DNA test as part of postnatal health service bill

[Obulis]

There has been different ideas about running DNA test. People dropping there utmost mind about the running of DNA test.

A man was like as a husband, you have a lot of responsibilities so make sure you don't ignorantly take responsibility of another man's child or even children thinking it's yours. Do DNA test.

A lady was like if she gets married and her husband insist on a DNA test and at the end it confirms he is the father, that she will make sure he doesn't have access to the child and that means the end of the marriage, even when it's that she already has other children before the confusion of running a DNA test.
This makes me ask if running of DNA test is really a confusion?

But then, the cost of DNA test will for sure make postnatal health service bill more expensive if a hospital adds it to their service charge, because not everyone can afford it even if it is a personal (the husbands) decision.

You know your wife and your wife knows you
then why DNA test? Is it not waste of funds?

**When should a man demand a DNA test?
**You as the wife, how will you feel about that?
**Should it really become part of a husbands budget on every child delivery?
**What do you really think about running a DNA as a man or as a woman?

[AbuBhakar]

I think it will help those lovers who are not sure about each other. It's really hard to take responsibility that is not for you. It actually happens in real life that someone takes responsibility for something that is not theirs, which is more painful for the person when he finds out later. For me, if it is proven that he is not the real parent, then that should be a reason for separation and a valid ground for divorce or annualment. There is no reason for you to be together for a long time if there is fraud going on from the beginning.

**When should a man demand a DNA test?

The day he finds out that his partner is pregnant, the man has the right to demand it, especially if he is not sure about the child.

**Should it really become part of a husbands budget on every child delivery?

For me, it should only be for those who have the ability to pay and not for everyone, especially if you really don't have the money to take out not unless they can ask for it for free or maybe if its shouldered by the government .

[348Judah]

You know your wife and your wife knows you
then why DNA test? Is it not waste of funds?

I expect that the test for DNA is mostly require for conflict resolution, but when there is nothing like this, then i don't see the need for taking a DNA when the trust and peace is being found within a marriage settings, for the government to raise alarm on individual right for taking this could interpret another thing and causes for loss of trust and crave chances for disunity, because everyone will then begin to think of whether they have been cheated or not in their marriage and seeing the need for taking the test as necessary even when its of no importance.

[Hewlet]

You know your wife and your wife knows you
then why DNA test? Is it not waste of funds?

The conversation of a DNA test didn't start just because  families are comfortable spending money or that the husbands don't trust their wives. Before Theirs ever a need for a DNA test, there must have been signs that suggest that there's unfaithful in the marriage.

If you get married to a lady that's a virgin, it gives you the first stage of trust and if while she's with you you're sure she can't cheat, you can't forget anything like running a DNA test. If these are not in place and for any reason, you have a doubt in you and suspect that there's at least a 5% possibility that your partner is unfaitful, then just run the test. There's nothing bad about it as long as you have the funds.

[abhiseshakana]

For answering your question, all depend on how healthy your relationship with your wife. When talking abaout risk management especially its correlation with family financial planning and budgeting, we must able to identify, face and discuss any potential risk to avoid it become actual cost in the future. Try to separate between DNA test as trust issue (without any indication) on wife or as tools for risk mapping (if there are indication). If you do DNA test without any rational thing, trust me it will cost more for the damage of whole family life.

A man can ask DNA test and make DNA test budged on every child delivery if you found unmatch time of pregnancy or your wife has cheating/ having an affair experience /habit. In this case DNA test can be small expenses to avoid bigger cost and biggest lost.

Don't asked about women feeling, if your women are faithful wife then you must admit you deliberately damage your most valuable asset (which is trust). It will be hard to life in same roof with psychological problme with your couples. DNA test request is an accused to your wife that she having an affair based on your paranoia not real proof. I said it is waste financially.

From this discussion i think DNA test plan in every delivery is relation foundation problem not financial problem. You need to fix your communication, honesty, emotional maturity, becaus e in world of married trust is the most valuable asset to keep life time commitment.

[peter0425]

My only question is why is this in the economics board?  

[SuperBitMan]

You know your wife and your wife knows you
then why DNA test? Is it not waste of funds?

I expect that the test for DNA is mostly require for conflict resolution, but when there is nothing like this, then i don't see the need for taking a DNA when the trust and peace is being found within a marriage settings, for the government to raise alarm on individual right for taking this could interpret another thing and causes for loss of trust and crave chances for disunity, because everyone will then begin to think of whether they have been cheated or not in their marriage and seeing the need for taking the test as necessary even when its of no importance.

You really don't understand how life is and what is going on right now, I have a friend who has a very peaceful home and his wife act so lovely and they were very happy together but a time came when they wanted to relocate to the United States and a DNA test was demanded to determine if the children is actually his or not and the wife refused and told him they should not relocate anymore for something the wife really wanted and that made him worried and he decided to run a DNA test and found out that out of 3 children 2 is not his own. It is only a foolish man who will put  100 percent trust in his wife my lovely ex girlfriend cheated on me and I never expected she will do that, so I don't trust women 100 percent.

[Hispo]

I believe a husband should take a DNA test when there is the minimum of doubt about faithfulness of his wife, of whether the child in question shows some physical characteristics which do not coincide with the genes of the husband, like different skin color, different eye color, hair color, etc.
There are women who get very offended by having their husbands asking for those kind of tests, which is understandable, since it is an indirect accusation of infidelity.

Anyways, a husband (depending on the jurisdiction) could carry out those tests in secret and figure out whether their kid is actually his. Though, morality about taking a secret DNA test could be questioned.

[Spaceman1000$]

The reason why some men ask for a DNA test for their children is mostly because of some certain suspicion they are getting towards their wives, if the trust is there between the both partners there won't be need for a DNA test. however as a man, I advice that if your suspecting that the children you have with your wife are not yours biologically, I believe you should go for a DNA test privately with those children, asking permission from your wife makes her looks awkward, as she would begin to question herself if this man doesn't trust me and this will certainly cause fiasco in the family, so in a bid to avoid that kind of a drama, it is better you visit the hospital and do it privately on your own.

[Fiatless]

**When should a man demand a DNA test?

If I suspect that my partner is unfaithful. Or she insinuates that I am not the father of the children.

**Should it really become part of a husbands budget on every child delivery?

If you trust your partner DNA test shouldn't even be discussed. Such a cost comes in when there are disagreements.

**What do you really think about running a DNA as a man or as a woman?

I think it's necessary if there is mistrust. But it's not important when there is no suspicion of infidelity.

[Queen uloma]

Many men do DNA because of lack of trust, since they don’t trust each other that much, to be sure if the child is his or not,  especially in this our generation women are doing the unimaginable things, child that doesn’t belong to their husband, they will put it on their head to take responsibility, so that’s why most men do DNA test to approve whether the child is his or not, many men out there are taking responsibility of children that’s not theirs, which is very bad, so for me if u have money to run a DNA test pls do women ain’t worthy to be trusted.

[Zackz5000]

DNA test has broken some much home sometimes people get scared of doing a DNA test so their home can be save while some people don't have  the money to do a DNA due to high cost of it those who only afford it are rich dudes
If there is no trust in a marriage that is if a man didn't trust his wife and he has money to do DNA he should, most women are not to be trusted now I have heard several news where a man find out that out of his 4 children it's only one that biologically belongs to him the other 3 are from another man, the husband out of shock of the news from the doctor he slumped and died so some women can be heartless, i will say that getting a good wife is a blessing.

[alankasman]

Many men do DNA because of lack of trust, since they don’t trust each other that much, to be sure if the child is his or not,  especially in this our generation women are doing the unimaginable things, child that doesn’t belong to their husband, they will put it on their head to take responsibility, so that’s why most men do DNA test to approve whether the child is his or not, many men out there are taking responsibility of children that’s not theirs, which is very bad, so for me if u have money to run a DNA test pls do women ain’t worthy to be trusted.

It's very natural to ensure each other's trust because currently many are burdened by a generation of women who are too free in their behavior. So, as men, we certainly agree with this matter of not fully trusting a woman. The responsibility we carry out towards our wives and children is truly ours. If it isn't ours, it would be a great loss to what we do to provide for them. For another reason, we as men have significant responsibilities, especially after having a wife and children. They rely entirely on us, as their resources rest on our shoulders, as we are tasked with being responsible for them.

Therefore, in our opinion, the results of a DNA test would be very beneficial, as we should avoid making mistakes in our responsibilities, which are a priority for us as men. If the DNA test results are inaccurate, we will not experience much responsibility, as we do not have the full right to support them. Unless the opposite happens, in which the DNA test results are correct, this will establish us as their primary source of support. This is because the positive results will make us fully responsible for them, regardless of the results of the DNA test taken by the woman.

[Roseline492]

Do you no why the agitation of DNA will start happening between a husband and wife?, is when the belief they have for each other's before are not there because of doing things they never do before and spending time outside till late hours in the night without the husband knowing her way about, so actually if suspicious of cheating start coming up the husband will be relying on DNA to no if his blood is the same with the child, however I no is important for both husband and wife to agree on DNA before carrying out the process but if the suspicious is done out of proportion you can do it by yourself since an hair from the child could give all the sample a doctor will use to get the results so that it wouldn't cause a breakup on the family.

[Samlucky O]

**When should a man demand a DNA test?

Men do ask for DNA test when there is no longer trust in marriage. When trust are broken the quest to take a DNA test become important to clear the doubt of the man. But aside that men don request for DNA knowing how expensive it is to do something that may likely be negative. people don't do DNA like other kind of medical test, but only on when issues arises.

**You as the wife, how will you feel about that?

Normally women don't feel happy doing DNA test. They always feel unsecure because anything might happen along the line of the marriage and will never find it possible to find peace in their home. Or maybe  the fear of losing both Father and son, because of this they prefer not doing DNA test .

**Should it really become part of a husbands budget on every child delivery?

If the husband can pay then he can go ahead and do the test, but if not he should just forget about it except your wife acts strange which might doubt her trust before you can run a test.

**What do you really think about running a DNA as a man or as a woman?

I don't need to do a DNA test because my children are a replica of me, and I myself knows they belong to me even without going to do a test but however if I have money, to clear my doubt I will go and run it on them.

[Bitcoin_Budha]

My only question is why is this in the economics board?  

I was also going to ask this question because it's not related to economics It's needed to be in off-topic.

I am not sure why this DNA is now having importance because if you are in love then you have to believe in all otherwise you need to left and stay alone because its always sensitive issue, and you have no right to ask about anyone faith if you are sincerer than your partner is also sincere it's all done.

[Osiokwudiri]

DNA testing is very sensitive investigation. It is classified into two.  Rest of mind DNA test and Legal DNA test. In rest of mind this where the man felt his not comfortable with the activities of his wife. Therefore choose to clear any doubt without any legal registration. While legal DNA test is where both couple are in dispute. Acquisition and Advice of cheating. Such DNA test is refer as legal. Law have to sign such results.
Making a postnatal Bill for DNA test is optional, it is unacceptable to impose such into ones marriage. Besides the outrageous Bill for DNA test can't be affordable by many. DNA testing is only requested for promiscuous marriage.

[Bitcoin Maxi]

I feel this DNA test is only taken when partners are in doubt of their selves like when the husband feels or know the partner is unfaithful cos asides being expensive even if you're capable of affording it you won't just go and waste money when you know you have a faithful wife and that the children are yours.

[slapper]

Okay so the lady saying she'd end the marriage even if the test prove he's the father. That is just spite at that point, right? Just like you were vindicated, he IS the dad, and what now is the reason you are still angry that he asked?

That is all you really need to know.

Since when the question itself is the crime then we are not discussing trust anymore. We're talking about power. Of who is allowed to ask questions and who is not. And that is a completely different discussion that no one wants to engage in since it gets ugly very quickly.

Men don't get pregnant. Can't feel the kid growing. Don't have that biological certainty that women have from maybe day one. They are simply expected to believe and otherwise they are the villain in some way.

But we check up all the rest that counts. Contracts. Degrees. Credit scores.

Why is this different?

[Agbamoni]

**When should a man demand a DNA test?

A DNA test can only be run when a child has been conceived. It cannot be done when the child is still in the womb, but when the woman has delivered the baby, a few weeks DNA test can be done.

ThankGod for health technology, if not, women nowadays would use men to father a child that does not belong to the man. It is happening in our world today, even right now, a Man somewhere is fathering a chil,d thinking the child belongs to him.