should i tell my wife when i win or just keep it quiet?

[Z390]

You are dealing with a woman, you should know already that they are full of emotions, what you experienced is nothing new to me because I have seen it all, when things are going fine a woman could say that her prayers got you there.
If things turned around they will put the blame on you, women are wired to behave this way, you need strong evidence to make them realize that the fault is theirs.
Since she already know you to be a gambler there is no turning back now, it is pointless to hide it from her, if she is caring and loving then keep telling her when you win and keep the loss part away, this is women for you, accept it.

[Mhizlove]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Sometimes it's good to tell her because she deserves to know about your winnings, but she don't need to know about your losses just as you may know that nobody celebrates a loss. However, we ladies always get supportive whenever money is involved and you need to know that that's how women are made. Not that there won't be a support from women when you need it, but most of the times we prefer winning than loses even outside gambling. Somtimes it is not good to tell your partner about your failure because not everyone is built to overcome such.

[Richbased]

Women are just emotional creatures and inasmuch as gambling is concerned, what they only want to hear is about the winnings not the losses so i will advise you to only tell her when you win but if you lose don't let her know since she always expresses emotions and sadness. If you are meeting up with family demands and your gambling lifestyle is not causing problems in your home then you are good to go. It could have only became a problem if you gamble and don't take care of your family. Many women have the mentality of always wanting to hear the good side and not the bad side and this applies also your earnings, when it declines they tend to show unhappiness but when your earnings increases they become so happy.

[AVE5]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

It all depends how it's going there at your end there because to someone people that attitude of your wife can be paranoid and unbearable.
Do you know that your unlucky times in gambling can be nurtured to ruin your experience by mostly when you share your experience with the wrong people? If your wife's attributes doesn't give you peace whenever she's you shares your experience with her, then stop telling her afterall you're gambling for yourself or her.
But if you're comfortable with her slams over your losses, then keep it up.
Always up to you.

[vanesha]

I will always tell my wife when I want to place a bet, because this keeps me safe from wild gambling, I will ask my wife for capital to bet, my wife will know when I lose & win, openness makes the family more harmonious, win and lose enjoy it together, my wife becomes a hero & helper so that I don't expect too much from gambling

[Fiasem20]

First thing first you mustn't gamble irresponsibly,then again you must gamble on the amount you can afford to lose.Most couples don't hide things from each other no matter how negative the information may be,just like my parents they literally tell themselves everything that has happened to them both in the past and present.If you've built your relationship in such a way that you reveal your gambling wins and losses to your partner then I wouldn't advise you to hide anything from her,if she wants to get angry then you're in the right position to enlighten her that gambling isn't a way for making money always,if she's the type that don't nag then everything will be alright.

[Ojima-ojo]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

keep you gambling results to yourself as much as you can because for a none gambler, is hard to understand the risks that is involved in gambling and their only interest is the result.

When you win the think you good in it, and when you lose they also blame you for that, so what the need to tell who doesn't understand anything, just Make sure to gamble responsibly to stay above every possible addictions.

[rachael9385]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Most people that hide their gambling wins from their spouse is probably due to the fact that they are chronic gamblers, they don't like the idea of letting anyone that's close to them know that they are on because they know how their loved ones might react to this. But if you are sure that you are gambling responsibly then you shouldn’t be worried about telling your wife about your win, it's a good news

[Iroh]

It's no surprise there. Like any average individual who doesn't gamble, it's a waste of money with a little touch of irresponsibility when you lose out on your bets whenever gambling while on the other hand, when you play and win some good money on your bets, it's all smiles and praises along with more encouragement to continue doing what you do. It's only natural and if we're being honest, expected from people in the society.
When you win big and achieve success with gambling, people would convieniently forget how they've always thought about individuals who gamble to be financially irresponsible.

Regarding the question put forward by the OP, knowing the reaction you get from your partner whenever you lose out on your bets, won't it be better you keep your losses to yourself.

[JunaidAzizi]

It's their nature, they will go to the extreme, whatever the situation is. She starts acting sweet because she sees the money that can fulfill many things and then starts to hate you because the money you should spend on her and the home is lost. This will give you an extreme headache and make you vulnerable to depression. So my suggestion is that you should keep your things to yourself, fix some amount for her and the home, and give it to her at the start of the month. She will no longer interfere in your gambling activities.

[casey15]

It's true that we must gamble responsibly to avoid financial problems, and knowing when to stop and continue is certainly not easy for most gamblers, especially those who are very greedy in gambling and only realize it after losing what they previously earned.
We've all experienced something like what you mentioned: feeling great when we win a bet and getting emotional when we lose. But when we win, there's nothing wrong with sharing it with those closest to us, especially if that person is our own woman, and we certainly shouldn't hide it.

It's true to share with those closest to you.. but like life, when you notice someone is always around you when you have money and leave when the money gets finished only to come back again when you receive more money, you should be very wary of that person because they are only interested in your money and not in the mutual relationship you think you both have... So if your wife behaves like that, I think you should limit the information about your wins and losses that you tell her

[Roseline492]

Even if you decided not to tell her she will still ask you if you are still winning and if you lie to her that you have not win she is going to make you  stop gambling because she will be thinking is losses that you have been running in gambling, maybe you can only informed her whenever there is win and keep all the losing to yourself. However she only get hurts when you told her of losing because she might think that if you no how to gamble you wouldn't have to lose so even if you explain to her about how you can win and also not win she will still get unhappy whenever there is a gambling lost.

[philipma1957]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

What are you a fucking idiot?

Never discuss your losses with your wife.

[JoyMarsha]

OP, what you have to understand about women is that they like seeing their men winning, not losing, in whatever they are doing; that alone makes them happy.

If you as their man are losing, it makes them feel hurt, that could make them tell you things you may not like to hear, so that you will sit up to start winning. Gambling is not that way though, to win often without losing.

What you will do in your wife's situation, avoid telling your wife about your gambling wins and losses. Let whatever attitude she will display to you let it not be because of your gambling wins or losses

[Versatile_choice]

I will always tell my wife when I want to place a bet, because this keeps me safe from wild gambling, I will ask my wife for capital to bet, my wife will know when I lose & win, openness makes the family more harmonious, win and lose enjoy it together, my wife becomes a hero & helper so that I don't expect too much from gambling

Sure, it's very important to tell our partners about our gambling habit, I'm still wondering how one can possibly hide his gambling habit from someone you're sharing the same roof with, or maybe you will be doing that when you're away like going to your friends house to do it there so as to prevent your wife from seeing you and I'm still wondering how long one would continue doing this. And this is more like keeping secret from her which is not advisable, for me I don't have any problem in telling my partner about my gambling lifestyle because they might also be thier to help when things go wrong.

[Dunamisx]

Relationship is something we just be careful of in giving advice, because we can't afford to be one sided without being considerate, so that any advise we give the man will not be the one that will ruined his marriage or cause more uproar of misunderstanding than ever before, trust in marriage plays a lot of roles and they both only have to agreed on what will work for them both, advising him not to inform his wife of what's going on could be the begining of losing trust on each other, the man should decide what's best for his marriage.

[lionheart78]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results?  

It is up to you, D.  If you want to keep secret from your wife, it is your call.  The best thing, probably, is just to tell her your success story and keep the unsuccessful gambling story away from her ears.  This way, you can only get sweetness, not the bitterness and headache of your wife nagging, lol.

But seriously, just tell her your winnings.  We all know that things unknown to a person do not hurt him/her or get him/her angry.

[Shinpako09]

She is your wife, so it’s normal for her to know what you’re dealing with. But why would you tell your wife about your losses if you know she would only blame you? Lol. Just forget about it. Just give her extra money or treat her without telling her that you won, and just say you simply want to treat her. As long as it doesn’t affect your financial situation, it’s better for her not to know about your gambling activity.

[Joy_learns_crypto]

If I am to be light on her and be dishonest, she just hate losing and like to win, but  to be honest she is not doing you any good, if he doesn’t like you gambling win or lose she should tell you and not encourage you when you win and blame you for losing.
Don’t tell her if you win or you don’t. Don’t hide and lie to her that you don’t gamble, let her know but not the outcome of any sport betting you made.

[Stable090]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

Whenever you lose do you tell your wife? Seriously it’s really your choice either to tell your Wife whenever you win, or whenever you lose. Am a gambler and I don’t really tell my partner much about my gambling activities. She knows I do gamble, but whenever I win or lose I don’t really tell her, she doesn’t know the amount which I do spend on gambling.

It’s your choice if you know your gambling activities won’t cause any problem with your wife, then it’s fine. Your wife do tell you to keep on gambling, you have to be careful, don’t be carried away because we already know it’s so easy to get addicted to gambling. And women are just always after win, if you start losing and she knows, she’s going to start complaining.