Pregnancy before marriage or after marriage, which do you prefer?

[Tmoonz]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

[Bryan jessy]

Everyone have different beliefs, and conditions. To me I will prefer the marriage before pregnancy, because pregnancy before marriage is against my belief though it is the same in some other traditions. Should in case you are doubting the lady you want to marry, I will advise you both go for some medical diagnosis, where you can speak to a medical practitioner, and they will direct you on the best diagnosis to perform.

I will say marriage before pregnancy is still very possible, the pregnancy before marriage was common in the ancient area, but not anymore, though some people still insist, with the healthcare system that can be taken care of.

[Dulen007]

While the traditional view of marriage before pregnancy is prevalent, I believe that pregnancy can be a valid reason for marriage.
Ultimately, the decision to get married or have children should be based on individual circumstances and what works best for you.

[Marykeller]

The ideology of getting pregnant before proposing the person you want to marry for marriage, I don't think is a good one because of the unforeseen circumstances that you don't know what will happen thereafter after marriage has been ordained.

Has the person thought of miscarriage, having a deformed baby, or not living to see the baby after birth? Because it's God who gives a baby. We shouldn't tell him the conditions that apply before getting married. What if the person you end up with gets pregnant for you and delivers a baby? What if God refuses to give you another baby? Would you question God for that?

What I am trying to say is marry someone who loves and understands you, rather than putting conditions on it before marrying.

[BADecker]

Sexual intercourse before formal marriage really IS marriage. But it is marriage without a formal contract of marriage... like prostitution.

Make it a legal marriage, before a judge or a minister/priest/rabbi of some sort. Or, make it a lawfully binding marriage by contracting together, with witnesses, in such a way that is not easy to break the contract. Why?...

FOR THE CHILDREN

I mean, how selfish are you, that for a bit of pleasure, you bring a child into life, and then:
1. Kill it off thru abortion, or;
2. Deny it the security of a home with both parents.

Life goes on. If the kid lives, it will survive. But place yourself into that position in your mind. Is that what you want to do to somebody else? How mean can you be?

Get married, and then fulfill your marriage promises.

[Kavelj22]

While the traditional view of marriage before pregnancy is prevalent, I believe that pregnancy can be a valid reason for marriage.
Ultimately, the decision to get married or have children should be based on individual circumstances and what works best for you.

Having children before marriage also represents a potential instance of irresponsibility. Most childbearing occurs without the consent of one or both partners, and therefore the choice to marry often leads to unsuccessful outcomes. Childbearing should be a conscious decision, not a situation imposed by force, simply because it requires a degree of responsibility that both parties must commit to, rather than a unilateral decision.

[betterthanSNnBTC]

You are going to die because you are going to die bud, everyone dies, who cares, issa game, a very serious game, but still a game, but yes 100% there is a ice age coming and it is going to be nasty for 1000's of years and none of their bunkers are equipped to handle the pole shift which will render all electronics useless.

Do you know the great escarpment of Canada? 725 kilometers, want to know why all of that land shifted all of a sudden?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1n-HMSCDYtM

You are insane.

Regards,

-Joseph Van Name Ph.D.

You just do not understand what causes that object in that video to flip like that in the video and never will.
I do and I know it happens every 50,000 years and we about there .

Tell me what is the inverse of the Planck length. How long do we have until we hit core? How long since the last pole shift.

lP​1​≈1.616×10−35m1​≈6.187×1034m−1

10^22 light years.

You now know how big the universe is now, how much longer if we cut that in half, because there is a north and south hemisphere before we collide at core?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iGKFpG9LueY

[DeathAngel]

Pregnancy after marriage is usually better because there’s more stability, support & less judgment from others. It just feels more planned & secure for the baby & the parents. But everyone’s different, it’s 2025 now, some people make it work before marriage too. What really matters is love, commitment & being ready.

[BADecker]

You just do not understand what causes that object in that video to flip like that in the video and never will.
I do and I know it happens every 50,000 years and we about there .

Tell me what is the inverse of the Planck length. How long do we have until we hit core? How long since the last pole shift.

lP​1​≈1.616×10−35m1​≈6.187×1034m−1

10^22 light years.

You now know how big the universe is now, how much longer if we cut that in half, because there is a north and south hemisphere before we collide at core?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iGKFpG9LueY

This is an insane Kamala Harris/Joe Biden word salad. HOW THE FUCK DO YOU GET 10^22 LIGHT YEARS?

Regards,

-Joseph Van Name Ph.D.

Of course, nobody knows how big the universe really is. It could be that just outside the solar system the universe is a big lens, that makes it look a lot bigger than it really is. After all, the only thing that we have that we can rely on is the electromagnetic waves that reach us. We might even be interpreting the Voyager information incorrectly.

Edgar Elmer Smith even wrote a science fiction novel, "Children of the Lens," - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Children_of_the_Lens_(novel).

The point is, the best we can do is settle down and get married and have children. Except for jvanname that is. Wouldn't really want genes like that in society.

[franky1]

due to divorce being so common. the whole belief that marriage ensures the security of a "family unit" no longer applies.

so those that marry and then find that the women cannot conceive still allows the guy an escape clause(divorce)
also he does not have to impregnate a women first then marry her.. he can marry her then try to impregnate her, knowing if things dont work out they can amicably divorce if there is also no love

my belief is that marriage does not secure the family unit if there is no love, no equal respect, no tolerance of each other.
marrying someone whom you dont love can be more detrimental to a childs raising, due to the child being raised in a negative environment

marriage should be about love, finding someone you want to be with for life and they want it too.

..
as for those that only want to interpret things via bible rhetoric (BD).. well jesus's* real dad didnt marry mary first.. so kinda hypocritical to then demand marriage before pregnancy..
(personally i feel* joseph got her pregnant underage and outside of marriage but mary didnt want him arrested and stoned for rape.. so made up the story that some ghost entity, which no one can find got her pregnant, she then played on the story, made it go viral and played on it for fame)

*imagining the story had some bases on real people that existed a few millenia ago

[Hispo]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

I believe it is better to have children after one has already gotten married and the relationship is very solid and established, both in the economical, emotional and personal sense, so when the couple decides to bring a child to this world, that child will enjoy the best conditions for his upbringing and won't experiment rough times in his childhood, like having to abandon his studies for the sake of making money working in inhumane conditions, such cases are common in countries like India and Pakistan. The couple in question needs to have a considerable amount of money as savings before even thinking of having children so education, food and healthcare for that child is guaranteed from the moment of their birth.
Having children before marriage usually means there is no planning on the table and makes it more difficult for parents to properly take care of them, forcing them to rush to get the money, time and resources necessary for that children to enjoy a sweet childhood and not to get through trauma.

[Iranus]

reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again

Infertility not only occurs in women but is also more common in men because men often have many bad habits such as alcohol, cigarettes, cocaine...these things have a significant impact on men's health. So don't blame or doubt the woman if both of you can't have children.
In addition, with the development of technology, medicine today has also made significant progress, any couple who doubts their fertility only needs to go for screening.


Sorry, but I feel like this topic is quite misogynistic and demeaning to women by assuming that only women have youthful exuberance and men don't. We are in the 21st century, not feudal times, women and men need to be treated equally.

[o48o]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

This is like weirdest conspiracy level of seeing things. Have you ever heard the term shotgun wedding? Because the concept of marrying after getting pregnant isn't anything new. Marrying isn't about "messed up wombs", but doing the right thing. What you are saying sounds like some weird andrew tate comment blaming women for lack of fertility, when it's usually guys who don't even want to get married or have kids in the first place.

Lot of the younger men fear getting anyone pregnant, because they are supposed to provide and be responsible after that. But when that happens, marriage is just logical next step (for most people).

[Ishicryptic]

Traditionally and religiously it is not just adviceble but compulsory that a couple should get married first before engaging in sexual activities, it was a shameful thing for a woman to get pregnant before marriage. But due to modernization and consensual sexual activities the rate of abortions have increased, we always hear that women can damage their wombs in the process which can prevent them from conceiving. Some men are therefore not taking chances, they will want to impregnate their would be wife first before marrying her. But this strategy can be flawed because a man can impregnate a woman and marry her then she loses the pregnancy after marriage and never conceive again.

People should marry for love and value, children are additional blessings to a marriage but if children don't come a couple should still love each other and be happy. If someone dies now he or she doesn't know if they have children or not, let us try to live happily with or without children.

[Salahmu]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

This was similarly what I was thinking will be the reason for some persons, however what do you even think about this? Actually the problem of most people is generalization without concrete facts, that someone sees or had a few ladies that has a womb issue doesn't necessarily mean that every other women has the same issues. Also using pregnancy to examine a lady before marriage might be the best idea for some persons but I don't see it that way because this could deprive someone there soulmate because there are women whom naturally it takes them years before conceiving and when the man decides to only try it for months and they were not able to they will become disappointed without knowing the lady is very healthy in her womb.

[passwordnow]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

That's their life to live. But if it's for ourselves, we would be careful on who we choose to go along with and sleep with. This problem is mostly with the girls and young women out there. They kinda live a life to just enjoy their youth and there is nothing wrong with that. But to go on action protection less, that's their problem if they allow it. To us parents, we'll teach our kids to be more sensitive on this issue but at the same time have awareness on what they have to do. It's best to preserve themselves to their love when they're ready to tie the knot.

[MykeAdams]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

Many men prefer their spouse to be pregnant before marriage. Many men have reasons for doing so due to past experience (youthful stage), they don’t want to get committed or engage themselves into marriage wish would not produce children.
But this is unfair if men continue this way i must say, because marriage should be based on values, mutual respect and more especially based on love. Most men think that having a child with their spouse before marriage is good, what if at the end you finally have a child, got married and after few years the two party struggle to live together.
Although fertility is very important in many marriages, but it certainly needs to be discussed maturely with compassion by both parties.

My conclusion and what I stand for is checking the fertility of a woman before marriage is not good at all, it’s unjust and shows signs of trust issues and inadequate commitment years to come. Fertility doesn’t guarantee a safe and healthy marriage while it’s important.

[tsaroz]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

Pregnancy before marriage had been a culture for some tribal groups but is no way a norm for modern society. Every couple should have opportunity to enjoy a child free married life. Being in a relationship is good but being in married relationship let's the couple know each other more closely.
A gap between your marriage and your child also allows you a buffer time to change your mind if you feel the relation is not working.

[Agbamoni]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

There is a way to check if the woman is fertile and can conceive a child without getting her pregnant. If people around your society wants to find solutions they should find it trough the right way. Getting the lady pregnant in other to prove that point isn't necessary. Is she a test subject or a lab experiment?

From research, there is common tests for fertility - hormone tests..which can be done if they visit the hospital

[LTU_btc]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

Very interesting observations, which I think is very far away from reality. Interesting from where you took these 90%? It more looks like random numbers than actual stats.
Yes, there is more babies who are born not in marriage than it was 20 or 30 years ago. But no way that's 90% and probably not even 50%.
If you ask me what I think. I think it's better when children is born in marriage, but if it's not, I don't see problem.