Be mindful of who you advices as persistent ignorant also ends in regrets

[coolcoinz]

Oh yea, the angry gambler. I've been on the receiving side of this rage once.

One time my friend was playing slots and I was drinking beer sitting next to him and talking with another friend. I'd just glance at the game from time to time and at one point noticed that he'd doubled the money he came with, so I told him to withdraw 50% and play with the rest but he wouldn't do it. Then some time later I looked at the machine and he was down 50% back to the money ha started with so I told him again to maybe give it up, but he wouldn't and that he knows what he's doing. Of course like 20 min later he was at 0 and i couldn't stop myself (being a bit drunk) from saying "told you so" and then he went into that rage mode that I shouldn't interfere when he's playing and all that, so we ended up going home and leaving him there.

Don't be an angry gambler guys.

[rachael9385]

one thing I have learnt in life is to never be quick to save anyone because whether we like it or not some people don't need saving, the harder you try to pull them out of whatever it is they are going through you only cause mental exhaustion for yourself. There are people that are addicted to gambling and they do reckless things on purpose. it is hard to help an addicted gambler that doesn't admit he is addicted

[Cantsay]

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.
This morning his wife texted me that her husband want to commit suicide after loosing a historical lost in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday.

                  The tittle sums it all.

This is no longer an issue that you need to take lightly. I think he has been affected mentally and if not handled with an iron hand he’ll most likely end up committing the suicide that he threatened his wife with.

I have seen people who became aggressive towards me because I offered them advice on how to go about something or because I pointed out that they have been doing something wrong all along. I feel it’s because they think those people offering this kind of advice are jealous of them, or because they feel like they don’t need the advice, they are too big for it and the advice is probably coming from a place of jealousy or hate. I have had people tell me that I’m just jealous of them thus the reason I am trying to make myself look like an expert by giving them advice.

If you’re to handle people like this you’ll be extremely careful because they good you intended to do to them might be turned against you and you’ll be labeled as a bad person, I have had a first hand experience and that’s why I rarely poke nose in people’s businesses unless I’m called for.

[lionheart78]

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.
This morning his wife texted me that her husband want to commit suicide after loosing a historical lost in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday.

As much as we are concerned with our friendd, unsolicited advice is not always welcome.  Better mind our own business, unless they approach us and ask for advice.  A persistent unsolicited advice is very annoying to a person especially when he don't want to be bothered on what he is doing.  Telling the guy once is enough.  He will follow the advice if he wants to, and ignore it if he does not want.

You have done your share of advising that guy, whatever happened to him is out of your responsibility.  It is sad, yes, but we cannot control people, they have their own mind and decision.  People who ignore advice indeed ends in regret but it is their doings.

[ZeroVinsonN]

To think that suicide was his only alternative, maybe you should let him. There are things that can bring about friends no longer being friends and this particular reason is on the stupid side or it, how completely consumed by his addiction does a person have to be to immediately break off his friendship out of the blue over a misunderstanding on how to gamble, it just goes to show that he probably never valued the friendship in the first place.
My brother, there is nothing you can do to help a person if the person doesn't even want the help in the first place.

[FirmWars]

Ignorance is like a disease, if not treated it could create other complications and could eventually kill the person and that's what I can think about this situation, if he had taken your advice or his wife's advice, he would not have lost that money that resulted to him wanting to commit suicide. Even if he refuses to take your advice, why also ignores his wife's advice? It's better to give someone advice than let the person perish in ignorance, after you give the advice, if the person likes, let them quarrel you but the fact remains that you have told them the simple truth that they need to know.

[DPHOR]

Have you ever seen a mad man or mad person who is that comfortable with themselves?
To me I will say no because but they are seriously battling within themselves due to the situation they found themselves into and they don't know how to get themselves out from the issue and problems they are facing, I think what people needs is the right approach to follow those who are into addiction being it drug addiction or smoking. Everyone has an entry point or how they should approaches them when they are down or seeing themselves into several problems.

[MRY]

Have you ever seen a mad man or mad person who is that comfortable with themselves?
To me I will say no because but they are seriously battling within themselves due to the situation they found themselves into and they don't know how to get themselves out from the issue and problems they are facing, I think what people needs is the right approach to follow those who are into addiction being it drug addiction or smoking. Everyone has an entry point or how they should approaches them when they are down or seeing themselves into several problems.

Mental illness can lead to a lot of pain, and it may not be the most obvious, because people have a facade of composure and rationality, only to have the hurricane of feelings break the rational thinking of people. I do not disagree that addiction is not a universal method to treatment since each person has their own case. When we tackle the causes of trauma at hand, we will be assisting them in locating a secure road home. General consciousness is the key to offering better medical services.

[promise444c5]

It doesn’t matter that much… Just make sure you do your part and leave him to whatever he thinks is fine or best for him after that.

Later, if he eventually runs into some kind of problem, probably financial after gambling everything, then you can justify to yourself that you did the right thing.

Addicted gamblers are hard to curb without certain procedures, and those usually require them to willingly surrender themselves to the process.

[Darker45]

I hope this story isn't true. If it is and you truly value your friendship and treasure him as a friend, you should provide him comfort. Make him feel that his family and friends are still around despite his follies. And I guess this isn't the time to blame him, to make him realize how much of a fool he is, that he's been irresponsible and careless and unreasonable. There's a right time for all this, but probably not now.

Anyway, we're once again presented with the same lesson for the millionth time, but I doubt we're learning it.

[junder]

                  The tittle sums it all.

From this story, I take the meaning that when we receive advice that leads to something good or positive, we shouldn't hesitate to act on it. Recently, I've found it very easy to withdraw my winnings, even though they aren't large. I don't know why, but it makes me feel comfortable.
The advice he received was actually good, but he remained steadfast in his principles, which meant there might still be wins to be had. And with his established habits, he always loses everything, and there should be a lesson from that.

[Ibeology]

Just a piece of advice to those who are concerned about their friends and relatives irresponsible lifestyles periodically those that are perceptive not to adapt to changes (addicts), try as much as you can to examine them before you approaches them when you notice they are out of their minds but taking the wrong decisions.
Some are just comfortable by it and trying to change them could result to serious enemity between you and them if time is not taken.

I visited my friend at his house yesterday and we were discussing about gambling and after a while, his wife came in and sat behind her husband (my friend). They were both in good terms and on of a sudden I overheard her saying... Please withdraw some of the money out and send to your wallet or you can send to me to keep for you so that you don't lost it all again like "it has been always happened in the pasts" and because he was winning on the streak and was pressing his winnings. Usually he accumulates huge amount and at the end he looses it all back but all he could tell her was to shut the fuck off very aggressively like he had really lost control of himself.

Verily I understood her point because I have encountered same experience with my wife and at most I end up regretting if I don't listen to her and in same vein I told my guy to give a thought of his wife's opinion but the dude transferred aggressions on me that I am supporting his wife over what is non of our business.
And he sanctioned me agressively that I should not try to advice him in anyway again especially when it gets to do with his personal decision.

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.
This morning his wife texted me that her husband want to commit suicide after loosing a historical lost in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday.

                  The tittle sums it all.
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Is a true talk that some people that cannot take advice even when they are wrong if you try to advise them it will be as if you are disturbing them, what they are thinking is different from what you are thinking as a normal person most times it create enemity between you and the person, it's not easy to change someone's lifestyle because the person may be comfortable with it but suffering because of that particular things,why you trying to fix the person in other  but looks as if is disturbance for example trying to stop a smoker from smoking the person may feel bad irrespective of him even knowing that the smoking is not good for the healthy but he is smoking.
We should observe very well before meeting person for advice not everybody will like to take your advice that is why we must observe before advising person that is not  doing well.

[Cityhunter34]

Addicts will always argue with you if you try to advice him, I know this because I was an addict before. Some people tried to advise me but I did not listen and it was like they were saying rubbish. It was when I was not addicted anymore that know that they were all right.

These is a normal thing because addiction is a very big issue and there's no advice that can easily get them out of it, unless they decide by themselves. That's why we don't need to worry too much about someone that is addicted to gambling because no amount of advice would make him change his mind, rather he would start avoiding you just to satisfy himself in gambling, it's better to over look them than forcing them to stop when they are not yet ready to take correction.

[EluguHcman]

Addiction slowly leads a person to the path of destruction. In reality, when a person gambles beyond his means, it becomes a gambling addiction. Once gambling becomes an addiction, its end takes a terrible shape. A person addicted to gambling gradually starts gambling beyond his means due to emotion or greed and gradually moves away from a healthy and normal life, cannot think normally, gradually moves away from his loved ones, feels annoyed when given good advice. The addicted person always thinks that gambling is his main goal or purpose. If his close friend or loved one gives good advice about gambling, the addicted person gets angry and sometimes behaves badly, sometimes as an enemy, because the addicted person is not in a normal state, that is why he misunderstands. Therefore, if we are going to give advice to someone, we should consider what state that person is in, what needs to be said, he may get angry or think of him as his enemy, so it is better not to discuss such matters with the addicted person. Otherwise, we will face a situation like the OP story.

unfortunately yes
In the case of gambling, addiction makes you put in more money than you can afford.
then comes feelings of guilt, frustration, aggression because others rightly blame you for having spent money that was needed
and this becomes a spiral that takes you towards the abyss, and you never get out.

To all gambling addicted persons cares are more of energies that will give him/her more courage to keep up the wayward gambling kind of life, they have become immune to follow the good paths  rather than doing just that which satisfies their emotions without considering the effects.

Once addicted to the extent you don't have an atom of control to yourself, you will began act selfish and be becomes adamant to your responsibilities, careless about your personality, no guilts about all the tough times being gone through.

And when good advice is presented by loved ones, it acts like fuelling a flame with response in angry modes and can even cut good relatives and friends off your life just so that you can have the liberty to live your life as you want even while you are getting destroyed by it.

[Raflesia]

Addicts will always argue with you if you try to advice him, I know this because I was an addict before. Some people tried to advise me but I did not listen and it was like they were saying rubbish. It was when I was not addicted anymore that know that they were all right.

These is a normal thing because addiction is a very big issue and there's no advice that can easily get them out of it, unless they decide by themselves. That's why we don't need to worry too much about someone that is addicted to gambling because no amount of advice would make him change his mind, rather he would start avoiding you just to satisfy himself in gambling, it's better to over look them than forcing them to stop when they are not yet ready to take correction.

You're right. Someone who is addicted tends to be more stubborn, even ignoring those closest to them, including advice from others or those closest to them. Overcoming addiction is not easy. Many people who become addicted and fail to recover ultimately choose to end their lives. This relates to the story of someone whose life was ruined and in debt due to excessive gambling.

In this case, my friend is clearly addicted, and I fear he'll borrow money to satisfy his gambling urges. When he wants to gamble, he's broke and can't control himself. As a result, he might resort to inappropriate behavior, such as borrowing money or, even worse, stealing or robbing.

[michellee]

We can't suggest to those who like your friend because he won't listen to anyone. He forgot that money, even his winning, is for his family. He should remember that if he win, he should give the money to his wife or he will regret it if he loss. But it seems it is just wasting time to advice him because he just follows his desire to make money.

You can let him like that without help or suggestion. People like him will regret what they do and unfortunately, everything has happened and no way to go back. It is a lesson to us not to risk too much money in gambling and always remember to allocate money to playing gambling.

[Fiatless]

one thing I have learnt in life is to never be quick to save anyone because whether we like it or not some people don't need saving, the harder you try to pull them out of whatever it is they are going through you only cause mental exhaustion for yourself. There are people that are addicted to gambling and they do reckless things on purpose. it is hard to help an addicted gambler that doesn't admit he is addicted

You wouldn't abandon a friend or family member who is in need. It is not out of place to give someone advice if they are doing something wrong. It is up to them to accept or refuse your candid support. I have a brother who smokes and is having health problems because of it. I will always tell him about the health effects of his smoking habit, even when he sees it as disrespect or disturbance. 

[Outhue]

Everybody wants to be a saviour, this is what I am seeing here, the fact is we can't safe everybody from mistakes, this is what life is all about, having regretting, making stupid decisions is also part of living, the creator of humans, heaven and earth made it so. If there was never mistakes to be made, man ego will be ten times much stronger and it will be destructive.

Whenever I think about trying to stop someone from making mistakes I always think about what they will learn after making the mistakes, most of the time mistakes are been referred to as angels because this is the only way for many humans to learn, the only mistakes that I will try to stop and will put in more efforts into are the types that can get someone killed.

[EluguHcman]

one thing I have learnt in life is to never be quick to save anyone because whether we like it or not some people don't need saving, the harder you try to pull them out of whatever it is they are going through you only cause mental exhaustion for yourself. There are people that are addicted to gambling and they do reckless things on purpose. it is hard to help an addicted gambler that doesn't admit he is addicted

You wouldn't abandon a friend or family member who is in need. It is not out of place to give someone advice if they are doing something wrong. It is up to them to accept or refuse your candid support. I have a brother who smokes and is having health problems because of it. I will always tell him about the health effects of his smoking habit, even when he sees it as disrespect or disturbance. 

I think you don't clearly understand what @rachael9385 is trying to say here, it is not that it is abolishing or a discouraging to give someone advice and when you are given those advices, examine their anxieties of why and how they are going that contrary first before you step in otherwise, while you may be of the intention to help, there could be a repercussion which could bounce back to you especially when the victim is an addicted and possing of being awareness of what they are doing.

So you are likely to risk yourself when you take it upon yourself that you must change them. You are actually seeing the reality in them that they have gone beyond good commendation but to them, they are good by it. So persuading them could jeopardize your good intentions for bad.

Just be careful when approaching addicts.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

If I were his wife, I would divorce him or take him to the hospital to treat his addiction, as I believe that's the most appropriate solution in such a situation.

To divorce him might not be the right solution, if you love someone deeply, you might want to help them have a repentance in a particular habit that could lead to their destruction. Let her take him to a psychologist and let him get help, maybe if she has tried every solution and yet he refuses to change, then she can leave if she can't keep up. I'm not pleased by his reaction towards the woman in the presence of his friend, who knows what other disrespect that have been going on between them.