should i tell my wife when i win or just keep it quiet?

[criptoevangelista]

It's certainly frustrating when you lose and your wife gets angry, but openness is essential, especially when it comes to gambling. Your wife will be happy when you win, and she'll also be angry. However, you'll unknowingly avoid addiction because your wife will continue to restrain you from wasting money on gambling.

If he is completely addicted to the point of selling things from inside the house to gamble, then I think it is valid for his wife to step in. But other than that, if he works he has every right to spend his money however he wants, as long as it is done responsibly. I think everyone should have a hobby and a pastime they enjoy, whether that is gambling or not. Otherwise, what is the point of living?

[Orpichukwu]

Anytime you know you are not in the mood to face her, either for her to attack you for losing or to praise you and be very sweet, you can just hide your gambling involvement from her so as not to be seeing her give you attitude based on the result of your game. Anytime you have missed her sweet nature, then you can bring up the winning announcement, but make sure you have enough money to prove you actually won that to her, as she might demand a gift.

[Dr.Osh]

It's certainly frustrating when you lose and your wife gets angry, but openness is essential, especially when it comes to gambling. Your wife will be happy when you win, and she'll also be angry. However, you'll unknowingly avoid addiction because your wife will continue to restrain you from wasting money on gambling.

If he is completely addicted to the point of selling things from inside the house to gamble, then I think it is valid for his wife to step in. But other than that, if he works he has every right to spend his money however he wants, as long as it is done responsibly. I think everyone should have a hobby and a pastime they enjoy, whether that is gambling or not. Otherwise, what is the point of living?

We don't know what happens in gambling, most people lose control when they lose, so that's where the role of the wife comes in, in my opinion, to prevent us from getting too involved in gambling. As long as your wife doesn't forbid you from gambling, it means your wife supports your hobby. Unless you are really prohibited from gambling, there's no point in working.

[alani123]

This is such a convoluted question because you can't know one's relationship with their wife. And to say that anyone came to the gambling board to ask about family issues is odd in the first place. Ideally your lifelong partner should be trusted with all your information. If you can't trust them with mere financial information you're both doing something wrong.

[programmer3666]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

If she is in support of your gambling activities no problem but if she is not in support, there is no need, because it will cause a huge problem amongst you after that period of Winning because she now knows that you are gambling and she might understand how gambling works, knowing fully that gambling wins are not often, except you prove not to be an irresponsible gambler to her, then the pressure might be less also if you meet up your daily responsibilities I don't think she will be boarder whether you win or not to the aspect of complaining, instead she will support and guide you not to fall into addiction.

it depends on the type of relationship you both have. if she doesn’t really support your gambling then keeping every win or loss to yourself might save you a lot of arguments. like moost partners react differently because they only enjoy hearing about the good side, not the losses but if you handle your responsibilities at home and you are not gambling recklessly, she may not stress you as much. The key is balance!! don’t hide things out of fear but also don’t share what will only create unnecessary tension

[tread93]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Oh man, this is a tough one because there is a difference between being choosing on what you day vs not telling your spouse things at all. I feel like overall some things just shouldn't be spoken and I also say that lightly because that is where it can become a big secret and a could lead to a terrible addiction

[Sammye3]

The feminine gender can be very dramatic by nature and that should be something we must understand so whatever response you get when you tell her about your losses should be expected, anyone who truly loves you would not want to see you losing because the moment she stops complaining that's even a bigger problem.

Generally speaking, I don't think it's best to tell her about all your losses because it could affect the trust and reliability level for you both, and she might begin to feel you're irresponsible with your gambling life and that could hurt your union. Specifically speaking, it also depends on the trust and understanding level between you both and how she can handle such information without breaking a fight.

It is also safe to understand that if she has no knowledge about gambling, you would have to accept whatever response you get because she does not know the system and how it works.

[Cityhunter34]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

The truth is that women like money more than anything, so I think it's just a normal thing because there's no how your wife would feel happy when you are losing. It's not possible at all because they already know that gambling involves losses than winnings so she wouldn't feel comfortable when you tell her about losses, although it depends on the woman you married because I usually tell my wife everything and she always bear with me and give me some advice.

[len01]

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So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

An interesting story, but if the situation is always reversed, it's best to hide your wins and losses from your wife. When you win, simply give her the money and claim you earned it from other sources or whatever. I completely understand this situation, and it's not a good idea to hide your wins or losses, but this is one of the best ways to stay comfortable while predicting sports bets without the pressure.

[TopTort777]

Tell your wife about everything, dont let money spoil relationship. Be a grownup. This is ridiculous if hide things and think you would give away with it Think what you would get or win if you do that? Dont have to listen how good or bad are you? You should not be afraid of that when you are adult. Talk with your wife about that, what you dont like or feel uncomfortable about. If you dont tell about gambling, that will make you safe only from hearing bad or good about your gambling, but you will still hear all that about the rest. Talking with wife is the solution to your situation.

[lizarder]

This is such a convoluted question because you can't know one's relationship with their wife. And to say that anyone came to the gambling board to ask about family issues is odd in the first place. Ideally your lifelong partner should be trusted with all your information. If you can't trust them with mere financial information you're both doing something wrong.  

It shouldn't be complicated, especially in the OP's case. He previously stated that his wife is quite happy when he wins at gambling, but when he loses, she might say he's wasting money and have other complaints. Therefore, it can be concluded that the wife is the type of woman who only cares about her husband's winnings, so in such situations, she shouldn't share any information.

Not all wives can accept their husbands' involvement in gambling, and perhaps each of us understands our partners differently, so each individual can come to a conclusion on this issue. If this question were directed to me, I would openly say I would never tell my wife about our gambling involvement as long as we were more prudent in how we spent our money.

[LFC_Bitcoin]

If you win a good amount you should treat her to something nice, even if it’s just a meal out. But regardless of winning or losing, you shouldn’t be gambling with any amount that you can’t afford to lose. That way it doesn’t matter if you win or lose, it’s just a hobby, a bit of fun.

[Patikno]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I think it is normal for those closest to us to be happy, and supportive when we achieve something, especially when we win at gambling. Likewise, when we fail, they will still support us in their own way, and I think their anger is a sign of concern for us. Actually, you are lucky to have a partner who is very supportive in all your situations. I am not in your shoes, but I think you need your partner as a good reminder to keep your gambling within limits, and I believe that is what a good life partner is all about. So, maybe you don't need to keep it a secret as long as your partner is a good supporter for you.

[Hardyrobust]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I think it is normal for those closest to us to be happy, and supportive when we achieve something, especially when we win at gambling. Likewise, when we fail, they will still support us in their own way, and I think their anger is a sign of concern for us. Actually, you are lucky to have a partner who is very supportive in all your situations. I am not in your shoes, but I think you need your partner as a good reminder to keep your gambling within limits, and I believe that is what a good life partner is all about. So, maybe you don't need to keep it a secret as long as your partner is a good supporter for you.

It will be wrong hiding things from ones pattern because nothing can remember hidden forever. The best is to let our partner knows that we are gambling. If it happens they don't like it, the best thing is to quit gambling and focus on things that makes you and your partner happy. However, if she is aware of your gambling habits then there's no need of hiding our winning from here or when we lose. So our partner can only be supportive of they like what we are doing but a situation whereby they don't it will be a different thing all together, the best thing not to keep our gambling habits a secret if we are to get our partner support.

[Prosofina_G]

Normally know one gets happy when he or she loses money, gambling is like when you get rich people rejoice with you, but when you get poor you alone Bears the pains.

It is not everything that you have to tell your wife because that gender are too emotional there is no way you should expect your wife to be happy when her husband loses money.
So i am on the opinion that you should not tell her anything that concerns your gambling, because tomorrow she will be the one to tell people that everything you do or thinks is gambling she will tell everyone about your gambling habits, but when you win she will rejoice with you so don't tell her.

[doomloop]

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So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Stop sharing everything bro for your own good.

Jokes aside, it's good to be transparent with your partner but if she is being supportive of you only when you are winning then I guess it is a red flag, so be diplomatic and keep things on the surface level. I don't know how long you have been married but if it's just recent then give her some time to adjust to your personality.

For me, even after years of marriage I will still prefer hiding a few things from my wife. Wives are very sensitive and they will start screwing with our happiness in no time. I prefer not to involve my wife in a lot of things which includes hanging around with my friends, going on bike rides, gambling and even smoking often. I had to lie to her just for me to be happy. When I am happy, eventually even she will be happy so I feel like it's a win-win for both of us.

I will never tell my wife about gambling because gambling might sound a bit harsh even though we know the benefits. For one who has no experience in gambling, it might seem like an addiction and this might even ruin our reputation so I will prefer keeping it to myself.

[Dogedegen]

Most women don't like men with gambling attributes but it's selfish of the wife if she doesn't like gambling but celebrate the husband the day he wins money from gambling. Whether it's involved gambling or not, I think when you make money there should be limitation of exposure of financial information to your spouse, however this in anyway should stop you from doing nice things for her, I mean like the way OP makes money from gambling, he can do what she likes but doesn't have to inform her that the money comes from gambling.

Yes in this case I have said that he does not have a good wife, but people of similar level of flaw tend to attract each other. If she had principles and was a rational person then she has only 2 valid options. Either she is pro gambling and thus accepts both the winnings and losses or she is against gambling and it does not matter even if the husband is winning. In the case presented here she is just a pure emotional hypocrite. She is very selfish as she is interested in material rewards from huge successes from gambling but at the same time vilifies gambling as soon as anything goes wrong.

For me, even after years of marriage I will still prefer hiding a few things from my wife. Wives are very sensitive and they will start screwing with our happiness in no time.

Oh many so many of you are extremely immature. A relationship that is built on secrets and lies is one that is deeply flawed and very superficial. You may even delude yourself that you have a strong bond, but such is the case with people that do these things. A healthy, mature and deeply developed relationship that facilitates the development of both parties is one that has no secrets of this kind. You share things, you discuss topics, you try to make good argument and develop a better understanding of everything in existence.

I prefer not to involve my wife in a lot of things which includes hanging around with my friends, going on bike rides, gambling and even smoking often. I had to lie to her just for me to be happy. When I am happy, eventually even she will be happy so I feel like it's a win-win for both of us.

That sounds like a bad marriage and sounds quite sad. Why are you even with this person? Find a better wife or become a better person, whichever is more appropriate in your case.

[icebar]

Normally know one gets happy when he or she loses money, gambling is like when you get rich people rejoice with you, but when you get poor you alone Bears the pains.

If one of the couple wins in gambling, the love of the other will increase.  If one of them win, everyone will be happy, but if one loses, other try to blame. Since it is not possible to win regularly in gambling, one should remember the fact of losing. Therefore, one should not be sad even if one wins today and loses tomorrow. If one's husband or wife is not sufficiently educated, then if they are told about gambling, they may misunderstand more. Those who understand their partner's behavior towards gambling should share the issue of gambling.

[Findingnemo]

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For me, even after years of marriage I will still prefer hiding a few things from my wife. Wives are very sensitive and they will start screwing with our happiness in no time. I prefer not to involve my wife in a lot of things which includes hanging around with my friends, going on bike rides, gambling and even smoking often. I had to lie to her just for me to be happy. When I am happy, eventually even she will be happy so I feel like it's a win-win for both of us.

I will never tell my wife about gambling because gambling might sound a bit harsh even though we know the benefits. For one who has no experience in gambling, it might seem like an addiction and this might even ruin our reputation so I will prefer keeping it to myself.

But you ever thought about, what will happen if she found out about your gambling?

And you said you are hiding a lot of things which is not good in my opinion because we chose to hide those small things for our temporary happiness but if they found out all these in one day the reaction can be really hurtful for them, so try to include her slowly and see how it goes.

[letteredhub]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Women would always be women, they never change anywhere in the world and it's obvious that it's just a nature about them, and we men should just try and understand this and just know how to play along with them to avoid their troubles.

My friend I would just conclude that you made a mistake in even revealing to her every outcome of your gambling activities, there are certain things you ought not to let her know about. To avoid having troubles with her just continue with what you have started and make peace with yourself by expecting that you would always receive negative words from her knowing you lost your bet.