in the society to have good behavior other people will like to have, but there are some people taking the advantage of being nice to people to disrespect nice people in the society. it has made some people not to be nice again to people in the society based on what they have experienced from those people who are nice from the society, they have been robby about their right and some have be cheated base on they are nice in anything they are doing in the society.

Being nice has made people to lose their lifes in the society, because they refused to allow law to involve in the issues. Can you share your experience being nice to people and what happen at the end.

Being nice is not the root cause of disrespect. It is the result of a bad character. People might want to take advantage of your good nature but it doesn't mean that everyone will take advantage of your meekness or uprightness.

I have assisted people who didn't appreciate my help and even started accusing me of wrongdoing. You don't expect everyone to behave the same way, so I overlooked them, and it will not stop me from being nice. Deciding to treat people badly because of how you were repaid for your good deeds will make the world a terrible place to live in.

Very true, bad character has some people missed their opportunity of becoming great in life, because in this life, most people value loyalty, if your approach is not welcoming to other people, which might make them feel like if they help people, they won't be grateful.
But, its nice to help people even though they don't appreciate because it pays to be good and kind to one another





Success is getting what you want; happiness is wanting what you get.
―W. P. Kinsella

[Felicity_Tide]

Heard today at work "When you extend your hand to give help, don't forget to dodge the kick of gratitude". I think I can say that our society is corrupt. Not to trust, look for a catch in everything, kindness and politeness are considered weaknesses are so common for today. Many time when I was nice to someone, it ended bad for me. From not thanking to disrespect and try to use me. To treat people how you want them to treat you does not work at all.

Accountability is now becoming a big problem in our society. People don't longer feel remorse or even think twice before carrying out an action that could affect others negatively. A world filled with self entitlement and disrespect to others. I was telling a friend a while ago, I think we need to start putting the society in order by making people who are defaulters, pay for their terrible actions. People are quick to saying that two wrong does not make a right, and they try to weigh only the actions of the victim, and condem it, while allowing the offender to go free. That should never be the case.

People who intentionally take others for granted,, or disrespect them for zero reasons needs to receive the same, because of course, treating them good doesn't guarantee you receiving the same good either. People who respect others deserves to be respected, and those who disrespect others should receive the same.

[DanDizzy2]

I agree being nice brings disrespect as consequence on most situations in this modern world. The dark side inside human beings is flourishing and becoming dominant these days, while the bright side is being suppressed.

But if you stop being a nice person, you are going to do exactly what the dark side wants you to do, so you will become one of those fools: just another asshole in this modern wicked world to cause pain to your fellow human beings.

People misunderstand politeness with weakness, and that is why they try abusing a polite individual. Just be proud of being a nice individual. Give others the benefit of the doubt. But as soon as you identify they are taking advantage of your politeness, impose limits, get away and maintain only essential necessary contact.

Relationships must be reciprocal, healthy and uplifting. If you see they are being abusive, toxic and harmful, stand for yourself and don't go further. Respect yourself in first place.

Being nice sometimes is good but most times it's disastrous and bring disrespect,some people due to good upbringing are nice because it was instill in them from child.while most people that disrespect people is due to hatred,anger and unstable state of mind.also being nice to people doesn't mean they will not disrespect you.just do what does not trouble your conscience .
 

[MissNonFall9]

I know many people want to be nice to people in the society to have good behavior other people will like to have, but there are some people taking the advantage of being nice to people to disrespect nice people in the society. it has made some people not to be nice again to people in the society based on what they have experienced from those people who are nice from the society, they have been robby about their right and some have be cheated base on they are nice in anything they are doing in the society.

Being nice has made people to lose their lifes in the society, because they refused to allow law to involve in the issues. Can you share your experience being nice to people and what happen at the end.

There are two classes of people in society, one class of whom is steadfast in their principles and the second class of people who are just opportunists. The point to be noted here is that those who are steadfast in their principles are initially despised or criticized by the people of the society, but after a certain time they realize that that person was actually right. But opportunists always try to present themselves good to all the people in the society, due to which that person also gradually loses his personality.
Now coming to the main point, the current society is a strange society where the level of social degradation is high. Each of us is responsible for this, because we may not be able to give our children the right family and social education. We have to remember one thing, and that is that instead of trying to present ourselves good, we all become good. Only then can we be free from all social problems.

[Uhwuchukwu53]

I'm going through a similar phase at my job. I was too nice to everyone and never said no. I covered up for most co-workers absence and now I'm the one always cornered and missed. Now they send the people that don't work to every meetings and business travel while I need to stay at the office with no additional benefits.
Like with every problems, I decided to run from it and transferred my job to a different city, it has been over a month of my transfer but the manager is yet to provide me a Handover Completion Letter. I'm ready to transfer my responsibilities but he claims I need 1 more month to stay as he needs to find my replacement.
Now I'm in dilemma whether I should quarrel with my boss and demand the letter which I legally could or still be nice and stay a month more feeling humiliated.

I stand to be corrected though is just an opinion, I believe you have been doing the job for the past months or years despite not knowing the actual duration you have worked, I will suggest you endure the one month, since you have something to lay hold according to your boss promise, though some work and it's setting may no longer give the worker satisfaction as one is already tired of the outcome, this very act by management is usually the course while those who are nice, regret their act and consider the other way round as the best toe to follow. If the promise of one month is not prank been faithful to the end is best to maintain the standard you have already established.

[Rockstarguy]

Heard today at work "When you extend your hand to give help, don't forget to dodge the kick of gratitude". I think I can say that our society is corrupt. Not to trust, look for a catch in everything, kindness and politeness are considered weaknesses are so common for today. Many time when I was nice to someone, it ended bad for me. From not thanking to disrespect and try to use me. To treat people how you want them to treat you does not work at all.

People who claim to be nice often make the mistake of being carried away by their niceness. If you want to be nice, you should know when to say no and be able to speak up when things are not going the way they should.

Some people, when they are regarded as nice, try to emphasize how nice they are, and this is where others will take advantage of you for being nice. If you must be nice, know yourself very well and never allow people to use you just because you want to be known as the nice guy.