I like to get married without having children.

[Scarlett_23]

Getting married is a completely personal matter. Some people can do it if they want, and some people can remain celibate for the rest of their lives if they don't. However, I consider marriage to be a bond that is a gift from the Creator. Through marriage, the bond between husband and wife is created. And life continues in an orderly manner.

However, it is not a matter of having children if you get married. There are many couples in the world who do not have children, so why do they not live together as husband and wife? Again, there are many countries in the world where husband and wife decide not to have children.

In fact, the main thing is for two people to live happily together for the rest of their lives.

[GIF-JOBS]

However, it is not a matter of having children if you get married. There are many couples in the world who do not have children, so why do they not live together as husband and wife? Again, there are many countries in the world where husband and wife decide not to have children.

In fact, the main thing is for two people to live happily together for the rest of their lives.

It is of course a personal matter whether you like having children or not, but I think that those who decide not to have children may dislike it now, but when they get older they regret it, because then the loneliness becomes more pronounced, people's situations will never be the same all the time, now you may be much better off without children, but what about your future? Will you be able to earn money all your life? Will your physical health always be the same? Won't you grow old? If you don't have children, it may be difficult to find sympathy, companionship and care in old age. If you find having children annoying now, you will regret it in the future, when you are no longer strong. So if you decide not to have children, you will only face negative situations as a result, may be not now, but surely in the future.
Not having children naturally is another matter, but if you deliberately refrain from having children despite having the ability, then the consequences will certainly be dire.

[Juse14]

I am a bit surprised by what the OP said, behind the many people who have been married for decades and hope to have children, but unfortunately God has not granted their wishes. But on the other hand, you want to get married but don't want to have children. I think this is a bit strange, because the birth of a child is the fruit of love from a marriage.

But this goes back to the readiness of each individual, because taking care of children is not an easy matter. But believe me, with the birth of a child, this will further strengthen your family relationship. Children can be a bond between husband and wife. And when you decide not to have a child, be prepared for the silence and solitude of your house, no one to greet you when you come home after a tiring day at work.

[Kagaru]

However, it is not a matter of having children if you get married. There are many couples in the world who do not have children, so why do they not live together as husband and wife? Again, there are many countries in the world where husband and wife decide not to have children.

In fact, the main thing is for two people to live happily together for the rest of their lives.

It is of course a personal matter whether you like having children or not, but I think that those who decide not to have children may dislike it now, but when they get older they regret it, because then the loneliness becomes more pronounced, people's situations will never be the same all the time, now you may be much better off without children, but what about your future? Will you be able to earn money all your life? Will your physical health always be the same? Won't you grow old? If you don't have children, it may be difficult to find sympathy, companionship and care in old age. If you find having children annoying now, you will regret it in the future, when you are no longer strong. So if you decide not to have children, you will only face negative situations as a result, may be not now, but surely in the future.
Not having children naturally is another matter, but if you deliberately refrain from having children despite having the ability, then the consequences will certainly be dire.

It seems to me that it greatly depends on people and their perception of life. Others really are content to live child-free and they establish very good support systems in the way of other friends or community and even through meaning-generating careers. Although children would be a good source of joy and support later in life, the solution of happiness or support in old age is not guaranteed by children. Even people who have children find themselves lonely or without support. Therefore I believe one should choose having or not having children out of love and desire rather than fear of becoming lonely later in life.

[Yablee0]

Greetings to the house, people with their different perspective of life, for me I see no reason why I want to get married without any plans of having a kids, children are blessing from God that complete a family. Having children in marriage comes with a lot of responsibility and challenges and at the same time come with blessings and fulfillment as well.

However, life is a choice, every persons with his or her own choice of life, but if you ask me my primary purpose of getting married is to build up a family and continue my leanage, thank you.

[BADecker]

Getting married without children is the way it is supposed to be. Children come later... except in the case where a man decides to support children of his wife from her former marriage.

Children are a blessing, especially in later life, even though there are many trials with child rearing.

If you marry someone with the idea that they will change their mind, and want to have children later, don't be surprised if they don't change their mind. So, choose with the idea that they might be telling the truth when they say that they don't want children. Then go find someone else.

[OkoroT]

Getting married without children is the best thing, because bible made us to understand that a man will grow to a setting stage, he will live his parents and get married (he who fined a wife, fined a good thing and obtain favour from God). A man need to get married before he will think of having children.

[Achalugo BTC]

Women have machinery built into them to 'make' children. She will never be happy in the long run with the idea of not having children. She can't help it. The best you can do is find a widow who has adult children already, and then simply put up with them when they visit. Otherwise, forget the marriage thing.

Good point, any man that is not ready to have children, should just forget about marriage thing, because there is no how that one will get married that sex won't be involved and if one is have an intimacy with their partner, their partner will surely get pregnant and there are some women that don't like practicing the act of abortion, they will want to have the baby, which you won't be able to escape than to accept the fact.

Also, babies are what brings joy or happiness to families, when one looks at them, you will be touch to carry them or be with them, and babies bring in luck to their family and every other positive things that makes the family to be whole and in harmony too.

[POPOLUV]

I don't like having children. It's easy and doesn't require much philosophizing and interpretation. For this reason, most of my relationships with women have failed to develop into a formal relationship. For me, marriage is all about finding a true life partner to share our ups and downs, and that's enough. Just as I don't like to be tied down to someone who is too attached to her family, I also don't like having children who might one day tire me out or whose rights I might have neglected. Don't call me a "pessimist," because I know circumstances change, and what's best for me today isn't guaranteed tomorrow, no matter how many guarantees there are. These are personal beliefs and preferences, and unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there are women who share my perspective, and most, if not all, consider marriage as a means of procreation.

Are there women who share this perspective? Where or how can I find one? (I know this is bitcointalk not tinder hhh). Why should the concept of commitment extend to procreation as if it were a natural outcome when we are the ones who decide that?

Btw, i live in arabic country with conservative culture. Marriage and having children is a must for everybody and people don't even dare to discuss such topics. What do you think guys?

As you said that you like to get married without having children, i know that it is a personal decision due to what you might have been passing through in a relationship or what you have been seeing within your environment with dose that is married, I'm not here to convince you to go back from your personal decision about marriage but i want to tell you more about having children in the family, because having children is the beauty of any marriage, and i know that getting married, there is many things that is involved which means you really need to meet the right partner because marriage is all about life journey that the both partners will stick together and think of the process where you have all the money and no children that can bear your name or family name when you are no more, that means your chapter have closed,  because you were not able to keep your family name going, and you should understand that once you have married and your people waited for years and there is know cry of a baby in your house, your people will start calling you barren and with this name that people will calling you, you can't afford to with stand the pressure coming from wife family and that of your own family, so i want to you to understand children is a bending agent to any family because children always bring happiness and everlasting of a marriage.

[KingsDen]

As you said that you like to get married without having children, i know that it is a personal decision due to what you might have been passing through in a relationship or what you have been seeing within your environment with dose that is married, I'm not here to convince you to go back from your personal decision about marriage but i want to tell you more about having children in the family,

I don't need a prophet  to tell me that you are a Nigerian. I wonder what you have to tell him about child bearing.

...because having children is the beauty of any marriage

Who said so?
The beauty of every marriage is finding a beautiful soul mate to love.

Think of the process where you have all the money and no children that can bear your name or family name when you are no more, that means your chapter have closed,  because you were not able to keep your family name going,

When you die, your chapter is closed. What does children bearing your name or family's name do to you when you are dead?

and you should understand that once you have married and your people waited for years and there is know cry of a baby in your house, your people will start calling you barren and with this name that people will calling you, you can't afford to with stand the pressure coming from wife family and that of your own family,

So you want to marry and born so that people won't call you barren and pressure you. It's obvious you are living for people, you don't have the right to advice OP who knows what he wants.

so i want to you to understand children is a bending agent to any family because children always bring happiness and everlasting of a marriage.

No points bro. You are coming from your cultural background. Grow up to the international standard and you will see from the angle Op is seeing.

[Fiatless]

As you said that you like to get married without having children, i know that it is a personal decision due to what you might have been passing through in a relationship or what you have been seeing within your environment with dose that is married, I'm not here to convince you to go back from your personal decision about marriage but i want to tell you more about having children in the family, because having children is the beauty of any marriage, and i know that getting married, there is many things that is involved which means you really need to meet the right partner because marriage is all about life journey that the both partners will stick together and think of the process where you have all the money and no children that can bear your name or family name when you are no more, that means your chapter have closed,  because you were not able to keep your family name going, and you should understand that once you have married and your people waited for years and there is know cry of a baby in your house, your people will start calling you barren and with this name that people will calling you, you can't afford to with stand the pressure coming from wife family and that of your own family, so i want to you to understand children is a bending agent to any family because children always bring happiness and everlasting of a marriage.

Children could bring joy and happiness to couples, but not all of them want kids. Some married people are comfortable living without children.

A dead man doesn't know what happens to his name or wealth. The families who gave birth to criminals regret having them.  I don't care about my name if I die.

Who cares about what people say about me? They can call me all sorts of names, that's their business.

[Kavelj22]

I don't like having children. It's easy and doesn't require much philosophizing and interpretation. For this reason, most of my relationships with women have failed to develop into a formal relationship. For me, marriage is all about finding a true life partner to share our ups and downs, and that's enough. Just as I don't like to be tied down to someone who is too attached to her family, I also don't like having children who might one day tire me out or whose rights I might have neglected. Don't call me a "pessimist," because I know circumstances change, and what's best for me today isn't guaranteed tomorrow, no matter how many guarantees there are. These are personal beliefs and preferences, and unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there are women who share my perspective, and most, if not all, consider marriage as a means of procreation.

Are there women who share this perspective? Where or how can I find one? (I know this is bitcointalk not tinder hhh). Why should the concept of commitment extend to procreation as if it were a natural outcome when we are the ones who decide that?

Btw, i live in arabic country with conservative culture. Marriage and having children is a must for everybody and people don't even dare to discuss such topics. What do you think guys?

As you said that you like to get married without having children, i know that it is a personal decision due to what you might have been passing through in a relationship or what you have been seeing within your environment with dose that is married, I'm not here to convince you to go back from your personal decision about marriage but i want to tell you more about having children in the family, because having children is the beauty of any marriage, and i know that getting married, there is many things that is involved which means you really need to meet the right partner because marriage is all about life journey that the both partners will stick together and think of the process where you have all the money and no children that can bear your name or family name when you are no more, that means your chapter have closed,  because you were not able to keep your family name going, and you should understand that once you have married and your people waited for years and there is know cry of a baby in your house, your people will start calling you barren and with this name that people will calling you, you can't afford to with stand the pressure coming from wife family and that of your own family, so i want to you to understand children is a bending agent to any family because children always bring happiness and everlasting of a marriage.

I can understand your position which is actually the position of the majority. I also respect your choice to have children as you consider it a source of happiness in married life with the right partner.
But let me discuss the idea from another angle by asking few questions: There are many infertile people who cannot have children for biological reasons; does this mean their marriage will not be happy or that they are not happy people just because of this? Personally, i don't think so.
There are people who get married in worst condition of war, as is currently happening in Gaza and Ukraine; do you see it fair to have children in armed conflict conditions such as wars?

Answering these questions can help you see the comcept as something that should be a responsible decision made rationally and not just an emotional impulse.

[AmaGold70]

I don't like having children. It's easy and doesn't require much philosophizing and interpretation. For this reason, most of my relationships with women have failed to develop into a formal relationship. For me, marriage is all about finding a true life partner to share our ups and downs, and that's enough. Just as I don't like to be tied down to someone who is too attached to her family, I also don't like having children who might one day tire me out or whose rights I might have neglected. Don't call me a "pessimist," because I know circumstances change, and what's best for me today isn't guaranteed tomorrow, no matter how many guarantees there are. These are personal beliefs and preferences, and unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there are women who share my perspective, and most, if not all, consider marriage as a means of procreation.

Are there women who share this perspective? Where or how can I find one? (I know this is bitcointalk not tinder hhh). Why should the concept of commitment extend to procreation as if it were a natural outcome when we are the ones who decide that?

Btw, i live in arabic country with conservative culture. Marriage and having children is a must for everybody and people don't even dare to discuss such topics. What do you think guys?

This is your choice and I respect the fact that you are being true to yourself and the ladies you have dated, but I must tell you that you will definitely have a tough time finding someone like the same opinion about kids because 80% or probably 90% of women in the world want kids because no matter how you try to justify your choices, no family is complete without kids. As humans we are bound to procreate and since you don't want it, I suggest you change your environment because living in an Arabic country with a conservative culture is going to make it hard for you to get what you want.

I'm a Nigerian and having children is one of the key to a blissful marriage, I need children around me incase I grow old, I take care of my old parents and my children will also take care of me, I don't wish to grow old without any children to care and pamper me.

[Kavelj22]

I don't like having children. It's easy and doesn't require much philosophizing and interpretation. For this reason, most of my relationships with women have failed to develop into a formal relationship. For me, marriage is all about finding a true life partner to share our ups and downs, and that's enough. Just as I don't like to be tied down to someone who is too attached to her family, I also don't like having children who might one day tire me out or whose rights I might have neglected. Don't call me a "pessimist," because I know circumstances change, and what's best for me today isn't guaranteed tomorrow, no matter how many guarantees there are. These are personal beliefs and preferences, and unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there are women who share my perspective, and most, if not all, consider marriage as a means of procreation.

Are there women who share this perspective? Where or how can I find one? (I know this is bitcointalk not tinder hhh). Why should the concept of commitment extend to procreation as if it were a natural outcome when we are the ones who decide that?

Btw, i live in arabic country with conservative culture. Marriage and having children is a must for everybody and people don't even dare to discuss such topics. What do you think guys?

This is your choice and I respect the fact that you are being true to yourself and the ladies you have dated, but I must tell you that you will definitely have a tough time finding someone like the same opinion about kids because 80% or probably 90% of women in the world want kids because no matter how you try to justify your choices, no family is complete without kids. As humans we are bound to procreate and since you don't want it, I suggest you change your environment because living in an Arabic country with a conservative culture is going to make it hard for you to get what you want.

I'm a Nigerian and having children is one of the key to a blissful marriage, I need children around me incase I grow old, I take care of my old parents and my children will also take care of me, I don't wish to grow old without any children to care and pamper me.

So, one of your goals when you decided to have a child in a miserable reality like the one in Nigeria was part of your retirement plan? So you are risking having a child and taking care of them for more than 20 years to ensure that in the last years of your life, when you are helpless, there will be someone to take care of you? This is absolutely one of the most selfish ideas.

What if your child suffers from the poor conditions of the country and lives in poverty? Will they be able to take care of themselves and their family, as well as you and perhaps their mother too? 

I believe your thinking is limited, and because of these ideas, you cannot be someone capable of proper upbringing. It is not surprising that you sacrifice the happiness of one of your children just for your personal comfort. Please stop having more children and do not teach your children these ideas.

[Lolipo]

Procreation isn't that Major reason of getting married but at least having someone whom you could confide on, share thoughts and feelings and ideas, but guess what?
What is the benefit of getting married without procreation then who takes over you or after you when you might have joined your ancestors? We see many people adopting a child or babies due to their inability to bear children,.or let say what if your parents didn't give birth to you what could have been of your existence today?

I'm not saying that humans should stop having children or that having children is wrong. Quite the opposite. My refusal to have children is a personal preference, and I'm not saying that those who aren't like me are wrong.

Marriage may be the only socially available means of living with a partner in one home. Keep in mind that I live in an Arab country whose culture doesn't permit extramarital relationships. Therefore, marriage is a means of living with a partner without social stigma.

Furthermore, marriage is not just a means of procreation. First, procreation can occur even without marriage, and second, the concept of marriage cannot be reduced to a mere channel for reproduction and the preservation of the lineage.

There is a philosophy called "antinatalism," which has many followers who believe that humans should stop procreating because the increasing human population threatens the stability of the entire planet. I'm familiar with it, but I don't share the same view. I don't oppose the idea of ​​procreation in general, but I simply believe that planet Earth, in its current state, is uninhabitable due to the numerous crises caused by humans.

Exactly, I would rather have children and not marry than marrying and not having children. The issue is that some families are staying together today because of their children. I have heard a lady said if not for my children I would have divorced this man. And another thing is because of old age, at least you will see people to look after you.

[Christianatyohuna]

I don't like having children. It's easy and doesn't require much philosophizing and interpretation. For this reason, most of my relationships with women have failed to develop into a formal relationship. For me, marriage is all about finding a true life partner to share our ups and downs, and that's enough. Just as I don't like to be tied down to someone who is too attached to her family, I also don't like having children who might one day tire me out or whose rights I might have neglected. Don't call me a "pessimist," because I know circumstances change, and what's best for me today isn't guaranteed tomorrow, no matter how many guarantees there are. These are personal beliefs and preferences, and unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there are women who share my perspective, and most, if not all, consider marriage as a means of procreation.

Are there women who share this perspective? Where or how can I find one? (I know this is bitcointalk not tinder hhh). Why should the concept of commitment extend to procreation as if it were a natural outcome when we are the ones who decide that?

Btw, i live in arabic country with conservative culture. Marriage and having children is a must for everybody and people don't even dare to discuss such topics. What do you think guys?

yes in my country their are women who share same perspective which you share,  there is an actress who is currently acting in Nollywood that said that she is not interested in having children that she don't want her breast to slack and there also some career women that don't have time at all for married talk of having, because they see taking care of children as stress.

[Joy- maker]

I don't like having children. It's easy and doesn't require much philosophizing and interpretation. For this reason, most of my relationships with women have failed to develop into a formal relationship. For me, marriage is all about finding a true life partner to share our ups and downs, and that's enough. Just as I don't like to be tied down to someone who is too attached to her family, I also don't like having children who might one day tire me out or whose rights I might have neglected. Don't call me a "pessimist," because I know circumstances change, and what's best for me today isn't guaranteed tomorrow, no matter how many guarantees there are. These are personal beliefs and preferences, and unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there are women who share my perspective, and most, if not all, consider marriage as a means of procreation.

Are there women who share this perspective? Where or how can I find one? (I know this is bitcointalk not tinder hhh). Why should the concept of commitment extend to procreation as if it were a natural outcome when we are the ones who decide that?

Btw, i live in arabic country with conservative culture. Marriage and having children is a must for everybody and people don't even dare to discuss such topics. What do you think guys?

I got your point bro, and I know people will think you're running away from responsibilities but that's not true, because marriage is by choice even the holy book made clear to us that marriage is not mandatory for a man or for woman and if anyone is doubting this my comment they can go and read 1 Corinthians 7:8 and 9.

Secondly there are women who share the same perspectives of yours, they don't want to get married talk more of bear children, because they see taking care of children as stress. Although there are some women who are just following what the holy book said, they don't want to get married because the holy book said is not mandatory for man or for woman to get married.

But as for me I we like to get married and I want my wife to bear me children, but not more than 2 children, because I can only handle two children hardship is much and things are very expensive and the government is not doing anything about it.

[Accardo]

Children could bring joy and happiness to couples, but not all of them want kids. Some married people are comfortable living without children.

A dead man doesn't know what happens to his name or wealth. The families who gave birth to criminals regret having them.  I don't care about my name if I die.

Who cares about what people say about me? They can call me all sorts of names, that's their business.

Death is not enough to challenge creation. Opposite sexes attracts and that's what marriage is about, a legal form of reproduction in the civilized world. It wasn't a choice for most people who didn't have kids in a marriage, to choose, many had difficulty giving birth. I'm not sure except for a contract marriage, that I've confirmed couple who stay fully happy with no kids in the house.

[Lolipo]

I don't like having children. It's easy and doesn't require much philosophizing and interpretation. For this reason, most of my relationships with women have failed to develop into a formal relationship. For me, marriage is all about finding a true life partner to share our ups and downs, and that's enough. Just as I don't like to be tied down to someone who is too attached to her family, I also don't like having children who might one day tire me out or whose rights I might have neglected. Don't call me a "pessimist," because I know circumstances change, and what's best for me today isn't guaranteed tomorrow, no matter how many guarantees there are. These are personal beliefs and preferences, and unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there are women who share my perspective, and most, if not all, consider marriage as a means of procreation.

Are there women who share this perspective? Where or how can I find one? (I know this is bitcointalk not tinder hhh). Why should the concept of commitment extend to procreation as if it were a natural outcome when we are the ones who decide that?

Btw, i live in arabic country with conservative culture. Marriage and having children is a must for everybody and people don't even dare to discuss such topics. What do you think guys?

Children are gifts from God although we can decide not to have children it's our personal decision. Me my own is that I would have loved to just go into contract with a lady and after the child birth , the baby will stay with you to some years and I will come and pick them.

[Lolipo]

The topic is an interesting one. Marriage itself is a divine institution for matured minds, but me instead of marriage without children, I will not even marry. The essence of marriage is for procreation. Though personal decision is also there. Some marriages are strong because of children, my own is that am just scared of even pregnanting my wife cause of pains I see women pass through during pregnancy, children in marriage makes home fun.