Pregnancy before marriage or after marriage, which do you prefer?

[Hispo]

I like pregnancy before marriage in the sense that you have already known that you wife to be is fruitful. Pregnancy before marriage also is also good because as a man you know that your manhood is also active. Pregnancy before marriage also shows that you are in a safe relationship that will produce children. Though marriage before pregnancy is also good but the danger of unfruitfulness will take its toll on you if your wife delays in getting pregnant.

I have known cases of people who would directly divorce their partners because they would not be able to have children, which are always heartbreaking.
Though, in this new generation of young people in the west, there are many who do not actually seek to have children actively. Actually, much of this Z generation rather first to secure financial stability before going for the expansion of the family.

Some of my friends have that mindset and I believe I share some of the benefits and reasons why people may want to stay childless. As long as both the man and the woman of the relation are okey with it, I don't see any problem with it.

[Ruttoshi]

I like pregnancy before marriage in the sense that you have already known that you wife to be is fruitful. Pregnancy before marriage also is also good because as a man you know that your manhood is also active. Pregnancy before marriage also shows that you are in a safe relationship that will produce children. Though marriage before pregnancy is also good but the danger of unfruitfulness will take its toll on you if your wife delays in getting pregnant.

I have known cases of people who would directly divorce their partners because they would not be able to have children, which are always heartbreaking.

This is a norm down here in my country. You will see a man not happy with his wife because she cannot give birth. The funny thing is that, the mother of the man will go and bring a different girl of her choice for her son to get married to and divorce his real wife. Some men fall for it and some don't due to the love they have for their spouse.

I believe that this depends on the mindset of both the husband and wife because some people are getting married because they want kids and if such people don't have kids, they wouldn't want to continue the marriage. In some part of my country,  children is more important than anything to enable the marriage work.

[Youngrebel]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

Pregnancy before marriage had been a culture for some tribal groups but is no way a norm for modern society. Every couple should have opportunity to enjoy a child free married life. Being in a relationship is good but being in married relationship let's the couple know each other more closely.
A gap between your marriage and your child also allows you a buffer time to change your mind if you feel the relation is not working.

Most women go into marriage because they're pregnant for the person they're dating,not necessarily because their are in love.getting married because of pregnancy is a no for me,get married love each other properly and the right way before thinking of children. pregnancy should not be  the reason why you are getting married.

[breske]

Everyone is different and thinks different
But I would say that things need to be planed before taking action
Most of people don't plan their day so how come they plan their life that's why it happen Pregnancy before marriage

[OkoroT]

Pregnancy before marriage is not the right thing for any young lady.
I prefer marriage before pregnancy

[Yablee0]

I like pregnancy before marriage in the sense that you have already known that you wife to be is fruitful. Pregnancy before marriage also is also good because as a man you know that your manhood is also active. Pregnancy before marriage also shows that you are in a safe relationship that will produce children. Though marriage before pregnancy is also good but the danger of unfruitfulness will take its toll on you if your wife delays in getting pregnant.

You are my kind of person my brother, pregnancy first before I will start thinking of getting married  to you because our present women now  are unpredictable, after they might have enjoyed their self, flex and commited all their numerous abortions in the past and got their womb messed up they will start looking for a man that will marry them with their damaged womb, funny enough most of them will prefer keeping you in the dark and if you are not lucky you will stay childless for something you have no idea of.

It very compulsory and mandatory for my woman or any female I want to consider my wife to conceived first before anything better follows otherwise I will just count you as a side chick.

[Aylanan]

In my experience, it really depends on the couple and their priorities. For me, I always thought it makes more sense to have children after marriage, just because it feels more stable and organized that way. But I know a few friends who did it the other way around and they seem fine too, so I think it just depends on what works for both people. Issues around fertility come up a lot in conversations nowadays, but I don’t think the fear of infertility should be the only reason to time a pregnancy before or after marriage.

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[Captor3971]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

In this world we have individual differences. But regarding pregnancy before marriage is prohibited,but some people's have taken it as normal thing which is not supposed be so.
In some environment it's a shame to the entire family and after the baby is born some mait say that to is face that is mother was a prostitute which is a shame to the child.
In respect to that if you can't trust the person you want to marry  i think no need of marrying her,because on how there's no trust between you people's you can move on  with another person you trusted no need of pregnancy before the marriage it's a prohibited please

[Ayers]

In this world we have individual differences. But regarding pregnancy before marriage is prohibited,but some people's have taken it as normal thing which is not supposed be so.
In some environment it's a shame to the entire family and after the baby is born some mait say that to is face that is mother was a prostitute which is a shame to the child.
In respect to that if you can't trust the person you want to marry  i think no need of marrying her,because on how there's no trust between you people's you can move on  with another person you trusted no need of pregnancy before the marriage it's a prohibited please

that really depends on the country, culture, and religion. but overall, the world has become more open-minded, and having a child before marriage isn't seen as something extremely serious or shameful in many places like it used to be.

that said, i agree that people shouldn't have a child before marriage, and they definitely shouldn't doubt their partner over it. don't use that as a metric to measure or test love. having children can be part of marriage, but it shouldn't be the only purpose of it. so, if the trust isn't there to begin with, you might as well not marry them at all.

[Taricoins]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

I think this narrative is one of the reasons we keep raising kids with trauma, personally I feel getting a lady pregnant first before marriage is a key indication that you don't trust that person and by the way, they are lots of medical tests that can be done for that. Without that marital obligation, although it doesn't weigh that much in this generation, what's the tendency that the man will still get married after the pregnancy ?

[Rhow]

The number you mentioned that 90 percent of men want to get pregnant before marriage may be just your opinion. In reality, it is not at all true, and you probably do not have any evidence to support what you say. Although I understand the reason for your concern. There are many couples who have been married for many years who have not yet had children. Again, do not think that just because a woman has been able to get pregnant before marriage, she will definitely be able to have children in the future. I personally would never want a woman to get pregnant before marriage, it is all prostitution.

We will have what we have. If luck is with us, your wife may get pregnant after marriage and give you a child. Again, if you have bad luck, you may not be able to have a child even after trying a hundred times.

[SuperBitMan]

In this world we have individual differences. But regarding pregnancy before marriage is prohibited,but some people's have taken it as normal thing which is not supposed be so.
In some environment it's a shame to the entire family and after the baby is born some mait say that to is face that is mother was a prostitute which is a shame to the child.
In respect to that if you can't trust the person you want to marry  i think no need of marrying her,because on how there's no trust between you people's you can move on  with another person you trusted no need of pregnancy before the marriage it's a prohibited please

that really depends on the country, culture, and religion. but overall, the world has become more open-minded, and having a child before marriage isn't seen as something extremely serious or shameful in many places like it used to be.

that said, i agree that people shouldn't have a child before marriage, and they definitely shouldn't doubt their partner over it. don't use that as a metric to measure or test love. having children can be part of marriage, but it shouldn't be the only purpose of it. so, if the trust isn't there to begin with, you might as well not marry them at all.

Yeah, the world has really changed and giving birth before or after marriage can be good or bad depending on the culture and religion of the people.
However, just like you said the world has really changed and giving birth before marriage is no longer seen as a bad thing, even those religious that don’t permit that people from that religion are doing it.

As for me, I will not come here and say that it is bad or it is right, people should learn to do whatever works for them, if giving birth before marriage is what you like you can do it. If you don’t like it then don’t do it. I will never criticize anyone for doing what they wish to do as long as it won’t harm the next person.

[Salahmu]

I think this narrative is one of the reasons we keep raising kids with trauma, personally I feel getting a lady pregnant first before marriage is a key indication that you don't trust that person and by the way, they are lots of medical tests that can be done for that. Without that marital obligation, although it doesn't weigh that much in this generation, what's the tendency that the man will still get married after the pregnancy ?

When judging pregnancy before marriage we should also understand that it doesn't go in one way as we always believes is the men that actually wants the pregnancy before the marriage because most times is the woman who wants it, so actually you shouldn't see all as something which is done out of distrust on the lady. Although you could be right on your last statement but however if a man wouldn't accept a lady just because she is pregnant for him actually means that even if they had finally gotten married and she conceived the man is likely going to leave her and the child so actually whether pregnancy before marriage or not the most important is being with the right person.

[Crakryptvest]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

I think this narrative is one of the reasons we keep raising kids with trauma, personally I feel getting a lady pregnant first before marriage is a key indication that you don't trust that person and by the way, they are lots of medical tests that can be done for that. Without that marital obligation, although it doesn't weigh that much in this generation, what's the tendency that the man will still get married after the pregnancy ?

If you you take your time to understand where at Tmoonz is driving at, he might be making sense, it might not actually be about trust issues, but people have hed experience like this and it is a lesson for some folks that want to get into marriage, about the test that can be done to know if both partners are fertile before the man can proceed with the marriage rites, are you aware that there are desperate women that can do anything to make a man marry them, she can decide that you guys will run the test in the hospital that she suggested, you might not be suspicious of anything.
For a man to have this, in his mind, he should have made his decision to marry the lady in question, to avoid  anyone getting hurt at the end.

[programmer3666]

In this world we have individual differences. But regarding pregnancy before marriage is prohibited,but some people's have taken it as normal thing which is not supposed be so.
In some environment it's a shame to the entire family and after the baby is born some mait say that to is face that is mother was a prostitute which is a shame to the child.
In respect to that if you can't trust the person you want to marry  i think no need of marrying her,because on how there's no trust between you people's you can move on  with another person you trusted no need of pregnancy before the marriage it's a prohibited please

that really depends on the country, culture, and religion. but overall, the world has become more open-minded, and having a child before marriage isn't seen as something extremely serious or shameful in many places like it used to be.

that said, i agree that people shouldn't have a child before marriage, and they definitely shouldn't doubt their partner over it. don't use that as a metric to measure or test love. having children can be part of marriage, but it shouldn't be the only purpose of it. so, if the trust isn't there to begin with, you might as well not marry them at all.

With the way relationships are fragile today, I will play devil's advocate here, I think getting pregnant before marriage is actually a shield to protect many men from lifetime heartbreak that is being dished around lately. This might sound a bit too forward and harsh, but that's just the honest truth. Because we have seen so many couples spend heavily on getting a glamorous and luxurious wedding only to find out later that their partner has a fertility issue or to find ot that their partner hide a medical issue from them. Before you know it, the marriage that was once sweet and cozy is filled with bitterness and dislike and due to pressure from family and close ones, the talk of divorce steps in. So having a child first proves that at least both partners are physically compatible and ready to build a family before they both put their signatures down to the legal contract that will bind them.

[Findingnemo]

I don't think the number is anywhere near accurate, it must be 10% or lesser. A man want to have their kid when they are financially stable and not because their woman can't have a kid that is a lame excuse what happens when men have problem with fertility and then women decides to leave them? Human wants to reproduce just like every other animal but marriage is not just having kids it is beyond those things and a couple can live a happy life with no kids at all.

[kingstep]

I think this narrative is one of the reasons we keep raising kids with trauma, personally I feel getting a lady pregnant first before marriage is a key indication that you don't trust that person and by the way, they are lots of medical tests that can be done for that. Without that marital obligation, although it doesn't weigh that much in this generation, what's the tendency that the man will still get married after the pregnancy ?

When judging pregnancy before marriage we should also understand that it doesn't go in one way as we always believes is the men that actually wants the pregnancy before the marriage because most times is the woman who wants it, so actually you shouldn't see all as something which is done out of distrust on the lady.

Wether it is the man that wants the pregnancy or the woman, lack of proper planning before bringing a child into the world doesn't always end well and that's the primary challenge that comes with having a child out of wed luck.

We've normalised fornication hence don't see it as a bad thing when the consequences of fornicating brings a child that both parents aren't ready to take care of. Pregnancy after marriage is the real deal.

[Stable090]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

I don’t think your percentage is right, I don’t really know where you got your data from, because in my country here, people still respect getting their woman pregnant after marriage. If I don’t trust a girl, I won’t even date her not to talk of getting married to her, for you to make up your mind that you want to marry a lady, then you should know that she is someone that you trust. If you have the feelings that a lady has messed up with her womb when she was younger, then why will you plan on getting married to someone like that, it’s better you get someone better. 

My religion and tradition doesn’t even support getting woman pregnant before marriage, if you try things like that here, they going to see you as a irresponsible person, so I don’t really think it’s something I can do.

[Ever-young]

I don’t even think this should even be something to deliberate soo much on. I will not quote you wrong in saying that some people want pregnancy proof before marriage, but what is actually right is marriage before pregnancy. So wanting pregnancy first is just like disagreeing to a fact.

Being pregnant or even having a child feels like a risk. Why should a lady take that much risk because you cannot bear the risk of having a home with one who cannot conceive.

All I see is selfishness. Yes it happens sometimes and even unplanned which is understandable. But intentionally asking for a proof of fertility, I’m sorry but love is long gone.
Personally, I cannot ask a lady to do that for me, it’s really unsettling.
So you actually put an unborn child first before your wife? Men we can do better please.

[Ayers]

With the way relationships are fragile today, I will play devil's advocate here, I think getting pregnant before marriage is actually a shield to protect many men from lifetime heartbreak that is being dished around lately. This might sound a bit too forward and harsh, but that's just the honest truth. Because we have seen so many couples spend heavily on getting a glamorous and luxurious wedding only to find out later that their partner has a fertility issue or to find ot that their partner hide a medical issue from them. Before you know it, the marriage that was once sweet and cozy is filled with bitterness and dislike and due to pressure from family and close ones, the talk of divorce steps in. So having a child first proves that at least both partners are physically compatible and ready to build a family before they both put their signatures down to the legal contract that will bind them.

yep, i get where you're coming from and i respect your point. but i prefer SuperBitMan's take on this. people should just do whatever work for them, and we should not judge other through our own lens, because we're not all the same like i said earlier.

that said, i wanna add one thing. do not assume men are always the victim or poor guys in every marriage. and don't put all the blame on women just because a marriage doesn't turn out the way we expected.