Your social life influences your future

[Iroh]

Your environment which includes your social life and much more tend to have a great deal of influence in the family which in turn affects our lives either way, which in turn would leave a mark on how we turn out to be later on in the future. It's also not a secret on how people you surround yourself with often go on to leave an effect on you. Slowly and steadily, you and your buddies you often hang out with would, after having shared ideas amongst themselves for long, would begin to share behavioral traits and character as well. It's quite straightforward; hang out with thieves, eventually you'll learn their ways and probably go on to become one yourself.
It's up to the individual to choose who and what he wants to be influenced by.

[Curious T]

I agree that the people you surround yourself with determine how you think and how your mind works. It's best to associate with people who always think right. People who always want to make their life better and who care more about their personal growth, but when it comes to social life, people often overrate it. Of course, you will have more advantages if you interact with others, but it's not a necessity for a better life. You don't need to be a social person or hang out with people to be able to have a nice future.

There is a global thing that everyone knows which goes "if you are the smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong room", everyone in the whole world knows this.

Sounds like one of those statements motivational speakers make to sound deep. There will always be "a most intelligent person" in every room at every given time. Except that the room was full of idiots. There's nothing wrong with you being the most intelligent in the room. It becomes a problem only when you get comfortable and don't want to improve.

[Japinat]

Your environment shapes you to a certain extent, but it's not the only factor. From an economic perspective, someone who associates with wealthy people is more likely to become wealthy. Conversely, someone who spends time with poor people will develop a poor mindset. You can influence your environment in this regard, but you cannot always choose your environment. If your economic situation is not good, it's difficult to acquire a wealthy social circle. Everyone wants to be with people of similar status.

One's economic situation really matters especially if you are with the wrong persons. Unfortunately, they don't like to be friends and mingle with those who are not in the same status. But real friends do not do that, they can talk about creating progress and wealth, investments and businesses with the persons they are comfortable of sharing with, regardless if you are living a low or middle class life. But I have to agree, majority chose to be selective, because as what people keep saying, birds of the same feather, flock together. Your friends are the mirror of everyone's personality and traits within the same circle.

[katanic97]

There is a global thing that everyone knows which goes "if you are the smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong room", everyone in the whole world knows this. However, there is also a benefit to it that people do not realize. If you are surrounded by stupid unsuccessful people then that means you can lead them and you can use them as well, many people do not understand this. Reality is simple, we could easily make these people do something for us, to gain more than what they could all alone, and we would gain from it.

I don’t like that kind of manipulation you mentioned. I would rather distance myself from those people and cut off all contact than try to get them to do something for me. Because such people will immediately expect a favor in return. Simply put, if you notice that lazy, unproductive, or similar people are not good for you, just remove them from your life.It’s hard to find people and socialize with successful individuals because they usually have little time for themselves. That’s why you need to work on yourself and gradually build yourself up  that’s the only way to succeed. Then successful people, and those from whom you can learn something useful or establish valuable connections, will come to you naturally

[edy_58]

Your environment which includes your social life and much more tend to have a great deal of influence in the family which in turn affects our lives either way, which in turn would leave a mark on how we turn out to be later on in the future. It's also not a secret on how people you surround yourself with often go on to leave an effect on you. Slowly and steadily, you and your buddies you often hang out with would, after having shared ideas amongst themselves for long, would begin to share behavioral traits and character as well. It's quite straightforward; hang out with thieves, eventually you'll learn their ways and probably go on to become one yourself.
It's up to the individual to choose who and what he wants to be influenced by.

It is true that the surrounding environment will greatly influence our behavior without us realizing it, so it is very important for us to be able to choose friends who can develop ourselves to be better from day to day because if we choose the wrong friends, the consequences that we will feel in the future will of course only be regretted, but if we have chosen the wrong friends, we must immediately look for an environment that can make us successful for our future which is better than now.

[wmaurik]

It is true that the surrounding environment will greatly influence our behavior without us realizing it, so it is very important for us to be able to choose friends who can develop ourselves to be better from day to day because if we choose the wrong friends, the consequences that we will feel in the future will of course only be regretted, but if we have chosen the wrong friends, we must immediately look for an environment that can make us successful for our future which is better than now.

One option we should explore to gain more friends, and we ourselves will be the ones to filter them out is the option of having more money. Everyone can see that people with a lot of money certainly have many friends and a comfortable living environment where everything they want is always available. I quite understand what you're saying, because nowadays, the influence of social circles is increasingly strong, so everyone must be more discerning in how they position themselves, both in friendships and at work.

[Jody.Drummer]

Your environment shapes you to a certain extent, but it's not the only factor. From an economic perspective, someone who associates with wealthy people is more likely to become wealthy. Conversely, someone who spends time with poor people will develop a poor mindset. You can influence your environment in this regard, but you cannot always choose your environment. If your economic situation is not good, it's difficult to acquire a wealthy social circle. Everyone wants to be with people of similar status.

The thing that I think can happen to each other is that we can influence the environment and the environment can influence us, so first it depends on what kind of group we like to hang out with, for example if we like to hang out with people who tend to have good thoughts whether it's from income or other things then we can get carried away usually people like this think about the future and the concept is like "what will happen later?" and vice versa when we hang out with people who tend to have a stagnant mindset or usually they say "what will happen later" this is a slight difference but the facts and reality are so big as well as the different benefits too.

[bitterguy28]

Most poor people like to hang out with rich people because they think they will learn something from rich people like OP or many others are thinking. But honestly, I rarely see rich people accepting and enjoying hanging out with poor people. That's why I want to ask those who say we should hang out with rich people to learn, how do we approach them?

What I know the only way to hang out with people beyond our means is when we're at school and college. Why? because there are still school or college that affordable and favorite, so this will make poor people have a chance to join and make rich people interested because the school is good.

but it still depends if you could afford to enter those spaces in the first place

rich people have exclusivity so it would take a lot for a normal person to enter to a place where rich people reside in most so if you end up with a good university through a scholarship most likely you’d be among the rich even if you are not one yourself

[iBaba]

There are still some few people who cannot be easily influenced on the kind of people around, but most likely, people likely adopt what their surroundings look like. You are what your friends are, that is why one must need to settle into friends who bring good influence rather than stick with those kind of friends who will only bring chaos and will make your life miserable in the long run.

You dictate what you future life will be, as you are solely responsible what your life may be, that is why know who your real and good friends are.

Most people think that they are strong but little by little the friends around them gets to influence them and gradually they begin things that ordinarily you don't know them with before. I have seen alot of young people who have started out well but through the influence of their friends they became drug addicts and till date that is what they are doing. That is why it is good to always keep good company even when you feel you are the bad person and always learn from them and also ask them for their advise to help become a better version of yourself

[barbara44]

What I know the only way to hang out with people beyond our means is when we're at school and college. Why? because there are still school or college that affordable and favorite, so this will make poor people have a chance to join and make rich people interested because the school is good.

I won't mention courses because courses depends on how much money you spent.

After that you have to spent a lot of money to hang out with rich people because they like to go to aesthetic coffee shops, fancy restaurant, vacation etc.

The world is not the same as before, and I don't think that in 2025, rich kids would even want to hang out with poor kids at school, because kids learn from their elders, and we all know how rich people mock and make fun of the poor, and they don't even consider them human, and this can often be seen on social media through videos that are either real or social experiments that show the behaviour of the rich towards the poor. So, if kids see how their elders behave with the poor, they will learn the same thing.

You will rarely find rich families that are very friendly and welcoming for the poor, and I'm totally serious about this. Those who are rich and still have big hearts are rare to find in this world in the current era, and that's very unfortunate. When we are in bad financial conditions, we pray and say that if we become rich, we will stay humble and thankful, but most people forget these things when it actually happens.

[Cheema02]

There are still some few people who cannot be easily influenced on the kind of people around, but most likely, people likely adopt what their surroundings look like. You are what your friends are, that is why one must need to settle into friends who bring good influence rather than stick with those kind of friends who will only bring chaos and will make your life miserable in the long run.

You dictate what you future life will be, as you are solely responsible what your life may be, that is why know who your real and good friends are.

Your observations highlight a strong social and economic reality of life as we know our environment shapes our behavior. Friends can induce you for a bright future or put yourself in trouble. Only a few individuals resist negative influence in their gatherings but mostly individuals just chill the negative gathering and go towards the wrong path. So everyone should choose the right individuals for their circle because your future depends on your surroundings. Good companions with a positive mindset will endorse you for discipline, learning and responsibilities on the other hand if you have a circle of negative influences, then you waste your time and energy and nothing more. So the learning point is that your future is completely dependent on your surroundings so be careful about choosing friends and you should need positive influenced people for your life.

[Hanadawa]

There are still some few people who cannot be easily influenced on the kind of people around, but most likely, people likely adopt what their surroundings look like. You are what your friends are, that is why one must need to settle into friends who bring good influence rather than stick with those kind of friends who will only bring chaos and will make your life miserable in the long run.

You dictate what you future life will be, as you are solely responsible what your life may be, that is why know who your real and good friends are.

Most people think that they are strong but little by little the friends around them gets to influence them and gradually they begin things that ordinarily you don't know them with before. I have seen alot of young people who have started out well but through the influence of their friends they became drug addicts and till date that is what they are doing. That is why it is good to always keep good company even when you feel you are the bad person and always learn from them and also ask them for their advise to help become a better version of yourself

Some say that the five people closest to you will influence your future for five years. That's why someone who seems good and has a bright future can fall into negative things like drugs. Or someone who thought they would be successful in school but in reality, they become nothing. After graduating from college, your social environment has a huge influence on your future. You may not be the smartest person in the academy. However, if you have many connections with professors or successful people around you, you will have a greater chance of success.

[DanWalker]

After that you have to spent a lot of money to hang out with rich people because they like to go to aesthetic coffee shops, fancy restaurant, vacation etc.

I do not deny that if we have the opportunity to make friends with rich people, businessmen, we will learn many things and have many opportunities. But the reality is that reaching them is not as easy as we think. Just because we want to be friends with them, doesn't mean they will easily open up and welcome us.

The price to pay to socialize with them will be money, even a lot of money, but there is no guarantee that we will receive their acceptance.
I don't know if anyone has experience with this or is just discussing this from imagination. But I have tried this idea many times and I must say it is quite expensive, and the results are not as expected.

[TheUltraElite]

I think people dont have that type of social life anymore. Its more like hanging out with office colleagues and that is most of the social circle. Neighborhood people will never come to hangout unless they are very like minded and their classes also match.

Of course the company one keeps influences what decisions they might take. But this might not be a complete yardstick.

Choice still depends on the individual what they want to invest in. Most of the investment talks never happen in such hangouts, they keep it to themselves.

[Finestream]

It is true that the surrounding environment will greatly influence our behavior without us realizing it, so it is very important for us to be able to choose friends who can develop ourselves to be better from day to day because if we choose the wrong friends, the consequences that we will feel in the future will of course only be regretted, but if we have chosen the wrong friends, we must immediately look for an environment that can make us successful for our future which is better than now.

One option we should explore to gain more friends, and we ourselves will be the ones to filter them out is the option of having more money. Everyone can see that people with a lot of money certainly have many friends and a comfortable living environment where everything they want is always available. I quite understand what you're saying, because nowadays, the influence of social circles is increasingly strong, so everyone must be more discerning in how they position themselves, both in friendships and at work.

Not all the time. A person wit a lot of money but bad attitude, still he won't gain a lot of friends. But if you are friendly and approachable person, although you are tight in budget, there'll be good persons also that want to be friend with you.

The kind of friends you have will definitely leave a huge impact in your life. The reason why as much as possible, find those people who will influence you in a positive way, not leading you to a life where opportunities will only be wasted because your friends do not care them at all.

[MarjorieZimmermanGinger]

Not all the time. A person wit a lot of money but bad attitude, still he won't gain a lot of friends. But if you are friendly and approachable person, although you are tight in budget, there'll be good persons also that want to be friend with you.

The kind of friends you have will definitely leave a huge impact in your life. The reason why as much as possible, find those people who will influence you in a positive way, not leading you to a life where opportunities will only be wasted because your friends do not care them at all.

Environment influences a person's journey, although sometimes not all circumstances are the same. The same goes for the friends we choose in life, as they can be a reflection of whether or not our lives are going well. Finding friends who are productive and consistently on the right path is quite important because their behavior can sometimes influence our attitudes and decisions in life. For example, if you're friends with someone who invests in crypto, the topics we discuss will likely revolve around crypto itself, ultimately fueling our interest in learning about it. The opposite is true with friends who enjoy business or other pursuits, even though ultimately, all decisions will represent our own personal choices in making decisions.

[Dunamisx]

Not that we should not live a social life, but we must be mindful of anything we are doing so as not to waste our time and money on unnecessary things, because some have been so carried away in doing other things that needed less attention from them, while the ones that should attract more of their attention have been neglected and left unattended to, which is how loss of priority starts, when people easily lose focus all because of social life.

[YOSHIE]

If you hang out with people who only talk about other people, talk about gossip, talk about grievances and talk about things that are not important for your personal development, you will stay in that position, don't expect life to get better.

Yes, that's a natural law, development in a person's life can be seen from social interactions in everyday life, as well as the economic development they have, that's the difference between humans and animals.
What I mean is:
• Humans are equipped and given brains and reason to think about what is best and bad for their lives, both economic and other aspects.
• Animals are given brains but are not equipped with reason, they do not want to socialize or be friends with other animals, deer never make friends with lions.

Conclusion: we are equipped with the mind to think about finding friends who are better than us, the goal is that every time our life changes, poor becomes rich, stupid becomes smart and friends and so on, like day and night, fire and water, they cover each other.

[junder]

Most people think that they are strong but little by little the friends around them gets to influence them and gradually they begin things that ordinarily you don't know them with before. I have seen alot of young people who have started out well but through the influence of their friends they became drug addicts and till date that is what they are doing. That is why it is good to always keep good company even when you feel you are the bad person and always learn from them and also ask them for their advise to help become a better version of yourself

I thought about my own habit a few years ago of always spending time with friends who only spent time playing games, even my friends and I switched sleeping hours to daytime because the nights were used to play games, but a few months ago I have left that habit and I no longer play the games I used to play. Now the difference is visible where my friends are still like that and do not have an income but with myself I already have an income, but sometimes I also come to treat them.

[Fakhrulenclix]

Most people think that they are strong but little by little the friends around them gets to influence them and gradually they begin things that ordinarily you don't know them with before. I have seen alot of young people who have started out well but through the influence of their friends they became drug addicts and till date that is what they are doing. That is why it is good to always keep good company even when you feel you are the bad person and always learn from them and also ask them for their advise to help become a better version of yourself

I thought about my own habit a few years ago of always spending time with friends who only spent time playing games, even my friends and I switched sleeping hours to daytime because the nights were used to play games, but a few months ago I have left that habit and I no longer play the games I used to play. Now the difference is visible where my friends are still like that and do not have an income but with myself I already have an income, but sometimes I also come to treat them.

Breaking out of bad habits is a good thing. What you're doing is a very good choice. Not everyone is willing or able to do it. Sometimes, people just want to stay in their comfort zone without wanting to get out and rise to become better.
Our environment does have a significant influence on us, but as we mature, we should be able to think and choose between good and bad paths. It all comes down to personal choice.