should i tell my wife when i win or just keep it quiet?

[Hatchy]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I don't really need much of a partners opinion on my gambling activities. Weather I win or lose the risk is mine to bear. Though there's nothing wrong in telling them about your experiences, but the fact that they might influence you with their emotions is something I don't think I would want to be doing. We already know the kind of risk that's involved in gambling so if I loss I don't bother telling someone about it. They will only see my wins in action because I would have enough to spend on things that I sometimes I'm not interested in buying with my earned money. So it's not really necessary but if you wish then it's okay..

[Jaycoinz]

Does your wife know you are a gambler? If not do you think it might end up affecting your relationship if she finds out that you are a gambler after you guys got married? These are questions you should ask yourself but if you feel like none of that is actually going tommatter then you can tell her, but also make sure you tell her about your losses as well that should not be a secret too

[AmaGold70]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

This is just a typical behavior in women and I find it quite adorable and it's just them looking out for their husband and preventing them from wasting money unnecessarily because they feel that every lose is wasting money. From your statement it shows that your wife already knows that you are a gambler so there's no way you can hide from her and if her complaint is not toxic then I think you shouldn't hide your winnings or your losses from her but just remember to always gamble responsibility and if you want to keep gambling regardless of any loss just stand your ground and take responsibility for any loss and make sure it doesn't affect your family's affairs in regard to feeding and every other thing in general.

[Pandorak]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Personally, i never tell my wife when i experience defeat or victory. It's not that i don't want to, it's just better to keep it a secret so that everything continues to run smoothly. What i mean is, when luck comes your way in other words, when you achieve a win you might be eager to share the good news with your wife. But without realizing it, from that moment on, your wife will start hoping you’ll win again soon. This is what should be avoided, because hope can lead to disappointment. I think it's better to buy something she wants beforehand and give it to her as a gift from the winnings. And when you lose, your wife won't scold you for it, as long as you use money you can afford to lose, not money for living expenses, then it won't be a problem.

[wiss19]

I'll say just keep it to yourself or be prepared to hear from your wife. Usually wives are much sensitive when it comes to money part and they will easily loose their cool if they find our you are spending a lot of time in gambling and losing a decent amount sometimes. She will pressurize you and every now and then she will keep poking around. I am sure you do not want this because this will start irritating you sooner or later so why not just keep it to yourself.

Even after winning try not to tell her because she will be under the impression that you are still continuing to gamble. This will even ruin your happiness behind the win. So I'll say after you win, go to a nice bar, have a chill beer and come back home as if nothing really happened.

[Dogedegen]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I don't have good news for you, your wife is not that good of a person she is mostly average if she responds like this. Probably in the first case she is hoping that you buy her something nice, she has a materialist outlook but these days most people are like this. To avoid trouble it is best to not share losses or wins with her and continue to have fun as you play. Just make sure that it is always under control and under a strict budget management. If it starts going out of control and you're hiding it from your spouse then that makes things worse and strengthens the addiction and problem.

Personally, i never tell my wife when i experience defeat or victory. It's not that i don't want to, it's just better to keep it a secret so that everything continues to run smoothly.

As long as you don't complain later when you find out that your wife has been keeping all kinds of things as secret from you then it is fine. If you will complain then you are being unfair and should not do this.

What i mean is, when luck comes your way in other words, when you achieve a win you might be eager to share the good news with your wife.

The real question is whether it is good news at all? This is actually one of the reasons why people don't like to keep detailed track of their gambling history. It is not laziness or any other excuse that they put instead, it is to hide the real reality of the situation. This means that even if you won something now you could be down hard overall and therefore are in losses. What is there to celebrate? Winning $100 when you are down $10k? That is not a thing to celebrate. 

[Floxynice]

Women can really be funny, especially on matters relating to money. I am glad your wife already knows that you are a gambler and you tell her everything about your gambling activities. Yes, I agree that you let your spouse know about your gambling activities so when you find yourself in a mess, they'll know how to help you.

However, my concern here lies in the possibility of here influencing you into gambling impulsively so you'll make money and make her proud. That is a trap, never let anyone push you into reckless gambling.  Gamble responsibly and without any influence from your wife.

[Y3shot]

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I believe you are a man and you know what is good for you, so you can make your own decisions. If your wife blames you when you lose at gambling, then it is better for you to stop gambling because, in life, sometimes we face ups and downs, and if anything happens tomorrow, you will be blamed for using your money on gambling.

When it comes to marriage, one needs to be very careful, especially when your partner doesn't understand that gambling is about losing and winning. It doesn't make sense for one to celebrate your wins, and when you lose, to be blamed for it.

[mcdouglasx]

You don't need to hide the fact that you gamble. What you can do is not tell her when you win or when you lose. If everything is financially stable at home, there's no problem with that. As your husband, you should avoid at all costs putting your partner in a situation of unnecessary stress that she can't understand or resolve. As you've already noticed, she reacts to your victories with pleasure and to your defeats negatively; she's not acting from your logic but from her own emotions.

[Su-asa]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

There's nothing wrong in telling your wife about your win unless you don't gamble responsibly. From what i have witnessed with this a lot of times people that don't tell others that are close to them about their wins are scared that they mind demand too much from them. Keeping it quiet might not really be a ggod idea because she is your wife and she deserves to know about things like this, gambling in secret isn't ideal

[iBaba]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Just gamble responsibly is what that is very important. If you are using little amount of money to gamble, your wife will not tell you that you are wasting money on gambling while losing.

If you have been telling her about it before, no need to stop as you see her as a friend that you can always talk with. There are something I can hide from my wife but gambling is not one of them.

I don't think it is necessary to share that with your wife, whether you win or you lose, your gambling games are not something you share with your spouse until it warrants. Until it warrants in the sense that you may want to share your gambling lifestyle with your wife so she can help me in the healing process especially in the case of an addict.

When you are deeply addicted to gambling and you are looking for a rescue, you should not hesitate to share it with your wife so she can help you stop, else you don't have the share your wins or your losts with her. When you win, you are expected to bring the money home for the family's benefit and when you lose you are supposed to man up and hold the lost to your heart and not with your wife.

[bigimann]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

It’s funny how you become her “champion” when you win and her “problem” when you lose. I’ve witness similar scenario between this very good uncle of mine and his wife. I understand how challenging it could be.

But as a husband, honesty still matters. Instead of hiding results, explain the risks, set limits, and make sure gambling never affects the household. A non-gambler reacts out of fear, not malice.

Ask her what she wants, if it's for you to stop gambling, reduce the rate at which you gamble or the risk, then do so if you truly love her and cherish the relationship.

[Powerjumboo]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

My wife knows about my gambling and I participate in gambling in consultation with her, but I told her that I am gambling only for entertainment, but the winnings I get from here are not for earning income. She also never told me anything about this matter of mine and did not pressure me for any reason. Moreover, I use a very small amount of money in gambling and participate in sports betting, due to which I did not have a business of earning money from gambling and my wife also did not pressure me to earn money from this gambling platform.

However, one thing is that every gambler, especially those who are married, should consult their wives before doing anything because if any work is done in consultation with their wives, there will definitely be no problem later and even if there is a problem, it can help a lot mentally and physically and the wrong path will be reduced to a great extent.

[Furious 7]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

You must understand the meaning of what your wife is saying here
Actually in this case I think it doesn't really matter if you have decided to be open with your partner then when it needs to be told then it must be done but in this case I am talking to fellow men because sometimes not everything we have to tell our wives

If indeed they want to ask for their rights as wives and we want to make our wives happy then actually it is also not a problem but we don't have to give everything because of course we also have the right to enjoy it.
But on the other hand what you do is very good in relationships because it is indeed this kind of openness that makes the situation peaceful even though we know that sometimes there are some couples who forbid gambling because of the stigma but when everything feels comfortable and without any interference then it is very good to stay open with your partner.

[Kelvinid]

Just do what is right. Tell her still about your wins and losses, that's how a responsible partner should be. And just an advice, just gamble on what you can afford to lose, not on taking leverage because you expect that the outcome will always favor your bets.

Wives are like that, their mood swings based on what they see around, on what they discover and experience everyday. You're not alone with your situation. The important thing is, you chose to do what is right than keeping secrets that could later on ruin your marriage.

[Onyeeze]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Normally what women need is a good news they don't welcome bad news all the ways, when a good news come into a man's life a woman will claim that is one that is behind the success of Man by giving the man advice that lead him to be success, so we need to understand that in life there are some certain thing that we are not supposed to be telling our wife because it will blame you so much and regret for telling her are they also participating on such thing that makes her to blame you, so the best thing to do is that let your wife know that you are into gambling and do not be telling her that you win in the gambling or you lose in the gambling it is a simple truth

[Josefjix]

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Since you know her reactions whenever you win and loss in gambling, you gotta keep it quiet all the time whether you win or loss, let her detect from your mood if you win through gambling or not because they are really good at that. 

Their emotional mood swings will cause damages when you open up to her about your loss, they never love to hear about that, it's best you keep it quiet.

[serjent05]

@OP you must get to use on your wife's behavior.  After all, she is the person who will be with you for a lifetime.  There is no point in hiding your gambling activity since she already knew that you are engaging in gambling.

There is only two solutions, it is either you will be honest with her or leave her blank in some situation.  If you prefer the 100% caring, sweetness, you should only report to her the winnings and not the lossing part.   Yes, you can keep quiet about your losses, to avoid the nagging part since being quiet about something does not mean you are lying to her.  Just do not deny and answer honestly if she asks about the losing part.  But I bet she won't ask for it if you are presenting her with your winnings and your financial support is not lacking.

[PX-Z]

...So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results?  

It's a general/global perspective to every wife and they are good at it lmao.
If i were you, you'd better only tell your wife the wins you made so she's always in good mood and sweet. For everybody peace of mind on your house, don't you ever tell her your losses. lmao

[Bright0515]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

If I'm to be in your shoe's, I will not let her know when I lose in gamble. I will only tell her when I win do we can always be happy. I love my peace of mind, when I win big I can share because of how excited I will be but when the money is too small I rather keep it to myself. Trust me, everyone will always be happy for a successful bet, no one will be excited when they or someone they lose lose their money on bet (including you). And you know women have some characters men find really hard to understand.