Your social life influences your future

[Yamifoud]

There are still some few people who cannot be easily influenced on the kind of people around, but most likely, people likely adopt what their surroundings look like. You are what your friends are, that is why one must need to settle into friends who bring good influence rather than stick with those kind of friends who will only bring chaos and will make your life miserable in the long run.

You dictate what you future life will be, as you are solely responsible what your life may be, that is why know who your real and good friends are.

[BABY SHOES]

After reading the entire contents of the topic above, I suddenly remembered a quote "the people closest to you greatly influence who you are". In short, if we hang out with people who have a positive mindset, are ambitious, and are ready to grow, we will also be positively influenced by the people who are always around us.
Being selective in socializing is very important for self-development and to prevent getting trapped in a circle of people who have a negative impact and only bring us down. So it is very important to find or associate with a positive community because it can indirectly increase our motivation and inspiration.

I believe the company of friends around you affects your future... this is what we felt before in our own area where many friends are unemployed but if we don't get out of the zone then there will be no change that there is a problem because of hanging out with unproductive friends.

I don't want to be trapped in an unclear circle so it's better to find friends who have good inspiration for the future, how to develop a business or who produce which then I prefer to hang out with friends like that even though there must be a long distance to gather.

[uneng]

Even Psychology says you are product of the five people who are most important and influential to you, what means you are constantly absorving content from these people. Depending who they are, you are developing or killing your potential.

And in case there aren't positive influences around you, I guess it's better to stay alone than in bad companionship... At least with internet nowadays you can filter what content you are going to access and even replace bad real companions by virtual content.

[Sanitough]

In short, whatever surrounds us and is always with us, we can adopt their customs or culture. It's just like a song you don’t want to hear, but because you hear it every day and your neighbor keeps playing it, you don’t even realize that you’ve already memorized the lyrics.

So to speak, even if you don’t like the song and you’re annoyed by it, you still end up memorizing the lyrics. But if you avoid it or move to a different place, then for sure you won’t be able
to memorize the lyrics. The same goes for what you’re saying. So I get what you mean.

This only tells that whatever that happened in your life, you allow it. Because you can easily move into other direction if you want, but if you let them influence you and even get in touch with them most often, that just means you also want what they're doing to you, and with that you will be one of them too.

The people around us will always have a huge impact on our lives, so we need to be careful in deciding who we let inside our life, because if they can't influence your life at the moment, surely in the future they will leave a huge impact in your life. They say your friends will define you, as much as they are also becoming you.

[Alone055]

In my country or you can say in my culture, our elders used to say, your company defines you, they say in our mother language and that hits very hard that it possess a great impact. So if we are sitting among criminals, among drinkers, among bad actors we will end up having a bad habit but if we are sitting among good people with good deeds we will end up doing good as well.

Now same thing happens with the mindset, if some have progressive mindset while some don't think too much just sit and eat and sleep and work they are not that motivated we won't be but that does not mean we will sit among them and won't grow because sometimes we are with peoples and we realize we don't want to be like them, like our mind tells us, whatever I will be but I will not be like these people. That defines the good in us and I think most of us have this mindset no matter what we do.

And they are not wrong, because people prove this correct time and time again by sitting around with bad people and then turning out like them in the future, so elders have observed this over time, and that's why they advice their children and grandchildren to not repeat what others did in the past and ended up becoming like those who they used to sit with and be friends with. In our culture, you could even get scolded or beaten as a young person if you are found with people who are known for doing bad things, like taking drugs or even smoking cigarettes, and this is done to discipline the younger generation so that they don't get involved in things that could be bad for them.

I actually love this thing about our culture, because we are more determined and focused on keeping our younger generations on the right track, and we go above and beyond to make sure that thing happens. If we see them doing something bad, we discipline them instead of not doing anything. When you give a child a free hand, they will take that as freedom to do whatever they want.

[redhack]

Your environment shapes you to a certain extent, but it's not the only factor. From an economic perspective, someone who associates with wealthy people is more likely to become wealthy. Conversely, someone who spends time with poor people will develop a poor mindset. You can influence your environment in this regard, but you cannot always choose your environment. If your economic situation is not good, it's difficult to acquire a wealthy social circle. Everyone wants to be with people of similar status.

[alastantiger]

Let's say you're an ordinary person, just like everyone else.

If you hang out with people who only talk about other people, talk about gossip, talk about grievances and talk about things that are not important for your personal development, you will stay in that position, don't expect life to get better.

If you hang out with people who have ambitions, talk about business potential or profit potential, talk about the future for the better, self improvement, talk about knowledge, talk about technology and investment, slowly your ambitions will be awakened, your knowledge will increase and you will realize that you have to organize your life to be better, because every time you will hear people talking about how to live more advanced.

It could be you today who is stuck in the economy because you hang out with weak, stupid, and failed people, who only talk about things that have no value.

That is true indeed, that's why it's always important to start being a person with ambition yourself, that way you can attract people just like yourself, because most times we wait for these kind of people to meet us that we forget that it all starts from us. To start improving our social lives ourselves and be better people for both our future and for the people around us that we intend to build with, ambition isn't built in a day or achieved in minutes... it's a habit to keep wanting more and making it reflect all around your life.

[MFahad]

There is a wise saying that says, "You are a product of your environment. So, choose the most appropriate environment to develop you towards your goals." These are words that explain that if someone wants to develop themselves and want to achieve their goals, they need to surround themselves with people, habits, and situations that support the direction they want to grow. If they dream of becoming a company boss, but they continue to spend themselves in a toxic environment, then in the end they will achieve nothing because they are trapped in behaviors and mindsets that slowly limit their potential, and they will not be able to develop themselves optimally. However, they should need to put themselves in an environment and people who support them to keep moving forward, so that their ambition to advance will be triggered by these people and they might just be the ladder that can help to achieve that goal.

Environment has great influence on human nature. If you live in an environment where people's attention is not on progress while on unnecessary things By living among such people you will become like them and will be far from success. Therefore, its better to change your environment and keep distance from those people which can't see u in lies. you should surround yourself with people who want to do something and are also trying for it. Through these peoples you will learn alot from them which can become a stepping stone to your success. Man with good and entrepreneurial thinking can show you many ways where your hard work can always yield positive results. in this age of selflessness its important to think about ourself as much so we can live our future in better way.

[free-bit.co.in]

Your environment shapes you to a certain extent, but it's not the only factor. From an economic perspective, someone who associates with wealthy people is more likely to become wealthy. Conversely, someone who spends time with poor people will develop a poor mindset. You can influence your environment in this regard, but you cannot always choose your environment. If your economic situation is not good, it's difficult to acquire a wealthy social circle. Everyone wants to be with people of similar status.

I agree with you that environment influences and shapes us to some extent, not all of it as the OP implies. But I disagree when you say that spending time with poor people will form poor mindset. Because not all poor people are lazy, negative, and unmotivated. Or it is not entirely true that associating with rich people will give you positive thinking and the opportunity to become rich.

If you hang out with rich people, but they don't do anything, and all their money comes from their parents. You will definitely become a bad guy and vice versa if you hang out with poor people who always have the mindset of overcoming poverty and trying their best. You will change in a positive way.

Choose friends not based on financial status but on their mindset and philosophy of life.

[mvdheuvel1983]

Your environment shapes you to a certain extent, but it's not the only factor. From an economic perspective, someone who associates with wealthy people is more likely to become wealthy. Conversely, someone who spends time with poor people will develop a poor mindset. You can influence your environment in this regard, but you cannot always choose your environment. If your economic situation is not good, it's difficult to acquire a wealthy social circle. Everyone wants to be with people of similar status.

Who a man becomes in life is a result of his environment it may not be the only factor that's correct but a man can not become more than what his environment teaches him and for association which you noted, your associates determine who you are and what you will become in life so if the kind of people you relate with in your environment are business oriented you will become business oriented that give you an opportunity to become successful and a better person in life but if they are poverty looking people the tendency that you that is in the same association with them can only break free if you leave the environment otherwise you will also face the same situation they found themselves.

[Majestic-milf]

Let's say you're an ordinary person, just like everyone else.

If you hang out with people who only talk about other people, talk about gossip, talk about grievances and talk about things that are not important for your personal development, you will stay in that position, don't expect life to get better.

If you hang out with people who have ambitions, talk about business potential or profit potential, talk about the future for the better, self improvement, talk about knowledge, talk about technology and investment, slowly your ambitions will be awakened, your knowledge will increase and you will realize that you have to organize your life to be better, because every time you will hear people talking about how to live more advanced.

It could be you today who is stuck in the economy because you hang out with weak, stupid, and failed people, who only talk about things that have no value.

There's this saying; "show me your friend and I'd tell you who you are". I think it's applicable to what you've just said here. You can't surround yourself with no-do-wells and expect that you'd make something of yourself since they would not want anything good to come out from you that's why there's also the saying that when you find yourself in a group of millionaires, you're already on your way to becoming one because your way of thinking and mentality begins to take that shape.
 

[Royal Cap]

True, the people we associate ourselves with can completely or partially influence our future if only we don't have decisions of our own. Having self decisions can make you do best in life if you ignore what your negative friends saying and then focus on improving yourself. You can be with negative friends, chat with them but still not allow them to influence you, meanwhile if you are with friends that are very enthusiastic towards improving themselves, they will influence you positively and your life could get better just as theirs also get better.

I never see it as a simple matter of good friends and bad friends. I think the people we are around change our behavior and habits little by little, sometimes without us even realizing it, so it is not easy to keep yourself separate just by willpower. I rather think that the environment shapes people more. If you are around people who are always complaining, afraid or looking at everything negatively, something or the other will rub off on you. It is mentally contagious and no matter how much you say, I will not be affected but in the long run it puts pressure on you.

On the other hand, if someone tries to move forward, learns something new, makes plans, being with them you change little by little without even realizing it. It is not forced, it happens naturally. So in my opinion the main strength is not only in your own decision but in the decision in which environment you want to be.

[GigaBit]

It could be you today who is stuck in the economy because you hang out with weak, stupid, and failed people, who only talk about things that have no value.

This is absolutely true. A person's social life greatly affects any situation in his life. People quickly adopt to their environment, which is why there is a high possibility of being influenced by others. According to the goal of a person's life, he has to change his environment. I expect a good life but the people I walk with are not good, then I will not be able to move forward with my goal until I leave the company because I will constantly be influenced by them and deviate from my goal.

[rachael9385]

They say you are the average of the people you associate with, so if you only hang out with mediocre people, you will certainly become mediocre. And by mediocre, we mean someone who lives in the average. If your desire is to become great, you must associate with people who have the same purpose. I heard a phrase that makes perfect sense to me: "If you are the smartest person at the table, you are at the wrong table." It's not about arrogance or being the "best," it's about learning, evolving. Sit at tables where you are the least knowledgeable, and you will learn a lot.

I agree with you on this though, a person picks up certain character and mindset from others just by associating with them but there's a level you can train yourself to where you won't get influenced by others, it is all about having a disciplined mind and been decisive about what you want in life i.e your direction. if you your way of thinking different from others that arrle around you then you can decide not to get influenced

[boyptc]

Socializing became easier because of how many forums are there like bitcointalk. We're with people that are like-minded.

That is true that whoever you're always talking with, you'll end up being the same as theirs.

It only takes courage for one to influence ourselves with the better benefits that we can get with the people that we're mostly hanging out.

If you're partying all week, you'll be ending up having the partying mindset and have no goals to fulfill in life.

[DanWalker]

Rich people only hangout with rich people and the reason why want to hangout is to make a deal, they're not hangout for having fun and didn't gain anything which is a pure friendship, a pure friendship only happen in childhood and mostly in middle class people.

Most poor people like to hang out with rich people because they think they will learn something from rich people like OP or many others are thinking. But honestly, I rarely see rich people accepting and enjoying hanging out with poor people. That's why I want to ask those who say we should hang out with rich people to learn, how do we approach them?

I don't think rich people work for 16 hours or 20 hours, they have a system to make people work for them.

Rich people work to watch the system is working or not, if they don't want to upgrade/expand their business, they will work less because they don't need to think about idea.

Even if they have a system for others to do the work for them. They still have to work more than the average person to manage a large number of employees and ensure the completion of a large volume of work. Truly responsible leaders will never leave everything to their subordinates to manage.

They will work with their employees and also spend time coming up with new strategies and ideas for the company. Leaders will always work more than their employees and that is the price of leadership. Becoming a leader is not as easy as many people think.

[Nahl]

Here is the reality that rich people only want to hang out with rich people and the opposite that poor people only can hang out with poor people too although some poor people want to change their life and attempts to entering rich people environment but i don't think it will be easily because in society for some countries there are social gap between them and it makes poor people will be very hard to change their mainset because rich people didn't accept the people whose social life is far below to them that's why poor is still remain poor because they don't have any chances gathering with success people

[Agbamoni]

While growing up, we dont mind the category of people will mingle with until we come to the age where we start taking responsibilities for every action we make. Maturity will make us choose our friends wisely, and also the activities we do should be one that works and align with our goals in life. In conclusion, our social life will definitely influence our personal life either negatively or positively, depending on the path we follow.

[Solosanz]

Most poor people like to hang out with rich people because they think they will learn something from rich people like OP or many others are thinking. But honestly, I rarely see rich people accepting and enjoying hanging out with poor people. That's why I want to ask those who say we should hang out with rich people to learn, how do we approach them?

What I know the only way to hang out with people beyond our means is when we're at school and college. Why? because there are still school or college that affordable and favorite, so this will make poor people have a chance to join and make rich people interested because the school is good.

I won't mention courses because courses depends on how much money you spent.

After that you have to spent a lot of money to hang out with rich people because they like to go to aesthetic coffee shops, fancy restaurant, vacation etc.

[wiss19]

There is a global thing that everyone knows which goes "if you are the smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong room", everyone in the whole world knows this. However, there is also a benefit to it that people do not realize. If you are surrounded by stupid unsuccessful people then that means you can lead them and you can use them as well, many people do not understand this. Reality is simple, we could easily make these people do something for us, to gain more than what they could all alone, and we would gain from it.