Criticism Rate At Home

[Saxonebloomy]

My Mum always feel like  a police detective,she always looked for areas where I failed or any little mistake,before I had time to finish my house chores,she would inspect my work,looking for mistakes.So does it seems as though nothing you do is ever good enough for your parents,Do you feel that your every move is being examined under a microscope.That you're always being watched and constantly critiqued but you never pass inspection?
               True commands and criticism may get on your nerves,but should you conclude that nothing you do is ever good enough or that you're a complete failure simply because your parents have pointed out a few of your flaws? Whatever is behind the criticism the question is:How can you cope with it? How can you remain cool of spirit when your being criticized at home or in the society?

[Frankolala]

No one can be loved by all and it's not everything that you do will be appreciated by all. So expect critics from people close to you in order for you to become better tomorrow. If you people don't criticize you, it means you're nobody. Your Mom is doing all that monitoring to make sure that you are carrying the task correctly. Maybe, you are the stubborn type.

[passwordnow]

My Mum always feel like  a police detective,she always looked for areas where I failed or any little mistake,before I had time to finish my house chores,she would inspect my work,looking for mistakes.So does it seems as though nothing you do is ever good enough for your parents,Do you feel that your every move is being examined under a microscope.That you're always being watched and constantly critiqued but you never pass inspection?

That's normal for moms to be meticulous. How old are you? are you still a teenager that you're living with your mom and that's why she's so strict like that?

True commands and criticism may get on your nerves,but should you conclude that nothing you do is ever good enough or that you're a complete failure simply because your parents have pointed out a few of your flaws? Whatever is behind the criticism the question is:How can you cope with it? How can you remain cool of spirit when your being criticized at home or in the society?

Man, don't feel bad about your moms strictness. You'll miss that when you get older and that's not a big thing to be felt bad about. But if it's the society that's criticizing you, as long as you're not doing anything wrong, who cares?

[Hewlet]

Whatever is behind the criticism the question is:How can you cope with it? How can you remain cool of spirit when your being criticized at home or in the society?

As a parent, one of the things you ought to ensure is not missing in your training up of your child is to ensure that while you're correcting them, that you're doing so in love. If you're not correcting your children or child in love and give them the impression that you're criticising them, you've Indirectly failed in part of the roles you're supposed to be playing as a parent.

There's a place for correction and as a child or young adult, you've got to see it that the reason for the correction is that they want the best for you. A good parent trains his child by sometimes disciplining him. That act of discipline doesn't show hatred by suggest that you love and wants the best for the child.

[Ndabagi01]

Criticism has helped many to become who they are today, not having this in the process of you growing up and socializing from the family and community, you may not be able to make it far in this life. Constructive criticism are the best form of criticism but still yet many people don’t know how to interpret constructive ones and make the whole point of it looks like not wanting one to grow.

The best form of criticism that you can receive and should work towards changing is the one that is being spelt out by your parents, those are strong words from one who won’t ever mislead you into making decisions that are not worth it in this life or one that will see you going a wrong direction and won’t correct you effectively back again.

[programmer3666]

Criticism at home is one thing you can never run from, and the best way to deal with it is to force yourself to stay calm and not take everything said to you too personally! although is is difficult to do, you will have to find a way to ignore them because they will either say it to your face or say it behind you. Some parents genuinely go the extra mile to point out mistakes, not out of anger but mostly because they want some sense of improvements and sometimes their words may sound harsh but instead of looking at it from the angle of not being good enough, it would be best to see it as feedback for a chance to grow and do better.

[Saxonebloomy]

No one can be loved by all and it's not everything that you do will be appreciated by all. So expect critics from people close to you in order for you to become better tomorrow. If you people don't criticize you, it means you're nobody. Your Mom is doing all that monitoring to make sure that you are carrying the task correctly. Maybe, you are the stubborn type.

But it hurts of course, no discipline seems for the present to be joyous but grievous.Though sometimes I feel that nothing I do is good enough or that am a complete failure simply because my parents pointed out a few of my flaws like something I did in the past.  All humans fall woefully short of perfection and making mistakes is part of the learning process.

[Odusko]

Mother's are always there to shape your character early in life, most kids growing ups thinking mother's decipline too much, but when they grow into adulthood those early training, character building and corrections becomes a lesson for their life.Even religious book stated that early training builds a child in the path to grow, sometimes we may feel that we are being corrected too much but dip down they mean good for you, but we should know how to see things differently sometimes.

[AmaGold70]

My Mum always feel like  a police detective,she always looked for areas where I failed or any little mistake,before I had time to finish my house chores,she would inspect my work,looking for mistakes.So does it seems as though nothing you do is ever good enough for your parents,Do you feel that your every move is being examined under a microscope.That you're always being watched and constantly critiqued but you never pass inspection?
               True commands and criticism may get on your nerves,but should you conclude that nothing you do is ever good enough or that you're a complete failure simply because your parents have pointed out a few of your flaws? Whatever is behind the criticism the question is:How can you cope with it? How can you remain cool of spirit when your being criticized at home or in the society?

Criticism at home is normal in most homes but it becomes a thing if they are not doing it in love but hate, parents should know where to draw the line when ever they are correcting their children because you don't want them to develop low self esteem and to think that they are not good enough or that they don't deserve to be loved. As a parent I correct my children and I guide them from making mistakes at home and in public places but I do it with love so they don't feel uncomfortable and sometimes if they make mistakes while doing their chores I do it by myself and show them how to do it better because I don't want to raise a saddist in my home.

[Supreme Donvic]

Here in Nigeria we see it as something that is normal our parent always complain about everything will do even when we do it better they will still complain, we don’t see it as if they hate us is just how parents over here behave because they believe that if they start praising you for everything you do you will start feeling reluctant but if they complain you will always be at your best. I don’t know were you are from but if you are from Africa ask your friends how they are been treated at there homes in Africa I think is same attitude from parents. I believe they love you don’t feel too bad but if you discover is real hate then I will advise you stay with uncle or aunt that you believe loves you.

[Agbamoni]

Dont take it personally, what she was doing was only to make you be better at whatever you do. Only food parents will push their children into perfection. Bad parents wont care if you do things properly, talk more of perfection.

In addition, you should always be grateful because there are many teenagers out there who need the level of guidance you are receiving. Most of them do not have any parents, and it becomes even worse to get ahead in life.

[Findingnemo]

If you can't even accept the criticism from the Mom then I don't know who else deserve to criticize you, I see it is very normal and failng to discpline a kid at the young age leads to disaster when they get older so better to be micromanaged rather than losing your life due to your mistakes, just visit any prison then you will know why parent does that.

[Rockstarguy]

You don't really know what your mum is doing for you, but later you will understand that she's only helping. If you think she's not rating you well, then it means she wants you to do better, and you should not take her criticism seriously.

Some people come from very disciplined families, and most people who come from families like this always think they are not loved, but this is not the truth. By the time we start living alone, this is when people begin to appreciate the kind of discipline they got from their parents. The truth is that young people normally don't like discipline; they see it as hatred or criticism.

[Hispo]

I am not even sure this is a topic which belongs to the section of politics and society to be honest. But anyways...
I have also gone through times in which my parents seemed to criticize every thing I made, for some reason... I simply learnt how to vent my frustration through healthy media, like practicing a sport, doing exercise or sometimes playing videogames. It does not matter how strict your parent are, they will never criticize you for exercising.

In the future, you will realize who valuable those lessons from your parents are.

[Emjay24]

 True commands and criticism may get on your nerves,but should you conclude that nothing you do is ever good enough or that you're a complete failure simply because your parents have pointed out a few of your flaws? Whatever is behind the criticism the question is:How can you cope with it? How can you remain cool of spirit when your being criticized at home or in the society?

This depends on how parents handles correcting their children, Children should be made to understand that they can do better and not making them feel less of themselves when corrected and that is why the tone of correction matters a lot.

Children should be corrected with love and made to understand that they are only encouraged to do better and not attacked for getting it wrong. Sometimes it isn't about shouting and pointing out errors, it can also work by using the reward system which includes setting accurate behaviour targets for them and initiating a reward if those targets are met.

[Accardo]

Don't be perfect - it's a rule of power, whatever you do, do it for love, trying to be perfect would only place you in a sad mood. There are things you'll never be good at, regardless of the level of criticism, not all of it matters, focus on what you're capable to control and do well, as for parental words it'll soon fade away, just hold on to it, training you isn't easy on them too, so, you'll have to stay calm, do your part, and leave the rest to nature.

[Nothingtodo]

Criticism in the family or in society is a natural process and more or less everyone faces this process. It's not like I haven't faced criticism in my family. I usually faced a lot of criticism through my family members during my primary and secondary education.
But if your parents give you a lot of strict discipline or criticism, remember that your parents are doing this for your good. You will never be disappointed because your criticism is to find out your flaws. If someone criticizes you, remember that he is focusing on your faults so that you will have the opportunity to correct those flaws later.

[Findingnemo]

It does not matter how strict your parent are, they will never criticize you for exercising.

In the future, you will realize who valuable those lessons from your parents are.

There is always an exception I had seen a parent who didn't want their kid to go to school but wanted him to start working so the dad and mom will get little more money, you may think that they are doing it because of the financial hardship but it is not justified when dad is an alcoholic and mom is just irresponsible.

Anyway, those are rare exception and nowadays kids can't even accept that criticism is ridiculous.

[Fiatless]

               True commands and criticism may get on your nerves,but should you conclude that nothing you do is ever good enough or that you're a complete failure simply because your parents have pointed out a few of your flaws? Whatever is behind the criticism the question is:How can you cope with it? How can you remain cool of spirit when your being criticized at home or in the society?

Most women are perfectionists. They want the children to perform house chores like them. My mum had a similar character, and I was always nervous when performing tasks because of the fear of criticism. 

Anyway, I am happy my mum trained me that way. She made me become better at different tasks. Her close supervision made me perfect in different domestic tasks.

I think you shouldn't see it as a problem but as a training ground for you. You should know that nobody is perfect, so don't perform tasks under tension. Always know that you are special in your own way. Also not that you cannot avoid criticism because it's part of life. Make sure you learn and practice any given task to avoid recurring mistakes.

[Man of peace]

Op you have not done anything wrong,but it's just a simple example of how life looks like ,as a man or woman who is in this life you must face criticism either at home or outside your home,if you do good people talk about you and if you do bad they can still talk about you too there is nothing you will doing in this life that people will not talk about you, so there is nothing you can do to escape the criticism except if one is no more in this world.

So it just a nature of life,so do not feel bad about that such is life and you have to prepare yourself to welcome it each time it comes weather at home or outside and that makes you a man or woman...

In the other hand I think what your Mom is doing is nothing but a correction of your mistakes somewhere but it may  sounds to you like a criticism but it's not rather your mom is trying to build up your future very well and time is coming when you will understand what exactly your mom was doing to you so remain calm and thank your mom later..