Best way to help an addicted gambler

[LOVER BOY 422]

An elderly man was asked in front of me if his son, who is always gambling somehow got addicted to gambling, and they tried to talk him out of it, but all to no avail, what method he thinks he can use that will be very effective, and he said he will use his military influence to get his own son arrested and locked up for at least 2 years if he stays without any means of gambling his brain will adjust by itself.

Do you guys think such method will be effective or cause more harm to the person itself.

No need to use military on him ,the best way to do it is to starve him stop giving him food let him feed him self ,if he feed him self for 2 months he will know the stress in it ,so if he continues feeding him self not someone will tell him to stop gambling and be feeding him self,taking him to police station is totally a waste of time ,just ignore him let him survive on his own and see the results,he will definitely stop gambling,if he prefer gambling than his stomach let's see how it goes

[Jody.Drummer]

Most times, they will need our help, so that we can come in and help where necessary, we cant take extra time to discover on where the fault lies and try to suggest them on some possible ways that can serves a rescue routes from the addiction, who knows they might be effective if we give a try.

Well, that's what needs to be emphasized. If it's necessary, then we should help them to become better. You're right, we ourselves have things to do, so we can't possibly keep helping them all the time to find a way out of their addiction. Once we've helped them and given them advice, that should be enough, because they should already be aware and have the intention to change. As for how to do it, in my opinion, they must be able to avoid gambling, so when they want to gamble, they must be able to resist doing so. And if this is done with discipline, it may become a better habit.

[Astvile]

Do you guys think such method will be effective or cause more harm to the person itself.

Absolutely no sir. It could do more damage than help if we think about it. People who are addicted to something tend to have the itch to do it every time. Just like cigarette/alcohol withdrawal if you suddenly stops totally and not gradually your body will feel the impact. We all know many people who are trying to change have actually gotten worst by stopping it all of a sudden, same thing with gambling addiction people whos addicted to gambling will surely get the urge to gamble. If you lock them up they will find a way to do it, and if they can't find a way to do it there's a tendency that they will turn their anger/frustration to themselves causing self harm.

The best way I think to make a gambling addict change is to put him in rehabilitation centers.

[AbuBhakar]

Absolutely no sir. It could do more damage than help if we think about it. People who are addicted to something tend to have the itch to do it every time. Just like cigarette/alcohol withdrawal if you suddenly stops totally and not gradually your body will feel the impact. We all know many people who are trying to change have actually gotten worst by stopping it all of a sudden, same thing with gambling addiction people whos addicted to gambling will surely get the urge to gamble. If you lock them up they will find a way to do it, and if they can't find a way to do it there's a tendency that they will turn their anger/frustration to themselves causing self harm.

The best way I think to make a gambling addict change is to put him in rehabilitation centers.

I don't think rehab is needed yet. For me, that will stop on purpose if they really don't have money to bet on gambling. The best way for me is not to give them money or just hide the money that they can use for gambling. That's because there are many addicts who are depressed once their money runs out, and they don't have anything to gamble with. That's when they start doing bad things. They even stole once just to have something to gamble with.
Teach them other hobbies that they can replace gambling without having to spend a lot, so that they can avoid gambling and, at the same time, they will have fun.

[Maus0728]

There's this story in my country about a bird that will struggle even harder the more you try to grip it and cage it, it's a story about the desire of humans to attain freedom the more that tyranny tries to put it down and I think that in this situation it's also the same thing because trying to force someone to get out of addiction would make more adverse effects than the intended and at the end of it all, that confinement would probably lead to resentment and more rebellious attitude in the future. Maybe trying to limit their exposure to gamble in another way that doesn't restrict physical freedom is the best way to go like petitioning to ban his son on nearby gambling establishments or bond with your kid by doing different stuff, a little distraction might not hurt.

[Yablee0]

This can actually work or help an addict but that is very harsh and embarrassing mostly if the person is an adult, imagine depreving the person internet access and not using mobile phone that will be total and serious isolation and like I said it may help but that is so extreme and sometimes all these will not even work because change is what comes from the heart and followed by determination which means, some people can still undergo these processes and yet will not change.

At this point in time how the dude feel either comfortable or uncomfortable to the situation do not really matters what's count is how far it can help in turning things for the better,  perhaps this has been one of the best and recommendable method in fighting gambling addiction over the years and those that has given it a trial knows what am talking about.

Furthermore, their was a friend of mine that was having issues of addiction though he has never admitted that he is addicted but mere looking at him and from how he has sold most of his stuff just to be updated on his gambling things you definitely knows he needs help, what did we do as his friends, first we took away his phone and his business (his shop keys from him) from him to avoid further damage and then we ensure he didn't get access to any physical cash , though it wasn't easy but what we did is to make him understand that we are only trying to make him a better person and that how it became possible and today that guy in question can't stop thanking us his friends.

[Olatundespo]

An elderly man was asked in front of me if his son, who is always gambling somehow got addicted to gambling, and they tried to talk him out of it, but all to no avail, what method he thinks he can use that will be very effective, and he said he will use his military influence to get his own son arrested and locked up for at least 2 years if he stays without any means of gambling his brain will adjust by itself.

Do you guys think such method will be effective or cause more harm to the person itself.

Nothing will change. He will gamble again after two years of only physical punishment without any mental treatment. There is a risk of being tempted by others when he starts gambling but it depends entirely on his own control to stop gambling. In reality, you have to be responsible because making money and balancing spending becomes your personal matter when you are an adult. Family is the best place to practice responsibility and here your teacher is your parents. Most children imitate their parents. Secondly, those children are influenced by their school friends. You have to be responsible in every situation especially towards your family. You have to have mental capacity, you will not be tempted by others, you will be responsible yourself.

[casey15]

Gambling as an addiction is difficult to tackle.. in fact all forms of addiction is difficult to tackle.
One thing is as long as he has been addicted, his father shouldn't use an aggressive approach because addiction doesn't stops once .. it takes time and conscious effort. Apart from talking, his father should make reasonable demands from his son.. for example if the son gambles every single day, he should make a deal with his sin to gamble just five days in a week.. after some time he should reduce it to 3 days a week and so on.. this approach helps the brain if the son gradually adapts to the reduced number of gambles u til it finally fades . Military involvement isn't really an ideal approach . Solidarity confinement may sometimes give temporary solution but it takes more than that to kill an addiction.. the son should consciously choose to stop gambling

[shasan]

Arresting your own son is an extreme way to combat addiction, but there are many unclear points:
1. First, we're most likely talking about an adult with certain rights. An adult has the right to gamble and even have a gambling addiction, as long as it doesn't cause harm to third parties.
2. Second, extreme methods of influencing a person, such as "arrest," are best used only when the addiction has reached very severe levels. This includes large debts, family breakdown, bankruptcy, or even theft.
Otherwise, arrest would be an excessive measure.

It is correct that arrest will be an excessive measure but if the person goes into too bad addiction then there would have no way to be back from gambling without taking such an action. In this case I think better make the man arrest instead of being too bad for time being.

[Mr_Brilliant$]

An elderly man was asked in front of me if his son, who is always gambling somehow got addicted to gambling, and they tried to talk him out of it, but all to no avail, what method he thinks he can use that will be very effective, and he said he will use his military influence to get his own son arrested and locked up for at least 2 years if he stays without any means of gambling his brain will adjust by itself.

Do you guys think such method will be effective or cause more harm to the person itself.

No need to use military on him ,the best way to do it is to starve him stop giving him food let him feed him self ,if he feed him self for 2 months he will know the stress in it ,so if he continues feeding him self not someone will tell him to stop gambling and be feeding him self,taking him to police station is totally a waste of time ,just ignore him let him survive on his own and see the results,he will definitely stop gambling,if he prefer gambling than his stomach let's see how it goes

Gambling addiction is not always about stubbornness or choice alone, sometimes it is even deeper than that.
If you cut someone off completely without any guidance or support, it can push them to be even desperation instead of them reflection..
He might stop gambling, yes, but he could also fall into worse habits... I think accountability is important, but it should come with boundaries and support, not just punishment alone.. Ignoring him totally might teach him a lesson, but it might and could also destroy a chance of real change. So I just believe there’re better options than those..

[uneng]

Arresting your own son is an extreme way to combat addiction, but there are many unclear points:
1. First, we're most likely talking about an adult with certain rights. An adult has the right to gamble and even have a gambling addiction, as long as it doesn't cause harm to third parties.
2. Second, extreme methods of influencing a person, such as "arrest," are best used only when the addiction has reached very severe levels. This includes large debts, family breakdown, bankruptcy, or even theft.
Otherwise, arrest would be an excessive measure.

It is correct that arrest will be an excessive measure but if the person goes into too bad addiction then there would have no way to be back from gambling without taking such an action. In this case I think better make the man arrest instead of being too bad for time being.

On short term this punishment will work, as it will prevent the son from gambling. However, once he gets released from jail, there is a chance he will start gambling once again. And if that happens, it will be even worse, because gambling addiction will add to the trauma from jailtime.

Literature says punishments work nicely to cease determined behaviors quite fast, but in order to assure long term continuity, it has to be done through reinforcements and acquisition of new functional behaviors in replacement of the old disfunctional habits (learnship).

To punish only doesn't work on long term.

[centrum]

Gambling as an addiction is difficult to tackle.. in fact all forms of addiction is difficult to tackle.
One thing is as long as he has been addicted, his father shouldn't use an aggressive approach because addiction doesn't stops once .. it takes time and conscious effort. Apart from talking, his father should make reasonable demands from his son.. for example if the son gambles every single day, he should make a deal with his sin to gamble just five days in a week.. after some time he should reduce it to 3 days a week and so on.. this approach helps the brain if the son gradually adapts to the reduced number of gambles u til it finally fades . Military involvement isn't really an ideal approach . Solidarity confinement may sometimes give temporary solution but it takes more than that to kill an addiction.. the son should consciously choose to stop gambling

addiction cannot be stopped by force, whether it is gambling or something else, because addiction does not start in one day and it does not end in one day either,so if a father shows anger or gives strict punishment the problem can get worse instead of better, the best approach is to reduce it slowly and stay supportive, for example if the son gambles every day first reduce the number of days and then lower it step by step, this helps the mind adjust gradually, talking explaining and supporting are important,but forcing is not,in the end the decision to change must come from the son himself, the family can only calmly help him move in that direction...

[iBaba]

An elderly man was asked in front of me if his son, who is always gambling somehow got addicted to gambling, and they tried to talk him out of it, but all to no avail, what method he thinks he can use that will be very effective, and he said he will use his military influence to get his own son arrested and locked up for at least 2 years if he stays without any means of gambling his brain will adjust by itself.

Do you guys think such method will be effective or cause more harm to the person itself.

Why using military against the son for gambling sake. I wonder how some parents do think about resolving issues like this using military to embarrass themselves and treat the child like a pit. What if as you called the military men on him and they took him to the guard room and they beat him to death, it will now be a case of a dad orchestrating the death of his son.

If he was using the military just to threaten his son, I am okay with that and not so bad because sometimes you need to take such approach but not to the extent of taking him to their custody to discipline because that may not really help the matter at the end of it. He need more councelling though.

[nimogsm]

Gambling as an addiction is difficult to tackle.. in fact all forms of addiction is difficult to tackle.
One thing is as long as he has been addicted, his father shouldn't use an aggressive approach because addiction doesn't stops once .. it takes time and conscious effort. Apart from talking, his father should make reasonable demands from his son.. for example if the son gambles every single day, he should make a deal with his sin to gamble just five days in a week.. after some time he should reduce it to 3 days a week and so on.. this approach helps the brain if the son gradually adapts to the reduced number of gambles u til it finally fades . Military involvement isn't really an ideal approach . Solidarity confinement may sometimes give temporary solution but it takes more than that to kill an addiction.. the son should consciously choose to stop gambling

Depriving him of his freedom may have the opposite effect. He may play even more in his free time, although military service should help with discipline, and it is not the worst solution. The problem with addicts is that until they realize they have a problem and at least say that they want to stop playing, it will be very difficult to help them. The family must find the key to this situation and, of course, should not reject the help of specialists.

[ruykeri]

Gambling as an addiction is difficult to tackle.. in fact all forms of addiction is difficult to tackle.
One thing is as long as he has been addicted, his father shouldn't use an aggressive approach because addiction doesn't stops once .. it takes time and conscious effort. Apart from talking, his father should make reasonable demands from his son.. for example if the son gambles every single day, he should make a deal with his sin to gamble just five days in a week.. after some time he should reduce it to 3 days a week and so on.. this approach helps the brain if the son gradually adapts to the reduced number of gambles u til it finally fades . Military involvement isn't really an ideal approach . Solidarity confinement may sometimes give temporary solution but it takes more than that to kill an addiction.. the son should consciously choose to stop gambling

It is not possible to force someone to come back from any kind of addiction. Because addiction is created mentally. Here, if someone wants to come back from this type of addiction, then steps should be taken by understanding his mental state. In this case, if a teenager becomes addicted, then parents should first explain to their child that gambling addiction is never a good sign. It causes mental, physical and financial damage. When he understands that gambling addiction is really a very bad thing. And he himself wants to get out of this addiction, then he has to be helped in the right way to get out of it. Apart from this, if you try to take your child away from the addiction in other ways, the opposite may happen.

[dunfida]

An elderly man was asked in front of me if his son, who is always gambling somehow got addicted to gambling, and they tried to talk him out of it, but all to no avail, what method he thinks he can use that will be very effective, and he said he will use his military influence to get his own son arrested and locked up for at least 2 years if he stays without any means of gambling his brain will adjust by itself.

Do you guys think such method will be effective or cause more harm to the person itself.

Nothing will change. He will gamble again after two years of only physical punishment without any mental treatment. There is a risk of being tempted by others when he starts gambling but it depends entirely on his own control to stop gambling. In reality, you have to be responsible because making money and balancing spending becomes your personal matter when you are an adult. Family is the best place to practice responsibility and here your teacher is your parents. Most children imitate their parents. Secondly, those children are influenced by their school friends. You have to be responsible in every situation especially towards your family. You have to have mental capacity, you will not be tempted by others, you will be responsible yourself.

Whenever we do speak about someones having some addiction and trying to cope or recover from it, then there's no one would be able to help out but rather just simply himself. You are the ones will be needing up to realize whether you would be that quitting gambling for good or you would be that continuing until the last drop of your money. It would be just that too impossible that you arent aware into the actions that  you are taking. Helping out an addicted gambler would be that somewhat on the impossible part because the primary thing that comes up into their mind is that they would be that playing until they would be able to satisfy their urge or whatever  the goal that they do have in mind at the time that they do play. Most of the time they will be ignoring out any other peoples advises and would be continuing on what they are doing. If you are seeing your loved ones is being addicted then its normal that you would be giving out some advises.

[Fredomago]

Gambling as an addiction is difficult to tackle.. in fact all forms of addiction is difficult to tackle.
One thing is as long as he has been addicted, his father shouldn't use an aggressive approach because addiction doesn't stops once .. it takes time and conscious effort. Apart from talking, his father should make reasonable demands from his son.. for example if the son gambles every single day, he should make a deal with his sin to gamble just five days in a week.. after some time he should reduce it to 3 days a week and so on.. this approach helps the brain if the son gradually adapts to the reduced number of gambles u til it finally fades . Military involvement isn't really an ideal approach . Solidarity confinement may sometimes give temporary solution but it takes more than that to kill an addiction.. the son should consciously choose to stop gambling

Depriving him of his freedom may have the opposite effect. He may play even more in his free time, although military service should help with discipline, and it is not the worst solution. The problem with addicts is that until they realize they have a problem and at least say that they want to stop playing, it will be very difficult to help them. The family must find the key to this situation and, of course, should not reject the help of specialists.

That's the main factor, once an addict admit that they are deeply addicted and seek for help to resolve their addiction that's the only time that you may help them, since even how hard you try those people if they don't want to change nothing will happen, the person needs to help himselves to resolve his addiction without a self-will then everything will repeat itself even you try stopping him but once he got a free time then he will just go back and play/gamble again without any notice.

[Showlove01]

An elderly man was asked in front of me if his son, who is always gambling somehow got addicted to gambling, and they tried to talk him out of it, but all to no avail, what method he thinks he can use that will be very effective, and he said he will use his military influence to get his own son arrested and locked up for at least 2 years if he stays without any means of gambling his brain will adjust by itself.

Do you guys think such method will be effective or cause more harm to the person itself.

No need to use military on him ,the best way to do it is to starve him stop giving him food let him feed him self ,if he feed him self for 2 months he will know the stress in it ,so if he continues feeding him self not someone will tell him to stop gambling and be feeding him self,taking him to police station is totally a waste of time ,just ignore him let him survive on his own and see the results,he will definitely stop gambling,if he prefer gambling than his stomach let's see how it goes

And you think this will work? I don't believe that because addiction is something that always make people do things they cannot do on a normal day because they can not control it. Gambling addiction is also like an alcohol addict and you know how these people behave, they rather use their last money to drink instead of getting a food to eat and same thing with gambling addict the will rather use their money to gamble instead of using it to feed themselves.

[Fiasem20]

Do you guys think such method will be effective or cause more harm to the person itself.

Such method should be considered uncivilized.It would be too strict for a father to correct he’s biological son in such manner.Though helping an addicted gambler to overcome gambling addiction requires patience which wouldn’t be an easy task to accomplish in a twinkle of an eye,most especially if it’s coming from an unprofessional.Most gambling addicts are wild and they might end up creating a scene if you give them words of advice about their unhealthy gambling habit.When advising addicts you shouldn’t be judgmental,choose your words wisely in other not to hurt their emotions.Infact a therapy session is more preferable.

[|MINER|]

An elderly man was asked in front of me if his son, who is always gambling somehow got addicted to gambling, and they tried to talk him out of it, but all to no avail, what method he thinks he can use that will be very effective, and he said he will use his military influence to get his own son arrested and locked up for at least 2 years if he stays without any means of gambling his brain will adjust by itself.

Do you guys think such method will be effective or cause more harm to the person itself.

I don't know how much effective will be that idea to use the military influence to get out from gambling addiction but I think that is not neccessary becuase in most the  countries we will find the rehab center for the addicted person even gambling aside of the drug there is also the expert psychologists to bring back his son from the gambling addiction. So I would not going to prefer that idea where a gambler will be arrested in locked up for bring him back from gambling addiction rather it would be the oppsite side effect.