Best way to help an addicted gambler

[junder]

The problem is not everybody will want to admit that they have addiction and even if you noticed it from such a person, they might want to argue with you that nothing is wrong with them. Once a gambler is able to admit that they have been noticing a sign of addiction from the way they are gambling, that is the only way such a person can get early assistance that will ease the addiction.

Yes, it's clear that some people refuse to accept the fact that they are addicted even though their behavior shows that they are addicted to gambling.
I once experienced conflict when I told my friend that he was addicted to gambling, but because he didn't accept it, he got angry at me. Whether I was right or wrong, my intention was to make him aware. I didn't think about that, I just thought it was scary that he was addicted because people tend to act without thinking first.

[laijsica]

The problem is not everybody will want to admit that they have addiction and even if you noticed it from such a person, they might want to argue with you that nothing is wrong with them. Once a gambler is able to admit that they have been noticing a sign of addiction from the way they are gambling, that is the only way such a person can get early assistance that will ease the addiction.

Yes, it's clear that some people refuse to accept the fact that they are addicted even though their behavior shows that they are addicted to gambling.
I once experienced conflict when I told my friend that he was addicted to gambling, but because he didn't accept it, he got angry at me. Whether I was right or wrong, my intention was to make him aware. I didn't think about that, I just thought it was scary that he was addicted because people tend to act without thinking first.

No one who is addicted to gambling admits that they are addicted. This is the most harmful thing for them and leads to further losses. If they could understand their mistake from that stage, it would be easier to correct it. But addicted gamblers prioritize their decisions and think that they are on the right track. A gambler will admit his mistake at a time when he has exhausted most of his assets. You can advise them to stop gambling but most of them will refuse because they think they are smarter than you.

[junder]

No one who is addicted to gambling admits that they are addicted. This is the most harmful thing for them and leads to further losses. If they could understand their mistake from that stage, it would be easier to correct it. But addicted gamblers prioritize their decisions and think that they are on the right track. A gambler will admit his mistake at a time when he has exhausted most of his assets. You can advise them to stop gambling but most of them will refuse because they think they are smarter than you.

The lack of awareness is indeed a reality. Actually, I am quite sure that they think they are addicted, but their thoughts and desire to win override their awareness, so they ignore their awareness and continue to take risks by gambling to get what they want.
Also, people who are addicted tend to prioritize their desire to gamble over other things, even work that must be done is sometimes done hastily because they want to gamble immediately or gamble during work hours, even though the work may not be finished.

[Ever-young]

I think this is a bad idea having to arrest someone that is addicted to gambling is such a waste to of time to because the preson might still repeat such behavior after he or she is been released from jail well I feel the best thing to do at this cast his to visit people that are good to sake for information and to help them, well to me already i feel having to arrest a gambler is just be unfair to the matter, because I feel gambling is more dealing with emotions not the body…

Yeah, like how long exactly do you plan to keep the person locked away? Addiction is a psychological issue, and you don’t treat such issues by merely restricting the victim for some time, it’s something that requires the services of a professional or an intentional and voluntary intervention by the victim himself, depending on the level of the addiction. But merely locking up the victim may only proffer temporary relief or solution to the problem since he won’t be able to access the casino while being locked up, but there’s every tendency that he’ll definitely roll back to the casino, either secretly or openly, maybe not because he really wish to do so, but because he can’t help it and the addiction wasn’t treated at all.

[Fredomago]

No one who is addicted to gambling admits that they are addicted. This is the most harmful thing for them and leads to further losses. If they could understand their mistake from that stage, it would be easier to correct it. But addicted gamblers prioritize their decisions and think that they are on the right track. A gambler will admit his mistake at a time when he has exhausted most of his assets. You can advise them to stop gambling but most of them will refuse because they think they are smarter than you.

The lack of awareness is indeed a reality. Actually, I am quite sure that they think they are addicted, but their thoughts and desire to win override their awareness, so they ignore their awareness and continue to take risks by gambling to get what they want.
Also, people who are addicted tend to prioritize their desire to gamble over other things, even work that must be done is sometimes done hastily because they want to gamble immediately or gamble during work hours, even though the work may not be finished.

Yeah, they keep on telling themselves that they are just fine, trying to win and chase for some decent profits, but in reality the control over their emotions is no longer present and they just keep losing their hard earned money, and still repeating that same mistake from time to time, those who unable to recognize their addiction have a huge problem listening to those who cares for them, to the point that hard actions needs to provide in preventing them to continue their additction.

[LogitechMouse]

No one who is addicted to gambling admits that they are addicted. This is the most harmful thing for them and leads to further losses. If they could understand their mistake from that stage, it would be easier to correct it. But addicted gamblers prioritize their decisions and think that they are on the right track. A gambler will admit his mistake at a time when he has exhausted most of his assets. You can advise them to stop gambling but most of them will refuse because they think they are smarter than you.

At first, yes they will not admit it, but over time, as more symptoms will be out, and the more people they will see that you're addicted into gambling, they will just say it and will tell the truth.

As for those people who don't want to admit that they're addicted, it really is very dangerous because they might make bad decisions here and there, and worse, they might do some crime just to have some money to gamble. Addicted gamblers are the ones that should seek help, but how can we help them if they themselves are hiding it, or doesn't want to admit it. There are some who aren't still admitting it despite the fact that it's pretty obvious already.

We could all advice them to stop gambling, and there are some who are willing to do it, but they can't stop themselves because their body is finding it just like when you're addicted into liquor, cigarettes, and drugs. At the same time, there are some who really don't want to do it because... they simply don't want to.

[eisen33]

No one who is addicted to gambling admits that they are addicted. This is the most harmful thing for them and leads to further losses. If they could understand their mistake from that stage, it would be easier to correct it. But addicted gamblers prioritize their decisions and think that they are on the right track. A gambler will admit his mistake at a time when he has exhausted most of his assets. You can advise them to stop gambling but most of them will refuse because they think they are smarter than you.

Do they play to the last because they hope further bets will help them win it all back? Yes, that's also possible, but then it turns into uncontrolled gambling. I think such people are naive and don't realize they've already fallen into a trap they've created for themselves, and they could have gotten out of it themselves if they'd exercised restraint and common sense.

[purple_sparkles]

I think that people who are addicted to gambling often suffer from an inflated sense of self-importance, and it’s very hard for them to accept the fact that they lost at a particular moment, that, in that situation, they failed. This simply doesn’t fit into their self-image. Perhaps shifting their focus, helping them accept that they can leave the game even at a loss, and transfer their sense of greatness to some other area of life, could help them get out of a critical state and their problems, at least for a while.

[bubilas]

I think that people who are addicted to gambling often suffer from an inflated sense of self-importance, and it’s very hard for them to accept the fact that they lost at a particular moment, that, in that situation, they failed. This simply doesn’t fit into their self-image. Perhaps shifting their focus, helping them accept that they can leave the game even at a loss, and transfer their sense of greatness to some other area of life, could help them get out of a critical state and their problems, at least for a while.

Exactly. No matter how many gamblers and bettors I've known in my life, they've all been extremely self-important. They only care about their opinions and that they're right. And as a result, they often pay for their overconfidence. This is especially true among bettors, who are sports fans and love the thrill of competition. They don't understand that sports are about health and competition, while betting is about something completely different—money and analysis. These are incredibly different things, but bookmakers are trying their best to convince these guys that they're one and the same.

[junder]

Yeah, they keep on telling themselves that they are just fine, trying to win and chase for some decent profits, but in reality the control over their emotions is no longer present and they just keep losing their hard earned money, and still repeating that same mistake from time to time, those who unable to recognize their addiction have a huge problem listening to those who cares for them, to the point that hard actions needs to provide in preventing them to continue their additction.

That's what I've experienced, where I still felt fine and thought that being positive would lead to a win that could cover my losses, but that didn't improve the situation; it only made it worse. Without sufficient awareness, repetitive actions will always be taken even though the outcome is already known.

Having gone through this experience myself, if I have a sibling or relative who is addicted, I will try my best to remind them not to fall into the phase of addiction. In other words, if they like to gamble, they must do so with discipline.

[Woodie]

The approach of just telling someone that you are an addict can be offensive to some, and they won't take such advice on any day... But if they have someone that they confined in then that's the perfect person to use to reach out to them and lay it down on how much they have changed and what you have observed.. once you get the acceptance then the whole process should be a breeze as they are voluntary getting the help...

[Joeboy]

The approach of just telling someone that you are an addict can be offensive to some, and they won't take such advice on any day... But if they have someone that they confined in then that's the perfect person to use to reach out to them and lay it down on how much they have changed and what you have observed.. once you get the acceptance then the whole process should be a breeze as they are voluntary getting the help...

Sure, there seem to be some folks who sees it as a direct insult and gets so annoyed whenever they are told the truth about how addicted theyy have come to be about gambling..Infact this is what usually bring up issues in most families today. You know your wife will tell the husband how reckless he is in betting and before you know it the husband pounces on his wife and beats her to stupor. It also happens amount friends, for instance you tell your friend he is reckless in gambling and before you know it he has added you to his ignore list.. That is why just like you said acceptance is very important. infact I think that the first and only first step to getting a solution is for gamblers to first mentally accept that they are addict, and from there help can begin to come.

[fruktik]

It's true they'll continue living their lives as if Nothing is happening, but the reality is that everything will be falling apart , and that's sad because if they have a family, who depend on them, then the entire family unit will collapse , and there's not much that can be done the player needs to understand that he must do things much better because that's the only way he can move forward taking the easy way out also means listening to Advice.

That's what I did. I decided that if I didn't do anything and didn't notice, nothing bad would happen. What a mistake that was. My family was on the brink of falling apart. A little more and everything could have ended tragically. I had the strength to stop in time and rethink my destructive behavior. The recovery period took several years. My family became my primary concern, not gambling. I shifted my attention to it. I began to spend more time with them and solve all the problems together.

[bubilas]

For some reason, gamblers and bettors often think they're always right. These are people who stubbornly insist on their own way, unwilling to admit that others could be right, too. Therefore, when such a person gets into trouble due to an uncontrollable addiction, no one really wants to help them. Why help someone who thinks they know everything best? Unfortunately, this stubbornness causes families to suffer, marriages to break up, and wives can't stand the presence of a person who listens to no one but themselves. And of course, this is wrong. Reasonable people always question everything that happens around them, and this is the right approach. And egotistical narcissism leads to disaster.

[Zadicar]

The approach of just telling someone that you are an addict can be offensive to some, and they won't take such advice on any day... But if they have someone that they confined in then that's the perfect person to use to reach out to them and lay it down on how much they have changed and what you have observed.. once you get the acceptance then the whole process should be a breeze as they are voluntary getting the help...

Sure, there seem to be some folks who sees it as a direct insult and gets so annoyed whenever they are told the truth about how addicted theyy have come to be about gambling..Infact this is what usually bring up issues in most families today. You know your wife will tell the husband how reckless he is in betting and before you know it the husband pounces on his wife and beats her to stupor. It also happens amount friends, for instance you tell your friend he is reckless in gambling
 and before you know it he has added you to his ignore list.. That is why just like you said acceptance is very important. infact I think that the first and only first step to getting a solution is for gamblers to first mentally accept that they are addict, and from there help can begin to come.

Telling someone directly that they are an addict can easily make them angry or defensive. Most people do not like to feel judged or attacked even if the truth is clear. Talking through someone they trust makes more sense. A close friend or family member who speaks calmly and with care has a better chance of being heard. When the person feels supported instead of accused, they are more likely to listen and think about their behavior. Acceptance really is the key part. Until a gambler accepts the problem on their own any advice will feel like an insult. Once they admit it to themselves getting help becomes much easier because it is their own decision.

Gambling problems cause a lot of conflicts in families and friendships for this exact reason. Harsh words often lead to anger, denial, or broken relationships. A softer approach focused on concern not blame works better.
This is why im not that fan on making up some advises to someone on whatever they do except if its a family member.

[Mr. Magkaisa]

You dont need to help anyone on this problem, this is what I learned from a podcast 2 weeks ago. I think he is onpoint.

Never help anyone who is struggling in drugs, alcohol, gambling or any addiction. Let them go all in and make sure to get to the bottom,
Never Give a hand to help them stand, You should see them unable to walk nor stand. Let those people sink on the mess they made.
Once they are at the bottom, That is the time you can interfere. Let them understand what they chose and suffer from it before you giv the help.
Because! If you give your hand on their half way to the bottom or even an inch closer, they will just go back to what they use to be. They need to be nothing and realize all the consequences on their choices.

SO, Let them go rock bottom first!
I Know some of you will not agree specially if that is one in the family or what. but for me, that is very very true!

[Olatundespo]

The approach of just telling someone that you are an addict can be offensive to some, and they won't take such advice on any day... But if they have someone that they confined in then that's the perfect person to use to reach out to them and lay it down on how much they have changed and what you have observed.. once you get the acceptance then the whole process should be a breeze as they are voluntary getting the help...

That's right. You should help those who ask for help. Many gamblers cross their limits and become addicted to gambling. That time is a special time for them, maybe they can get out of that phase of gambling or they will get more addicted. During that vulnerable period, most addicted gamblers do not realize that they are addicted. If you give them the right advice, they will not accept it. As you said, they will not accept advice because they still have enough funds to gamble. If someone voluntarily admits, then it is much easier to stop their addiction. Understanding their own mistakes is the most important thing for correction.

[Yablee0]

One thing I know is that we cannot  be too careful enough, be it indoors or out doors, a child can still get addicted,

Regardless our endless efforts we can't oversee everything our children does both indoor or outdoor,  even when they go out to meet up with other kid's both in church or school and even within the neighborhood they'll likely interact with people's of different types, so the best you can do as a parents or guardians is to orientate your children on what to do that is right, teach them core moral lessons and the implications in getting involved in anything gambling addiction related, and most importantly ensure you watch them closely to know most of their daily engagement and I think this will go along way in protecting our kids from addiction problem.

[swogerino]

For some reason, gamblers and bettors often think they're always right. These are people who stubbornly insist on their own way, unwilling to admit that others could be right, too. Therefore, when such a person gets into trouble due to an uncontrollable addiction, no one really wants to help them. Why help someone who thinks they know everything best? Unfortunately, this stubbornness causes families to suffer, marriages to break up, and wives can't stand the presence of a person who listens to no one but themselves. And of course, this is wrong. Reasonable people always question everything that happens around them, and this is the right approach. And egotistical narcissism leads to disaster.

This is the highest level of addiction we are talking here because it is exactly at this phase that people do not listen to anyone except themselves. They need a very high volume of help which we should start slowly until we convince them to join a rehab center as the only way to make them heal from such illness. People who are addicted are living in their own distorted reality which they have a lot of difficulty to accept any other opinion than theirs so I want to emphasize it again here we should start slowly until we bring them out of misery.

[iBaba]

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No one who is addicted to gambling admits that they are addicted. This is the most harmful thing for them and leads to further losses. If they could understand their mistake from that stage, it would be easier to correct it. But addicted gamblers prioritize their decisions and think that they are on the right track. A gambler will admit his mistake at a time when he has exhausted most of his assets. You can advise them to stop gambling but most of them will refuse because they think they are smarter than you.

This is the biggest problem most addicts face when it comes to gambling addiction and ways to quit it. The denial and the inability for them to even accept the reality so as to now start looking for the solutions that are attached to it is the beginning of their failure in tackling addiction.

Some people even go on to underrate the effects of gambling addiction on their lives and how it seriously affects them negatively and think every thing is just fine when things are truly not as fine and are even detrimental to their lives .