How did you react at people around you when you lose in gambling?

[eisen33]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Maybe it was because he was in a bad mood after losing, or maybe it’s simply the way this person behaves within his family. There are people who act like this at home even without any serious reasons, without major losses or other triggering factors, because they believe they have the right to do so. I don’t really see how the loss can be an excuse in this situation, because losing $800 in a single evening is, in my opinion a huge mistake. In that case, there is no reason to take out your anger on a child because of your own mistakes.

[peter0425]

I understand being disappointed or being in a bad mood but he should have realized that what he did would stick with his son forever so we should not let our losses affect how we interact with other people most especially our children. Leave your disappointment alongside your losses at the casino.

[Mr. Magkaisa]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

You were right, Your friend should move on and accept it, move on! as long as he cant accept it, his mind will keep nagging on that 800 USD, the temper of his head will not be good and other people close to him will be affected.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

This is normal to gamblers who cant control their selves. That is why there are so many children abused by their parents averbally and physically. (one of the reason).

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Specially if that person has no money to play again, He is on the mode where he thinks that money will help him by playing again to get what he los.

[Cityhunter34]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

It's obvious that the reaction over he son was because of the huge amount he lost. Honestly, there's no sense about the reaction at all because I hate when a gambler shift losses to the family or friends because that is the worst decision a responsible gambler would ever thought of knowing fully well that no one force you to gamble with huge amount. It has been said several times that we should always gamble with the amount that wouldn't affect you negatively after the outcome but I don't know why most gamblers are still looking for a way to become rich overnight.

[DrBeer]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

What you have described is a manifestation of extreme weakness of character. He made the decision to gamble, and he lost. The bottom line is that there is only one person to blame for this situation, and that is definitely your friend. And now he is trying to shift his mistake and frustration onto others. And on children, no less. This is what weak and cowardly people do — try to shift the blame or take out their anger on someone who is guaranteed to be weaker. I don't think he would have dared to yell at some big, strong guy in the establishment where you were, right?
We ourselves must take responsibility for our actions.

[Marykeller]

Anything that would change my mood from a good mood to a bad mood, I avoid at all costs so that I won't act unusually to the way I behave.

Gambling as it is, I make sure I bring out the amount that I can't afford to lose each time I want to gamble, so that I won't act out of anger toward the people I love. I hate being in a position where someone would cry because of what I did or said to them

[MAAManda]

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

I don't want to lie & make a template answer, I think I would also react the same as your friend. A big loss is something that no one can accept, with many hopes & dreams after getting profit later, but the fact of losing becomes a nightmare. I even once scolded my friend for no reason when we were hanging out, a natural reaction to my loss (I think). I realize that I can't fully control things related to gambling, but what I do know is that day by day I'm becoming more mature for this.

[robelneo]

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

I'm good at hiding it; I don't allow myself to get angry or rude when I lose money, I just keep quiet, watch a good movie on Netflix, or just take a drink.
Winning and losing in gambling is something that happens all the time, and you should not be new to these feelings.
You have to address feelings when you lose and when you win. Don't let people be affected by your gambling experience; they have nothing to do with it.

[qwertyup23]

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I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

To be frank with you, I was in a pretty bad mood when I incurred a losing streak while gambling with my friends.

I remember exactly what happened a few years ago- I already doubled my initial bet and I was about to go home and call it a day. Unfortunately, my greed got the best of me and I tried really hard to resist the urge of gambling again. I succumb to that silent voice whispering that I should do a final bet which ultimately costed me all of my winnings including 80% of my savings that I saved for the entire year.

What was my mood when that happened? As soon as I got home, I was furious and I didn't want to talk to anyone. My younger brother tried to offer me food but I just quickly brushed him off. Well yea that's about it and I do think it's completely normal to feel mad to yourself when that situation happened.

[alastantiger]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Transferring aggression is something I will always frown at. Regardless of the emotions at the moment, anger should never be redirected toward other people, especially those who are not the source of the issue or just your loved one. Emotional pressure or frustration does not justify projecting hostility onto others, whether consciously or subconsciously, it is even worst when the source of the aggression is from gambling at least that is what i think. Then again everything is very dependent on the emotional maturity of the person.

[AmaGold70]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Every gambler should understand that it's no one's fault that they lost money in gambling and transferring the anger to a little child or anyone around you is totally not cool and I'd be upset with anyone that does that to me because I didn't make any gambling decisions for anyone and I won't be the one to pay for your losses. I have had losses too as a gambler and I understand the negative feelings that comes with losing money but I try to be calm and control my emotions the best way I can and never allow my loss to affect anyone especially a child.

[Agbe]

They were not the reason for my losses so I don't think it's wise to ever take out my frustrations on others, as gamblers we are all responsible for our losses and the people around us shouldn't get involved in any way. people that change their attitude towards others because of their losses in gambling are not capable of self control and they shouldn't even be gambling in the first place since they aren't mentally mature.

[SOKO-DEKE]

I always reacted normally because I always gamble with what I can afford to lose. I gamble for fun, just to always entertain myself, not to make money from gambling. That is why I always play with money that, even if I lose it, it will not affect me.But I still remember those days, like six years ago, when I was thinking that gambling could make me rich, and I was gambling to make money. When I lost during that period, my reaction was always staying alone and staying silent, just for people to avoid me for that time because of the way I felt sometimes.Still, during that period, I was always lucky because people would come close to me whenever I was silent, as they already knew that something had happened to me. I hardly stay silent for any period.

[retreat]

Everyone has their own attitude when they face loss on their gambling, some consider that it is something normal and does not affect them mentally, but there are also those who feel very devastated, until their emotions are disturbed, like what your friend experienced. But I think that it's just not wise to be rude to someone who has nothing to do with your loss. If you gamble, you should be prepared for any situation. If in the end you do experience a significant loss, you should accept it gracefully and not take your emotions out on others.

[Zaguru12]

I'm good at hiding it; I don't allow myself to get angry or rude when I lose money, I just keep quiet, watch a good movie on Netflix, or just take a drink.
Winning and losing in gambling is something that happens all the time, and you should not be new to these feelings.
You have to address feelings when you lose and when you win. Don't let people be affected by your gambling experience; they have nothing to do with it.

This is actually for some who can actually manages his anger or some who has actually managed to actually apply proper risk management because if it was other way round where you actually lost a whole lot of junk money I doubt you could actually go back to watching movies, but everyone has his own way of controlling their anger, some will transfer the aggression on someone else, some will actually go and drink to stupor.

Personally I think that the best way of controlling one’s anger from losing is actually by having a proper risk management, this way the pain of the lose would not be excruciating which can be transferred into anger

[Cryptomultiplier]

This is one of the reasons why emotional maturity, and financial management are part of the risk management skills involved in gambling.
A gambler shouldn't be fooled by the odds and potential returns the house has made available, but always look into their portfolio to how much they can afford to take such a risk.

I haven't really lost a huge amount of money at once from gambling, but if I should sum up how much loss I have incurred, it would be greater than the amount of wins I have had while gambling so far.

[JunaidAzizi]

That's the effect of loss on his behavior that changes it and makes him rude. People are very vulnerable to the actions of others and adopt them quickly. He lost the money, and that leaves a mark on his behavior, his mind accepts it, so for some time, he will act according to what he receives. If he gets something good from the outside environment, his inner body will act accordingly for a while, and the same goes for bad experiences or losses. So it's normal, but it would be better if he accepted the loss and behaved normally, as nobody pressured him to lose that money, it was his own decision. Then why does he show anger towards others for his own mistakes?

[TypoTonic]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

Well, if a person is willing to bet a certain amount of money, then they should also be prepared to lose it, otherwise, I don't think they should be gambling at all. It was his decision to make those bets and no one forced him, so he shouldn't vent his anger to someone else if he lost.

[Franctoshi]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

The truth is that nobody wants to lose money but the reality is that you will lose money on the course of gambling, but your state of reaction depends on how much money you lost and this is why it's necessary to avoid using the amount of money you can bear to lose. This very friend of yours must have lost beyond what he can afford to lose, and this is why he was this rude to his kid.

I lose money but whenever it within my budget I'm not that much bothered compared to when I lost money I didn't plan to lose, it can ruin ones mood for the whole day, if you lost hugely.

[crwth]

If the person isn't able to control himself emotionally because of lose in gambling, then he is probably addicted. A lot of the members have already said this, but it deserves repetition, given how important it is. Imagine losing $800 to gambling and then putting the frustration externally, which doesn't have any link to why you lost it in the first place. There's no justification for how you would react to other people; you should be mad at yourself for gambling too much if you're angry at losing it in the first place.

It's essential to have yourself checked in terms of gambling. Being aware of yourself could help reduce problems. I think this list could be a good relevant to the topic.

• Mental health effects
• Chasing losses
• Communication towards family

This is all when you are gambling, and by being aware, I think it would help you become more controlled and mature with your emotions and not react to people around you.