should i tell my wife when i win or just keep it quiet?

[bakasabo]

I think you should continue acting like husband do, share bad and good life moments with your wife and accept any response she does. As you are already married, it is too late to try to change her and her attitude. You should accept her as she is. Accept that it is your faith to receive such reaction on your gambling results. On the other hand maybe you notice only her reaction on your loss and wins, but dont notice any other reaction on other things you do. Nevertheless, dont be so focused on gambling, instead focus on family.

[Localhostspeed]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Seems you don't know those creatures 

Women are programmed to be love and pampered, no matter how we try to shy away from it they all become lovely but where I see red flag is if the love doesn't comes regularly. I don't see any reason why my woman wouldn't show me love until there is money, that settings is very bad. It's possible that you have shown her this as norm and she has becomes used to it, now she can't do without it again. You have to cut that behavior from her for peace to be.

Furthermore, don't tell your wife your earnings if she is money type, yes all women want money with their men but if a woman loves money so much, that consumes them to the point they don't see common red flags and it's not good in my opinion. If she can't handle your pain, she doesn't need to know you have money but spend on her still, it's no mandatory for your woman to know about your pockets but make sure you do everything possible to make her happy.

[Slow death]

Lying isn't the best way, at least when you tell the truth you only have verbal arguments that eventually pass and life goes on, and that way your wife will continue to trust you. But when you lie to her and she finds out, then your relationship is doomed to fail. Whenever you say your money ran out, your wife will think you gambled and lost, and it won't matter if you deny it and beg that you didn't gamble. Your word will mean nothing to your wife. Don't follow the path of lies.

[rat03gopoh]

Do you want something "special" from gambling? Let's say you want to control your gambling habits. Then you can exploit your wife's behavior. Let's say she's a North Korean gambling regulator.
Okay, more seriously. Did you actually share any planning with your wife from the start, including the funds you allocated for gambling, and are you sticking to it? If you lied from the start, I mean for example, you sometimes secretly increased your bankroll from other allocations, you should have consistently lied about your gambling results.

[Vaculin]

Lying isn't the best way, at least when you tell the truth you only have verbal arguments that eventually pass and life goes on, and that way your wife will continue to trust you. But when you lie to her and she finds out, then your relationship is doomed to fail. Whenever you say your money ran out, your wife will think you gambled and lost, and it won't matter if you deny it and beg that you didn't gamble. Your word will mean nothing to your wife. Don't follow the path of lies.

If gambling isn’t hurting your finances in any serious way, then I don’t think it should affect the relationship. This kind of lie is more like a white lie anyway, not some big sin. It’s just a way to avoid unnecessary problems, because some people really won’t understand gambling if they’re not gamblers themselves. Same with OP’s wife, happy when he wins, but quick to blame him when he loses. Pretty common reaction from someone who doesn’t get the whole gambling mindset.

[Muba20]

If you share every bet with your wife, it will be difficult for you to bet according to your wish because she will want to know the results of every bet. A common feature of people is that they are for you in good times but want to stay away in bad times. When you win, you will be treated well, but when you lose, your various faults will be found out. If you keep the bet secret, you will get the opportunity to gamble relatively freely. That is why I suggest not to tell your gambling with your wife.

[Yorubek]

I think gambling is for entertainment so it is better not to discuss this with your wife. Other people will not see gambling the same way you do. When you win a lot of money your wife will be very happy and when you lose money your wife will talk a lot they only want profit not loss, gambling is for entertainment not for making money. After spending the day in various activities, I think it's better to spend your free time wisely and not discuss your winnings or losses with your wife while gambling for entertainment.

[Doan9269]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

You should know that women don't like taking risk, but they liker the money that comes in taking the risk, what they frowns at is the loss, so i will advise that you should know how you could present the situation with her each time it occurs the unexpected way, or possibly stop informing her, but i wouldn't like giving what may cause in-transparency in your relationship, once you're responsible enough for her, then forget the rest.

[Russlenat]

If you share every bet with your wife, it will be difficult for you to bet according to your wish because she will want to know the results of every bet. A common feature of people is that they are for you in good times but want to stay away in bad times. When you win, you will be treated well, but when you lose, your various faults will be found out. If you keep the bet secret, you will get the opportunity to gamble relatively freely. That is why I suggest not to tell your gambling with your wife.

Why share every bet? Doing that is basically teaching your wife how to gamble, and then both of you end up gambling. For me, it’s better if she just knows you gamble but she’s not directly involved. That way, in tough situations, you can still ask her for guidance or even tell her if you feel you’re getting addicted. That actually helps a lot, because the problem with some people is they fall deeper into addiction since they have no one to talk to.

[348Judah]

Women are very logical in their behavior and how they reason, because they know that once you win, they will definitely benefits from it, while if it turns a loss game, they will also be affected because you may be unable to deliver up to what you could have given unto her, so they try playing safe on both sides and accept what is more of interest to them, now left to you, that even if you loss, you must have a back up fund to entice her and she don't feel the vacuum for losing from what she may demand, so don't gamble your last card of bets and come home unhappy, instead have some shares left for the family.

[KiaKia]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Love at first sight that leads into a marriage straight away? I asked this because you are the one who should know your woman very well, asking us this question makes me mad somehow.

You should know your woman well, if she is this type of person that reacts alot to any situation you should stop telling her everything about your gambling results.

My own is this, are you a responsible gambler? If you are then there is not problem, stop revealing things to her and when you win make sure you find a way to show her some love.

It is not a must for her to know that you won money from gambling, I would rather tell her that I quit.

[bettercrypto]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I laughed at your story about your wife, any wife would be thrilled if she found out her husband won big at gambling, of course, since you made a ton of money at the casino. But your only mistake was telling her you lost; naturally, she'd get mad. You know how women's moods can be, if what you say isn't good, they'll really get angry.

But try this: piss off your wife first, then suddenly flash the money you won from gambling. I'm sure her anger at you will vanish in a second or in the blink of an eye, it'll be replaced by pure joy, and she might even hug you, shower you with kisses, and say "I love you honey" hehehe.

[püsür]

If someone doesn't fully understand how betting works or how to win, they may react strongly when they lose. From what I've seen, spouses can also react strongly if they don't understand betting. If you're in a profitable position overall, it makes more sense to tell them. But if your spouse only knows whether that day's bet was won or lost, problems may arise. If you explain the whole picture to them and say how much profit you've made, there won't be any issues.

[Accardo]

I do not inform anyone in my family about my gambling. Not everyone can handle the shock of winning or losing, even if you are not a very experienced gambler. When you inform your family members about this, they will become a hindrance to you and you will not be able to concentrate on gambling. Personally I never inform my wife about my salary because as you increase the family's income the demand will also increase with time. That is why I think that the decision regarding the financial matters of the family should be made solely by the one who earns the income and manages the expenses.

Considering their attitude towards gaming could help the player abstain from blames like the Op. The essence of opening up or sharing gaming experiences with spouses is to stay in check of any habitual development. Unless you are completely in control of your emotions, which won't be accurate all the time without the need of another body to examine, there would be no issues with keeping gaming activities a secret.

[Z_MBFM]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

If you tell your wife about your winning, then even if your wife is happy at that time, later when you lose while gambling, you will not be able to hide this matter from your wife. And at that time your wife will blame you a lot, which will make you very upset due to your loss in gambling and the blame you get from your wife. And you will not be able to hide your gambling from your wife after that. So I think that you should not share any matter of gambling with your wife, be it win or loss. Gambling should be used secretly Then you will have a sense of responsibility. But when you gamble openly, you are much more likely to become addicted.

[Finestream]

If someone doesn't fully understand how betting works or how to win, they may react strongly when they lose. From what I've seen, spouses can also react strongly if they don't understand betting. If you're in a profitable position overall, it makes more sense to tell them. But if your spouse only knows whether that day's bet was won or lost, problems may arise. If you explain the whole picture to them and say how much profit you've made, there won't be any issues.

We’re the ones who know our partner’s attitude, so it’s really up to us if we tell them or not. There’s nothing wrong with keeping it to yourself as long as you’re a responsible gambler and your income still covers all the bills. Gambling should just be part of your entertainment, extra money you’re willing to lose. Women spend on clothes, cosmetics, and all that, and for us, gambling is where we spend our money. It’s basically even.

[coin-investor]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

She’s just acting her role as a wife; wives are like that, they are supportive and at the same time your worst critic. Just make sure she receives her allowance for paying bills and all expenses.
As long as you are gambling responsibly and you’re not putting the family’s savings and allowance, everything will be ok, but if you suffer streaks of losses, it’s better to be quiet about it, so it will not start a quarrel between you and your wife. This is precisely what I'm doing.

[Alphakilo]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I would say it depends on how you started the relationship that led her to become your wife. You should have known her by now and know when to divulge an information or keep it to yourself.
Seeing how she could react, could be a mood spoiler so it is adviced to keep your wins or losses a secret let her just ask whenever she remembers and that is if she does remember at all due to her schedule that may be way different from yours.
Women tend to be more emotional and may not handle loss like their male counterparts and that's why it is good to let them not think you gamble so much so that it doesn't come back to bite you in the ass when there's any heated arguments or disagreement.

[Fuso.hp]

First you need to make sure that your family knows about your gambling. If your family knows about your gambling, then you can tell your wife about your win or loss because when you lose, she can give you the courage to do better or encourage you. In this case, I always try to keep my gambling secret from my family because my family may not take my gambling well or they may have a bad impression of me. If I ever gamble with my family, then I will definitely tell my wife about my win or loss.

[Kasabus]

Considering their attitude towards gaming could help the player abstain from blames like the Op. The essence of opening up or sharing gaming experiences with spouses is to stay in check of any habitual development. Unless you are completely in control of your emotions, which won't be accurate all the time without the need of another body to examine, there would be no issues with keeping gaming activities a secret.

When it comes to control, we’re old enough to gamble (unless we lied about our age), so it’s expected that we can handle ourselves. But that doesn’t mean we’re in control forever. There are times we make mistakes, and the worst is when addiction starts. A wife who actually sees what we’re doing can step in and talk to us, maybe guide us back to the right direction.

But let’s not dive too deep into that, that’s a different topic. We’re talking about winnings here, and in the end it’s our call how we handle it. Every wife has a different personality, and we’re the ones who know them best. So we act in a way that respects them as our better half.