Pregnancy before marriage or after marriage, which do you prefer?

[Sticky Bomb]

Personally, I prefer pregnancy after marriage. I believe bringing a child into the world is a big responsibility, and I would rather have that experience within a committed marriage. Marriage does not mean everything will automatically be perfect, but I believe it can give two people time to understand each other, plan their future, and prepare themselves. Having a child is more than just giving birth. It comes with financial responsibilities, emotional responsibilities and providing a better education for the child. That is why, for me, I would rather prefer to get married first and then have children when my partner and I are ready. 

This strictly applies to your background, personal beliefs and maybe religion. Most religious people prioritize after marriage which is cool. Nothing prevents the children from having the best even if their parents have them while dating. Not every married set of people are committed to raising their children, we still have careless couple. Bringing in a child is a duty of 2 partners, whether married or not, responsibility comes with decision to commitment. Marriage is making the commitment legal of which is still very good, but not a yardstick for measuring the ability to take proper care of offspring's.

[Pi-network314159]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

Well biblically there is nothing like sex before marriage, but the world has turn it to another thing. If a man want to know if the woman is fertile or not, he can go to the hospital and confirm from the doctor if the woman can conceive or not without impregnating her. But nowadays the mentality of pregnancy before marriage has made many women became pregnant before marriage. Now I'd I am to answer your question correctly, religiously it is not good but people do it. But non religious people see it as a normal thing and how they can be sure if they are with a fertile woman.

[Popkon6]

In my observations in our society today,there is an increasing rate up to ninety percent of men that prefer their woman to be pregnant before marriage, reason been that they feel most women have messed up their wombs out of youthful exuberance and may not be able to concieve again and for this reason most bachelors wouldn't want to stay in a marriage without a child and at such they prefer having a confirmed pregnancy result before proceducing for any marital right, what are your stand on this?

It seems completely unreasonable, if you want to test the woman before marriage whether she is pregnant or not, then it can create problems. Have you ever imagined what will happen to the girl if she suddenly becomes pregnant and the man does not marry her?

Because nowadays men want a more beautiful woman to be their life partner, if suddenly any girl goes to see her and if this happens to her, later she may refuse to marry. So the idea you have made here seems completely unreasonable, in our society no girl should be touched before marriage. After marriage he can touch her as he wishes, there is no problem.

[Berry2d]

For now i think the best advice needed by all man is never to trust in something you are sure will be productive in the future because hoping on that is same as digging once grave by one self.
With the current behaviours of girls today I know many of them have destroyed their womb all in the name of fun without knowing its not all that glitters are gold, so to be sure in the journey we most wait till she gets pregnant so we will believe once effort won't be a wasted one.  I will say 60  percent of girls are just moving empty because there is no womb to accommodate the baby if needs after marriage.

[Anayochukwu]

I would say that marriage before pregnancy is the best way to go regardless of how messed up the society is because marriage before pregnancy gives you time to prepare for a child mentally and financially. I have seen men that have said that they can only get married to a girl that they are sure can pregnant and I don't judge them for their choices as everyone has their own opinion about life and marriage, many girls have had abortions and some have damaged their womb in the process hence the reason why most men prefer pregnancy before marriage and saying that I prefer marriage before pregnancy also means that we would run the necessary medical test to make sure we are both medically stable to have children when we are ready.

[Mayor of ogba]

In the part of the world where I come from women can't date a man if they know very well that the man can't be able to foot their bills and give them a good life and they are willing to be with any man who can give them all these even if the man is into illegal activities, and they could destroy their womb in the quest for material things, so I clearly understand why some men prefer pregnancy before marriage. I'm among the men who prefer pregnancy before marriage, the reason is that I have seen some men who don't have a child because of the women they got married to, and I promised myself I won't make such a mistake. I'm a father of a girl child I got my wife pregnant before marriage and we are living happily.

[free-bit.co.in]

In the part of the world where I come from women can't date a man if they know very well that the man can't be able to foot their bills and give them a good life and they are willing to be with any man who can give them all these even if the man is into illegal activities, and they could destroy their womb in the quest for material things, so I clearly understand why some men prefer pregnancy before marriage. I'm among the men who prefer pregnancy before marriage, the reason is that I have seen some men who don't have a child because of the women they got married to, and I promised myself I won't make such a mistake. I'm a father of a girl child I got my wife pregnant before marriage and we are living happily.

It sounds like women are the only ones who fool around and act recklessly, while men never do, huh?

Actually, having a kid before marriage is not necessarily a bad thing these days, as long as your religion allows it.  But here's my question, why do we always assume that if a couple can't have kids, it's woman's fault? Aren't men infertile too? Don't they party all night and wreck their bodies as well? Do you know that infertility rates are roughly the same for men and women?

Another question for you, have the men you know actually gotten checked out to find the cause of the infertility, or do they just assume it's the wife's fault?

[Mayor of ogba]

It sounds like women are the only ones who fool around and act recklessly, while men never do, huh?

Actually, having a kid before marriage is not necessarily a bad thing these days, as long as your religion allows it.  But here's my question, why do we always assume that if a couple can't have kids, it's woman's fault? Aren't men infertile too? Don't they party all night and wreck their bodies as well? Do you know that infertility rates are roughly the same for men and women?

Another question for you, have the men you know actually gotten checked out to find the cause of the infertility, or do they just assume it's the wife's fault?

I know infertility happens but in women and men but infertility isn't the main reason why some men prefer pregnancy before marriage. I believe we are from different country and the way women in your country behave differs from the way women in my country behave, in my country before a woman will even give you attention she will look at you from head to toe to know your worth through what you put on, and if she finds out you are putting on cheaps clothes, you can't hold a conversation with her, and if women in my country date 10 rich men there's a chance of one rich man using her womb, so some men prefer pregnancy before marriage not because of infertility but because of fear that other men would have taken the womb of the woman they want to marry.

[Johnlomape]

In the part of the world where I come from women can't date a man if they know very well that the man can't be able to foot their bills and give them a good life and they are willing to be with any man who can give them all these even if the man is into illegal activities, and they could destroy their womb in the quest for material things, so I clearly understand why some men prefer pregnancy before marriage. I'm among the men who prefer pregnancy before marriage, the reason is that I have seen some men who don't have a child because of the women they got married to, and I promised myself I won't make such a mistake. I'm a father of a girl child I got my wife pregnant before marriage and we are living happily.

I think this is not only about one region alone but all. These days woman don't want to suffer with any man and because of that they are always looking for someone that will be able to take care of their responsibilities since majority of these women don't want to work at all. They are always after how to get quick money from different men and anyone that can be settling their bills will be the person they will want to go for. Life is not that fair for a poor man and the rich are the ones that are ending up with these kind of women since they have the money to spend on them.

[Odusko]

In the part of the world where I come from women can't date a man if they know very well that the man can't be able to foot their bills and give them a good life and they are willing to be with any man who can give them all these even if the man is into illegal activities, and they could destroy their womb in the quest for material things, so I clearly understand why some men prefer pregnancy before marriage. I'm among the men who prefer pregnancy before marriage, the reason is that I have seen some men who don't have a child because of the women they got married to, and I promised myself I won't make such a mistake. I'm a father of a girl child I got my wife pregnant before marriage, and we are living happily.

The thing you mentioned is not enough for couples to get pregnant before marriage just because you want to test the women productive system, at least when you meet a decent lady or man, you must know and if you doubt anything you can go to the hospital to get everything checked before marriage, those that engage in sex before marriage are doing so because they feels they need to enjoy themselves and not necessarily wait till marriage before doing so, in fact, some engage in sexual activities knowing well that they can not end up with each other as husband and wife.

[DanWalker]

I think this is not only about one region alone but all. These days woman don't want to suffer with any man and because of that they are always looking for someone that will be able to take care of their responsibilities since majority of these women don't want to work at all. They are always after how to get quick money from different men and anyone that can be settling their bills will be the person they will want to go for. Life is not that fair for a poor man and the rich are the ones that are ending up with these kind of women since they have the money to spend on them.

Today, men fall in love with their eyes,  women are attracted to what a man can offer. Men pursue beautiful women, women seek men who can provide them with a good life.
But why is it that when men chase after beauty, we call it a preference? But when women care about a man's financial situation, they get branded as materialistic gold diggers who just use people?

You're right . The world has never been fair. Most people do not look at things objectively. They see everything through their own experiences and biases.

[Queen uloma]

I don’t think a woman is suppose to get pregnant before marriage to prove that she can give birth. Infertility can affect both partners, it’s very inappropriate to assume that a woman has damage her womb because of how she once lived her life.

 Even couples that has no issues on fertility still face challenges when they start trying to conceive.  I understand the fact that many men want children in marriage but getting her pregnant before marriage should not be your plan. Rather than pressuring your woman, both partners are suppose to go for fertility test to know if you’re fertile. Marriage is suppose to be built in understanding, commitment, and trust, not by given birth.

[giantlife]

I think there are multiple layers to this. First idological-religious-faith related way of looking at it. Most would say get married first then a child.

Then there is the humanitarian side to it, promising someone to be with them forever, at least to face the difficulties and responsibilities of a child and other things. Does a paper or a contract make a difference for your character or for what you have promised?

And finally there is the cultural differences between countries and societies which dictate rules. Some are good for protecting the family union, some are good for protecting women and children. Some are just air coming from hundreds of years of traditions.

Really a lot of ways of looking at this and I think it all depends on the people involved in this relationship...